Would you date a man whom has an OF account and regularly tips on it?

ghkblue43 · 2022-12-14T05:33:52+00:00

I think a man is much more desirable and respectable if he can keep his mind focused on his wife or potential wife, so no, that’s not for me.

ChibsFilipTelfordd · 2022-12-14T02:41:15+00:00

I thought this said he gets tips regularly lol

Magnito-was-right · 2022-12-14T03:47:48+00:00

No I would consider it emotional cheating because he has a “personal” relationship with the creator. It’s not the same as lusting after a porn star who will never know you exist.

MotsPassant · 2022-12-14T03:07:57+00:00

No. Nothing against it, just not my type of guy.

womandatory · 2022-12-14T12:24:04+00:00

Nope. I’m monogamous. Men who seek out other naked women for the purposes of sexual gratification are not, so I don’t date them.

MuchMethod7039 · 2022-12-14T02:57:38+00:00

I know people watch porn, but I would be put out if they were tipping or buying videos to get sexual satisfaction when we were in a relationship. It would certainly be an issue for me, because that is a form of a "relationship", even if it's just online.

Question, would you be fine with your girlfriend spending money and buying videos from a male OF creator?

dumbbitchcas · 2022-12-14T04:31:33+00:00

MeasurementOk790 · 2022-12-14T09:47:45+00:00

IMO a man that pays for porn is no more than a simp or has a porn addiction and in that case there’s something deeper going on…

Also, there’s so many smarter ways to spend money.

KikiYuyu · 2022-12-14T02:51:09+00:00

Nah, I don't vibe with a guy that 1. has some parasocial bs going on and 2. wastes money when porn is so freely available.

ClaraBow01 · 2022-12-14T06:15:16+00:00

No. To me, that’s adultery and cheating. Porn is bad enough, but OF takes it to another level. If he’d rather pay random people online for porn, then he’s clearly not into me.

PlantHag · 2022-12-14T04:34:33+00:00

Fuck no.

AcanthocephalaNew947 · 2022-12-14T02:56:33+00:00

I feel like OF is more interactive than porn so it’s a no for me. Watch all the porn you want, lusting after a nude woman and paying her….. nah…

lle-ell · 2022-12-14T08:10:00+00:00

Nope.

TermAggravating8043 · 2022-12-14T09:18:38+00:00

Not a chance

therealcosmicnebula · 2022-12-14T02:53:34+00:00

No. Never.

I dislike men who can't control their sexuality. And who worship women for existing.

EulenWatcher · 2022-12-14T02:45:16+00:00

No, I wouldn’t date a person who was involved to sex work either as a buyer or as a seller.

blueberrypie02 · 2022-12-14T02:49:48+00:00

I wouldn’t date him if he wants to continue to do that while being in a relationship

Homesickhomeplanet · 2022-12-14T07:31:09+00:00

I’d feel weird if my dude adamantly followed the same porn star, or if he was at the strip club alone often without inviting me.

But a lot of dudes wouldn’t dare a gal with an OF

There’s all kinds of people who have vasssstly different comfort zones

Jeditard · 2022-12-14T11:41:30+00:00

No way, they can watch porn all they want, but paying for it is not acceptable. It's addictive! It's just like sports betting, it's okay to watch all you want, but once you start throwing your money away on it .. NO NO NO

pinktuliplover · 2022-12-14T07:47:54+00:00

Absolutely not.

AstronautLoveShack · 2022-12-14T02:34:53+00:00

No, I would consider him pathetic. Before you ask, I also am not on OF.

Admirable-Panic2626 · 2022-12-14T09:54:10+00:00

No, I wouldn't not date.

kalashhhhhhhh · 2022-12-14T11:16:29+00:00

No way. And I have nothing against regular porn. If he was spending money on individual porn (individual porn girls)and messaging them, that's a big problem for me.

SnowBorn6339 · 2022-12-14T05:55:46+00:00

Absolutely not. OF is pathetic and toxic to society. And on the flip side, I think men have every right to reject or dump a woman who posts on OF.

Urbanwitch666 · 2022-12-14T02:58:09+00:00

I read this as he gets tips and has an OF...dang. No, but I'd date him even if he made OF content.

Something about paying for sex or porn when it's abundantly free is a little weird to me. Also I'd assume it means desire for some further connection with those being paid.

Personally, I'd never date someone who isn't 100% here for my body type as their favorite. The girl you liked isn't that for me; personally I'm not into here either because it's "too much" imo.

My partner and I have zero issues with each other consuming free porn, especially when the people have similar bodies to us. But buying from people on their solo account/platform or whatever is a little weird if you're in a relationship. Personally I think paying for porn is insane unless you only like really niche stuff that you can't generally find free.

throwawaypasaspike · 2022-12-14T14:36:32+00:00

No.

I don't mind porn usage but the act of actually "tipping" or sending messages to OF creators I think crosses a line.

There is free porn and he is meant to be in a relationship - what does he need to pay for porn?!

Major red flag.

Fluteband101 · 2022-12-14T15:01:29+00:00

BadAssPrincessAlanie · 2022-12-14T15:13:49+00:00

Nope.

sparklyyblueberryy · 2022-12-14T17:50:56+00:00

No.
1) He shows signs of bad impulse control and mental underdevelopment
2) He is unstable and is parasocially cheating, this is even worse than normal porn
3) Not only is he cheating, he is to much of a loser to have women in real life

The fact that it's usually not average people who do this makes it even worse as these people already have a lower chance with women.

ithinkoutloudtoo · 2022-12-14T23:43:28+00:00

Nope. Male here. I would not date a woman who has and uses an OnlyFans account. Or any porn for that matter. I see it as a weakness of the mind.

2022-12-14T04:52:55+00:00

No. Yuck.

2022-12-14T04:10:39+00:00

Yes, I’d make an account of my own too so he can regularly tip and buy stuff from me as well

sannnieaw · 2022-12-14T06:15:00+00:00

Not me, I mean I wouldn’t mind If he watch free porn but he spending money on another woman would bother me 😅

MistyMaisel · 2022-12-14T13:04:12+00:00

No. That's a kind of stupid I would never be able to fully respect.

The9thElement · 2022-12-14T15:51:08+00:00

Middle_Mango_4388 · 2022-12-14T15:54:25+00:00

Nope

2022-12-14T16:02:22+00:00

No, because it's a parasocial relationship and it's a crush.

Aphor1st · 2022-12-14T16:04:19+00:00

Hell no.

TheMedsPeds · 2022-12-14T16:52:46+00:00

No because there’s is plenty of free porn online. If he’s paying for an OF it mean he likes one porn star enough to “porn crush” and to me that’s bit too far for a relationship.

Yupperdoodledoo · 2022-12-14T22:21:45+00:00

Probably not, I’m not attracted to suckers.

RealCaramelli · 2022-12-14T03:06:58+00:00

So what do the women here think of onlyfans? Do you think it’s a net negative for the dating pool on your end?

BlackPorcelainDoll · 2022-12-14T03:00:33+00:00

🤮

I rather him bang pornstars IRL first. I like men that FUCK.

SeveralSadEvenings · 2022-12-14T14:47:56+00:00

I'll just reiterate what I said last time; no, my pussy dries up at sexual losers.

the-red_woman · 2022-12-14T11:24:17+00:00

No, if he can’t get girls in real life I don’t want him

sadchalupa · 2022-12-14T15:17:13+00:00

No, it just tells me he’s low status lmao

yohanya · 2022-12-14T21:17:53+00:00

Uh no? If a woman were fine with this I would assume she has no self respect.

sinistralia · 2022-12-14T04:01:42+00:00

No. I don’t think it’s necessarily unethical to consume OnlyFans content but it borders on infidelity. Actually, I think I’d rather date someone who gets naked on camera than someone who has a weird parasocial relationship with someone who gets naked on camera.

1tsalwaysliketh1s · 2022-12-14T03:21:46+00:00

I have no qualms about a partner using onlyfans as long as 1. It’s not some dirty secret they hide from me and 2. The spending isn’t more than they can afford / becomes a financial issue. I don’t see porn as cheating, and if you’re compensating the creators whose content you’re consuming, I see that as a plus.

ZaraFlips · 2022-12-14T03:28:49+00:00

Porn ok. But anything interactive that costs money? A big No from me.

ambitious_chick · 2022-12-14T04:16:27+00:00

Well, if I had to pick between a man who has OF and doesn't tip, and a man with OF that tips, it's definitely the latter.

Of course, I wouldn't date him if he has no redeeming qualities, but one can't expect that my man and myself will have the perfect matching set of sexual preferences, kinks etcetera.

It is a courtesy both to him and myself, that he can have all the fantasies he wants at a low price.

And I'm not on OF, nor am I a sex worker.

Latter_Painting_4303 · 2022-12-14T06:45:17+00:00

At least he watches ethical porn and supports the sex worker. I am totally okay with my partner watching porn. We all need some individual pleasure once in a while.

My husbands is a big fan of kkvsh. I caught him watching her leaked porn once. I didn't like it because that's basically exploitation. So I told him I would rather see him pay a monthly subscription instead of him always looking for the latest leaks.

I would not feel insecure about that because I know that it's just lust, not love. He desire her, but he loves and desire me. Plus he became a fan way before meeting me.

Monogamy doesn't mean he should only feel attracted to me. I feel attracted to other men and women too. Imo, asking my partner to repress his attraction to other women will only make him sneaky, because having a fantasy on someone else is totally normal. It's just porn !

SoldierExcelsior · 2022-12-14T07:37:59+00:00

If it's a Chad he could bring the OF girl over for dinner and she would be fine with it ...or if he's rich she will put up with it long enough to get pregnant m.

Urbanwitch666 · 2022-12-14T07:48:02+00:00

I have no problem at all unless it became obsessive or he stopped paying equally for shit.

Tbh I'd rather he was paying for porn, more ethical.

I used to have a subscription to Four Chambered Hearts.

TwoFirmFeet · 2022-12-14T14:59:24+00:00

But he’s supporting female liberation 😵‍💫

Leeola_Mcgillicuddy · 2022-12-14T05:01:22+00:00

If he made good money doing it, I would not mind at all. I don't knock anyone's hustle in these horrible economic times we are living in.

Infinite_Signal90 · 2022-12-14T07:54:19+00:00

Yes. I think porn can be fun. And I believe in paying sex workers for their work rather than just using porn hub bf then not getting a fair share. Also I use only fans. So I’d be a hypocrite otherwise.

neetykeeno · 2022-12-14T08:46:32+00:00

He's buying the premium version of something that isn't that much better in premium version...porn is largely free. When someone does that...pays a lot more for only a small and largely irrelevant upgrade you always gotta ask why, especially if they aren't possessed of large amounts of money for trivial indulgence. The answer usually speaks to who they are.

I buy expensive watercolour paper and paints for what is really just an occasional hobby. That says something about me. Maybe it says something off-putting, that I am spending a couple of hundred bucks a year making nicer colours and textures on pictures nobody but me gives a damn about. That's OK. I own it. That's me.

Maybe not a deal-breaker per se but something likely to put me on the path to discovering a deal breaker if it is there. Just like some guys would see my art supplies habit and say hell no, they want to be the most aesthetically inspiring thing in my life when the reality is I put resources into finding aesthetic inspiration in numerous other sources that pre-dated them and I simply will not give up.

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BreannaBaybee · 2022-12-14T03:21:06+00:00

I'd be okay with it. I'd even go down on him while he watched and talked to her.

avoiding_a_stalker · 2022-12-14T12:53:19+00:00

If they’re being financially responsible about it, they’re not obsessed with the OF model, and they’ve got other hobbies (I.e they’re not spending hours a week on it), sure. I have no issues with ethical porn or sex work but if there are other related issues, those might be a dealbreaker

muhkiim · 2022-12-14T14:27:44+00:00

Personally, I wouldn't mind. I've never met anyone who has an OF, though, so I'm not sure if there would be any potential issues. Right now, I just see it as an income. Life is expensive. If a guy can make bank cause he has a nice V line or something, go for it.

Edit:

I initially read this wrong, lmao. If he's a regular customer to OF, I'm not sure. I guess as long as he's not overspending... but I mean, porn is free. I don't really see the point.

I guess it would also depend on whether it had an impact on our sex life or our emotional intimacy.

ohdiddly · 2022-12-14T14:36:46+00:00

Yeah as long as he's not spending a large portion of his money on it, buying content here and there is fine.

RinoaRita · 2022-12-14T14:39:59+00:00

If he was making money on the side with it sure. I wouldn’t consider him making connections with fans and making that $$$ cheating or undesirable. If he was spending a bunch of money I wouldn’t see him as a long term partner as I would want someone who makes better financial decisions.

If it was just a hook up I wouldn’t care as his finances aren’t my problem. But I would lose the long term potential with some one who buys that. I would feel the same if he was part of anway or Herbalife or anything else that shouts I suck at money management.

tawny-she-wolf · 2022-12-14T16:11:50+00:00

delight-n-angers · 2022-12-14T17:02:14+00:00

Sure. As long as he can support himself, I don't really care what he spends his money on. As long as he's not physically touching her, I don't care what he does with his time and brain, tbh. I have a couple of OF subscriptions myself though I don't usually tip or have any kind of parasocial relationship with the creators because it doesn't really appeal to me.

I also don't believe in "emotional cheating", unless something physical happens without prior negotiation it's not cheating in my relationships.

ProfessorFelix0812 · 2022-12-14T18:21:35+00:00

You seriously have to ask this question?

learn2earn89 · 2022-12-14T19:21:41+00:00

CatchPhraze · 2022-12-14T19:36:18+00:00

No. It's sex work and so it's cheating. If he did while single, it's ok. If we're dating he is cheating and needs to find the door

buckeyetree · 2022-12-14T19:59:47+00:00

Yes. He pays creators for their work.

RocinanteCoffee · 2022-12-14T20:41:25+00:00

Sure as long as it's not taking over his life and he's not sexting the performers.

Parking_Doughnut3224 · 2022-12-14T20:57:14+00:00

Nope couldn’t do it if in with someone his eyes should only be on me no one else

localmicrodosechamp · 2022-12-14T21:05:12+00:00

MiddleZealousideal89 · 2022-12-14T21:52:37+00:00

I don't think I'd be okay with it. If he wants to watch porn, sure, I watch porn, it would be silly of me to have an issue with it. I follow some content creators who are burlesque performers, strippers, etc, so I wouldn't have an issue if a guy also followed such content creators. If he was tipping and buying videos before we had started seeing each other, fine by me. But I wouldn't be okay with that within a monogamous relationship.

OF is between porn and sex work, but it leans more towards soliciting sex work for me. You have a specific person/persons and you go to them and tip them/buy their videos for the sole purpose of getting off. At that point he might as well just go to a sex worker irl. Sure, it's a lot safer (no chance of STDs), but other than that it's pretty much the same thing. Now, if we both watched that content creator together I'd be perfectly fine with it.

SegaNaLeqa · 2022-12-14T22:00:47+00:00

OF is too personal for my liking. I don’t care about regular porn, but not OF especially not tipping. I don’t care what the person looks like, it’s too personal. Now if it’s something we as a couple are doing together, that’s a different story, but definitely not a solo thing it’s too close to cheating. This point of view is also regardless if the spouse is male/female/intersex.

mrgoodbarxxx · 2022-12-15T01:43:18+00:00

Just pointing out an apparent hypocrisy: most women here would not want a man to pay for OF or tip, but expect men to date women who might have an OF.

Make it make sense. 😂

Ok_Bus1797 · 2022-12-15T11:09:42+00:00

OF is quite personal. Unlike porn. I wouldn’t like it if he follows, interacts with, and tips a particular creator regularly and exclusively. It’s bit disrespectful if he’s in a relationship yet crushing on another person.

HighestTierMaslow · 2022-12-15T18:00:42+00:00

Nope.

I view OnlyFans as sex work, its interactive and women are doing it to specific individual men...and they do it just be paid/its transactional in nature, so thats a hard pass.

A man who participates in any kind of transactional sex indicates we have different values.

I cant even picture myself sleeping with a man who is only sleeping with me because he is being paid to do so.

Also, men who spend alot of sexual energy on porn/sex work make terrible partners. One of the reasons my marriage's sex life is good is we save that energy for each other.

2022-12-16T18:04:59+00:00

The guy is probs gay.

_lexxxi_98 · 2022-12-17T05:22:46+00:00

I’d be pretty pissed if I found out he was talking and paying for it. I already told him that if he wanted or had any interest at all with or for someone else to just break up with me. We are almost a year in, and things are pretty solid so far. We are both old enough to know what we want, how we want it, and when we want it. If I’m no longer good enough and you have to buy sex then we don’t need to be together. Watch all the free porn you want, but buying, tipping, and talking to others is a no go. I let that slide too far before in the last and refuse to let that happen again

Title	Would you date a man whom has an OF account and regularly tips on it?
Author	Repulsive-Cupcake505
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Comments	239
Date	December 14, 2022 2:33 AM UTC (3 years ago)
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