Q4M: How would you feel if your SO regularly watched pr0n?

Ayaka_Simp_ · 2024-03-01T06:33:35+00:00

I wouldn't care.

There was only one girl I dated who didn't like porn. Some of them liked porn more than me. The last girl I dated had a sex drive that was astronomically higher than mine. She watched porn daily and masturbated. She fucked me enthusiastically and it didn't negatively affect the relationship, so I dont see the problem.

Geselshaft · 2024-03-01T06:54:00+00:00

Why would I care if they watch porn?

Did sex become a bad thing?

Most_Read_1330 · 2024-03-01T09:19:59+00:00

What categories? Femboy?

harmonica2 · 2024-03-01T12:30:16+00:00

Why is it that usually guys don't care if their girlfriends watch porn, but when women discover their boyfriends watching it they are horrified and shocked?

Kind-Dare7852 · 2024-03-01T10:40:49+00:00

I genuinely can think of few things I'd care about less.

Ok-Dust-4156 · 2024-03-01T07:08:00+00:00

Not regularly but sometimes and I know that. I feel nothing. On top of that I would never check her search history just because I can.

Neptune-Jnr · 2024-03-01T13:02:46+00:00

I wouldn't like it. I wouldn't watch porn if I was in a monogamous relationship.

MikeArrow · 2024-03-01T06:48:50+00:00

What she watches in her free time is none of my fucking business, so I would just shrug and carry on.

Lift_and_Lurk · 2024-03-01T13:28:40+00:00

My wife and I watch girl on girl porn together when she’s in the mood cause it’s her favorite.

tiddermacss · 2024-03-01T15:28:37+00:00

NICE..

izzzy12k · 2024-03-01T07:00:18+00:00

I don't think there's anything wrong with having fantasies.. Which she might be using such content to entertain that part of her mind.

It's when she considers fulfilling that fantasy, is when it's a problem.. Assuming it's content that would in essence mean her being with someone other than you.

Eezay · 2024-03-01T09:04:21+00:00

I would find it weird, as I generally feel like it is a very weird thing for people in committed relationships to watch porn by themselves, male or female. For many it replaces their sex drive over the course of the relationship and I think that is kind of... not good.

wardenferry419 · 2024-03-01T13:12:22+00:00

I would be surprised because I think my wife is in denial about being asexual.

KayRay1994 · 2024-03-01T08:18:20+00:00

I guess it would depend on how frequently she watches it, I have a problem with porn as an industry/how it messes with people, though we don’t have to agree on everything. Long as it isn’t a full on addiction/long as it doesn’t influence my partner’s perception on sex, do what you want.

Nihi1986 · 2024-03-01T23:45:16+00:00

Bad, and I wouldn't want her to be fine with me watching porn either.

ColbyXXXX · 2024-03-01T13:13:25+00:00

That would be my preference. I always run into women who are freaky on the outside but once in a relationship they are more mild.

obviousredflag · 2024-03-01T09:47:20+00:00

How would this revelation make you feel?

I'd feel ashamed for having uncovered something about her private sexuality that she maybe wanted to keep a secret. Then, i'd try to compare it with the same situation in reverse to check if i am making errors by assuming too much. And definitely, i have watched the most unspeakable of things and if someone randomly saw my browser history, they'd get a VERY wrong impression of what i am into. So i'd treat whatever i saw in her browsing history as "somewhere between research purpose, drawn in by disgust and this is her kink" and would ask her about her sexual fantasies personally before assuming anything from a browser history. Other than that, i have no issue with my SO watching porn of any kind or having fantasies of any kind.

Tokimonatakanimekat · 2024-03-01T08:27:03+00:00

How would this revelation make you feel?

"Heeeey babe, why didn't you tell me? Let's try this!"

Legitimate_Type_1324 · 2024-03-01T07:23:10+00:00

We don't care and we aren't as insecure as you are on this topic.

Next.

Aafan_Barbarro · 2024-03-01T07:32:12+00:00

There should be no porn in a relationship.

GreiratTheUndead · 2024-03-01T06:51:37+00:00

I would rather watch how she’s talking about me to her friends. And then based on that make sure i replace early enough

Tywinlol · 2024-03-01T07:50:01+00:00

So long as it doesn't get in the way of the relationship I don't care.

shockingly_bored · 2024-03-01T11:37:26+00:00

Women are constantly comparing notes, and you are going to look bad, and theyll be annoyed at you about it. It changes nothing.

webernicke · 2024-03-01T12:47:43+00:00

I'd probably feel a bit more intimate.

Like how after you've been in a relationship for a while and you get comfortable enough to share the bathroom while one of you is pooping.

Hatefuleight-36 · 2024-03-01T14:51:54+00:00

Depends on a number of things:

1) what kind of porn she’s watching. 2) how often she’s watching it. 3) how conscious she is of the difference between porn and real sex. 4)whether or not it is affecting the frequency of sex in our relationship for the worse. 5) if her desire to watch porn is born out of a want to indulge in fantasies of other men/women than me.

If there are favorable answers to all of these questions, then it’s all good by me.

CraftyCooler · 2024-03-01T08:19:49+00:00

It wouldn't be a revelation because I know what my wife is watching and she wants to me do the same things. What is interesting - for her is more like an seeking for ideas, she is not really interested in models or the movie itself.

abaxeron · 2024-03-01T09:04:11+00:00

My SO reads and evaluates my erotic fanfics, and we used to both follow (and discuss) a couple adult webcomics.

NockerJoe · 2024-03-01T18:18:29+00:00

I genuinely don't see why we're meant to have a problem with this.

SlowEffective8146 · 2024-03-01T06:54:56+00:00

she has a penchant for... certain categories.

lmao why is this so morbid

most women like all of the same shit anyways, even when it comes to porn.

moosemc · 2024-03-01T14:58:44+00:00

I'm OK with my SO masturbating.

And that's all that should need to be said.

MarBitt · 2024-03-01T07:24:08+00:00

Curious. Amused. Can we incorporate some of this into our love live? It'll be something I'd like to talk about, but it's none of my business. So it depends on whether she will be interested.

FebruaryEightyNine · 2024-03-01T16:16:42+00:00

I wouldn't like it. At all.

Am I a hypocrite? Absolutely.

PMmeareasontolive · 2024-03-01T18:06:34+00:00

I'd be fine with it and wonder if it was something we could do together sometimes. Don't care about the category* because porn is fantasy and I'm not the thought police.

*-within reason people.

Otjahe · 2024-03-02T00:06:03+00:00

About every woman I’ve ever been with has watched porn, and I do too, so why tf should I care?! Maybe depends a bit what she specifically watches also

Unable_Evidence_4028 · 2024-07-10T01:00:48+00:00

I dont care at worst, and be excited that they might wanna do certain things at best.

SecondEldenLord · 2024-03-01T17:33:39+00:00

Absolutely red flag, if a woman watches regularly porn, then in my eyes, she is a shut because she can easily put in practice what she sees. Most women can get sex with such ease, they do not need to watch porn regularly, but if they need, then they are a slut pretty much.

tacticaltossaway · 2024-03-01T17:28:57+00:00

Do you really think we don't know what romance novels are?

Specialist-Action-33 · 2024-03-01T12:03:40+00:00

I wouldn't care because I know women don't get turned on by visual images unlike men.

But for the sake of this, lets say she really enjoys it. Would I get offended? No because with the knowledge I know now, pørn is not real and just bullshit acting. How she falsely stimulates her brain will not affect my mental health. I will say that some women who do watch are more eager to have sex and a higher sex drive, but she needs to get therapy though.

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wtknight · 2024-03-01T12:05:45+00:00

I don't think that I'd care as long as she weren't addicted to it.

victinibro · 2024-03-01T12:07:26+00:00

I couldn't care less.

TotalTravesty · 2024-03-01T13:38:38+00:00

Wouldn’t care at all. We joke about the other person watching porn all the time if it looks like we’re doing something private on our phones. And in seriousness, even if we don’t know when or what the other person watches, I think we’d both find it a little odd if the other never watched anything ever.

BlzzdSuxDix · 2024-03-01T13:46:05+00:00

As long as she didnt form some complex, why should I care?

UEMcGill · 2024-03-01T14:58:10+00:00

Would I care if she read the Communist Manifesto? Would I care if she was watching House Hunter Lottery addition? Nope. These are just consuming information.

It's what she does that matters. Is she regularly sexually intimate with me and meeting my needs? Fine. If she's denying herself sexual intimacy with me, but flicking the bean all the time? Well it's time to make a change.

Slyfer_Seven · 2024-03-01T15:11:19+00:00

I would feel like "cool, guess she won't flip out if/when she finds out I watch it too when the mood strikes me"

The rest would be a sort of empathetic understanding...

Dissentient · 2024-03-01T15:17:07+00:00

I'd feel absolutely nothing about it.

iloveyouall00 · 2024-03-01T15:21:37+00:00

Wouldn't really care, unless she wasn't having sex with me regularly and/or was turning me down for sex.

But I consider sex toys a better equivalence.

Sargeras13 · 2024-03-01T15:49:10+00:00

I wouldnt care, but it depends on the category she's watching too

tired_hillbilly · 2024-03-01T17:13:00+00:00

How would she feel about me watching porn? How is our sex life?

If she'd be fine with me watching porn, and she isn't wasting libido on solo activities that could have been spent together, I'd be fine with it. I might flip through her history and see if there's anything we could do together.

If she'd be upset with me if I watched porn, I'm not cool with that. I'm also not cool with it if I'm not getting as much sex as I'd like because she's getting off on her own time.

aslfingerspell · 2024-03-01T22:35:32+00:00

Assuming "certain categories" isn't anything illegal, I wouldn't care. I understand why other people would have a problem, but I don't think I'd get insecure or see it like cheating.

I fully understand that even in a healthy relationship nobody will have 100% of their needs met by a partner alone. It doesn't excise cheating, but I understand that someone's sex life can include solo activities.

As long as our fun wouldn't be ruined (i.e. she develops unrealistic expectations, or wants to try dangerous things) I don't think I'd mind.

haironmyscalpbruh · 2024-03-01T23:46:05+00:00

I'd break up with her. I had no idea she had a preference for something that's different from me, I think it's best I let her go find someone that fits her preference

Acrobatic_Computer · 2024-03-02T01:24:29+00:00

It is harder for me to wrap my mind around the women who don't watch porn than those who do TBQH.

Upset_Material_3372 · 2024-03-02T18:51:41+00:00

Completely fine.

Sometimes you need to look at what your attracted to not everyone can date their type. Though I’d argue significantly more women can than men (even though men as a whole have a wider range of physical preferences)

Cool_Ranch_2511 · 2024-03-02T19:41:33+00:00

It would honestly be kind of endearing and I'm sure there's some out there. Some girls just have high libido but don't want to become a used-up tinder whore, porn would be a great outlet

shadowrangerfs · 2024-03-02T23:41:12+00:00

Depends on what kind of porn it is.

RealMenEatPussy · 2024-03-03T01:08:33+00:00

We do

Anti_Thing · 2024-03-03T06:41:12+00:00

I'd be devastated, though I don't think I'd snoop on her iPad on the first place.

Title	Q4M: How would you feel if your SO regularly watched pr0n?
Author	Windmill_flowers
Upvotes	30
Comments	345
Date	March 1, 2024 6:28 AM UTC (2 years ago)
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