How do I know whether a potential partner consumes red pill content?

None0fYour8usiness · 2022-12-02T13:32:59+00:00

Some redpill bros are easy to spot. Others, who only agree with pieces of the redpill like me, are harder.

Most of the things and people you mentioned I heavily disagree with.

I think the most surefire way to gauge it asking how important they think looks are in dating.

Alternatively, if they're like me, you can literally just ask what they think of the redpill. But I know people like that are extremely rare.

GarPaxarebitches · 2022-12-02T10:32:19+00:00

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modidlee · 2022-12-02T17:35:29+00:00

You don't. We lie to get continued access to sex. If men tell boldface lies to women about them not being fat what makes you think they won't lie about some of their views on the male/female dynamic?

GhostofCamus · 2022-12-02T10:00:24+00:00

Check the floorboard of their car. What color are the Monster cans?

BittererWegwerf · 2022-12-02T10:10:01+00:00

Unless he mentions specific people, there is really no way of knowing. Some Red Pill talking points have even become mainstream so thats no indicator.

FineDevelopment00 · 2022-12-02T11:30:46+00:00

Pay close attention to the things he says and how he says them. RPrs tend to let things slip occasionally, momentarily revealing their underlying beliefs about women, men, and relationships. There will likely be suspicious behaviors too (study up on what "dread game", "plating", etc. entail so that you can better recognize these calculated toxicities if and when they occur.)

moosemc · 2022-12-02T13:01:17+00:00

I also, am concerned about people reading and watching things, that don't meet with my approval.

MacaroonGrand8802 · 2022-12-02T15:15:58+00:00

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SmarmyPapsmears · 2022-12-02T13:10:08+00:00

Sorry babe. There's no 100% way to make sure the guy you're interested in will be a subservient beta cuck.

Most men with any kind of experience will be jaded by women and see toxic patterns. Maybe you could try fighting against your own nature & preselection and pick a virgin guy?

Moneydamjan · 2022-12-02T10:04:00+00:00

if he has boundaries and calls you out on your bullshit, reads self development, wants to be rich and start a business, if he also takes care of his health and works out regularly, knows how to seduce women and values sex hes most likely a redpiller

FaithlessnessNo2495 · 2022-12-02T10:13:53+00:00

If he starts exercising out of nowhere

Meihuajiancai · 2022-12-02T10:02:34+00:00

Take it slow, don't commit yourself in 2 weeks. Keep your guard up for 2-3 months. A person can hide his/her traits for 1 day, 1 week even 1 month. But by accident, a slip of tongue or intentionally a person will show his/her true colours once he/she starts to get comfortable with you.

BrummieAMN19 · 2022-12-02T12:58:18+00:00

You simply wouldn’t if they’re not socially retarded, just how you wouldn’t spot a good PUA running game on you nor someone who is dark triad.

And the fact that they have suboptimal tactics in game trying to pickup women so results will be limited. That’s if they actually try and not make excuses on why they can’t get laid

warramite · 2022-12-02T11:01:45+00:00

Ask him for money, if he stays then you'll know he's a simp.

Early-Christmas-4742 · 2022-12-02T10:44:10+00:00

Why does it matter? If he's acting in a way that you don't like, do the reasons matter?

JoeRMD77 · 2022-12-02T14:53:28+00:00

I'm willing to bet money op Mary's one of these guys.

DzejSiDi · 2022-12-02T10:43:02+00:00

If he's buffed, or at least fit, you have no way of knowing it, because if he didn't forget about doing the work, he probably also remembers "don't talk about the fight club" rule.

If he talks about it, he's not the one, he just comsumes internet content, including that.

I've never heard about "top g" before Tate, so IMO you can safely assume he's a Tate viewer.

MarBitt · 2022-12-02T10:19:30+00:00

Nowadays, Andrew Tate is everywhere. The red pill is everywhere. Fresh and Myron are everywhere. Being a “top g”, cheating on your partner, not treating your wife “too well”, being “emotionally unavailable”, etc has taken over the internet.

I don't know them, so I'm probably not a redpiller. I have no idea how you could rule that out for sure. I would say that most advice on how to spot a redpiller will result in you being able to classify the vast majority of men as redpillers.

Moreover, if you mention these guys while dating, I'll probably look at them and then I'll know them. Does that make me a redpiller?

walterAizen · 2022-12-02T11:02:58+00:00

1st paragraph is based on pure false assumptions, 2nd paragraph is just asking for attention, True definition of chronologically online, suggest u make this a askwomen thread instead

John_Oakman · 2022-12-02T11:28:24+00:00

Chances are real men of manosphere are already predisposed to not be into you, and if you're offended by that the question then becomes why would you want to be attractive to the likes of them...

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Impossible_You_8555 · 2022-12-02T12:54:54+00:00

Well my ideology isn't what made me emotionally unavailable and I agreed with allot of trp (not all) before there was a trp

Fighting_dorks6969 · 2022-12-02T14:10:24+00:00

Really only if he tells you. Its default among the manophere that you keep your views secret as people are to emotional to handle them

Smitten_Squire · 2022-12-02T16:41:59+00:00

You cant unless he explicitly starts naming names of redpill gurus.

Note, some guys are naturally "alpha" and act that way naturally. So u cant tell just by that

SwaySh0t · 2022-12-02T16:48:57+00:00

Before you can identify something you first must define what that something is. Red pilled is a praxeology meaning it is a philosophy, tested and based on human behavior, it is not an ideology. The very fact that your looking into behavior of red pilled men means you actually red pilled yourself.

Some people are naturally red pill or what the seductions community calls “naturals”. Black men in general are going to be naturally more red pilled then other races based on my anecdotal observations.

Da_Famous_Anus · 2022-12-02T18:59:24+00:00

Stop insisting all Red Pill content is Andrew Tate.

HungerISanEmotion · 2022-12-02T10:59:03+00:00

Only date sissy femboys and you are 100% safe!

KlingKlangKing · 2022-12-02T10:38:17+00:00

An easy indicator is if they are cringe

spletharg2 · 2022-12-02T11:17:03+00:00

If he cares that some men might commit suicide.

HODL_monk · 2022-12-02T18:10:09+00:00

There are certain catch words used extensively in the RP community, if they use any of them, its very likely they are pretty deep into this content. I had a guy start saying some of these things in an otherwise normal conversation at work, and I 100 % knew he was redpilled. Stuff like All Women do _____, divorce rape, Disney as a verb, White Knight, Simp, or really any of the terms in the RP sidebar. These terms are just never used in normie conversations, so they kind of stick out like a soar thumb.

tadL · 2022-12-02T12:45:21+00:00

I did listen to them and I never heard they say you should cheat on your woman. Honestly they just say things that we all know. Don't marry a slut. Say what you like and what not like she will. And if there is now way both get what they want just leave. It's not worth it. Build up your foundation to be attractive to as many woman as possible. All the common human sense things

Infact what I always heard is stories of woman that have a men that is not a big g come to them to fuck with them in hope they live a rich people live.

CoffinEluder · 2022-12-02T10:09:58+00:00

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rida1886 · 2022-12-02T11:35:14+00:00

The world is filled with over 3.97 billion men.

The chances of dating a guy who follows a niche ideology off the internet is non-existent, unless you purposely talk to people in that circle.

Otherwise, regular people do not know what the fuck the red pill is.

hypotenoos · 2022-12-02T11:25:03+00:00

Aren’t most of these types pretty open about it? Like they wear it as a badge of honor?

WideAwake550 · 2022-12-02T12:34:19+00:00

Depends on the content.

Anecdotally, every other man I knew irl who followed Kevin Samuel's content was a stable man who was either married or monogamous.

Kevin's content differed greatly from the likes of F&F to begin with though. There's more than 1 "Red Pill" but, overall, the whole movement is mainly concentrated online and isn't truly mainstream.

Also, watching something online doesn't automatically make you a follower. I watch plenty of stuff online that I disagree with or only watch for entertainment purposes. For instance, there's a shit ton of "anti woke" content on the Internet that I watch just for the hot takes on movies/games/shows but I'll still watch/play those same things.

Koipisces · 2022-12-02T12:39:14+00:00

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Lift_and_Lurk · 2022-12-02T14:11:55+00:00

Just ask. It’s not like RP dudes are shy about boasting how “alpha” they are.

KayRay1994 · 2022-12-02T14:51:16+00:00

watch for any changes in their behavior or language - the good news is if guys commit to the red pill it becomes very obvious, especially with how they treat the women in their lives

fizeekfriday · 2022-12-02T18:26:24+00:00

He breathes. Unless you're living in a super liberal ultra-progressive area where that redpill shit actually doesn't hold up, most men have had some sort of "redpilling" life experience.

Hell technically I consume redpill content but it's not even what shifted my views. What shifted my views was the retrospective view of my childhood combined with my mothers behavior to this day.

I was raised by a single mother and I noticed that whenever I started getting more successful with girls on my own, my mother started HATING me.

I also noticed that whenever I conformed to my mothers behavior, I quite literally would only attract mentally ill girls with deadass 3/4 different mental illnesses. I told her this and somehow the fact that behavior that caters to her needs attracts the WORST OF THE WORST when it comes to girls, went straight over her head. 0 self awareness.

There are women out there who I guess are into bluepilled guys, but given that I'm black and the media still only presents black men "at the top of the game" as hypermasculine I don't really have a choice but to follow redpill shit if I want to be successful in dating.

Fancy-Respect8729 · 2022-12-02T10:19:45+00:00

The red pill / blue pill manosphere stuff has been around for years. Don't worry about it.

Gtedx · 2022-12-02T10:51:36+00:00

If he starts lifting weights, focuses more on his career and becomes more assertive.

No_Reflection_798 · 2022-12-02T17:24:58+00:00

You are making a lot of assumptions, and letting the "what ifs" paralyze you.

MGTOW and Red Pill is, at its core fundamentals, a healthy mental exercise to challenge yourself and make yourself stronger. This applies to both sexes.

But, as with any philosophy, the extreme prophets are just that - extreme.

Have conversations with the guy. Afraid to get intimate until you are sure? There is a huge gray area of affection that is safe. Trust him, until you have a reason not to. The gray area is where you should try to become comfortable, and where you should aim your actions.

And, for the love of God, do not take one thing he said and end the relationship over it. Maybe he misunderstood you. Maybe you misunderstood him. Don't treat your potential relationships like an episode of "Seinfeld".

Georgist_Muddlehead · 2022-12-02T10:56:28+00:00

The vast majority of guys aren’t terminally online freaks.

Does he have normal-ass interests and goes outside occasionally? Fine.

Is his only hobby going on the computer? Uh oh.

WildCardSolly4 · 2022-12-02T15:14:59+00:00

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lovestocomment · 2022-12-02T16:46:50+00:00

What makes you think a blue pilled man won't treat you the same or worse? Smh...

abaxeron · 2022-12-02T12:07:48+00:00

I don’t want to make the mistake of getting with someone who holds these ideologies

Let's say you get with someone who doesn't. What then, you'll monitor him and keep him cut off from the Internet for the rest of his life?

medlabunicorn · 2022-12-02T15:19:29+00:00

Hang out on here and in other fora like men’s rights, and you start to pick up on some of the key concepts and phrases. Most people aren’t good liars, and they’ll drop key phrases or display attitudes towards certain topics. Examples are men saying ‘my ex wife took half of my money,’ which basically means that he thinks that career-less women should take care of the house and kids for free, or even that these things are ‘gifts’ that he has given her and that she should be grateful for, and just …live on the street with the kids, after a divorce? Or he should get ‘custody,’ and hire a full-time nanny to care for his kids, while the mom lives on the street…?

Anyone who says, ‘all of my exes were psycho,’ is a red flag. Either he’s been choosing crazy women, or he’s been driving normal women nuts, or he thinks normal women are nuts.

Anyone who expresses contempt or paternalistic amusement towards his gf/partner/mother.

Anyone who uses the term ‘hypergamy’ or ‘branch swinging’ in anything but an ironic manner.

LoverBaite · 2022-12-02T11:50:12+00:00

Ask them

MysterySolverDog · 2022-12-02T14:58:57+00:00

Do you care about false positives? As far as I'm aware guys in the red pill space would never vote for a left wing candidate. If you are in the US, I'm aware that access to abortion is a major concern at the moment so political beliefs are on a lot of people's radars. The reasons why people vote Democratic are either because they agree with the candidate or because they're engaging in "lesser evil" voting, a red piller is highly unlikely to have either of these two mindsets. This doesn't screen for anything else effectively but I'm confident only dating left wing voters cuts out red pillers, it just cuts out a whole lot of other people too.

Stunning-Spirit5275 · 2022-12-02T19:20:40+00:00

Just ask him if he disagrees with feminism. That will mean he’s a pilled inkwell

akaean · 2022-12-02T14:20:50+00:00

Check out and show them Munecat's video on the manosphere, or Coffeezilla's video on Andrew Tate

While Coffee isn't breadtube by any stretch of the word, he centers his channel on calling out scammers... so fake gurus like Tate are a natural target for him...

Munecat is of course bread tube- in the same line as other great youtubers like Contrapoints or Hbomberguy.

In general, if you are concerned that someone has or may have been radicalized by bullshit online, expose them to some of the counter viewpoints especially those that more closely align with what you believe, and see how they react to them.

Me, since I stopped posting here, I get all my dating advice from Drag Queens. Fresh & Myron? More like Trixie & Katya!

Georgist_Muddlehead · 2022-12-02T13:02:06+00:00

I tried to make a poll about this, but I don't think it's been approved yet

https://www.reddit.com/r/polls/comments/zaljdy/do_you_believe_in_the_red_pill_in_the_context_of/

I'm not sure a high proportion of people believe this stuff

Treacle-Flimsy · 2022-12-02T13:48:35+00:00

Ask him what colour is his Bugatti

nicethingyoucanthave · 2022-12-02T14:33:44+00:00

Here's the thing: the only purpose of "the red pill" is to change ourselves into whatever it is that you are attracted to.

If all women collectively decided that the most attractive thing in the world is a man who is good at math, then by tomorrow night TRP would be full of posts saying, "teach me calculus!"

So, you mention andrew tate. Are the things he says actually true? If they're actually true - if he's giving advice that makes men more attractive to you, then what exactly is the problem?? If you're going to say that he's misogynistic etc. That's not answering the question.

Do the things that andrew tate suggests make men more attractive? If they do - if men who listen to him are more attractive ... but you still don't like what he says, then you need to do some soul searching, because the real problem is that you women are attracted to these toxic things.

On the other hand, if the men who listen to him are not more attractive, then you don't need help avoiding them.

So which is it, ladies? Is Tate correct - and therefore you women have some work to do. Or is Tate wrong - and therefore you should have no trouble avoiding the men because they wont be attractive to you.

LotBuilder · 2022-12-02T14:35:44+00:00

I’m a guy but here is what I do. “Let’s play a game so we can get to know each other better… send me your your Spotify and podcast list… here is mine.”

SegaNaLeqa · 2022-12-02T15:33:47+00:00

Personally from what I’ve experienced, those attached (as in they find every possible chance to bring it up) to the “Alpha/Beta/Sigma male” theories or call a man a simp for doing something very small for their loved one, is indication they consume that kind of content.

Kobe_curry24 · 2022-12-02T16:15:08+00:00

Wither it’s men with Redpill or women running girl game and let’s be honest girl game is just Redpill Shit female version I think instead of worrying about a niche you need to just be worried about first if you “ like “ the person and deception at all accounts and if they are liars or manipulative,you need to Vet people for what you deem is worthy to date for “you” , if you don’t want a liar ask them something you already know about them . Each sex plays a game the key is really to find someone secure cause it’s really 3 different types secure ,anxious and you got anxious and distance people really the worse . Red pill is least you need to worry About it was formulated so guys can wake up and learn about women bad sides before being caught off guard

Kobe_curry24 · 2022-12-02T16:20:17+00:00

Guys andrew Tate is not red pill he’s prolly more black pill so you have misinformation all around men and women both need to educate themselves on things before deciding they hate something because social media says hate this social media is not real Lmfaoooo news can be deception as you get older and removed the kiddy goggles you have to be good at reading deception the funny thing is red pill actually helps with that but you can learn many forms of this what do you think cops learn for integration Lmfaoooo

no_re-entry · 2022-12-02T18:42:28+00:00

How much have you listened to AT? Only clips, or full uncut interviews? Are you making a judgement without even knowing who he is or what he says? (Not just spouting off what other people have said without even checking yourself)

Idk who Fresh and Myron are.

Being a “top g”, cheating on your partner, not treating your wife “too well”, being “emotionally unavailable”— none or these are things that are redpill in the end. They might seem that way since many spout that bullshit from having the wrong idea/motivation for redpill, but anyone who is advocating this is not true redpill.

In the end, redpill is about achieving and knowing one’s own worth.

Maybe try and understand redpill, and I mean really actually try and understand (like you would try to understand a college course) and see what you think then.

It might also help if you go check out the red pill women subreddits for an even better purview.

calIras · 2022-12-02T19:22:30+00:00

Ask him to define "husband". RP men will define the verb, not the noun.

AnnoKano · 2022-12-02T19:23:53+00:00

Avoid dating teenage boys.

MarjieJ98354 · 2022-12-02T20:14:18+00:00

Don't RP men expect women to foot half or all of the bills even before you are exclusive?! RP men thrive off of Feminist or women that feel they must foot part of the bills or help a brother out, before they even know that brother is not spinning other plates. And I'm not saying you should help a man if he's not self sufficient. (Well I won't!) But if you are footing the bills from day one, it's more like your man is red pill.

LuvKFCthighswomen · 2022-12-02T20:39:27+00:00

If they consume this content they are crazy .

I'll just leave this here .

https://www.reddit.com/r/NotHowGirlsWork/comments/ymvffe/andrew_tate_is_literally_a_glorified_women_beat/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=android_app&utm_name=androidcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button

Abusing a woman that has never spoken out. There's another video where his ex says it was a kink however this girl in particular hasn't came out and said anything despite the flack he's getting for it.

https://www.reddit.com/r/NotHowGirlsWork/comments/ym777s/andrew_tate_fans_are_saying_this_is_a_kink_and/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=android_app&utm_name=androidcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button

bottomLobster · 2022-12-02T22:20:12+00:00

This is quite misguided. It is like asking "how can I spot a man carrying a gun not to date him". Which is a valid preference, but it is no indicator if he uses it for good or bad, it's about the men himself. In the same way, if someone knows red pill does not tell you if the relationship will be good or bad.

Skadi793 · 2022-12-02T22:39:50+00:00

I think there is a lot of confusion here regarding what RP actually is (in a general sense)

RP is NOT "cheating on your partner" as a matter of course. It is not deliberately mistreating your GF or wife. It isn't being emotionally unavailable out of some adherence to an arbitrary rule. Andrew Tate has very little to do with RP

But let's talk about what taking the RP actually means:

The realization that women do not want sentimental, emotional, or fragile men. Most women want Ken dolls with fat wallets--they don't want deep discussions, traditional romance, culture, etc. --they want dumb Joeys with big dicks and good credit ratings. Sorry, that is just reality
The realization that women view fidelity and honesty as weakness. Men without options are considered undesirable because of mimetic desire (what other women want is what I want). The more women the Ken doll bangs, the more desirable he becomes
Realizing the dynamics of hypergamy

If your guy is aloof, uninterested, and dodgy, he might not be RP, but he understands. If he has other girls on his phone and social media, vanishes for a couple weeks here and there--he is practicing RP strategies. If he doesn't engage in "deep discussions" or get sentimental ...

RP is about what women want, and how men contend with it.

yungcameltoe · 2022-12-02T23:22:20+00:00

Move to an alternative universe. It’s too late

KoyoriIsHere · 2022-12-02T23:24:10+00:00

Idk, and why does it matter ? I mean look at what content I consume, I just stay what I am. Andrew Tate being everywhere isn't bad, it's just a trend, it'll prolly be gonne in a few years. I don't know what's the problem with following tate or smth. Like you can still be respectful and lovely, or just stay what you are no matter what content you consume.

venusianfireoncrack · 2022-12-03T00:07:46+00:00

Ask what they think about Kevin Samuels

jayval90 · 2022-12-03T02:16:00+00:00

Actually talk to them and don't base your relationship on feelings of attraction and how good the sex is.

Or just take the Red Pill yourself. There's plenty in it for women, too.

bodaciousbonsai · 2022-12-03T02:49:31+00:00

You talk to them like a normal person, don't put out too soon if that's something you're concerned about, and, you know, get to know them as a person.

WakeupJabTD · 2022-12-03T02:53:02+00:00

Standards and a sense of self worth. Backbone is another red flag. Run queen

antimetaboleIsntDeep · 2022-12-03T04:12:54+00:00

Ask them what color their Bugatti is.

BitsAndBobs304 · 2022-12-03T07:10:07+00:00

How do I tell if a potential partner consumes internet content?

paranormal_shoes · 2022-12-03T08:12:09+00:00

Please let me know so I can find one. I laugh when a man tells me that he's a "feminist" thinking it will somehow impress me. In fact, it's the exact opposite.

WildCardSolly4 · 2022-12-03T14:52:58+00:00

Lmao I’m not even rp fr I just like women and sex and any idiot that gets exposed doesn’t know how to woke fish…. The easy out is having an open mind and knowing whAt you want as a man . Men with pride or socially awkward as hell are the only ones getting busted by ANY of these tricks etc.

Transmigratory · 2022-12-03T23:09:37+00:00

Unless they're numpties like some of the obvious bittercels and mad women you'll see in this sub, you won't spot them easily.

Dstar538888 · 2022-12-04T10:48:06+00:00

RP males tend to think women are only good enough for sex but don't want to commit, so a really good way to weed out these types of guys and repulse them is by not sleeping with them until they agree to be in a committed relationship with you first...

Workaholiconew · 2022-12-11T22:25:38+00:00

There is no really feasible way, the whole point of TRP is about learning to go around people keeping them in the dark about yourself.

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