Advice for a 37 year old virgin

Elbynerual · 2022-09-24T19:00:40+00:00

It's likely your conversation/social skills or a lack of confidence.

calwaterops · 2022-09-24T19:31:14+00:00

Check out “social animal” channel on YouTube. Genuinely good advice regarding interacting with other people.

Edit: I don’t know how your groom yourself or how you dress so make sure that’s on point too. The most important thing though, is to take risks . Get comfortable with being vulnerable and expressing your attraction and romantic interest. Like really comfortable. Expect rejection most of the time, but you have to exercise that muscle. You’re not always going to get a cue that the girl is into you, and maybe you never will unless you’re extremely attractive but you would have known that by now if that’s the case. Take more risks. Trust me, if you take anything from this, let it be that.

joos11 · 2022-09-24T19:08:07+00:00

Stop looking at porn on Reddit.

Gaydame · 2022-09-24T19:26:01+00:00

Your problems are beyond the scope of reddit

Therapy

ghrinz · 2022-09-24T20:08:51+00:00

“Probably I’m the oldest virgin on this sub” that’s your problem. Stop guessing and comparing yourself first. Second focus on a higher purpose goal, ie being happy with where you’re or achieving something materialistic or making the world a better place. You’re happy that you have a close female friend, wow. That’s so safe of you. Do you like her? Go ask her out. Be a man. You working out and having a better than average built is of no use if you’re a pussy from the inside. Take risk, it’s okay if she rejects you, it’s not the end of the world. You’ll end up going back to what your goal since having a gf shouldn’t be a goal.

See a pretty girl, chat up casually see how she responds, then get her number, or even ask her out if she’d like to grab drinks sometime.

Think win-win. There is no if, if she says no, cool go back to doing whatever you’re doing anyways. If she agrees, nice test her out, if she’s a good fit to your life as a gf and never put a woman in pedestal. Lead and take risks, enjoy the feminine energy, never hate them or get insecure for a rejection.

This applies to everything in life and not just to finding gf.

Update: dude you workout consistently that’s a hell of an achievement, a lot of people lack that kind of discipline. I would love to have that kind of discipline. You’re a winner already bro! A rejection by a random woman would never phase you for what you’ve achieved.

YYC9393 · 2022-09-24T22:56:15+00:00

“Not bald”

F U guy

revente · 2022-09-24T20:56:30+00:00

Probably I am the oldest virgin on this sub,

Dude you're on reddit. 37 is a rookie number.

Ask her on a date. During the date escalate physically to a kiss. Get her to your place within the 3 first dates.

Don't fall in love with the first girl that fucks you.

Dafiro93 · 2022-09-24T19:00:46+00:00

How many women have you asked out in the last month? Also what does your own personal business gross in income? There's a difference in business owners who make $500/month and $10k/month.

joculator · 2022-09-24T19:44:31+00:00

I find it hard to believe that by the age of 37 you haven't accidentally ran into some woman who wants to get with you. Are you deliberately trying to push them away or something?

Phire95 · 2022-09-25T01:30:13+00:00

46 yo virgin here. I'm still trying to figure out how to "get over myself " and find a guy to be my first. Fingers crossed! 😁

staggerlee718 · 2022-09-24T19:28:43+00:00

Your problem is that you are trying to do everything right. How about you start doing everything wrong.

Dangerous_Wasabi_523 · 2022-09-24T20:23:14+00:00

Pretend you are not a virgin and start dating girls like usual. It’s that simple.

dump_fool · 2022-09-24T18:58:38+00:00

You asked this question so many times on reddit.

You received advice like "express your intent" - it's the only advice you need.

Ask girls out > grab the hands of those who like you > kiss them > invite them home.

aeroaca9 · 2022-09-24T20:32:31+00:00

Dude just pay for hookers and hire a surrogate if you want a child.

Contango6969 · 2022-09-24T18:58:17+00:00

Sounds like motivation is your issue maybe. Stop watching porn or something

Iamallthereis · 2022-09-24T22:10:48+00:00

Wait three more years for the advice 🤌

Necrosaro_123 · 2022-09-24T19:27:11+00:00

I'm going to be brutally honest with you. If you dont ask the ladies out or approach at least 10 ladies in a week...there is no chance of getting a relationship.

My advice is, read: - Models, by Mark Manson - No more Mr. Nice guy by Dr. Robert Glover (married a mexican).

There are tons of good advices there for your.

Extra advice: If you have no luck and you are from the US. Go to Monterrey in Mexico. Ladies there are into guys from the US. Do Home Office there if you can or just visit the city for a few days for the night life in San Pedro area.

Good Luck.

Previous-Geologist-2 · 2022-09-25T00:43:25+00:00

talk to your female friends. you don’t have to tell them you’re a virgin if that is not something you’re comfortable with, it’s also just not a detail everyone needs to know, but talk with them and get advice on dating. they know you better than strangers on reddit do!

gcool7 · 2022-09-24T19:10:34+00:00

What kind of business do you have and is it conducive to meeting women?

burncushlikewood · 2022-09-24T22:30:36+00:00

You need to approach women whether in a bar/night club or in the street. You need to learn what to say, and when to say it, you need to learn body language, and you need to be able to read her so you know when to kiss, and escalate. I would suggest starting from scratch and to immerse yourself into the manosphere, study, read, adapt and learn. I was a virgin too then I lost it when I was 16, hooked up with a few attractive women, which I find attractive what other men may not. You remind me of the guys at the beginning of vh1s the pick up artist, you should watch the show, and I suggest watching YouTube videos to get a grip on how to handle your interactions with the opposite sex https://youtu.be/3pM77Xt4rVk https://youtu.be/CC_7NfZ1-Js

montanalombardy · 2022-09-24T23:45:16+00:00

Honestly, your life seems in order. I think your biggest problem is you probably don't pursue women and never ask women out.

If you have friends, and if your life is in order like you said, basically ask every single women you know and one will say yes. Probably more than one.

Armando1917 · 2022-09-25T04:59:18+00:00

Stop thinking that being bald causes issues. Lol

Mr_Red_Reddington · 2022-09-25T05:49:48+00:00

Hire a dating coach at this point. Stop figuring out everything by yourself.

bemore_ · 2022-09-24T19:58:44+00:00

You need a therapist

Mymomdidwhat · 2022-09-24T21:58:11+00:00

Get off this sub. Most of the people here know nothing about women.

tomasmanik · 2022-09-24T20:23:27+00:00

Groom yourself, use attractive perfume, always look neat, with your clothes clean and ironed. Have your home clean and tidy. Be kind, when people talk to you let your heart shine trough your words. Don’t be scared to have a big (yet not annoying) personality. Go into dating apps if you haven’t tried those. And most importantly, sex is super overrated, so don’t stress too much about that

Jasonhardon · 2022-09-24T20:45:34+00:00

Get a dating coach. In the old days people used to get laid after marriage so don’t feel too bad. Just think of yourself as old fashioned.

NotsocuriousOrpheus · 2022-09-24T22:06:10+00:00

Wait until you're 40

Andress1 · 2022-09-24T23:28:58+00:00

Very simple. Self improvement(Looks and finance) and taking massive amounts of action.

If you can hit on 1000 women in a socially acceptable way you are gonna get laid, and a lot.

Migluee · 2022-09-24T23:30:19+00:00

Have you tried asking your close female friend for help? Typically, women specifically, that have known you for a long time would be better at helping you.

SantoSturmio · 2022-09-25T00:26:51+00:00

Honestly I would get coaching

We're all just guessing here what the issue is that you need to work on A professional evaluation would be the best and most efficient way forward

Vinnyqn96 · 2022-09-25T01:08:30+00:00

Maybe you have lower social skills and a lack in your self-confidence and actitude. You shoud to make and practice some hobbies that would help you to gain more self-esteem and increase your comunication habilities. I recomend you some classes of theater or dance (or even a therapy to share your problems with a psicologist).

I don't know ir you're a conservative and religious guy, but go to a prostitute could be a little solution.

prashrey · 2022-09-25T04:35:17+00:00

Just be direct. Try to speak what you think. In a polite way ofcourse. Stop trying to get a gf, try to establish connections. Success rate might not be high but what you'll end up with will be real and meaningful

flaring_ceaser_068 · 2022-09-25T04:46:36+00:00

Stop being the nice guy and make a move (ask for just coffee or a bar) with a girl you think is interested.

zed_sin · 2022-09-25T09:39:34+00:00

People are not gonna like this advice. But here it goes

1) Too many female friends is not a good thing. 2) if you have to just get rid of virginity. Goto a pro, so that you get it over with. You are making a big deal of it and it will affect your relationships. Plus women wont want a 37 year old Virgin. Trust me its bad 3) Then use tinder or seeking arrangements to get some experience with girls. Use it to get some confidence in bed. 4) start taking to girls everywhere 5) learn to flirt and escalate things 6) set up dates. Ask for numbers. Get rid of fear of rejection

After you are there. Ask question again.

Ps: dont get into a serious relationship (i mean live in/marriage) you are not ready for it.

Ecofre-33919 · 2022-09-25T12:46:11+00:00

At this point I’d say go where it is legal and hire some prostitutes that are not human trafficking victims. Tell them your situation, pay them well and have sex with them. This will build your confidence and you’ll have an idea about what to do in the bedroom. It will take the pressure off.

Then to meet girls join clubs or volunteer and do meetup groups.

OnlineDater1234 · 2022-09-25T13:01:38+00:00

Ask your female friends for help.

BallsOfSteeeeel · 2022-09-25T13:11:07+00:00

What have you tried?

anou142 · 2022-09-25T13:32:12+00:00

Get an escort for a whole weekend and fuck her to ur heart’s content.. i am sure it will help a lot changing your mindset and perspective…. U can even ask her for some tips on what u might be doing wrong.

OriginalMandem · 2022-09-25T13:46:42+00:00

Honestly I'd have just paid someone by that point. Experience without the stress. Pick the right SW though, obviously.

ArjunVermaReddit · 2022-09-24T19:25:40+00:00

Dont let your "record" affect you. You have learned enough about socializing and seduction through watching others. You dont need advice here, and the fact that youre asking for it just shows your lack of confidence. Sometimes the lack of confidence is just a phantom feeling that has no basis anymore, realize that and just be more ballsy with your hands and get the action you want

MembershipPlus2082 · 2022-09-24T20:14:33+00:00

My advice? don't look for advice on reddit.

TheCultOfGrogg · 2022-09-25T02:44:34+00:00

Just get an escort.

Honestly, modern women aren’t worth a damn if you’re looking for a relationship. When I say they are “dead weight” in relationships, I mean I can’t find a more quintessential example of “dead weight” than the modern woman. Their standards rose, meaning they expect you to be more, make more, etc..but they do less. All they really had to do was cook and clean to begin with…stuff they’d presumably be doing already as adults but now they practically stop cleaning when in a relationship solely in protest of being of any service to a man, and they don’t cook, and even if they do, 9 times out of 10 it won’t be something worth tasting.

Basically I think you have FOMO (fear of missing out). I’d say get over it, because you’re not really missing out on anything. When it comes to sex, I promise you (and when you get laid you will realize this), it doesn’t feel better than porn and wanking. Men hold 100% of the burden of sexual performance, so in bearing that weight and the performance anxiety that comes with it you’ll likely be doing less visually stimulating acts than you see in porn, and there’s not an orifice on a woman that is anywhere near as tight as the grip of your hand. When you combine that lack of relative stimulation with the fact that you’re now exerting a hell of a lot more physical effort during sex rather than just sitting in a chair, it’s most likely just going to feel like you’re doing a workout and trying like hell to stay hard, not so you can enjoy it because you’ll quickly convince yourself “this is unenjoyable”, but so that she won’t think less of you as a man. I promise you, sex will feel like a chore if you watch porn often and start seeing a woman regularly and like many men, you’ll grow to resent sex in that regard. I’m not saying don’t start seeing a woman, do as you want, life is an experience meant to be experienced…but I’m telling you as someone who lost his virginity a bit later in life, as someone who grew up on porn, and as someone who was massively underwhelmed by sex when he got it…sex was a chore for me…my ex was hot as hell and it still was a chore. I mean, she had the looks of a pornstar herself and I hated sex with her. I loved her as a person (initially), but I unreasonably wanted a relationship with her that consisted of no sex. I fucking hated sex. I did maintenance sex for her at the time and it would always be a nightmare of me trying to stay hard the entire time. During covid she got laid off and it was the worst because she was always home and sometimes I just wanted to jack off real quick but couldn’t with her around. She cheated, predictably, I can’t blame her, but I despised the dishonesty that’s all.

There are the men who grew up getting women and have never really adapted to masturbation and porn so the baseline for their pleasure is a lot lower, thus they enjoy sex a lot more and women enjoy sex a lot more with them. Sort of like how an occasional blunt is a great experience for someone who doesn’t smoke but to a heroin addict it won’t do shit for them because they’re used to so much more stimulation. But as many guys start watching porn younger and younger, they grow up masturbating and few will admit, out of shame, that masturbation is a feedback loop of pleasure that far exceeds the pleasure a woman can provide. You are entirely in control of your orgasm and stimulation, whereas with sex, it’s just not the same. In porn the women are hotter and you have infinitely many of them, they’re doing things an in-person woman would never do, your grip is tighter, your lube may feel better than her “natural lube”, you don’t have to exert any physical effort, and you have 100% privacy meaning no performance anxiety at all. The only thing that IRL sex probably takes the cake on in the sensory department is the smell…this will sound weird but I’ll be frank..there’s a conventionally unpleasant yet viscerally arousing odor even in perfectly hygienic women that exists (from the ass an and pussy), and you obviously won’t get that from porn. There’s also the ego boost you get from actually being the one doing the fucking rather than watching…but that’s about it.

So my advice to you again is just get an escort if you want to get it out the way. That might actually be better because a regular chick is there for HER pleasure and an escort is there for YOURS, so she’ll be more patient, and honestly, if you can’t get or stay hard she might actually like it because that’s basically a paid break for her.

If you’re in fact looking for a relationship, I would say go in with a blank slate of expectations. I’m trying to tell you, if you go in thinking it is going to be some mind-blowing, life-altering experience, given that unmet expectations are the source of all disappointment, you WILL BE DISAPPOINTED, and that, over time, will lead to resentment. I’d say if you are going to get in a relationship you HAVE TO RE-SENSITIZE yourself to less vigorous stimulation. Basically, either stop watching porn and jacking altogether, or loosen the death grip quite a bit. That’s another thing I can guarantee, if you have death grip syndrome you WILL not feel a thing when fucking.

If I were you, I’d start with escorts assuming they’re legal where you’re at. Escorts will allow you to get into sex without the judgment from likely the most sexually experienced generation of women to ever exist, coming down on you who is sexually inexperienced and sexually disoriented - if you get with some normal chick she will be VERY impatient and in feeling that judgment and inadequacy, you run the risk of ruining sex for you as you might begin to associate it with rejection and failure. I’d start with an escort, a professional one, and I’d tell her your circumstance. A good one will actually pump up your ego. She’ll be understanding. Once you get used to sex and proficient at it, then move on to regular chicks.

Hope this helped. Good luck.

Majestic_Meal_5655 · 2022-09-24T20:48:41+00:00

Therapy

MSAPPLIEDSTATS · 2022-09-24T21:42:51+00:00

You don't lift and you're really skinny. You need to put on some weight.

zapadz · 2022-09-24T22:14:19+00:00

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RussianBoa · 2022-09-25T01:44:33+00:00

by 1/2/3/4,

do you mean you lift 405 deadlift, 315 squat, 225 bench, 135 overhead? If so, you're pretty damn strong for your size and weight. Good job.

46yearoldpimp · 2022-09-24T21:28:33+00:00

In my opinion you are 37 and your best bet here is to get a hooker and lose your virginity. I think that can help you with your confidence a little and take it from there.

YNG4eva · 2022-09-24T21:48:57+00:00

Why have you never hired a sex worker ?

dub_side · 2022-09-24T20:11:05+00:00

Read Models by Manson learn how to express what you want

dontmakemethink294 · 2022-09-24T21:15:41+00:00

First ... hookers ..

then, gain confidence and dont worry, try new experiences and try to know ppl

smokingkrack · 2022-09-25T07:05:33+00:00

Dude just get a prostitute. No shame in that.

Frosty-Fact21 · 2022-09-25T01:25:31+00:00

ScarletSpencer96 · 2022-09-25T04:21:05+00:00

Sounds like your in need of a secondary circle of friends 😉. You might have become complacent with your current friends, and everyone is too comfortable with there positions. Try engage with new people as you go about life. In the shops, work, excercising, etc.

The thought of taking your virginity kind of turns me on 🤫.

atritt94 · 2022-09-25T04:58:16+00:00

Meh. I had sex at 17 and the first thing he said to me was: “yeah.. I don’t like you “like that” ok?” Then proceeded a series of poor decisions, including a very long, abusive relationship that resulted in very detrimental consequences years after. Sounds fun, huh?

Stay a Virgin. Stay golden ponyboy.

kggz213 · 2022-09-25T06:01:22+00:00

Don’t mean to be random or weird.. but do you have a complex? Maybe you’re small down there?

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IceMysterious4265 · 2022-09-24T19:58:40+00:00

You're almost kinda screwed. Do you make alot of money?

Single-Leadership-67 · 2022-09-24T21:27:26+00:00

u r so lost and so late that only PUA scams will work. so old oh my god. at 37 u should be wrapping up your life not startin it

python834 · 2022-09-24T19:39:24+00:00

Honestly, you aint a good prospect.

2k a month for your own business is worth less than working at chick fil a.

You aint even 6 feet tall to compensate for shit income.

The fact you about to hit 40 makes it even worse.

Wtf have you been doing for the last 19 years?

EDIT:

Getting downvoted by losers.

If you aint making money and aint getting chicks, wtf have you been doing this whole time?

jackedsoon · 2022-09-25T03:05:14+00:00

OVER

AssistTemporary8422 · 2022-09-25T05:15:00+00:00

Have you tried hitting on a girl?

IfUReadThisUrAVirgin · 2022-09-25T02:20:46+00:00

37 year old Virgin? Can't relate was 13 when I lost my virginity.

MentalCelOmega · 2022-09-25T04:04:30+00:00

I'm afraid that you are well past the point of no return for obtaining a female. Sorry, but that is just what fate has for you.

WhiteRollins24 · 2022-09-24T21:22:47+00:00

Where do you live sir? In a city or a small town? What country? Location plays a part in this.

Forsaken-Junket7631 · 2022-09-24T21:30:25+00:00

Part of it might be your values, attitude, approach, or confidence. Part of the reason it was easier to speak with women after getting a girlfriend was because there were no longer any real stakes other than maybe leading them on. That’s sort of helpful. Not being confident because you are great, but rather because whether she loves you or hates you it’ll all be ok. I guess what I’m getting at is unearned confidence. You have to work for it. It doesn’t come naturally. At this point I can talk to most people just fine bc I don’t care if they hate me when I’m done. Or rather, I don’t worry. I do care enough to put in effort. But not out of fear for the outcomes. Rather because I want to achieve positive outcomes for all involved. Also, dating is all about people finding someone that works for them. You could be the hottest, most charming, & most successful person on earth and you still wouldn’t be the one for everybody. Honestly, if none of the advice posted here works within a month, then reply to this comment or DM me or something and we can work on specifics for you. It’s a weary world and I’d hate to see ya sitting lonely.

Plane_Reflection6053 · 2022-09-24T21:34:08+00:00

You got money man just pay for it.

almostadaddy · 2022-09-24T21:34:31+00:00

Learn how recognize when women are interested in being approached and do so.

Nate64 · 2022-09-24T21:52:57+00:00

Do you speak English?

Lit-Up · 2022-09-24T21:56:27+00:00

Stop expecting a girlfriend before you have sex. Have sex and then maybe you will get a girlfriend. That's how it works

novasolid64 · 2022-09-24T22:02:37+00:00

Just fuck and get it over with

Beginning-Ad-8041 · 2022-09-24T22:47:22+00:00

Take a bootcamp with a coach in Vegas, I went to one and it helped tremo

OriginalPostrSociety · 2022-09-24T23:42:06+00:00

You dont need a gf you need a hookup. And you mentioned a bunch of stuff but you left out the thing that women actually cafe about which is confidence and charisma. Get those down and then take massive amounts of action towards asking girls out.

Short-Pound2483 · 2022-09-24T23:43:12+00:00

Always remember not to rush things with a woman. As a life long porn watcher I realize letting things progress naturally is the way to go. Just keep putting yourself out there and learn.

danf87 · 2022-09-25T00:02:54+00:00

How many girls have you asked out?

Alcoholic__Engineer · 2022-09-25T00:40:49+00:00

Buy a hooker to boost confidence, this is the advice you need

cormacru999 · 2022-09-25T00:58:25+00:00

How did you mess up? You find a partner in the same places anyone finds a partner, there is no space that promises a woman will want to be with you. You have to put yourself out there, meet them, and offer them something to connect to.

THAT_LMAO_GUY · 2022-09-25T01:43:04+00:00

You should give more information. Your stats are good. So why do you think you are a virgin?

hairlossthrow4w4y · 2022-09-25T03:53:02+00:00

would you post a pic or even a picture of somebody who looks like you so we can at least give honest feedback about your looks department.

You sound fit, but chances are you probably look like an average guy. 1/2/3/4 is fantastic! but unless you're doing that for reps you probably just look like an average guy who's secretley strong, whereas those gym rats may not even be as strong as you but because they do splits they look more "shredded" because they aren't focusing on health or strength.

As another guy said, your social skills are probably lacking. Which I find weird, usually business owners are great with people. You have a lot of friends. Are you putting yourself out there? looking for a partner intentionally? or are you just working on yourself and waiting for somebody to fall into your lap?

AdLivid6705 · 2022-09-25T04:43:16+00:00

I am so intrigued by this .. I also love all the helpful caring comments on here as well. Id like to give input but I wish I had more info from OP -female here

Cranberry-Negative · 2022-09-25T04:52:25+00:00

ryanmulford · 2022-09-25T06:30:52+00:00

You may not like this advice but here it is: whatever your standards are, lower them. Here’s a metaphor: any house WILL sell, it’s just a matter of how much you may need to lower the price to sell it. Once you end the 37 year dry spell you can think about raising your standards.

chemicalmamba · 2022-09-25T06:31:36+00:00

This is gonna sound bad, but you probably aren't aggressive enough. Unless there is a glaring personality issue then that must be it. To be 100% clear I don't at all being like an inconsiderate jerk who assaults people or anything. I mean that if you go on a date you should take the initiative to escalate with the other person's consent. I'm not at all smooth and I wanna be sure the other person wants and understands everything before I do it, so I just ask. "Can I kiss you?", "is this alright?", "do you want me to ____?". They remove the ambiguity, are considerate, and help you become intimate at a pace both people are comfortable with. You've definitely been on dates where they wanted you to kiss them and you didnt. So just try asking for things you wanna do, if they say no, just accept it and respect their wishes.

ohsnapt · 2022-09-25T06:43:47+00:00

what are you doing now

ThatRollingStone · 2022-09-25T06:53:26+00:00

Just get a hooker dude.

NoreenMccormick · 2022-09-25T07:26:59+00:00

You can do it, just have faith in yourself

answermeanything · 2022-09-25T07:28:18+00:00

From my perspective and experience. First I build myself or should I say focus on improving myself, how? Get mentored in what skills you're lacking, one of the quickest way to learn in action and it would get you to the right mindset.

And also quit porn or masturbation, this is one of the most destructive way to f*ck up your life. This may be also me the cause of demotivation, non grittiness, lack of self confidence, insecurities.

Sea_Instruction9175 · 2022-09-25T08:05:05+00:00

Just go out there and meet some people, if it's your conversation skills and lack of confidence, u need to work on it, cuz not exploring places ain't gonna give u any chances to get some.

Make plans, ask people to go places with you, work on your Physique, bond with people, and maybe those people u consider as friends might actually have a thing for you

Repulsive-Fee393 · 2022-09-25T08:40:29+00:00

Hit up the apps man

snicky29 · 2022-09-25T08:44:06+00:00

First things first. Get a hooker & blow a load out.

The tag of "I'm still a virgin" needs to be done away from your brain. Only after that you'll be able to move forward. You're 37. No morals or discipline is gonna work here. Just get an escort or a hooker & get that outta the way.

dudededed · 2022-09-25T09:45:42+00:00

Try flirting a bit if it works then escalate. If doesn't, then next chick.

epimpstyle · 2022-09-25T10:11:27+00:00

I want to win the lottery but I don't purchase a ticket... in this way what chances do I have to win the lottery? You must try if you want something...

It must be simple and all you have to do is to invite them to a coffee one-to-one, the idea is to filter the girls who accept your invite or you will see they are searching for all kinds of excuses. If your invite is declined, do not insist too much because you will look weird, tell her max.2 times but if there is an excuse every time, they don't see you as a possible partner so you are in the wrong group of people (they are still your friends but at least you know that it will nothing happen so you are free to find other girls).

weepull · 2022-09-25T11:55:06+00:00

RIDE A HORSE

santal23 · 2022-09-25T12:22:19+00:00

Read models by mark manson

richion07 · 2022-09-25T14:05:15+00:00

You need liquid courage

Entire_Egg_4119 · 2022-09-25T14:14:35+00:00

Read the game

CaseClosedEmail · 2022-09-25T14:32:36+00:00

This guy is the perfect example of a redditor.

I am from the same nationality amd I read some of his posts and comments.IT guy, posts and uses a lot of porn, talks to other people from above wihtout helping, and basically is a nuisance online.

Now, the issue at hand.

My guy, get a hooker and be done with it. Sex is not that big of a deal. Then start to develop a relationship.

Virgin at 37? Yeah sounds like you lack the social skills aka you might be on the autism spectrum. Basically:

Nu te mai lăbi la pornache și probleme tale se vor rezolva.

edadou · 2022-09-25T14:34:22+00:00

The real question is why are you still a virgin ? Then the next question is “how can we get rid of the source of virginity” ?

Erbium-Oxide · 2022-09-25T14:38:26+00:00

There are 730.928 members in this sub. You are not the oldest.

dirtyblondetea · 2022-09-25T15:13:51+00:00

Well you might want to open your experience by not looking for a gf. That’s a lot of pressure for any girl to take unless she really likes knowing you’re inexperienced. Maybe get on some apps and lay out that you’re looking for a relationship and get to know a number of people. Build your confidence by looking for the moment in the conversation where things are feeling good conversationally and maybe your food is finished or drinks are draining and let them know how you’re feeling “I’m having a really great time getting to know you” or “this has been so fun!” Or something more natural to you and complimentary to her or the experience. Then see if she’s feeling up to take the date to another location. Even if that’s for a walk by the water, to a Barcade, bowling or your fave local spot- it will get you starting to read the body language signs someone might be showing when they are interested in you. Also make a point to find moment to make some casual physical contact like hands, knees or shoulders (if standing) to start. I wouldn’t rush to get a girl home unless you are both feeling it, I would take your time and get to know these dates (again line up several so you don’t get overly attached right away and see this as an opportunity to meet new people and maybe make new friends or maybe find a person you could see yourself dating) then at the end of the date think about whether you want to see her again, if it’s a raging yes then say you’d like to see her again and note her response, but if you aren’t sure but enjoyed spending time with her then say you had a lovely time meeting her and see her response (you can always make plans to link up again via text later). Once you feel like you have a good connection with someone and they are reciprocating you along that first date and still via text, then make plans to see them again. On the second date try to come with an idea of what your boundaries are physically, if there’s anything you feel sensitive about, and bring condoms you’ve tried on beforehand. Breaking into the sexually active scene, you always always should have condoms on you and ones that you’ve tried beforehand. Continue building up a report with this second date and get to know her and get to know her intimate preferences, boundaries, and limits. If you’re trying be intimate with anyone, communication is essential, being honest and open is key, and having fun is major. If she shuts down or her preferences don’t match with where you’re at then it might be a mismatch, if she shares her thoughts and there is potential for you to get along physically, then find a moment in the conversation where the food is finished or drinks or drained and see how she’s feeling and if she seems like she’s enjoying herself, tell her you’d like to move on to another location or maybe tell her you’d like to move this date to a more cozy location. Still no pressure to hookup, but just a chance to maybe cuddle and watch a movie or share music or hang out with someone’s cat- something you both enjoy doing at home that you could do a little bit closer. When there’s a moment you are both laughing at something or agreeing on something, take a moment to lock eyes with her and ask her if you can kiss her. Relax and just let the kiss be a kiss, no need for cunnilingus of the mouth. Maybe pull her closer and if she grabs you in return, then maybe get into making out and some heavy petting to start. It’s ok if you both take a break or if you make out for a while. You can always resume what you were doing before, definitely get more cuddly and maybe find another moment to either say you’re having a great time or ask to kiss her again. Figure out if you are both wanting to escalate things or keep it chill. No pressure! Maybe continue these cute getting to know you dates until you escalate things to sex, but make sure you’re ready. You could also hire a sex worker or someone more sexually experienced with kink, my guess is you might not know of any, so that might be trickier, but you could go on a site like fetlife and see if you can link up with someone from there with your experience and preferences listed right up front. Be safe and always get tested and ask for peoples recent tests, use protection if you’re dating some new/more than one partner when engaging with sex regardless of their background, if someone gets upset when this question comes up then they aren’t a good match for you. If you’re in the habit of testing maybe every 6 months as you potentially become sexually active this will be normal for you and you’ll possibly turn on new partners when you bring up how you take care of your sexual health. I hope this helps give you some ideas or tools as you go on this adventure. ✌🏼💕

merf_me2 · 2022-09-25T15:26:16+00:00

Oh just hire an escort at this point and get it over and done with. You've built up sex to be this huge mystical thing where all the stars have to be aligned which becomes intimidating and self-limiting. Its just sex.

Mechanik_J · 2022-09-25T15:31:08+00:00

Having a girlfriend or wife isn't that much fun.

If you're horny, go to a brothel in Nevada.

rubey419 · 2022-09-25T15:52:22+00:00

OP where are you from?

Puzzled_Nail_1962 · 2022-09-25T17:02:54+00:00

You're running in the wrong direction. Clearly what you've been working on (career, body, social skills, ...) is not your actual problem or you wouldn't be a virgin anymore.

So keep that going, but figure out what really is holding you back. Generally speaking, being able to be close friends with women means you have everything it takes. There's nothing wrong with you, just with what you do. Some crucial piece of the puzzle is missing.

zoepaige11 · 2022-09-25T17:27:10+00:00

Maybe try to shift from “no genuine burning desire from her, I will not approach” to “no flirting and I will not approach”

If she doesn’t show any signs of liking you then obviously, do not approach. But very few people make their feelings blatantly obvious. This is the “fun” part of dating for everybody 😂

Believe in yourself bro! I believe in u

Gillettecavalcad3 · 2022-09-25T17:29:47+00:00

Just pay for it 🙂

nosejeje6 · 2022-09-25T17:44:05+00:00

You know what, I used to think this was the dumbest thing to say but I realize it's actually the best, act confident, just pretend, act like the person already likes you and if you see a sing that that person is not interested in you just go about your day.

hookedonfonicsmunky · 2022-09-25T18:14:33+00:00

bro everyone needs to stop pushing the fucking porn is bad thing, all the people who tell others that info have actual sex lifes so they don't need it

blu3phive · 2022-09-25T18:22:01+00:00

Get a working girl on hire for each month to get yourself in the groove once a month. That will get you at ease for the next step…

swissarm · 2022-09-25T19:00:47+00:00

Read No More Mr. Nice Guy by Robert Glover and Models by Mark Manson.

/thread

throwMeAwayTa · 2022-09-25T19:01:29+00:00

I wasn't too far off that.

If this is something you want to achieve, it's going to require work. For some people it comes naturally, they're probably not on this sub, they're off getting laid.

Work out which areas you're weak on - like actually talking to new women for instance and address them.

ayrobarz · 2022-09-25T21:42:05+00:00

Read mystery method

SeaHighway4330 · 2022-09-25T21:56:24+00:00

You should figure out what an indicator of interest is and then you should figure out how to work on your inner confidence this will help you feel better about yourself and then you can feel more confident about escalating with one of those girls you hang out with. Or another girl you find attractive.

B0ST0NREDS0X · 2022-09-26T10:12:08+00:00

Don’t ever give up!! You’re closer to getting laid than you think!!

Title	Advice for a 37 year old virgin
Author	tziahs
Upvotes	408
Comments	337
Date	September 24, 2022 6:52 PM UTC (3 years ago)
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