“Chemistry”... what is it?

Boondoggie7777 · 2021-10-10T17:58:16+00:00

chemistry=attraction. It's just an nice way of saying they find you boring and unattractive. But it also includes the way the guy makes her feel.

I don't see why it would be odd that someone would find no chemistry on a first date, or the first 10 min. She might even think he's objectively attractive but not fun to talk to and be around.

modidlee · 2021-10-10T18:19:51+00:00

The feeling you get when you just want to be around someone. When you’re around them you feel good. You want to keep talking to them. You want to learn what they’re about.

mackenzie013_02 · 2021-10-10T17:56:51+00:00

Chemistry/spark is the feeling you get when you’re around someone; it’s like you forget your own name, time kinda slows down, and nothing else matters.

You can tell within the 30min whether you’re going to feel that way or not.

Mimoxs · 2021-10-10T17:34:23+00:00

Theoretically speaking, if you don’t feel the spark with anyone, how the hell do relationships form without arranged marriages?

Settling

gofigure62 · 2021-10-10T17:53:18+00:00

There are just some people that you click with and some that you don't.

It's comparable to meeting a stranger that you automatically connect with and become instafriends.

Most of the time when I get to know men they say or do something that ruins whatever attraction that I had towards them. And make a clear indication that we're not compatible and they aren't likeable to me.

Also having casual sex doesn't mean that I'm not going to vet the guy and make sure that we're compatible and that he's safe. I'm not going to have sex with a man who says "all women are submissive in the bedroom". I'm also not going to have sex with a man that says "everyone has herpes".

I've also noticed a rise of needlessly argumentative men. You can't acknowledge the sky is blue without them wanting debate about it.

Hoopy223 · 2021-10-10T19:09:16+00:00

Attraction duh. Physical and personality.

Women just like to make it sound magical.

You also need to realize that the longer people are single the harder it is for them to be interested in others. You kinda cruise along in your own little world.

Mrs_Drgree · 2021-10-10T17:29:46+00:00

He failed to seduce her.

TotalTravesty · 2021-10-10T17:40:24+00:00

It could be looks, you could have bored her to death, you might have said something that was a predetermined deal breaker, it could be looks. It’s just a shorthand people use to mean “enjoy being around this person.”

By the way, sports fans and people who organize corporate team-building exercises understand the term “chemistry” plenty so don’t go acting like it’s just a thing those silly girls say at ugly dudes.

januaryphilosopher · 2021-10-10T17:40:12+00:00

It's very easy to tell that someone is genuinely dull in half an hour. I assume that's what they're referring to.

ChibsFilipTelfordd · 2021-10-10T18:44:05+00:00

But to realize y’all ain’t compatible over text or a 30 minute lunch or dinner makes very little sense to me.

How so? I can tell pretty dang quickly if i don't like someone, like within a texting convo

metropolisapocalypse · 2021-10-10T19:00:07+00:00

I don't think there's really an easily articulated answer to this. Think about it more generally: there are people you get along with in life and connect with (friends, etc) and people you don't.

Someone can be attractive but after talking to them for a few minutes you can realize you have nothing in common, don't have a natural flow of conversation, etc., and that it's probably not worth continuing. Or someone might not be your ideal physical type but you realize you get along super well.

Try to focus on whether or not YOU have chemistry with someone. It goes both ways.

klauskinki · 2021-10-10T19:30:25+00:00

Chemistry doesn't have anything to do with rational things like compatibility, values and what both want from life. We speak about chemistry when both people feel a rush of euphoria while together. Both start to think about them doing sexual stuff, to feel the need to touch the other person and to know that said person want the same thing. It's laughing and being at ease with each other. Less experienced people and/or people with low self-confidence might don't feel this kinds maybe because they're too self-conscious, too anxious, while dealing with a person of the other sex

Orange_Paisley · 2021-10-10T17:37:23+00:00

Do you give the other person butterflies? Do they feel like they really know you even though you just met? Can they not stop thinking about you? Are they waiting for your call and text, not just for the attention and validation but because it’s you calling or texting? That’s chemistry.

DreamsOfWishes · 2021-10-10T18:16:10+00:00

Now, if you genuinely gave someone a chance, dated them a few times, hooked up, etc and you still didn’t feel it, I can understand. Too many differences, bad attitude comes out, whatever.

Yeah, but you see... I'm a woman and if I do that...I will be called a slut. I need to figure out chemistry WITHOUT doing all of that.

ToughAnswers · 2021-10-10T17:45:50+00:00

It's like obecenity--you know it when you see it

purplish_possum · 2021-10-10T19:57:57+00:00

"Chemistry" is hard to define but easy to recognize. It's the big eyes a woman in love looks up at you with. It's excitement a guy feels when he's near the object of his affections.

When it's absent you're just going through the motions. Sex without chemistry feels meaningless and cheap. This is why prostitution is not a viable alternative to actual relationships.

D_D_BA4 · 2021-10-10T18:03:13+00:00

When Chad isn't autistic

Novadina · 2021-10-10T18:25:58+00:00

For most people, chemistry is a very common reason to want or not want someone. If you don’t know what chemistry with another person feels like, you probably have a disorder of some kind or are on the autism spectrum.

Forget relationships, but even for casual stuff they want to have the spark or chemistry. If you don’t see it going anywhere why would there need to be chemistry?

Because no chemistry means I’m not into them, attracted to them, turned on by them. I have no desire to have sex with someone who doesn’t turn me on, that is gross to me. Really the only reason I’ve ever wanted casual sex with someone is chemistry.

But to realize y’all ain’t compatible over text or a 30 minute lunch or dinner makes very little sense to me.

It’s often very easy to tell after one date if someone is compatible. Even this post you wrote here shows me you would never be compatible with me - imagine how much more can be said in 30 minutes or an hour?

I guess what I’m asking here is, how do you quantify a spark? How do you control for it?

This seems to just be a lack of understanding social behaviors - for most people it just comes naturally and instinctively and we don’t have to quantify it or control it or understand it like a math problem.

Theoretically speaking, if you don’t feel the spark with anyone, how the hell do relationships form without arranged marriages?

If someone never felt a spark with someone then they will likely have a hard time forming friendships and relationships, and should seek treatment. You could also try dating other people on the spectrum, they might relate more to the lack of social understanding.

relibra · 2021-10-10T19:54:29+00:00

In my opinion.. It’s physical “attraction”. You can even appreciate someone as objectively good looking but don’t feel attracted to them. It’s not something anyone can put finger on. I’ve been rejected by a guy for lack of spark too, happens to everyone…

Rosifer433d · 2021-10-10T21:19:53+00:00

''she has a pussy, that's chemistry enough for me.''

Chemistry is when the two of you can't take your eyes off each other. When you enter an establishment and you just ''know'' that she is there, and she can likewise ''know'' where you are, and she will on instinct look at you,and she will find you, despite not knowing where you are, and you will feel her eyes on you.

Chemistry is when the two of you know what the other is saying, without that many words being used. She knows what you are thinking, because the two of you are on the same lengthwave.

Chemistry is when neither you nor she is trying to impress the other one, because you enjoy so much each other's company, and just being you is enough, and she is comfortable with who you are, and so are you comfortable with who she is.

Chemistry is when the scent of her is enough to get you hard. When she's not wearing perfume and you are not wearing cologone or aftershave, and you can't get enough of each other's smell.

phantomdilletante · 2021-10-10T22:09:42+00:00

I felt the same way until I got a job accompanying a choir at a church and being a keyboardist in a rock band. And basically, all I’m paid to do is to do whatever music I need to do, sometimes prepared, sometimes improved, to have the right “vibe” for the moment, which essentially requires having a subconsciously copacetic body language with the group of people I’m supporting. In other words, my job basically requires having in the moment relationship “chemistry.” What I’ve discovered about the concept of relationship chemistry through this is that it’s essentially impact based. The other people, the choir and my band mates, don’t really understand what I’m doing or why or how beyond whether it sounds like it works for the moment or not, which means whether it accomplishes the performance goals required for that moment or not. If I don’t, they’ll know, and I have to figure out what I did wrong so it doesn’t happens again. If I do, nobody’s gonna know whether it’s by accident or intent and be happy with what I’ve done anyway.

I think when a lot of women say they don’t have chemistry with a dude, it means that what he’s doing doesn’t have the kind of impact it needs to have on her. In other words, his performance in his role towards her doesn’t work for the context of a romantic/sexual/flirtatious relationship with her. When a woman evaluates a man for a specific kind of need for a specific kind of relationship, she goes off of how his performance does or doesn’t work based on her feelings and the context they’re both in. For the woman in the situation, this makes complete sense, and it’s pretty clear, and her saying there’s no chemistry isn’t a BS excuse. But to the dude, it sounds like a BS excuse and as if she’s just making things up/trying to be polite about whatever “real” reason she rejected him, and it feels this way to dudes because they can’t tell what she felt in the moment as the woman she is and/or did not know what kind of performance she needed for her to experience a good romantic/sexual vibe in that context. I think sometimes this happens because of two co-operating factors: 1) dudes aren’t taught to read things emotionally and socially very well in general, and 2) women are taught to be cautious around and hide their feelings/emotions from men, especially in a dating/sexual context. And so, we end up in a world full of men who aren’t producing chemistry with women, and don’t know why, and women who have a lot of dissatisfying relationships with dudes and don’t know what to do about it.

S0mnariumx · 2021-10-11T01:22:11+00:00

I'm an analytical chemist and this chemistry shit makes no sense

Lateralanouncer · 2021-10-10T18:04:49+00:00

LowValueMail · 2021-10-10T19:18:49+00:00

Mutual sexual attraction that's apparent to both people without it having to be explicitely expressed.

Physiologist21 · 2021-10-10T20:38:59+00:00

The study of matter and it's properties.

Alternatively, a sham to sell you things or lie.

Ohyarlysmiles · 2021-10-10T21:15:14+00:00

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Insidious-Sid · 2021-10-10T22:35:28+00:00

CHEMISTRY FOR MEN: "Would bang."

CHEMISTRY FOR WOMEN: Three pages of feelings and thoughts to describe "would bang".

ohheyitslaila · 2021-10-10T23:41:14+00:00

Dating is just like making friends. You know within a half hour if you find them interesting. If you have things in common, if it’s easy to talk to them and they reciprocate, chances are you two have emotional chemistry or at least the start of it. If you go on a date and it’s filled with awkward silences, or the other person seems to be struggling to come up with things to say, then you don’t have chemistry. There is also the physical/sexual side to chemistry. You can just look at someone from across the room and know if you find them sexually attractive or not. Of course someone can become more physically attractive to you if your personalities click, or less physically attractive if your personalities just don’t mesh well.

Ok_Razzmatazz_1751 · 2021-10-10T23:56:49+00:00

No exaggeration the first time seeing my now husband , I knew he was the one I wanted ... It was an internal feeling sensation that went through my body. His personality , the way he carried himself. He took me by my hand to walk , and it was like home.

Understand I dated good looking men before my husband , however the chemistry wasn't their , didn't connect . Once you know what chemistry by actually encountering that phenomenon/ feeling , you'll know why it's important , cause if there is no chemistry you are settling . Which is sad.

zUltimateRedditor · 2021-10-11T06:10:22+00:00

"Excuse"? Really? An excuse is defined as releasing someone from duty or requirement. Bet you're one of those who thinks that you're owed sex for being nice or for going to the gym or something equally arbitrary.

That said, Chemistry is a combination of feeling sexual and intellectual attraction towards someone. I can't speak for all women obviously, but, myself and all women that I've ever met will know if they want to engage with someone in as little as 5 seconds, and most definitely know it within half an hour. Sooo, maybe work on being less ug and boring?

Laytheblameonluck · 2021-10-11T08:25:55+00:00

So aside from ghosting, this has, and probably will become the most popular excuse of the 2020’s for girls to reject guys and perhaps vice versa for the weird dudes. (No offense).

You will note that, that after the NRE (New Relationship Energy) phase of the relationship, the chemistry will be lost but it is not the women who notice but the men.

I strongly recommend guys ask the same question, particular after a year or two of dating, or when you are moving in together.

After the "new relationship energy" has worn off, men need to ask themselves, is there "chemistry"?

nemporisso · 2021-10-12T03:51:21+00:00

It's mutual understanding mostly. How much easier is it to talk to an old college friend vs your aunt Gladys? Why?

lostwanderer28 · 2021-10-10T17:32:36+00:00

It is nothing but an excuse.

groupme_throwaway · 2021-10-10T18:51:16+00:00

no vagina tingle = no chemistry

DerekMorganBAU · 2021-10-10T19:06:24+00:00

Orgasms. Carnal attraction. They both play a major part. Fuck a bitch silly and suddenly you’re the greatest thing to come into her life. She’ll even project positive qualities on you and the whole nine.

It can’t be negotiated either. If it ain’t there then its just not there.

jedzy · 2021-10-10T20:57:44+00:00

It’s about pheromones- you are naturally attracted to someone with compatible pheromones to yourself.

https://www.google.co.uk/amp/s/www.bbc.com/news/business-26751949.amp

chilikettlechips · 2021-10-10T17:45:04+00:00

The amount of women I matched with that

Want to give OLD a try or even better one last try

Want to find love or true love on the apps despite being on OLD

Want a real relationship etc etc etc

After days or hours of talking finally ask me my height and then just ghost or wanna be friends. Tell me rules 1&2 don't matter to chemistry.

Painfulmenstruation · 2021-10-10T19:32:19+00:00

Arranged marriages are arranged rape.

Women don’t like arranged marriages because we get forced to fuck men we don’t click with.

If couples who were in arranged marriages become happy it is because they make the best of a bad situation. They both make an effort to get to know the other, they make an effort to make each other happy, they respect each other, they don’t cheat, they take their vows seriously and they work to build together. The man also does not expect sex or pressure her into it because that would make her not like him.

Lack of chemistry has been a reason for both women and men to reject each other since long before you were born. It’s not a new “excuse”.

Are you from a culture that has traditionally had arranged marriages? Maybe that’s why the “lack of chemistry” reason is new to you.

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TheBookOfSeil · 2021-10-10T19:09:13+00:00

A synonym for "compatibility."

Edit: think of it this way: chemistry is basically the study of how matter interacts with each other to create new things. Hydrogen and oxygen mix to create water. Men and women mix to create children via a successful relationship. The relationship in this context is no different from the relationship between other forms of matter. Some mix and create life while others mix and create volatile compounds that explode.

Don't listen to any people in this thread who are using colloquial descriptions or just saying "he failed to seduce her." Its not the fault or job of one chemical or form of matter to cater to and successfully mix with another.

DillonTheFatUglyMale · 2021-10-10T19:22:50+00:00

Never understood what the spark or chemistry was either honestly....

Siukslinis_acc · 2021-10-10T19:24:02+00:00

how do you quantify a spark? How do you control for it?

You don't, it just is (or isn't).

Have you ever just got along with a person with whom you have interacted for the first time, felt like you could be your genuine weird self? Spark/chemistry is used to describe the idea that you really get along with the person, but don't know why (and don't see a point in wasting the brain power and sanity trying to find an answer to this question), you just get along.

But to realize y’all ain’t compatible over text or a 30 minute lunch or dinner makes very little sense to me.

In that time some dealbreakers could pop up. Examples: you find out they are a smoker and you get nauseous from the smell, they have a severe allergy to something that you can't live without (be it food, pet, smell, ect.), you find out that they are obnoxiously vulgar, they make sounds that drive you crazy (like chewing without closing the mouth or doing it so loudly that you can hear it even through the closed mouth).

Or am I forever doomed to navigate this hellhole of a dating landscape hoping to spark something within someone with a shit load of luck?

Yep. A spark/chemistry could also be understood as a subconscious attraction. So your only hope is to interact with many people and hope there will be a spark.

Classicjammer · 2021-10-10T19:32:42+00:00

Imma do you a favor.

Look up www.Prettyfedup.com. Google the website, don’t just click the link. Type prettyfedup in Reddit search first and then click the first post asking where to find it at, and use the archive search engine to find the page.

The webmaster does a great job of explaining what “chemistry” is and a host of other subjects. And it’s a great way to pass time reading something interesting.

Ohyarlysmiles · 2021-10-10T19:39:26+00:00

It's about how you and her interact and contrary to popular belief, it isn't physical attractiveness.

While a lot of people on here like to bleat about how in speed dating studies, physical attractiveness is the number one predictor of being chosen for a date, what they fail to mention (or understand) is that the studies break 'being chosen for a date' down to three separate factors --- her, her partner, and the interaction between the two.

Physical attractiveness is a partner effect, i.e. 'her partner,' component. It alone on its best day is responsible for nearing 20% of the variance, which means that 1) the interaction and 2) just her peculiarities, are by and far the greatest factors controlling whether someone is chosen for a date.

As for what I believe chemistry to be, it is "performing masculinity" correctly. Behaving in such a way that patriarchy dictates a 'man' should behave --- from her point of view.

Kizka · 2021-10-10T19:48:51+00:00

Idk, it's brain chemistry or something. I didn't use dating apps as those became popular after I've already entered my current relationship but I did do online dating. Obviously I only met those guys I found attractive based on their photos. Some of them I wanted to meet more than once, others I didn't. I never met someone who was aweful on a date, so that wouldn't be the reason. But with some there was a spark, a sexual pull, and with others there simply wasn't. I never tried to analyze it, though. It just is what it is.

LePengwino · 2021-10-10T20:41:47+00:00

An emotional bond, or the more extreme version, a mutual crush. There's little awkwardness, and things "flow". I've rarely experienced this, but being prone to neuroticism, it probably makes sense.

ItWasBrokenAlready · 2021-10-10T21:34:22+00:00

Chemistry/spark is baseline attraction you have and managed not to destroy (or even lift) by social interaction. No awkwardness in the conversation, pleasant flow (good game i guess) and enjoyable flirting.

It has your base attractiveness as a factor - a handsome guy has it easier, but still can fuck up. Then social skills/game. And then there is always some dice roll - her mood, picking touchy subject, even date going wrong without your fault, like terrible food or weather.

It seems unfair to you, but first dates especially with total strangers are usually low cost/low chance of reward situations for women. It's an equivalent of chatting with someone for 15 mins at a party/bar. Default is "next", a "yes" has to gather some special attention apart from abscence of obvious deal breakers. It's like a quick glance at Steam store if there are any good discounts on games. Most of the time there are not, but it cost you next to none nothing to check, so you just close it and move on. Or like starting a game with a bad hand where there is next to penalty to reshuffle/fold. You don't feel incentive to make best of what you got when you can easily discard and try next time.

Ppdebateismental · 2021-10-11T00:22:49+00:00

I didn’t feel any chemistry” or “I’m looking for a spark”. The more I think about it, the more ridiculous and illogical this reasoning seems.

Well you might be right that it seems illogical, but in my experience, as illogical as it may be, if you don’t have that intense attraction, you won’t get it.

I really tried to date a few logical choices, mostly fellow engineers. I tried hard with a 666, decent looking, very into me. We dated a few months. He would have been a very logical choice, but no chemistry, no bueno. So instead I married a reformed alcoholic who made a lot less money. You can’t negotiate attraction

Wildhouse83 · 2021-10-11T00:36:45+00:00

Simple answer: Gina tingles.

JacobMoogberg69 · 2021-10-11T01:35:58+00:00

It means attraction and a connection. See, men are easy because we only look at the physical and it's enough to turn us on. Women don't pay mind to physical attractiveness as much. They see pretty boys and they assume they will be disappointing in bed. For them our behavior is much more important and they have evolved to evaluate our behavior and know exactly what we think of ourselves. The same way a man can calculate a woman's breast size and hips to waist ratio in a millisecond.

Since there are so few guys who are truly masculine out there, women give a chance to nice guys and other types that their parents and society tell them they should like but they feel utterly ynattracted to them, hence the no spark/chemistry line. It literally says "I'm not attracted to you".

yungthrowaway97 · 2021-10-11T03:00:27+00:00

Chemistry is how you make her feel. You can be an excellent chemist in environments involving alchohol. But something about the word chemistry just chaps my ass cheeks like after not wiping enough from an explosive wet shit. The word causes physical pain.

tropicsGold · 2021-10-11T03:39:32+00:00

People make up their minds within a few moments, there is no need for anything long and drawn out. We have really good instincts. It is not based upon rationality, it is based upon emotion. Men need to learn how to interesting and exciting.

A quick shortcut to interesting is to talk a lot about her. Her interests, dreams, goals. Her feelings about family, friends, classes, job. Etc

Exciting is having a plan. Are you going somewhere with your life. Do you go out and do fun things. Do you travel to exotic places, which can be fun places just down the street, or maybe a summer trip to India. The girls want to be part of a fun adventure, they don’t want some clueless guy who sits around in his basketball shorts watching tv, overeating, playing video games, and watching porn.

PronKing10 · 2021-10-11T04:04:08+00:00

Chemistry is when you click with someone. Like you and your best friend do. You want to talk to them. Conversation flows naturally, you don’t have to think about what to say. You can feel comfortable being 100% your weird self and they feel the same way

spinsterchachkies · 2021-10-11T06:19:32+00:00

When someone says “chemistry” they are talking about; When that person has charisma, or charms them, flirts well. Makes them feel good to be around them. Your personalities mix well together. You have things in common. You are both attracted to each other sexually. You want to bang. You make each other laugh, and enjoy each other’s company. Saying you have chemistry basically means “I’m intellectually and sexually stimulated.” That kind of thing. Chemistry.

velvetunderground111 · 2021-10-11T06:31:20+00:00

Older guy chiming in here: I always thought "chemistry" was more of a female attraction thing. Because I felt a strong sexual attraction to almost every woman I was around in my prime who was in the 18-25 year old range. Men are not picky. If she is young, we will have sex with her. I wanted to have sex with almost every girl I knew when I was a kid. It's not rocket science: men want to get with anything.

Fragmented79 · 2021-10-11T06:56:52+00:00

It just shows the abundance of options that women have compared to men. Why waste time on a second date with a guy that had one hair out of place and made one dull joke on the first date when she has a 100 more matches to go through that month?

Expensive-Guitar3609 · 2021-10-11T08:17:45+00:00

I have kissed a very good looking woman within a few minutes after we met for the first time, and went home with my hands empty after several well planned dates with a "meh" looking girl, and oddly enough the reverse also happened, I've been fun, excited and very sexual with an average looking girl and I droped a smooth and super gorgeous girl at her home an hour and a half after we met and just told her "look, you are beautiful and I spent a nice evening with you, but I think we have no chemistry, you seemed off during the entire date and that's not what I'm looking for right now, but let me know if you want to hang out as friends" (yes, she looked stuned hahaha).

What is chemistry? I know for sure it's not about looks, but it's something beyond that. I think it's reciprocity, like when you like that girl and she likes you back, when she's intrested in you and whatever the fuck you have to say, or when you see that bright in her eyes when she's looking at you and the way she smiles at you and giggle tells you everything you need to know.

I know when a woman it's really into me, they just can't hide that no matter how hard they try, it's like they turn on a switch and from that moment all they do becomes sexy, very smooth, sensual. Hard to explain, but they act more soft, delicate, femenine, they touch their thighs, start playing with her hair and pull it to one side, they look at me sideways or shy away and smirk... And you can see all this like if they were moving on slow motion you know?

That's chemistry. It's some sensual shit that happens when a girl is into you and she knows you like her back. Something that just happens.

Flightlessbirbz · 2021-10-11T12:43:28+00:00

It’s immediate, surface-level compatibility along with attraction, basically. Some people you just can talk to more easily than others. You have a lot in common maybe, your communication styles are similar, something just clicks where you want to spend more time with that person. You can also have friendship chemistry that isn’t related to sexual attraction. Do you want to be friends with everyone you meet? No. Some people you’re more drawn to than others for a variety of reasons. For men, “chemistry” is almost 100% if she’s physically attractive and their physical type. For women, that’s part of it, but personality is a big part too.

As for “if you genuinely gave someone a chance,” a few dates is usually plenty to tell if chemistry is not there, we do not need you sticking your dicks in is just to make sure.lol Nice try though. And if we did, you’d complain our “n counts” were too high.

TheElusivePeacock · 2021-10-12T02:23:30+00:00

I’m curious. Have you never FELT chemistry with someone? You don’t know what that feels like?? You’ve never felt a spark? What about even for casual sex, a feeling of absolute hot passionate desire where you have to rip each other’s clothes off and the sex is amazing. This is hard to actually describe if you’ve never felt it before.

Az_Ams · 2021-10-12T20:25:50+00:00

I can usually register chemistry when we kiss. Sometimes it's like kissing a dead fish and sometimes it makes you want to turn inside out. There have been times when I felt attracted to someone sufficiently and ta-dam - dead fish effect. But if it's a big yes - there is no doubt. I feel like it correlated with high inhibition/low inhibition in some ways. Some people feel like they are suppressing/controlling themselves so much that the mammalian instincts are not even able to kick in when it's time to let go.

Mark_Freed · 2021-10-13T17:44:01+00:00

Lacking Chemistry means “I dont know why I don't like you, I don't want to know, even if knew it would make me look shallow if I told you, please take this L and walk away.”

It's quite easy to tell what the issue is. If they don't let you speak much its your looks. If you spoke some time and showed them your low eq then its your lack of eq.

Often it's not even you, she just isn't in the mood for anything.

majani · 2021-10-10T21:46:47+00:00

Chemistry is mostly looks and timing. If a woman meets an attractive man when she's available and in a good mood? The man literally just has to act normal, not put his foot in his mouth and "sparks" will fly

Gabrielvrape · 2021-10-10T23:43:35+00:00

Your looks.

heyitsjeape · 2021-10-11T02:09:42+00:00

It’s something people with a lot of suitors and opportunities have the luxury of worrying about. People such as me worry about getting opportunities first. We then hope we can build “chemistry,” or rapport over the course of time.

Megabyte7637 · 2021-10-11T04:53:29+00:00

gkom1917 · 2021-10-11T10:28:24+00:00

It's just a buzzword for "I (don't) wanna fuck you for whatever reason". When you can't straightforwardly say that your date is ugly, boring, awkward, off-putting or otherwise incompatible with you, you can always say something about "chemistry" and stuff.

Just listen to how women talk among their female peers. When they discuss why they rejected men they always have a particular reason. It may range from dick size to the way he talks about his mom, but "everything was fine, we just don't click" is rarely, extremely rarely an answer.

Title	“Chemistry”... what is it?
Author	zUltimateRedditor
Upvotes	38
Comments	312
Date	October 10, 2021 5:28 PM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/PurplePillDebate
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