Why does it matter whether someone rejects you, or has high standards?

RevolutionaryFig929 · 2023-10-13T08:49:30+00:00

It doesnt, I will just walk away, sometimes it will hurt, especially if it was after some time already spend together. But in general i will just walk away

upsidemaze · 2023-10-13T07:21:46+00:00

People have poor coping mechanism around rejection. Having narcissistic parents who withdraw affection if you make mistakes can be a reason. Abandonment issues. What can you do?

For men only way out of it is radical self improvement. When they get good habits and gain abundance it all goes away.

You can compare it to woman keying man's car when she is pumped and dumped.

Warm_Gur8832 · 2023-10-13T11:58:30+00:00

I honestly think most of the people in these spots are lonely and not handling it well.

Men can often handle things like anxiety and depression with more anger because it’s more socially acceptable for them, or at least perceived as such.

Nellylocheadbean · 2023-10-13T15:43:30+00:00

Because a lot of men feel entitled to a woman. Many are very bitter that they can’t get what they believe they deserve for no reason.

A woman who’s overweight and wants a 6’5 nba player is delusional and might die alone but that isn’t going to change the man’s situation.

He will still be single and unwanted because instead of trying to build his attractiveness, or paying for an escort, he’s on the internet telling average women they will die alone when he’s on the same path to die alone.

EastSideSlasha · 2023-10-13T08:13:34+00:00

The better question is when men have standards why do women reply with “insecure” “small dick” “broke”?

Safinated · 2023-10-13T05:34:17+00:00

Because those men feel they get so little puss puss as it is, any decrease is devastating — even if it’s only in their imaginations

slazengerx · 2023-10-13T06:26:49+00:00

It's quite simple: A lot of folks here are miserable and bitter, and if you can't give them what they want, they want to try to make you miserable and bitter too. They want to force you to come to their pity party; if they can't be happy, then no one should be happy.

Leinadro · 2023-10-13T15:21:59+00:00

Because in a lot of cases it's not just the rejection itself it's the shaming amd insulting that is passed off as just rejection or just stating preferences.

Pola_Lita · 2023-10-13T09:26:38+00:00

No one likes being rejected but I'd say if that experience turns into hate it could be a question of the hater's inability to see their own shortcomings clearly. It's a common thing and if a person can't see them clearly they aren't going to be able to fix them either. The resulting frustration gets misdirected.

It's a theory.

Dstar538888 · 2023-10-13T19:27:03+00:00

The reason it matters to them is because they are salty and bitter about the fact that they’re not being picked by the people they like🤷🏽‍♀️ this is the case when fat or ugly women complain about getting rejected for being fat and ugly and when short or ugly men complain about getting rejected for being short or ugly… they’re bitter about the fact that the people they want don’t want them back…

TenaciousVillain · 2023-10-13T21:12:16+00:00

Too many people, women in particular, underestimate how many men are taught to believe they are not only superior to women but they own women. That our lives, our very existent is because of them and belongs to them. They feel entitled to choose us for their doing and for our free labor. That’s not an opinion it’s rooted in history, especially Christianity - where these beliefs are loud and clear word for word and “backed by God”. When women don’t center men, men project their fears onto us.

Men fear dying alone and getting old - they are petrified of it. The only relationships they tend to prioritize is owning a woman even after she bears children for him. Because a woman does everything for men traditionally. It’s like having a fancy car - all about utility.

The easiest way to get hated as a woman is to dare to live your life happily without a man and children. Oh thee outrage. 🤌🏽 I remember being out one night and a guy asked why I was single, no kids. I didn’t want either right now. He became belligerent, so much so I readied myself for a fight. Really? I have purpose beyond being a nuclear family sacrificial lamb.

Women who experience good, wholesome, loving human centered men who actually care about people regardless their gender and respect her individuality, autonomy and personal power are far more lucky than they realize.

OpticalEpilepsy · 2023-10-13T07:44:50+00:00

Because they have terrible personalities that result in no women wanting them like retaliating when women have high standards

Zabadoodude · 2023-10-13T06:44:06+00:00

Many people get defensive when you express a preference that excludes them. Whether it's not wanting to date at all, or not wanting a poor man, or a short man or whatever.

It's not just men that do this, by the way. Just look at the anger online at men that say they don't want to date fat women, or promiscuous women.

HolidayWhile · 2023-10-13T05:31:22+00:00

Men don't have options and this is so alien to women that most can't even comprehend just how desperate we are.

peteypete78 · 2023-10-13T06:04:06+00:00

Why does it matter whether someone rejects you,

Who likes being rejected?

or has high standards?

It's usually the types of standards (must be 6' even though she is 5'2") Must be fit (she's 200lbs and gets out of breath walking up stairs)

What difference does it make to you if women don't date?

Because for men it's a numbers game and the more you take out of the available pool the more limited the options are.

not-a-dude-at-all · 2023-10-13T07:29:48+00:00

They're just far too serious about dating. For some of them asking somebody out need a lot of courage and getting rejected hurts.

Aromatic_File_5256 · 2023-10-13T18:52:50+00:00

People handling rejection poorly. It's not more complicated than that. Unless there is some other thing I'm not noticing

throwawayofc1112 · 2023-10-13T14:44:03+00:00

It really depends how they reject. If it’s a polite “no I’m not interested” then that’s totally fine. If I’m trying to talk to a girl and she nonverbally shows disinterest (facing away, short answers, etc.) I have no issue with that. But when they have to jump straight to attacking my character, then yeah; that’s a problem. This applies to scenarios unrelated to dating, too.

Chaos-Knight · 2023-10-13T07:48:40+00:00

I can tell you exactly what it is, it's the same response as beggars who don't get what they want and then "to restore their status" from being the party who is asking the other for something and then being rejected they overcomoensate and overshoot by going "well fuck you too then". I mean this probably goes as far back as monkeys I'd be surprised if you didn't find this response in other apes and even monkeys.

There is a secondary thing. Until recently men (and women) evolved in small tribes so being rejected (especially publicly!) was a huge fucking blow to your public image so you almost had no choice but to go "fuck you bitch!" to even attempt to save a bit of dignity.

purpledaggers · 2023-10-13T16:10:46+00:00

They genuinely believe its the start of the collapse of all western civilization. It's irrational its dumb its stupid but its what they think will happen if women go their own way.

Rogue5454 · 2023-10-14T00:46:45+00:00

Men are jealous that most women can have sex whenever they want.

It’s really that simple. Lol

nicebottleofchianti · 2023-10-13T19:40:32+00:00

Men with weak or absent self esteem feel that rejection is a personal exposure of their inadequacy.

These are the same kinds of guys who seem to think they need to control and even possess their girlfriends to prevent them from leaving.

It's this whole "anyone who gets to know me will certainly leave, so I need to keep her in a cage." The old "put the princess in the highest room of the castle" thing.

Telling her where she can go, what to wear, and which friends she can hang with. Sometimes, isolating her completely from family and friends.

The pathology of this is totally scary but very interesting no less.

abaxeron · 2023-10-13T08:14:02+00:00

I appeal to their understandings; and, as a fellow-creature, claim, in the name of my sex, some interest in their hearts. I entreat them to assist to emancipate their companion, to make her a help meet for them! Would men but generously snap our chains, and be content with rational fellowship instead of slavish obedience, they would find us more observant daughters, more affectionate sisters, more faithful wives, more reasonable mothers – in a word, better citizens.

Mary Wollstonecraft, A Vindication of the Rights of Woman: with Strictures on Political and Moral Subjects (1792).

If the deal is off, then it's off.

We want our universities, schools, workplaces, labor unions, and military units back. We'll discuss hospitals a little bit later.

Current rates of divorce, male singledom, abortions and low fertility, and women's general disdain for male plebs -

NONE of this is what was promised.

IneffablyEffed · 2023-10-13T07:11:56+00:00

The difference it makes is that eligible people ruin their lives by expecting things that are unrealistic, depriving both themselves and suitable matches from good relationships and improved life prospects.

MalePsychopath · 2023-10-13T10:05:25+00:00

What difference does it make if women don’t date?

Let’s assume all single women would stop dating immediately. How would that change society and the future of your country?

Toxic_LigmaMale · 2023-10-13T14:49:53+00:00

Because rejection sucks. I’m an above average dude. But my success rate face to face is still extremely low. I personally, just walk away. But the same way women get shitty if the 30th guy that week hits on them at the wrong time, dudes start to get shitty if you happen to be his 200th rejection in a row.

Interesting_Read_954 · 2023-10-13T15:17:30+00:00

There are many extremely lonely men out there. Even average men who literally cannot get the time of day from a woman. Now you can pretend that that isn’t a big deal or has a big impact on mental health but it does. Men are offing themselves at unprecedented levels. Love and intimacy is third on Maslow’s hierarchy of needs, just after safety and security and before any personal and career accomplishments. It truly is quite sad and something that women cannot comprehend.
It certainly affects the woman as well. The problem with many women is that they equate the guys that show interest in them for sex in their actual own value on the dating market. That is simply not the case. Sure that is your sexual value but it is not your relationship value. A guy who is more attractive than a woman will date them but not be in a relationship with them. So this creates the women who say things like “all guys are assholes”, “no guys want commitment” , “guys only want sex”

And BTW mad props to the women who actually are in stable relationships!

Comfortable-Dare-307 · 2023-10-13T18:41:21+00:00

It doesn't. But if you find that your standards are too high and you're still alone, only you are to blame. Especially if you're a woman since it's easy for most women to find a date. Women do have a double standard, though. For them, it's okay to have unrealistic standards. But if a man has one realistic standard, suddenly he's a creep or a misogynist. You can't have standards for men and complain that men have standards for women, too.

SecondEldenLord · 2023-10-13T08:08:57+00:00

Nobody likes being rejected and especially for reasons you cannot control. These high standards hurt both men and women and the only winners are the high value men who will just keep fucking and dumping. Women are the gatekeepers of sex and whether you like it or not, sex is something men want. The less they get it, they less focused they are, the more bitter and stressed they are. Sex is necessary for being healthy minded, having a positive attitude and so on. Imagine if most men had sex, how productive most of these men would be and how ambitious they would be. People don't realise how abstinence of sex can really affect the human mind.

Bro_with_passport · 2023-10-13T16:34:10+00:00

I’ve never had issues with rejection, but this is from what I’ve gleaned from other guys. It’s no single rejection that seems to be making it an issue. But rather that western women broadly rejecting men of equal levels of attractiveness out of a desire for that which is out of a woman’s league.

standingpretty · 2023-10-14T11:57:57+00:00

I really don’t see men getting hurt over being rejected though.

It’s usually trans activists and fat activists complaining and trying to convince everyone that their preferences are “fatphobic, transphobic, and racist” if they’re not included in them.

They see working on convincing people to be attracted to them as a part of “activism” now.

To me, it doesn’t make sense. Why in the fuck would I care about convincing people to be attracted to me? There’s always going to be people attracted to you no matter what you are and I think effort would be better spent trying to find those people instead of trying to change people’s biological preferences.

I can concede that as a decently attractive woman, I had no shortage of men interested in me and even when I was fat, I still always had guys interested in me. Maybe I would sad if I had I a very limited amount of people attracted to me, but not everyone is meant to be beautiful.

There’s nothing more off putting than begging people to find you attractive instead of working on yourself.

Gold_Supermarket1956 · 2023-10-15T06:11:18+00:00

Honestly the rejection part is because usually it's done rather rude and men are never given a actual reason for the rejection so they can work on it... As for the standards part most women prefer men 6ft or taller which is a tad asinine because that's less than 5% of the world population... Western women are broken beyond belief they think most the men in the states are unattractive yet any dude that's average or slightly above changes his dating app location to a non entitled non westernized country and they will get loads of matches...men are just frustrated that women are eliminating nearly all men from the dating pool over dumb shit

gopher_glitz · 2023-10-13T12:41:26+00:00

I'd really like to take you out sometime

Sorry, I don't date guys who don't have a masters degree

Proceeds to start fucking some married guy with kids who never finished college because tingles

tired_hillbilly · 2023-10-13T15:40:20+00:00

There's roughly equal numbers of men and women. For every woman who doesn't date, there's a guy who can't.

jpla86 · 2023-10-13T17:26:41+00:00

It would matter to you if you were the one that had to approach and make the first move, putting your self-esteem on the line by going through a trillion rejections.

Teflon08191 · 2023-10-13T19:01:39+00:00

What difference does it make to you if women don't date?

Remember MGTOW? What was women's primary complaint about it? That the men wouldn't just shut up about women and "go their own way" already.

Same story, different gender.

Barely-moral · 2023-10-13T15:29:03+00:00

Why does it matter whether someone rejects you

I don't like being rejected.

or has high standards?

I don't like inconsistency. I don't like wasted potential/opportunities.

why do you respond with things like "you will die alone" or "you suck"

If/when I respond that way it is because I believe it to be true.

Why do you spend so much energy caring enough to tell women they should hurry up and date?

Lets play a game of common denominator.

Most women want to have children (If they don't have them, they will regret it. That is what mean by that).

Most women will never make enough money to pay for a child on their own while at the same time having enough time in the day to remain same. So they (Most women) need a man (a man's extra income) to have both the child and sanity.

Most women care about their children.

Most children raised without a father figure do worse in life than most children raised with a father figure.

So it follow most women want a present father figure for their children.

The ratio of male to female humans is close enough to 50/50. Most women don't want to share their partner/father of their kids.

Having high standards reduces the chances of a woman finding a partner/present father for their children.

Most women with high standards are making decisions that will end up with either them not having children or being single mothers.

For most women, having high standards is a waste of potential and opportunities.

I hate waste of potential and waste of opportunities.

There it is the reason why I care. A step by step reasoning that explains why give a fuck.

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macone235 · 2023-10-13T20:01:36+00:00

Because they virtue signal and lie about it. No one likes fake people.

thedarkracer · 2023-10-13T22:27:45+00:00

That's the definition of nice guys or nice girls mate.

Title	Why does it matter whether someone rejects you, or has high standards?
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Date	October 13, 2023 5:25 AM UTC (2 years ago)
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