Rank these 3 men as dating prospects and explain why.

Perfect-Resist5478 · 2024-04-23T12:18:18+00:00

If I had to pick I’d go with 3, cuz 1 sounds insufferable and 2’s lifestyle wouldn’t work for me.

But honestly I’d rather just use a vibrator than be with a guy I wasn’t actually interested in

Objective_Ad_6265 · 2024-04-23T12:07:08+00:00

With a gun at my head number 3. I don't want disgusting man whore so that disqualifies 1 and 2. I'm not into casual sex and I also don't want to be a house maid for a man and don't want children. I don't think I would find mutual understanding with number 3 and the fact that he accepts anything that has a pulse is a big turn off, I want to be desired, not accepted, I want him to desire specificaly ME as unique special person, not accept me as better than NOTHING. But with a gun at my head I would take number 3 as lesser evil. Otherwise I would rather stay alone, so if it's valid, I take loneliness over this choice.

To compare 1 and 2 I really don't know. 1 is totaly super extreme disgusting man whore. But 2 wants children and woman as his maid and generaly totaly incompatible lifestyle and also is disgusting man whore just not as extreme as 1. So between those two it's impossible to choose who is worse.

UpbeatInsurance5358 · 2024-04-23T12:14:52+00:00

If I must choose, I'd choose 3.

_noneoftheabove · 2024-04-23T11:46:11+00:00

All bad choices, but 3 is far preferable to the others. 200 n-count is an order of magnitude too high, and I’m not interested in a man who sees escorts or who thinks women need to stay at home. 2 also fits the MAGA stereotype, so hard pass on that.

“Almost no standards” is a major red flag for 3, though. Probably would go on one date and catch a really weird vibe.

mrs_seng · 2024-04-23T12:03:11+00:00

Ehhhh, honestly none. I'm older than any of these guys so that excludes all of them from the beginning. Yet, i'll list what i find off putting about each.

Choice 1: baby mamma drama + OF + waay too many past partners + has a child

Choice 2: his job (i would be dead worried at home because of a potential accident) and constant missing from home + his beliefs (women should stay at home moms) + most probably wants kids and i am childree

Choice 3: virgin + autism + anime (looks like more than casual watching some anime sometimes)

Nellylocheadbean · 2024-04-23T12:30:35+00:00

None, They’re all equally bad choices.

1) way too many partners and he has a child 2) sounds like a weirdo because he can’t stop seeing escorts 3) I personally don’t want a man who’s autistic. Also, him having no standards is a red flag.

HotOutcome9161 · 2024-04-23T11:35:53+00:00

3 but if he is into animes where the women sound like squeeky sex toys he‘s out too

blebbyroo · 2024-04-23T11:31:12+00:00

Honestly none but if these were my only options choice 3. Choice 1 is a no go with the only fans and child support/ baby momma but mainly the only fans. Choice 2 is likely a trump pro gun guy but more importantly don’t want to date someone gone for long periods or who has used escorts.

Choice 3 seems ok but we have nothing in common based on what you’ve written and hard to know what high functioning autism looks like with him. Might be a deal breaker might not be.

nightsofthesunkissed · 2024-04-23T13:20:04+00:00

They all sound pretty bleak tbh (not cool with the sex workers thing or the "women belong at home" thing in the others), If I HAD to choose - 3.

The thing that puts me off 3 though is he'll date anyone who shows interest? Eh.. How am I supposed to know he really loves me then?

edit - I'm also with the woman below me who says if he likes the animes where women sound like squeaky sex toys - BIG TIME.

lonelycyberangel · 2024-04-23T12:42:46+00:00

Do you mean undateable in a broad sense? Or just by personal preference.

By personal preference, 1 and 2 are completely undateable. And I would be wary to date 3, but wouldn’t say he’s undateable.

Choice 1: Being a playboy, having 200+ body count, and the onlyfans, are all dealbreakers. He also doesn’t know what he wants, it’s either you want a casual relationship or a serious one. There’s no “either or”.

Choice 2: Career choice, and messing with random escorts are deal breakers. I wouldn’t want to date a trucker just because I value quality time spent together, and wouldn’t like someone who HAS to be on the road for long periods of time where I wouldn’t be able to come with them. If it was a career that allowed me to travel with them, it wouldn’t be a deal breaker.

Choice 3: We have a lot of similar interests. High functioning autism isn’t that much of a deterrent and being a virgin isn’t a deal breaker. The lack of previous relationships is a little scary because less experience may lead to more problems down the line. And the biggest turn off would be his lack of standards. Willing to date any woman that shows interest wouldn’t make me feel like I’m in a relationship with someone who actually wants to be with me.

Wrong-Wrap942 · 2024-04-23T13:23:39+00:00

Don’t date men anymore but number 3 as long as he’s got similar political and moral views as me. If his special interests match mine that’s a plus.

spaffjizz · 2024-04-23T15:46:20+00:00

Dog shit, cat shit and pig shit - what do you want on your toast?

WeUsedToBe · 2024-04-23T17:57:48+00:00

I don’t want to seriously date anyone I’m not 100% sure of. I’d date #1 casually and that’s it. Sounds like he’s attractive, charismatic, and a high earner, so at the very least he’ll be good fun for a while. I get to semi-raise a kid without going through all the pains of pregnancy. Might cut him off if he’s too attached to any of his exes. I don’t care about him being a manwhore as long as he’s clean. If you’d included that he was a physical abuser, then #2 would be my top pick from this bunch because jeopardising my safety and endangering my life is not something I’m willing to compromise on.

Next, #2 would probably annoy me in person, he sounds closed-minded. My city-based lifestyle isn’t compatible with him; I don’t want to be isolated from civilisation and all its amenities. I don’t think we’d have a lot to talk about so I don’t think the attraction would even foment to begin with. At least he can teach me some survival skills. Buying escorts is sad and I don’t know that I could trust him to stay loyal on long-haul trips.

Lastly, #3 would repulse me in person. I’ve been with a male virgin and I’m so over them not knowing how to please a woman. I’ve also been with someone who said they didn’t mind whether we had a serious or casual relationship and these people will always have one foot out the door (same as I am with #1 admittedly, but at least I’m clear on what I want). I don’t want to choose a man no one else wants, and to be chosen because he can’t get anyone else. Someone who’s autistic and that into anime just sounds like a socially stunted manchild I would have to baby, and providing for men and harbouring romantic and sexual feelings for them at the same time just isn’t in my cards. As far as social status goes, I find having him as arm candy personally the most embarrassing.

ConanTheCybrarian · 2024-04-23T12:55:02+00:00

If this list is what's available now, I'm even more thankful I found my husband. Yikes.

If I was single, I would never give 1 or 2 a second thought. 3 is a possibility, depending upon his communication skills and how much time he spends on his hobbies (i.e. does he perseverate on the video games and refuse to stop playing until he has finished the run-through, neglecting other activities??)

GlitterAndFireballs · 2024-04-23T12:38:52+00:00

3, 2, 1 for me.

Whoreasaurus_Rex · 2024-04-23T13:56:09+00:00

None. Absolutely not. Nope.

1) has kid/baby momma 2) wants a tradwife 3) anime and comic conventions, gamer

Moon-on-my-mind · 2024-04-23T14:22:45+00:00

3, but I'm not giving him kids. So he better be ok with childfree life. Also, if his autism can't handle my kinks then...i guess I'm left with dating none. The first two choices are an absolute no from me, I'd rather hug a bear or 4B than those two.

fiftypoundpuppy · 2024-04-23T14:53:21+00:00

Gun to my head 3, 2, 1.

I'm childfree so that makes 1 last. Not a fan of the OF either, but since he already breaks my biggest deal-breaker that is a secondary consideration.

Number 2 believing women need to stay at home makes him second, along with the escorts being a deal-breaker.

3 doesn't break my immediate deal-breakers so by default he's the first choice. But our bedroom is DOA.

MistyMaisel · 2024-04-23T12:12:38+00:00

None.

Gun to my head...God probably 2, but maybe 3? The escort thing is fucking disgusting to me but if he intends to stop because he realizes it was evil, I'd pick him. I'm not a fan of his attitude towards women, but I'd assume that was smoke and negotiable. If not, I'd have to go with 3, but under the presumption this is maybe a bit of fun that is gonna turn into a friendship.

DreaminInChocolate · 2024-04-23T14:28:38+00:00

None would be acceptable.

-1 is fine with not being a present/active parent. -2 would never be a present partner and expects his partner to make up for that to support him -3 is desperate, has no standards, and no experience

Obvious_Smoke3633 · 2024-04-23T14:35:57+00:00

2, 3, 1. I still wouldn't choose any of them at any point in my life. 2's use of escorts and wanting a SAHM is the only thing eliminating him. 3 having a body count of 200 and a kid is hard no. 3 being autistic and playing video games, I wouldn't even look in his direction

GridReXX · 2024-04-23T18:29:33+00:00

They all have some good stuff.

But they all have extreme or icky or annoying negative stuff.

I’d choose myself over them.

Might go on a fun date with 1. And tbh he’s the one with the highest chance of turning “a ho into a husband” because he seems like he’s over his past of wild living and the way you describe him he seems like a nicer person than guy 2.

2 I like his outdoors stuff but I can’t do that level of difference in worldview. He’s the one I wouldn’t even entertain a date with. I’m sure he’ll find a woman easily though.

3 - I don’t handle awkwardness well. Meaning it turns me off from sexual interest and annoys me in friendships. I’d go on two dates with him to see if I could handle it tho. Cuz he seems fine overall.

HighestTierMaslow · 2024-04-23T19:09:57+00:00

All 3 suck. So none. (Playboy+social media lover, escorts+forced SAHM, autism are a no). If someone absolutely held a gun to my head I would go with three but I would be miserable

Economy-Shake-1448 · 2024-04-24T06:09:03+00:00

2 would be great if he hadn’t been a degenerate who slept with escorts. Massive red flag, because he clearly doesn’t give a shit about if they are abused or in trauma or something and he’s just happy to get sex for cheap. also 2 doesn’t seem like the type who would worship the ground I walk on so that’s also a point down.

So I will choose 3 as long as he simps for me and worships the ground I walk on. Being off the grid is cool and all and will prepare us for apocalyptic situations. But 3 would probably go along with me living off the grid and being a homeschool mom if I decide to do so.

-Shes-A-Carnival · 2024-04-23T12:24:50+00:00

you almost got me with 2

YouHateTheMost · 2024-04-23T17:56:27+00:00

I'll have to join the "none" club. However, if I had to choose at gunpoint...

2 sounds like the best option for me. I'd be looking not just for a long-term relationship, but marriage, and #2 sounds like the most family-oriented one out of the bunch, as well as the closest to having Christian values (big deal for me as a Christian). Plus, quality time is my primary love language, and outdoor adventures together is totally my vibe! The escorts thing is concerning, but hopefully he used protection, and all STDs are curable or manageable, and I'd be helping him grow in Christ, so that he stops this habit.

As for other options, #1 sounds insufferable and unreliable as a partner, and #3 sounds like I'd be spending a lot of time alone and would be just a warm body in bed for him, as he sounds very absorbed in his interests which I don't share (anime, comic books, speedruns (I play video games, retro ones too, but not competitively)).

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januaryphilosopher · 2024-04-23T12:50:55+00:00

Assuming I could age them all down, 3 sounds like someone I could actually try dating (although I'd hope that he was actually into me for a start and that his work/rent didn't take over), 2 is not my type but not awful and 1 is just completely not going to work.

thelajestic · 2024-04-23T15:50:40+00:00

None are dateable. I'm finding it difficult to rank, but I'd say 2 and 3 are probably tied, 1 is last.

Number 1: I don't think I could be fucked with an influencer type, which is what he sounds like. I would like kids so also his not wanting other kids rules it out. I probably wouldn't want to date someone who already had kids either, although I'm not sure if that's a deal breaker.

Number 2: Would literally be perfect with the hunting, fishing, outdoorsy, owning land etc but the long haul truck driver and wanting women to stay at home are gigantic deal-breakers, and the escorts thing isn't great either. If it was a case of him wanting to quit his job and we'd just both stay at home and live off the land I could get past the escort thing I think.

Number 3: Glaring issue is the "will date anyone" as then you can't tell if they actually like you or just are with you because you showed interest. I knew a guy like that: autistic, virgin, all he was interested in was games/comics etc. He was a lovely guy (to his friends) and fun to game with, but when he got his first gf it was painfully obvious that he didn't even like her, found her annoying/tiresome and was just going out with her because she showed interest and he thought he should be in a relationship. I did have an enormous crush on him for a while though because I do love a nerdy awkward type (before his gf - his attitude towards her was a real eye opener) so if I was younger and less aware of such things I could totes see myself ending up in a situation like this 😅

StubbornTaurus26 · 2024-04-23T16:00:47+00:00

(I would never date any of these people in real life, but will rank as a complete hypothetical)

1) Choice 2- biggest turn off being previously seeing escorts. I would be perfectly happy being a SAHM with land and more off-the-grid lifestyle. So as long as he can remain loyal to me-I’d entertain dating him.

2) Choice 3- I just wouldn’t have romantic or sexual feelings towards this man. I’m not into anime or comics, I wouldn’t be interested in his interests and I just do not think we would jive. Willing to date any woman is a big turn off as well.

3) Choice 1-‘well known playboy with 200+ bodies’ I’m immediately out, pairing with baby mama drama and past OF work-no thank you. Also, doesn’t want kids would be dealbreaker.

ezbyte · 2024-04-23T16:05:37+00:00

Choice #1 is out of the question because I want more kids. I need to know the attractiveness of choice 2 and 3, how well choice 2 can fuck and if he’s serious about not seeing anymore escorts. I’m not trying to catch an std from my partner. If choice #3 is attractive to me, I will take the time to teach him how to have sex. He also needs to know how to fight and shoot. I don’t mind him being awkward in social situations, but he needs to know how to protect his family if needed.

MiddleZealousideal89 · 2024-04-23T16:16:51+00:00

Really scrapping the bottom of the barrel here. But I'd say 3. 1 and 2 have too many things that won't work for me, 3 is the least bad option. If I could choose none of them, the answer is "cats and wine".

RosieBarb · 2024-04-23T16:22:15+00:00

I guess Choice 3 is least likely to give me an STD so I would pick him? But not gonna lie, I would leave the room when he watches anime.

punapearebane · 2024-04-23T16:40:04+00:00

None. With a gun to my head - 3. Then I would run.

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Lilrip1998 · 2024-04-23T17:51:03+00:00

I'll take dying alone thanks.

EulenWatcher · 2024-04-23T18:17:55+00:00

Choice 1 - 0/10. He could be a good friend and a fun person to hang out with, but we clearly have different values and I'd never date a sex worker. Or a man with a child he doesn't actually raise.

Choice 2 - 0/10. Again, we have different values and I wouldn't date a man who was okay with paying for sex. I have no interest in being a SAHM or living off-the-grid either.

Choice 3 - 3/10. He's too old, we might have nothing in common in terms of interests and I'm not sure I'd be able to date someone with the autistic spectrum. He doesn't have immediate and total "nope" flags though (unless being a virgin at 31 means that he also frequents incel platforms and shares their beliefs).

ParkiiHealerOfWorlds · 2024-04-23T18:55:38+00:00

1 and 2 dropped out of the running pretty quickly, it's just not a lifestyle I'm interested in living, but more power to them.

3 is actually what I'm the most familiar with and would get along with the best. (Nerdy woman married to a nerdy guy who both heavily suspect they're autistic here, lol)

As long as he's cool talking to me about his anime, not asking me to watch them (I've tried. It's not for me) and he doesn't pressure me into doing speed runs, but will instead allow me to take my time if we play together, I'm cool with that aspect. Even better if we share the same hobbies and gaming style but 🤷🏼‍♀️ compromise is also acceptable.

I'd prefer that he has standards and preferences, both because that shows he knows what he likes and values himself enough to hold out for it, and also because it's nice to know you fit someone's preferences and standards rather than just being someone with blood in their veins who will give him the time of day but ...

Actually you know what that's a problem for me, cuz my instinct says, "Hopefully he's willing to go to therapy and learn more about himself and gain those insights that allow him to have preferences and standards." But then, what if he realizes I don't fit them? Which is his right! But now I've sunk time and effort into someone who could have told me a year ago (therapy takes time) what his preferences were if he'd done the work sooner. That would really suck. That's a shitty risk for me to take. ... I'd still want him to do the therapy but not while I'm tied to a relationship that's already on questionable ground. ... Can we be friends while he works on himself and when he feels ready he can let me know if I fit? Provided we're both still single, of course.

And then not caring about a casual relationship or something serious... If my current husband died and I was back on the market I could see not caring either way at this stage of my life (I'm 38), and being willing to go with the flow and see if something casual turns into something serious or not.

Virginity doesn't matter to me, he'd have to learn what I like from scratch either way, lol. And I'm a patient person. Being with someone while they discover what they like is really fun too, so it doesn't bother me.

3 is my choice, but I'd feel more comfortable choosing him if he had standards and preferences, those are some missing green flags for me.

learn2earn89 · 2024-04-23T21:29:08+00:00

3– even though it sucks that his standards are low. I don’t dig that.

TheMedsPeds · 2024-04-23T21:31:23+00:00

Yeah, id stay single. None of these guys sound appealing at all.

apresonly · 2024-04-23T22:32:22+00:00

"Well known playboy" disqualified.
"Has admitted to occassionally seeing escorts" disqualified
"Has almost no standards for women" disqualified

this is what women mean when we say there are no good men

Old_Luck285 · 2024-04-23T22:49:19+00:00

None

1) The OF account is off-putting. He also seems to be very career driven and is a public figure - not a good fit for me.

2) Escorts is a no as is hunting and fishing. Not interested in trad lifestyle.

3) Autism is a no as well as his hobbies. Anime and video games are totally not my thing.

Next, please!

Custard-Gyal · 2024-04-24T06:09:12+00:00

You do know choice 3 could be attractive too right?? Lmao

lle-ell · 2024-04-24T15:02:50+00:00

Out of those choices, #3.

Ainsleygz · 2024-04-23T18:06:03+00:00

I’d fuck number three to watch him do a (literal) speed run of sonic and cum on his anime figurines (hot). Ppl with children disgust me so the others are out

Rank these 3 men as dating prospects and explain why.

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2 didnt hide his escort use. He posted his regrets about it openly on instagram, thats the only reason I knew.

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