This is hands down one of the most utterly depressing things I’ve ever seen. No matter how bleak things get, thanks to FDS we’ll never be this woman, passively rejected for a proposal by her child’s father after 11 YEARS of dating.

searchingforjupiter · 2021-11-08T10:07:57+00:00

She sees it. "That's 11 years and a child down the drain". And then she gaslights herself. "It was just a miscommunication, he was tired, he had no idea." This is so utterly sad.

WestAtmosphere · 2021-11-08T13:33:38+00:00

Just re-inforcing if you are past the age of like ... 24 and are wanting a proposal, do not wait past 2-3 years. If you've discussed things and nothing has happened he is more than likely going to continue putting it off, and before you know it you'll be at the 4, 5, 6, ... 11 year mark.

Ok-Performance5997 · 2021-11-08T10:23:34+00:00

This is just so grim.

How do you just block and give the silent treatment to the mother of your child?

Also, is he living with them?? I’m so confused

jp2117515 · 2021-11-08T12:21:53+00:00

Did you catch the part that it was her birthday….and he was out all night somewhere else….among the rest of the nightmarish details of this story…

Platipus6 · 2021-11-08T10:24:23+00:00

"happy as larry" she said, with dead eyes.

🤷‍♀️ He knows what bullshit excuses work on her now.

HottPinkSlug · 2021-11-08T13:31:46+00:00

Firstly, it was her BIRTHDAY and he was going to pop by at MIDNIGHT

lisasimpsonfan · 2021-11-08T14:25:39+00:00

Coming over after midnight is a booty call not a boyfriend/fiancé. Girl needs to DTMFA and only have anything to do with him when it comes to their child.

coltee_cuckoldee · 2021-11-08T14:32:07+00:00

He was probably cheating on her. Why else would he need to block her number in the middle of the night?

firegirl110 · 2021-11-08T11:53:36+00:00

I stopped at her and her son having an amazing time cleaning up though.

Sis what.

fallen-summer · 2021-11-08T14:00:49+00:00

The fact that he actually blocked her number should tell her everything she needs to know my ex was a scrote but he never blocked my number even when we were in a big fight he might not reply to me but never block and after 11 years and a child if hasn't married you he never will

This girl needs to cut her losses and run

CrazyPaine · 2021-11-08T15:13:58+00:00

Wait a fucking minute. Boyfriend of 11 years?!? Sound similar, yes that was me: relationship for 12 years with my ex. Sounds like a placeholder and a roommate, which I was. OoOooF. She has literally put in a lot of effort on this. Why can't he do the same for her? He's a lazy piece of shit tbh probably doesn't believe in marriage because it's a piece of paper or whatever the fuck excuses he wants to say especially if he reluctantly gets married to her he's not going to enjoy it at all and honestly break her heart. I feel bad for her but I'm angry at her because literally she is making him feel like the fucking prize when he's not.

EDIT: I had to watch the whole video. How the fuck is that miscommunication when he literally blocked your number?!!! When you were calling him and he didn't pick up?!?! Yeah he definitely cheating no doubt it.

KindredMaximus · 2021-11-08T10:31:24+00:00

Ok - What? She has been with this joker for 11 years and he BLOCKS her and then 'they're happy as larry"? There is some middle, epic sized manipulation by him between these two statements.All the excuses she gave - that he obviously gave her are never a reason to BLOCK your GF and mother of your child. If I had a penny for every time my ex husband had a tantrum and was abusive because he was ''tired'' - straight after that excuse was usually ''I was hungry'' - I'd be a millionaire. Do you know who is tired? Some poor woman, who spend months planning something AND PAYING FOR IT, hours blowing up balloons etc etc and looking after what sounds like a toddler with a cough - just so his father can BLOCK his mother. She is tired - she did not throw a tantrum etc. He is not tired - he was out till after midnight doing god knows what. AND HE BLOCKED HER.The sooner FDS spreads to the WHOLE world the better life will be for all women.

If either of my daughters told me this story - I would actively get into the middle of that relationship and scare that scrote off - lol. Also, my girls know this and so they are picky as hell. Who the heck is looking out for this young lady? We need to create a system to educate and facilitate independence in women in disadvantaged situations being latched onto by men who will only disadvantage them further.
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bookworm1896 · 2021-11-08T11:14:44+00:00

Dear god, I was so sad for her during the story, because I thought that she wanted to propose and he didn't show up and she broke up with him. That would have been bad enough (forever girlfriend, she proposing, etc) But they are still together?! Why?! She said it: that's 11 years and a child down the drain. He fucking blocked her! The mother of his child!

hopeful_flounder93 · 2021-11-08T10:27:33+00:00

Oh my god I'm so glad I didn't settle

DivineGoddess1111111 · 2021-11-08T11:28:29+00:00

I wish we could rescue her. She looks so young. She's wasting her life on this scrote.

thb_fds · 2021-11-08T12:17:35+00:00

He was nowhere to be found on her birthday (2/13) going into fucking Valentine's day and then BLOCKED her?? Who else thinks there's a good chance he's cheating on her. He probably even knew this was going to happen.

Sweetlikecream · 2021-11-08T13:01:27+00:00

So sad :( this is why you should not propose to men

Datonecatladyukno · 2021-11-08T13:58:38+00:00

I want to hug her and tell her this is not ok and she deserves better. Just in case no one ever let her know because W T F

Zurflu · 2021-11-08T16:15:25+00:00

He was just tired

So then why didn't he come home? ☠️

PinkestMango · 2021-11-08T12:48:28+00:00

She is adorable, deserves better.

aluriaphin · 2021-11-08T10:06:46+00:00

JFC I thought she finally grew some self-esteem and was done with him BUT THEY'RE STILL TOGETHER. HE BLOCKED HER NUMBER, HOW MUCH OF A PICK ME CAN SHE BE??? She's setting the most dismal example for her son.

AnniaT · 2021-11-08T12:57:43+00:00

Is this on tiktok? Poor girl, this is terrible!

The_Cat_Empress · 2021-11-08T13:02:05+00:00

This woman is so wholesome, and sweet and that scrote has the AUDACITY to block her number?? How is she okay?! I’d be SO FURIOUS. Ladies this is why you don’t go to extra mile for a man like this. 11…YEARS.

fireforestfairy · 2021-11-08T11:23:50+00:00

This is why we should never propose to men. If he wanted to, he would.

honestlyidkfr · 2021-11-08T12:55:07+00:00

I don’t get it. how much do you have to hate yourself to attach yourself to a man that literally loathes you?

NonaOrganic · 2021-11-08T14:24:56+00:00

This makes me so sad for her. I sense she doesn’t have many friends if any and is codependent on her ‘bf’ if we even want to call him that. Pick me’s are on their own as far as I’m concerned but it goes deeper for this girl she needs friends and support.

motioncaptureF · 2021-11-08T14:30:25+00:00

I literally wept ! This is so sad ! I hope she gathered some courage and left

FDSfollower1 · 2021-11-08T14:45:46+00:00

This is heartbreaking. FDS principles could have prevented all of this.

zorua · 2021-11-08T12:45:09+00:00

ah yeah blocking is just a miscommunication. whats the deal with men always blocking?

cutiebranch · 2021-11-08T16:00:40+00:00

Two years. If you’ve been with a man for two years and he hasn’t proposed he is either

1) not going to

2) might propose but will leave you the moment something “better” comes along. This is why they waited so long in the first place. If he proposes next year it’s because he was thinking for 10 years something better might come along - she wasn’t “enough”. So he might eventually say “well I guess this is it” and propose, but he will always be waiting for something better.

Technical_Moth248 · 2021-11-08T18:30:13+00:00

I have a relative that's so much like this. She's been with her bf for a while, not sure how many years but it's enough to have a couple kids that are in school together. They got engaged last year when she asked him around Christmas after posting subtle hints she wanted it on fb for years (she would literally comment on other people getting engaged, including my own with my late husband, that maybe it was "her turn" soon too). He broke up with her shortly after bc he met a new, younger woman.

When the new woman decided he was trash he ran back to who he knew would have him. He made her agree that they wouldn't bring up marriage until he was ready and put the whole breakup on her bc the proposal "freaked him out" and he's not ready to even be engaged. Men like this are embarrassing and not worth having, and I wish someone could convince these women that they are only hurting themselves and removing the chance of one day being with someone that actually loves them. It's so frustrating, and it's a terrible example for the kids involved.

sleeplessbeauty101 · 2021-11-08T11:57:53+00:00

I hope she funds FDS and vets her next guy like crazy. She sounds like a sweet caring partner and deserves the same.

RussianAsshole · 2021-11-08T21:17:10+00:00

The endpoint of “women should ask men out, he’ll be so flattered”

basketstar · 2021-11-08T13:25:30+00:00

My heart goes out to her. She love him to plans a proposal and (even!) bear him a son. Now she is trying to put a brave face forward, possibly for the sake of her son - because she does not want to be 'difficult' and break the 'family' apart. But sorry dear, the guy does not see you as family nor consider you as an equal. I've seen too many asian women trapped in such abusive relationships for the sake of their children.

heather80 · 2021-11-08T16:13:32+00:00

They aren’t “still together.” He doesn’t mind keeping her around for free sex, but he will bounce as soon as he finds someone he likes.

xfelugirlx · 2021-11-08T18:19:58+00:00

Girl stop doing this to yourself, he left you alone in your birthday and don’t wanna marry you, wasted 10 years of your precious life and you still gonna keep going with that bullshit? Stop

NotYourCirce · 2021-11-08T16:39:01+00:00

Kidding herself- she’s still happy with him after that? I don’t believe it. She has a very different definition of ‘happy’

extraodi · 2021-11-08T18:04:35+00:00

I feel like after this experience she just gave up, and decided ‘not to’ care anymore about being a forever gf. She stopped trying. What a shell of a life to live.

lightcobaltblue · 2021-11-08T12:06:26+00:00

Poor girl.

shockingupdate · 2021-11-08T14:26:30+00:00

They have a child together but don’t live under the same roof, and she’s okay with him “coming over” in the middle of the night. She might be dating him but he’s been single for a while 😬

prettyexcitingnews · 2021-11-08T15:39:20+00:00

Oh no. I feel sooo bad for her. That ain't it sis...

MajesticSkyPachyderm · 2021-11-08T15:51:34+00:00

That's very sad 😔 being a pickme really makes your life suck, this is a good reminder of that.

BrightIdeaGenerator · 2021-11-08T17:39:48+00:00

SHE'S STILL FUCKING WITH HIM??? nah, sis.

trudith · 2021-11-08T20:19:11+00:00

BRUH. 11 years. Wtf. ON HER BIRTHDAY. Why was she decorating for HIM?!?!?? ON HER BIRTHDAY?!????

anne-goldy · 2021-11-08T18:49:07+00:00

I honestly cried, she doesn’t deserve that. I wish I could hug her.

BasketLow8411 · 2021-11-08T16:17:21+00:00

What?? She’s still with him? Ugh, I was about to say I felt super sorry for her but that is horrible. Girl.

NowTruly · 2021-11-08T16:17:02+00:00

Serious question: how would she know he blocked her number? (Wouldn’t it just keep ringing?)

waddamelone · 2021-11-08T20:02:21+00:00

Her eyes tell a different story… I feel sorry for her.

Feminineprincess · 2021-11-08T21:14:54+00:00

He really hates her

anadreamy2 · 2021-11-08T23:09:53+00:00

The way she ends the video saying that she hopes he proposes her next time is so sad to hear because if he really wanted to propose he would have done that already. She did all these things for him on her birthday to a guy that not only didn't care to prepare anything for her but even blocked her number after she tried to propose to him, he obviously doesn't care about her or love her.

idestroythingsfora- · 2021-11-08T12:48:06+00:00

Like if she has no respect left for herself, no love for herself left, does she not care about her child? Does she think he's happy cleaning up after his mother's proposal was rejected? Does she think he believes the "happy as Larry" (wtf does that mean anyway) lie? I.. what the heck lol.

WinterSolaces · 2021-11-09T04:14:32+00:00

That man is 100% cheating and finding every excuse to spend as little time with her as possible. He can't even be bothered to lie to her, he just straight up blocks her because he has 0 enegry and motivation towards her, their relationship, THEIR CHILD. I feel so horrible for her to be this gaslit and manipulated, she's just lost all will to live.

At this point, I would hope her love for her child would snap her out of this awful situation. There is nothing worse than your own child seeing how little self respect you have for yourself -- you're teaching them that this behavior is normal and accepted, and that god forbid, the cycle continues.

I feel for her, I really do, but she HAS to see how this will affect her child?

modernmedusaa · 2021-11-09T04:23:12+00:00

This makes me highly uncomfortable

This level of delusion isn’t normal

I’ve always said the longer you stay in the lie with a useless scrote the more you will become mentally unhinged to adjust to the lie that he loves you

Novemberinthechair · 2021-11-08T12:19:09+00:00

What the hell is "Happy as Larry" ?

tiavarga · 2021-11-09T03:59:07+00:00

Oh honey, no. Just no.

ConfusedBisexual1992 · 2021-11-09T11:21:49+00:00

Oh hell no. I would have ended it if that was me. Having said that, I also wouldn’t wait over a decade for a proposal. You should know long before then if you want to marry someone or not. If you’re still ‘not sure’, it’s a no. Obv it’s different if both partners aren’t interested in marriage, but most women are.

Talktothecat1 · 2021-11-09T04:57:15+00:00

omfg the self delusion

szarcat · 2021-11-10T02:44:18+00:00

She’s an idiot I’m sorry

fuckbeingautobanned · 2021-11-09T12:53:25+00:00

Oh. My bad