Have you tried therapy?

mackenzie013_02 · 2022-11-26T00:58:03+00:00

I’ve had two therapists; one was an idiot and my current one is great. I also have a circle of other mental health professionals.

People mistake therapy as some magical solution that will change their life. It will absolutely not. Therapy allows you to talk through what’s happening, build tools that help you shift your mental state and tools that allow you to deal with whatever is happening. I say everyone should go to therapy at least once (and to a good therapist), because most people I run across are shit at managing their emotions and like to blame everyone else for their problems.

KikiYuyu · 2022-11-26T00:29:25+00:00

I've had a mixed experience with therapy. Some therapists give you really lame basic advice. But the last one I got really gets me. He's really good at listening to my problem, then responding to it in a way that makes me think.

Having someone who just gets what you're saying feels really good. It's also good to have someone there to give you gentle reality checks.

KommandaKoopa · 2022-11-26T02:02:52+00:00

Yup. Didn’t really work when I was a kid and now it’s too expensive to even get a therapist.

Aromatic_Shop9033 · 2022-11-26T00:37:08+00:00

Yes.

Three different therapists, nearly 8 years.

Total waste of my time and money.

MotleyCrew1989 · 2022-11-26T00:42:16+00:00

Yes, twice, one of the main issues was my lack of sex life, I had a man (who was also a sex therapist) and a woman as therapists, both couldnt help me.

And Im a therapist myself.

themostgianthorse · 2022-11-26T00:34:50+00:00

Yes.

I was in some form of therapy from ages 16-32.I tried 8 different SSRIs and used to be prescribed 90 Xanax per month.

Therapy was beneficial in the moment. I walked out there validated and feeling like a million dollars. Unfortunately, there wasn’t enough meaningful long term change to my behavior during that time. It was a long ass time.

I knew something must change so I got a divorce and moved out on my own and stumbled onto the book No More Mr. Nice Guy and joined a group. I worked one on one with one of the leaders of the group and made more progress in the first year than I did in my 16 years or therapy.

I wouldn’t discourage anyone from therapy but understand that YOU must change your behaviour and thinking; the best therapist in the world will not be able to do that for you. Also, if you find yourself in therapy for multiple years, try something different.

HazyMemory7 · 2022-11-26T00:30:11+00:00

Said this quite a few times: 95% of the time someone says go to therapy it's:

A virtue signaling lazy answer to feign concern
An attempt to gaslight men into thinking that their struggles with women are internal instead of a result of external factors they can improve.
An attempt to shame men into thinking their perfectly reasonable preferences are problematic. Your girlfriend that slept with 50 guys waited 3 months to have sex with you and you don't like that? You must be misogynistic and insecure, go to therapy.

I've actually been to therapy. It's not magic. Moreso than anything it gives you and outlet to express your inner dialogue out loud and confront your problems. It wont change your external factors, you have to do that yourself. Busting your ass in the gym, working hard to further your career, forcing yourself to confront anxiety and fear of rejection, taking initiative...therapy is NOT the panacea some people make it out to be.

Historical-System972 · 2022-11-26T00:28:41+00:00

I'm not mentally ill, I just have a shit life. Why would I go to therapy?

gymbro718nyc2 · 2022-11-26T00:45:31+00:00

Yes of course. That's how I cured myself of depression, anxiety and low self esteem. I actually used to be like most guys here, blaming everything and everyone BUT myself. One day I had the realization that there are people out there in much worse circumstances than I was in and they were still happy and confident and went on dates. That's when I realized that none of this could possibly be caused by my external circumstances. Then I discovered CBT and it immediately clicked. The cause of depression, anxiety and low self esteem are caused by the way we think about our circumstances not by the circumstances themselves.

Knowing that, can you venture out and guess how many of the posters on PPD would be willing to look in the mirror and accept that maybe they have to change their own way of thinking? After all, it's much easier to blame the boogie man - hypergamy, Chads, AF/BB, etc .

No_Building_27 · 2022-11-26T01:56:44+00:00

"Go to therapy" is how the just-world fallacist comforts themself when presented with a person who has an unsolvable issue.

To a certain mind it is very anxiety-inducing to consider that a person may be doomed to unhappiness through no fault of their own, as they fear a similar misfortune could befall them too.

So, if they tell themselves that the person can solve all their problems with therapy, and that if they refuse to go to therapy then they are the cause of their own suffering, then everything is just in the world and they are free of that anxiety.

Green-Quantity1032 · 2022-11-26T01:18:46+00:00

It doesn't seem healthy to be so caught up in worrying about who's having sex and who's not, n count (your own or anyone else's)

Welcome to the human race, seems healthy and natural to me (maybe except the worrying bit, caring is enough).

I recommend seeking a good clinical psychologist, who specializes in CBT.

Also Look up Albert Ellis.

Don't be shy to move on to someone new if nothing changes for you in like 3-4 months.

I've started going like 4 years ago, I can only wish it was 14.

EDIT:

Remember this: Habits are key. Hone your habits, it will pay dividends.

I think pretty much nothing else matters. Not thinking, not analyzing, just deciding on the best habits to implement and be consistent at them.

For example:

Gym - gotta go, no bullshit.

Food - gotta eat right, 80/20 (80% good food, 20% is shit on the weekend)

Fashion - dress well, make it a habit.

Women - you wanna meet women, make it a habit - go out 2 times a week, maybe more at the start.

So yeah, I'd say a good CBT expert will see your sticking points and help you implement good habits, and eradicate weird thinking patterns.

I myself don't like the whole psychodynamic approach - The past maybe got me to where I am, but there's no way you'll understand everything to a level where it is remotely helpful. It's nice as a narrative, but people often use it to justify "how I am today". Fuck it, change it brought through action, not overthinking.

Suriels_cat · 2022-11-26T02:28:31+00:00

Yes. It changed my life, but it was very, very hard work. You have to go in willing to change and willing to work hard. It also took a long time to find a good therapist. A bad therapist is worse than no therapist.

single4yrsncounting · 2022-11-26T02:33:31+00:00

Yes. I love therapy it’s so much fun you learn so much about yourself. Interview your therapist to make sure their qualified to treat you for whatever conditions you have. Remember their supposed to ask you difficult things and challenge you not hurt you or be condescending to you.

PMmeareasontolive · 2022-11-26T02:33:59+00:00

I have a couple of times when it was a free perk as part of my health insurance. The first time was with a young man who I think was a student. It was helpful not because of anything he said or did, but just because I'd never talked to anyone about the things that influenced my outlook on life before. I found myself thinking through some things in a different way as a result of saying them out loud to someone else. Might have got the same result just journaling, but having it be stream of consciousness was probably better.

Second time was with a middle aged woman and it didn't really work for me. I kinda didn't feel comfortable. It might have been her upper middle classness as much as anything.

If you have a chance why not try it.

edit; I've probably read a fair amount of self help kind of stuff, which is how poor people do therapy.

JumpInternational176 · 2022-11-26T08:45:19+00:00

Yes I did and in my opinion it's mostly bullshit. There might be some problems where it helps but I think for most men it doesn't. Therapy was all about "validation" as they call it. It felt like they tried to tell me that there are no external factors to my issues, but it's all in my head. My thinking is wrong. People apparently don't judge me because I'm a lanky dude with horrible posture and no hobbies. If strangers came up to me in literal daylight to make fun of my looks it's apparently all in my head.

I basically had zero confidence, was diagnosed with social anxiety (due to bullying in school) and of course had no success in dating. I had some friends but never even kissed a woman when I went to therapy as an adult.

One of my female therapists wanted me to question whether confidence is really that important for women in dating. It really felt like being gaslighted. All of that shit didn't help me. What would have helped me is if my therapist told me "Of course you don't have no success in dating. You're fucking skinny, ugly and uninteresting. Go to the gym, eat more, find something that you enjoy doing." Some people here are going to say it's obvious but it's really not when you grow up in a household without a father and a mother that teaches you that being nice is the most important trait and looks are unimportant.

I got my first girlfriend after going to the gym and doing martial arts for some time. It also increased my confidence a lot.

Therapy is designed for women. Women (typically) enjoy talking about their problems. They don't actually want people to tell them solutions but just vent. Men (typically) only talk to others about their problems in hopes of getting someone elses perspective on it. Venting and "processing trauma" is meaningless for us. It might feel good in the moment but doesn't change anything.

WadiyahnSoldier · 2022-11-26T13:43:35+00:00

Taking action to improve your life will always trump therapy. Therapy is a scam

alphamaker420 · 2022-11-26T01:11:21+00:00

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ObjectiveCow59 · 2022-11-26T00:28:12+00:00

“Alphamaker420” lol nice throwaway troll account name

AoiLune · 2022-11-26T05:58:00+00:00

Yes, I have. Many times. Simply put, it has never worked. Those I spoke with were all quite friendly, they were all happy to lend an ear to my troubles, and some of them were even very insightful. However, to use a metaphor, a starving man will not be saved by good advice and an opportunity to vent his sorrows. He simply needs to eat, and if he does not then he will surely die. No amount of new perspective is going to save a starving man. Unfortunately so many among those who sing the praises of therapy tend to regard therapists like they're shamans capable making all badness go away, but to anyone with any real problems it's abundantly obvious that therapy isn't the panacea that some seem to think it is. There are certainly some for whom therapy works great, but to those among us who are dealing with sorrows that cannot be remedied through mere dialogue it's just a massive annoyance to hear people tell you to "get help" for something that truly cannot be helped.

johnnybravo9998 · 2022-11-26T09:46:30+00:00

yes does not work

I fixed my mental health by myself

WoodStainedGlass · 2022-11-26T13:03:07+00:00

Be been to therapy three times, each stretch for about ten sessions. Once was for career, the other two for marital help. Each time it was to get behavioral tools to develop positive actions regarding personal challenges that were emotionally difficult.

Not every therapist is the right fit and it took a couple tries to find them.

CliffPR · 2022-11-26T13:12:45+00:00

Why? So they can spend an hour pretending to listen to me, recommend ~~self-gaslighting~~ cognitive behavior therapy, and collect a chunk of my latest paycheck? How is any of that going to help me?

KingOfCarrotCake · 2022-11-26T14:13:37+00:00

Young man here who is lonely and sad and angry.

I tried it, didnt help. Just made me more frustrated because the last resort (and "solution" everyone peddles) did not understand my issues.

JustMeLearningMore · 2022-11-26T14:20:39+00:00

Considered it. The way I see it is that therapy/ life coaches are for average people with measly problems.

I haven't found anyone I could relate to everything about yet alone learn everything I want to excel from. I need various subject matter experts (and I am on my path to finding them), not some one who's going to teach me how to live a measly life.

24/25M, you?

EndHlts · 2022-11-26T14:45:04+00:00

Therapy seems to serve little purpose other than draining your wallet and wasting your time.

It didn't work for me in middle school, I doubt it would work now.

Abandons65 · 2022-11-26T15:48:09+00:00

I don’t need or want therapy, and I don’t believe jt would be helpful either way

Unhappy-Slice-5098 · 2022-11-27T08:12:50+00:00

I'm a woman. I really should try it one day as I have a billion mental issues to sort out, but I hate talking face-to-face with people about myself. Even less so if it's something that makes me vulnerable emotionally. I need an anonymous therapist who can diagnose my issues through text only, lol. Do these exist? A stranger you can vent to who's licensed. That's my ideal therapist. The Internet always manages to fulfill this niche.

Willow-girl · 2022-11-27T14:20:15+00:00

Never had the money for therapy so I went the 12-step route in dealing with addiction issues decades ago. It worked! Highly recommend.

DrinkItInMan11 · 2022-11-26T00:34:00+00:00

Therapy is a waste of time and therapists are nothing more than scam artists that believe they know you better than you do. The way to improve your mental health is through weightlifting, meditation and gratitude journalling.

I have no respect for therapists.

Jared35 · 2022-11-26T00:32:50+00:00

I’m not mentally I’ll or anything either. I’ve got shitty luck.

I don’t care who has sex with who. I guess you can say I don’t take rejection well either. And now I don’t know any single women.

inkybreadbox · 2022-11-26T08:32:16+00:00

Yes. I have a therapist. I usually go in 6 months stints as needed. I enjoy it.

The idea that you have to be “mentally ill” to go to therapy like people here keep saying is not accurate. Therapy is for developing coping skills, whatever it is you’re coping with.

Clearly all the anti-therapy responses here are the most unhinged. lol.

toasterchild · 2022-11-26T00:27:52+00:00

I went to therapy some time ago for help with non related medical issues and I would highly recommend seeking out a therapist who is also a life coach. I feel like I got much better advice about different resources than I would have if I had just seen a typical therapist. I was not there for relationship advice but got some anyway and it really helped me fix my broken picker. Woman.

BrummieAMN19 · 2022-11-26T01:22:31+00:00

I’ve been to therapy and until my latest one it was awful due to my mental disorder and so I found it painfully boring and I was tempted to manipulate those garbage therapists to get out of it.

My latest one is excellent and lets me go mask off, internalise my feeling and helps me cope with narcissistic personality disorder along with making me extremely self aware. There are still problems that I have which will take a long way to go but this one is really really good

Codoro · 2022-11-28T14:01:21+00:00

I have, it's expensive bs that doesn't work

lovelythecove · 2022-11-26T02:26:17+00:00

Therapy helped for sure, but psychedelics and journaling did the heaving lifting. Therapy gets kind of pointless for me after a bit. I’m a little too self-aware so eventually it turns into me just paying someone else to listen to my own conclusions which is dumb. FWIW, I do think a good therapist can help you get started on untangling your issues, but for me, psychedelics and journaling were really the key. I don’t necessarily recommend psychedelics because idk you so that would be a potentially bad idea (not to mention they’re illegal virtually everywhere!) but a little therapy + some serious journaling can really help you start working on your issues. YMMV with psychedelics

DisasterPeace7 · 2022-11-26T00:33:19+00:00

No, I mainly use this sub for entertainment purposes and as far as any issues I have I'm pretty self-aware of instances in my life and their effect on me, I don't need to pay to have somebody have me talk about my feelings all day, but if it works for somebody else that's great

M3taBuster · 2022-11-26T11:08:07+00:00

I kinda don't believe in therapy. It seems to me like it's practically on the level of horoscopes. It's not the therapy that "cures" people, it's the drugs. But people have to go through a therapist to get the drugs. And the drugs don't even really "cure" people. It's just legal cocaine by 1000 different names, so of course they make you happy, so long as you're perpetually on them and keep gradually upping the dosage for the rest of your life.

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alphamaker420 · 2022-11-26T00:42:37+00:00

I will need it in the future.

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howdoiw0rkthisthing · 2022-11-26T01:09:58+00:00

I came this close to going to a therapist for my obsession with the redpill (which at that point was pretty bad). I wonder if they would have told me I was dysphoric lol.

I did go to therapy many years ago for an unrelated issue and found that I definitely benefitted from the experience.

alphamaker420 · 2022-11-26T02:04:02+00:00

Yep. Multiple therapists and various therapeutic modalities. All of it was a waste of time and money. I'm actually considering psychedelic-assisted therapy, though. I have a keen awareness of what's bothering me (crazy fucking trauma from the past), I just don't know what to do about it, how to process it. No amount of exercise, meditation, or meaningful distractions has helped that much.

NiceGuyNumber4 · 2022-11-26T02:34:15+00:00

Yes. Man on and off therapy and SSRIs from 19-23. Talking things out helped, but I had a better experience opening up to friends, personally. The one good thing I learned in therapy was to recognize and break negative feedback loops.

I’d encourage people to give it a shot, but I personally wouldn’t recommend going on meds unless you’ve been actively attempting to improve your mental health for a while and haven’t been seeing results. Even with few apparent negative side effects (issues orgasming and headaches mostly), I noticed that after a while I felt like a zombie and all emotions were turned down. I simply stopped caring. That doesn’t sound like much, but it’s hard to maintain relationships and even do basic stuff like go to class or work when you simply do not care.

Khabeni412 · 2022-11-26T02:37:50+00:00

I've been in therapy for 22 years. It's very helpful and I have to continue to see a therapist to get my needed medication from my psychiatrist. The worst therapist I had said my abuse as a child wasn't a big deal and I should just get over it. But I've had many good therapists, including my current one.

TheRedPillRipper · 2022-11-26T02:39:59+00:00

have you tried therapy?

After my first divorce it's one of the first things I did, so 100% recommend therapy/counselling. However it's hard. You have to be honest with yourself. Sometimes brutally so. If however you put in the work; the perspective you gain, is worth it.

Godspeed and good luck!

RealAmericanWeasel · 2022-11-26T02:43:58+00:00

I've tried it and believe it could be a great help but the bad therapists outnumber the good therapists by a wide margin. If you are like me and have no females interested in you, most of them seem pretty lost on how to help you. The best they can do is tell you to join a club or an activity. Never mind how many things have to go exactly right for that kind of thing to work. I tried it. It did not work. I think for many therapists, it is an unfamiliar problem and they are out of their depth.

Deranged_Loner · 2022-11-26T02:44:35+00:00

No. Even if I'm much too guarded and untrusting. I would keep them at arms length like everybody else.

Extra_Flamingo_4774 · 2022-11-26T03:23:35+00:00

I have had a brief encounter with just 1 therapist. I was not able to sleep well at all and it impacting both my personal and professional life. She did help me with the problem and by the end of it I was majorly benefitted from the entire experience.

Swordfromthecement · 2022-11-26T03:24:51+00:00

Therapy is too expensive. Went there once to figure out the major threads of exactly what the fuck is wrong with me. Then tossed it and got a gym membership. I truly believe most of my problems would be solved with a combination of more sex, more money, and more friends, in no particular order.

And even if my problems aren’t solved, the lack of those things has made my life worse.

Fun_Push7168 · 2022-11-26T03:36:36+00:00

Not since I was a child and a few sessions after my son passed away. It was never much more than an inconvenient frustration, maybe minor help with the death.

The Army helped my mental state more than anything else. Mostly the exercise, but also the culture.

That said plenty of research indicates exercise is as effective as psychotherapy or pharmaceuticals on its own and even more so if combined. Often with more lasting effects.

https://www.psychologytools.com/articles/the-therapists-guide-to-exercise-and-mental-health/

Therefore my recommendation to anyone. Serious exercise first, if you don't feel better add therapy and go from there.

And if you do add therapy, don't be lazy, take a lap before/ after a session. You'll be more responsive to it.

FancyComfortable4678 · 2022-11-26T04:05:18+00:00

I did better help for a few weeks because I wanted someone to talk to about my feelings. I was t necessarily looking for solutions or advice, maybe some feedback like”you’re not crazy for feeling X way” or “it WAS rude for that person to act that way” etc. i didn’t really get past the intake phase before I had to stop due to financial constraints, so it hadn’t really started to help with anything

Ideally I’d like my future partner to fill the role of “someone I can talk to unguardedly about my feelings” but unfortunately I am a man so that comes with some risk. And even if I do find a girl who is totally accepting of male vulnerability, by the time I open up that much, being in a relationship will have hopefully solved or mitigated most of my emotional problems (loneliness is the main one). So I’m in a bit of a chicken and egg scenario there

lolthankstinder · 2022-11-26T04:20:55+00:00

M27. Yes I’m in therapy. It’s only as good as you make it. If you don’t tell your therapist about things it won’t do anything for ya and a lot of guys tend to have trouble sharing feelings and stuff. So, therapy is best for people that know they have an issue and want help/guidance to fix it. Also, therapy tends to be female-dominated so there’s a good chance you’re going to get the female perspective on things. Sometimes you just need someone that really understands what it’s like as a guy to truly understand how you feel.

I think a lot of misandrists see the stats on male therapy attendance and like to add that to their repertoire of online mansults (insults of men). Speaking of which, those same people telling men to go to therapy probably ironically don’t mention their constant hatred of men to their therapist lol.

ChibsFilipTelfordd · 2022-11-26T04:44:40+00:00

Yes. Depends on the therapist. Some give canned lines. Some are kinda dumb. Depends on you too. Do you want to change?

vorter · 2022-11-26T04:55:17+00:00

I don’t really have anything to go to therapy for. Meds solved all my problems years ago.

CLyD3_H3ffalump · 2022-11-26T05:29:56+00:00

Male; views on relationships is no marriage in the legal sense but open to a committed relationship. No wouldn't consider therapy because hey when you're outta money they won't be there to help. Best to deal with problems the way that anyone would and have done if they were capable and level headed (obviously if your mental is not 100% please get help however possible), for oneself and by oneself however they see fit. Do I believe in love, yes, do I believe in monotony, yes. But I'm a realist, relationships can end in unexpected ways, and currently, when/if that happens, my reproductive organs somehow make it that I am the losing party where the item to be lost is my stuff and kid(s) if I were so lucky to have children in the relationship. Can't knowingly enter an arrangement where that is how it ends

_demidevil_ · 2022-11-26T08:49:22+00:00

I go to therapy. I discuss my time here with my therapist. Ultimately this sub is fulfilling a need and I just need to get it out my system. Tbh I’ve been much less interested in this sub the past week and I think I may be reaching that point where I’ve processed the thing this was helping me process.

Brilliant_Look4387 · 2022-11-26T09:02:52+00:00

Started the therapy almost a year ago. At first felt great, probably because someone is finally paying attention to the problems. But therapists generally don't say much and her unresponsiveness made me again feel ignored, but this time by a proffesional. This is one example of how she made my situation at the time even worse, but there were more stuff, all streaming from the fact she had no idea how to approach my case. Once I finally stopped seeing her I almost felt traumatized and I thought I would never go back to therapy.

After a while I started working with a new therapist, anyway. The first thing a told her is how I don't want to be treated. For example I don't want to be asked how my week was or how I feel. I've also started to take on more leading role in a therapy, for exam sometimes I just say, "I don't think this topic is relevant, please move on". We also spend significant amount of time talking about our therapy itself, which feels very meta and kind of wasteful, but I think is the very reason for a success we are having. The relationship with your therapist is also something you need to work on and I find that a good relationship is a precursor to therapy even working.

My therapy now, has a positive effect on every aspect of my life, i even feel like my body is more energized. I can't explain why it's working it just is. Therapy is different from everything i thought it would be. I think people who never tried can't imagine what it's like.

I would suggest therapy to anyone who feels like they might need it, because they probably do.

Tldr; Find a good therapist and argue for your interests.

Kobe_curry24 · 2022-11-26T10:49:34+00:00

I think men most importantly need to talk to their male friends women will come and go but if you can build a strong male bond that’s forever meet true friends. Talk to them most important “listen “ sometimes people just need someone to listen to them and not give solutions . Work on building strong relationships with your mother ,your sisters your mother and your sisters are different from when you were small you prolly can relate to them more now . Everything doesn’t need a therapist that’s if you have a lot of money and can’t trust nobody . Also if guys have dad issues or mother issues bring those issues to you your family tell them get some understanding of the situation and forgive them .

throwawayforreason67 · 2022-11-26T13:19:42+00:00

Didn't work and too expensive.

rft24 · 2022-11-26T14:27:36+00:00

yes. therapy was wonderful for me. i’d likely still be depressed and su*cidal if not for the therapy i’ve received.

i also think therapy is the reason i’m even remotely self-aware. it forced me to self-reflect and to think more critically about myself, my actions, my thoughts and beliefs, and the impact these things have on others. it’s helped me learn to value myself and my life a lot more. it’s helped me rid myself of my pessimistic outlook. it’s helped me be more understanding and a bit more forgiving towards others.

tl;dr: therapy helped me change my life and stop being a sad, bitter bitch lol

edited to say i have to add though that i think therapy is only really helpful for someone who went into it kinda similarly as i did: with an open mind, a curious heart, and a willingness to hear and unlearn all the things about myself i may consider “bad” or shameful. if you’re defensive or can’t handle facing yourself with complete brutal honesty, therapy isn’t gonna do anything for you. you’re not ready for it.

you’d have to leave your ego at the door, and most wouldn’t go to therapy precisely because they won’t drop the ego.

Stunning-Potato-1984 · 2022-11-26T14:47:03+00:00

I have been to therapy a few times in my life. I"m a lady.

I learned two extremely valuable things I still use and have used to help other people.

How does this serve you?
Is this the hill you want to die on?

1 is good for rooting out toxic thought patterns. It's also good for figuring out others, how does this belief serve them.

2 is really helpful in relationships. Want to not have a pointless fucking argument? Is this the hill I want to die on?

pearllovespink · 2022-11-26T17:05:05+00:00

The people that need it will skip over this post. But I agree 100% with your post. A lot of the topics that get brought up in here are not normal.

Flow_Scholar · 2022-11-26T18:01:03+00:00

Listen, I fall into a catagory which is not welcome here, only in a purely literal sense. I’m lonely, sad and angry and will be for a long time although I have managed to get myself to move along a bit.

I just want to thank op, as they are going through what seems to be every comment and giving individual responses and that’s a courtesy rarely seen especially with larger posts like this.

Fair play op! That’s a nice thing and I think it makes people feel heard : )

EugeneCezanne · 2022-11-26T19:11:45+00:00

Men here complain about how annoying it is to be told to seek therapy, but don't realize how annoying it is for them to sit on the internet all day making up theories about women.

Respectfully, a man in therapy.

Repulsive-Cupcake505 · 2022-11-26T20:30:39+00:00

In my case I had a fear of sex due to parental abuse. I did try therapy , but it ultimately didn’t really change much as you have to face a phobia . So sex workers helped

alphamaker420 · 2022-11-26T22:09:50+00:00

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KayRay1994 · 2022-11-26T22:17:06+00:00

Been in therapy since the spring - its honestly been a game changer so far, i’ve learned a lot about myself, my unhealthy attachment styles, why I have the issues I do and how I could work on them. The one thing I will say is it is a slow burn - results will come in slow, mostly cause untangling and making all the trauma tangible takes time in itself

business1996 · 2022-11-27T18:41:17+00:00

Therapists are probably blue pilled

2022-11-27T18:44:58+00:00

I was struggling with women and I have tried therapy as well. It helped me a bit. But just a bit. I am still struggling with women after therapy.

InfluenceKlutzy7983 · 2022-11-28T20:12:45+00:00

therapy and modern psychology is a scam. it's pseudoscience. Talking to someone who doesnt know shit about live isnt gonna help you at all. the entire premise of any type of therapy is idiotic.

If you have a mental issue, you yourself have to reflect upon it and find out what it is, and then try to come up with a plan to cure yourself by overwriting the emotions that caused your issue with the positive antagonist feelings, by being exposed to the correct experiences that trigger these positive emotions surrounding the situation that caused your issue.

this is the only cure. Bullies bully people for the fealing of abusive power, because they try to compensate for the feeling of powerlessness they themselves experienced. if these people get exposed to power and control, they stop being bullies once the negative emotions are overwritten by the antagonistic experiences. they just need to be put in a position of power, control and responsibility, and they hunger for power will naturally fade as their experience is no longer dominated by feelings of powerlessness, but one of control and connected responsibility.

the same blueprint applies to all mental issues people go to therapy for, and you just need to find out what feelings are caused by what experiences and think of activities that expose you to the curing emotions and perform them. a therapist is cant do this. he is a person who is just as clueless as you who just has read some meaningless books and fallacious theories.

SoleMatesC4S · 2022-11-29T00:38:08+00:00

I can pretty much predict with 100% certainty which female posters have been - or will claim to have been - assaulted in the past and therefore carry around a fear and/or hatred of men as a result.

So yeah, a lot of people here really could benefit from a talking couch and some meds.

In my own experience, yeah. I've used therapists a couple of times and did benefit greatly from it. Once when I was trying to process my mom's suicide attempt (and all the other shit going on), and shortly after my divorce. The second time was especially important because she listened to me for a few sessions and then slam-dunk nailed my family dynamics so hard, concluding that it was "emotional abuse", and it was so immensely freeing to know that I hadn't been crazy and bringing it on myself all of those years. It changed my entire outlook on life.

Title	Have you tried therapy?
Author	alphamaker420
Upvotes	99
Comments	294
Date	November 25, 2022 11:32 PM UTC (3 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/PurplePillDebate
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