For guys who want an active woman, why and what does that mean to you?

asdf333aza · 2023-06-01T09:25:08+00:00

Its the political correct way to say we don't like fat chick's. Most dudes like gals with normal bmi.

Traditional-Bad-4055 · 2023-06-01T08:53:34+00:00

One is definitely the health/good body aspect. But another part is that I want her to enjoy an active lifestyle and activities that someone out of shape may not be able to do

My current gf and I go hiking regularly. We like kayaking and paddle boarding and surfing a bit as well. My gf is planning a hiking/camping trip through a cave system in Vietnam.

So basically I want someone who is capable of and enjoys doing the above. Also it’s just more fun to go to the gym with your gf sometimes

AreOut · 2023-06-01T10:40:33+00:00

"and I don't need to be very active to maintain it. But also, I'm from europe, I walk and bike a lot as a commute"

comparable to an average girl you ARE very active

and continue being like that

captaindestucto · 2023-06-01T11:04:26+00:00

It's basically a euphemism for not wanting an obese person who spends their weekends with Domino's and Netflix. Someone you can find attractive and do things with without having to worry about health issues on the horizon.

Apparently this is picky, arseholish and misogynistic.

DoinIt989 · 2023-06-01T11:31:42+00:00

"Not fat" 90% of the time. 10% of the time, there's men who are very outdoorsy, into hiking trips for several days, camping rough for a week, those guys mean "a woman who will go outdoors like that with me"

dont_know_nothing_0 · 2023-06-01T09:44:18+00:00

Somebody who won't complain when you are 1 hour into a hike.

gymbronyc718 · 2023-06-01T10:21:40+00:00

It's not only about body fat percentage. It's about toned and well built muscle mass. The difference between how a body that works out vs one that doesn't feels to the touch is completely different.

happy_discus · 2023-06-01T10:59:53+00:00

Active woman means to me would be okay with doing light sports like hiking, biking or walking for a few hours. If I hike on my own its usually around 20 miles. Biking would be around 30 miles. If she can't handle this we are simply not compatible. Being able to handle such distances doesn't even always correlate with weight or BMI. I really don't care about weight as long as you are willing to leave the house and be active with me. I have overweight neighbors which hike such distances in a day. They take longer than me but its, at least in my opinion, just mentality. I should add I don't hike, bike or walk every weekend. I got lots of other hobbies and interests too. Just don't be a slob sitting on the sofa watching TV/YT all day every day.

EWE-S-A · 2023-06-01T12:27:01+00:00

Working out is God’s natural therapy.

Kids got fat, mental disorders in adults went up. Not a surprise.

That’s main reason you want a girl who does some kind of physical activity for same reason a girl should want a guy who can at least run a miles. More than anything it’s mental stability for both.

CapsuleCorpLogo · 2023-06-01T14:33:50+00:00

Because we don’t want to date fat obese woman. I know the TwoX cronies love Lizzo and think she’s so brave for showing her stomach despite being obese but that shit ain’t for me. I like chubby women but Lizzo level of women are just obese, unhealthy, and sloppy and I don’t think I’m an asshole for saying I’m not into that.

lolthankstinder · 2023-06-01T12:23:41+00:00

Amongst all my insta friends across time, a clear trend emerges. After 18-24, the women that look the best tend to really enjoy and post about some sort of “active” hobby like dancing, climbing, gym, aerial silks, yoga, etc. If they really enjoy it, you don’t have to worry about them locking you down and then giving up on health and fitness whilst shaming and guilting you for losing physical attraction to them. So, when dating, you look for these “active” interests.

TheRedPillRipper · 2023-06-01T09:12:01+00:00

you want to go to gym together

Plus hiking. Mountain climbing. My partner walks, and bikes. When we met, I introduced her to weight training. She didn’t like it, but stuck with it. Got pretty strong. Now she’s 20 months postpartum, and can’t wait to hit our gym again. She’s just contemplating ab surgery, to rejoin her abdominal muscles first.

Another factor too is modelling our behaviours. For our kids. I love rugby. So run sprints. Box jumps. Incorporate a lot of plyos into my programming. As my eldest plays rugby for school. So if she wants to get the most out of it, she needs to put the most in. As a father, it’s my job to model what that looks like.

Finally old age is fraught with frailty. Strength training, is a proven mitigating factor. For my partner, even more so.

Godspeed and good luck!

Asatmaya · 2023-06-01T10:57:27+00:00

Do you want an active woman because it most likely would mean she isn't obese/good body, or another reasons?

I know plenty of active people with terrible bodies, so if that's the goal, it is misguided.

I just want someone who won't try to keep me home all of the time, which means either sharing an interest in some kind of outdoor activity with me or having their own regime or hobby.

Acceptable-Truck3803 · 2023-06-01T12:14:54+00:00

literally means not fat
someone who actually keeps active. some kind of gym/workout class(es)/yoga, etc. it has to be a part of her actual lifestyle other than going from couch to fridge when home and opening wine/alcohol to watch shitcoms and reality tv. Doesn't mean she has to do all her workouts with me, but an occasional workout would be nice.

I like to travel, and most of the places I like to travel or have a desire to explore require walking around 6-8 miles a day. Manchester, London, Chicago, Tokyo, are some example cities. Also sex with someone who is active is a lot more fun and enjoyable. Can’t go wrong with long term health benefits

bad_nerves · 2023-06-01T13:17:16+00:00

1) your metabolism aint gonna carry you forever

2) caring about your physical health is something to me shows a person who's driven to be successful in all aspects

3) it's a PC way of saying no fat chicks

regarding yourself, if you're walking 10+ km a day i'd say you are a pass

kvakerok · 2023-06-01T13:30:50+00:00

One that doesn't spend all her free time on her ass binging shows. I like mine on the curvy side (big tiddies and all that), but she still needs to be human-shaped rather than spherical-shaped.

Gr4nd45 · 2023-06-01T08:58:39+00:00

Because I am active. Do various sports, do hiking, spend time outdoors. I want to share that with my girl. Do it together. I want someone, who can keep up, at least to an extent.

jrjr_analyst · 2023-06-01T12:24:09+00:00

I've found that women with a consistent exercise routine are a lot less neurotic. And neurotic women who embrace a consistent fitness regime become less so. Yes, this applies to ~~both~~ all genders 🏳️‍🌈 but OP asked us why we want an active woman.

Unfortunately, regular physical activity alone cannot prevent someone from becoming overweight. That takes plate-pushaways, good sleep hygiene, and other lifestyle choices.

SoulBadguy0408 · 2023-06-01T13:51:44+00:00

I imagine that men who want an active woman are active themselves, so you'd want a woman who you can go outside with

Otherwise I'd just start saying I want a woman with a good diet which plays more of a role than exercise since you can only burn so many calories at the gym vs just not overeating and eating the right stuff

It's really just that fat chicks aren't attractive generally

Antisocialite99 · 2023-06-01T13:56:57+00:00

Because I'd have nothing in common with someone who isn't active, because there's huge links between level of physical activity and mental and physical health and lifespan and health span. People who don't have some desire to get off their asses and adventure are boring and often boring intellectually and spiritually as well. Aren't you curious what lies beyond where the pavement ends? Also people who aren't willing to work out to keep their bodies working well and stay in good health just don't love or care about themselves and will have other issues as well. Seeking luxury and comfort because you think they will make you happy are delusional and that's a sickness.

And yes attraction has something to do with it but not just physical. All of the above reasons tie into attraction as well as just looks.

Sea-Syllabub-4702 · 2023-06-01T14:11:35+00:00

I need someone who goes to the gym. Someone I can do a workout with that will push me. Plus if she goes to the gym we have that in common. Also I like the gym look as well. The more toned you know that person lifts look.

Peacesquad · 2023-06-01T16:01:27+00:00

Men don’t like fat chicks

shrimp_dicks · 2023-06-01T09:09:23+00:00

Not fat now, and will do her best to be not fat later.

Inevitable-Log9197 · 2023-06-01T09:00:56+00:00

While obesity plays a huge role in what people usually mean by that, for some people it might also be a type of lifestyle they have.

They might be going to different and far places pretty frequently, and while their partner might not even remotely be obese, they might have a heavy breath after a little walk.

And also, most importantly, they might also loose their breath during sex, if they're not usually active! Which is a huge turn off!

MajesticPenisMan · 2023-06-01T09:49:02+00:00

Somebody who walks or rides a bike to work everyday sounds pretty active to me, have you seen the whales in America? They would have to hop on their motorized scooter.

cel-shaded · 2023-06-01T11:38:23+00:00

For most men it's a diplomatic way to say "no fat chicks" but for me - a self-proclaimed active person -, i mean someone who would join me primarily in cycling (and keep up with me) as well as other physical activities that i enjoy, e.g. bouldering or table tennis. Or in other words, by active i mean someone who shares a similar lifestyle. Coincidentally that excludes most fat women.

KayRay1994 · 2023-06-01T12:01:07+00:00

i’m an active man - i work out 4 times a week, have hiking as a go-to hobby and i walk everywhere, plus I get involved in many outdoor activities. I’d want a partner who can at least hike and be involved in outdoor activities. Plus, if we’re also being honest, obesity is unattractive

ViktorPatterson · 2023-06-01T13:32:28+00:00

It’s important to me, because having an active woman in my life enhances my chances of survival long term. That lifestyle helps to stave off senility and disease (if dementia doesn’t happen kick in early anyways). It also helps knowing my partner is taking care of herself long term. I like to lift weights and do calisthenics. She’s into yoga and running. We just happen to match on swimming and going on long walks and hikes… but, I have discovered that physically active people tend to keep an active mind as well, and that is the icing on the cake

VTHokie2020 · 2023-06-01T14:22:07+00:00

I'm from europe, I walk and bike a lot as a commute so maybe it'd be different for people from usa?

This makes a big difference. The average person in Europe gets some exercise from walking. Also, there's less junk food in Europe. Commutes in the US are largely car-based. Even going to the store requires you to drive to the nearest strip mall. Paired with junk food at drive-thru's, you can get into the habit of consuming high-fructose corn syrup while literally sitting down.

This builds up over time and people here balloon in size. Added with the dumbass culture we have about how 'all bodies are beautiful' and those landwhales on the Calvin Klein poster, people don't think they're fat.

Off-topic, this is not to say Europe is healthier. If I were European my concern would be finding someone who doesn't smoke and had good teeth.

ComfortableOk5003 · 2023-06-01T14:24:45+00:00

Nice way of saying not fat, takes care of themselves.

I’d personally prefer a woman who hits the gym and doesn’t just do cardio. When I mean gym I don’t mean Pilates.

Makes me exercise part of her lifestyle, won’t give me shit for hitting the gym 5-6 times a week. Also doesn’t just rely on youth and genetics to look healthy

Hoopy223 · 2023-06-01T15:07:58+00:00

Most guys? Not lazy. Energetic. Gets shit done.

Too many of us have come home to a lazy women that expects us to cook/clean/spend our day off fixing all her honey-do’s. Hell with that.

MxMaster9907 · 2023-06-01T16:33:03+00:00

I have an active life myself. Plus, i am really not attracted to overweight women.

masterdebater70 · 2023-06-02T06:04:13+00:00

It's bro code for "not fat". You can't say "not fat" now you have to say "active".

If she says "BUT I"M ACTIVE!!" you can then say...

"Well, I need someone a little more active..."

Justinance- · 2023-06-01T10:41:46+00:00

Basically someone who isn't fat, and won't get fat.

DerayRevan · 2023-06-01T08:51:43+00:00

I also don't know what that means but am guessing it's either active sexually or in the sense of being fit to have a good body

ErrprMachjne1 · 2023-06-01T10:03:14+00:00

That's going to be fine for most of us lmao. Just having basic health statistics which is what you're describing here is great. An actually average body fat aka not fat, basic physical robustness from using your body different ways and overcoming some more of resistance, which is what makes you stronger. Diet is key too. It's rough to have to spend time around a chick who just eats juice and crackers all day like a fucking three year old. Then they upgrade to avocados and spinach and think they are adults now. God I hate this world.

Luciansleep · 2023-06-01T10:26:55+00:00

I want that because I spend a lot of my time in the gym as it’s my favorite hobby.

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Mrs_Drgree · 2023-06-01T10:18:16+00:00

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Smoogs2 · 2023-06-01T13:32:38+00:00

I saw a lot of men stating they want an active woman, and I started thinking what does that mean actually. Like what is active for you? And why?

I enjoy a pretty wide range of active sports. Snowboarding, skiing, wakeboarding, wakesurfing, kayaking, sailing, horsebackriding, mountainbiking and flying. I don't expect her to keep up with me but I do expect her to hold her own and be willing to try these things. If you have ever done any of the above with someone obese or just not active, it can quickly ruin a vacation. I barely fit in the seat of a 172. There is no way a fat person is going to fit into it.

Andre27 · 2023-06-01T14:20:10+00:00

I want her to have muscles. I dont actually care if she is a bit chubby or not, in fact Id prefer she is. But there is a huge difference in how a muscular and chubby girl looks and a girl who just has fat on bone.

For most its just a way to say they want someone who isnt fat though.

kayama57 · 2023-06-01T15:59:54+00:00

It’s tough to say this explicitly - no amount of value judgement is acceptable against people who for any reason do not enjoy the benefits of standard human physical health - but yes, for me health is very important in a partner. Not the appearance of health, such as the size of the thighs or whatever nonsense, but actual physical health. You need your partner to be able to move around as much as they need. You can benefit from avoiding the financial liability of requiring medical care as much as posible. You need the mother of your children to survive the massive ordeal that is giving birth. You may want to simply go on long hikes together. Aesthetics is a nice-to-have cherry on top of the countless tangible benefits of a partner with an active lifestyle. Some people do not have an active lifestyle and do not need it so much in their partner. That is also completely valid. I think that taking better care of my own physical health was fundamental to the self-esteem that helped me meet my current partner and build the relationship we have together.

Amazing-Key-1575 · 2023-06-01T16:37:35+00:00

Europeans are slightly different because their cities are designed for humans to walk around in.

A lot of Americans spend the majority of their lives indoors, sitting, staring, then sitting while eating, or sitting in something that takes them somewhere to sit and stare at something for 8 hours a day while they eat on their way there, until they sit and stare on their way back to where they sit and stare and then lay down and repeat. Then there’s people that do that plus hit the gym an hour a day. It’s the bare minimum.

I like to be outside as much as possible at all times physically exerting myself. Humans are not meant to be docile, immobile creatures.

A woman who is obese simply can’t hang out with me for a day because it would be more movement than the sum of the last year of her exercise. And frankly it’s gross.

I can’t say any woman I’ve dated has had to exercise like I do at the gym for enjoyment & due to work/time constraints, because they were physically active enough with me and in their own lives without needing the gym. Gym doesn’t necessarily = active. Being active means you’re active. And it shouldn’t even be something you say you do, it should be how you live your life

Podlubnyi · 2023-06-01T17:24:59+00:00

Do you want an active woman because it most likely would mean she isn't obese/good body, or another reasons?

Both. Being active will probably result in her staying slim, but it also means she is someone who takes care of herself, and wants to do things in life beyond sitting on the couch every night watching Netflix.

2023-06-01T17:28:10+00:00

This often is code for no fat women

OppositeBeautiful601 · 2023-06-01T17:46:43+00:00

For me, an active woman is someone who has an active lifestyle. This may or may not mean going to the gym. It could be jogging, cycling, hiking or swimming. There are benefits to that:

She's likely to want to participate in physical activities. She enjoys the outdoors.
She's less likely to have medical issues do to inactivity
She's going to look better and she's more likely to stay that way. This isn't fat shaming. A woman who is naturally rounder will still look better if she's active. I think I would prefer a thicker woman who is active to a thinner woman who not active. The effects accumulate of the years. Over time the former will be more attractive.
She's going to be more supportive of my active lifestyle.

For me, it's really about compatibility.

DumpApe135 · 2023-06-01T18:32:01+00:00

Multiple reasons, the first is that I keep myself in good health and expect a partner to do the same. Besides obvious reasons like looks I spend anywhere from an hour to three at the gym per day (including driving/sauna/shower etc.) Which outside of work will be my biggest use of my free time, I love the gym and working out and anyone who does not share the same passion may take issue with my life. Other active things I do are things like ultimate frisbee or canal runs with friends.

2023-06-01T18:41:43+00:00

Me personally I want someone who wants to workout with me and play sports with as I never really got into sports as a kid I want to try. For me an active women is works out, plays sport, or does yoga

productive_monkey · 2023-06-01T19:16:55+00:00

I think it's a curse unless you're good looking in which case it's easy and doesn't matter. It robs happiness in the pursuit of it through much of your younger years. We never asked for it, and I hope that one day, we can solve this problem for men. I'd much rather be in control of what I want to pursue. At some point it gets philosophical, but for sure, this one is biological to a significant degree, and for that reason, I feel like it can be reprogrammed one day.

SkookumTree · 2023-06-01T19:25:39+00:00

Hmm. Rough ballpark: not obese, can run a mile in 12 minutes or better.

anonymousUser1SHIFT · 2023-06-01T20:03:04+00:00

Some people want an active partner to do active things with.

Others want a healthy partner which will remain healthy as they get older. (healthy does in fact include someones size).

For example I absolutely know I don't find fat girls attractive at all. (When I was little a fat girl broke my leg). Like there is nothing going to be going on in the brain department. However I would still like to be attracted to my partner, so I look at if she it activity, what here cooking skills are, and her mother.

TheLonerCoder · 2023-06-01T22:50:30+00:00

She doesn't have to go to the gym, she just has to be outside or exercising doing something multiple times a week. Like even if it's just cycling, jogging, or playing tennis 2-3 times a week, it's better than nothing. I'm fit so I want someone who is also fit and actually does things to stay active.

Texan2116 · 2023-06-02T02:02:50+00:00

I want someone who can ride a bike, and spend a day walking.

SirAidandRinglocks · 2023-06-02T03:05:04+00:00

Has run marathons. Can lead trad. Decent in a canoe. Knows how to bike, carve, and owns tech bindings. Preferably has multiple pairs of crampons.

Willow-girl · 2023-06-02T13:19:27+00:00

Do you want an active woman because it most likely would mean she isn't obese

LOL

VehementlyDrawn · 2023-06-03T06:55:07+00:00

Active makes sure that she doesn't become fat in her 30-40s. Any woman who says "I don't need to exercise" is probably looking ok in her 20s and ends up like all the other women who smash into the wall.

Comfortable-Dare-307 · 2023-06-03T14:34:55+00:00

I don't care how active a woman is. I exercise, but usually only at home. I don't like being around people, and I have a social phobia. I don't understand the bias against fat women. Some overweight women are highly active. My ex-wife is overweight, and she still runs a mile every day. I'm slightly overweight, and I exercise three to four times per week. Being overweight doesn't mean you're not active. We are biologically evolved to store fat because most of humans' time on Earth food wasn't always available. Now that most people have food in plenty, we tend to overeat, leading to being overweight.

Workaholiconew · 2023-06-09T01:13:51+00:00

I would say most men do not want an active woman. But dont like fat women.

Fast_Team_5351 · 2023-06-14T16:11:17+00:00

Because strong Olga can bare many children, work many chores, and fight many wolves if need be.

Also I work to stay not fat.

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