I see Red Pill men on here constantly complaining about "beta buxxing" - women "settling" for them because they are stable providers, while not actually finding them attractive or wanting to sleep with them.

At the same time, a lot of the same men say they want traditional wives who follow gender roles, that women with careers aren't particularly attractive ("I'd rather go for the hot waitress", etc.) and that women are misguided for thinking that men care about their income or job.

These two perspectives seem directly contradictory to me and I don't get it. If we return to "traditional gender roles", women have much less agency and autonomy to make their own decisions. So they can't be "willingly picking you because they find you attractive" by definition.

Being with an independent woman is basically guaranteed to avoid beta buxxing - if she doesn't need you to provide for her financially, she's definitely with you because she actually desires you and enjoys the sex and companionship.

Make it make sense.