This is why we say no to coffee dates. Before finding FDS, I agreed to a coffee date. He was supposed to text me a time to meet but never did. The NEXT DAY he asked me why I didn't wake him up

tallwomenneedlovetoo · 2020-10-28T15:13:12+00:00

This is why it’s FDS to say there is no date until there’s a time and place. He shouldn’t be waffling on fitting you into his schedule at the last second; the deets should have been set, in my opinion, at least 48 hours in advance.

Don’t be leaving your life open for these scrotes at the last second. You are an important woman and you’ve got life to lead!

frogirl1993 · 2020-10-28T15:28:20+00:00

Why do men always seem to want a mommy not a girlfriend

slythergin23 · 2020-10-28T15:04:18+00:00

omg same!! this guy and i were supposed to hang out. the day came and went by, not a single word from him. the next day he tells me i need to remind him of these things.

god damn. i can't begin to describe how much i hate being expected to play mommy. we may have almost-dated the same dude lol

HolyIsTheLord · 2020-10-28T15:58:39+00:00

wHy DiDn'T yOu ReMiNd Me?!

Because you're a grown man.
Because I'm not your secretary who maintains your calendar.
Because people naturally stay on top of things that are important to them.
Because I don't chase down men for their time or attention.
Because I'm not going to perform your mental labor.

What a loser! LOL

OrangeyPanda · 2020-10-28T15:30:24+00:00

The second a woman shows even a little interest in an LVM they assume she's now working as his secretary and he can now take a backseat in his life. And they NEVER change. Thank God we can see right through them because I'm tired of hearing married women complain everyday of their lives about their scrote husband but refusing to leave him.

ALocusInTheBiosphere · 2020-10-28T16:12:07+00:00

'Wow'. Like how dare you expect me to be a responsible adult? So offended.

onemoredaydream · 2020-10-28T16:28:48+00:00

Omg!!

I had a guy who I knew IRL who asked me out. I said sure, lets do lunch. I'm free on <this day>. He never texted me to set anything up!

It happened one more time, I was so confused by the whole thing. Like what was his endgame? Was he expecting me to start chasing him? The whole thing was so confusing.

pickmieshaexorcist · 2020-10-28T16:59:45+00:00

I can’t believe he actually typed “wow” and felt good about himself about that.

EyezOnFyre · 2020-10-28T14:59:17+00:00

Omg this guy...

localgirlcult · 2020-10-28T16:42:29+00:00

"wOw"

He is actually shocked that you're not his mom. I guess he thought you'd apologize and rush over with his baby food and bib.

Anyway, no wishy washy plans. Time and date has to be set right away.

VulcanSpaceSquirrel · 2020-10-28T15:16:42+00:00

Ahahahahaha your response is on point

I sincerely enjoy reading interactions like these because it has helped me realize I can be blunt and state the facts. Thank you

Inspection-Critical · 2020-10-28T16:16:00+00:00

This was a preview of your future relationship. How repulsive.

Your response watered my crops, though.

Phoenix__Rising2018 · 2020-10-28T15:24:01+00:00

Ain't got nothing but the Audacity smh

Random192859184 · 2020-10-28T15:11:47+00:00

Wow. Just wow. What a loser.

SuitablePerformance3 · 2020-10-28T16:59:03+00:00

Ew he's so gross, he actually expects it and then has the audacity to say "wow". Like wow what you pathetic little man child? Grow up, and leave women alone, you're just wasting their time.

ilostitireallylostit · 2020-10-28T15:55:10+00:00

Love how honest you were. Especially in the beginning, you don’t know each other and he’s already being lazy. You’re not his assistant!

Ms_Tilly · 2020-10-28T16:29:31+00:00

It's not MY fault, YOU should've reminded me.

😂😂😂

Summerisle7 · 2020-10-28T15:31:47+00:00

I'm soooo glad you've found FDS so this will NEVER happen again!

blasthead99 · 2020-10-28T18:06:52+00:00

Imagine turning this absurdity back around on them. "I forgot I had a zoom meeting today, why didn't you remind me??? I briefly mentioned it in conversation once, you should have called to make sure I was up and would make it in time!"

warinmymind94 · 2020-10-28T17:09:45+00:00

I had this happen before FDS too, more than once. The mommas boys are just telling on themselves. Thanks for posting as this goes to act as more proof that guys that can't follow the date formula ie date = set day + set time + set location are lvm clowns

ellaykim · 2020-10-28T21:20:40+00:00

Gaslighting with the “Wow” too. As if you are the one with the problem and you just blew him away with your “crazy” response

Flightlessbirbz · 2020-10-28T17:37:27+00:00

To me this says either he didn’t care enough about the date to remember, or he has absolutely no ability to be a functioning adult, or both. Either way you dodged a bullet.

cece188 · 2020-10-28T23:18:54+00:00

“Wow”

And that is how he begins the attempt to gaslight you and make you feel like a rude b*tch.

Queen shit.

LadyGrimes · 2020-10-28T17:18:18+00:00

Already he expects you to act like his mother. SMH

Optimal_Grapefruit_5 · 2020-10-28T17:54:55+00:00

Dude probably wanted you to come over to his place and help him tie his shoelaces.

lacyvulture · 2020-10-28T16:52:57+00:00

What a loser! Omg. Glad you told him off. Someone needed to. It’s like these guys walk through life thinking they are Gods gift to the world.

galian84 · 2020-10-28T17:08:14+00:00

I hate this. Remember it's from the very first date, that sets the tone for the rest of the relationship.

No time, place and date at least 48 hours prior = no date. I have too much shit to do to waste my time waiting for a half-assed, last minute date invite. With someone who's 90% guaranteed to be a waste of time, anyway.

seashellseashell52 · 2020-10-28T22:25:57+00:00

I mean clearly he meant “wow” as in “wow I can’t believe how rude I was to clearly not prioritize your time or my time for that matter. You’re absolutely right in calling me out bc no, you’re not my mother, and I know my own mother would be so disappointed to see that I can’t get my shit together. So glad you’re healthy and confident enough to not put up with my bullshit. I wish you the best in life!”

Edit: word missed

ihavenoideadwhatimdo · 2020-10-28T17:22:02+00:00

I relate to this so intensely right now! Just this month I had FIVE men do this to me — making plans and then disappearing the day we supposedly had plans. Four of the five I had started talking to through OLD. I’ve deleted the app and I’m taking a break from dating because I’m just so fed up.

Making plans with my female friends is always stress free. If a girlfriend is hitting me up she’s always going to suggest something for us to do together, they don’t expect me to plan the whole thing. They suggest a time and place. If they can’t make it for any reason, they let me know that they’re tired or their schedule has changed and can’t make it today. There isn’t all of this “going with the flow, lets chill sometime” bullshit. With men, it always feels like pulling teeth to get together.

Old-Flower-9089 · 2020-10-28T16:04:41+00:00

An LVM recently asked me to message him to wake up, and when I messaged him, he didn't reply. (Of course I completely stopped all effort with him.) What's with LVM and putting responsibilities on women?

jchvrxo_ · 2020-10-28T20:13:47+00:00

Oh my gosh! So I was dating this guy right & he would text me “call me so I can wake up” and silly me, thought “okay I’ll do it because it’s normal....right?” The times I would go over his house and I would leave, he wouldn’t even walk me to my car!!!! But he wanted me to call him to wake him up for our date...what am I? An alarm clock?!

Also, I had to remind my ex, to FaceTime me or even call me if I wanted us to communicate more instead of just texting all the time. But he wouldn’t forget to be playing video games? You know what he told me???? “Video games were there before you”

mrspinster · 2020-10-28T17:20:49+00:00

LOL, love it. he is offended you called him out on his bullshit and put up a boundary. yikessss

oscine23 · 2020-10-28T21:47:33+00:00

Who's raising these men, wolves? Hobos? Wtf?

Equal-Ear2312 · 2020-10-28T17:47:20+00:00

this man needs a Personal Assitant, not a GF. But he's too poor to get one.

PsychologicalBeat2 · 2020-10-28T19:35:45+00:00

lmao yall didnt even MEET and he's already expecting you to ACT LIKE HIS MOM

THE AUDACITY!!!

clairemaffeis · 2020-10-28T18:55:53+00:00

“Wake me up figuratively”

Boy literally fuck you.

tiavarga · 2020-10-28T19:07:28+00:00

You answered perfectly! 👌🏻

shakethat_milkshake · 2020-10-28T21:34:30+00:00

When I was 21, I was in line for a bathroom at a bar in my college town. The men's bathroom had a line too. A guy (100% stranger) next to me made eye contact and said kinda quietly, "can you...tie my shoes?" It's a miracle they do anything for themselves.

This text exchange reminds me of the bewilderment I felt in that moment.

Confection_Efficient · 2020-10-28T22:51:20+00:00

Clearly he doesn’t know the difference between literally and figuratively. Also, why is he SO exhausted?

Was he crossing a dangerous river on foot so he could get to work on time in the dangerous cadmium mines, and then chased by a lion whom he defeated (yay, him) only to be attacked by a belligerent rhino who he outsmarted (duh, of course he did)?

I’m tired of these weird humblebrags about being sooo busy and soooo tired. Girl, you dodged a bullet!

favoritesound · 2020-10-28T20:22:15+00:00

He wishes you would've texted him instead of wishing he knew how to make sure he is able to wake up at a certain time... The fuck? Set an alarm or buy an extra alarm clock. It's really not hard, and basically every working adult has to do that. Jesus.

atuan · 2020-10-28T21:33:13+00:00

Yes great example of them asking us to nag and then being mad they have a nag.

kimjongchill796 · 2020-10-28T21:56:43+00:00

God why doesn’t he shut the fuck up, figuratively

Confection_Efficient · 2020-10-28T22:52:48+00:00

Clearly he doesn’t know the difference between literally and figuratively. Also, why is he SO exhausted?

Was he crossing a dangerous river on foot so he could get to work on time in the dangerous cadmium mines, and then chased by a lion whom he defeated (yay, him) only to be attacked by a belligerent rhino who he outsmarted (duh, of course he did)?

I’m tired of these weird humblebrags about being sooo busy and soooo tired. Girl, you dodged a bullet!

thinksimasparetire · 2020-10-29T01:50:43+00:00

Tell me why I had this happen with a dinner date last week.... guy not only forgot to text me but didn’t pick a place so I dropped his ass

mydeepestinnerworks · 2020-10-29T14:06:02+00:00

LMAOOOO this happened to me, too. He texted me after the supposed date time asking why I didn’t remind him. I was like: ??? Because I’m too busy right now at a high end restaurant on a date with somebody else, why the fuck else 😂 Ghosted him right after.

Rasaya87 · 2020-10-28T19:47:06+00:00

What is with dudes like this? The recent date I had did similar before we settled on a time, the day before our ramen dinner date, looking back. Glad I blocked and deleted, but lesson learned. Aiyaaa

anotherdamnloser · 2020-10-28T21:56:17+00:00

Geez what a loser!

san__404 · 2020-10-29T06:12:19+00:00

The bar was so low, right on the ground but this LVM dug a hole and never even made it to the other side.

Novemberinthechair · 2020-10-29T07:38:24+00:00

He doesn't know the difference between figuratively and literally. That's a pet peeve of mine. Then he acts indignant when you don't remind him about a date he initiated?

daisy_0720 · 2020-10-29T11:06:22+00:00

These LVM have no problem treating you with disrespect but are always so outraged and offended when you have the ~rudeness~ to call them out on it.

Owl-right · 2020-10-28T20:20:00+00:00

Gross. I am cheering you on 🙌

Confection_Efficient · 2020-10-28T22:51:48+00:00

Clearly he doesn’t know the difference between literally and figuratively. Also, why is he SO exhausted?

Was he crossing a dangerous river on foot so he could get to work on time in the dangerous cadmium mines, and then chased by a lion whom he defeated (yay, him) only to be attacked by a belligerent rhino who he outsmarted (duh, of course he did)?

I’m tired of these weird humblebrags about being sooo busy and soooo tired. Girl, you dodged a bullet!

fairywakes · 2020-10-29T02:56:45+00:00

minty-coral · 2020-10-29T08:58:15+00:00

He's a huge turnoff, grown ass child. Fuck off.

pikkpie · 2020-10-28T18:47:39+00:00

Who's the emotional illogical one? The man.

Confection_Efficient · 2020-10-28T22:51:41+00:00

Clearly he doesn’t know the difference between literally and figuratively. Also, why is he SO exhausted?

Was he crossing a dangerous river on foot so he could get to work on time in the dangerous cadmium mines, and then chased by a lion whom he defeated (yay, him) only to be attacked by a belligerent rhino who he outsmarted (duh, of course he did)?

I’m tired of these weird humblebrags about being sooo busy and soooo tired. Girl, you dodged a bullet!

HumanAdhesiveness360 · 2020-10-29T03:06:59+00:00

Lol then he'll post this in nicegirls

Helpful_Stock · 2020-10-29T04:23:20+00:00

"Wow" A typical fuckboy response who has just been called out on his shit and now is trying to make out you're overreacting

mikobaby · 2020-10-29T08:31:29+00:00

I'm surprised you even replied.

noodlebball · 2020-10-29T11:56:16+00:00

Man lol 😂😂😂 the

NowTruly · 2020-10-30T07:27:14+00:00

Ugh, I can literally hear his “wow” in my brain.

At this point in my life, if a man ever says “wow” to me like that, he may as well put a bullet in his own brain because he is DEAD TO ME.

You and your unsatisfying dick can kindly fuck off, sir.

gcthrowaway2019 · 2020-10-30T07:52:28+00:00

"Hey I wanna buy you a $3.00 cup of coffee. Can you text me to remind me to confirm my interest?" Kthx.

leo_macross_ · 2020-10-30T15:18:34+00:00

This isnt even about dating but I went OFF on my older brother because we agreed to split my hulu plus on July, and he hadn't sent me a payment since. When I asked him, he said it was because I hadn't 'reminded him'. I'm sure you were reminded everytime you logged into the damn app, dont play with me

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