women: be honest have you ever agreed to a date just for the purpose of rejecting him later?

briiiana1122 · 2022-04-12T17:22:07+00:00

No and that seems like the behaviour of someone with mental issues.

juicyfruit206 · 2022-04-12T17:54:24+00:00

Never. If anything, I used to feel guilty if I had to reject someone

Selkie-Princess · 2022-04-12T17:52:26+00:00

I was once, as a very dumb young lady, advised to agree to a date with a guy who was obsessive about me just so he’d feel he’d been “at least given a shot” and would finally accept my rejection as “valid and informed” (a rejection that was like going on and had been given very clearly for a year)….it didn’t work and I needed to get a restraining order. Would not recommend.

2022-04-12T17:25:21+00:00

No.

Although I have had friends who have agreed to go on dates because they wanted to squash a fantasy once a for all. So a guy won’t leave them alone to the point they end up being pressured into agreeing, and then being like ‘there, we tried, now leave me alone’ type thing.

flapperfemmefatale · 2022-04-12T18:00:52+00:00

Nope. I have better things to do.

rivka_ruth · 2022-04-12T17:56:49+00:00

No. Why would I waste my own time like that?

Karaokoki · 2022-04-12T17:29:13+00:00

No, wtf? That sounds like sociopathic behavior.

Novadina · 2022-04-12T18:12:06+00:00

No, and I don’t really understand what the point would be? And how on earth would it boost my ego to reject someone later rather than sooner? I’ve never gotten any kind of ego boost out of rejection anyway, the ego boost is when a hot guy asks you out, not rejecting someone.

TermAggravating8043 · 2022-04-12T17:48:15+00:00

No, that’s cruel and at the very least I don’t want to lead someone on only to have to dump them later.

Federal_Bat_5355 · 2022-04-12T18:57:49+00:00

Rejecting people doesn't boost egos, being told that someone likes them does. Or just.. compliments. So.. no??? If you take such a rumour seriously enough to post about it, idk if you'll even take any comments seriously though.

ddouchecanoe · 2022-04-12T17:15:27+00:00

Not the way you put it, but I've accepted dates from men I wasn't really interested in because I felt bad about rejecting them or because I wanted to give them a chance to change my mind. This is a bad idea and you should never do it because once they get a foot in the door they feel like if they are just a little more persistent you'll date them or sleep with them.

gofigure62 · 2022-04-12T18:21:57+00:00

No Wtf? Makes absolutely zero sense.

Sounds like the plot of a tv show or movie for kids.

ddouchecanoe · 2022-04-12T18:32:23+00:00

If I felt the need to reject someone, I would just reject them when they asked for the date.

ashpr0ulx · 2022-04-12T18:38:53+00:00

no. rejecting people is horrible and awkward, why would i want to do that?

Substantial_Wasabi · 2022-04-12T17:52:30+00:00

i have gone on dates with men i knew I wasn’t attracted to because they were extremely insistent (asking me out multiple times and basically begging for a chance) because i was bored and wanted to see if they could change my mind.

I dont do this anymore because I realized men who are extremely insistent are huge red flags and to not be flattered by this behavior. So you tell me if that counts.

flamingoinghome · 2022-04-12T18:12:20+00:00

Excuse me? Who does this?

No, no I have not.

AmandaPea · 2022-04-12T18:47:50+00:00

Why in the name flaming christ would anyone waste their energy? No.

toasterchild · 2022-04-12T19:20:47+00:00

Not only have i not done it but i don't even know anyone who has, maybe in middle school but those kids are nuts and don't count. I do try not to hang out with horrible people though, i think the friends you keep reflect on you as a person.

Anyone who would do this shouldn't have friends.

LetsGetSomeSales · 2022-04-12T21:17:57+00:00

I haven’t but one of my friends does and she says she does it because it’s free food and a day filled attention, validation, and fills her ego… just sad.

masterofbrokendreams · 2022-04-12T17:27:30+00:00

No, and I don't actually know any other women who have. Who would willingly waste their own time like that?

shockedpikachu123 · 2022-04-12T17:42:21+00:00

No. I would lose my time and waste his. that’s something I can never get back

pyrotechnic-looter · 2022-04-12T18:17:35+00:00

Nope. Never done this, nor would consider it.

Have had a man do this to me though.

TheMedsPeds · 2022-04-12T18:54:40+00:00

No, I’ve never done that. Lol, not all of us are mentally ill and play mind games.

Willow-girl · 2022-04-12T22:40:39+00:00

Why would anyone waste their time that way?

Also, men can be ... unpleasant.

Bekiala · 2022-04-12T17:49:04+00:00

No. Never.

Magnito-was-right · 2022-04-12T17:50:53+00:00

No, I’ve only bailed on dates because I was too intimidated by the guy. One guy being one of the coolest guys from school who was also in a band. I ended up standing him up twice in the period of 5 years.

2022-04-12T18:16:53+00:00

No.

I don't like to waste my time.

daisydaisydaisy12 · 2022-04-12T18:38:18+00:00

Such a strange question. What could the reason be that you think this way anout women . Please tell me about your mother.

Capital_Scratch4562 · 2022-04-12T18:42:47+00:00

No? Why would I waste my time?

januaryphilosopher · 2022-04-12T19:21:18+00:00

No, although I did agree to a date once partially as a way to avoid hurting the guy asking and his ego. The other part was that he's the only one who ever asked so I thought I'd be doomed if I didn't agree. Lesson learned, if I already know someone and don't want to date them, actually dating them won't improve it and giving then a chance is a bad idea.

2022-04-12T19:33:03+00:00

No, never, and I don't know anyone who does this. I don't enjoy rejecting people. It's stressful and not fun.

gordonwestcoast · 2022-04-12T22:53:48+00:00

I know some women who have done this for the dual purpose of a free meal plus later rejection.

RealNiceLady · 2022-04-12T23:10:18+00:00

No, that's stupid and cruel

Reisiluu · 2022-04-12T23:32:55+00:00

after an incident of social exclusion or rejection a woman will seek out an opportunity to exclude or reject someone else

This would probably be her breaking things off with the fwb or rejecting the next guy who makes a move. Agreeing to go on a date would be the opposite of rejection.

I haven't gone on a date knowing I want nothing to do with the guy.

BlackPorcelainDoll · 2022-04-12T23:39:08+00:00

If you are even on the date, you are about 60% there. The majority of men that show interest get rejected, ignored and passed over.

ohdiddly · 2022-04-13T01:15:25+00:00

Apocalypstik · 2022-04-13T05:08:57+00:00

No. Why waste everyone’s time?

Academic_Snow_7680 · 2022-04-12T19:10:05+00:00

No, I am the polar opposite. Can honestly say that. I loathe people that do this.

AquaChip · 2022-04-13T01:18:19+00:00

No but I’ve dated knowing that we would never be anything serious and there was an expiration date.

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neetykeeno · 2022-04-12T17:39:01+00:00

No. Every hour spent in the immediate company of a person who I have that degree of contempt for is a waste of my life. If I feel excluded or rejected I generally go spend time in the company of inspiring works of art, or I make art myself. Experiencing the workings of my own mind ticking away is a panacea.

masterofbrokendreams · 2022-04-12T18:13:12+00:00

I have gone on a date to reject later because I have found rejecting without "cause" induces male rage. I have gone on the date, gotten a specific reason besides my gut reaction and then rejected. The specific reason lessens the male rage. Only had to do this a few times with men that had all the warning signs of rage

hellokittynyc1994 · 2022-04-12T18:48:05+00:00

No wtf

avoriure · 2022-04-12T18:59:54+00:00

i’ve gone on dates without necessarily LIKING the guy but wanting to see if i changed my mind after hanging out. but i wouldn’t go on the date if the guy had no chance at changing my mind.

rejecting guys has never given me any boost. it actually makes me feel bad most times

itsallieellie · 2022-04-12T19:02:01+00:00

No, why would I ever do that? I am not a mean and horrible person (or I would like to think I am not). That sounds horrible.

I have agreed to dates with me from dating apps and not been attracted when meeting them in person. But I even feel bad then.

Dating doesn't boost my ego though. Being asked out does. But I would not accept a date request with a man I do not want to date.

NaturalQueer · 2022-04-12T19:25:00+00:00

No and I wouldn’t hang out with women that do that either, it’s pretty cruel and such a waste of everyone’s time

2022-04-12T19:26:43+00:00

No. I cancelled a second date with a guy after he’d already bought us tickets for something because my current partner wanted us to be exclusive. I felt bad doing that really last minute but I was head over heels for my current partner so it was an easy decision to make. Every other guy I have rejected, I never strung along.

orphileen · 2022-04-12T19:40:57+00:00

no. and i do not respect nor look up to anyone who does that

sarkington · 2022-04-12T19:58:19+00:00

No

A waste of time and a social risk

Stunning-Potato-1984 · 2022-04-12T20:07:50+00:00

Maybe? When I was 18 I was really really really shy. Like painfully shy around strangers. I turned bright red if I had to talk to people I didn't know. I have no idea why.

A guy asked me out but I couldn't hear what he was saying until I realized what he was actually asking and it was too late and too awkward.

I purposely sped through my final exam the next class so I could try and escape the date I'd accidentally agreed too. Well he caught me and instead of just saying I thought you were asking me for notes I actually have no desire to see you ever again, I went to dinner with him. I wasn't rude and I think he probably thought everything went really well. He asked for my number and I gave it to him. He texted me, I think to make sure it was my real number.

I got in my car and immediately blocked him.

Illustrious_Bend_122 · 2022-04-12T20:08:12+00:00

No wtf who would do that

2022-04-12T20:09:04+00:00

swag_Lemons · 2022-04-12T20:45:46+00:00

no this seems sort of psychotic and anyone who does this is definitely a weirdo

delight-n-angers · 2022-04-12T20:51:09+00:00

No, this seems unnecessarily cruel and more practically like a waste of everyone's time.

Shieldless_One · 2022-04-12T21:17:15+00:00

Not a lady but when I was young a girl that I had zero attraction for asked me out and I went because I felt too bad to say no to her. I’m sure plenty of women have done something similar

KikiYuyu · 2022-04-12T21:28:10+00:00

I've only been asked out once, and I turned him down softly then and there. I even wanted to make sure he knew where I was coming from because I didn't want him to think something was wrong with him.

Any woman who does what you're talking about has sociopathic tendencies for sure.

Bitchy_Barracuda · 2022-04-12T21:40:30+00:00

No. Because, you know I’m an adult and whatnot. What a bizarre thing to do.

AtTheEnd777 · 2022-04-12T21:53:29+00:00

No. I have gone on a date just because the guy guilted me into giving him a "real" chance. After the date, he immediately texted me that he was really grateful to finally have such an awesome girlfriend. I realized that I was going to have to breakup with a boyfriend I never actually agreed to have. He immediately threatened suicide. I was young and let him manipulate me for 2 months.

2022-04-12T22:38:01+00:00

Gross, no.

Wander1900 · 2022-04-13T00:27:07+00:00

Social exclusion could be devastating to any human being...

EviessVeralan · 2022-04-13T00:50:26+00:00

Im not a narcissistic psychopath so no.

icanchi · 2022-04-13T01:34:35+00:00

That sound almost sociopathic.

gagalinabee · 2022-04-13T01:37:19+00:00

Uh nope, that’s fucked up.

florafauna2022 · 2022-04-13T01:41:31+00:00

You are asking if I spend an hour getting ready, grooming, doing my hair and picking out an outfit for a meal I can probably cook at home in a safe introvert heaven (in pajamas)? Let's top this off with then having to text a friend a location and possibly his name to ensure if something does happen to me, then I know someone is aware...

Just to ensure someone else feels bad? I can safely say no.

mandoa_sky · 2022-04-13T02:45:18+00:00

nope.

when younger and dumber, i did do it because I was second-guessing myself and thinking "maybe he's not as incompatible with me as I think he is" - went on the date and realised my initial impression pre-date was accurate.

APotatoPancake · 2022-04-13T03:19:41+00:00

Not entirely. When I was very young (high school)I had this idea that I should give everyone a chance because you "can't judge a book by it's cover". While it's true about the book thing, you can tell a lot by red flags they wave. So there were definitely some dates I pretty much knew going in had zero chance. That being said I always made sure to go Dutch on these dates so it's not like I was looing for a free meal. So no I didn't reject anyone for an ego boost, I was just obnoxiously optimistic about people who I should have known better.

Oli_love90 · 2022-04-13T06:52:27+00:00

No?! Going on a date takes time, effort and money why would I waste all of those things for a random act of vengeance when I could just be comfy and stay home?

Blaphrodite · 2022-04-13T07:27:02+00:00

Unnecessarily petty.

sometimes I’ve had to cancel a date due to unforeseen circumstances but I usually don’t agree just for the purpose of ruining someone else’s day by standing them up.

That’s asshole behavior

nemma88 · 2022-04-13T09:23:30+00:00

No, rejecting people feels bad not good to me.

Available-Ad-9338 · 2022-04-13T09:40:34+00:00

No, that is a dumb waste of time.

boofthegirl · 2022-04-13T10:11:57+00:00

I have never. I’ve only ever dated my current fiancé but, as a young woman who goes out dancing with her friends, I’ve been approached many times. I always feel empathetic and sorry for the men who approach me because I know at least most of them had to really get the guts up to ask me to dance/have a drink/go on a date/etc.

If I was single I would feel even worse for rejecting a man and hurting his feelings lol.

supersmit · 2022-04-13T11:11:08+00:00

Is this a really a thing?? Would never.. what garbage person actually likes rejecting someone?

Cupcakelover1985 · 2022-04-13T11:26:32+00:00

I’ve never done it to nurse my bruised ego but I did used to go on dates with guys I wasn’t interested in to practice talking to men and being a better date. It helped me hone my flirting skills so I was less nervous when it came to dates with guys I actually liked.

Diddy_1978 · 2022-04-13T13:23:20+00:00

Absolutely not.

That__EST · 2022-04-13T14:12:00+00:00

No. Nor have I ever heard of someone in my real life doing this.

pearllovespink · 2022-04-13T14:20:48+00:00

For the purpose? No, that would be waste of time. Have I had doubts about certain men before the date? Yes, but I’m giving them an opportunity to redeem themselves. Maybe I’m wrong about them.

Some women do date just to date. I’m not even going to lie about that.

Careless-Parfait-587 · 2022-04-13T14:23:19+00:00

Keep in mind what women say and what women do are two different things 😗😙

Also the way the question is framed. Why would they admit to doing this… That would make them a bad person…

Now if you asked if women went on dates with a guy they were in the fence on, or cause they were bored, or while they were in love with someone else I bet you get a few more confirming.

Sophiatab · 2022-04-13T15:54:05+00:00

No, that sounds bizarre.

thetacobitch · 2022-04-13T17:43:21+00:00

No? Men really think women sit around and plot like this. Do you think we don’t have better things to do? Do you think we want to spend time with someone we don’t like? Women have lives. This says a lot about the way you view women. And it’s not even true lol. That’s your issue

IcarusKiki · 2022-04-13T20:57:20+00:00

Ummm no?

mediocrethroat69 · 2022-04-13T21:14:58+00:00

Title	women: be honest have you ever agreed to a date just for the purpose of rejecting him later?
Author	masterofbrokendreams
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Date	April 12, 2022 4:42 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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