Awful everything 😩 same grooming, different scrote

giftofnocondemnation · 2022-01-21T00:15:06+00:00

He’s not “potentially” cheating, he is already cheating.

MysteriousLife7 · 2022-01-20T23:34:15+00:00

The good thing is the top comments are telling her to get a lawyer, call the police and get a divorce instead of making excuses for the scrote. It’s not your fault for your husband to behave this way. He chooses to engage in this immoral and illegal behavior. You only have the option of protecting yourself while removing him out of your life and making sure he faces consequences.

FlockAroundtheClock · 2022-01-21T00:11:27+00:00

I hope she doesn't have kids with this creep.

jjlew922 · 2022-01-21T01:11:23+00:00

It never ceases to amaze me how often the “no major fights or disagreements” somehow end up with the man being a complete lunatic psychopath pedo living a double life. Like wtf 😳

Thestral-glow6 · 2022-01-20T23:43:56+00:00

“Even if he comes up with an explanation for this” 🤔🤯 there is NO acceptable explanation for a grown man to be sexting a child.

She needs to leave and report that predator.

corkymuu · 2022-01-21T00:30:51+00:00

Not sure if you noticed that 1) all the top comments giving advice were women and 2) if you sort by new, it’s just a bunch of losers going “but the age of consent is 16!”

Just really highlights how little men give a fuck.

StrawberryMoon3 · 2022-01-20T23:39:38+00:00

How is she lost on what to do? Her husband is a pedophile! She needs to leave him asap and report him to the authorities

Ugythrowaway123 · 2022-01-20T23:38:25+00:00

Proof that the vetting process never ends.

ThankGodsImPretty · 2022-01-21T00:40:13+00:00

16 is the legal age of consent in most of the USA. You know because disgusting old men want to have sex with children without any risk of going to prison. Not that it’s hard for them to avoid jail time for sex crimes anyway 🤬. Each state has an additional minimum age for consent under special circumstances. The youngest is Alabama starting at age 12. Men are like metastatic cancer.

Kimpractical · 2022-01-21T01:12:30+00:00

This makes me want to throw up and cry and it’s not even happening to me

Ok-Performance5997 · 2022-01-21T00:40:10+00:00

In a comment under her post she admits he had a similar issue happen before they got married (not with a underaged girl, but a young woman), and she still married him!!!!!!! Wtf?

purasangria · 2022-01-21T00:15:44+00:00

Total pickme behavior. "I just found out that I'm married to a pedophile. Should I be upset?"

Barf.

I'd make a record of the texts, and be retaining a divorce attorney.

The_Moon_Piece · 2022-01-21T00:39:20+00:00

Pickmes really out there going “my husband is a child predator, I don’t know what to do 👩‍🦯👩‍🦯👩‍🦯👩‍🦯” and just sit on it for TWO WEEKS.

Free_Acanthisitta446 · 2022-01-21T00:43:25+00:00

Take screenshots and take it to the cops. Protecting the minor child is #1. Then see a lawyer. Her husband is a predator.

halebaIe · 2022-01-20T23:40:23+00:00

With her being Asian, she probably looks even younger than 16.

Males are disgusting creatures and all they can do is pretend we’re just as bad lmao.

VarietyAlive9209 · 2022-01-21T02:00:49+00:00

I don’t know if she’s having a hard time leaving because she put everything into her marriage and doesn’t want to start over, it she’s being emotionally manipulated or she’s still processing the unbelievable disgusting Info. But she needs to lawyer up, having a good support system and dip.

ta138577 · 2022-01-21T02:40:21+00:00

What possible explanation could this pedo have for sexting a young girl? This poor woman is already trying to justify his behavior in her mind

youre_a_cat · 2022-01-21T00:16:37+00:00

That poor child, I hope the OP reports him to the authorities and that the sexting stops. I can't imagine what that poor girl's life will be like in the future when she grows up and realizes that she was groomed by a pedophile.

wonkyeyes8877 · 2022-01-21T00:14:17+00:00

I posted a reply to that. I barely ever comment in subs outside of FDS, but this one HAD me.

First off, what he's doing is illegal. Second, it is cheating.

frostedgemstone · 2022-01-21T04:37:40+00:00

I’m questioning if marriage is worth it anymore because this stuff is so common; a friend of a friend’s parents, who have been married for 20+ years, just divorced and the man left his wife for an 18 year old. There was also other insane shit like him having gay and CP in his possession amongst other things from a seemingly unassuming male.

missusbateman · 2022-01-20T23:50:51+00:00

This is when being a pick me is dangerous for society. Report this pedo! There isn't even a dilemma here. Report this creep and save more kids from the freak. Wasting time asking the internet what to do. Ffs.

intergalacticanon44 · 2022-01-21T00:31:37+00:00

Why is she telling reddit and not the police 😫

xfelugirlx · 2022-01-21T03:53:12+00:00

Dump him and report him! That girl is in danger

lolmemberberries · 2022-01-20T23:56:49+00:00

Dude is a predator, she needs to save herself.

workingonit1976 · 2022-01-21T01:35:24+00:00

Get the girls parents involved!! She's a minor I guarantee her parents will want to know and manage their end . Definitely call her parents!!

Mysterious_Call_924 · 2022-01-21T01:13:37+00:00

POTENTIALLY cheating?! Honey he ain't cheating, he's a paedophile

Don't confront this monster! She should file a police report and hire a lawyer and file for divorce. Before that, she needs a bug-out bag or something and a safe place to stay. Obviously she needs to get away from him ASAP and you don't want to confront a man who may up his crazy even more and hurt you

Interaction_Anxious · 2022-01-21T03:04:59+00:00

What a fucking creep. I would report him to the police because what he is doing possibly illegal. There is no reason for a grown man to be texting a 16 year old girl

ifhewantedtohewould · 2022-01-21T05:22:51+00:00

“Potentially cheating” GIRL

Invisiblescars_123 · 2022-01-21T11:22:07+00:00

Proof that pickmes are dangerous for society. This one doesn’t even want to report her pedophile husband.

Specific-Composer300 · 2022-01-21T11:50:37+00:00

This is like one of my biggest fears. Imagine building a life with a man and committing to him and finding out not only is he cheating, but with a minor! Imagine what she must have felt... Poor woman ❤️

HeChoseDrugs · 2022-01-21T01:14:35+00:00

I went through something similar. Please understand- these women are almost always abused, and they no longer trust even their own eyes. The first time I sensed my ex was a pedo was when I noticed he was chatting with a 13-year-old online. 13! It was on World of Warcraft. I was horrified, but since I didn't see anything "suspicious" (hindsight: WTF? The fact that she stated her age and he continued to have daily conversations with her was freaking disgusting, I know), I decided to CoMmUnIcAte (read: I was dying to hear that I was crazy, because the alternative was that I acknowledge reality, and I just couldn't). Of course, he shamed me for snooping and double, triple, quadruple shamed me for thinking his intentions were anything less than honorable.

Years later, I was informed that he is indeed, a pedo. Only at that point, I had no proof- and the person who told me refused to testify against him.

IF ONLY I had kept evidence of the convo he was having, kept it secret from him, and made silent plans for divorce I AM SURE a competent judge would have made my custody battle a whole lot smoother than it was. A competent judge, that is... so who knows.

Platipus6 · 2022-01-21T00:56:48+00:00

Fingers crossed she's not real but a pedo-hunter.

up_d00t · 2022-01-21T09:06:57+00:00

"my husband is a paedophile what do I do?"

Get a really good divorce lawyer.

legoflowers · 2022-01-21T06:15:53+00:00

Divorce him and take his money

PetsAndPlantsAndPets · 2022-01-20T23:47:28+00:00

Girl...

I think women who do this are asking for help not necessarily solutions, but out of desparation for someone to give her a way to keep her relationship. What else could it be if she's asking about what she could do? If this were some random man in her circle, or some older man talking to her daughter, the first thought would be to call the police. But we get so clouded in the head by these men...

Been there, done that. It's never been anything like an ex sexting a minor (because it would have been over effective-immediately), but it's definitely been me pulling at straws to not do the hard thing and break things off.

Also, she used the word "sexting" to describe what this man was doing with this child - what does she mean she needs to find out if this is "potentially" cheating??? Since when was sexting not cheating??

SupremeDearLeader · 2022-01-21T01:16:46+00:00

Where's Chris Hanson when you need him !!

throwawayaway388 · 2022-01-21T08:33:08+00:00

Um, this isn't "potentially cheating", it's sexual harassment and potentially sexual assault.

ScaredTumbleweed · 2022-01-20T23:44:15+00:00

This is societal conditioning at work . . . Making this woman doubt her instincts. I’d get copies / screenshots of all his conversations with this girl, get a shark of a divorce lawyer, inform the relevant authorities, get this pedo scrote on a sex offender registry then ride off into the sunset.

espressomeowtini · 2022-01-20T23:51:06+00:00

This is physically nauseating to read. How has she held it in for TWO WHOLE WEEKS???? Sis… call the police, a divorce lawyer, and find a way to tell this girl’s parents. Not only is he an insecure cheating loser, but he is clearly a vile predator. Kick his ass out and never look back.

extragouda · 2022-01-21T04:44:07+00:00

So he's a pedophile, but why is it important that the child is Asian? It would not have been mentioned if the child was white. I'm irritated with everyone in that post except the child victim.

onedetachedmind · 2022-01-20T23:32:08+00:00

She doesn't know what to do?? How about go to the police??

natdiego · 2022-01-21T00:29:15+00:00

OP also posted her husband did something similar before they were married.. all of this is just disgusting..how are you confused about whether or not you should be married to a pedophile-pervert-cheater?

WeCaredALot · 2022-01-21T02:42:54+00:00

I'm sorry, but is she stupid? She doesn't think she can forgive him "even if he comes up with an explanation"? Um, DUH. He's a 30-something year old man sexting a teen.

I try to be empathetic with women but come the hell on!

TCookieofSassy · 2022-01-21T00:00:56+00:00

Judging from her comments, something similar like this event has happened before. Before marriage...so even more reason not to have married him.

But, it appears she is realizing that she can't lie to herself about this. Also, he's a serious problem.

lemonasia · 2022-01-21T00:24:44+00:00

get a lawyer
call the police
get a divorce

thangsnstufff · 2022-01-21T00:35:37+00:00

I'm very upset by the fact that she has known this for 2 weeks and hasn't contacted the authorities to put an immediate stop to her pedophile husband. In that time they could easily have met up so he could rape her as I'm sure is his ultimate goal. Hemming and hawing over her uncomfortable confrontation while a child is being abused. At this point she is an accessory to the crime as far as I'm concerned. I also think it's interesting how she leads with the fact that they have no conflict. If makes sense on his part...if she thinks nothing is wrong she won't go digging deeper. Chances are this is not the first child he's groomed.

Hypatia-etal · 2022-01-21T03:21:50+00:00

She needs to save the evidence, give it to the police, get a lawyer & begin divorcing him aggressively, ruthlessly and immediately.

valeriantincture · 2022-01-21T05:17:27+00:00

I went through something very similar when I was 16 and became ‘involved’ with a married man in his 30s. When the wife found out, she blamed me and stayed with him. I’m really glad the top comments are telling her to lawyer up, leave him and tell the authorities. I really hope she listens. I can’t begin to explain how much it has impacted me down the line, knowing that adults like her chose not to protect me.

jenna_grows · 2022-01-21T07:54:43+00:00

It’s the “potentially” ahead of the cheating that makes me so angry and also sad and exhausted.

HotConsideration3034 · 2022-01-21T14:46:46+00:00

What a sick man. This is unforgivable. Get a good lawyer and run as fast as you can. I’m happy you figured this out now. I’m so sorry

HotConsideration3034 · 2022-01-21T14:50:35+00:00

I can’t imagine waking up one day to the man I marry and finding out he’s a pedo. I’d lose my shit and go Lorena Bobbit on his ass!! My heart goes out to this lady. Hope she actually does something

otter_bott · 2022-01-21T17:48:56+00:00

He’s a pedo. Law enforcement, divorce lawyer, asap. Also - potentially cheating? How is this not cheating? Odd how the cheating is the part she seems to focus on. I’d be more worried about my husband pursuing someone who is a minor.

vilepurity · 2022-01-21T22:57:43+00:00

WHAT. THE. FUCKKKKKKKKKKKKLKKKKKLLLKKKKKK OKAY. I’m never getting married. WHAT THE FUCKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKK THIS is ACTUAL SUIFUEL

hexriot2001 · 2022-01-21T13:26:28+00:00

call the police!!!!

Junior_Accountant420 · 2022-01-21T17:46:06+00:00

If she doesn’t report him to the police, she’s trash just like he is.

Big-Paleontologist13 · 2022-01-25T06:54:50+00:00

i read this out to my amazing HV fiancé last night, his response ‘girl, you report him to the police, THATS what you do’

Meredeen · 2022-01-27T05:19:04+00:00

OP of that post, wtf she's a minor, you document/report to the authorities asap

Title	Awful everything 😩 same grooming, different scrote
Author	MysteriousLife7
Upvotes	711
Comments	117
Date	January 20, 2022 11:30 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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