Edit: by "them" I mean the men, not the acts

Something that affects men on here is a sort of sexual envy of the men they consider higher on the erotic food-chain than themselves. They already know that more attractive men get sex more often, though I'm certain most average guys who stay fit, well-groomed and go after women in their league would get sex often enough to not be concerned about this. However, there is a pervasive concern among men who feel that they are more "boyfriend" material than "hookup" material with respect to the quality of the sex they get, not the quantity.

The claim is that women act sexually submissive and will acquiesce to even humiliating fetishes with very hot guys whom they find genuinely arousing, but with average guys (whom they'd statistically likely end up with in long-term relationships), they find sex enjoyable but not as inherently arousing. As a result they'll tolerate sex as long as their own pleasure is prioritized, but will find it far less exciting and stimulating.

So, in the spirit of honesty, is this something you find true in your relationships and sexual encounters? If it is true, would you say that the men with whom you happily agree to lewder sex acts are generally more of the "conventionally attractive" type, or was it more that they were your niche type which may be different than the norm of what women are into?