Where do you draw the line in this new era of pornography?

Slitelohel · 2022-03-07T00:21:29+00:00

Where are you guys following porn girls on Twitter? For some reason they follow me. My account only has like 25 followers and they're all OnlyFans girls. I've never even interacted with them

-ShesACarnival- · 2022-03-06T23:13:38+00:00

anything that involved interacting would cause a problem

Ironicseagull · 2022-03-07T06:50:13+00:00

No porn

IcarusKiki · 2022-03-07T04:19:53+00:00

anything on social media is coomer behavior, just watch it on a porn site

funlightmandarin · 2022-03-06T23:11:42+00:00

All of it is unacceptable.

Look at porn on Pornhub like the rest of us, ya weirdo.

Initial_Chemical7121 · 2022-03-06T23:05:48+00:00

Any of it.

totential_rigger · 2022-03-07T02:04:23+00:00

First one is fine because it's the only one without interaction. I don't use Twitter so I'm not sure if liking something gets added to a favourites sort of tab and if it did then eh I might be okay with that because there would be an actual function for liking it.

But yeah anything like Only Fans or anything with engagement is not okay in a relationship with me. I don't like porn but I'm not going to ban it. I think that just leads to it being hidden rather than eliminated. I don't really believe people who say "my boyf doesn't watch porn". Maybe sometimes it's true (my religious ex had never seen it) but fact of the matter is that a lot of people get sexually desensitized to sex with one person for an extended amount of time. So wanting to look at porn is natural even if I don't like it. I get it.

Orange_Paisley · 2022-03-06T23:34:31+00:00

I don’t have strong opinions about porn but if you’re spending money on it you’re a loser and if you’re spending my money on it goodbye.

kissmetilyouredrunk · 2022-03-06T23:11:28+00:00

I’d draw a line at paying for porn

That’s disgusting and pathetic

kittenated · 2022-03-07T00:49:10+00:00

All of it.

If my partner wants to orgasm over other women he can do so as a single man.

pablitosocool · 2022-03-07T00:54:31+00:00

Looking at porn on Twitter

that's about as far as it should have gone. partners shouldn't be validating someoneelse's sexual activity let alone fucking paying for it while in a relationship

clitorophagy · 2022-03-07T00:26:49+00:00

no porn.

houstongradengineer · 2022-03-06T23:15:25+00:00

My man doesn't even have a Twitter account. If he stumbles upon porn that shouldn't be the end of the world. He shouldn't hyperfocus on it and try to jerk off to it, nor should he look things up for that purpose, but it will come up on feeds, and I get that. It comes up on my feed, too. The line is where he even cares. I'm trying to actually have a sex life without a limp dick, and without a man who has a libido much lower than mine. For my husband, along as we are living under the same roof or seeing each other weekly, that means no to minimal porn-for-masturbation according to my limited experience in this 1 sexual relationship. Any liking porn or flirting with women or paying women is off limits. He should be showing that love to me, if at all.

DannyBOI_LE · 2022-03-07T04:11:35+00:00

Porn is like any other drug. Use it responsibly and try to avoid serious addiction. It’s important for men to jerk off when they need to. It’s slightly less important for women, but also healthy for them as well.

lonely_mixtape · 2022-03-06T23:25:38+00:00

none of it. I understand giving in and watching porn every once in a while, but if he's making no effort to stop or doesn't see a problem with it, I'm not there for it.

If he's interacting with the women at all that's an immediate deal breaker. If he pays money at all, that's a big problem for me too.

I generally consider porn unfaithful. If it's something like hentai, it's more just a disappointment, but won't upset me as much.

quiturbitchn · 2022-03-07T00:37:45+00:00

If you’re in a relationship with me and want to continue having sex then all porn is fully off the table

Mimoxs · 2022-03-06T23:19:19+00:00

Real porn is gross and I would be against it morally unless you can assure it's safe so like OF or other direct payments/solo girl stuff. But if dating I would take issue with directly following a porn girl on twt/paying for OF of some specific girl. Although tbh personally it just kinda feels gross altogether to think of someone watching real porn

I have no moral issue with animated porn/3d model porn/hentai.

If it's like, inflation or vore, though, yeah I'm probably gonna look down on you a lil bit. And if it's guro/getting off to women being tortured and killed yeah that's a guy I would run from pretty fast.

januaryphilosopher · 2022-03-07T00:09:12+00:00

The first. I don't think that I can sustain a relationship with someone while they're watching porn.

Shany1315 · 2022-03-07T07:01:11+00:00

Interesting topic. I wouldn’t be ok with any type of interaction such as liking, commenting, messaging etc. Just watching I don’t care as long as it doesn’t impact the relationship.

Master__B0b · 2022-03-07T03:23:36+00:00

How about no porn? As a man who was very addicted in high school, porn is a very destructive, addictive force in any man's life. Don't believe me? Go read some of the statistics off of fight the new drugs website. Absolutely shocking. Quitting porn has been easily one of the hardest things I've had to do in my life, but when I can look at my wife and honestly say that she is more beautiful than any other woman because she's the only woman I'm looking at, it definitely helps make it worth while.

SilentDawnn · 2022-03-07T01:37:42+00:00

I draw the line completely at social media models, pictures/videos of women he knows personally, and platforms with ability to message and pay the woman he’s watching.

I’m already very uncomfortable with porn usage and its effects on people and their relationships. It would kill any sort of feelings for the man I am seeing personally

Stunning-Potato-1984 · 2022-03-07T03:13:09+00:00

I'm fine with my partner viewing images and videos on only fans just no personal contact like conversations etc. Supporting entrepreneurship is really important to me.

Cuculocos · 2022-03-07T01:50:40+00:00

Tipping or sexting would be my line. I can't quite decide on which.

The rest I'm comfortable with so long as it's not affecting intimacy, and I still am made to feel attractive by my partner.

I am comfortable with them having a favorite pornstar who has their content locked away via a subscription and therefore choosing to subscribe to access it.

silveryspoons · 2022-03-07T01:03:25+00:00

All of that is completely not ok. There's no point in drawing lines halfway. It's either immoral to be lusting after others or it's not.

Classic_Head3437 · 2022-03-07T02:03:21+00:00

I still watch the 90s porn I watched in high school. I'd tell any woman that tried to micromanage my masturbation habits to kick rocks.

Federal_Bat_5355 · 2022-03-07T01:30:40+00:00

If it's ethical porn (as in the women aren't being exploited to make the porn) then I don't mind guys paying for it but I personally don't date guys who really enjoy porn too often. It's really about the frequency and if they're after "variety". If they want variety in the amount of beautiful women they see, then I think they just can't make up their mind. I prefer guys with a strong preference. I also have to find the porn is agreeable in that, if I was really horny, maybe I'd like it too (their kinks should align with mine because I don't want to fit a "role" that I'm uncomfortable with).

If they met up with her or obsessed over a certain girl then he might as well pine for her all his life though. If he just likes the pictures/vids/niche she fulfills, sure. If its because she's "awesome" or "the hottest"... Absolutely not.

Friedidli · 2022-03-07T00:17:27+00:00

I am sure the entire female gender is gonna feel some type of way about VR porn.

It's definitely a milestone and i am here for it .

Just waiting until we get to bdsm.

Oneironaut91 · 2022-03-07T01:40:11+00:00

delete twitter dont go on onlyfans

problem solved

87AudreyHorne · 2022-03-07T04:10:24+00:00

All of this is cheating lol

wtknight · 2022-03-07T09:50:30+00:00

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_Rx_King_ · 2022-03-07T18:39:57+00:00

All porn is bad. It’s hard to avoid. It’s everywhere. TikTok, Instagram, Twitter. I’ve started NoFap and have a actively been trying avoid porn, but all these social media sites make it hard (pun intended) and have caused me to relapse from time to time.

As a man, porn has never done anything but make my sex life less enjoyable. Especially in relationships. All the taboo shit you consume makes regular sex seem so vanilla. It’s fucking awful. Give porn up or cut back to every once and awhile.

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wtknight · 2022-03-07T00:40:46+00:00

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iskawaranfeecan · 2022-03-07T01:18:20+00:00

Oh no, imagine the horror if the "sexual liberty" zeitgeist came to include legal prostitution!

KekeSmall · 2022-03-07T01:42:35+00:00

None of it.

KikiYuyu · 2022-03-07T02:37:45+00:00

I draw the line at onlyfans. When you directly pay the girl it starts getting parasocial.

Pastelitomaracucho · 2022-03-07T04:03:28+00:00

No simping. Which limits everything to quietly checking content without interacting.

Mrs_Drgree · 2022-03-07T04:55:36+00:00

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greedyleopard42 · 2022-03-07T05:42:17+00:00

twitter? no way none of it. wouldn’t date someone who did that at all. prefer it if they don’t even watch regular porn lmao

skunkbear444 · 2022-03-07T06:09:14+00:00

Wow I just can't believe how uniform and women on here are saying they are.

From my view the limp dick porn sick distracted boyfriend seems like a big scarecrow. Guessing women are really running into this often enough they have experience or heard firsthand from a friend.

This was not the view even 5 years ago. 20 years ago would have been laughable.

EmptyVisage · 2022-03-07T08:25:25+00:00

Anyone who pays for it, or simps after a "real" girl while in a relationship is being extremely irresponsible and fucked up, and most people would have an issue. Just watching it is fine for most now though. The twitter "liking" is gross, but I don't know how it works so maybe it's like bookmarking. Would still sketch me out though, personally.

Own-Boat-5374 · 2022-03-07T08:34:02+00:00

Most onlyfans pages are glorified instagram feeds

enoesraht · 2022-03-07T11:49:27+00:00

No such thing as an objective description, no way I would know what you look like anyways. Things like "perky breasts and ass" are purely subjective and sound more like a self assessment (also you should still be fairly young, I doubt many women's breasts are not at that age). The only part I'm ready to believe is the flexible part, and that is definitely very useful. The hair color and eyes too I guess. Is height a factor for women? I'm pretty much certain preferred height is fairly low, taller women are only attractive up to a point

vredditcocksucker · 2022-03-07T12:03:49+00:00

3d pig disgusting

krischens · 2022-03-07T12:16:38+00:00

As soon as there is any interaction - following the profiles or commenting/liking pictures.

AdobiWanKenobi · 2022-03-07T12:38:25+00:00

People use Twitter for porn? I thought it was all KPop and Minecraft Stans and Journalists.

The only person I vaguely remember hearing about was “the naked philanthropist” I think and that was because she did something funny.

Hjelmert · 2022-03-07T13:33:22+00:00

No porn. Hentai would be fine albeit weird and he has plenty of pics/videos of me if we're in a situation we can't have irl sex. But he gets laid whenever he wants.

Pingayaso · 2022-03-07T14:35:34+00:00

Only simps pay onlyfans

stickyapplejuice · 2022-03-07T14:45:01+00:00

Any kind of sexting or sexually meeting them, is where I draw the line. Commenting or retweeting depends on how he does it. A “great work on the bondage/those heels are sexy” is fine, while a “you look hot I wanna kiss you all over “ is both disrespectful and creepy. I also think that commenting that another woman is hot is a bit crossing the line. Tipping or paying for only fans only becomes a problem if he’s not spoiling me at all. But it’s different for everyone. It’s such an individual thing.

Admirable_Elk_965 · 2022-03-07T15:59:16+00:00

Porn has its own dedicated places, be that porn sites or specific porn subs. It DOES NOT need to be pouring into normal social media, and the fact it is is disgusting and worrying.

Flightlessbirbz · 2022-03-07T16:02:08+00:00

I’d prefer no porn, but since practically all men watch it, I draw the line at any direct interaction with the performers. Liking and following videos and porn accounts in order to find them later wouldn’t count, although I would rather they did not. Chatting with, camming with, leaving comments to, and paying a performer would all count as cheating behavior imo. These are all things people do in order to feel “connected,” and if you’re in a relationship, that shouldn’t be happening.

And in this day and age of so much free porn, if you watch so much porn you feel the need to pay for any of it, you’ve got a problem imo. Amount of time spent watching it is also a huge factor. Occasionally when I’m not around for sex is one thing, daily as a habit is another and will start to affect your sex life and relationship.

xXBloodRavenXx · 2022-03-07T16:08:19+00:00

Looking at porn on Twitter is a bit more personal unless that account is 90% just porn.

Liking porn is meh, on a anonymous account slightly better but not by much. It really shouldn't be a issue

Commenting in general is something I would think most would draw a big fat line. Feels a bit more interactive them what most girls would allow. A good level of trust needs to be established.

Following isn't too terrible, everyone, for the most part, has a set particular pornstars they like to see more often then others. Whether it's cause they are skilled at this one things or fills are particular kink that isn't available in such good quality or quantity. I imagine following 3 porn stars is more of a line cross then following 56. The more you follow on the less personal it can feel but again some will not like it at all regardless.

Paying money is something I doubt most people would be comfortable with at all. I don't know how to explain it other then cause there's such a large amount of porn in the world it feels odd to pay a particular person just for their porn. I can only see a argument be made if they are just the few that fulfill a certain kink or you have strict criteria that you can get off to and that person happens to fulfill that criteria but in all honesty you will be hard pressed to find a person to be okay with this.

Everything thing from chatting, tipping, sexting, and meeting is a definite no go for nearly anyone. Waaayy more interactive given can actually talk to them and they can talk right back and sometimes, depending on your tip they will be willing to fulfill a request you would ask of them. Supporting sex workers is awesome and all but for, mainly, monogamous relationships it's not allowed and seen as a waste of money purely due to the amount of free porn available and more personal unless it's a company rather then a individual.

This is all assuming this is a sex worker is showing off there body features/voice and not a artist like hentai.

At the end of it all it's your life and you choose how to want to live it. So if these are things you want to maintain while in a relationship then by all means go ahead. Just note it will most likely be hard to find a partner okay/comfortable with all of it

thetruthishere_ · 2022-03-07T16:29:43+00:00

Last man I dated didn't have any social media nor watched porn so it was a non issue. If he did he would probably show me the porn he watched.

His fun on the net was playing fake online poker and stocks/the market.

Seems men around my age are not into it as much as younger men.

WAGMIBFAA · 2022-03-07T16:44:12+00:00

Not a chick, but I wouldn’t date someone who looked at porn.

theggyolk · 2022-03-07T17:18:23+00:00

I’ve seen stuff worse than all that but not really popular/mainstream at all.

red_philosopher · 2022-03-07T17:23:36+00:00

This sounds disapprovingly like a virtue signal, or someone trying to find justification for something they don't like about themselves.

bionix90 · 2022-03-07T17:25:41+00:00

I am a man, but everything on your list is too much. If you're going for a personal connection to the porn star, you're going too far. Social media is not ok.

Just fap on orange youtube like a regular degenerate.

Ironicseagull · 2022-03-07T18:46:46+00:00

What’s missing here is the discussion of the ethical aspect of producing porn. It’s not like these are the only studies on pornography. You’ll have a very hard time finding solid research proposing positive effects of pornography (unless funded by the industry itself). Porn websites have not only hosted but also profited off of child pornography and rape. It’s very hard to verify consent (especially on ‘amateur’ content), not only consent to partake in sexual activity but also consent to record and distribute it. If you don’t mind your partner mentally fucking other women on a regular basis that’s obviously your business, but maybe you could mind the fact that it literally fucks over many women and even children and preys on vulnerable young women even if they do consent.

It’s enough to go onto any mainstream porn website to see it’s problematic, with the most popular categories being genres like incest and and (‘barely legal’) teens (a lot of stuff that seems to try to come as close to child pornography whilst avoiding the risk to be persecuted for it.)

bostonstrong1981 · 2022-03-07T19:00:37+00:00

There are no randomized, placebo controlled studies that argue for or against casual use of pornography. It ultimately comes down to what an individual is comfortable with. And using the medium in a responsible fashion. I don’t care for the step parent role play or barely legal stuff. Though it’s not like those actors are even related. It’s just a stupid title. I prefer lesbian porn with older adults. But thanks for the studies. I’ll print them out and the next time I let my husband cum on my face I’ll use them to wipe it off.

pueblopub · 2022-03-07T20:38:33+00:00

Anything short of emotionally/physically cheating on me via direct interaction with another person is fine. (i.e., telling someone else they love them or similar is not fine, sexting or fucking someone else is not fine.)

And I'm open to polyamory, but not without my informed consent.

washington_breadstix · 2022-03-07T20:55:28+00:00

Meeting up with the girl on onlyfans

Does this ever actually happen?

Mosagun · 2022-03-07T21:52:23+00:00

Watching porn intended for a wide audience to consume is okay so long as he doesn’t replace me with it or expect our sex life to mirror it. Personally interacting with the porn star or trying to get in touch with her I consider grounds for a breakup because it sounds like he wants to escalate to digital cheating (sexting, exchanging nudes, dirty video chats, etc— basically interpersonal intimacy instead of watching stuff meant for the public) or even physical cheating.

lovinicecream · 2022-03-08T00:14:57+00:00

I draw the line at sexting a girl on only fans.

Cheshiregrin85 · 2022-03-08T02:15:32+00:00

Sexual predators and traffickers often use pornography to groom victims, which can desensitize victims to sexual advances and normalize the sexual abuse they may experience.Sex trafficking is big business, generating an estimated $99 billion annually in one survey, 63% of underage sex trafficking victims said they had been advertised or sold online,porn has been linked to a rise in sexual violence,I don't support the porn industry.

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC6751001/

_Green_Bean_ · 2022-03-08T03:21:49+00:00

It’s really about the relationship and the boundaries in them. Some people are fine with liking another girls post, some aren’t. Personally I’d draw the line at “paying money to only fans girl” cause like bruh I ain’t tryna date a simp. Get pornhub premium and watch all the shit, don’t waste your money on ONE person.

ThePigmanAgain · 2022-03-08T10:30:23+00:00

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luigitrumpsmario · 2022-03-08T23:07:56+00:00

I'm assuming this is related to porn usage in committed relationships? First thing that stood out was 'meeting up with the girl from onlyfans'—I can't say this is something that happens on anywhere close to a common basis and it's actually against OF's TOS. But that's just rambling semantics, anyway, personally I'm fine with OF interactions because it's a business transaction. If my partner was directly interacting with a pornographic creator WITHOUT payment I would be concerned but otherwise I'm pretty open minded.

Good-Strong · 2022-03-08T23:37:52+00:00

I'd draw the line at liking it lol, anybody that retweets porn or pays OF girls seems too crazy to even think of entertaining lmao.

Khanluka · 2022-03-09T18:17:41+00:00

I honestly never understond the need for only fans with so much free porn on the internet. But aslong as you spend you money responsbile i would not care one bit about about any of those steps.

DiamondLilyD · 2022-03-10T18:59:43+00:00

No porn at all or I'm out.

WorldController · 2022-03-07T01:36:08+00:00

The point is obviously to eliminate monogamy, which is an irrational institution.

flapperfemmefatale · 2022-03-06T23:49:10+00:00

All of that is pretty weird. What's wrong with Pornhub?

HentaiQueen0w0 · 2022-03-07T02:09:46+00:00

In my current relationship I draw the line at all realistic porn.

Hentai, cartoon, animated, etc. I could usually care less.

Why? They have no realistic features. You look at other women/ men long enough in porn and start building subconscious expectations for future relationships.

It’s why I see so many posts here on Reddit of men wondering why they’re girlfriends don’t like their sex technique when they’ve only really learned it from porn, or why women complain so often about men(on here and irl).

I don’t have to worry about my boyfriend wanting to bang an elven double-Z Chested hourglass body chick because it doesn’t exist. The expectations will always be completely out of the question.

But real porn is real people. They’re actors. But they’re people.

A lot of what the OP put in for the varying levels are all what I wouldn’t accept.

I don’t mind that other women do sex work, but I do mind if my boyfriend we’re hungrily devouring it.

I’m not saying I’m gonna put out every single time he asks me, though I do have an equally high libido so who knows, but I do expect that my partner can have some patience if he doesn’t get sex for a week.

Turning to real women online for pleasure is just a no go for me.

Same goes for me, except Real porn is the last thing I ever want to watch. Other men don’t appeal to me, period.

That’s my relationship though. Other women may be okay with it and that’s their deal.

I’m not judging others enjoyment. Just stating the boundaries in my relationship.

gimpgirl555 · 2022-03-07T06:11:52+00:00

This isn't the era of playboy magazine anymore. You can see there's quite a slippery slope there. So where do you draw the line with your man and why?

• I expect him to let me shoot porn with him and the girl on OF.

It let's me take my simping to a new level. How can normies ever compete?

Title	Where do you draw the line in this new era of pornography?
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Date	March 6, 2022 11:05 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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