If you believe that every woman is a gold digger and that she doesn't want you because you don't have enough money or because that's all she cares about, try and looking in the mirror. Do you have a good character ? Are you a person who cares about others ? Who's trying to improve himself ?

I'm a lesbian and am not interested in men, but when I was in the hetero scene (despite being closeted) I would always hear hetwomen being worried about being perceived as gold diggers by mediocre men.

Why do hetwomen go out of their way to soothe their ego ?

I don't have a lot of money as a student, but if I had I would shower my gf with gifts, I wouldn't be insecure abt whether or not she's with me jUsT fOr The MoNEy, because I know that a relationship is made of more than that, and such relationhip wouldn't last anyway.

I'd also argue that if it's the source of insecurity amongst hetero is because it reminds them of the prostitution contract.
As a woman who has male friends, I noticed they rarely ever do anything to make my life easier, while I can count on my female friends. Just goes to show that if you don't suck a man's dick, he won't lift his finger when you're in trouble or need help. I've known a few men who were dependable but they're outliers. The majority need sex as a motivation to even engage women as friends (freindzone), and if you reject them, they aren't friendly anymore.
So that's where we can draw parrallels btw hetero dating and the prostitution contract.

But instead of demanding better from men who only want sex from women, the general narrative is to tell women to stop using their sexuality and "TuRn TheMSelVes IntO oBjeCTS" to get something out of them. Again, women are blamed 100% for males moral failings. It's always up tot he women to "prove that they're more than their bodies" than men to change. Because people put men on an altar.
But yeah, hetwomen often claim that their man is one of the good guys but...if you weren't the one woman providing him w sex, maybe he'd treat you completely differently.

Like I said earlier, men always need sex as a motivator to be good and generous to women.
They also know that they aren't the best people around (contrary to women who just naturally take care of their friends and family) so that's why they have insecurities around so called gold diggers who they believe lurk around every corners and are after their money.

Not to mention many men are gold diggers too, but because of the reasons I posted above and the gender dynamics, and the fact that men still hold majority of the global wealth, they aren't portrayed as such as often.