Women, what's something (behaviour, presentation, expression) traditionally seen as "feminine" that you find attractive in men? Men, what's something traditionally seen as "masculine" that you find attractive in women?

ChiBron86 · 2024-03-19T21:55:30+00:00

Women who are financially independent/have their shit together. No bigger turnoff than a woman looking for you to bail her out.

noafrochamplusamurai · 2024-03-19T20:47:17+00:00

Women that lift, goth muscle mommies, swolemates, women with athletic builds. I'm not talking about curling a 20lb bell. I want to see see her squatting 2 plates for rep. I also love tall women, my retirement plan consists of having D1 FBS school level children ( unfortunately my oldest turned down 2 scholly offers because she was burned out).

Women in trades, I don't know how to do that shit, I respect anyone that can do things I can't.

Women that fight, professionally or just because someone needs their ass whooped. Bonus points if she give off " I'll stab you vibes"

With all that, you can probably tell what my dating life has been like.🤪

swuidgle · 2024-03-19T20:50:37+00:00

I like when men are dextrous, capable, compassionate, thoughtful and kind

CraftyCooler · 2024-03-19T21:25:06+00:00

Being direct and to the point - it's more cultural than masculine, but i love it. In this part of Europe and north of us(Scandinavia) women are very direct and it's good. Not much bs and small talk.

maddrops · 2024-03-19T21:10:25+00:00

A lot of women I know are concerned about being "too muscular," i.e. having any visible muscle tone at all. I think muscles look good on pretty much everyone. I also find it really attractive when women stand up for their friends, for example if they're getting unwanted attention from a drunk guy or someone's trying to start something.

Sharp_Engineering379 · 2024-03-19T21:08:16+00:00

Kindness towards animals. Men who love dogs are terrific, but I trust men who like cats. An appreciation for independent creatures is a bonus.

And intuition with kids. I like when men talk to little kids like regular people rather than crouching down and getting in their face with baby talk.

-Shes-A-Carnival · 2024-03-19T20:41:40+00:00

long hair on men

TheRedPillRipper · 2024-03-19T21:51:14+00:00

I am very attracted to women who are

Emotionally resilient. Stoic. My wife is mostly unflappable. So when shit has hit the fan, we’ve always come through relatively unscathed.

Another trait we share is we’re both direct communicators. It makes life so much easier.

ughtheinternet · 2024-03-19T21:50:31+00:00

For men, being a good cook, being emotionally expressive/communicative, being tidy, being nurturing.

Oh, and loving cats!

Known-Damage-7879 · 2024-03-19T22:18:23+00:00

The girl I’m currently dating is really ambitious and a natural speaker, which I feel meshes well with me because I’m more of a listener.

DarayRaven · 2024-03-19T20:45:51+00:00

Aggressive in bed

Don't know if that's masculine but it sure does wonders for me

Lift_and_Lurk · 2024-03-19T20:38:48+00:00

I love that my wife is into sports like me.

apresonly · 2024-03-19T20:40:04+00:00

emotional intelligence, vulnerability, talking about his feelings, being an animal lover, appreciating art/beauty in nature, thoughtfulness, sensitivity, empathy, compassion, being affectionate, being involved with the minutiae of his kid's lives, volunteering at his kid's school/events (other than coaching sports), taking care of his skin, smelling nice

ItWasBrokenAlready · 2024-03-19T21:21:38+00:00

'Softer' crafts like sewing, embroidery, some leatherwork. It's super normal in my social bubble, I know a few professional tailors, I almost forget it is seen as nonstandard if I answer 'Thanks, my husband made it' after someone compliments my dress. But I value competence, skill and there is something really captivating in watching a man with handsome hands do some very time consuming, detailed work in complete focus.

toasterchild · 2024-03-19T23:00:41+00:00

One of my friends was super hot and he had long hair and would periodically cross dress in dresses with nail polish. It was pretty hot. Especially the not giving a fuck about what random men said to him. Not caving to peer pressure is sexy.

Stunning-Spirit5275 · 2024-03-19T20:40:56+00:00

In women ? Probably some degree of stoicism. Being equinanimous about problems / challenges etc

FIVE_6_MAFIA · 2024-03-19T22:41:57+00:00

I love women who work out, I don't mind her palms being rough from the calluses

serpensmercurialis · 2024-03-19T21:53:33+00:00

Long hair, guyliner, earrings, general facial features, being super skinny and twinky, most stereotypically feminine personality traits, shyness, being kinda dainty.

Butler archetype I guess.

blackrainbows723 · 2024-03-19T21:10:54+00:00

I’m attracted to guys who aren’t afraid to show their emotional side/be open about what they’re feeling.

Everyone has emotions. The problem when you’re taught to bury them is that they come out in unexpected and often uncontrollable ways.

A guy who is comfortable with themselves and their emotions is someone who I can trust and be open with myself.

I will say I’m not one to be very open with my emotional side to it’s very refreshing when a guy is like this

Steakman1 · 2024-03-19T22:57:05+00:00

Not sure if this is actually a masculine thing or not. But seems like having abs is something attributed to men. But I think abs on women are hot af. Though not steroid level abs of course.

In terms of personality, TRP seems to push the idea of finding a malleable woman and attributes that more to femininity. But I like a woman who is strong in her beliefs, but with an open mind. If her views are easily influenced by others, then that means she more vulnerable to being influenced by others with bad intentions.

enfantrebelle · 2024-03-19T23:40:52+00:00

Physically, I love long hair on men and I prefer when they have little to no body hair - whether it's how they just are or because they shave doesn't matter. I appreciate it when men have a good fashion sense and when they're willing to rock bold/bright colors or cute patterns. I love love love smaller/dainty hands on men!

In terms of behavior I enjoy the company of men who are nurturing, soft spoken and a bit submissive in the bedroom. I have never found it weird or off-putting for men to cry in front of me, and I welcome emotional vulnerability.

burner4567890 · 2024-03-19T20:42:47+00:00

men who are high maintenance especially because that means he prioritises grooming and fitness such as good eating habits, hygiene, regular haircuts, skincare regime and manicures & pedicures (it’s usually just clear polish and probably not noticeable unless you’re actually looking for it and i do look at a man’s hands because i think it says a lot about his grooming habits and i’m highly attracted to men who take pride in their appearance & men who present themselves well in the way they dress. oh and i also like men with pierced ears 🥵

as much as being high maintenance can be feminine it’s actually something i find very attractive in masculine men. i don’t like the rough around the edges, blue collar, calloused hands kind of men - men like that to me are highly unattractive and a bit gross but idk why im like this lol.

baiser_vole · 2024-03-19T21:34:04+00:00

- Patient

- Humble

- Flexible, accommodating and supportive

- Softer rounder personality

- Wise and nurturing

I am basing this on the Asian yin and yang model.

MiddleZealousideal89 · 2024-03-19T22:07:38+00:00

Long hair. I love me a dude with some luscious locks

CauliflowerElegant76 · 2024-03-19T20:54:03+00:00

I don't think this is feminine but red pill men seem to think it is - has emotions.

AngeCruelle · 2024-03-19T21:09:55+00:00

A lot of things. Shy/passive/submissive tendencies. Stereotypically feminine hobbies and interests.

My history with this goes way back. One of my childhood playground crushes came out as gay later in life and an even earlier one told me he had a crush on another boy before I even understood what it meant to be gay. I was just really annoyed with him for liking someone else.

Safinated · 2024-03-19T21:42:00+00:00

Cleanliness, attentiveness, thoughtful gift giving and aesthetic motivation.

Yes, these can be found in non-gay men, although I’ve never seen all of them at once.

For example, my BIL has 3 of the 4, but has anger/control issues so it cancels it all out

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waffleznstuff30 · 2024-03-19T23:45:41+00:00

Emotional vulnerability. Soft hands. Beauty (like in general) like softer facial features long eyelashes longer hair no facial hair soft lips ugh drives me nuts. Being fashionable like dressing having a style. Skin care and a beauty routine. Liking to cook. Men that like silly little trinkets that have some silly story to them. Being sentimental. Nurturing can care for something besides himself. Empathetic and caring. Passionate about silly little things. Like this song. Will shriek at a spider or something. Afraid to not be manly all the time.

ArtifactFan65 · 2024-03-19T23:54:35+00:00

Independent, has firm beliefs and doesn't conform to peer pressure

Defiant AKA not "submissive" (but also not a bitch), able to stand up to others and fight if necessary

Willing to physically/emotionally protect a man instead of always expecting him to protect her

Sillysheila · 2024-03-20T00:15:30+00:00

Long hair

Pretty, pretty faces

Men who love children and babies and spontaneously take care of them/interact with them. I find it soooo hot that my partner is good with children 🥵

Taking care of mental health, being open and honest about mental health issues and not sweeping under the rug—I’ve seen so many people see girlfriends/wives or even make their girlfriends/wives be therapists, it’s never been something I’m interested in. It’s a turn off for me if a man doesn’t have a good handle of his own mental health, and just lets it fester, or takes it out on people.

Commercial_Tea_8185 · 2024-03-20T00:23:08+00:00

Women in suits, women in suits being dominant towards me 👍

his_purple_majesty · 2024-03-20T00:29:46+00:00

I like girls with hairy asses.

Elysium_Rayne · 2024-03-20T01:10:32+00:00

My ideal woman has a fairly masculine demeanor. She has a high pain tolerance, is decisive, and initiates conversations. She hates makeup, high heels, and shaving, prioritizing her authentic self above all. Her personality has a dose of cynicism and skepticism, along with a hint of schizoid traits. She lives minimally and harbors a distaste for consumerism. Moreover, she’s open to playing devil’s advocate for viewpoints she fundamentally opposes.

MajIssuesCaptObvious · 2024-03-20T02:26:26+00:00

Women who are career and success driven. TRP is always saying men don't care how much money a woman makes. Screw that. I love it when a woman has goals and works hard to achieve them. Also, I find it sexy when a woman doesn't want kids. I love it when a woman plans the dates.

kayceeplusplus · 2024-03-20T11:22:03+00:00

In men: kind, generous, nurturing, patient, caring, long-haired

In women: butch, athletic, assertive, protective

MotherPermit9585 · 2024-03-20T13:45:26+00:00

I love it when men feel safe and close enough to me to share their darkest traumas and cry in front of me.

I also love metrosexual men that dress a bit flamboyant, remove body hair, manicure their nails etc. I actually love bisexual/bicurious men too.

Stunning_Tea4374 · 2024-03-20T15:45:55+00:00

empathy and kindness as personality traits. Also shyness and introversion, but I do might have particular concepts about that in mind (not that one that results in total awkwardness and low emotional intelligence).

Appearance wise a slim body, babyface, a rather fashionista/flamboyant stlye, intelligent use of make up and stuff like this (lip stick, nail polish). But it mostly looks good on good-looking people, as always:p.

SuperPutin54 · 2024-03-20T18:51:06+00:00

I don't know if it's "feminine" per se, but I love a guy who isn't afraid to be a little gay with the boys. It's absolutely hilarious to me when my boyfriend makes jokes about being gay with his friends.

In the same vein, I adore a man who has emotionally deep friendships with his male friends and isn't afraid to show it.

januaryphilosopher · 2024-03-19T20:59:34+00:00

Like, most of it.

Sad_and_grossed_out · 2024-03-19T21:29:02+00:00

I always liked longer hair on men and skinnier frames which I guess some would say is feminine, though my preferred type was always crusty punk and metal head dudes and those aesthetics tend to somehow apply more masculine energy to those traits somehow.

The man I ended up marrying has all this going on.

bluepvtstorm · 2024-03-19T22:24:33+00:00

I love men who get manicures and pedicures. There something about a dude who takes care of himself on a deeper level besides a shower and haircut.

Also waxing on the male bits, it’s so nice especially when traveling and doing hotel debauchery.

Wattehfok · 2024-03-19T22:49:16+00:00

Women who play in punk and metal bands are outrageously hot.

Suspicious_Glove7365 · 2024-03-19T20:43:51+00:00

Physically: lean, not buff at all, not hairy, not too tall. Behaviorally: sensitive to emotions, comfortable expressing emotions, not dominant all the time, desire to make others comfortable.

Intelligent_Brain850 · 2024-03-19T22:20:43+00:00

Men who wear eyeliner. Yup 👍

LilithBlackMoon · 2024-03-19T22:37:21+00:00

As a straight woman i find David Bowie's androgyny very sexy

DecisionPlastic9740 · 2024-03-19T23:18:46+00:00

Women that are loyal 🙌

Ok-Assistant-1220 · 2024-03-19T22:43:44+00:00

I love muscle ladies.

Mayfloweronthewall · 2024-03-20T00:23:34+00:00

I like men who have youthful faces.

mrs_seng · 2024-03-20T00:49:36+00:00

Earrings, chains, bracelets, rings. Nothing beats a cuban chain (as in the design of the link itself) and a princess cut stone

Filed nails

Embarrassed_Ad122 · 2024-03-20T01:11:59+00:00

I love a girl who works in traditionally male oriented roles such as mechanic or fitter. Very feminine outside work but get in and go as hard as any man while at work, I find that very attractive.

Novadina · 2024-03-20T01:50:35+00:00

Long hair, earrings, animal lover, book lover, likes to cook, shyness.

ElbowStrike · 2024-03-20T01:57:19+00:00

When she can do pull-ups

SlowEffective8146 · 2024-03-20T02:05:58+00:00

I like tats/piercings on women even though I find it kinda masculine

emorizoti · 2024-03-20T03:10:54+00:00

Taking accountability when being wrong, having a stable emotional level and not being driven by random emotions, patience, loyalty when things go rough, appreciative, not holding grudges, having a strong mind and not changing opinions every minute, being direct and not playing games or manipulative.

Many of these traits are seen as masculine or desired in men but it goes both ways and they make a woman very attractive for having them. Sadly nowadays you'll be delusional if you seek these traits in a partner.

thetruthishere_ · 2024-03-20T04:10:34+00:00

I find men that can be manly but have a soft side hot.

just_a_place · 2024-03-20T05:05:54+00:00

A woman that is confident, assertive, independent, and a natural leader is usually our mom. These traits are not inherently masculine. We just express them in different ways.

A woman expressing confidence can do so passively and inspirationally and whereas a man will most often do it actively and assertively and motivationally.

A lot of women may not be assertive but that is because they have other means by which to get their will across. I find very often, when women are assertive, it is because they are lacking in the other skills that women use to express their will.

NerevarMoonStar · 2024-03-20T05:57:56+00:00

Two things I can think of but they are culturally dependent I would think.

Intelligence, but intelligence in many fields. Languages, philosophy, history, politics. I don't necessarily mean knowledge but the capacity to know.
Open expression of feelings. Often women are characterized as the pursued and the one who shouldn't show their feelings too strongly about the other person. I prefer open devotion.

lle-ell · 2024-03-20T06:14:37+00:00

Long hair on men, absolutely love it.

Maffioze · 2024-03-20T08:12:35+00:00

Women who are assertive, who call out bullshit, are fiercely protective of their loved ones and who stay calm in crisis situations.

Growing up I always had to be the protective one disentangle conflicts and it gets exhausting. With a protective woman, I can rely on her sometimes which gives me peace of mind.

obviousredflag · 2024-03-20T08:33:43+00:00

I find women attractive who show masculine risk taking behavior (drugs, sex, "i shouldn't do this").

BoomTheBear86 · 2024-03-20T10:44:03+00:00

Women who present with an androgynous or masculine leaning energy are something I’ve always found really hot. I think I’d say androgynous though because there’s still clear elements of femininity about them (mainly their facial presentation)

But like short hair, toned, dressing in stereotypically masculine styles like full suits, braces, having a lot of tattoos or piercings, being quite “rough around the edges” but still being feminine in the sense of I can still discern she’s a woman.

It’s tricky, I’d describe as like a woman who can wear masculinity without a care and intermingle it with her femininity without issue, not just in looks, personality too. Some dominance and assertiveness etc. Vivid tomboy energy.

This was a bit of a tragedy for me growing up because it resulted in me asking out way too many disinterested lesbians and female-preferring bi girls for my liking. Not that I knew at time of asking!

My wife is traditionally feminine and I think the above has muted somewhat as I’ve grown older. I was very androgynous during my youth which probably didn’t help me out.

ComfortableOk5003 · 2024-03-20T17:46:01+00:00

One thing I’m noticing and this will ruffle feathers…a lot of women describe women almost…

As in many women are basically describing feminine looking and acting men…makes it seems questionable women actually like men lol

abaxeron · 2024-03-20T18:25:54+00:00

Men, what's something traditionally seen as "masculine" that you find attractive in women?

Low neuroticism, athleticism, crafts with hard, not-so-malleable materials (wood, metal, ...).

ChosenPoutine · 2024-03-20T22:28:44+00:00

Confidence isn't a gendered thing to me.

That aside, I have the traits you listed. A lot of men make note of it when they date me as if it's rare, but I didn't see those traits as that rare. It just sucks when you attract men who lack leadership skills because you happen to be good at that lol.

Feminine traits I like in men (just as long as they don't outbalance mine) - nurturing, caring, empathetic, compassionate, being a good listener, patient, emotionally intelligent, good with kids, good with animals, composed. These are more personality traits. So when I date, a man who's balanced with feminine and masculine is ideal, with kind eyes but a generally masculine appearance.

Looks - I actually love shaggy hair on men. So I guess that's a bit longer for a man. I also like blue eyes on men (not a fan of it on women tho) and I think people tend to associate light coloured eyes with femininity for some reason, whereas for me it's the opposite. I find blue and green eyes on men really nice, and green and brown eyes on women really nice.

Agent__Zigzag · 2024-03-21T03:28:50+00:00

Defined muscles on women. As long as not steroid type bodybuilders.

ThrowawayHomesch · 2024-03-22T23:16:18+00:00

Women who don’t have inflated self worth (nothing turns me off more than a 4 who thinks she is a 10)

Women who don’t have a victim mentality

Women who are assertive and manipulative

Basically the opposite of my mom

Comprehensive-Bed35 · 2024-03-20T01:18:07+00:00

I’m attracted to women who have the manly trait of…..

Being honest.

Sad_and_grossed_out · 2024-03-19T21:28:52+00:00

I always liked longer hair on men and skinnier frames which I guess some would say is feminine, though my preferred type was always crusty punk and metal head dudes and those aesthetics tend to somehow apply more masculine energy to those traits somehow.

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