Reminder: Men will keep you around for however long is convenient for them - even if they’re not that into you. Break up at the first sign of his disinterest because he will NOT do it for you. 3rd slide is a commenter.

aquietsword · 2022-04-19T00:58:06+00:00

Y'all. I've randomly met a lot more lesbian couples recently and I'm so jealous lol

Men out here are really dating women they don't even LIKE. When are women like this? It's always a list of legitimate red flags followed by "but I love him," meanwhile this manboy has a wonderful parner and is bOrEd. 🤡

kinnsao · 2022-04-19T00:05:46+00:00

Fuck that noise. I dated a guy that always called me boring and whined that I was holding him back from crAzY fUn tImes, similar reasons to what this poor girl's being accused of -- for having a bed time, enjoying time alone, being an introvert, having responsibilities, being healthy ??

There's one thing between having a bit of personality differences i.e. being introverted and extroverted but these guys just want to party, but also don't want to date party girls because they are often unstable or addicts.

I wanted to do plenty of fun things in the daylight hours like hike, swim, vacation, restaurants, but if it wasn't happening after 11pm and there wasn't liquor or drugs or noise or random people, I was sO borIng. I swear these guys are all just alcoholics and drug addicts mad that their girlfriends have their lives together and resentful they can't just act like a 19 year old burnout with no accountability. For anyone wondering, my ex ended up losing his job, addicted to coke, and in jail for domestic violence. I bet jail is super boring.

GoldandGlowing · 2022-04-18T21:31:26+00:00

If He Don’t Like You Then Leave 2022

queenofswordsxxx · 2022-04-19T03:19:01+00:00

It seems like men only have the ability to empathise with other men.

What about the woman’s feelings? What about her feeling used and her time being wasted? What about all her young fertile years and the opportunity cost of her not being able to find a HVM that loves her? How will she feel when she realises she’s been kept around as some pet for entertainment?

Wtf I’m literally frothing at the mouth from anger

msromperstomper · 2022-04-19T00:56:36+00:00

I know the married, 40 year old version of this guy. Always hitting on coworkers, always talking about partying after the semester was over - he's a professor, not a student - always suggesting that his wife was "boring" - turns out she has an auto-immune disease and was taking care of their child under 5. And this ass and his partying just gave both of them Covid.

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basuragoddess · 2022-04-19T03:27:27+00:00

How sad is it to be thirty years old with a mindset of ‘man my girlfriend is so boring, who goes to bed at a decent hour? I just wanna party with a bunch of girls’. Grow up dude, partying is hardly the only thing that brings fulfillment in life. He clearly has the mindset of a teenager when he should be looking to settle down and be an adult. Also, I’m just saying, his mention of being “happy on my own, living my life with partys, girls” definitely reads like he wants his own place so he can cheat on her if he gets the chance.

Big_Leo_Energy · 2022-04-18T21:03:14+00:00

I can’t wait to read his post 2 years from now about “the one that got away” when he realizes his dream of partying and sleeping around involves stale cold pizza and the touch his own hand.

She can do better.

whiskey_and_oreos · 2022-04-18T20:39:49+00:00

He wants a dog but even a dog deserves unconditional love. Maybe a non-sentient AI. This right here is why millennial women are single in droves. Our generation is full of these broken post-wall fuckbois who think their inability to maintain interest in any one person for more than three months is the fault of the woman for not being his manic pixie dream girl of the hour.

ultblue7 · 2022-04-18T21:19:01+00:00

My heart breaks for these women. I hope they find out of these relationships. I’ve been the one called needy and boring. Its a special type of hurt when the things you do to maintain your peace and sanity in such a crazy world gets demeaned as “boring” because a man clearly has it easier, can’t understand, and won’t understand.

Guyincognito9876 · 2022-04-18T22:46:08+00:00

So he only values her for “extra funds and company” and feels zero guilt about it.

blackmetalbetty · 2022-04-19T00:27:36+00:00

Wants to still play the field and bullshit around until that premature baldness or other development hits to make him settle down. I LiKe To pArTy!1! Loser needs to grow up.

nana19_ · 2022-04-19T00:19:50+00:00

I hate this so much, it’s like going inside men mind, they want to live crazy, and go out with crazy people and girls, but even if he says she’s boring, he likes she is a home stay girl and loyal because probably he wouldn’t date seriously with the crazy one that wouldn’t trust. Aaaarggghh I hate it.

Professional-Ad-457 · 2022-04-18T21:55:25+00:00

For ‘crazy’ read ‘drunk’. For ‘boring’ read ‘not an alcoholic’. These guys’ first love is their addictions. When they meet a woman who is also an alcoholic they’ll be telling reddit: ‘She always takes it too far and embarrasses me’ or some other problem that comes with drinking. Alcohol is his only love. They are so down the rabbit hole of self-delusion they have to dress alcoholism up as ‘man goes to the bar’ = crazy & exciting life of non-stop glamour!

2022-04-18T20:30:18+00:00

His word salad just means he doesn't love her, never has, never will.

Men keep saying they know when a woman is "the one" within the first couple of months, yet will post stuff like this. It's not that he isn't sure, he doesn't want her but doesn't want to go back to rejection central either.

InternalEmu1477 · 2022-04-18T21:16:45+00:00

This guy just wants a wingman with female genitals.

A party mate. A gaming partner.

Also the whole "I want her to be there when I want her to and not to be there when I don't want her to" - jfc he wants a sex robot

Also it's all about 'me, me, me and my wants'. Super selfish.

imnotfitforexistence · 2022-04-18T22:17:36+00:00

Why they try to make it so difficult? If you are opposites why date in the first place? If you are unhappy, why not break up?

They would rather stay in a relationship they don't enjoy, calling their partners boring on the internet, blaming them for not being the way they would like them to be than take an attitude and break up.

They don't even think about how their girlfriends would feel once they find out. What's empathy, right? The dude said he lost a decade of his life? Who forced him to do it???

I'm guessing the advantage of having someone cleaning their house, cooking, managing their lives and having sex with then whenever they want are difficult to let go, even if they dislike their partners. They would rather blame them than taking control of their own lives and problems.

How disrespectful.

I'm really sorry for those women and very glad I found FDS.

Objective_Ad7771 · 2022-04-18T22:01:19+00:00

Here we have a male speciment discovering the phenomenon called a mid-life crisis. After his profound and "logical" examination he decided to indeed ruin the life of his partner only to become bitter in about 5 years.

TortaCetim · 2022-04-18T21:40:03+00:00

The fact that the commenter feels bad for HIM, and not for his girlfriend who is clearly being led on, says a lot about himself and his relationship

KetoKittenAround · 2022-04-19T03:53:30+00:00

Oh my! Look ladies!!!

This wild man!!!

This living embodiment of adventure!

Yet too much of a coward to live his life authentically.

Too much of a coward to do what he wants done. This rebel!

So cowardly he will keep up wasting and using a woman’s time, finances , and body…. Also he can blame HER for his limp dick scrote fantasies that he NEVER fulfill single.

FUBARfromLSA · 2022-04-18T21:13:16+00:00

“hELpInG hEr”

Sure my guy.

GoldandGlowing · 2022-04-18T22:41:35+00:00

Scrotes are Cowards.

Biracial_tooth_fairy · 2022-04-19T00:14:25+00:00

OoooOooooH she doesn't like party all the time!!! Shes so boring! Wahhh

I can't fucking stand these types of guys. And HE'S 30.

xfelugirlx · 2022-04-18T23:50:31+00:00

"Boring"= shr doesnt do what i want her to do, men lack of self awarness so much is pathetic

HoneydewSorry7141 · 2022-04-18T21:28:39+00:00

Happened to my friend. Her man was a HVM by all accounts - they were together for ten years, engaged, planning a wedding, bought a house together, he was always super respectful of her... one morning he wakes up and says that he can't go through with it because he's still thinking about "what else is out there". Spoiler: nothing else is out there. She's better looking than him, makes more money than him, is more fun/outgoing than him... (I don't know why guys think they'll have a line of super hot women lining up around the block to date them). The only indication of this was years prior, he'd drunkenly panic-admitted that he was worried about "what he's missing out on". But the next morning sober, he repeatedly told her he didn't mean it/he was drunk, etc. Goes to show, as soon as that first crack appears, no matter how faint, it's not worth sticking around. BEST case, he leaves you before you're married. WORST case, he does it when you're 40 and have kids.

Equal-Ear2312 · 2022-04-19T04:25:29+00:00

This is what happens when she loves him more than he loves her. A man will always think that the grass is greener on the other side.

Also, these men behave as of the"relationship" or the gf did "not let them live their lives aka hookers, crack and feeling the thrill of the chase. They resent their gfs for having lost that time. You see... These scrotes think it's because of the gfs. They could have broken up at any time. But they didn't. They choose to resent the gf that loves them very much, instead, and make it her fault.

she_is_munchkins · 2022-04-19T07:50:06+00:00

Lol I cackled at "Sure, the additional funds and company would be nice" 🤣🤣🤣 At best that's what he'll see you as.

True, I learned this the hard way. This is also why we don't approach men - they'll always say yes (because in their mind anything is better than nothing) even if their feelings towards you are cold or lukewarm. You really don't wana do that to yourself. If he's not coming with that "hell yes!" energy just keep it moving.

Tiny_Tap312 · 2022-04-18T22:03:40+00:00

“Universally too crazy for her” ?? 🤣 What a nut job!

frostedgemstone · 2022-04-19T05:04:25+00:00

Shouldn’t take longer than 2 years for men over 25 in my opinion for a 💍. If not he’s just putting the relationship and woman in a purgatory

Corn_Snakes_Are_Cute · 2022-04-18T21:03:52+00:00

Oh, yet another reason to stay away from dating straight men! Thanks.

Sometimes after watching a movie, I catch myself thinking "I wish I had a significant other", but movies are not the reality we live in. Men will literally use you as an object for as long as it's convenient for them. I'll pass.

I am really grateful to find this community at my age. It has opened my eyes and after what I have seen I think I won't be able to look at the world the same way. And it's for the better. Without FDS and you, queens, I would have done so many mistakes and would literally become a mommy bang-maid puppet that men would like me to be.

Ordinary-Koala-5190 · 2022-04-19T04:04:57+00:00

I'm 27f and I really believe that 1. men are incapable of actually fall in love with women. And 2. women are better off not going into relationship with men. I just see it as a risk (life vs death). We lose sooo much by having children, getting married to a man and dating, that I feel that its a downgrade not being single today. Mayb I'm cynical, but I'm just basing my stance or the past, my entourage and what is happening to women/girls because of men (murder, rape, pedophilia, dv, men not doing enought at home etc).

masterofthebarkarts · 2022-04-18T23:18:03+00:00

I dated a guy like this.

He wanted to stay up till 4 am regularly, party on weeknights and generally go out socializing 24/7. He also, of course, wanted threesomes and "adventurous" sex that I was not comfortable with.

I'm sure he thought I was boring too. But I wasn't the one who had to find a new job every 6 months because I kept getting fired 🤷

OutlandishnessOk · 2022-04-19T01:09:49+00:00

I believe that men like this are understimulated and just lack the self-awareness and emotional intelligence to figure that out. They need an engaging hobby and instead of learning something new, most of them will just distract themselves with low quality experiences forever.

All of us here did that work. We all let go of the ways we thought we needed validation and built our own self-esteem. More men need to match our effort.

woadsky · 2022-04-19T07:08:05+00:00

I've had two men tell me they love me, and then leave. One told me he "didn't love me enough". Thanks a lot.... so you told me you loved me but the ending of the sentence was silent!

This guy thinks he knows what he wants (described in detail and so selfishly) but I think if he had what he thinks he wants he wouldn't like that either. He is cryptonite and has addictive behaviors.

birdonthestreet · 2022-04-19T00:10:04+00:00

Lolololol Let me predict the future- he dumps gf to live this crazy party life filled with sex and women. He moves into new house, suddenly realizes he actually can’t pick up women and becomes increasingly more desperate. Then he also realizes that damn, I not only have to pay my full rent but I don’t have anyone to pick up after me! So then in about 6 months, he will come crying and begging for his ex to take him back- even though he still knows they aren’t compatible.

Hopefully, his ex realizes (once he breaks up with her) what a loser he was and doesn’t take him back. This is why I will never take an ex back. 10/10 times they come crawling back because they realize they aren’t as hot of a commodity as they thought.

glamour_doll · 2022-04-19T09:18:19+00:00

The fact that the only 2 things he could see as positives of her.. were sex and additional money from splitting 50/50

underatlantic · 2022-04-18T21:53:17+00:00

"The spark" is such LVM lingo. They've stolen that phrase to use as an excuse for their shitty, self-serving behavior.

Thunderbird_Freya · 2022-04-18T21:00:02+00:00

The loser could at least claim that he wants space so that he can be the best boyfriend for her. Like one day hang out and one day alone, there is a relationship in Europe calls “LAT” relationship, it’s short for “Living apart together” both ppl are in a relationship but don’t lose their individuality. This man reminds me of a scrote I wasted time on, he only wanted me around whenever it suits him, I need to be loyal and be there when he feels alone, until I served my purpose and got replaced by some scantily woman who is a lot more wilder than I am. I never heard back but I heard from other ppl that he made a woman break up with a long time partner to be with him, I guess I don’t have to feel singled out. In the end he’ll show his true colours with every woman he interactions in the long run.

pilikia5 · 2022-04-19T05:07:41+00:00

“Her myriad problems” …the disdain is palpable.

pillowcaseflower · 2022-04-19T00:14:04+00:00

The third slide is just !!

Girlfriend: *Is HONEST about her interests and habits from the get go and remains who she is*

Man: *Sees the honest display, decides to get with her, becomes unhappy but stays there*

Man: I'm unfulfilled! I regret everything! I secretly resent my girlfriend for not knowing all the things I have not been voicing! I'm sad!

Seriously, he writes like a victorian woman who had no divorce oppurtunity. He has all the power to end it, yet he stays wasting everyone's time and he's the victim.

nana19_ · 2022-04-19T00:16:57+00:00

God!!! 🥲 poor girls 😭

veggie_weggie · 2022-04-19T03:30:10+00:00

These boys want a dog not a partner. I love the commentary about “losing” 9 years of his pathetic party life like he was chained in a basement. He wasted that poor women’s time and energy for 9 years…

spinsterchachkies · 2022-04-18T22:15:39+00:00

Eeeeww

Traditional-Cow-2487 · 2022-04-18T22:02:53+00:00

My ex was similar to this. Not the partying stuff, just he wanted to be independent but liked having me around only when he wanted me to be, I.e. sex or some other selfish desire. We were supposed to live together but he bailed because he wanted to maintain his independence and apparently I would interfere with that (because then he would be forced to spend more time with me if we lived together......). I felt like he liked the benefits of having a partner but didn't want to put in the effort for a 2 way relationship. Yeah I was once that girl who begged "why won't you ever spend time with me". Ugh.

After we broke up but remained in contact (bad idea), he wanted to move in with me as my place was close to a university he wanted to attend. He said it was be better financially instead of getting a place of his own and paying more. Oh boy. Luckily it didn't happen.

medical-throw · 2022-04-19T05:01:22+00:00

“I want her to be there when I want, and not there when I don’t.”

Wow. Really showing his true colours here. That poor, poor woman. What she wants doesn’t seem to factor into the equation at all. What a scumbag.

matte_personality · 2022-04-19T07:54:16+00:00

It’s so weird. I understand wanting to do things with your partner but do people stop doing things for themselves and having fun with their own crowd once they have a partner? Like do you have to bring your partner everywhere?

When I still had a boyfriend (he was an asshole yes lol) I still went out alone at times and made time to see my friends so I could still have a life of my own to return to should anything ever go wrong. I didn’t always bring my partner everywhere but I also always made sure he knew that he was my priority. If he was properly interested in her, he would have accepted their differences and found ways to reassure her and love her even when they’re both doing different things.

modern-medusa · 2022-04-18T21:58:45+00:00

A lot of words to say " I want her to be my emotional support satient fleshlight but when I get tired of her I want it to be okay for me to tell her to kick rocks - after all my needs are the only ones that matter!"

sleeplessbeauty101 · 2022-04-18T23:07:59+00:00

He's describing the fact he wants to be dating an 18yr old because they are the only ones with free time to pull all nighters and party. He's really trying to sell this as a 'poor me' story. What a loser.

pukubr · 2022-04-18T22:22:34+00:00

I bet you that if it weren't for her holding down the fort, he couldn't indulge in such a self destructive, and frankly, selfish lifestyle. Alcoholism (if that is what is implied) / partying is incredibly selfish, because if you're not able to hold down a job or make rent, you're going to be relying on other people to cover your ass.

This guy is ridiculous for glamorizing the "party" lifestyle. How is he going to pay for all that? Who's going to clean up when the time comes? You cannot hold down a respectable or difficult job while getting drunk off your mind with parties and girls every weekend or evening, so his options are dead end, low wage jobs. And what kind of girls does he think he's going to attract with that lifestyle, while quickly aging and hitting the male wall?

The scrote, and commenter, just sounds immature and irresponsible. Good lord, I just scrolled up and realized the man is 30M. I can't even say, "he's going to wake up in his 30s one day and realize he wasted his 20s." It sounds like he has some kind of Peter Pan syndrome where he wishes he didn't have to be responsible, and he thinks tucking in early and planning for the future is "boring." Adults usually grow out of wanting that party lifestyle in their, I dunno, 20's?!? After college?! If anything, it's a warning sign if you find out what a guy really wants out of life is parties. Let him go.

Specialist-Ebb7606 · 2022-04-19T05:06:55+00:00

30 years old and he wants to spend his life partying st the club.... yikes thats a red flag enough

ALSO he wants someone who will play convoluted games with him and him doing the same to them...gross

SummerEmCat · 2022-04-18T22:48:59+00:00

WOW. He wants to have his cake and eat it too! Have her nearby but be able to party (and probably cheat, too) for his convenience. And the commenter saying he should dump her because he might regret the next 10 years? Um, what about HER wasting 10 years on this scrote.

Absolutely sickening.

The_Cat_Empress · 2022-04-19T14:59:03+00:00

Why can't men just do the obvious and break up?

He wrote a stupid Reddit post complaining about how incompatible he is with his GF and is sticking around?? And how much do you ladies want to bet that if he DID get a "party girl" he'd Madonna/Wh*re her into oblivion and make her feel horrible! Men get with a introverted woman who is healthy and has a bedtime and whine that he's wasting time.

It just makes me feel bad for the women in the relationships, I bet they want a well adjusted responsible man who will go to bed with her and not be out all the time.

IDK how 30 yr olds can even handle partying, I drink too much wine and I'm out for a few days...how can they drink excessively and not turn into pudding?

Cloudofmoss · 2022-04-19T03:48:18+00:00

IMO only truly boring people think other people are boring. His problem is that he lacks so much personality he needs alcohol to make him feel even remotely interesting but she’s too comfortable with herself for him and he knows it. I wish there was a way to message this poor woman and let her know this selfish loser is stringing her along. This is honestly the worst kind of heartbreak. He’s probably going to cheat on her too.

dating-adventures · 2022-04-18T22:17:45+00:00

He sounds like he has an avoidant attachment style.

cakewalkofshame · 2022-04-20T20:09:33+00:00

Imagine being 30 and still partying. And thinking it's spelled "partys." Yikes.

dottywine · 2022-04-20T23:48:17+00:00

This is very typical. A lot of dudes will stay with a woman they don’t like until there is a “good reason” to break up.

ChickEnergy · 2022-04-18T22:40:28+00:00

I've been in a similar relationship, just where the roles were opposite, and it's never going to work. She wants a stable chill life, he sees her as something holding him back. She doesn't deserve that.

Resident_Coyote5406 · 2022-04-19T01:32:15+00:00

Sounds exactly like something my ex would write. Sums up our relationship to a T, ages are spot on too

fallen-summer · 2022-04-19T16:17:27+00:00

God I wish when I realized my ex wasn't all that into me at the beginning of our relationship I would've just left a year wasted 2 cats I had to leave and an expensive couch and chair he gets to keep 🙃 too bad I wasn't here yet

idiosyncraticg1 · 2022-04-19T22:32:34+00:00

People like the third commentator are simply making excuses. They are boring too, yet it’s their girlfriend who’s “holding them back”. I know of a couple where the boyfriend loves to party while the girlfriend is completing a masters program. The boyfriend parties with his friends on Fridays while she studies. He doesn’t ever complain or call her boring. He takes time out of his week to see her so that she’s happy. If you want to make it work, you will

HeroRyanReddit · 2022-05-27T07:44:25+00:00

You see one man act this way then you just assume it's all of us? What a great subreddit this is.

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