Males, you can't sit there, expect her to initiate, get you hard, then bring you to orgasm. While you're just along for the ride as if you're doing her a favor. We can all agree that's just being lazy. Right?

Ladies, we can't sit there, expect the male to initiate, turn us on with foreplay, perform sexually, and bring us to orgasm. While we're just along for the ride as if we're doing him a favor. We can all agree that's just being lazy. Right?

Women and males - if you want to get yours, YOU need to speak up, say what feels good, or take the reigns and do what feels good (partner willing).

Need more foreplay? Say so, then DO more foreplay (partner willing). Need more jackhammering? Say so, then do more jackhammering (partner willing).

What you should NOT do, is expect your partner to mind read, and when they don't - you act disappointed and blame THEM for being bad at sex.

If you speak up and your partner is attentive, then y'all are on the fast track to great sex. For the both of you.

DISCLAIMER 1: If your partner doesn't listen or is selfish - find a different partner. That's a part of being responsible for your orgasm as an adult

DISCLAIMER 2: Nothing I've said implies you shouldn't try to help your partner get theirs