Why do men leave yellow stains on the sheets?

PasDeTout · 2021-07-28T15:09:32+00:00

It’s sweat. Get the man to wear cotton pyjamas. Use pillow and mattress protectors. Wash the actual pillows every few months - I read something horrifying that after about six months half the pillow’s weight is actually dead skin cells and other detritus. Use white sheets you can wash at a high temperature with added bleach if necessary. Consider getting a cat instead.

electroloop · 2021-07-28T13:49:08+00:00

There’s actually a name for it, it’s called the audacity.

IndigoTR · 2021-07-28T16:17:05+00:00

Lmao I’m dying 😂 I didn’t realize this was a thing, most of my exes used dark colored sheets… realizing now maybe that’s for a reason?! Sounds like something from a young adult fantasy novel - like the mark of a vampire 🧛

wildlife_bee · 2021-07-28T15:20:33+00:00

It’s definitely body grease. Adds an extra chore but gotta “strip” your sheets with borax in the bathtub. Should look fresh again after that!

08__80 · 2021-07-28T13:11:10+00:00

Sweat has urea in it, hence the yellow. But I assume it's also a build-up of oils and dead skin too. Probably the men don't wear sleep clothes either so their bare backs are touching the same gross sheets every day. If their backs are covered in zits and blackheads, you can guess why.

How to prevent? Wrap him in saran wrap, use black or dark color sheets, make him sleep on the floor (on top of some old newspaper so he doesn't stain the carpet.)

Thestral-glow6 · 2021-07-28T12:01:54+00:00

Eiwww. I had an ex who’d leave similar marks on my lovely pillow cases. I think it’s bodily oils/grease leaching out of their pores/hair maybe?

nohuman · 2021-07-28T20:42:36+00:00

I have a better question. Why the room a man sleeps in smells so rancid in the morning? When you enter that room and if it was closed entire night it's like a gas chamber. The smell hits and I legit dry heaved many times entering my brothers room. Worse thing is when more than one man sleeps in the same place.

arnezuara · 2021-07-28T12:33:45+00:00

Please excuse me, but how is this even a question? 😅 Your only way of preventing your sheets getting stained by an unhygienic man is to dump him.

literal_salamander · 2021-07-28T14:05:56+00:00

It's sweat and body oil. My very sweaty ex turned all my sheets this color, not even hot water and oxy clean could remove the stain. He also insisted on sleeping naked. It was gross. Make any men wear pajamas in bed and have a shower before sleep. Hopefully if they are hygienic HVM you won't have to tell them this.

ijustcantwithit · 2021-07-28T15:49:35+00:00

I sweat when I sleep so my sheets kind of dull out after a while despite washing. It’s got to do with sweat and natural oils. I sleep dressed but still it happens. Men tend to get hotter at sleep in my experience so it’s probably just sweat and not actually anything they do on purpose.

Muffcakelord · 2021-07-28T14:26:49+00:00

Legit i cover my body in COCOA BUTTER before bed and my sheets are white for the entire week before laundry day so this means they're oilier than that + they don't wash their sheets each week. Both is unforgivable

pickadaisy · 2021-07-28T21:21:57+00:00

I just don’t let men sleep in my bed anymore.

creamtart_ · 2021-07-28T12:14:23+00:00

Not showering combined with not changing the sheets I would guess? This is so gross.

Practical_Appearance · 2021-07-28T12:24:32+00:00

It's sweat stains. Most men prefer to shower in the morning (if they even shower at all..) and get into bed dirty. Also not regularly changing and washing sheets makes it so much worse.

curlywurlyprincess · 2021-07-28T12:28:26+00:00

I’ve never heard or seen this…sounds so nasty tf😕

Platipus6 · 2021-07-28T17:48:13+00:00

It’s oil. My hairy ex had fucked up his oil levels by using stripping soap and shampoo, which made him oilier so he’d strip it more.

Most women research that and do things like apple cider vinegar or 30 days no shampoo.

Lemon_bars_addiction · 2021-07-28T12:56:38+00:00

I almost choked on my wine. Good lord.

BasketLow8411 · 2021-07-28T14:18:03+00:00

In my case (meaning my ex), it was stains from excessive sweat due to his alcoholism. It looked like pee stains only in the wrong spot, like up by the shoulders.

hensbanex · 2021-07-28T12:27:49+00:00

i’ve never seen or experienced this ever.

AAlegend8 · 2021-07-28T14:20:36+00:00

It’s body oil like an otter or water dog.

complex_answer_22 · 2021-07-28T16:15:17+00:00

Most men just wash their pits and dick (not even their ass crack) and call it a day. Nay a wash cloth or loofah in sight.

crapcakes0987 · 2021-07-28T17:26:53+00:00

My sheets are yellow due to age, but I wash them every week... they are 10+ years old. The books and white t-shirts in my room are turning yellow as well, not even being used. I live in a hot and humid area and my dad hates the AC so it gets super hot and I get sweaty. He would not let me touch the AC... Buuuuuut when men have yellow stains it’s probably sweat and bacteria turning it yellow 🤮

Angeli_33 · 2021-07-28T14:03:03+00:00

That's most likely body grease. I used to rub my body in castor oil and flaxseed oil and destroyed my linen that I has to throw away. I even destroyed my pillow since I put the oil on my face. It was part of my extreme natural lifestyle phase where everything I used had to be 100% natural. It was experimental and turned out to totally not be for me. Anyway, after I destroyed my linen, I threw the oil away and replaced it with a nice smelling, organic body lotion and facial moisturizer. It's more pricey, but worth it. Now I just use castor oil on my lashes, occassionally I'll use shea butter but til now shea has not been leaving stains and I only use it a little.

FrenchHeel · 2021-07-28T13:23:05+00:00

They are greasy, oily animals. I use a small amount of dish soap and oxyclean on the hot plus soak cycle to cut the grease when I wash pillowcases. It’s just his head (?) I’ve heard borax works well too.

But better, don’t let him sleep over until you’re engaged lol.

Emergency-Feed8216 · 2021-07-28T23:46:00+00:00

I'm not one to defend men out of hand, but more testosterone = furnace when they sleep.

My husband showers up to three times a day. But like another commenter noted, sweat has urea in it. He sweats when he sleeps.

It's nice to sleep next to a furnace on really cold nights, but what makes me forgive him is a) he's kind of sheepish about it; b) did laundry until we could afford to hire someone else to do it.

My teen sons are kind of turning into testosterone-monsters-- the deep voices, etc. But they're both neater and fussier than my daughter, constantly shower, can't stand stained clothing or disorganization. But the key thing is raising them to clean up after their own maleness.

One downside of finally being able to afford help at home is the danger that kids might miss this lesson. My middle son lost his phone for a month for complaining to the housekeeper-- an amazing single mother who we're sponsoring through nursing school-- about something she did that wasn't up to his standards. We also made him change his own sheets and wash and fold his own clothes for quite a while after that. If he's ever going to land a hv woman, he'd better know how.

He was never disrespectful again. It's great that he likes everything neat. But men are responsible for the upkeep of being male.

Constant-Wanderer · 2021-07-28T17:12:16+00:00

The fuck?

I was married to an alcoholic, had two LTR with musicians, many flings with bartenders and other nighttime denizens, and a variety of others between then and my now SO, who is outdoorsy/academically minded, and I have never once seen time-release stains, or any other kind of stains, aside from the junkie who pissed himself. What in the two-legged slug shittery is happening over there??

sassyheather · 2021-07-28T17:24:31+00:00

Uhm excuse me, but I’ll have to disagree. I’ve looked at 3 different mattresses my boyfriend has slept on for a good amount of time and there were no stains.

mscristalconnors · 2021-07-28T19:08:41+00:00

What? 😭

FDS-GFY · 2021-07-29T04:13:56+00:00

Absolutely true. Wtf? My lvx showered every day and still left yellow stains on the sheets and mattress.

Then had the fucking audacity to complain about the cost of a mattress pad.

I get my own place next week. I am ordering a top of the line mattress…a zippered enclosure for it, and he will never ever fucking sleep on it.

Fatt3stAveng3r · 2021-07-28T12:01:16+00:00

What??

mashibeans · 2021-07-28T16:00:35+00:00

So I just want to ask... how many "hygienic" men do you know? (let alone HVM that don't drink and don't smoke on top of it) Like legit how do you know they properly shower AND scrub well, get in all the nooks and crannies, keep a CLEAN soap sponge/towel, use the proper soap (some people can use whatever, some need specifically sensitive or special soaps) and shampoo and conditioner?

Some men MIGHT seem cleaner than others, but I suspect is more likely that the average woman has a better cleansing routine than them. They might be "cleaner" than the average LVM, but could still be juuuuust dirty enough to leave yellow stains.

These are just my thoughts and have no scientific data to back it up, but generally speaking women are encouraged to be cleaner and are put to higher hygiene standards than men.

Davina33 · 2021-07-28T21:08:50+00:00

It's all of that body hair, caked in sweat, sleeping near naked/naked and never showering before bed. I can't speak for all men but my ex boyfriend's could do with showering twice a day, instead of stinking the bed up at night and in the morning. I don't know, is this normal? Men just seem to smell stronger than women.

dancedancedance7 · 2021-07-29T01:42:10+00:00

Don't let anyone into your bed without them showering (for a long time with very hot water) first. There's nothing spontaneous or sexy about nasty bedsheets and a ruined mattress.

AphoticEnigma_ · 2021-07-28T15:20:00+00:00

Actually when I shared a bed with my sister there would be yellow stains on her side of the mattress Idk how or why And I noticed when I would change the sheets her pillows would have the same yellow stain 🤢

Radenoughyet · 2021-07-28T15:50:23+00:00

Yup I can attest to this. My ex would turn our sheets yellow and then insist on lying on the couch without a shirt on. And it’s not just color, it starts to smell after while.

WorkaholicParty · 2021-07-28T21:35:14+00:00

I actually cover my whole body with oil, and my sheets and pillows are pristine. Meanwhile my brothers used to occasionally leave yellow stains AFAIR.

But I also wear PJ + my mattress and memory foam pillows are protected + I always sleep with at least two cotton sheets (above and below) and finally I naturally have a low body temperature compared to other people.

I think it's probably eccessive sweat and a high body temp, maybe deodorant and a ventilation system are needed?

In don't sweat a lot, I have dry skin and hair. Even when I show up with unwashed hair the hairdresser tells me it isn't greasy but apparently that isn't a good sign.

victoriabowen8 · 2021-07-28T21:40:07+00:00

Mattress cover and black sheets - problem solved LOL

I wash my sheets weekly and I have a mattress/pillow protector. My mattress/pillows are 4 years old and still looks brand new.

ciaramcw · 2021-07-28T23:29:41+00:00

Ugh this happened with an ex of mine...nasty fucker

warinmymind94 · 2021-07-29T00:04:55+00:00

Probably because a lot of men sleep nude pf in their underwear, plus the fact they don't shower and the ones that do shower i don't think actually are using enough soap and really washing themselves properly. My one ex would shower but he wouldn't use enough soap and he didn't actually Scrub himself. So he was coming out still with some of that grease.

A lot of LVM are out of shape and sweat like crazy during the night.

They also don't wash their sheets/pillows/blankets enough. One ex when he did do laundry wasn't using enough detergent so stuff still kinda had a gross smell. For example large loads say to use 3 tide pods. This guy thought one was enough. He was using these laundry sheets it looked like a small piece of paper and it was gimmicky supposed to replace detergent and softener.

They also hold onto really old beat up blankets and pillows when they should have been tossed long ago. You all know the lvm lumpy pillow or the pancake pillow.

papanezismysaviour · 2021-07-29T01:24:48+00:00

A lot of men don't shower every day, let alone every night.

rainbowshummingbird · 2021-07-29T02:26:33+00:00

It’s their brain cells oozing out of their pores.

msinclaire · 2021-07-29T04:12:26+00:00

Even Jesus was a bit of a scrote that way. Witness: The Shroud of Turin.

marimare21 · 2021-07-29T06:38:04+00:00

I have never had This happen and I sometimes sleep with minimal clothing. My ex bf slept in pajamas and had nothing happen. Also he didn't stink too high heaven after sleeping!

Dang this is weird!!

PinkBlair99 · 2021-07-29T14:27:01+00:00

🤢🤢🤢🤢🤢🤢

I’ve lived with three men and never heard of this in my life.

Couldn’t be me.

_queeeen_ · 2021-07-29T16:56:18+00:00

Aaand suddenly it’s sheet day.

marimare21 · 2021-07-29T10:26:28+00:00

The contrast between a good boyfriend and a bad one is like night and day.

One year I had moved to a different city to do my doctorate. I was miserable, being away from him and my friends, living in a shitty flatshare, I didn't even like my doctorate topic all that much. So I needed support. I told him that I would like it if he texted more, because we couldn't see each other so often. Immediately he says "I'm a bad texter! I prefer in-person visits an calls and skype!"..... well we had incompatible schedules. Just me me me how much he can't be bothered, in hindsight.

Contrast to good boyfriend. He was also raised to not be a texter and prefers in-person communication. When I mentioned that I was feeling neglected and would like more communication, he apologized, immediately changed his behavior. Explained that, yes, he was socialized differently on this topic, but my feelings are valid and he will do his best to accommodate me. And he did! End if discussion, no drama.

Being in a good relationship fixed soooo much of my "neediness", insecurity and overall anxiety about addressing my needs. It may be a big deal but it doesn't mean it leads to a huge drama. I will keep this in mind for any future relationships, if I'm ever ready again.

Title	Why do men leave yellow stains on the sheets?
Author	MerleErEnPerle
Upvotes	348
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Date	July 28, 2021 11:56 AM UTC (5 years ago)
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