If it’s one thing men are good at, it’s low blows.

Technical_Moth248 · 2022-03-23T17:07:36+00:00

He didn't just mess things up for himself, he threw his mom under the bus and I know for a lot of women their relationship will never be the same. And honestly? Rightfully so. I cannot stand MILs that shit talk and make their daughter in laws prove themselves before they are actually nice to them.

Pickme boy mom raised a man that grew up to be a shitty husband with no empathy or control of his emotions, what a shock. Their marriage will probably recover but I feel bad for Ali and I hope she can get out.

hakunnamatatamfs · 2022-03-23T17:39:44+00:00

And he "considers" to get chocolate and flowers lol. What if you start making your own damn meals and sign up for classes for emotional regulation?

I swear some men only have the fucking audacity.

legoflowers · 2022-03-23T17:30:52+00:00

It’s not even the “boy was mom ever right” for me, (also what is it 1958?). It’s the “shut up.” If a man ever tells me to shut up now, we’re done.

applestorm · 2022-03-23T17:10:38+00:00

I hope she leaves. Usually when a man screams at his partner and negs, it's the precursor to much much worse.

Notice how she wakes earlier than him to cook him breakfast and lunch and then when she comes back from work cooks once more for him? He keeps talking about splitting chores but looks like he only does anything when she's too tired to be his bangmaid.

I hope she wise up and leave. His mom will always have a problem with her as long as she's not the perfect bangmaid. She seems like the typical enmeshed boy mom who raised her sons to believe they would one day be entitled to their own bangmaid.

Poorfck · 2022-03-23T17:34:42+00:00

There’s one thing I can’t understand: Why is she still cooking for him?

purasangria · 2022-03-23T16:31:54+00:00

God, men are stupid.

She's literally doing everything for him, and he can't just engage in a bit of emotional self-control and STFU.

I hope she leaves him. Clearly things are not at all well in the relationship, or she'd be at least willing to talk to him. He's been on probation for a while, and just too stupid to notice it.

jupitaur9 · 2022-03-23T16:48:00+00:00

Flowers and chocolates? What, he thinks $45 might not be enough, he might have to spend more? Jeez, talk about commodification.

How about a sincere and heartfelt apology? Why can’t he cOmMuNiCaTe?

Tharwaum · 2022-03-23T17:02:14+00:00

His moms concerns were weird and not something to share with her son. She has three sons so if one made a “mistake” by not marrying a “good house wife” it wouldn’t have been the end of the world anyways. This guy is mentally on a weird planet due to an odd family dynamic valuing the concept of “house wife.” Imagine Ali was his house wife and had to just deal with his bad manners as she’d have no other option, seems like a good thing for her own best interests that she didn’t want to become a house wife, since she is not with a fabulous provider responsable husband. For being a “great house wife” or whatever his mom did not raise a wonderful man. Also he doesn’t seem very smart as that’s actually not a “low blow” to Ali. It’s hurtful but it’s nothing about her intrinsic qualities it’s all about his moms odd opinion that she inappropriately shared and he took as important and valuable info. And it will destroy all the affection and respect his mom earned from Ali. Again, he’s on another planet. Poor Ali, hope they don’t have children and she’s not pregnant

vforvendetta87 · 2022-03-23T17:35:15+00:00

His mother sounds like a misogynist, sexist piece of shit, along with him. Sadly this is so, so common with a mother-son relationship, especially the religious ones.

Smolfrend · 2022-03-23T17:01:50+00:00

Boo hoo! I'm my mommy's special boy so I believe minor inconveniences are justifiable reasons to be cruel to my wife, who literally replaced my mommy as my caretaker. Not only did I verbally and emotionally abuse her out of the blue, I'm not even introspective enough to understand it's not an equal relationship like I say, because she clearly makes my life very comfortable even when she is hurt emotionally. I also refuse to take responsibility and actually apologize or put in any emotional effort and would rather throw money at this problem to make it go away. I will also play this off as a one off thing and not a low blow I bring up to purposely upset her, I get a free pass for being cruel.

Serious_Papaya8615 · 2022-03-23T17:10:33+00:00

Men are disgusting

spinsterchachkies · 2022-03-23T17:04:38+00:00

She’s biding her time until she gets the divorce papers ready. That was nuclear.

queenofswordsxxx · 2022-03-23T17:28:44+00:00

Crime escalates. Abuse too. (Lundy Bancroft even writes it).

He starts with a misogynistic and disgusting comment today, next week he throws out your clothes, next month he kicks your cat, next year he pinches and slaps you, next decade he kills…

She needs to leave before the push and pull cycle of abuse starts. He’s only on Reddit to try to find a way to win her back.

Also wtf is wrong with the mother-in-law?!?! Serena joy vibes much???? Literally it’s women like this that are complicit to the patriarchy and help men screw women over…

shelballama · 2022-03-23T16:42:37+00:00

I just read this.

He not only escalated out of the blue, but then nuked the relationship between her and his mom.

Someone pointed out she may have been acting nervous because she was going to tell him she was pregnant. I hope not.

Poor girl.

I cannot believe she continued to make food for him. I would've dumped his dinner right into the trash after those comments.

BBQCoolRanchQueen · 2022-03-23T16:42:29+00:00

Damn, he played the long con on this poor woman. He waited years before using her as an emotional punching bag. I hope she kicks this scrote to the curb and soon.

munissa · 2022-03-23T17:14:26+00:00

LOL I would hope his mom is right, at least if I was in her shoes, I wouldn’t want to be seen as a good housewife, maybe an amazing mom but a good housewife isn’t a title I’d like to acquire.

throwaway-fds · 2022-03-23T17:54:59+00:00

Nah he did this on purpose. She looks "defeated" so that tells me he has a habit of kicking her down. I hope she leaves him.

the-worst- · 2022-03-23T18:07:35+00:00

He said it because he thought it would be acceptable to take his shitty day and anger out on his wife. Men have used women as both mental and physical punching bags.

If my husband was talking a mile a minute and I was frustrated, I would have said “hey dondee, could I ask you to wait to talk about this over dinner? My lunch was dumped and I left my wallet here and I just want to eat.”

LizardPussy6969 · 2022-03-23T16:55:39+00:00

I like how he hasn't even tried anything. No flowers or chocolate, no apology. Motherfucker is actually walking around acting normal, hoping she'll get over it. The reddit post is the most remorse he's shown, and it's not even towards his own wife.

spicyspa · 2022-03-23T17:29:19+00:00

My mom was wrong about a lot of things, but she was right in saying that if a man tells you to shut up or similar, not to ask to be quiet for a moment, you should dump him. It'll only get worse.

ShegoGreen · 2022-03-23T18:52:58+00:00

This is another example of why 50/50 relationships are a scam- men will always want you to do more and generally lack respect for you. He never cherished her, so he thinks he can speak to her that way. But I'm sure he would hold his tongue before getting dealing a low blow to his boss or xbox friends.

Oh and you don't deserve a housewife if you aren't a traditional husband who provides and cherishes your wife.

orangecatspajamas · 2022-03-23T16:49:29+00:00

Poor woman, her husband doesn’t even like her enough to care that she is happy to see him after being apart for the day! My ex was like this. When he got home he would resent you speaking to him until he wanted to dump all this drama from the day on you. But if you wanted to share anything, then suddenly it was “not the right time” or “why don’t you let me relax after work?” Men don’t want a full person as a partner they want an appliance so they act out when their partner acts like a real person.

missisabelarcher · 2022-03-23T16:57:42+00:00

Wow, so thoughtless to the point of cruelty and just about abusive, really. They take their wives for granted, hold them to inhuman standards of "saintliness" and then get soooooooo confused when they do something cruel and wonder why she's so mad or angry.

In the best case scenario, this is what Is known as a serious attachment injury and it has really damaged the relationship. He really needs to open his eyes, humble himself, get himself talking with a counselor so he can improve. If he truly values her, he will do that. If she truly values herself, she needs to demand it. Like, DEMAND IT.

At worst, his self-centeredness (enabled by his "saintly" mom) guarantees a marriage where his wife is just used up until she has nothing to give, she wises up and divorces him after a breaking point. He shows himself to be a typical misogynistic husband who can't see his wife as an autonomous human being with her own needs and desires and feelings, and he only loves her for what she can do for him.

I really hope she doesn't have a child with him. If he can't handle a stressful day and takes it out on his wife, imagine how it's going to be with a baby or small child.

lessadessa · 2022-03-23T18:16:21+00:00

D I V O R C E H I M

sewingmachinesavior · 2022-03-23T16:46:52+00:00

If this is literally a one off, he can maybe repair, but she is 100% right to make him sweat it out. Remember: removing attention is the only “punishment” for men.

But I have a feeling it wasn’t a one off, and she’s reconsidering the whole relationship. Or it was a one off, but it’s an area where she has a lot of trauma/was made fun of as a kid etc, so it hit hard and he knew it would.

It’s situations like these that have me reconsidering ever living with a man again.

applestorm · 2022-03-23T16:59:18+00:00

OP, you need to remove the name of the sub and the username or else it'll be removed by mods for brigading.

sveji- · 2022-03-23T18:21:09+00:00

He could have just told her that he didn't feel like talking at that moment.

Communication am I right?

boxem180 · 2022-03-23T16:50:03+00:00

This isn't a low blow -- it's fucking emotional abuse. This isn't the first time it's happened more than likely, just the first time he's felt bad about it.

Carneliancat · 2022-03-23T19:02:18+00:00

I don't care WHAT kind of day a man is having. The moment he lashes out at me, his partner, is when it is over. End of discussion. A man who dumps his stress on his partner is an abuser who has no respect for his wife/girlfriend.

calicocoolness · 2022-03-23T17:43:47+00:00

I’m honestly surprised she’s continuing to make him food. That would’ve been the last meal I made for the time even if I stayed in the relationship (which I’m not recommending).

queeninprogress · 2022-03-23T18:12:49+00:00

This was not just being annoyed and impulsively snapping. If I'm annoyed and snap at someone, it'll be in the form of a harsher tone of voice or being more short with my sentences. Not insulting them and going off on a hurtful rant about something from many years ago, those things don't happen by accident. What he did actually requires conscious effort. Horrible horrible man.

zorua · 2022-03-23T19:04:02+00:00

Wow I can feel that womans heartbreak from here. Imagine spending your life with someone you thought was your world, and he turns around and says this because hes had a bad day? Wow. Just wow.

VintagePallor · 2022-03-23T17:04:53+00:00

She is getting set to leave and good for her! She's had enough of all the BS he's clearly leaving out lmao

2oatmeal_cookies · 2022-03-23T18:24:28+00:00

I hope she divorces this pos.

Sweet-and-hope-S2 · 2022-03-23T16:39:33+00:00

"Im sorry, i love you, i was a POS" is a good start.

People are mean and say shit for free, so why not offer sincere apologies, buy some fancy chocolates and a date to make it better?

jewdiful · 2022-03-23T19:45:29+00:00

Like if he would have IMMEDIATELY apologized profusely and begged forgiveness, while ALSO clearing up the false implication that his mother still felt that way about her, and spent the entire rest of that night sharing his true feeling of gratitude, respect, and deep love for her, it could have easily been forgiven as a momentary lapse of self-control.

But he didn’t feel remorse for it. He didn’t feel guilty for hurting her as deeply as he did. He didn’t have the courage or the humility to own his fuck up immediately. He doesn’t respect her. He doesn’t truly understand why she is so deeply hurt by not just his words but his actions after the fact. Like I said, he should have been begging for her forgiveness that night with true remorse, guilt, and shame. How did he say something like that and essentially ignore his wife for days afterwards? She shouldn’t have to do any of the work to regain their emotional connection after he so brutally severed it with his words. But he just so easily let her distance herself from him because he’s a fucking selfish coward.

We have all snapped and said something horrible before. Everyone has. But truly good people immediately react as if THEY were the recipient of the ugly words, and also deeply feel the pain they just caused another. He didn’t do that!!! Cognitively he knows he fucked up but emotionally he just doesn’t fucking care. This guy is trash!!!

modernmedusaa · 2022-03-23T18:34:11+00:00

It’s all fun & games till she walks out & opens her inbox.

misandryisnotreal · 2022-03-23T19:50:54+00:00

LOL, what a scummy piece of shit. Why is he so hysterical?

fdsaltaccount2022 · 2022-03-23T16:34:20+00:00

Imagine saying this to someone he has been with for 6 years! It just took one bad day to make him absolutely frustrated and say something this scathing. Absolute trash human being

SamEsme · 2022-03-23T18:25:42+00:00

I'm sorry your title is so funny

(also, caption, so true)

KitKat1705 · 2022-03-23T21:12:46+00:00

I would have been « who the fuck you think you are talking to » and pack to my mom house. The fuck.

Zurflu · 2022-03-23T21:57:46+00:00

She was making him 3 meals a day EVERY DAY and he called her a bad housewife??? Bruh... is this the life trads dream of??

4E4ME · 2022-03-23T22:51:39+00:00

"My bangmaid is no longer banging nor maiding. How do I fix it?"

The_Cat_Empress · 2022-03-23T22:44:55+00:00

She even STILL makes him food. What an absolute ANGEL.

Holy crap what a NUMBSKULL. It’s called an APOLOGY. Do men even know what an apology is?!

lolmemberberries · 2022-03-23T23:16:51+00:00

Her reaction says this isn't the first time he's done this.

roundbackpack · 2022-03-23T16:54:12+00:00

It's literally his mom's fault. She is a terrible mysoginistic mother, just like most of them, mostly if it's from a poor country. She treats her baby boy like a little kid who needs her momma and criticizes the wife for her little baby. Of course the guy is gonna be an ass If his mom is like this.

Title	If it’s one thing men are good at, it’s low blows.
Author	teatimebiitch
Upvotes	680
Comments	140
Date	March 23, 2022 4:20 PM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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