Daily Community Chat Megathread

relaxandrule31 · 2022-01-09T18:21:07+00:00

rant/

I can't trust anyone whose reluctant to text or leave voice messages/mail

We live in the society where there's always miscommunication, lying ,gaslighting,genuine dishonesty etc. if you avoid texting or any of the above I'm just gonna assume you're just software illiterate or you don't like being accountable for what you say. So many relationships can get strained or ended over I said/you said he say / she say bullshit. Texting eliminates all of that.

Only an ltr or your mother should have the privilege to able to just call you up and have a long conversation. Everyone else should just hit the inbox.

Orange_Paisley · 2022-01-09T18:01:19+00:00

We got Mr. Paisley out of the hospital and now my dad’s back in. He went in Wednesday with bad vomiting and diarrhea and had been there ever since. The first two days I was allowed to visit and then they shut down visitation due to Covid. I’m wondering if we need to start thinking about stockpiling toilet paper again.

zyramain69 · 2022-01-09T17:36:22+00:00

Why do women use "gay" as an insult to men, meanwhile they'll date a stud (women that dress like men from the 90s) shorter than them and spilt the bill too.

NarniaFox · 2022-01-09T17:33:42+00:00

Ordered some vanilla bean paste for baking, as it's impossible to buy this stuff here and I want to boost my baked goods.

You have no idea how much I want to move to a bigger city. And yes, if Pickle could complain about high n-count women all the time, I can complain about living in the middle of nowhere once in a few months.

Helpful_Help_9329 · 2022-01-09T17:01:17+00:00

https://youtu.be/nmA2-mw3FBY

chilikettlechips · 2022-01-09T17:00:50+00:00

Q4Mods, Since so many people throw out "incel" so often, can I people use, "dry pussy energy"? Asking for a friend, for no reason in particular. People should stay civil and avoid the kiss of the ban hammer.

SKY_ACTIV3 · 2022-01-09T16:34:22+00:00

Holy shit COVID is kicking my fucking ass lmao

Typing this shit on my phone hurts my fingers goddamn

angels-fan · 2022-01-09T16:29:10+00:00

https://vm.tiktok.com/TTPdMmn1hK/

PiTbUlLs ArE sO ViOlEnT

chilikettlechips · 2022-01-09T16:18:43+00:00

Didn't catch this travel thread when it was new.

In all the places I've been to I can confirm one thing. If a guy is tall and white or just white he can pull crazy amounts of tail. No matter how fat or autistic or bald.

LillthOfBabylon · 2022-01-09T16:09:01+00:00

Incels: It's women's fault have babies with shitty men! If you weren't stupid it wouldn't have happened.

*Women that are pickier with their men and put off motherhood so they can provide more stability for kids.*

Also incels to those women ^^^: Why are stupid bitches asking for so much?! And you wasted your prime years, you stupid bitch!

Willow-girl · 2022-01-09T15:50:36+00:00

I had been stressing about running out of hay before June, but this morning the man got on the phone and lined up a delivery for next Sunday. The bales are even $5 cheaper than we pay our usual guy!

Someone's getting his dick sucked tonight.

BennyHillThemeStops · 2022-01-09T13:34:01+00:00

Most women on OLD self destruct by making unattractive traits their whole personality.

I'm talking about astrology/spiritual nonsense, excessive tattoos and piercings, emphasis on drinking and listing off achievements as if that makes them more attractive.

Men are partly to blame for swiping right on these disasters and simping for these women. The simping must stop.

NarniaFox · 2022-01-09T13:23:10+00:00

I also wanted to write about the idea "a child must have a father."

No one will argue that two involved and caring parents are better than one, it's more reliable and varied, two parents can provide more money and time. It's good for everyone.

But in our realities this idea is for some reason addressed to women meaning that in the name of "there must be a father" they should endure all kinds of shitty behavior and mistreatments from these fathers, because otherwise the Terrible Damage to the Absence of the Father and the Distortion of Role Models in the Family will be inflicted.

The damage from the absence of a father is (at least in my opinion) less than the damage from domestic violence or constant conflicts between parents. And this damage is not so much from the absence of the father, but from the lack of a sufficient number of human and material resources in the family. And if there are enough of them, then this damage (in the sense of complete absence, when there is no painful loss) can easily not happen at all.

This doesn’t mean you don’t need a father. He's needed, there is a ton of research on how child development benefits from involved parenting. Another person who sincerely cares, teaches, helps - this is a huge resource!

But the idea "the child must have a father" should be addressed to, damn it, fathers. It depends on the father himself whether he will have a child and what kind of father he will be. For now men are getting the impression that someone else must provide them with a good relationships with their kids and comfortable parenthood.

GridReXX · 2022-01-09T13:08:36+00:00

Q4Men:

If you never got a boner in the wild… meaning you only got boners sparingly and when you were to have chemistry with someone after interacting with them… would you approach women at the same rates you currently do? Would you approach them at all? Would you swipe on every single “blah” chick on OLD?

NarniaFox · 2022-01-09T12:46:50+00:00

Stuff like this is highly concerning. Variant that he's in the closet himself is the least dangerous, but what's more concerning is that he interprets some things his son does as sexuality-related stuff and that gives...wrong impression. I wouldn't leave this guy with kids without supervision.

LillthOfBabylon · 2022-01-09T12:09:53+00:00

It's so weird that incels here treat women like an entirely different species but will cling on to the idea that men and women have the exact same sex drive/experience when they don't.

Even if women have the same libido as men, sex/hookups is not as rewarding. Men orgasm 99% of the time, women orgasm 60% of the time (and that's including women in relationships). For ONS, women orgasm 10 to 20% of the time.

Also, it's funny that incels try to pretend they're not solely talking about sex by saying vague shit like "Women like", "Women don't like", but talk to them enough, they expose they're just interested in fucking.

O-j-O · 2022-01-09T11:26:45+00:00

Come take my guns

LillthOfBabylon · 2022-01-09T11:09:07+00:00

Now, I find it interesting that the typical response to JK Rowling's tweet about rapists in Scotland is stating that trans people are far more likely to be victims of sex abuse than cis people... but no one asks if the abuse happened before or after transitioning.

LillthOfBabylon · 2022-01-09T11:02:40+00:00

A large reason most guys are considered ugly by women (if we believe OkCupid) is because alot of men don't know basic fucking hygiene, and many men don't know how to dress nice.

It baffles me that guys here will say "Chads don't have to put in effort to be attractive". That's a giant red flag. Oh yes, Henry Cavill didn't have to work for those abs! He came out the womb looking like a Demi-God!

BruddaMSK · 2022-01-09T10:24:00+00:00

I think communist China unironically owes compensations for lockdowns, healthcare and other associated costs to every country in the world and to all Covid-19 victims or their relatives.

Mark_Freed · 2022-01-09T09:07:51+00:00

Anyone who thinks the west doesn’t have a problem with feminism getting out of hand has their head stuck in the sand. https://youtu.be/oxpX6IQ3GY4 they have literally started making sexism mainstream.

KickKathleeenKennedy · 2022-01-09T07:39:59+00:00

Hinge chronicles:

If every photo of you contains alcohol I’m swiping left. You look like an alcoholic

throwaway213091345 · 2022-01-09T06:00:27+00:00

my dad is trans now

This is sad. It’s incredibly selfish to come out this late in life. The dad likely has known his whole life that he has feelings of gender dysmorphia. He’s breaking his family apart just like cheating would do. The other part of it is that he’s doing it at a time where all his features have developed. The most feminine MTF are people who start younger, than commit to it if they really know it’s what they’d want. Otherwise, you’ll look like a man in a wig.

Helpful_Help_9329 · 2022-01-09T05:54:24+00:00

LVM encounter FDS queen

philomexa · 2022-01-09T04:37:39+00:00

I'm drunk, ama.

Eta: I'm also very stoned.

Eta2: Now we're earnestly doing Creed karaoke.

Aclopolipse · 2022-01-09T03:40:44+00:00

Men of PPD:

How, if at all, does the thought of a false sexual assault/harassment allegation impact your decisions around dating and sex? I've heard it mentioned here a bunch but not talked about directly.

TakeTheVaccine · 2022-01-09T03:14:56+00:00

Who is chad and why is everyone saying he gets laid

WahmenH8ter · 2022-01-09T02:55:57+00:00

For those who are going out on dates, how has the Covid situation treated you? Do you mind puckering up for a stranger whose lips might be saturated with the virus?

SmurfESmurferson · 2022-01-09T02:32:29+00:00

I can’t stop laughing

One of my trashy HS friends posted this in all seriousness

tiposk · 2022-01-09T02:11:50+00:00

I'm sick of double standards. My partner eats my ass like there's no tomorrow and let's me sit on his face while I sing kumbaya, but he won't let me to go anywhere near his ass even though I've expressed my desire to eat an apple pie out of it. What the fuck is wrong with men?

Spread-Em-Plz · 2022-01-09T01:35:08+00:00

What would you say are your most attractive features, and which are your detracting features?

(Physical only)

Edit, here's mine:

Best: Strong legs, semi-broad shoulders, dimples and freckles, hair, clear skin

Worst: Height, baby face, gap in teeth, small arms (leading to people thinking I'm just small), voice

angels-fan · 2022-01-09T00:55:13+00:00

If I'm paying $100 for a steak and I order it med rare, that steak better be fucking med rare, not well done!!

Good thing my company is actually paying for it.

7SovarN · 2022-01-09T00:44:47+00:00

https://www.reddit.com/r/PoliticalCompassMemes/comments/rz2588/somebody_please_give_bing_a_chill_pill_not/ Holy based

Helpful_Help_9329 · 2022-01-09T00:43:03+00:00

That's right. I never delete my comments no matter how downvoted they get. How did you know?

angels-fan · 2022-01-09T00:18:23+00:00

Watching fat men bro hug is pretty entertaining to watch.

throwaway213091345 · 2022-01-09T00:07:33+00:00

My friend is slowly turning into a Karen and I am not into it. I've talked about her here a little bit, but I've tried to imply to her that she has high standards for men, but she brushes it off. This makes her fail in dating, which in turn makes her unhappy and lonely.

She called 9-1-1 on people having a party during the day on Saturday. Of course, the cops just came by and told her to deal with it. I imagined a scenario where someone in actual danger or harm is on the other line, but their call is pending because cops need to deal with a sound issue. God.

Helpful_Help_9329 · 2022-01-08T23:57:14+00:00

Average man who calls women out on double standards.

Willow-girl · 2022-01-08T23:42:33+00:00

The face of true happiness: Imgur

Slipthe · 2022-01-08T23:38:37+00:00

What is up with Dissociate Identity Disorder?

I suspect any YouTuber who has it is hamming it up for content. Because they definitely circle jerk themselves by making all of their alter egos charactiatures.

And why is it predominantly women who have this?

AND why on Earth do therapists play into it and encourage people with DID to start calling themselves 'we' and 'us'. Clearly it's not gonna help their trauma if they re-enforce that they are multiple people and not one person who went through something traumatic.

Autonate · 2022-01-08T23:34:01+00:00

I'm glad I purged PPD from my system for the last 6 months. I've spent the time I was trying to understand western women towards putting a plan in action for how to live life how I want as a r/digitalnomad

Looking forward to 2022. I've pretty much given up on the USA for traveling after going to a lot of the big cities: Austin, Dallas, NYC, Seattle, Boston

So unless I get a digital nomad relocation package from a few cities in West Virginia I applied for I'm leaving this country. Towards greener pastures I go!

angels-fan · 2022-01-08T20:43:27+00:00

Why are we drawing the line at paying off student debt?

Why not credit card debt? Or all mortgages across the country?

What makes student debt some special class of debt where the idiots that knowingly took out a loan that they knew they'd have to pay back should get a freebie??

God the amount of bullshit liberals want for free is insane to me.

Helpful_Help_9329 · 2022-01-08T23:22:23+00:00

It's true that women only approach men way out of their league. Because the only time I ever get approached, the women are so ugly that I would be embarrassed to even be out in public with them.

GridReXX · 2022-01-08T18:08:51+00:00

Is it fair to consider women focusing on their “beauty rituals” — shaving their legs and pits and other regions, makeup, hair, cosmetic procedures, eyebrows, fitness (for those who actually do), etc — “femme-maxxing”?

And then when you include the behavioral aspects women alter about themselves to attract men or seem alluring to men…

… why do a subset of men believe they’re the only ones altering how the look or act to appear ~~attractive to the opposite sex~~ desirable to those they desire?

goneaway2thewind · 2022-01-08T20:49:25+00:00

Jokes on you PPD, I hate women AND men. This hate rated E for everyone lol fuck humans in general

ahandtoyourdarknessx · 2022-01-08T18:07:24+00:00

Something I don’t get about the black pill is that they say things like this, but guys like the guy on the left usually find relationships pretty easily and I don’t know anyone who looks like the guy on the right, I don’t think I’ve ever met or seen anyone who legitimately looks like a male model, and the guys I know who have a lot of sex don’t look like that at all

angels-fan · 2022-01-08T19:11:34+00:00

I still liked the weekly megathread better.

ahandtoyourdarknessx · 2022-01-08T18:03:13+00:00

First

purplish_possum · 2022-01-08T18:04:03+00:00

GF just went to town to go shopping. I get to blast the stereo for the next four hours!

I just might be the oldest teenager in the room.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5eMUyyFXhTY&list=RDMM&index=3

rosesonthefloor · 2022-01-08T19:40:57+00:00

I was going to go for my long walk I’ve been doing over the last week and a half today, after being unable to the last 2 days because of the weather. Now the forecast says freezing rain is coming over the next few hours.

Pain.

rolurk · 2022-01-08T19:47:13+00:00

This came from the r/fa30plus subreddit.

https://www.reddit.com/r/FA30plus/comments/ryvipd/what_the_heck_happened/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share

This guy's post really got to me.

razormachine · 2022-01-08T18:55:54+00:00

I want to make a serious post explaining the whole "bad boy" trope and romantic movies, but also take an angle on romantic movies for men.

But I would actually have to watch all 3 sequels of 50 shades of grey and that Twilling thing + some harem anime... and teenage romance dramas.

I really don't want to expose myself to that cancer.

Loud-Broccoli7022 · 2022-01-08T20:22:47+00:00

Ladies do u want men to fight for u.

lulll · 2022-01-08T20:33:33+00:00

well this is some final destination shit

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EqK_6Wu7_Rk

Yukbghhjj · 2022-01-08T23:04:45+00:00

https://imgur.com/a/kaqW9P2

Video of me going through POF. Accidentally didn’t swipe on the Kona tomboy looking girl in the end but oh well. Am I being fair you think? Nobody here was really my type tbh.

syxtaly · 2022-01-08T22:49:48+00:00

It's obvious that monogamy will be dying relic of the past.

The weird thing is, it was always acceptable for men to sleep with other woman (if they did it in secrecy mostly).

For some reason, the problem isn't the guy fucking someone else but calling it 'cheating'.

Women are viscerally feeling flattered and proud of their men when he stays with her despite him having sex with other women. Yet it only becomes problem when it's called cheating... female logic.

Laytheblameonluck · 2022-01-08T22:41:31+00:00

How to boys get pre-selection game on instagram now:

/r/WatchPeopleDieInside/comments/ryy9x0/but_at_what_cost/

verycoolguySmash · 2022-01-08T22:18:49+00:00

What is PPD’s opinion on this blog post?

http://captaincapitalism.blogspot.com/2022/01/how-to-give-everyone-free-education-in.html?m=1

Chaddamhusein · 2022-01-08T22:17:17+00:00

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ididntwanttoexist · 2022-01-08T21:53:22+00:00

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PlayfulLawyer · 2022-01-08T21:44:56+00:00

Fellas if you state your preference for a kind of woman and a woman responds "you just can't handle a [ ]" oh, that's a giant red flag, if you're a guy actually out doing something in the world we have to handle a whole bunch of shit out there, the last thing you should want to do is "handle" somebody who's supposed to be bringing you peace in the home

Standard-Logic · 2022-01-08T20:13:28+00:00

Lol the question ab why guys care so much about a woman's sexual history always pisses people off...as can be seen when the last thread got removed

My point is….if a dude does or doesnt want a woman with a high body count? Why is that such a big deal?

People have eliminated each from the dating pool for way less….

Me personally I only care if I’m taking her seriously. If I'm just smashing & don’t take her seriously who cares. Hoes are fun af. And not all hoes are horrible people, they just hoes. But that don’t mean I’m obligated to commit to them….

But if I’m gonna get serious & actually wanna reproduce with you, tie my finances to you, and basically mix my life with you I’m gonna be searchin for clues on that as well as other things.

RabbitNRaccoon · 2022-01-08T21:26:54+00:00

The Manosphere has so many posers in it. So many men talking the talk. But can't walk the walk.

I was watching a video yesterday of a podcast featuring a dude that called himself "Alpha". A woman on the podcast asks him about an article he wrote years ago. And he loses his shit. He flies of the handle. It was so quick to get emotional AF over something he wrote and published.

He couldn't even control himself. And he was a late 40s, early 50s man.

The woman didn't criticize or antagonize him in anyway. And he just starts screaming "You know what, FUCK YOU". In the most vindictive way.

All over a question. He couldn't even just calmly respond to her. That's how in his feelings he was. How do you engage in that behavior and then call yourself Alpha?

If other people can get under your skin, you're not Alpha, at all.

The Manosphere is full of men criticizing women with glee, all the while being thin skinned. How does that make sense?

I'm all for criticism. However doesn't it look stupid to be able to give it, but not take it? Don't you think you should start with criticism of yourself first before you start ragging on other people?

I received a email today from Reddit saying my comment had "harassed" someone. I click the link, and it's a comment of me telling a man on PPD that he sucked at insulting people, was boring and had no game.

All of which are my opinions. That I'm entitled to.

I also noticed that the commenter I was responding to had deleted his account and all his comments. So I assume he was the one that reported me. For what? Calling him boring? That's a big bad insult? That bruised your ego?

I had someone call me a cunt the other day and I didn't report it because it has zero affect on me.

I also regularly have men downvote my comment disagreeing with them. Which, again, I'm entitled to. And sharing opinions is literally the purpose of Reddit.

I rarely meet men that can handle criticism or disagreement without reacting emotionally. All the while calling themselves logical and mocking women for being emotionally reactive.

Hello Pot. Meet Kettle.

NarniaFox · 2022-01-08T18:38:37+00:00

u/TC19962022, let's keep discussing it here.

Like I said, I do accept her right in abstract to reject me; but it just doesn't make much sense in the grand scheme of things considering the people I am expected to be willing to date and I felt more chemistry with her than anyone else

I don't want to offend you, but do you have autistic spectrum? You do get that your attraction to her doesn't mean much for her if she isn't attracted to you, don't you? I also really don't understand how it could take you 4 years to get over it when you hadn't even been dating, you were just rejected.

No one forces Women to stay passive. Again my employer-employee analogy. Employers can and do recruit but generally the employee has to bear the burden

I'm not really arguing with your analogy, there are some similarities, but your personal example is close to applying to few high-paying jobs when you have no qualifications for them and being pissed about not getting them.

You have a bigger potential pool. Open Tinder, get a line up of offers, and start filtering

When you have to look for "the one" among hundreds (the majority of which seeks out casual but a lot of them are okay with laying about it) a bigger dating pool isn't always a benefit.

You can choose your major; you can't change your gender (Trans people have a completely different dating experience; completely different convo than what is relevant here)

You can't choose what you're naturally good at. And I wasn't comparing genders here, but the demand for guys like you and women you seek.

As per you, what are demands that are more expected in Men; more expected in Women; and do you think they equal out?

They differ between groups. A lot of men here claim to value appearance and/or agreeableness above everything else, but there's a subset of men who have preferences similar to yours although it's usually either conservative and virgin or highly educated and career-oriented, not both of these things. Women also care for appearance, but not only for it. For an LTR a lot of them look for a mix of attraction, compatibility and stability. But, again, it depends greatly on the subset we're talking about. Conservative women who are into waiting till marriage tend to seek men who will fully provide for them and their kids. Also who will fulfill other traditional masculine responsibilities as "being the head of the family" and taking care of her etc. Being the one who approaches them doesn't even require any mentioning, it's assumed.

Which is less than what I put in.

Again, you seek for more than you can offer, because of the difference in dating pools. A woman you seek is a non-existent unicorn, she's educated, has or wants to have a good career and she's a sexually conservative virgin who's okay with you being a stay at home father. That's a mix of hardly compatible values here. While you offer a standard deal of a guy who's never been in relationships but thinks he's a great catch.

If was a Woman, and I met a Man a few years older who already had a job and was really good with kids I'd be super interested in him.

You aren't a woman and can't decide for us who we find attractive. And I like how you keep ignoring the fact that your age isn't a benefit here, it's a massive downside.

Except I'd totally date a Woman still pursuing education en route to the career.

That's cool, but it doesn't mean that it turns your entry position into a benefit.

Let me flip the question to you. Why should I date a Woman who makes less, has slept around, and is worse with kids than I am. What exactly does she offer me?

You shouldn't if you don't want to, my main point is that you have unrealistic expectations and it isn't really a problem of dating market. It's you who have missed his train.

empresa_josefina · 2022-01-08T18:55:58+00:00

https://www.reddit.com/r/PurplePillDebate/comments/rxe4yx/q4w_how_important_is_a_guys_face_to_you/

In that thread, the top responses all said a good face is an essential feature at worst, and the most important feature at best, for a man.

My question are, what percent of the male population would you say has an attractive face? Is there a big difference in dating outcomes if you have a 9/10 face versus a 7/10 face? And finally, how were the responses in that thread any different than what blackpillers/incels have been saying for years, that immutable characteristics like your jawline determine your dating life and personality matters way less?

TheHeroReditDeserves · 2022-01-08T19:29:46+00:00

The industrial revolution and it’s consequences have been a disaster for the human race.

Helpful_Help_9329 · 2022-01-08T21:26:34+00:00

Bully Maguire in Monsters Inc.

ahandtoyourdarknessx · 2022-01-08T21:17:31+00:00

There needs to be a version of "no homo" that guys can use when they compliment a woman in a non sexual way.

Like "I love you’re style, but I’m not coming onto you" or "you have an amazing rack, I’m just saying that as a friend"

rosesonthefloor · 2022-01-08T21:16:40+00:00

Inspired by one of u/GridReXX’s comments below:

Why do you think men aren’t going into the trades as much as they used to?

I do think a big part of it is high schools and societies privileging a whatever degree over an apprenticeship or college program. Whereas trades and tradesmen are vital to a functioning society.

Almost all the guys I’ve known in trades have done well with women and also made pretty good money. So wouldn’t going into the trades, at the very least, help with two common issues that young men seem to have these days (money and women)?

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