Saying things like "i just wanted to be loved not lusted after" is the equivalent of an average guy barging into a club, picking out the hottest bombshell on the dance floor, approaching her and upon rejection start philosophizing how much of a "shallow whore she is" for failing to see past his looks. The same thing is done by women, but on a much larger scale and for the most part no one challenges their skewed perception. No, Rebecca. The ripped gymbro with a bbw fetish is just as much after your body as you are after his six pack and abs. No, Samantha. Your tinder date who only wanted to smash is just as shallow as you were when you laser swiped left on everything under 6ft before matching with his tall ass.