Do you regret getting divorced?

joely276 · 2024-08-02T23:47:43+00:00

No, I do not. It's painful. And sometimes I dream of the different life I so desired to create for my family. But I never regret getting divorced. What my kids have now is way better than they ever could have had if we didn't get divorced.

Legitimate-Match2675 · 2024-08-02T23:06:28+00:00

I regret having a family, but you have to move on and realize it takes two to tango. So you can regret it all you want but unless she begs for you back, nothing you can do will change that she’s moved on.

Like most, I see my gold digging ex every week to exchange kids. She’s still hot, but now lives in a new house, and drives a new car that I paid for. If someone does that to you willingly, and you still have serious regret, you really to look in the mirror.

Medical_Number8972 · 2024-08-02T20:25:56+00:00

My only regret about my divorce was losing my kids. We are both military and due to her living 700 miles away, seeing them is all too rare for me.

I'm glad for the separation for me now from my ex because I can now see how she was using me for money.

probebeta · 2024-08-02T20:07:11+00:00

No. It was a bad match, and I take full accountability for not ending it sooner.

It is a bit unfortunate though that now I view the world, couples, relationships and women with a different lense. It's a great skill and it serves me well but ... It's a cold world out there 🥶

Supertech91 · 2024-08-02T20:04:53+00:00

Hell no! It taught her to act right! We're closer now than we were when was married. I can get ACTUAL COOPERATION now! She trusts me like she should've when we was married. Plus, I'm hitting that like it's payday. So many money shots I need Gatorade to walk. I was almost 360. I'm 317 now. 43 pounds lost from fucking like catholic rabbits. Don't get me wrong, I was a wreck. Thought I did all the great things, so I should have a great outcome. Nope! Whenever you chase them, relationship over. When she chases you, that's a strong house.

DuelCitizener · 2024-08-02T12:55:27+00:00

No. I agree to divorce only because to fight it would make matters worse. The time since has been transformational for me. One day she will realize the mistake- but by then it may be too late.

Strict-Front-2375 · 2024-08-02T01:19:55+00:00

Not the divorce, once she cheated it was the only realistic out come. Like a leg that suffered a wound and had gangrene, it had to be cut off.

While I obviously wish the marriage didn't end the way it did, I don't really have any regrets about the marriage, there wasn't really anything I could have done differently. I would have liked to be in a better financial position before we got married, but you don't really have a choice in that.

MrCleanWI · 2024-08-02T01:02:41+00:00

My marriage was toxic so no I don't regret the divorce from that aspect, I do regret losing the lifestyle we had though

SII75 · 2024-08-01T23:43:11+00:00

Women suck

ADHD_247 · 2024-08-02T01:02:14+00:00

I find myself dwelling on a situation where I feel my stbxw just needed help by a professional and if she weren't so damn stubborn with her superiority god complex disorder we could have otherwise of bad a very happy life.

She has issue letting go of control or sharing control.

In the begging I felt we had equal control but perhaps what we had was equal objectives with different underlying alternative motives.

But to answer your question I suppose sometimes I regaret that I couldn't of done more in an effort to go back to our happy place but ultimately I was in a difficult space, no security from job, no security fom her (lack of love, intimacy and down right mean towards the end by way of deception, etc)

That's no way to live either so no regrets.

Xeppen · 2024-08-01T21:11:39+00:00

Fucking best thing ever happen to my life!

dukeofthefoothills1 · 2024-08-01T20:56:39+00:00

It wasn’t my desire to get a divorce. F*ed up my net worth and therefore my life options. Empty nest and work from home. Not a whole lot going on outside of work. Nevertheless, better than someone hating you all the time.

ThisReckless · 2024-08-01T20:36:22+00:00

I don't regret getting divorced, I regret getting married.

No-Profit-1027 · 2024-08-01T20:35:34+00:00

Still in the thick of things. She filed. I regret the effect on my kids so far. I regret getting married to her. I was naive in my thinking. I ignored so many red flags. I hung around for too long. I made so many compromises that nearly broke me. I endured so much in the interest of peace. I hope for a brighter future. Wishing everyone that fate has brought to this sub the best.

Betteroffalone1111 · 2024-08-01T20:08:28+00:00

Hell no

Emotional_Lettuce251 · 2024-08-01T20:01:54+00:00

My stbxw is the one that filed. I'm sad about it because I miss being in the family home with our kids everyday ... just being there for the mundane. I feel like I am missing out on so much now and really don't even feel like I get to be a dad to them now.

On the other hand, my stbxw turned into an absolutely horrible person (just towards me). I had pretty much completely detached myself from the idea of having a fulfilling marriage. I didn't like that, but I had accepted it. I was willing to do the roommate thing. We didn't fight (because we NEVER spoke). It was like being in a home with a total stranger.

In many ways, her divorcing me is probably a good thing for me, I guess. I'm not sure if that will ever outweigh not having daily interaction with the kids though.

Classic_Dill · 2024-08-01T19:40:04+00:00

Noooooooooo! I only feel bad for my children.

CommercialConcern828 · 2024-08-01T18:14:20+00:00

Not at all.

She was the best woman I could get with the old version of me and I got two kids out of it.

That said, the new version of me wouldn’t look twice at her if I met her today and didn’t know her prior.

Grand-Expression-493 · 2024-08-01T18:14:01+00:00

Nope. Only regret is getting married in the first place, and not doing a background check.

I do miss the companionship and the idea of a life partner through your thicks and thins, but I suppose it's better being lonely than be miserable together.

NewDay0110 · 2024-08-01T18:13:24+00:00

I don't regret getting divorced, but I regret getting married.

TheDude7891 · 2024-08-01T18:09:39+00:00

Not the slightest bit I was too naive and love to know just exactly how many motherfuckers she was banging behind my back. Being in the military that does affect how the other guys see you and how often you get promoted. Then she used everything she gained to basically arm the army against me and play victim for everything and she went full Amber heard level divorce and took me 6 years and because she wasn't satisfied with the first divorce she was able to lie in another state to get reader forced in it so she could have things on her own terms.

No fault divorce needs to be removed equality is everywhere except for men.

If it has a vagina it has no honor Don't ever forget it

jyc23 · 2024-08-01T18:04:24+00:00

Only regret is not having done it sooner.

No-Spinach9411 · 2024-08-01T18:00:06+00:00

She wanted it so not my concern to worry about it one way or the other. 🤷

Pinnerforever · 2024-08-01T17:57:53+00:00

I am in the process of putting the money together for my divorce because she is never going to follow through on anything she says she is going to do. I have no regrets and am happily starting over in life.

DysfunctionalPeasant · 2024-08-01T17:35:34+00:00

Nope

ian440044 · 2024-08-01T17:31:15+00:00

No, I do not regret it. Should’ve done it sooner or not gotten married at all.

Odd-Yoghurt1869 · 2024-08-01T17:19:00+00:00

My only regret was not doing it sooner.

Nyoobwsb · 2024-08-01T17:08:37+00:00

Yes because she was the love of my life.

dadplup · 2024-08-01T16:38:27+00:00

No I don't regret divorcing her. I regret not having done it sooner and I regret that there is nothing legally I can do to help my stepsons.

Gockdaw · 2024-08-01T16:31:44+00:00

Nope.

You got the wrong sub with that question buddy. The only looking back we're doing around here is in the rear view mirror.

OPs_Mom_and_Dad · 2024-08-01T16:20:48+00:00

I filed in 2017, she made promises to get better, and we reconciled. I filed again in 2022 because nothing got better. My primary regret is not going forward with it in 2017.

ReinventingOldDog · 2024-08-01T15:55:17+00:00

No!

I can't say I regret marrying her, I have 4 wonderful kids that I love very much.

I regret nothing about the divorce, and I don't miss her one bit.

tanen55 · 2024-08-01T15:53:11+00:00

My only regret is not doing it sooner.

whirlevh · 2024-08-01T15:52:54+00:00

Still going through divorce hell, 0 regrets.

ooomn57 · 2024-08-01T15:51:24+00:00

Man, I regret knowing her

jimsmythee · 2024-08-01T15:13:54+00:00

The only regrets I have? I should have divorced her 6 months earlier than I did. But I had to wait for her DUI conviction in order for me to get a better outcome.

No-Marsupial1823 · 2024-08-01T14:45:24+00:00

Every single day. But it had to happen. But I hate it. I’m still hurting.

Dakeddit · 2024-08-01T14:21:30+00:00

Yes and no. I regret that it got to that point, that it was most likely cursed from the start. However, all of that led to the greatest part of my life and her own - our child.
So yes, going through all that was a mess.....but there's no replacing the child that came from it. I'd do it all over again even if I knew the end result.

Serious-Buffalo6776 · 2024-08-01T14:20:45+00:00

Nope. Wasn’t my choice, but I found my peace afterwards.

MR-Ozmidnight · 2024-08-01T14:07:43+00:00

"Never," my EX was a narcissistic, hateful person towards me and my sons, so no, I do not regret divorcing her one bit.

WindowFuzz · 2024-08-01T13:57:07+00:00

Your answer will depend in part on what you make of your life after the divorce. Do you wallow in self pity? In that case, you will regret it. Or do you ask yourself: now I’m free, what do I want to become and how do I achieve that? In this case, you will likely be glad you got divorced.

bes753 · 2024-08-01T13:54:12+00:00

Mine is still ongoing, but I can already tell you it is not something I regret. I should have left her much sooner in the relationship than I did, but no way to change that. Even with the stress of the pending divorce, my life is already much better.

black65Cutlass · 2024-08-01T13:49:32+00:00

Nope, my ex was most likely borderline personality as well as her youngest son. My life was miserable married to her. If I could go back and NOT date/marry her I would in a second.

WittyBeautiful7654 · 2024-08-01T13:31:24+00:00

I regret the end but the divorce wasn't my idea. She was a good friend and a great lover. Mother to my children. I miss her. But that's not the same person anymore and neither an I. But I do regret what her and I turned in to. Really a golden time in my life.

ReceptionIcy6688 · 2024-08-01T13:05:23+00:00

I regret investing in someone who didn’t match my investment nor care to.

tomsnow164 · 2024-08-01T12:37:34+00:00

I am so happy two years post divorce, I actively encourage people to get divorced. If the youngest kid is over 3 and it’s not a decent working relationship, cut and run it’s not getting better.

My nonprofit will be called “DIG IT! Divorce Is Great, It’s Time”

Honestly I would divorce her again if I could.

metzgie1 · 2024-08-01T12:20:51+00:00

I regret not doing it sooner. I was lied to and some reason in my head. I didn’t believe that the lies could happen again. I wouldn’t say a regret having children, but boy having children and being divorced is very difficult.

Independent_Owlz · 2024-08-01T11:31:37+00:00

I regret marrying that narcissist.

No_Investigator3353 · 2024-08-01T11:02:40+00:00

Hell nah..I (M) divorced her. Men can win at this too!

deludedhairspray · 2024-08-01T11:00:49+00:00

Didn't really have a choice (my ex was a serial cheater and liar). I still miss the life I thought I had before I discovered who my wife really was, but there's no way back to that anyway. So while I didn't really want the divorce, it was inevitable.

Exactly65536 · 2024-08-01T10:41:06+00:00

I regret postponing my divorce for so long (and probably I am doing it again and will regret it).

The moment you see it's bad and you are sure it is not going to improve, scrap it.

electromattic · 2024-08-01T10:27:37+00:00

No. I feel as though I tried as hard as I could to save our marriage once I knew that it was likely ending. At the end of the day a marriage can't work unless both parties want it to, and my ex did not want to even try to save it.

Sea-Mission-6316 · 2024-08-01T10:23:17+00:00

dblspc · 2024-08-01T10:22:06+00:00

Nope

soontobesolo · 2024-08-01T10:05:49+00:00

Fuck no. I haven't been this happy or had this much fun in years.

I only regret waiting as long as I did.

BlackSun56 · 2024-08-01T10:04:23+00:00

Only financially. I realize now that I’m happier not having to deal with her perpetually selfish ways. Much happier in my new relationship as well.

frogmicky · 2024-08-01T10:04:19+00:00

Nope, I regret not doing it sooner.

xeskind30 · 2024-08-01T10:00:30+00:00

upvotersfortruth · 2024-08-01T09:58:02+00:00

"Regrets, I've had a few. But then again, too few to mention." ~ Old Blue Eyes

pg19792022 · 2024-08-01T09:57:30+00:00

Nope.

Sad_Nobody4454 · 2024-08-05T13:18:08+00:00

I regret leaving my cats I miss them the bitch not so much

Fun-Conference1361 · 2024-08-05T16:20:01+00:00

Nope. Made a choice that was not sustainable. Grateful for the kids, lessons, and growth. Life has been sweet since. I think the equation is true. Time together divided by 4 = relief.

Title	Do you regret getting divorced?
Author	mystic-explorer123
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Comments	86
Date	August 1, 2024 9:49 AM UTC (2 years ago)
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