The current dating culture in the US just sucks, at least as a man I can say that in my experience it is essentially a mixture of being never good enough as well as being invisible. Yet I see women constantly uplifted supported. To me as I see it this is a result of a number of factors that have come together to create a really toxic environment.

Women are wonderful effect while it is one that isn't exclusive to the US it has been pushed recently very hard. Obese women are called beautiful, there is a push not to judge women, not to question them or anything. Self affirmations and toxic positivity has really created this lopsided reality where men are needing to constantly improve but women are perfect as they are even when they put 0 effort in.

US is a very "me centric" place and again has only worsened recently, with the abuse of self help language being made to justify self gratification and sociopathic behaviors.

There is a push against misogyny, which on its own isn't a bad thing but it has been co-opted by the more radicals who use it as a tool to silence any sort of criticism of women. As much as anti misogyny is pushed there is no anti misandry. In fact just using men as a punching bag, dates not going well? all the men must suck.

I rarely see women call other women out on whatever crazy takes are, even when it is written by the resident psychos and when they do it is in the most softest way possible.

In order for things to get better there needs to be better accountability, if women want to say the men are at fault they need to have a better justification than yelling bababooey and thinking that is valid.