Older guys are not dating young girls

Grappleheart · 2022-06-20T10:46:40+00:00

Most women want to date men a little bit older than them. Usually between 2 to 5 years older I think based on stats. So yeah older men date younger women but not to the extent that most RPs look at it. You are not competing with 50 year olds for instance.

pop442 · 2022-06-20T14:46:48+00:00

Depends on the context.

I'm a late 20's guy and the last girls I've been dating have been in their early 20's.

From my experience, younger women come on stronger to older men(not like 20 years older but still older) more than vice versa. It's almost like a cheat code.

But, as far as 20 year gaps or even 10 year gaps goes, you're right that it's not common and that dudes exaggerate how common it is for the "nerd" to get his money up in his mid 30's-40's and have attractive young women in the 18-24 age range flocking all around him. I pretty much never see this lol.

But younger girls are definitely open to dating guys 2-8 years older than them. And that's not a secret either.

Rushbyb · 2022-06-20T16:53:42+00:00

Majority of men in their 20's are having a hard time dating as it is. Regardless of gender most people have hit their prime in their 20's, and will only become less attractive and bigger as they age. In general both genders are less desirable as they age.

Most men don't actually have money but no one expects a 20 year old to have money also but they would expects a 30 years old to be established(house, car, etc.). I've see a lot of popular people out of high school turn into losers and vice versa.

Ok-Map-7596 · 2022-06-20T13:10:59+00:00

— Relationships with a 20-year age gap have a 95% chance of splitting up.

I think it's very interesting redpillers don't seem to care about this. But obsess over n count divorce stats.

Slight_Fig5187 · 2022-06-20T13:55:10+00:00

There are a couple of such cases in my family, 12 year gap in each case. It seemed a bit weird when they started, and for a while it went well, but then as the men got considerably older while the women were still reasonably young and attractive, it started going downhill. One of those couples divorced this year, with 3 children in common; the other is very unstable, 2 children.

wtknight · 2022-06-20T12:34:06+00:00

Society does not except this behavior in everyday life. Most females think it is creepy behavior when an older guy is attracted to a young girl.

When I was in my early 30s chatting with women online there were many college-aged women “attracted” to me online. Of course, they were all from poor countries. The young American women that I chatted to were invariably not attracted.

What it comes down to is that it has nothing to do with “creepiness”. It has to do with the fact that young American women (and likely western women from other countries) don’t feel like they get anything from dating older western men. If some kind of advantage were somehow given to older western men again, I am guessing that it would suddenly not become creepy.

So to challenge your view, young women are dating older men when they perceive an advantage to dating said older man. There are plenty of younger women who have crushes on older male celebrities, after all. Why? Because the idea of hypothetically dating these men would be advantageous to them. However, young women are not dating older men who are their equals because there is no advantage to them. So you’re right to a certain extent, but wrong that it never happens and that it could never conceivably happen.

Ok_Razzmatazz_1751 · 2022-06-20T19:24:17+00:00

Men are attracted to women of a younger age, but younger women don't want to be wives of older men. Think that's the part alot of people are neglecting to understand. Especially men. Just cause men want one thing. What they actually can obtain being in everyday life is another thing.

As long as women have a choice , older men will not be a young woman's first choice.

BridgeBurner22 · 2022-06-21T11:01:58+00:00

Oh yes we do...

cliffthegeneralpeas · 2022-06-20T17:36:10+00:00

It’s a revenge fantasy.

Almost every girl I know only go 2/4 years up.

Most 40 year old guys are greying and ugly.

The girls that they get are looksmatched.

Just let them live in fantasy land

Puzzleheaded_Bet7294 · 2022-06-20T14:06:49+00:00

As a guy, the last type of women I would go for if I was in my 30s is a woman in her early 20s. The majority of them are immature, entitled, and annoying. I never understood why 30 yr old guys wanna date women that young, just not worth it imo

2022-06-20T17:30:33+00:00

When we say ‘older’ we don’t typically mean ‘old enough to be your father’.

We mean older in the sense that they’ve been out here longer and have accumulated things that the guys their age haven’t. If these girls are 17-19, they’re probably choosing the 21-23 guys. If the girls are 19-21, they’re probably messing with guys who are in their mid 20’s and a little older.

Women who are in their mid 20’s don’t hesitate to swoon for a man who’s in his late 20’s and early 30’s and especially if he’s maintained a figure.

Braucifarian · 2022-06-20T20:40:21+00:00

You don't know the difference between except & accept and view people two years younger than yourself as children. Yet you yourself are of course not a child you are so supremely confident in your own judgement & perception of the world?

Please, kiddo, stop trying to play analyst here. Go back in the ball pit with the 18 year olds.

IrrungenWirrungen · 2022-06-20T11:13:34+00:00

It’s a revenge fantasy.

Every woman has a story about old creepy dudes hitting on them when they were teenagers. It’s nothing new.

What was new to me was hearing stories about young dudes being hit on by old women.

Chance_Base_854 · 2022-06-20T10:39:42+00:00

We see the future and it includes a lot of ass wiping in our middle age. It's more of a burden to date older men. Besides, older men are more likely misogynistic and less likely to be funny.

roguish_rogue · 2022-06-20T16:15:07+00:00

Its a small subset of older men, not even sure its statistically significant. Its also a matter of access and social stigma, I had an fwb for awhile who was much younger than me but I dont think she bragged to her friends about it and I dont think most people would have approved lol, it was chance encounter, I could not have been seeking her out without coming off as a creep. my girlfriend is younger by more than a decade but its different after 30 I think.

I will say I had more luck with women in their 20s when I was in my 30s than I ever did when I was in my 20s, but I dont think many guys in their 40s and up are realistically competing for women in their 20s, also age filters on OLD is an inconvenient thing.

acmemetalworks · 2022-06-20T16:38:02+00:00

Yes, George Clooney looks good because of genetics. Not botox, hair implants, plastic surgery, personal trainers, a host of personal groomers, tanning beds, makeup and flattering camera work.

cvslengthbucketlist · 2022-06-20T18:27:01+00:00

You're conflating dating with marriage in your statistics. A lot of younger women who do date much older guys don't end up marrying them because most young women don't get married at that age in the first place. But clearly there are still a lot of age gap relationships happening, if the constant age gap posts in relationship subs are any indication.

Your point #2 contradicts your title. If it's about looks then there's a pretty sizable proportion of men (especially certain minorities) who reliably look younger than their age. These are the ones who are generally going to be in age gaps undetected by the people who claim they don't "see" many age gap couples. And PPD seems to envision married balding men with bellies as the typical "35+", not a single guy who hasn't let themselves go yet.

Personality is the easiest to debunk, as it has more to do with...the person than their age.

Its hard to stomach as women why a guy would be attracted to childlike qualities and we cant help but feel a sick feeling in our stomach.

If that were the case then women of short height and petite stature would be disgusted by men much taller than them dating them despite their physical differences. And women with babyfaces disgusted about men their age with masculine, angular faces liking them despite looking young. Women who have a healthy degree of trust (and distrust) in men don't normally psychoanalyze their partner's preferences based on internet theory.

Dagenius1 · 2022-06-21T02:18:32+00:00

It seems like this is a blind spot for Reddit due to the distaste for it. To make it sound like there aren’t plenty of age gap marriages and relationships is silly. Perhaps living in LA means I see it more than other cities but it’s alive and well. We can toss out both ends of the discussion. 3 years and under is essentially the same age. 20 years is rare and those relationships are fraught with issues

But 8-12 years, which is a large gap, happens all the time in big cities. This is to say nothing of when you go to South America, Eastern Europe or Asia where 10 years is really no big deal.

Do I think certain groups overstate how popular older men are for younger women? Yes. They absolutely overstate it. Just as Reddit seems to really want to understate how many age gap relationships exist

PlayfulLawyer · 2022-06-20T11:09:01+00:00

Depends on what you mean by older, since we're throwing so much personal experience in there I'm 36 and my wife is 23, so that's already factually incorrect lol, not to mention being around other guys who make top 2% money, yeah they are, some of the age gaps are smaller than mine, some are bigger but it definitely happens whether it's marriage or whether it's just fun

me myself now view 18year old's as kids.

Sus

Females are attracted to money but also looks

Duh, however people will compromise on one facet of attraction if it can be made up in other ways, most guys will marry a virgin six if she has the qualities of being a wife and a mother over a promiscuous 10 who doesn't know how to boil water, we all make sacrifices for certain things

Society does not except this behavior in everyday life.

Real ones don't care, that being said I do find it funny that in this "love is love" Society it's becoming more and more okay to call an age gap relationship "creepy or gross", I'm going to start doing that next June for those relationships I don't want to see , and I better not hear a damn thing 🤣

And yeah the overwhelming majority of people are going to be dating slightly within their age bracket give or take, but divorce and breakups happen all the time, might as well try to maximize your fun, not to mention these days especially with women out earning man in a lot of places, there's numerous examples that if a woman has the option to, she will also go significantly younger so ain't nobody worried about y'all like that lol

dysonRing · 2022-06-20T14:27:54+00:00

Well I do it, women underestimate other women, your circle of friends is tiny and irrelevant statistically.

As for things ending it seems like they are more on our terms. Same age relationships end the woman's terms almost always.

They are rare because we don't share social circles. At work women with 10 year old gaps used to fall for me once or twice, like seriously a multi year smittance, why? because we shared social circles (just same company but different departments)

Will this end one day? maybe but further down the line.

Popeman79 · 2022-06-20T13:58:29+00:00

I'm in my 40s and date girls in their 20s all the time.

You're right that statistically, this won't happen to an average guy in his 40s. But the message the Redpill conveys is that you can work on yourself, on your social skills, your personality and your body, and become a top 20% guy in his 40s. And then yes, you do get young girls.

midwesternMD · 2022-06-20T19:32:33+00:00

Eh. Depends. I think the biggest gap I’ve had was about 9-10yrs. The first date was pleasant enough and she wanted to see me again, but she wasn’t my type. Typically I match with 5-7yr age gaps, but my filter is set for a minimum of a 5yr age gap, so my experience is obviously skewed.

That said, I’m in my mid-30s and look very young for my age. And I’m in decent shape, have a full head of hair, etc. I’m fairly confident that I could pass for a grad student or even a college upperclassman if I “behaved” and dressed like one. Actually, I do dress like one on weekends since all my non-work clothing is classically preppy.

The_Entertainer217 · 2022-06-21T01:58:00+00:00

I mean I can only speak from my personal experience, but there’s a hell of a lot more women in their early 20s interested in me now at 34 then there were when I was in my early 20s. Is it every woman that age? No, but there is definitely a subset of younger women very into older guys. I assume it’s like women who are into hardcore body builders or guys who are “depressing and artistic” it’s not every woman’s type it’s a niche, but they’ll pursue it hard.

-Ivar-TheBoneless · 2022-06-20T11:50:06+00:00

That's because sugar relationships have replaced many of those relationships.

TermAggravating8043 · 2022-06-20T13:34:04+00:00

I’ve always though that guys that deliberately go fir younger girls are predators, the girls are young enough not to realise their being abused, you see it on all the other subs all the time. It’s only this sub that seems to encourage it and it really makes me concerned about some of the people here

LotBuilder · 2022-06-20T16:11:35+00:00

I’m 43, HNW and I know two dozen guys dating or married to women 10+ years younger. Many are second wives. Do you see how our personal experiences is near worthless? Especially at 20. When you are 30 that tune will change. I can’t speak for the average guy, my advice for men is to not be average.

IrrungenWirrungen · 2022-06-20T11:19:35+00:00

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chukb2012 · 2022-06-20T15:14:32+00:00

I'm 41 dating a 25 year old. So I guess you're wrong?

CocoBabeNYC · 2022-06-20T11:00:54+00:00

Sure Jan. Why don't you just look out of your window every once in a while. Plenty of older men date younger women. If you have a job, are in a good shape and have no baggage you are a catch by any means.

tabeatroester · 2022-06-20T17:55:48+00:00

My husband and I have a 30+ year age gap…i know this is extreme but i somewhat agree with you because most of my friends from college/high school are with partners their same age. I personally have anyways been attracted to men 40+, call me weird but I dated a lot before getting married and I have only once been with someone my own age. I personally think men get better looking as the age and I also think that people in general are more interesting as they get older bc they have more to talk about and more experience. I’ve lived in big cities on each coast of the US and i also notice couples with age gaps are much more prevalent in larger cosmopolitan cities. Most of my college/high school friends who have same age partners are not in big cosmopolitain cities. I really think it all comes down to personal preference.

cvslengthbucketlist · 2022-06-20T19:03:38+00:00

# of professed stories from women being taken advantage by "toxic older boyfriend" to prove that large age gaps are toxic: countless

# of large age gap relationships anecdotally claimed to be in existence among one's social circles to prove that large age gaps don't happen: negligible

Schrodinger's age gap strikes again

WaffleBurner96 · 2022-06-21T01:55:35+00:00

Hello. I am a 25 yo woman happily married to a 50 yo man. I have always preferred older men. Age gap relationships do exist.

mrcs84usn · 2022-06-20T11:03:16+00:00

You put those break-up stats, but they have to get together in the first place for them to break up.

Society may or may not accept it, but it still happens often enough.
Guys who don’t take care of themselves look like trash regardless of age. Plenty of 35+ men look great because they have done the work.
Depending on how far along she is in her career, it doesn’t take much to keep a woman’s interest. A man doesn’t need to make 6 figures if he doesn’t have a bunch of debt, therefore increasing his spending power.
Men become -more- socially competent with age and experience, not less. But I do agree there may be some gap with experiences. For instance, I doubt most early 20-somethings know who Jonathan Taylor Thomas or Devin Sawa are.

Large gaps are pretty rare, but still about 30% of couples are where the man is between 4-14 years older.

CptKillsteal · 2022-06-20T11:51:10+00:00

However, I've seen chicks who had boyfriends around 10 years older than them.

wrathofkalima · 2022-06-20T12:40:07+00:00

When I was 18, I dated a 29 year old which was creepy of him now I look back at it. After I matured, I dated men in my own age group. I rarely see young women date older men once out of teenage hood. I’m in my 30s and wouldn’t date a guy over 42 unless he looked amazing for his age. I tend to attract men in their 20s because I look quite young for my age but I would not go lower than 28.

HighValueBro · 2022-06-20T15:00:26+00:00

A lot of women date older men lol. It’s really common.

2022-06-20T11:44:34+00:00

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Bruce_Hale · 2022-06-20T16:50:32+00:00

I have personally never seen my friends date older guys (Im 20f) and all relationships I've seen the two people have been about the same age

Only the ones who aren't themselves being hit on by the older guys.

PHVEDO · 2022-06-20T17:48:35+00:00

I think the are not exactly "dating" them.

Also you seem to have a false perception of what older guys means. A 30M dates a 20f you can barely tell he is older than her or atleast you wont be able to tell the difference is 10 years.

Because of this alot of guys avoid the question about age and never trully answer it.I personally know a couple of guys well in their 30s that literally have a different girl every time I see them and they r dfenetly not his age probably most barely over 21

Also younger girls prefer older guys statistically speaking usually between 2-5 years older and imo most girls who date these older guys believe that is the difference in age.

jayval90 · 2022-06-20T18:04:40+00:00

I generally agree with you that the age split isn't as big as RP makes it out to be, especially when it comes to relationships. However, you seem to have completely forgotten that one-night stands and non-relationship flings are a thing. Comparing a 22-year old male to a 29-year old male for a fling is very imbalanced for the typical 22-year old female looking for something fun. This 7 year advantage is still enough to make young guys have problems getting what they want (even young relationship-oriented guys will have issues competing at that age). And it's still not a big enough gap to really raise enough eyebrows.

In short, yes the "RP explanation" is exaggerating. But yes they do have a point even with the exaggeration removed.

Also point #4 is just wrong. Guys who have their stuff together are way more interesting than young and inexperienced guys. I'm not sure where you're getting this idea that talking to a 29-year old with his own house is "unexciting" compared to talking with a 22-year old who still lives in a frat house. Sure, maybe if you are comparing career-driven 29-year old's who don't have time for anything else with adventurous 22-year old's, you'd have a point about talking with older relatives. But frankly, those guys were too busy at 22 as well (they were the nerds with 3.9 GPA's who were too busy for women then too). If you compare the different ages along the same strata of social competence, you're going to see the 29-year old's win out almost every time.

2022-06-20T23:35:58+00:00

Why do women date older men?

Time_Animaal · 2022-06-21T03:49:38+00:00

I guess it depends - most high value men won't get out of their 20s without getting married or at least being with someone they're going to marry - and most men I know that have good stable jobs in their late 20s end up with someone. So I think part of the problem is that the experiment really isn't run that often to be visible.

I would guess that roughly 80-90% of high value men are in relationships by the time they're 30. I'm pretty non-social and don't meet a lot of people, but between family, work, and roommates I don't know a single 30+ year old high value guy or guy in a good stable job that isn't in a relationship. Maybe one of my supervisors with work? He did mention going somewhere with a woman once, but I didn't get the idea that it was serious. He was low body fat and worked out, but not big, and probably 5'6'' or 5'7''. Maybe slightly below average face and was making ~160k a year. He's sort of an unknown though.

I can say that successful divorced men in their 40s/50s seem to be marrying women in their late 20s, early 30s, late 30s if they're hot.

cliffthegeneralpeas · 2022-06-20T14:36:28+00:00

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banjocatto · 2022-06-20T15:18:09+00:00

I've even seen men on this sub attempting to make the "it's evolution" arguement, by saying "women have evolved to seek a provider" when trying to 'prove' that young women are attracted to middle aged men.

Like...

Yes, many women want a man who can provide. But throughout the grand scheme of human history, older men being providers is a fairly new phenomenon. Alimony and inheritance didn't exist either, nor did 99% of the material wealth we have access to today. If he died, there was nobody left to provide for her.

If women are hardwired to look for a provider, it wouldn't make sense for them to choose a man who has a higher chance of dying sooner, and is in a physically weaker state than his younger counterparts.

So no, young women didn't evolve to be attracted to older men.

"If nature programmed men to select infertile women, the human race would go extinct."

This is something I hear a lot, but what most people who tout this line are conveniently ignoring, is that if nature programmed women to select physically inferior older men, not only would population growth have been drastically slower, but the human race would overall be less healthy.

Aside from the fact that the majority of older men don't actually out earn younger men by much anyway, older men are also inferior to procreate with due to lowered sperm count and quality.

Most women aren’t attracted to men more than a few years older than them. No amount of status/incredibly good genes/or any other qualifiers will make up for that.

listAmbitions · 2022-06-20T14:10:23+00:00

Youngsterd are hard to talk to. I'm 31 ans active dating life and the jokes would just not land with under 23s

beleidigtewurst · 2022-06-20T14:11:17+00:00

The truth is in everyday life and statistics. I have personally never seen my friends date older guys

Thank you, magical lady.

Why don't you offer your help to sociologists?

Your ability to make judgement about entire planet based on your experience is unique.

You can make millions, if not billions.

Don't hide your talent!

The truth, as studies show, is that women look for men a bit taller and 3-5 years older than themselves.

Flintblood · 2022-06-20T20:33:57+00:00

I think many (older millennial to xennial) beg to differ. I’ve dated several women in their 20s in my 30s.

AelfredRex · 2022-06-20T12:06:57+00:00

I do get attention from younger women. Some younger women are into the maturity and experience of older guys and teens ( and I do not reciprocate that attention) are raging with hormones and hungry for experience. I don't seek the attention, just happens. It's an energy thing.

The women I'm talking to at the moment are all about ten years younger than me, in their 40s.

Friedidli · 2022-06-20T11:08:55+00:00

So what are we supposed to do. Date the women who wouldn't give a fuck about us without our money.

Likely to have similar problems with being jaded after going through the mill of trying to sleep with guys and not being able to keep them.

And then shame us for being loosers.

Fuck that.

Younger girls or nothing.

Idgaf

Successful-Season989 · 2022-06-20T13:52:22+00:00

This is just nonsense, meant to scare guys to commit to the first girl who is nice to him. Men and women have different attraction triggers. Men are attracted to youth, beauty, and fertility. Women are attracted to looks, money, and status. These qualities can go up as men get older. A fat broke old dude will not be any more attractive than a young broke fat dude. Women can be subdivided into 3 categories. Those that are disgusted by older men. Those that can be open to an older guy if he looks good and has money. The third category are those that prefer older men. Now it’s a math problem. Their are not many older guys with money who maintained their looks. Most guys pull the trigger early. They have alimony and child care payments. A lot of guys also just get fat. Guys who want to well when they are older need to focus on building wealth. Hit the gym, keep their hair, get good well tailored suits and don’t be afraid of plastic surgery.

daisydaisydaisy12 · 2022-06-20T10:47:20+00:00

False misconception? So its a conception?

Fiestygirl000 · 2022-06-20T14:53:12+00:00

Oh no you have awaken the Viagra crew. Good luck OP

2022-06-20T16:19:04+00:00

Most single women in their and 40's think it's creepy even though they had no problem dating older men.

Bruce_Hale · 2022-06-20T16:49:21+00:00

I have personally never seen my friends date older guys (Im 20f) and all relationships I've seen the two people have been about the same age

Because you have no life experience.

Evo_Psych · 2022-06-20T17:20:54+00:00

Don't kill the dream. :p Good points but in a few spots you go too far imho. My engaged 24 year old friend met her man at 19, he was 29. They are very happy. Will be married next year. By far the healthiest relationship I know of irl.

That said if you want a family you at least need someone of child bearing age. I date from 25 to 34ish.

Average is 5 years older. But that's just average.. So far so good. I'll be 40 soon.

cliffthegeneralpeas · 2022-06-20T19:19:19+00:00

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Youngrazzy · 2022-06-21T05:27:31+00:00

A man’s prime is in his 30’s to early 40’s Outside the guys that peak in high school.

SoftAd6291 · 2022-06-20T16:33:08+00:00

I’m 21F and my boyfriend is 40M, we’ve been together for years and live to together. He has the looks, money, personality, charm and treats me better than anyone. I’m very happy and we plan to be together forever.

nevertoooldtodance · 2022-06-20T20:19:13+00:00

It's certainly not common but I have seen it, my cousin is married to a man 16 years older she got with when she was homeless and working as a stripper.

Make of that what you will.

cliffthegeneralpeas · 2022-06-20T14:01:54+00:00

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Intelligent-Term · 2022-06-20T10:40:55+00:00

After my divorce, I dated a 19 year old college student. She was almost half my age. It lasted 8 years. She didn't care about my age. She valued my wisdom and economic stability. We went shopping together, played golf/tennis, went on road trips, went to dinners, etc. We didn't care what other people thought.

This 'creepy' and 'grooming' crap is all new to me. It only started to become a 'thing' in the last couple of years.

Age ain't nothing but a number. As long as they are the age of legal consent, this newly created polite society can go fly a kite.

HumanSockPuppet · 2022-06-20T14:58:55+00:00

Speak for yourself lol

paladine76a · 2022-06-20T15:23:33+00:00

You are way overthinking this...

Girls prefer guys their own age. Single mothers have one priority and that's to find a mate to take care of them and their children. Older men fit the bill.

So you are correct older men aren't chasing younger women. Older men are being chased for their cash.

2022-06-20T16:24:51+00:00

A 25 year old guys completely amogs 18 year old guys when it comes to 18 year old girls. They have more money, more experience, more skills. Thats why you see a lot of young adult girls overlooking her male peers of the same age.

JoeRMD77 · 2022-06-20T14:27:09+00:00

Where I live, there's plenty of 40-50-year-old men with women in their early 30's or a little older. I live in an affluent area so maybe it's different elsewhere.

sarkington · 2022-06-20T14:46:59+00:00

They might not be dating, but they are still trying

2022-06-20T15:39:33+00:00

I think it may happen but on very very very small scales. More so risqué hookups or sugar daddy type thing. But yes you are right

tommysamson · 2022-06-20T22:05:32+00:00

if youre an older man wanting younger women, go to countries outside the west, plenty of women that love older succesful men there

fundsoverbuns2x · 2022-06-27T13:02:02+00:00

in high school girls was dating dudes in they 20s idk where u grew up or maybe ur naïve but women are definitely attracted to older men

Englishology · 2022-06-20T19:15:34+00:00

Society doesn’t accept this in the West*

I’m American and live overseas. 10-20 year age gaps aren’t weird. I’m early 20’s and girls my age won’t even look my way in Asia. They want the stability of someone 35-40+. I know a 19 year old girl in Colombia dating a man 43 years old. Been together for 2 years and met on tinder.

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2022-06-20T16:20:46+00:00

Most couples the guy is a few years older. And that 100% how its always been

There are some piranhas out there that are like 50, have money, good looks, and only date 18 year olds. Those are the guys that give other men who have legitimate relationships with age gaps a bad rap. And those old guys get around a lot.

ruboyuri · 2022-06-20T16:22:57+00:00

No one says this is common, supported or prevalent. But the data indicates that men do tend to prefer or find young women most attractive throughout their lives

https://www.marketwatch.com/amp/story/women-online-daters-peak-at-age-18-men-peak-at-50-2018-08-17

Kahing · 2022-06-20T17:21:44+00:00

I think it depends what you mean by "older." A 5 year age gap is really nothing special, maybe when you're in your late teens it is but I don't see anything too odd about a couple where one is 30 and one is 25. A 10 year age gap may be more significant, but it depends on the age of both. A 20 year old dating a 30 year old isn't going to be looked at the same way as a 30 year old and 40 year old dating, and it goes down the older you get. Once you get into 20 year age gaps that's where the real differences come out.

Dagenius1 · 2022-06-21T04:06:22+00:00

There’s 2 groups of older men who date significantly younger women :

Men with money who have their shit together for sugar dating

Men who don’t have their shit together either financially or emotionally that can’t get women their own age bc they can sense it.

I dated someone older who appeared to have their shit together on the surface - decent income sales job, nice apartment, nice dinners. What was actually beneath the surface: bad credit, massive student debt, misogyny, unresolved trauma, cheating, porn addiction, narcissism

Evo_Psych · 2022-07-18T14:44:15+00:00

Young to me now is not 18 or even 23.

Young to me now is 25 to 35. That's my range and it's working well.

Huge differences tend to not work. But they can.

Tho I'm not at all flabby and currently getting in the best shape of my life. I used to take being skinny for granted. Some hard living(no kitchen) plus covid really messed me up a lil.

Tho considering a year of eating take out and 1.5 years of 6 beers a day it's a miracle I'm almost right back to my slim self. The gym actually gave me the motivation to give up drinking imho.

Now I have to put on muscle. I've always struggled to put un even fat. But it seems I can do that now. lol so hopefully muscle continues to be added quickly.

Title	Older guys are not dating young girls
Author	glowup6168
Upvotes	87
Comments	475
Date	June 20, 2022 8:27 AM UTC (4 years ago)
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