The advocating of age gap relationships

MongoBobalossus · 2025-04-02T16:01:21+00:00

Yeah, there’s a reason why it’s always old dudes posting about wanting a barely legal teen and wondering why people find it creepy.

DietTyrone · 2025-04-02T18:45:55+00:00

I don't think age gap relationships needs to be "desired" as a society. People can do whatever they want that's legal, whether that's age gap, interracial, gay, or any other kind of relationship between consenting adults.

However, what I think should be pushed is less hypocrisy on the topic. I've heard some people get called ageist for not wanting to date older women, rarely are women ever called pedos for dating down, and I've heard some absurd takes that it's totally fine for a young women to do only fans or just bang older men, but somehow having a legitimate relationship with an older men is wrong? And if we're going to say that people aren't mentally developed until age 25 and up then why give them the same rights as an adult? Change the age of consent to 25 then if you honestly believe people aren't mature enough to make there own decisions on who they date prior to that. There needs to be some logical consistency on these topics.

Anonsfavourite · 2025-04-02T16:05:33+00:00

I've noticed men have a tendency to shout at women who don't want certain things when they can just find women who do. There are women who desire age gap relationships but they stay screaming at the ones who don't want them to accept them. There are women who are traditional but they continue to scream at the ones who aren't. There are women who generally want the same things as you but for some reason they love to keep trying to convince and shame women who don't want those things to want them and I don't get it. 8+ billion of us on Earth, you surely can't expect us all to desire the same things. I'm sure women do the same because we're all human but since we're talking about men I thought I'd bring it up. I will say I've only seen this mostly from western men not so much the men I meet in real life so maybe it differs across different demographics. There are people who want the same things you do. In real life no one is judging your age gap relationship so do it anyway. I don't see the point in advocating for them. Go find your just-legal girlfriend and leave the rest of us in peace.

Corbast7 · 2025-04-02T16:05:13+00:00

The few women I knew in hs and college who entertained older men were the ones who had the biggest (daddy) issues tbh. Most young women want to date their peers.

IME both the men and women I know who end up in large age gap relationships seem to be greatly compensating for something else.

crazydrumsolo · 2025-04-02T20:10:29+00:00

18-25 year old women don’t usually want 35+ year old guys. A lot of men here claim that young women “throw themselves at me”, but they just interpret politeness for flirting. That or they are lying to impress other men here. For every man who says that young women like them, there are dozens of women with stories of the creepy old man who won’t leave them alone.

Legate_Retardicus84 · 2025-04-02T16:19:44+00:00

I know plenty of women irl and online who like older men. It isn't as one sided from my experience. The only place it is one sided is here on reddit. For obvious reasons.

mobjack · 2025-04-02T16:57:36+00:00

Men are more weird talking about it.

If you said, "I am dating a wonderful woman. She is younger than what I usually go for, but she is mature for her age and we have a great connection" then more people would be fine with the age gap.

But if you make young women your main preference, then it comes off as creepy.

AidsVictim · 2025-04-02T16:46:48+00:00

Women largely don't advertise their desired relationships as such like men do, they're things that "just happen". They're more reticent in discussing it in general for several reasons (shame from men or women, being perceived as low value, avoid men creeping on them etc).

Reddit is also filtered to certain types of women that are mostly outside the demographic that typically goes for older men.

My personal experience is that I get a mix of 50/50 twenty somethings and women around my age as a later 30's man on OLD.

SnowyCherryBlossoms · 2025-04-02T18:40:06+00:00

The more egalitarian the society, the closer in age husbands and wives. https://www.pewresearch.org/short-reads/2020/01/03/globally-women-are-younger-than-their-male-partners-more-likely-to-age-alone/

That tells you that women - on average - don’t necessarily prefer a significantly older man.

And as many men are here admitting, the women are attracted to his “stability” - ie his wallet.

twilightlatte · 2025-04-02T21:26:40+00:00

They work out a very small percentage of the time. Most of the time it’s fantastical, impractical BS.

flexible-photon · 2025-04-02T23:34:23+00:00

I have a colleague who has a 21 year old son who just got his first girlfriend and she's 42. I'm pretty good friends with his mom and she supports it because the lady is so nice. Most of us at work are teasing her that he had found his Mrs Robinson but I can only imagine what would be said if the genders were reversed.

wtknight · 2025-04-02T16:58:30+00:00

but I don't ever see young women expressing their desires for older men.

Because western young women don’t need older men because most of them earn enough money to provide for themselves now. The main advantage of an older man is his enhanced wealth and stability, and these advantages no longer negate the disadvantages of an older man for young western women.

If one goes to developing countries, the young women are more likely to need the benefits of an older, financially stable man and to therefore find them attractive.

iamsojellyofu · 2025-04-02T16:38:37+00:00

No I see it too. Most women I know date within their age range, which is anywhere between five years. If anything, I actually met more women getting gross out when older men hit on them. Maybe they will joke about dating an older man for their money (I do it too) but that is about it.

NockerJoe · 2025-04-02T20:34:48+00:00

IME the kind of woman who does that type of thing isn't usually in places like this.

One of the main things reddit does is it sorts people into ideological bubbles. If you have an opinion contrary to the one accepted in the bubble you get shouted down. Which is why most of the political debate subs are usually just one side screaming at an imagined other that doesn't even show up after a while.

If a woman who likes older dudes comes here she'd get yelled at by other women, yelled at by incels for wanting a chad with money and get concern trolled by blue pill types who'll repeat the shit they've probably already heard elsewhere. At best SOME red pill types would agree with them for reasons that they're probably uncomfortable with. There's absolutely nothing to gain from talking about it here for them.

ezbyte · 2025-04-02T21:39:24+00:00

I always had a thing for older men. We do exist. But I would never want to date an older man that only dates young girls. That’s a red flag for me.

Mauf066 · 2025-04-02T19:10:57+00:00

Don't really think so, many men on this subreddit have had the experience of having their crush taken away by an older man and feeling inadequate in comparison. And considering how many people are vocally against age gap relationships, apparently it happens often enough to be worrying in their eyes.

Frankly this whole discussion is ridiculous to me. If you're old enough to vote, you're old enough to decide who to date, period.

LordShadows · 2025-04-03T05:46:20+00:00

You very much don't hang out in the kink sphere then.

Young women thirsty for older men are plenty even often asking for role-plays that are more than controversial.

There are also quite a lot of older women looking for younger men.

Men are just taught to express their desires more boldly and that going against the norm is bold when women are taught to hide their sexuality and that going against the norm is attention seeking and/or crazy behaviour.

Gender roles are killing women sexuality and, in consequence, heterosexual sexuality as a whole.

Women just feel more shame for their own sexual desires. I've talked with so many who felt ashamed to even have any to begin with. So many who thought that wanting sex outside of romantic relationships was a "guy" thing and feeling unwomanly because they felt the same urges.

And so many who felt liberated once they just started pursuing what they liked and realising their fantasies.

But, I also saw a big chunk of these women get shamed afterwards for doing that. For being themselves. Often, even by past parteners and often by other women as well.

We, as a society, punish women for being sexual and then act all frustrated when women aren't meeting our sexual needs.

In the end, everybody ends up frustrated and unhappy. Closed off in our own little world hating those we also desire.

Sea_Veterinarian7156 · 2025-04-02T17:40:41+00:00

As a man in his early 50s, who has dated a lot for the past 5 years ( started at 47), I can offer this.

I'm fit, and active. I have habitually dated women younger, sometimes much younger (Late 20s) for the following reasons.

They're fun. They usually don't have kids, and are as active as I am.
Less baggage. They don't come with a string of exes, and hang ups.
They're more aligned with my lifestyle. Gym, eating right...etc.

As a generalization ( And I know those can be dangerous) most women 40+ have often let themselves go, and are looking for Mr. "Comfortable rut" to validate them. They assume the attitude that personal growth is for those much younger. These same women absolutely lose their minds, with age gaps, and will actively say a man is a predator, or a pedophile....simply because he's got a preference that isn't them.

As previous commenters have mentioned, some younger women will actively seek out an older partner for stability, for someone who's established, has their own house, career, etc. Many women that I dated, quite honestly had enough of the Chad's out there, who were content to hang out with the guys, and drink every weekend...putting a relationship almost as an afterthought.

forking_guy · 2025-04-02T16:06:40+00:00

I think there are a couple of reasons for this, but a big one is that for men, the physical attractiveness associated with youth is why they want to be with younger women. Conversely, while maybe some women have a specific thing for older men, for a lot of women in age gap relationships, their man's age is just incidental. They're primarily attracted to his appearance, their perception of his competence/confidence/status, etc. None of which are necessarily age dependent. So women won't really think about their relationship in those terms.

Clean-Luck6428 · 2025-04-02T23:54:14+00:00

Young women who want sugar daddies aren’t on Reddit lol

RapaxIII · 2025-04-02T15:58:25+00:00

Young women express desire towards women older men all the time, it's almost a rite of passage being a young man with a crush and your crush gets with a guy a few years older.

The only reason it seems one-sided is because the online fury of women who can't ever let men have good intentions in a relationship. Women infantilize themselves when it comes to age gap relationships, where being over 18 is enough to vote, live alone, drink in some places, but not choose a partner lol

LegendZane · 2025-04-02T16:14:55+00:00

You need to understand that most women on reddit fall into the same category of women. It's a small sample of the population. Age gaps relationships where the man is older than the woman is perfectly normal and it has always been common.

Fagitron69 · 2025-04-02T17:12:44+00:00

Well. Unless it's a guy clearly wanting a relationship with someone "barely legal" I feel like young women get shamed out of it quite a bit. I get flack for being 21 and dating someone who just turned 30 but nobody likes to ask about the dynamic of the relationship before assuming it's some kind of grooming. I can guarantee you it's not but people don't want to hear that younger women are still consenting adults.

iamexercised · 2025-04-02T16:54:22+00:00

While it’s true that many men openly express their preference for younger women, that doesn’t mean young women aren’t interested in older men—just that they may not voice it as openly. Many women, especially those who are more mature for their age, are drawn to older men for their stability, life experience, and emotional maturity. Younger men often struggle with immaturity, lack of direction, or commitment issues, making older men a more obvious choice for women looking for something serious.

However, societal norms play a role in why you don’t see young women expressing this preference as often. Women who openly state a preference for older men might face judgment or accusations of being “gold diggers” or having “daddy issues,” so they may choose to keep those preferences private. But if you look at real-world relationships, plenty of women end up with significantly older partners—proving the attraction is very much there, even if it’s not as openly discussed.

kyle_fall · 2025-04-02T17:25:45+00:00

Women want it all so they don't advocate for anything in particular apart from high value men.

harmonica2 · 2025-04-02T17:25:48+00:00

I'm in a relationship with a woman who is 16 years younger than me. But I think guys shouldn't concentrate on going after a certain age only and boycotting other ages.

my previous girlfriend was seven years older than me so I didn't go after my current one just because she was younger.

ExcitementLow4699 · 2025-04-02T18:25:08+00:00

Hi. I met the man who would become my husband shortly after my 19th birthday. He was 44 at the time... We have happily been together for 10 years, and married for four, and we have a beautiful daughter together. life is good.

I knew I preferred older men by the time I turned 18. They just seem superior in every way to younger men/my age peers. While younger women with the same preference as me are relatively rare, we do exist. The vast majority of women 18 and older are perfectly capable of knowing what it is they like, who they want to date, and whether they're being treated well or not within their relationships.

While there are forced/coerced/nonconsenual age gap pairings (i wont call those 'relationships'), most AGRs are mutually desired and consensual.

Present-Afternoon-70 · 2025-04-02T18:32:53+00:00

Young women dont have to and older men need to defend it so yes you only hear one side. You dont hear about older women with younger guys for the same reasons.

Only men are attacked for it so only men will talk about it.

HODL_monk · 2025-04-02T16:21:21+00:00

I think what men want in relationships is more visual/physical, while women want to actually do interesting things with their man. This can be a key difference, because a man will have no problem putting up with a slightly less mature woman who is young and beautiful. while a (say, 30 year old) woman may not want to do the kinds of cheap and dangerous things a 18 year old guy wants to do, like go tubing through a storm drain during a storm, which is obviously stupid and dangerous (and affordable, if you don't die), and an 18 year old guy just doesn't, or can't afford, to normally do expensive nights out, go to the opera, or other more serious things that a more mature woman might want to do with them.

While a younger man might be more physically attractive, the maturity gap could be harder for a woman to deal with, since most young guys actually want to do weird things, are busy a lot, and have no resources, so the young juice may not be worth the squeeze for women, whereas it clearly is for men. Of course, very young women are also harder to deal with, but (sorry ladies) almost all women are hard to deal with, to some extent, while they are in their pre-menopause period, in my experience, so dealing with 'woman trouble' is just kind of innate to a man having any relationship with any pre-menopause woman, and its not going to get too much more difficult anywhere in the pre-menopause period

petellapain · 2025-04-02T17:49:18+00:00

Pay attention to actions, not reddit posts. In real life, enough young women are paired up with older men that it's been a contentious topic for multiple generations. It it was never or rarely happening it wouldn't be something so often condemned

AtomicMonkeyTheFirst · 2025-04-02T15:59:51+00:00

Where do you think the "Daddy' thing comes from?

Ive had a few relationships with serious age gaps and the girls either just didnt care, or were willing to overlook it because I think I ticked every other box, or just didnt like guys their own age because they found them unreliable or immature.

The__Dude_Abides__ · 2025-04-02T16:19:12+00:00

You cant go off of reddit, its a hivemind. That said, I think the reason you see more men expressing a desire for younger women is biology. A young woman/older man relationship in the natural world is feasable and often productive whereas outside of sex, a older woman/young man relationship is often destructive since women dont offer the provider role and reduce a young mans reproductive potential.

I would say most women want to, or atleast think they want to date within a 5 year age range. Thats until they meet older men that check all the boxes that their age preferences go right out the window. Women also vent on reddit. So many women have had bad experiences with older men who were possesive or manipulative and they then frame that as all men, totally forgetting that they have dated possesive and manipulative men their own age too, but never applied those conditions to age because it felt irrelevent.

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AreOut · 2025-04-02T17:14:53+00:00

Stating the obvious isn't "advocating". The top 5% childless guy in his 40s is going to have better chance with women in their 20s than a top50% (or in other words totally average) guy in his 20s.

Simply said status/attractiveness beats the age difference. That said a totally average guy in his 40s has nothing to hope for, but it's totally irrelevant for him as even women in their 40s aren't going to be attracted to him, they might settle for him and that's all.

Quealpedoestoy · 2025-04-02T18:34:58+00:00

Everyday I see at least two posts made by women in relationships with at least 7-10 years gap...

crownofthestars · 2025-04-02T19:52:26+00:00

What incentive do young women have to advocate for it? I'll say though, I'm surprised at how many are willing to entertain it. Maybe because I'm not a bald fatfuck who can't dress himself like a lot of 30 year old dudes are, but I don't talk about my age with them, so by the time they ever find out the actualnumber, we've spent a lot of time together talking and all that, so they don't care at that point.

I think most people just assume they'll end up with someone their own age early on so why would any young person actively push for age gap relationships? Like I didn't even think I'd like dating someone that younger, but it's actually fine. Women my age with masters, PhDs, their level of discussion they like often feels like they're still 22 anyways.

BlessdRTheFreaks · 2025-04-02T20:03:12+00:00

It's almost like men desire young, prime age women regardless of what age they are

Routine_Condition273 · 2025-04-02T21:28:48+00:00

Go on Tumblr lmao the amount of young women who are explicitly looking for guys old enough to be their father is alarming

LoudPiece6914 · 2025-04-03T07:12:00+00:00

Because they generally don’t talk about it. If they find themselves in an age gap relationship, they generally just go off-line and be happy. For men, youth and beauty is more important so we will talk more about finding younger women.

AsturaeConiecto · 2025-04-03T08:17:09+00:00

Men on a fringe subreddit will openly admit to wanting to be in an age gap relationship but you hardly ever see young women expressing the same desire.

Then you'll go IRL on any frat/student campus party and see buttload of younger women who have nothing to do there, who clearly prefer to date a guy with money, a car, a place, with booze and drugs, with facial hair and higher muscle mass, than a younger man with none of that or a lot less of that.

And you'll see plenty of incel male student who will tell you that going for younger girls even by a year or two is morally wrong.

The only thing you're perceiving here is just that the men on this subreddit have noticed that everything is easier for everyone with a slight age gap. Meanwhile the women will never admit it but instead will rather tell you they tend to consider men their age or younger to be literal kids or to not be men.

Now, that doesn't talk about big age gaps, but big age gaps are more likely in one direction than the other for all these reasons just the same.

Schleudergang1400 · 2025-04-03T11:56:02+00:00

but I don't ever see young women expressing their desires for older men.

Why would you see that? It's a tiny fraction of young women and they do not need to make it public to find those men. Why would a young woman publicly express her desire for older men, only to be hit with "daddy issues!" Women tend to shut up about things that have a chance to negatively affect them, when there is no gain to be had from it. Men don't.

The desire for large age gap relationships is not one-sided, but it's more pronounced in men than in women.

vAGINALnAVIGATOR2 · 2025-04-03T13:31:49+00:00

You probably don't see young women advocating for it because they're seen as the "victim" so it actually makes them look good.

Ego73 · 2025-04-03T14:06:06+00:00

I've actually seen the opposite. When I was in my last year of school there was this 12 year old who seemed quite interested in guys from my class, but none of us could viably see ourselves doing anything with her.

Fun_Breakfast697 · 2025-04-03T15:58:11+00:00

The guys who bitch online are not the ones successfully landing younger women. There are a lot more old guys interested in younger girlfriends than young women interested in much older men. Naturally some old guys are gonna end up disappointed.

I've known young women who preferred much older men -- they never had any trouble. Same for older women who prefer younger men. There are also hot old guys who can pull younger women pretty easily. The one thing all three categories have in common is that they don't generally bitch online about how they feel sooooo judged by society.

This is because (1) they're too busy doing the thing, and (2) they don't actually encounter all that much judgement IRL. The response you get when you actually have a younger girlfriend is not the same response you get when you post on reddit about how women over 30 are washed-up whores and it's horribly unfair that Big Feminism has made it impossible for you to date the nubile teens you prefer.

smoll0d1ck0beta · 2025-04-04T19:25:26+00:00

If I am an old man with a lot of money i am gonna dangle that cash for the hottest chick regardless of age and what broke poor people say.

UpstairsDepartment52 · 2025-04-07T01:07:05+00:00

I'm 24, and what I consider a normal desirable "age gap relationship" amongst my friends is he's up to 29. In that bracket, he might be a little farther ahead in his career, a little more stable, if she wants to get married/have kids a bit younger (i.e. pre-30). However, I know one girl who was dating a 34 year old when we were 22, and that is abnormal (and was because she had massive issues). Up to 5 years is normal, over that it gets less and less so. No one I know (other than the one girl with issues) desires a man over 30, really.

Naive-Sort5758 · 2025-04-02T16:05:51+00:00

Women absolutely want older men. Women always want a man that’s better than them. He has more education, makes more money, he taller, more fit, etc.

A guy in his twenties doesn’t have the income of an older man. He doesn’t have the connection or education.

You’re having a problem reconciling what people SAY with what people DO.

I don’t understand why people are downvoting this? Like you can literally link thousands of videos where women openly admit they want a man “on their level or higher”.

Who do you think that is going to be? Men making over 100k are also going to be over 30 minimum.

MarioWilson122 · 2025-04-02T16:25:47+00:00

Well yes women on reddit dont but it real life they love us older men.

growframe · 2025-04-02T16:12:32+00:00

Women that look for older men exist, but they search for approval and validation for it far less frequently than the men

Dertross · 2025-04-02T18:33:47+00:00

Because women who want an age gap relationship just get one there's no reason to talk about wanting one.
For obvious reasons, men talk more about the relationships they want because they can't get them. Do you think Dicaprio is on Reddit talking about how to bang 20-year-olds? He just goes out and does it.
Similarly, women talk about "where are the good men" because they can't have them

Vikklee · 2025-04-02T18:44:15+00:00

All the women I’ve met with desires for big age gap relationships almost always had trauma associated with older men :/

xKalisto · 2025-04-02T18:48:48+00:00

Because it's weird to have desire for age gap relationship.

I have started an age gap relationship when I was a teen but there was no aim to be in age gap relationship from either side. We just hit it off and happened to be different age. Now we're married and at the point where the age gap is irrelevant.

When you are an older dude purposely aiming for young girls with some dubious intentions of course people are gonna think it's creepy.

At the same time there are plenty of women that like having an older partner.

Plane_Reception_8222 · 2025-04-02T19:01:11+00:00

I’m 41(M), but I’m very fit and look a bit younger.

Women from 25-33+ are interested, not because of the age gap, but in spite of it.

I wouldn’t even consider a woman younger than 25, just because I don’t think she’d have enough life experience to make a well-informed decision. And, frankly, it’s harder to relate to women that are still in their 20s.

Edit: “younger” not “you get”

IcametoMOG · 2025-04-02T20:28:25+00:00

Reddit and most of the internet isn’t real life. Most of the time you’re gonna get spiteful comments and responses because people who really are about getting into these kind of debates usually got some resentment towards the opposite sex. So hoes are gonna hop on and say we don’t need you/we don’t like you while guys will say they like young girls to spite older 1s.

Irl in my experience most of the girls I know legitimately do like older men. Like not super old like the man is ancient, but girls will be on dick for guys that are 10 years older than them. They ain’t gonna advocate for it, but tbh they never advocate for anything, and their standards are love what you love. It’s on here that you get people wanting to dig deep into age gaps

G4M35 · 2025-04-02T20:54:59+00:00

Pretty much everyday here on reddit men will openly admit to wanting to be in a age gap relationships but I hardly ever see young women expressing the same desire.

Statistically speaking, pretty sure that the sample population of PPD is not representational of the population out there; quite the opposite is skewed toward certain socio-cultural niches.

... but I don't ever see young women expressing their desires for older men.

When I was young I was always attracted to older women, then at some point, I switched and ever since I am only attracted to younger women, and successfully so. So, there's that.

Junior_Ad_3086 · 2025-04-02T21:42:32+00:00

most women are not interested in large age gaps, that's why the average age gap is only 2-3 years. if women wanted it more, we would obviously see it more. on a macro level, it's not the men who dictate relationship dynamics. only the top X% of men really gatekeep relationships, not men as a whole - unlike the somewhat popular saying. beta bob doesn't gatekeep or dictate shit.

there are some women who are open to larger age gaps or even prefer it but they're a minority. and for the most part they're not interested in romantically inexperienced late bloomers who 'hit their prime' in their 30s/40s - which is a talking point that seems to be pushed by some delusional people for some reason.

at least that's how it is in most western countries. a lot of couples that are around the average age gap meet when they're young though, which is a pretty different dynamic compared to meeting a partner in your 30s or 40s. most men i know who are single later in life tend to prefer women who are more than 2-3 younger (that is if they have the options to be picky). and women are a bit more open to the idea after they're 25 too i think. during HS and college/uni, people are around their age group a lot and tend to date people who they meet through social circles and activities.

No_Amphibian_6937 · 2025-04-02T21:58:47+00:00

Women peak in their late teens through mid-20's. They are born with their sexual marketplace value...their looks and femininity. They can scream all day long about it, but doesn't change the fact that it is true.

Men decide what they find attractive in women - not women. And in general, we are looking for women that are fit, friendly, feminine, and fun(the four 'F's), 18-25. Those qualities, including youth, are when women are the most marketable to men. And while some like to say how they age like fine wine, think of any famous actress or model over 40, and then go back and look at their photos/videos when they were 20. 99% of the time, they don't hold a candle to their 20yo self.

The main mistake people make is thinking that men think like women and value the same thing in women that women value in men. And it just isn't the case. Men couldn't care less if you are the CEO of a company, or a cashier at Walmart, for instance. A woman's value to us isn't tied to her ability to provision, whereas the reverse is absolutely the case - most women won't give the time of day to a man making $15/hr as a grown adult.

Women on the other hand generally look for the four 6's in men - 6" downstairs, 6pack abs (or some other representation of physical fitness), 6figure or more salary, and 6ft tall or more. And, most women when polled in study after study prefer men at least 5-7 years older than themselves.

There's a lot of info out there on this, but bottom line is this....women are born with their value, and don't have to work hard for it. It's incredibly powerful, and valuable, but declines rapidly past around 28-29yo. Men on the other hand are born with no value at all. Everything we have, we have to work for. You have to work hard for a muscular physique. You have to work hard for a successful career, money, a house or nice apartment, a decent car, the ability to take multiple women out to dinners, events, etc., as you try to find the one you want to make any kind of long-term commitment to (assuming you want to at all).

And this is all aside from being at a level that you could be seen by a woman as a viable provider to start a family, or anything like that. It all comes from hard work, and years of it. So while we aren't given it like women are, and it's a lot harder for us to become valuable, once we DO get there, it lasts for decades. Men well into their 50s are seen as desirable by women on a regular basis, while the opposite is by far an exception to the rule. It harder for us, and takes longer to get, but our upside is that it lasts longer.

SpphosFriend · 2025-04-03T03:02:26+00:00

If they are under 21 and man more than 5 years older than them is going after them that shit is gross.

Title	The advocating of age gap relationships
Author	Fickle-Place-3065
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Date	April 2, 2025 3:52 PM UTC (1 year ago)
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