Me: “if you’re interested in me romantically we should go on a proper date.” Him:

Inspection-Critical · 2020-09-17T23:41:47+00:00

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letsberealforamoment · 2020-09-17T23:23:06+00:00

Nah sis. Let him offer a coffee date, etc. Then block and delete. No use in arguing with them or getting presumptuous responses back.

And he asked you for coffee.....10 messages in. Lol. And he bitches that he doesn't know you well enough to gage his interest? The self awareness is weak with this one.

LevelTurbulent · 2020-09-17T23:23:31+00:00

You know his interest. He has none.

Platipus6 · 2020-09-18T01:21:38+00:00

"Now that I've corrected your silly lady brain and put you back in your box, I'm willing to tolerate this new, demure, smaller version of you. Let me know if you're going to be making the right choice to meet up with me and eat more shit".

Inspection-Critical · 2020-09-17T23:21:24+00:00

"Awkward." I see this word so much in these screenshots. Who thinks dinner is awkward except bottom feeders with no social skills? How do these guys conduct business or see friends?

seraphinelysion · 2020-09-18T02:15:28+00:00

Imagine this guy at a job interview and the HR person asks him to describe his qualifications and he says:

It's evident "qualified" is subjective in this case. If by qualified, you mean if I have the necessary education, work experience, and skills required for this job, in my opinion, that shouldn't have any correlation to my interest in this job at this point in time. We've sent approximately 2-3 emails back and forth (to set up this interview), I truly don't know enough about this job and my interest in applying for this position. I'd like to keep it more casual in the event we don't enjoy working with one another, neither of us will be obligated to sit through that awkward HR conversation about to fire or to quit. If hiring me on the spot right now isn't sufficient, I respect your decision to go with another candidate, and we should probably go separate ways. Having said that, I've smiled reading your job posting and would still like this job. Let me know which you prefer.

Did I get the job, guys? 🤡

RiasXgremoryX · 2020-09-17T23:22:57+00:00

He's trying so hard to sound intelligent🤣 just say you're too broke/cheap and go.

quaintrell · 2020-09-18T00:23:54+00:00

Eating together is literally a form of social bonding, so if that's too awkward, you might as well crawl under a rock and call it a day

oh_beach_please · 2020-09-17T23:50:06+00:00

He's already sent you TEN texts what more do you want you harpy! God he's exhausted, poor guy /s

maracat1989 · 2020-09-18T00:13:31+00:00

Strike 1: his use of the word “subjective” as if he’s the voice of reason. Strike 2: acts like basic chivalry is the most tedious chore in the world. Strike 3: tries to manipulate you by saying your messages “made him smile” yet it’s not enough for him to take you on a proper date?

jackrusselterror1 · 2020-09-18T01:01:04+00:00

Lol, the same men who find dinner dates too awkward somehow don’t have the same perspective when it comes to sex on the first date. Glad you didn’t fall for it.

Mysterious_Midnight7 · 2020-09-17T23:17:06+00:00

Block, delete

tellmesomething11 · 2020-09-18T00:23:04+00:00

Haha it’s like poker and watching him bluff his way into making you think you don’t deserve a date because y’all don’t know each other. No one has to sit thru an awkward dinner, either one of you can end it at any time.

He’s trying to frame it as he would be the one rejecting you, and patronize by saying he smiled through the message. YOU ALREADY SAID WHAT YOU WANTED. He acted like you don’t know better and what HE wants is better.

I’d be like “not interested” and block. I ain’t doing anything else but calling people out in a sentence or less and blocking. Because people should know you’re not interested and you don’t wish them luck. Fuck them and their stupid ways.

feast_or_famine1 · 2020-09-17T23:17:59+00:00

Weeding them out early on. 👏

redbirdflies · 2020-09-17T23:29:22+00:00

Scrote translated: I’m cheap and I was hoping to get my dick wet with little to no effort

Only appropriate response: block

PinkPetalCdistbeauty · 2020-09-18T00:52:22+00:00

Love how they ALL say this... and cry about “dinner is too intimate” when all they really intend to do is try to get their dick wet ASAP...... avoid these broke dicks like Covid .

Izzy4162305 · 2020-09-18T00:15:50+00:00

Well, he sounds exhausting

Geocities_SEO_Expert · 2020-09-18T00:47:05+00:00

it just blows my mind that they are all reading the SAME playbook! I am so happy that we have this community so that I can see how consistent my own experiences are with these dudes. It's not just me. It's all of them going by the same book for every woman in the world. Dang.

PenneyPence · 2020-09-17T23:56:16+00:00

This looks like this is something he copies and pastes from his notes app every time a HVW asks for a proper date.

MagnfiqueMaleficent · 2020-09-18T00:00:18+00:00

“Let me know which you i refer.” Lmao!

Who died and told him he gets to set the terms of the courtship? You ain’t the prize, bro.

CoffeeBeforeAdulty · 2020-09-18T00:21:47+00:00

Just more proof of a man wanting to be the girlfriend. 🤣🤣🤣

🚮 Buhbye, dude.🚮

lhatw · 2020-09-18T00:41:14+00:00

I had a guy try to write me some long essay like this before when I said I felt like we didn’t click. This isn’t an English class. BLOCKED.

2020-09-18T01:46:11+00:00

TOM you are fucking insufferable.

whendovescry2020 · 2020-09-18T00:12:45+00:00

Lol he should be blocked with quickness

TheTower_14 · 2020-09-18T01:28:34+00:00

That's a lot of words for "im broke and selfish"

Thestral-glow6 · 2020-09-17T23:33:00+00:00

Let’s go our separate ways then! 🤦🏼‍♀️

maraslove · 2020-09-17T23:47:53+00:00

Anything to not spend nor court shit! Crazy how easy it has become to let a woman go rather than going after her.

2020-09-18T00:26:30+00:00

🤣 omg. I like how you set your boundary btw. I get what he is saying but what he is saying is he is too poor to invest money in dating.

ItsFreezen · 2020-09-18T01:31:59+00:00

These guys spend a lot of money on video games and porn but don't want to spend money on a nice dinner date. Ridiculous.

tobitchabout · 2020-09-18T06:01:35+00:00

It's a trick when they say negative "we should probably go separate ways" but then end it with a positive "I have smiled reading at your messages and would still like to meet", because when the negative hits you, the last bit of positive gives hope. You only remember the lat two bits, not what you already wanted and asked for.

BellaMob · 2020-09-18T02:12:34+00:00

He is just cheap. In a rare case that the dinner will be awkward there is absolutely nothing stopping you from walking away from a restaurant (you can even box your meal and go). Nobody is going to be tied to a chair. He just wants to make a low value investment and enjoy your time, your beauty, your queen energy for absolutely 0 effort in return.

in_the_red_room · 2020-09-18T03:16:28+00:00

It's like a fedora in word form.

Madholley · 2020-09-18T01:28:33+00:00

Dodged a bullet! I love that asking for a proper date weeds out this type. Imagine how much he would have droned on about himself if you had gone to meet him? He seems like the type to correct someone else’s stories. “You say you work in biochemistry, do you mean pharmaceuticals?” 🤢🤢🤢🤢🤢🤢

myousername · 2020-09-18T03:09:10+00:00

I choose option 3: leave him on read, then BLOCK AND DELETE

daisy_0720 · 2020-09-18T07:30:53+00:00

These men literally have no clue how to attract a woman. Can you imagine James Bond being like "lEtS jUSt gRab cOfFEe oR mAyBE gO fOr a wALk."

curlygirl507 · 2020-09-17T23:42:55+00:00

Very cheap. I make guys drive to me and take me out for a meal within a 2-block radius of my house. Anything else is a next!

Dancer84839291 · 2020-09-18T05:47:43+00:00

Men make me feel like asking to enjoy the date (aka doing what I find fun and respectful instead of only doing what he wants) is asking for too much. Like it’s just as awkward leaving a bad coffee date as it is leaving a bad dinner date. Trust me I’ve done both.

RenegadeWarlock · 2020-09-18T09:12:50+00:00

Look, if my husband, as a broke ass college student at the time, could buy a plane ticket to visit me for the first time in another country when we were younger, this guy can buy you dinner.

OrchidLion · 2020-09-18T03:51:52+00:00

That's quite a proper way of speaking for someone that doesnt want to behave properly.

Champagne_bitch · 2020-09-18T06:28:00+00:00

That's a lot of words to say "I don't want to put an effort to court you" 🤣🤣

throwaway_vibes · 2020-09-18T05:15:41+00:00

He took all the time to write that and still thinks he doesn't have time for one meal. Wow.

preppykat · 2020-09-18T01:19:47+00:00

I’d dress like a potato, meet him, and get the most expensive coffee I could possibly something to eat there.. then ghost him .

tepidpoops · 2020-09-18T03:33:02+00:00

This would make for a great copypasta with that ridiculous language.

nycgirlhere · 2020-09-18T04:04:51+00:00

bro all these words to just to say: I am cheap and lv

vmuzondi · 2020-09-18T16:33:22+00:00

Ugh I hate how LVM think that we’ll hate each other. I think it says a lot about them and their own experiences with women. Dating is supposed to be fun and exciting. If you think it’s going to end horribly or be awkward, that means you’re either going out with people you have no connection with or you have no people skills. Dating isn’t supposed to be an assault course.

Microwave79 · 2020-09-18T02:57:24+00:00

All i heard:

https://media.giphy.com/media/OBUnW8FIqb04/giphy.gif

yfunk3 · 2020-09-18T08:59:40+00:00

I would start using this screencap as one of my OLD profile pics. 😆

EffectiveHoneydew422 · 2020-09-18T06:49:08+00:00

SUCH a Tom thing to say.

Are you just swooning now you know hes an ~ Intellectual type~ .

Lavender_flow · 2020-09-18T09:43:59+00:00

Bye TOM!

Summerisle7 · 2020-09-18T11:08:21+00:00

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Hahane · 2020-09-18T11:47:13+00:00

If you don't know whether you're interested or not, then don't send me a message. Easy peasy.

honeymilkandgold · 2020-09-18T09:59:19+00:00

these men have been SPOILED!!!!!!!!! Time for things to change

PollyAnnaSunshine · 2020-09-18T23:10:36+00:00

He sounds pompous AF!

missisabelarcher · 2020-09-18T14:19:37+00:00

Can you imagine how condescending and contemptuous this guy would be if you were in a relationship with him? Hard pass.

DarthSpinster · 2020-09-22T14:40:44+00:00

Separate ways it is!

bananachka · 2020-09-18T17:46:01+00:00

I swear we texted the same guy because I had a guy text me something so similar after saying his park date was inappropriate...

Or... Scrotes are just extremely unoriginal..

Either way, you go girl 👏👏

HamiltonSucksAss · 2020-09-18T20:01:53+00:00

Tell Tom to sling his hook

Morepaperplease · 2020-09-19T00:27:07+00:00

Tom is broke and looking for a booty call

mscristalconnors · 2020-09-18T13:43:10+00:00

Oh God, does he have 5 kids?

Title	Me: “if you’re interested in me romantically we should go on a proper date.” Him:
Author	maracat1989
Upvotes	363
Comments	162
Date	September 17, 2020 11:09 PM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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