No second date, so he wants money

Icy_Bonus9392 · 2022-01-26T18:58:29+00:00

Oh man. I would not be able to resist hitting him with an "LOL" before blocking and deleting. You'd think they'd be embarrassed admitting how cheap and/or broke they are, and how transactionary they view their dates.

purasangria · 2022-01-26T18:27:44+00:00

A friend sent me this. Scrote was a wreck, so of course she wouldn't see him again, but he did have the audacity to ask her to pay for her dinner.

This is a man in his 50s.

Don't bother thinking that older men are any better-behaved or less entitled.

pinkpilledrecruiter · 2022-01-26T18:36:30+00:00

This is why it's best to just block and delete

WandernWondern · 2022-01-26T20:03:34+00:00

Shameless. Hopefully she left him on read + block and delete.

vee711 · 2022-01-26T18:28:06+00:00

What a loser! You made the right decision to end things ♥️

jwithherspoons · 2022-01-26T18:31:14+00:00

I feel like scrotes, when you tell them you’re not feeling it and wouldn’t continue seeing them, always do the “oh I agree, felt the same” crap. I had one guy tell me this even after trying to kiss me on the first date when I told him I wasn’t interested and thanked him for his time. It’s so confusing and a clear indicator that they are LV imo. Him asking for dinner money is the icing on the cake 🤡

Hellokittynole · 2022-01-26T18:39:17+00:00

Please tell me she didn’t send it

Miss-America · 2022-01-26T19:14:11+00:00

No sex for me? I thought dinner = sex… so if you’re not a prostitute, I’m going to need my $30 back… 🤡🤡🤡

ceramicunicorn · 2022-01-26T20:37:45+00:00

This was, of course, not actually reasonable, but just male strategy employed to maximize his benefits. And of course, the best way is to block and delete. However, if she did respond with, “How about a sexual encounter instead?”, this man would totally respond with “yes”. And a sexual encounter with a healthy woman is worth at least hundreds of dollars. What does this tell us?

It tells us that men will happily, guiltlessly accept any and all gifts freely given, without thinking for a moment that they “owe” anything of equal value. Often they don’t even accept with any gratitude.

Aside from lacking gratitude (which I’m big on), women may take the same perspective on accepting whatever a man freely gives, without concerning herself with his ROI.

ETA, for all of you others who never found someone on OLD because they kept fucking up on basic standards before you could even arrange a date: I never, ever get a text message as stupid as this after a date, since fully committing to FDS. And I think the reason for that is because I just rule out so many men, the second they trip up in the texting stage. It’s hard for me to believe that someone could be this petty, and there were also 0 red flags for it in the vetting stage. If you’re not doing well on OLD, it may be because you’re doing dating correctly. Even non-FDS spaces are constantly asserting that the bulk of men on OLD are looking for the cheapest, quickest bargain possible…the equivalent to playing lotto/gigging/couch crashing…..not looking for something long term that will require their investment.

RhiannonEmilia · 2022-01-26T21:18:43+00:00

If I don’t want to go out again and I feel compelled to text them about it, I send the text then I block their number before they get a chance to reply. Because I don’t need to see stuff like this lol

Carneliancat · 2022-01-26T19:55:21+00:00

He'd be getting an itemized bill for my time, gas, and products used to get ready for the date in return.

liberal_queen21 · 2022-01-26T18:41:05+00:00

lol omg why do men think paying for someone’s dinner is such a huge deal

3alabali · 2022-01-26T19:35:40+00:00

"Thank you feel the same" meanwhile is dying inside

fedupofbeingletdown · 2022-01-26T18:27:44+00:00

Why do men do this? Take us out and do nice things for us in hopes we'll get with them or keep dating them and then once we say we are done they try and take back the "gifts". Just shows they were only in it to get something out of it

SupremeDearLeader · 2022-01-26T22:53:01+00:00

Eeeeeeew. Dodged a bullet there , a poverty mentality is so disgusting.

oscine23 · 2022-01-26T19:47:15+00:00

LOO-OO-HOO-SERRRRR lol

arnezuara · 2022-01-26T20:35:33+00:00

These idiots ask any woman (that they can get) out and then complain about their “wasted” money and gold-diggers. Make it make sense.

They don’t want to spend their time vetting you (like you vet them) for compatibility, they’re simply trying to have a cheap, quick fuck.

These clowns should just start dating each other instead.

Junior-Lion7893 · 2022-01-26T21:45:10+00:00

This is why you block and delete.

FI-REfox · 2022-01-26T19:03:48+00:00

"I'm sorry you're having a hard time. Here's a place you might find useful: <link to nearest food bank>." Block/delete

HotConsideration3034 · 2022-01-26T19:09:01+00:00

I had a guy once do this to me and I was in utter shock that he had the balls to ask for money back on crappy pizza and a salad that was maybe 40 bucks 😱

FUBARfromLSA · 2022-01-26T18:40:01+00:00

Lol, yes I mind. Block delete.

lolmemberberries · 2022-01-27T01:31:20+00:00

Wow, that's not even an expensive dinner.

cryptohobo · 2022-01-26T18:55:25+00:00

LOL! I just found a feature in the OLD platform I use where you can see all your deleted messages, whether they’re deleted by you or the scrote. I open this one convo where I told a clown I don’t do coffee dates after he asked me out for one. Well I didn’t see this but it turns out he wrote out a paragraph mansplaining how he’s not going to waste $100 on a dinner just to find out there’s no connection, then proceeds to wish me luck with a thumbs up. LOL! He wrote alllll that only to delete it. So glad the trash took himself out!

Competitive_Bar8657 · 2022-01-27T00:16:35+00:00

Ohhh my god, back in my pickme days I had a guy from OLD asking me on ice cream and walk date, I showed up, he bought us 3$ ice creams and wanted to walk around in a 100+ degree heat, I declined, he said we can sit on a bench, I declined, he got mad and said "this isn't going any further" turned and just walked away while I WAS STILL TALKING, I ate my ice cream in my car and he requested 3$ on venmo from me :))))) loser

jomofomo · 2022-01-27T03:23:52+00:00

proves how men think we are a transaction not a human

artemis-code · 2022-01-27T02:34:17+00:00

Gross. Wants his money back because he didn’t get what he wants. Bye!

all_or_nothing_bet · 2022-01-26T19:17:59+00:00

"Oh, no! Poor thing. You didn't have to pretend to be well off enough to date just for me! Here are the links to resources to get by for people like you, such as food stamps and cash assistance. Good luck!"

freerollerskates · 2022-01-26T22:15:15+00:00

Well guess she called it correctly then!

preppykat3 · 2022-01-26T23:24:08+00:00

I’d laugh and then block

SerialGeneralist · 2022-01-26T18:59:32+00:00

With his broke ass.

biwinny · 2022-01-26T21:31:27+00:00

I would just say no and block him lmao.

Men are so obsessed with these little power plays. Best way around it is to not play at all.

poison_snacc · 2022-01-27T05:19:56+00:00

Imagine having absolutely NO shame. Scrotes? They don’t have to sit around imagining that. They’re already there.

Aggressive-Complex79 · 2022-01-26T18:40:48+00:00

I stopped giving men closure a long time ago. Just block and delete, no explanation needed

cheezbrod · 2022-01-26T22:43:31+00:00

And there it is: clear as day proof that this scrote sees dating and relationships as transactions rather than looking for an actual partner.

Equal-Ear2312 · 2022-01-27T09:24:21+00:00

30 bucks? what is he? a shop?

block and delete! there's nothing to prove!

_RustInPiece_ · 2022-01-27T13:38:17+00:00

"I'm good but thanks for the offer :) Have a good day"

Block.

Delete.

anne-goldy · 2022-01-27T13:51:34+00:00

That’s just embarrassing for him.

lostmillenia · 2022-01-26T23:53:50+00:00

My time is worth 100/hr so sir you actually owe me.

My sex vending machine didnt pop out sex! /s

Shouldnt date if youre broke dude.

2022-01-26T19:05:29+00:00

No 💜

princesspolkadottie · 2022-01-26T19:14:26+00:00

Take it to court, you thief! I’ll be suing him for wasting a beautiful woman’s time!!

eboy3000 · 2022-01-26T19:35:54+00:00

Send him a request for 30

smartierthanthou · 2022-01-27T01:50:34+00:00

"What I was going to suggest instead getting to know each other better, we just use each other for commitment free sex at my house. I definitely felt a physical connection with you."

Block and delete.

michelle27519 · 2022-01-27T02:02:20+00:00

I say send him 1 dollar lol

purasangria · 2022-01-27T18:19:01+00:00

Exactly, it's totally not worth our time.

warinmymind94 · 2022-01-27T21:20:19+00:00

Wow. The audacity is off the charts. In his 50s and really can't afford $30? Dusty lvm. He askes her out, was graced by your friends beauty and charm and her precious time, and im sure when the bill came he was the one who offered to pay. Then he has the balls to ask to be reimbursed. Give me a break.

I hope she did not entertain such an awful person. Even when I was in MY TEENS I would buy my friends coffee, ice cream, movie tickets and snacks... and thats when I barely had any money. I'm just appalled he can't even treat a beautiful women to a measly $30 dinner he asked her out to.

spinsterchachkies · 2022-01-27T21:38:29+00:00

Yeah. Just don’t ask women out for dinner if this is how you’re gonna act after. Just do the walk date shit. Lean in on being a cheap ass. Be your best self.

esthermaniii · 2022-01-29T21:35:22+00:00

What a loser. Imagine being petty over $30.

PalmTreePhilosophy · 2022-02-02T07:12:17+00:00

That "feel the same" is an absolute lie which is why he asked for his money back like a fkn child. She was so lovely and polite to him as well.

Title	No second date, so he wants money
Author	purasangria
Upvotes	897
Comments	129
Date	January 26, 2022 6:24 PM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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