if your partner did gain a lot of weight and looked significantly more chubby, would that be a deal breaker ?

Hoopy223 · 2022-01-15T14:26:41+00:00

Most guys will say yes.

I dated a woman who gained ~10lbs per month while we dated. Then when we broke up she lost the weight, found another guy and got big all over again lol.

SabineLavine · 2022-01-15T13:24:44+00:00

It would mean we were living completely different lifestyles, and yes, that would be a dealbreaker.

cowfishAreReal · 2022-01-15T12:33:41+00:00

Even though in general I'm not into chubby people I already love my partner and I wouldn't leave him if he gained weight. If it was enough weight to be detrimental for his health though id drag him to do exercise

Shredddz · 2022-01-15T12:29:06+00:00

yes unless it’s temporary and caused by something like chemotherapy and the discipline is never lost. There is no reason to just let yourself go. If you willingly allow it, you essentially stopped caring about me. Lazyness is not excusable, only conditions outside of your control are. There is no reason someone can just eat lots of crap. Discipline needs to be a character attribute.

OmarNBradley · 2022-01-15T15:47:15+00:00

Mr. Bradley gained over 80 pounds last summer when he was in the hospital. Most of it was edema from the high dose of prednisone that he was on for a long long time. I didn't care, except inasmuch as it made him physically uncomfortable.

No, I was not fucking him at that point, because he was very very ill and generally speaking most men lose their sex drive when they are recovering from multiorgan failure and sepsis.

Yes, I was still attracted to him.

It took him a few months to lose the weight. He started back at the gym this week for the first time in six months. He still looks great to me but he is unhappy with his strength, which is not exactly surprising.

Old-Acanthaceae6226 · 2022-01-15T12:22:35+00:00

Nah, but I'm into that.

springyslinkies · 2022-01-15T14:31:02+00:00

If my partner gained a significant amount of weight, I’d be concerned about his mental and physical health and would want to know how I could help him get healthy again. It’s “in sickness and in health,” not “until you get depressed and can’t put down the Haagen-Dazs, then it’s too much for me and I’m out.” If it takes a long time, then it takes a long time. We solve problems together because that’s what people who love each other do. I would never look at my partner seriously suffering and struggling and say “not my problem” and walk away. Of COURSE not.

In a similar vein, I will always be attracted to my partner because his objective attractiveness is just a small part of why he gives me butterflies. He hooked me in the first place by being hot, but being in love with everything else makes me stay and would be enough for me even if he were no longer conventionally attractive. We all lose our looks in some way or another. Weight fluctuates. People get older. That’s just life. Expecting physical attractiveness to never depreciate or change is naive beyond belief and just not compatible with a lifelong partnership.

purplish_possum · 2022-01-15T15:08:08+00:00

It's a deal breaker for most women. I gain weight really easily. I was a really fat kid (100 pounds in the 1st grade, 200 pounds by middle school). I started working out when I was 14. By the time I was 18 I was in pretty good shape. However, it took constant effort. Whenever, life required effort be directed elsewhere I quickly gained the weight back. I cycled back and forth several times. When I gained weight the women I was with always left.

In my late 40s I developed a heart condition that made it progressively harder to exercise. In short order I went from being able to run several miles to barely being able to walk around the block. My wife left at what was basically the lowest point in my adult life.

Two heart procedures and weight loss surgery were required to become datable again.

divingrose77101 · 2022-01-15T19:41:01+00:00

My bf is chubby and I am fit and it’s a bit of a problem because he doesn’t want to do physical activities with me.

Fiestygirl000 · 2022-01-15T21:12:01+00:00

Yes~ no doubt. I don’t find fat/chubby/ dad boss attractive. I work hard to maintain my weight and looks and expect the same from my partner.

goatismycopilot · 2022-01-15T13:39:11+00:00

A lot of people who are saying no are thinking about their current partner who they might have a deep emotional connection to.

kblkbl165 · 2022-01-15T17:39:56+00:00

Been there done that, no thanks.

Issue isnt even attraction or feelings, I loved my ex.

But, Im fit. Weightlifting was/is my hobby and became my business. Physical activities are part of my life, and not only as a chore, I love to do what I do, to try new shit and to live around these things.

My ex not only did workout just out of obligation, for a while, but hated it. Your SO has a lot of influence over you. But it’s easy for someone who doesn’t like working out to deny training or going for a jog. It’s not easy for someone who likes to workout to deny your partner going out to eat more than usual, or to deny skipping a workout just to do nothing at home…and all those things had a much greater effect on her, that did nothing, than on me, other than hindering my progress in sport endeavors.

She was never really fat, she went from 100lbs to 135lbs maybe, the real issue for me is the difference in lifestyle. She was lazy, always tired, libido going down as weight went up, feet inadequate and lashed out on me, even though I never demanded never of her in regards to doing something or whatever.

It’s one thing to get chubbier from time to time, Christmas was yesterday and everybody eats a bit more in the end of the year, the issue is when it becomes a snowball out of all your habits.

1 year later my ex is even fatter and who knows, maybe I’d also start getting fat, maybe I’d start losing attraction to her, as someone who loves to do what I do I just can’t fathom the thought process of people who self harm this way

just_nosey92 · 2022-01-15T17:41:03+00:00

Not unless morbidly obese I've dated from stick thin to chubby/fat men. I prefer dad bods but I also want them to be it enough to hike, ride bikes climb etc. My bf is perfection 😍 he's gained weight since we met but in all the right places he wants to lose but I prefer him this way. I also want him to be happy so if that means losing weight so be it. I started gaining weight the course of nearly 30 and my metabolism but im working on i doubt I will ever be my 20 year old self buti will always be in shape. Im 5'4 and 125 id rather be 115 but i don't think its achievable without excessive perseverance. I also enjoy food I'm already low card (no pasta, nice rice, no bread, the occasional potato and sweet stuff as a treat) im not giving up dairy, and fruit I'll lose the will to live. Aging sucks when I was 20 even after having my daughter I could eat a full pizza and drink regular coke and gain no weight. Now look at a mini snickers and gain weight. I don't ever want to be like the women in my family who just eat whatever because life is too short kinda attitude

crazy_rex40k · 2022-01-15T19:00:13+00:00

No. It would upset me, but not be grounds for divorce.

Merciless teasing, perhaps.

But about the only dealbreakers would be: Infidelity, and deliberately trying to make me miserable.

Insidious-Sid · 2022-01-15T22:10:14+00:00

If we both met and got together on the premise that being fit was important, then yes.

I've met a few guys who have a "get fat get out" policy with girlfriends.

See what happens to a guy who leaves a woman for not losing the "baby weight".

The human female body does not naturally retain 100 pounds of fat after each pregnancy.

That's just something fat moms want people to believe...

KingWhoCared86 · 2022-01-15T12:43:03+00:00

My type actually is chubby women so not really.

FroyoNo5978 · 2022-01-15T17:46:05+00:00

It wouldn’t for me. I’ve watched my husband be several different sizes and loved him anyway. I think the thing that bothers me about this type of thinking, is that it seems to be a dealbreaker more often than really toxic behavior. I have witnessed people divorcing because the wife gained weight many times. In almost every situation, the wife was or had been pregnant, was sick, or had gained weight from medication. I think the only way it should be a dealbreaker is if that person has gained a LOT of weight and isn’t trying to do anything about it. Just because someone has gained weight does not mean they have checked out and don’t care. Are there other signs that they’ve let themselves go and don’t really care anymore? If your wife is healthy enough and isn’t putting ANY effort into herself, you might be right. If she’s gained weight and is trying to lose it or she’s putting in effort in other aspects of her appearance, that’s different. Is she still grooming when able and dressing up at times? Makeup? Hair care? Is she also putting in a lot of effort in other aspects of your relationship? If so, she’s not letting herself go, she’s just going through something (medically or mentally) and as her partner you should be encouraging her.

If my husband gained a lot of weight, my main concern would be his health. I’d be encouraging him to eat better and exercise. I’d make exercise something to do together. I would ALSO know that something is most likely up. I’d try to find out what’s wrong and help him.

Anyone that is as bothered by weight gain that they’d ditch a person that has no other toxic behavior, they should let every single person they date know up front that this is a deal breaker for them. All deal breakers should be discussed before entering a serious relationship. It just makes sense. If you’re afraid that they won’t like it, they’re probably not for you and you’ll save them AND yourself a lot of hurt down the road.

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TodTheRod01 · 2022-01-15T16:22:51+00:00

Lets be real if the person gained a lot of weight...as per the title they wouldn't be just a lil chubbier...or just chubbier...theyd be fucking fat. Obese.

ididntwanttoexist · 2022-01-15T16:42:43+00:00

I wouldn't tolerate it or expect it to be tolerated. Illness can only go so far as a temporary excuse for very small amounts of weight gain, and I'd say something before it got to the point they were already fat. If you can exercise as much as usual because of some problem, you eat less to counterbalance it. I'm having flashbacks from all the people using "b-but the gyms are closed!" as an excuse for becoming obese over lockdowns. No.

I actively want a partner who will say if they think I'm getting fat and wouldn't be offended by me pointing out the same in them. I consider it a major red flag if someone has an attitude that fat is inevitable with age or any kind of bs physics defying thinking about how weight loss works for them. I also can't live with someone who can't control themselves around food.

giddy-girly-banana · 2022-01-15T16:44:53+00:00

Physical attraction isn’t the only thing but it is important to me, so yes it would bother me if my partner gained a significant amount of weight. Not sure I’d break up, but I would definitely have some discussions.

g0juice · 2022-01-15T17:23:46+00:00

Some no prob. Too much? Yes. Hard to quantify the numbers tho.

stlmick · 2022-01-15T23:09:35+00:00

Overeating is an addiction just as drinking, smoking and drug use are. Its one that is very visible and takes time to get healthy again. If the person is not making good choices with diet and exercise, it is often because they are otherwise unhappy and in my opinion is a symptom more than something that just happens. If the problem can not be addressed, then it is a deal breaker, same as if it was alcohol, cigarettes or drugs.

DrinkItInMan11 · 2022-01-16T00:10:23+00:00

Depends on how chubby you mean? I prefer thicker/chubby women over thin women anyway so I wouldn't really care, more cushion for the pushin.wyeb were talking fat/obese though that's when it starts getting ridiculous.

2022-01-16T01:40:37+00:00

Depends how fat.

Plus sized = bigger tits = I want her more

Obese = I'm taking her to the gym and teaching her how to lift a dumbbell and put down the fork

PopularBug5 · 2022-01-16T03:13:01+00:00

Yes, because there is a high chance that a dead bedroom will soon follow.

A woman's libido tanks, hard, when she gains weight.

Pastelitomaracucho · 2022-01-16T06:51:13+00:00

Yes.

If she gets fat, she's out.

And if I get fat, I'm out.

That's a deal we made.

xcheshirecatxx · 2022-01-18T03:02:27+00:00

I did stay by a guy who gained 120lbs Around 40 I told him already that I was getting turned off

He became abusive and basically emotionally destroyed me so I'd allow him to rape me

So now I don't have much space for a weight gain, unfortunately

I talk about it early in the relationship

VasiliyZaitzev · 2022-01-15T13:06:04+00:00

If, however it was some sort of temporary, understandable thing, such as weight gain due to pregnancy, ok.

However:

if they get fatter and fatter simply because they let themselves go and don't care anymore, that would pose a problem.

^ This. I'd expect to see some sort of effort to improve the situation, and if said effort was not forthcoming, I'd be out the door.

livs4dietdrpepper · 2022-01-15T12:52:45+00:00

I mean I think it’s fair to say that if it’s a dealbreaker you never truly loved them at all

I’d encourage my partner to be healthy and make good choices so I can have them longer and they can be confident and be able to do active things for sure

But if gaining weight is the reason behind a breakup, I just don’t think that’s a situation where you can say “I love her so much but….” Nah just admit you liked having sex with her and nothing else

MyrganGyrgan · 2022-01-15T12:40:46+00:00

Depends on if I were only with them for their looks.

CimZim · 2022-01-15T12:44:13+00:00

Depends on how much fatter. My FWB has gained about 35 lbs over the years, but he carries a lot of it well. But if he actually became visibly obese, like rolls of fat instead of just chunckiness and love handles and belly? Like dudes who have trouble walking? Yeah, that's a deal breaker.

CriticalEscapeBike · 2022-01-15T13:15:11+00:00

Nope....never bothered me at all. My ex was a stunning looking woman. 130#'s, blond, gorgeous. The only time she ever gained weight was when she was upset or anxious. If she gained 3 ounces, she beat herself up about it for a week until she lost the weight. The only thing she ever cared about was the outside (hence why we split up).

20 years later, she's married to some guy, broke as shit, and last pic I saw of her, easily 210#.....doesn't look very happy in the pic.

supercreativenamelol · 2022-01-15T14:46:13+00:00

I like chubby girls lol, just not obese

Bendetto4 · 2022-01-15T12:59:43+00:00

If your partner gains a load of weight, why didn't you say something earlier? Why didn't you try and stop them? Weight gain is a bad thing, it reduces physical health and fitness, its not just appearance.

_Oh_Be_Nice_ · 2022-01-15T14:45:42+00:00

Because of illness? Obviously not a deal breaker. But I won't have sex with them. They don't look appealing.

Because of pregnancy? Obviously not a deal breaker. But I won't have sex with them. They don't look appealing.

Because of laziness and a lack of discipline, and won't take steps to improve? Bye.

I told her before we got married, if I can hit the gym consistently, you can too (barring extraordinary circumstance).

Edit: I guess this is an unreasonable position to hold. Se la vie.

EstablishmentKooky50 · 2022-01-15T13:09:23+00:00

Not necessarily. There's some flexibility, I'm not into topmodels and a reasonable amount of body fat can be sexy.. I am not sexually attracted under or over a certain point though. So if it's too much, I'd just grab her hand and go to to gym with her. If she is unwilling to put in any effort, that's an other story. The reason for picking up weight matters too. If it's due to pregnancy or illness, that's no deal breaker, but she must be willing to work on herself.

goneaway2thewind · 2022-01-15T13:38:46+00:00

Theoretically no. But it depends on if she's keeping me happy in other ways.

Grappleheart · 2022-01-15T14:14:47+00:00

I mean no. But there would have to be a discussion about weight loss. I will also try my best to help her stay fit.

NoMarriageNoKids · 2022-01-15T14:18:31+00:00

Depends on her. If I knew she was just going through a phase then likely not. If she settled into it then probably. But,fat girls work harder in bed. That's a fact.

nikki1810 · 2022-01-15T14:21:06+00:00

Unless its to the point where they have lost some mobility, in any way/ activity, no. Personally, size isnt the biggest issue to me so if a partner gains wait due to a change in work schedule that makes them busy or something like that i wouldnt mind. If this was due to a sudden lack in Motivation, depression, or anything that had to do with mental or physical health, depending on how intimate we are i would try to help them through it so long as they are showing some willingness.

CFinCanada · 2022-01-15T14:27:47+00:00

I don't even think that's possible. He eats so much and still can't seem to get beyond 140 pounds. He's just an ectomorph, there's not much he can do about it, I don't think.

It's an interesting question though 🤔 because his being an ectomorph is part of what attracted me to him. I think I'd get over it tbh. It may not be what I had in mind when we started dating but at this point I'm all in, so... 🤷‍♀️

TopGun1617554 · 2022-01-15T15:22:12+00:00

If they could not climb a flight of stairs without gasping for air than yeah either lose it or beat it.

Feisty-Saturn · 2022-01-15T15:23:02+00:00

I think it depends on how much weight you’re talking about and why they gained that weight. People gain weight because their circumstances in life change and that’s fine. Situations are temporary and they can lose it later.

If it’s because they just don’t care or they want to overeat and just continue to gain more that might be hard for me.

I spend 10+ hours in the gym a week and pay attention to what I eat 80-90 percent of the time. So someone who just didn’t care and had no intention to care about their body would be a struggle for me to deal with in the long term.

I remember these two youtubers were dating. The guy was average and the girl was obese, a lot of her content is mukbangs. One of the reasons they started having difficulty in their relationship was because he started getting depressed and frustrated the more he hung out with her and gained weight because of all the eating she wanted to do. I imagine I would become that guy if I was with someone who just didn’t care and wanted to overeat.

Lezonidas · 2022-01-15T15:43:29+00:00

If she gains 5-15 kg (11 to 33 lbs) it's ok, if she gains 40 kg (88 lbs) then it's a deal breaker.

SwinginPastMyKnees_ · 2022-01-15T15:48:16+00:00

Some weight gain is normal in a relationship. However, it's common for one partner to let themselves go after getting into a relationship. That never sits right with me, the idea that because someone "locked me down" that they stop putting an effort into keeping themselves attractive. Meanwhile, I'm still watching my weight and staying in shape at the gym.

The only weight gain I'd let pass is pregnancy weight.

bragghy · 2022-01-15T15:53:20+00:00

I tell them long term it's unhealthy so they need to eat less and do more cardio.

Initial_Chemical7121 · 2022-01-15T16:00:25+00:00

I already love him, so no. I wouldn’t want to hurt his feelings either so I wouldn’t bring it up. I’d feel it was partly my fault because I make all of his food. I’d make healthier things and suggest we have more gym or walk dates. If the issue is worse I might get medically concerned

PonderonDonuts · 2022-01-15T16:17:15+00:00

It means you get to spend more time together, by working out. Why... CAUSE IM FAT. No... Cause I love you and I don't want you to die before me. Thank you.

Rk1tt3n · 2022-01-15T16:42:52+00:00

No, my husband has gained and lost alot of weight throughout our lives together. Ive always kind of stayed the same... im definitely not fit lol.

jingle_hore · 2022-01-15T16:49:47+00:00

He did, and I love him the exact same. All this shallow bullshit means you have no idea what it is to actually love and care for someone.

_lexxxi_98 · 2022-01-15T16:53:46+00:00

For me not particularly. I know it caused problems in my last relationship, and in some ways I wish I would have lost the weight, but then again since we broke up I’m doing really good. So not much of a total loss.

2022-01-15T16:56:35+00:00

The laziness that comes with being fat is more unattractive to me than fat per se. I would be more upset because of lifestyle issues and the unhealthy ways rather than the "look"

Nacer_Or · 2022-01-15T17:25:09+00:00

If u don't like ur partner if they were chubby and consider that a "deal breaker" u guys are clearly not in love or at least u don't love them.

Zcuzz · 2022-01-15T17:34:10+00:00

Only if she turned into an awful person as well.

PlayfulLawyer · 2022-01-15T17:40:34+00:00

Yep, obviously I'm not including a serious medical issue or anything like that, when it comes to short-term or one-night stands my sexual tastes vary, however when it comes to long-term relationships I only date women that take their Fitness seriously because I take mine very seriously

2022-01-15T17:47:56+00:00

Absolutely. No fatties.

BadAssPrincessAlanie · 2022-01-15T17:55:24+00:00

Not necessarily. It depends on the situation. Is it because they got sick or depression or other similar medical issue that resists weightless? Or do they just not care about anything at all? Or do they absolutely try to est healthy and workout and just struggle? It makes a huge difference in the why.

iAm_GoonyToon · 2022-01-15T17:55:28+00:00

Possibly, but not for the usual attraction related reasons. It's more so about a change in lifestyle. I like to eat well, lift 4x per week and go find active things to do for fun. If my partner once upon a time was willing to go say... Kayaking or hiking on days off, but then they started gaining weight and along with that became less active, then yeah, it's over.

I'm actually pretty attracted to women who are chubby but also carry the weight well (small belly, big hips/thighs, etc.), as long as they're still willing to go out and do things.

Neptune-Jr · 2022-01-15T17:59:21+00:00

It depends on how far into to the relationship we are. like if this was like after a couple months or something then maybe. But I'm not breaking off a 7 year relationship because of a little body fat. We'd talk about it but not just dumping her to the curb if she gains x amount of weight.

random_opinion_lol · 2022-01-15T18:04:54+00:00

My partner was obese when we met and he is now morbidly obese, and I'm very attracted to him anyways. I just want him to lose weight to be healthier for his well-being and so that he lives a long time with me without complications. So safe to say not a dealbreaker. I love him regardless. I've never been rude about his weight, and I'm especially annoyed by anyone that is.

He doesn't seem to understand how I could find him attractive at his weight. Maybe I am an outlier. Other people seem to care about that stuff. He cares about that stuff. But I love his body regardless. I'm a thin woman, with other body issues, and I just have to accept cluelessly sometimes when he says he likes something about me that isn't widely praised. I've learned you have to view your partner as an individual with their own tastes and indifferences, and don't care about what most of the rest of their gender would prefer.

And lastly, loving a person makes you accept them as they change, go through phases and depression. I love him for all our shared experiences together, his loyalty, our friendship, the comforting familiarity. I wouldn't leave him over something that has no effect on our overall bond with each other. The better our bond becomes the more I enjoy sex with him. I'm quite happy.

manfrom-nantucket · 2022-01-15T18:37:44+00:00

Unless we are talking about weight gain because of an actual medical issue then yes it's a total deal breaker.

ahandtoyourdarknessx · 2022-01-15T18:45:55+00:00

No, I might be less physically attracted to them but it wouldn’t make me love them any less

yabbobay · 2022-01-15T20:09:05+00:00

You don't realize when it happens. My ex-husband gained 80 pounds. I didn't "realize" it until he lost it and we looked back at pictures.

sex_is_dirty · 2022-01-15T20:12:45+00:00

Go out and look at old people. Even middle-aged people. How many are slender?

There is a fashion model on that TV network where you can shop from home. She must have been hot stuff back in her day, but "sag" has set in big time. She may even be the same weight that she was back her NYC runway days. Gravity can be a bitch.

This is a long-winded way of saying it's very likely that your partner is even now in the early stages of packin' on the LBS, (kilos to you Europeans).

The concept is often likened to someone pulling the ripcord on one of those inflatable rafts.

One is supposed to personalize communications so this: Short girls , <5'5" 164CM, look better with a little subQ adipose tissue. Short skinny girls look to much like kids.

sex_is_dirty · 2022-01-15T20:29:54+00:00

An observation. I was just watching some YTUBE vids on air fryers. Virtually all were posted by fat Americaner ladies. These gals can apparently pack on the weight using a system that touts itself as being a lowered calorie way to cook.

Men who fancy fat girls are some of the luckiest guys in the world.

lolomotif12 · 2022-01-15T20:54:35+00:00

Usually when I choose a partner it's not her body alone that will make me attracted to them. However, if the weight gain does become a problem then yes I will lose attraction not so much because of how they will look physically but more because they will lack discipline and self control to want to stay healthy and in shape. I'm a very disciplined person and regularly exercise, I'm never out of shape and I usually choose a similar partner on that criteria. If that criteria changes, it's a deal breaker.

bananadude19 · 2022-01-15T21:23:14+00:00

You can leave someone for any reason. You can leave them if they gain weight. You can leave them if they stay the same. You can wake up and decide this ain’t ain’t for you anymore.

shockedpikachu123 · 2022-01-15T21:23:35+00:00

I don’t mind weight gain on men so it wouldn’t be a dealbreaker. But I’m fit and have a healthy lifestyle myself so I would want someone who had a similar mindset

sweetestpineapple · 2022-01-15T21:36:26+00:00

It would be very hard if not impossible to maintain my attraction to him but I don’t think I’d leave over it. I’d be more concerned about his mental health since he’s been in shape his whole life. If it seems like a permanent change, I honestly don’t know. Maybe I’d be able to overlook it, maybe not.

ledatherockband · 2022-01-15T21:45:04+00:00

Yes. I wouldn’t let it get to that point, though.

kyjolski · 2022-01-15T21:45:14+00:00

Yeah, it would be a problem. I generally expect the same amount of effort from my partner as I put forth myself.

Temporary weakness or issues are fine, I will support and help out however I can. If it's a long stint of just not caring to try anymore, then it's a no go.

That being said, I would not date someone long-term who isn't health-oriented in their diet (which means both quality and portion control) and scoffs at sport/is a couch potato. Our values would be simply misaligned and the clash of lifestyle would be an issue.

hartrl · 2022-01-15T21:52:42+00:00

I’ll be honest. I’m marred. I have unfortunately gain about 60 pounds in 9 years of marriage. I turned 30 in Nov. I am aware it is my fault. I dealt with loss of my mom and my father’s health issue that has increased my anxiety and depression. I was drinking kind of heavy at one point. I’m currently part a workout program with group fitness at a gym and personal training once a week for next 8 weeks. I’m working on my calories intake and nutrition. I don’t want to be this heavy any more. I know I’ll feel better and have more energy like I did a few years ago. My husband has gain a few pound he is a very slim person. He just has a little bit of a belly now. I love on him the same as I did when we first got to together. He loves me and care about me no different than when I was 130lbs. He doesn’t mention it and doesn’t like when I talk bad about myself. This is the year to care about myself more and get my energy and mental health back to when I was younger. I have an office job now I use to work in assembly so I know I need to work hard to keep that from effecting me physically.

Intelligent-Skirt · 2022-01-15T22:01:35+00:00

I gained quiet a bit of weight over the past 2 years and my boyfriend really seems to love it and doesnt want me to go back to my former pre covid weight. I think it has a lot to do with how you carry your weight as well like how your body distributes the fat.

iamthemovie1992 · 2022-01-15T22:03:05+00:00

Depends on how they carry the weight honestly and how much more weight we’re talking. If she becomes thick in the right places, cool with me. If not and she loses her shape, then nah I gotta move on

Commercial-Engineer3 · 2022-01-15T23:52:23+00:00

Yes it would definitely be a deal breaker.

chilumibrainrot · 2022-01-16T00:15:29+00:00

depends on the circumstances and how they looked, im attracted to slightly chubby girls but not as much in guys, so that would matter too. if they were starting a new medication or had something bad happen i'd stick with them, but if they just let themself go and i wasn't attracted to them we'd break up.

autumncolors816 · 2022-01-16T03:52:00+00:00

First and foremost, my love for my partner isn't centered around the way he looks. I have an average looking mate who I think is HOT and sexy...even if he had additional weight! It wouldn't be a deal breaker. Some people are so shallow.

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izzzy12k · 2022-01-16T06:58:03+00:00

My ex would gain and lose whether it was just because or from pregnancies... I never said anything about it, even during the higher weight increases. I might of thought about it in my head, here and there.. But as most always ended up on her ass and thighs.. I would be easily over it, and as I enjoyed those curves.

ChromaticVengeance · 2022-01-16T07:20:31+00:00

MrShakedown1 · 2022-01-16T16:16:37+00:00

rurunoa · 2022-01-16T18:37:58+00:00

this is strangely pitiful to think about. something must have went seriously wrong because hes a very fit person. this makes me sad but i would stay with him

Drayenn · 2022-01-15T13:02:45+00:00

My gf went from 95lbs to 170lbs.. that said that was at her "pregnantest", but even after she dropped to 150, i still found her amazingly hot. Bigger boobs are nice for sure though..

Shed have to be very morbidly obese for me to consider it a dealbreaker... im not sure thats possible tbh.

techr0nin · 2022-01-15T16:21:19+00:00

If it’s a girlfriend, yeah that’s an immediate dealbreaker. My wife though, she gained weight each time after giving birth (3 kids) and it takes her 6 months to a year to fully shed the 15-20lbs of weight. I have no issue with and will do anything I can to help with the newborn and around the house so that she take her time while recovering.

If I am being completely honest though, our sex life drops off a cliff when she is overweight. I love her but it was difficult feeling attracted to her. And if it’s a permenant or semi-permenant situation, I don’t think I can accept it.

That said I very clearly communicated to her before the marriage that being stuck with a fat wife is probably one of my biggest fears, and she assured me that it would never happen because she cares about how she looks and being attractive for me. Also my mother-in-law is very slim and fit for her age. Those factors gave me enough courage to jump in.

Title	if your partner did gain a lot of weight and looked significantly more chubby, would that be a deal breaker ?
Author	throwaway9998785
Upvotes	53
Comments	216
Date	January 15, 2022 12:21 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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