I hope she got picked 🙄

relationship_reddit · 2021-07-25T00:31:47+00:00

I too am a fellow "women", and I tell my boyfriend of 13 years that I am ok with never having any orgasms because he already works so hard providing for us at his part-time job (technically I make more for us at my full-time job, but I don't count that) that I don't deserve it.😉

vbych76 · 2021-07-25T03:22:18+00:00

Women should stop faking orgasms. Every time a woman does it, she is accepting that she will live a life, where her pleasure amounts to nothing in this relationship. He will never learn how to pleasure you too, because you are coddling his ego rather than demanding to be satisfied.

the_ghost_of_ · 2021-07-25T03:53:59+00:00

It drives me mad when people misuse the plural form of woman. She is not a women. FFS. It's pathetic how women have been so socialized to put their desires in a box under the bed just to please the egos of their pathetic loser boyfriends/husbands who STILLLLL after years cannot figure out how to TRULY pleasure a woman (probably cuz they watch so much degenerate loser porn).

Big-Paleontologist13 · 2021-07-25T06:45:30+00:00

the undertone of this kind of message is ‘at least he is paying me attention, he is with me in these moments and i feel wanted, loved & validated’ this leads me to think these types of women will just do with whatever they can get, as it’s better than nothing & it’s better than fighting or having toxic interactions

circescircus · 2021-07-25T00:55:01+00:00

What does she mean by "I don't mind if I don't finish every time"? Because the way she writes this makes it sound like she never finishes or rarely finishes.

Most women can't orgasm without clitoral stimulation or oral sex. She doesn't mention details, but if she is just having p in v sex, it is not a big mystery why she isn't finishing. If oral takes forever she can introduce a vibrator or something in the bedroom.

I don't think she means any harm by writing this post, probably just looking for validation that this is normal and that other women/couples are the same way. But I think this "teehee I don't mind if I never or almost never orgasm I love cuddles teehee!" type of shit spreads the old mentality that female sexuality is too elusive, too complicated, and too laborious to give a shit about. Or worse, that it is non-existent, doesn't matter, or that it is otherwise not important. The mentality that women just use sex to get male attention and affection, that we are not sexual beings ourselves, with a sexuality and ability and desire to have orgasms.

vforvendetta87 · 2021-07-25T00:32:51+00:00

Yes but HE minds if he finishes.

Ever been with a scrote who threw a tantrum because “you didn’t allow him to finish?” It’s both frightening and pathetic.

They worship their orgasms.

BasieSkanks · 2021-07-25T07:16:59+00:00

Women need to start returning the favour to men, idaf. Let's start making their orgasm optional. Refuse to make him cum until he makes you cum first. There are far too many selfish men out there who think they are studs in beds because all their sexual partners have been faking orgasms and enjoyment.

luvmyvulvaxoxo · 2021-07-25T02:59:13+00:00

Lmao “I stop him because I’d rather do other things” but “our sex life is great”

I can’t stop laughing.

nolongerhume · 2021-07-25T02:33:53+00:00

These women are basically having obligatory sex and taking what little crumbs they can get, because they were told that PIV and a man's orgasm is the end-all be-all to sex. It's not. Majority of us aren't having sex solely to reproduce anymore, we're doing it to cum. Sex should be enjoyed by all parties involved, and if you're not cumming at least once by the end of it, that's fucked up and your partner should feel bad. You can enjoy the intimacy and affection of sex AND also have an orgasm(s).

Also I can guarantee that their partners aren't going down on them or showing any worthwhile love to their clit. Which is sad. If you don't like eating her out, do you even like women? Boy bye.

carmen_sandiegos_hat · 2021-07-25T00:48:20+00:00

The bare minimum. She cannot seem to find it... oh boy.

velocifero18 · 2021-07-25T06:33:53+00:00

There's always this pattern of women who have unsatisfying sex with their men and saying "he's great at sex!"

Platipus6 · 2021-07-24T23:54:31+00:00

It takes her so long because she's developing an aversion. (pickme and advice givers) Stop derailing with "he cares about getting me off" of course he does, it's an ego boost. SHE doesn't care about why she can't get off.

Woman #2 is being deliberately starved of non-sexual affection so she'll agree to shitty sex.

It's why LVM hate cats and use cat-lady as an insult. We're getting cuddles and affection and we're happy. So we don't go craving dick.

honeyhealing · 2021-07-25T05:20:05+00:00

This is such a cope, and I would know because I used to say this myself! I used to say this to cope with the fact that my orgasms, and female orgasms in general, are not valued in hetero relationships.

MsWriteNow07 · 2021-07-24T23:42:09+00:00

This woman is lying. No one turns down orgasms. What she turns down is the chance to fake orgasms.

wonkyeyes8877 · 2021-07-25T00:18:08+00:00

He can't give her an orgasm because he isn't good at sex. He wants her to have one because it's an ego boost for him. She turns down his efforts because she knows it won't work (because he isn't good). She says she'd rather cuddle because this is one of the few times he'll show affection like that.

Girl, it's not because you don't care. It's because you have learned to expect little to nothing.

dancedancedance7 · 2021-07-25T04:41:26+00:00

Sis 😒 if it's taking so long you get tired he sucks at it and no he doesn't care to improve

everwonderlust · 2021-07-25T13:09:04+00:00

"It's ok babe, I don't need to finish", said NO MAN EVER 😳

Phoenix__Rising2018 · 2021-07-24T23:53:27+00:00

"He's great at sex that's why I never orgasm."

Anyway, I fuck to cum.

Peak_Tree · 2021-07-25T01:42:34+00:00

Oh hell NO. Could never be me.

Eleonora0 · 2021-07-25T08:25:55+00:00

“Btw I’m a women”

This is a dude roleplaying as a woman.

Davina33 · 2021-07-25T08:49:39+00:00

He should be getting her off before he even gets his! There are men like that and I wouldn't accept anything less. Just one of many reasons why casual sex should be a no no for us. Fraught with danger and we do not even get an orgasm out of it.

christmasforoutlaws · 2021-07-25T01:18:02+00:00

Literally how intimate can it be if he can't even get you off? Lol

DumpsterWitchy · 2021-07-25T08:12:38+00:00

I bet she doesn't mind to pay all of the bills either.

Owl-right · 2021-07-25T04:18:18+00:00

If you have to preface this sad story with 'btw I'm a woman', you know deep down that this is something that sounds like a NVM talk and not healthy 🙄

Ok-Performance5997 · 2021-07-25T02:20:11+00:00

FDS rescue please!

lilithdianara · 2021-07-25T09:34:04+00:00

Awww girlies are so brain washed it’s sad

Novemberinthechair · 2021-07-25T11:35:29+00:00

Does she hate herself? Or is this a guy who wants permission to be bad at sex?

freelancepsychic · 2021-07-25T14:40:56+00:00

Tell me you're partner is bad in bed without telling me your partner is bad in bed lol

Usually men like that aren't attentive in other areas of the relationship. Women get off on men who are emotionally available and who help out around the house. I would bet money that she is a full-blown pick me who would wipe his ass for him if he asked her to.

Jandi18 · 2021-07-25T06:19:59+00:00

Even before she mentioned her sex I knew she was a woman from the headline. What man is okay not finishing ? None!! I mean they invented the term blue balls for a reason.

I remember by Ex crying when I traveled out of state because he developed blue balls 🙄🙄. They make it sound like it’s the bed of the world so yea, men won’t take not climaxing for "emotional connection".

thinktwiceorelse · 2021-07-25T08:02:56+00:00

I was ok with orgasmless too, when I had useless boyfriends. They would never touch me in nonsexual way, so I agreed with having sex almost every time they asked for it. And I tried to rationalize it, like this poor women. I'm so glad I'm wiser now.

Betty_Bottle · 2021-07-25T08:33:03+00:00

It's embarrassing to read this as that used to be me. I have told partners that I didn't need to have an orgasm every time or one was enough. I've realised why now:

• I wasn't enjoying myself in the first place. Just wanted him to finish so I could sleep/carry on with whatever I was doing. Especially if he had death grip syndrome and would take ages.

• My orgasms were just an ego boost to them. There have been times where guys have said "I'm gonna make you cum" and then suddenly I'm under pressure to perform whilst they try acts they've obviously seen in porn, staring at me intently waiting for me.

Before FDS I couldn't really stand up for myself and didn't think I deserved much. Since FDS I've realised just how awful my sex life has been. I can get myself off just fine.

pickadaisy · 2021-07-25T01:40:00+00:00

Lol because women call it “finishing” 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

eveloe · 2021-07-25T11:53:52+00:00

This false choice is a setup

lolmemberberries · 2021-07-25T14:15:43+00:00

If it takes that long and she prefers he doesn't do it, he isn't good at sex and she doesn't enjoy it.

N2Gen · 2021-07-25T16:35:02+00:00

You do you, but I’m getting mine.

CityOfBirth · 2021-07-25T18:53:23+00:00

Meanwhile I'm over here not letting dudes stick their dicks in me until they've made me cum at least once. I know that they're gonna finish no matter what, so I wanna finish first, no matter what, to guarantee I actually get an orgasm during sex

AdmiralRando · 2021-07-25T14:14:26+00:00

If you “don’t care that much”, then why bother making extra laundry?

Seraphinx · 2021-07-25T08:56:56+00:00

I'll bet my brand new bike that these women have never had a proper orgasm.

bunsmoria · 2021-07-25T05:58:31+00:00

Ew. Why. Do oral or other stuff. Why are these women making it so easy for men? Then men feel bad/inadequate and leave them. Sigh.

WorkaholicParty · 2021-07-25T15:50:25+00:00

I can't with women like this, and yes I actually believe it's a woman cause I see so many of them on reddit.

I can't with women like this, and yes I actually believe it's a woman cause I see so many of them on Reddit. Imagine being this starved for male attention.

Fetia_ · 2021-07-25T21:36:49+00:00

This actually seems………really sad to me. The fact that the only genuine form of tangible intimacy offered is sexual or exclusive post sex.

Very parallel to hook up culture in men and women the high volume of casual sex/hook ups isn’t sexual liberty is seems more like ……loneliness

How unloved does this woman feel ? If she has to have sex to feel entitled to cuddle with her boyfriend. Moments like that aren’t earned through sex and shouldn’t be seen like a treat after sex like a cookie after a work out.

radsera99 · 2021-07-26T18:10:10+00:00

Pick mes are a disgrace to all women

Revy_Ur_Engines · 2021-07-25T18:34:06+00:00

You getting kicked out my bed or I’m leaving mid stroke if it’s not good. It’s 2021. Women don’t have time to be sexually frustrated in a relationship with a grown ass man.

calicocoolness · 2021-07-25T21:19:01+00:00

It’s not necessarily a pick me thing. I am asexual and I enjoy the act of sex because I’m pleasing someone else, not because I necessarily care or need to have an orgasm. Sometimes I finish, sometimes I don’t, but it’s ok with me.

Edit: in reference to keeping it to oneself, sure maybe she shouldn’t have said it in a way that makes it sound like every women should accept not finishing, but I also remember thinking I was broken because I rarely wanted to keep going after my partner finishes. I was ok with helping him and then being done. Maybe she had the realization she’s ok with the situation she’s found herself in.

Panda_player19 · 2021-07-25T19:41:49+00:00

I spent the past year of my life as this woman. I was so embarrassed by how long it took me to orgasm and I was in my head about what my partner thought about my body and how things looked/smelled that I just stopped having any desire to attempt to cum because it wasn’t enjoyable anymore. I’d tell him it was fine when he finished and after that we could just cuddle/watch whatever shit TV show he wanted. I’m hoping that spending some time alone and working on myself will put me in a position where I feel like I deserve sexual satisfaction

Salt_Satisfaction · 2021-07-26T03:18:38+00:00

😂😂😂😂

I wonder for how long she'll think this way

muiegarda1 · 2021-07-26T13:16:17+00:00

Guys, I think I made her delete it! I don't know for sure. I saw the post and told her to keep it to herself, she told me I am bitter, I told her she cums so little she feels the need to post about it. Now she is gone. I am sure I am not the only one who made her delete it, but it's very good for women because she did. If I ever hear a scrote say "women don't want to cum, look at this..."

Edit: people made her delete it, some agreed with her, but some didn't

fak_beauty_standards · 2021-07-26T19:43:42+00:00

her boyfriend is never affectionate and sex is the only moment she can get affection from him, she's affection-starved

blackmetalbetty · 2021-07-25T18:42:51+00:00

I don't know what those chicks are talking about, when I don't/can't finish it pisses me off as much as it would those brutes lol. You know they'd be mad if they couldn't finish. There's no forum where 2 dudes are just cogitating on the esoteric beauty of foregoing orgasms. Only a dispirited woman could write this bs, lmao. Everyone on earth wants the work/action they put in to be rewarded, otherwise there's no point in doing it.

Furthermore, I laughed my ass off at this

he's great at [The] sex!

breadandbunny · 2021-07-25T21:54:02+00:00

Thank god I'm with a guy who gives me multiple orgasms. I feel sorry for her.

PossibleCook · 2021-07-24T23:49:17+00:00

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groserogorra · 2021-07-25T15:03:51+00:00

Your title will now be my new mantra.

Title	I hope she got picked 🙄
Author	Resident-Equipment95
Upvotes	507
Comments	114
Date	July 24, 2021 11:32 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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