Women aren't funny

UnevenHanded · 2021-04-30T14:21:16+00:00

Imagine being so insecure that you literally cannot just LAUGH WHEN SOMEONE IS FUNNY. What a sad, sad worldview.

Canijustbekim · 2021-04-30T14:03:37+00:00

Another thing I always like to point out, men pretty much exclusively joke about their genitalia or sex. But then when women do it, they're like "all she talks about is sex or her vagina." Like, ok dude. It's a gross double standard. To quote a guy I went on a date with "you're not hot enough to have an opinion on that."

flowerpower102938 · 2021-04-30T12:31:26+00:00

Omg literally! Can you believe they would rather have someone laugh at their jokes than have someone make them laugh😂😂😂😂😂😂

See now that's funny😂😂😂

westhead · 2021-04-30T12:37:14+00:00

The point that women tend to joke more around other women is so true. My old college roomates were hands down the funniest group of girls I had the pleasure of being around. When they got together it was mayhem in the best way. Men don't get to see this side of us because they either dominate the group conversation, put down the women jokesters, or their presence alone causes the women to subconsciously act more reserved.

Strangely, part of my leveling up has been to joke LESS around men. I grew up as a wannabe cool girl (nerdy gamer tomboy). I was socially awkward, and part of my attempts to be less awkward was to joke and banter with guys. I realize now this never worked in my favor. They either thought I was weird, or that I was flirting with them. Now I reserve my sense of humor for those close to me that deserve it.

Alisha_Reddit · 2021-04-30T12:25:36+00:00

Guy to me: You're just not funny

Later we join his friend's group chat

His friends: Where have you been hiding her, she's so funny?!

Never forget lol

paddlesandchalk · 2021-04-30T14:25:51+00:00

Men want women who laugh at their jokes because they really just want an ego boost. Men don’t laugh at women’s jokes because they want to keep women in their place: feeling insecure, like they aren’t funny or intelligent, and therefore not demanding any better in life or their relationships.

Pasdepromesses · 2021-04-30T12:38:43+00:00

I frequent women’s only spaces a lot, on and offline. Women are hilarious. Even on Reddit, I’m hollering at FDS or other women only spaces (subreddits where no men willingly go because they don’t see the benefit for them like knitting or romance novels).

I think they’re insecure because they’re jealous. Most of their jokes are only funny to the oppressors and not really jokes but insults. It’s way harder to make an honest and emotionally healthy joke or pun than a sexual, racist or misogynistic one.

Cappunan · 2021-04-30T13:10:49+00:00

My mom always used to say that "women just aren't as funny as men." I remember in middle school, when I let my friends in on this information, one of my girlfriends says, "um, that's bs, friend A and friend B are two of the funniest people I know." And she was right! I couldn't deny it, those girls were hilarious. And to this day one of them probably is THE funniest person I know.

Yet all through my life my mother swore that it just wasn't possible, and when I tried to be funny she sort of pitied me, because she really believed women just couldn't be that way. And I think that really contributed to my low self esteem, and tendency to place men on pedestals.

_bethiebabes · 2021-04-30T14:50:43+00:00

welL why Do WoMEn lAuGH iF a MaN’S joke maKE ThEm uNCOMFORTAbLe? um idk bc, it’s dangerous not to?

coolestgirlyoueverme · 2021-04-30T14:51:12+00:00

This is another reason why it is so important not to let scrotes comment on this sub. It frees us up to make jokes around other women without a scrote trying to drown us out.

drunkenwithlust · 2021-04-30T14:45:21+00:00

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godisperverse · 2021-04-30T15:23:03+00:00

Men will really go out of their way, when you say something hilarious, to just stare at you with a blank dim face.

Are they negging or are they really just this stupid? Either way, it makes them look stupid.

thinktwiceorelse · 2021-04-30T12:35:06+00:00

I can't count how many times men wanted to laugh at my jokes, but forced themselves not to laugh.

radsera99 · 2021-04-30T13:02:10+00:00

This just further proves that men don’t see women as fully human and only want us for sex/domestic labour/offspring. Every human being is capable of making a joke lol. Men don’t actually enjoy our company, in fact they despise us. They only enjoy the benefits we bring to them. Of course they don’t find us funny, if they did they’d have to humanise or relate to us on some level. Not to mention the fact that most male humour consists of derogatory jokes aimed towards groups of people less fortunate than them, for instance ... women.

jupitaur9 · 2021-04-30T11:41:37+00:00

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AudacityofToads · 2021-04-30T13:31:56+00:00

The other aspect of this that comes to mind is how many female comics get overshadowed by male ones. Male comics can build their whole career on sex jokes but when a women has raunchy bits, they get demonized.

PinkBlair99 · 2021-04-30T11:29:54+00:00

Men are boring af as a whole. Overrated. A scam.

pascalines · 2021-04-30T15:26:02+00:00

LVM only like other men. They only enjoy the company of men, they only want the approval of men, they only respect men. The only reason LVM as a whole seek women is to use them for sex and domestic labor. Why would she need to be funny or smart for that?

jasmine-blossom · 2021-04-30T14:32:24+00:00

Have any of you ever been to a comedy show or seen a comedy special where the woman is downright fucking hilarious but the audience is like afraid to laugh? Like they clearly think she’s funny but the topics she makes jokes about are a little risqué or dirty and the audience is confused about laughing at a woman saying these things? I’ve noticed this a bunch of times, and it’s not because I have some weird offbrand sense of humor although I definitely can appreciate weird humor, it’s just like things out of a woman’s mouth are not heard the same way as the same things out of a man’s mouth.

It drives me absolutely nuts because I know that that same audience would feel very comfortable laughing at a man saying those things, but somehow with a woman saying them they get all nervous and confused.

akashyaboa · 2021-04-30T15:00:02+00:00

So according to that study, men aren't funny. I suspected that but it's nice to have a study

GabbaG0ul · 2021-04-30T15:50:03+00:00

Ive had men not laugh at my jokes, but then turn around and retell them as their own.

Aocwannabe · 2021-04-30T13:27:14+00:00

Also, women are arguably funnier because we have to learn to deal with male aggression in a way where we don’t fear violence...so learning to deflect with humor is something many of us learn.

Humor requires wit. Wit is sometimes a function of growing up in a society where you have to always be 2 steps ahead of oppressors for your survival.

AntinatalistChick · 2021-04-30T14:02:18+00:00

Men say women are not funny but everyone knows they don't want women to be funny. That would humiliate their little fragile ego.

Wkndwhorechata · 2021-04-30T12:12:24+00:00

As a woman who is down right hilarious... I do know this. I make jokes on top of jokes and you can see the blood draining from his face... (before anyone says it - NO it's not going to his dick!) :D

Platipus6 · 2021-04-30T13:26:53+00:00

None of my exes were funny. I only laughed when they repeated a line from something we already knew. They just recycle.

jasmine-blossom · 2021-04-30T14:24:58+00:00

I would never date a man who didn’t laugh at my jokes. Making each other laugh is kind of crucial to a healthy relationship in my opinion.

I have noticed sometimes that men will laugh at my jokes but then don’t admit that I’m funny, or they think that I am not trying to be funny like I’m just saying something that they think is funny but that it’s not an intelligent and purposeful action on my part. Like dude, I’m not being goofy by accident, I did it to make you and myself laugh.

FDS_newbie · 2021-04-30T13:05:16+00:00

One time at a work event I was mingling and making jokes and one of my coworkers says in an astonished tone "wow, you're actually so funny!" Like?? Yes women have charisma and can hold conversation??

Shernandez9870 · 2021-04-30T15:59:06+00:00

Let’s be real here - men aren’t funny at all. 😌

Wkndwhorechata · 2021-04-30T12:09:50+00:00

- rainbow - The more you know. - rainbow -

Camemk · 2021-04-30T15:52:40+00:00

My ex told me I wasn’t funny... he also told me I wasn’t smart. Yet here I am graduating with honors and can at least remember where I keep my keys unlike him...

sozwrongrobi · 2021-04-30T13:25:37+00:00

I was talking to this guy from college not long ago and I was saying I enjoy my own company because I make myself laugh all the time and he told me that was sad. Dude wasn’t one bit funny either.

divination__ · 2021-04-30T13:51:22+00:00

I've literally had men tell me I am 'intimidatingly funny' and men, after laughing at a spontaneous joke I made up, accusing me of thinking it up earlier and not on the spot, despite that being ridiculous and despite the fact that I have a literary agent and book deal as a result of my humour writing.

I was talking about this with my mum and she was shocked by my experiences and these studies because she always had lots of suitors and she always put it down to her being a fantastic and witty conversationalist (she was very pretty, but she had many friends who were just as pretty with fewer love interests). I think its because she grew up in the USSR, which had plenty of misogyny of course, but porn was rare and the images of women that people were exposed to were of mostly sturdy, hard-working women comrades and weren't sexualised. Of course this isn't reflective of Russia or the former Soviet nations today, however I think this goes to show that men can be attracted to women as people and none of this is inherent to men biologically, but rather an extension of the society in which we are raised. If men are brought up to see women as objects, prizes, or extensions of themselves, as they are now, they will be put off by funny and intelligent women as they're made uncomfortable by women clearly exhibiting their own agency. However, if they are raised to see women as people, then they will be attracted to women as people, in the same way that women are attracted to men - this is why weird-looking dudes can be leading men in romcoms, because its way more about personality for women. My belief is that in a truly equal society (which we are not in, and will likely never live in, certainly not for our generation), the 'male gaze' would not differ so greatly from 'the female gaze'.

the-worst- · 2021-04-30T13:40:29+00:00

Oh... OH! This is why my husband gets mad when i joke while all the ladies in my life genuinely laugh at them!

He gets extra salty when I add onto his jokes.

Muffcakelord · 2021-04-30T16:11:44+00:00

I've always considered myself to be HIGHLY unattractive (to potential romantic partners). Men will consider me either invisible or irrelevant, or sometimes even as a like-minded person/man, rather than a potential match or hookup or date or any of the likes. I've always been told i'm not considered one of the girls etc. The reason? I crack jokes constantly. Cracking jokes, and also doing so on expense of others, even if you also do it on your own expense (not recommended by FDS standards, or at least not in every way) will 1) make promiscious or low-standard/low-effort men lose interest QUICK and 2) make them feel threathened in a way that will show you how he reacts to having his status or ego bruised. This is a highly efficient filter. I didn't think much about it until i looked into info like this, but my sense of humor and me being active about it actually keeps most men at a comfortable distance, and i'm left with men who automatically put themselves in a platonic relation to me and may grow to actually like me after some time rather than right away based on shallow assumptions and ego-stroking.

Being considered the class clown is definitely not for everyone and it's not something to strive for, but being aware of how people react to your humor and actively using it as a strategy would be amazing for vetting. Since men feel threathened by funny women, abusive and narcissistic men will practically jump out of their sheep-costume and insult you in hopes that you will lower your presence and take on a more submissive role. Standing your ground will likely make them straight out leave you alone. Few other methods are this effective at getting rid of LVM, at least in my experience.

As if it wasn't obvious, men will also assume for me to be male until i enter voice chat and then they'll be 100% sure i'm overweight for some reason (their confession) and be shocked when they realize i'm not. By then it's already too late to manipulate me seeing as they never put on their best face to impress me. I think being funny (without being a pickme) is absolutely the best way to stay single, or end up with a partner who also genuinely enjoys humour (like i did).

Sorry for the long rant but humour and how it works socially is just so amazing to me.
And about not being one of the girls; finally now that women feel they have the right to express their humor more (in scandinavia at least), i feel like one of the women. Girls were just shamed completely out of their right to crack jokes and i had to pay high debts as younger to keep on being funny despite my gender. The world still has a long way to go seeing as this is still our reality

firenest · 2021-04-30T18:08:05+00:00

It's not surprising that women are more likely to make jokes when they're surrounded only by other women. So many men are nasty as fuck to women making jokes and make a point to humiliate them. It's more than not finding the joke funny, it's malice at the woman. And we've all experienced it, because it affected all our behaviour.

It's hilarious when there's only one or a few men outnumbered by women and the women all ignore their feeble attempts to silence us and keep joking around with each other. Oh, how they flail and sulk.

lvoncreek · 2021-04-30T17:23:17+00:00

Men humor is rather primitive tbh.

aquietsword · 2021-04-30T18:41:41+00:00

I also think part of the allure of joking for men is the control. If they can get a room of people to laugh at a r*pe, sexist, racist, whatever horrible thing joke, they have control over that room. They can also establish a sense of hierarchy within that room depending on who their jokes are targeting (a lot of male comedians don't actually "punch up") so of course they wouldn't want women to have that same kind of power.

_jellybeanqueen_ · 2021-04-30T18:58:21+00:00

If women aren't funny then why do I snort and cackle every time I read the comment section of FDS posts

TeacupHuman · 2021-04-30T20:21:29+00:00

This is so true!!!

My boyfriend had his guy friend over the other day, and I was on a roll. I made a few quips that really landed, to the point where they clapped their hands and busted out laughing.

The next morning my boyfriend said he felt like I was interrupting and derailing the conversation. It’s such a double standard.

SkiesEclipse · 2021-04-30T17:24:01+00:00

My sister is the smartest AND funniest person I know. She’s in a male dominated career, and men don’t cross her, because she has a reputation as the best roaster on her team. Sometimes some of the guys will come up to her and ask to be roasted during slow periods, and will be howling with laughter. The guys with fragile egos usually steer clear. But most people don’t know this about her because she’s a pretty shy and reserved person around people she doesn’t know.

nothing998 · 2021-04-30T14:57:03+00:00

Does anyone have the sources for these studies? I would really love to read through them

sockpuppetaccount99 · 2021-04-30T14:11:18+00:00

What will a man even give me at this point? Can’t make us orgasm, doesn’t give a shit about how we feel, immature, doesn’t appreciate our intelligence. Like what’s left? It’s like the worst deal in the history. Your only goal is just to be pretty and dumb, and that can only get you to a point where a man sexualizes you. Fucking hell.

ThrowRAshipsRhard · 2021-04-30T18:13:32+00:00

I will never forget the last time I made a joke in the company of men.

Scene: ex NVM bf had a brother who was Army and unfortunately died in an unrelated car accident. His family were invited guests at a parade held by army brother's squad ex bf asked me to attend with him as support (and as a trophy I think) so we attend. After parade we are invited in for coffee, the mother and father are talking about army brother to the commanding Sargent or whatever high rank and the conversation naturally progresses to hobbies and the weather and all the small talk and little jokes and surface laughter that goes with easing up in a conversation. The dad jokes about how he's realised that his new hobby should avoid computers because he fried the last one they had.

Without missing a beat and the first time I spoke in the group "how did it taste?"

Mother and NVM ex do nose exhale laughter.

Army high up rank followed on with - what did you serve it with, egg and chips?

Everyone but me laughs. And I realise they will steal your joke and give you no credit because "women aren't funny"

I don't crack jokes for men anymore - it's not worth it.

spinsterchachkies · 2021-04-30T16:22:38+00:00

Women aren’t funny = Women are stupid

I want a woman with a good sense of humor = I want a stupid woman that laughs at my dumb ass and makes me feel smarter

NurseBubbleGum · 2021-04-30T13:52:06+00:00

Explains a lot.

xdecadent · 2021-04-30T18:24:06+00:00

As a woman who’s hilarious, I find this hilarious!!

It’s true, no one likes a woman who’s naturally funny/charming/witty because it totally upends the notion that only men get to be these things. Don’t be attractive, too. I used to be confused as to why certain men didn’t like me and now I am 100% assured as to why and IDGAF 💗✨

javagarbagecollector · 2021-04-30T18:51:30+00:00

This is off topic but have you ever noticed that most men have the most fucked up, semi surpressed and ugly sounding wheeze/scream of a laugh? Like they are too manly to let themselves go while they laugh so it comes out an unnatural pitch that is so unattractive? Its disturbing

-pop-fizz-clink · 2021-04-30T17:01:45+00:00

Boom!

Good humour requires intelligence. I always knew this was the issue. My ex who deferred Harvard law thought I was hilarious and so does my very astute guy friend. My female friend think I'm funny. I have one female friend who doesn't get some of my jokes at first but once I explain it she's like oh darn, I wish I had gotten it the first time (instead of getting pissy that she didn't get it). It's abundantly clear that smart women make men uncomfortable. I've been in group settings and told a joke where everyone would laugh except the guy I had been with, because it went over his head - comments about being left out and pouting ensued. Yeah, that didn't go on for long. But it's okay to make the jokes you do, which are often sexist and misogynistic?

Men want an intelligent woman - but not one who is more intelligent than him.

Just take a look at this sub - so many of us make funny quips and so forth. Often (but sometimes) it has nothing to do with gross sex jokes, nor is it directed at an individual to roast them.

Also I love how "good sense of humour" to a man = "she laughs at my jokes". How arrogant to assume your humour is the basis of good and actually humourous.

A funny tiktok is a young woman who is cat calling men(jazmynjw). And it's hilarious because she is almost as vile to them are they are to us: "hey, HEY C'MERE, C'MERE, is that your wallet or are you just happy to see me? You got kids? Yea? Ohhh no, ew he's got kids (ewww he's got kids from her friend off camera)" "EY, missing tooth, yeah you, missing tooth, you wanna come over and PAY SOME BILLS?" That's how you make vulgar funny not "haha what if I were to (terrfiyng sex act here) to you ahhahs jk jk omg chill it's a JOKE".

StandPotential · 2021-04-30T15:32:31+00:00

The fact that they find smart women LESS attractive is hilarious. How fragile do you have to be to literally want to exclusively date dumb people so that you can feel like the smart one???

spinsterchachkies · 2021-04-30T16:31:29+00:00

This is why I am so grateful for my father. He isn’t a boring tool. He laughs when women make funny jokes. He even admits the funniest women he knew were women. Me and him go back and forth all the time. When I used to date men they would be shoooketh and get butthurt when I made a funny joke. Like lighten up bro I’m trying to banter lol 😂

SadMadNomad · 2021-04-30T16:33:03+00:00

This isn't entirely the point of this post, I know, but I have to be honest: I don't find funny men attractive.

Maybe it's because most "funny" men aren't all that funny. Or maybe it's because they often use their sense of humor as a way to excuse their terrible behavior ("it's just a joke"). Regardless of the reason, the moment a guy tries too hard to be a comedian, I can't wait to get away from him.

I like funny women. I love laughing and joking around with women. I find being around charismatic and humorous women to be a lot more easy-going. I don't know why, but perhaps it's because "funny" men are more egotistical on average.

If I had to choose between the two, I'd take a too-serious guy over a "funny" guy any day.

greenpepperoats · 2021-04-30T19:13:44+00:00

This drives me crazy! Sometimes I'll make a joke and they take it 100% literal and I'm just like... ok bud.

Also, men tend to make the most low-hanging, basic jokes and I hate feeling like I have to laugh 😬️

EucalyptusLeafJuice · 2021-04-30T14:46:42+00:00

Hahaha i love this video

_kittykatex_ · 2021-04-30T23:35:26+00:00

I feel like men want to believe that they are funny because they also use “just joking” as a passive aggressive defence mechanism. So if we laugh with them or whatever they say, they don’t feel called out for their gross opinions

warinmymind94 · 2021-04-30T21:15:58+00:00

I love this and how she is using it to educate us. Also THANK YOU for mentioning that these studies usually always are CIS Straight white men. You have no idea how abundant racism /discrimination is when it comes to research studies. Even the studies that included others it generally was a small percentage.

Men want us to laugh at their jokes because they are intimidated that we are smarter than them.

Which highlights never date a man beneath you as far as education /spproximate intelligence.

2021-05-01T01:27:37+00:00

I personally find most men unfunny to be fair

But suddenly I am the bad person for not “appreciating humour”? Whereas when men don’t find our jokes funny , it’s not us who are not funny but our entire gender who isn’t funny ?

Phoenix__Rising2018 · 2021-05-01T17:18:57+00:00

The men are very offended by this post LOL

Not surprised at all that men don't want a funny woman because it means that she's intelligent.

PasDeTout · 2021-04-30T15:58:51+00:00

Thinking about it, I can’t remember knowing a single pick-me who was funny even with other women. The ones I’ve known haven’t even tried to make a joke.

StayMadScrote · 2021-05-01T16:34:08+00:00

I'm in my early 20's and I swear there are so many guys around my age who think sending racist memes is the same as having humour. Or they're obsessed with "monke" memes, like wow it's a monkey how hilarious. 🙄

_RustInPiece_ · 2021-05-02T05:09:21+00:00

Part of my vetting strategy is to see if he can laugh at my jokes. I love joking around and it's important to me to see that I can make my partner laugh. If he doesn't have the same humor as I have we won't get along on a fundamental level. At the same time it's not really important to me if he can make me laugh. There are many other ways he can make me smilie :) A man who is able to laugh at your jokes is able to show you his vulnerability. Only a ZVM/NVM won't expose himself to you like this.

LavaDogged · 2021-04-30T17:28:01+00:00

Ugh the captioning on this sucks, I cant understand the last half of this :(

FaithlessnessNew1836 · 2021-05-01T00:16:11+00:00

Women are pretty funny

-badmadAM · 2021-05-01T18:28:53+00:00

Interesting studies, considering that children (esp boys) inherit most of their intelligence (what can be inherited) from the mother's side we see once more that men maybe should not be the ones in charge of chosing the mate. Patriarchy works very much against the best- interest of our very own species. Take this dear eVoPsYcH broscientists \s

Title	Women aren't funny
Author	GoddessIxtab
Upvotes	2336
Comments	169
Date	April 30, 2021 10:59 AM UTC (5 years ago)
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