Men - would you be satisfied with a lifetime N=1 if she was N=1 as well?

bowserfire73 · 2021-06-10T16:03:49+00:00

You mean she's my 1 N and I'm her 1 N? Not only would that be fine, it's ideal.

Scores_Man_Mund · 2021-06-11T02:04:49+00:00

What do you mean by "satisfied" lol? That's the fucking dream. If I could somehow find that, you'd never see me on this subreddit again.

(The window is already closed for me to be N=1, but since we're being hypothetical, I would gladly go back in time and erase every sexual counter I've ever had if it meant I could have my first time again with someone else inexperienced and learn everything together)

QuenchlessGato · 2021-06-10T17:14:29+00:00

I sure would be happy.

But there are many men who just want to have as much sex as possible.

Teflon08191 · 2021-06-10T15:13:17+00:00

Men who complain about (which is different from simply rejecting as partners worth investing in) women with high N counts are not the men who will likely ever experience sexual variety anyway.

I suspect such men would not only be happy with, but fantasize about the scenario you described.

CanisLupisAutism · 2021-06-10T17:50:34+00:00

Yes, that is what I married, and that is how I plan to die.

mechanical_elves · 2021-06-10T20:42:54+00:00

I'd be satisfied with it as long as I'm satisfied in the relationship.

PrincessaRusalka · 2021-06-10T21:44:28+00:00

This is my parents’ relationship. They met at 17, married early 20’s, then kids. Still together, oddly complementary to each other. Mind you they had no sex ed or porn so it’s a different story.

CuriousKrow · 2021-06-10T14:30:39+00:00

Yes, as long as she was actually interested in sex and willing to explore what she likes. If we can fully fulfill each other's sexual needs, there's no need for prior (sexual) partners.

Eating a perfect NY strip 1000x > Eating 1000 different Fast food burgers.

Aldabruzzo · 2021-06-10T14:45:36+00:00

Sure.

Lots of men are satisfied with that. the problem is that women aren't.

Mondholm · 2021-06-10T14:32:09+00:00

Only if we both are very insecure about it

Algae_Natural · 2021-06-10T16:20:44+00:00

Well this is the ideal scenario to be honest. I don't want sex with lots of women, I would rather have lots of kinky sex with one good woman.

noletterstoday · 2021-06-10T14:29:47+00:00

I don’t give a fuck about their count. So no

801735 · 2021-06-10T14:50:21+00:00

Men - would you be satisfied with a lifetime N=1 if she was N=1 as well?

No. I'd be satisfied with her if I was satisfied with her (on average).

How about you, OP and lurkesse(s), would you be satisfied with him, if you were satisfied with him (on average)?

Classicjammer · 2021-06-11T01:07:06+00:00

I would absolutely trade the women I slept with in the past for a woman who had also never slept with a guy provided I knew it would work out. But I was raised pretty Christian. This is what I dreamed about a lot of my childhood lol. I know it’s pathetic.

arjay8 · 2021-06-11T01:46:13+00:00

If we could define happiness as a series of tradeoffs, rather than specifically "I didnt bang alot of hot chicks so im unhappy."

Guys mostly arent brought up to appreciate the kind of life that would come with being with one woman, and society doesnt reinforce it as a positive thing. It all sounds good when you think of the 2 kids playing behind a white picket fence with the classically feminine wife in a dress. But the kind of society that produces those women, and the men that deserve that, is completely dead.

chubbybutt22 · 2021-06-17T18:03:30+00:00

I don’t think people who haven’t had sex with anyone else should be in long-term relationships but I know that’s a controversial take. But please don’t get married to someone before you have sex. And I put my money where my mouth is with that. I am in a long-term relationship with a man who was a virgin when we started dating. And once the pandemic is totally over I am encouraging him to go find other people to have sex with.

iamthemovie1992 · 2021-06-10T19:10:37+00:00

My friend and his fiancé are an N=1 and they are extremely happy. They’ve been together for like 9 years too, when you ask him how he feels he could not even care for another woman. They have an incredibly healthy sex life, both are extremely satisfied. He has no desire for casual hookups or even additional partners. She doesn’t either, seriously if you see them together her eyes will still follow him around the room. Warms my heart, very happy for them.

Technically my gf has an N=1, but it doesn’t necessary make me happy. I want at least an N=25, and I’m 28 only sitting at 7. But I cannot get casual sex, I’m just not attractive enough for it. It really wouldn’t matter what her N count is, because I still feel like I’m not satisfied with my own number. I had an ex with a large N Count, and my bitterness toward it was never her N Count, it was how low mine was

Different men want different things.

fdslied2U · 2021-06-11T00:31:11+00:00

Most men would take this and run if it was available. It's just not. Women have access to every man on the planet. But only care about the top 5% the rest dont even exist. In fact 200 years ago more often than not if you were part of a society this is 2hat lost men ended up with

SylvestorTalone · 2021-06-10T14:56:14+00:00

Yes.

Mondholm · 2021-06-10T14:20:54+00:00

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passepar2t · 2021-06-10T21:04:22+00:00

svstonefree · 2021-06-11T01:20:05+00:00

Sure. If the sexual connection is great, no need to look elsewhere.

ArtNo6372 · 2021-06-11T09:11:38+00:00

yes. assuming everything else in the relationship is fine

ReaderMountain · 2021-06-10T14:28:13+00:00

However I hypothesize that male desire for sexual variety/polygyny would result in men being unsatisfied with only having one sexual partner for their entire life.

And yet women cheat a tiny bit more(but basically the same as men) in their 20s and the prominence of cheating for both is similar until like age 50 and only then men take over.

I really don't think men in the west today have such a big internal instinct or desire to have sex with other women despite being in a relationship.

TimelessMystic · 2021-06-10T15:36:15+00:00

No, because I long of varied sexual experience with multiple partners in my lifetime and I couldn't care less about my partner's N count.

xXx_FireHydrants_xXx · 2021-06-10T16:33:51+00:00

This is my dream scenario, too many morons value variety and novelty and not enough value exclusivity. I want to marry a virgin, as a virgin and have a shared exclusive bond with my wife. I think it would make us both see eachother as special in a way.

midwesternMD · 2021-06-10T22:28:25+00:00

I would have been happy if she were open minded about exploring sexual kinks and such.

N count is a bizarre metric that folks on TRP/PPD and all the other Reddit subs obsess about.

I don’t give a shit what a woman’s n count is, so long as the sex we have is good, sustainably frequent, and that she is faithful to me.

I also maintain that everyone needs a certain n count to be able to confidently know what they like/don’t like in bed.

If the question you’re trying to ask is: can a man be monogamous with one woman for his life? Then my answer is yes. I would have been content with my ex. But her cheating (basically- long story) was not a forgivable offense. And this is despite now having an n count somewhere north of 10-20ish, depending on how you want to count things.

Braverge1 · 2021-06-10T14:34:02+00:00

I wouldn't care about variety. I actually think it's pretty fucking weird that other people would rather have a bunch of sex and then settle down. I'm only promiscuous because I'm a man so it's embarrassing to be inexperienced. Therefore, I practice by lowering my standards.

natetian · 2021-06-10T16:32:42+00:00

this would be the dream

PlayfulLawyer · 2021-06-10T18:44:33+00:00

Nah, I'm not as hung up on body count like that, and I've enjoyed most of the sex I've had over the years, if I had a lower count of women and less options, maybe

Laytheblameonluck · 2021-06-10T19:04:20+00:00

Yes. Absolutely.

Mustbeaight · 2021-06-10T22:20:42+00:00

Where do I write my name?

scutfarkas23 · 2021-06-10T23:31:04+00:00

Yes, wouldn't have had it any other way. Going on 20 years together.

Historical-Agency334 · 2021-06-10T14:42:43+00:00

is she attractive? then yes

layne89 · 2021-06-10T17:14:18+00:00

No, I would probably cheat out of FOMO. I think it’s essential that men experience variety in their 20s so as to not settle down with the first girl that comes along and smiles in their direction.

Jakes1967 · 2021-06-10T18:17:40+00:00

Men - would you be satisfied with a lifetime N=1 if she was N=1 as well?

Yes

abaxeron · 2021-06-10T18:51:06+00:00

Why the Hell do you think we invented marriage. We know how to compromise. Sacrificing a couple good memories for eliminating so many risks is a good deal for anyone who can count on fingers.

BarestBranch · 2021-06-10T14:46:05+00:00

My partner's number would not matter at all. And yeah, I could be happy with only having one partner my entire life.

stats135 · 2021-06-10T14:40:39+00:00

The important things are quantity and quality. Variety is meh.

So if she is low maintenance, attractive, and has sex with me whenever I want, however I want, I have no problems with sex with one woman.

The biggest problem I generally have is the low maintenance part. If I have to woo and date a woman I've committed to have sex just as much as I have to woo and date a new girl that's younger and more attractive, I might as well get myself a new girl.

GrandRub · 2021-06-10T15:03:20+00:00

No. If you only have one woman you will ask yourself for ever "how does it feel with someone else ... will it be better..."

same for women. i wouldnt like to have a virgin women... thats just an incel/tradcuck wet dream.

reluctantly_red · 2021-06-10T16:14:16+00:00

He'll no!!! If people (both sexes) don't have an n-count of at 20 they won't know if their present partner is any good or not.

AceOfBlacks · 2021-06-10T14:21:13+00:00

There is a lot of missing information in your post, who would be this supposed N=1?

Smooth_Potato_4014 · 2021-06-10T14:43:34+00:00

However I hypothesize that male desire for sexual variety/polygyny would result in men being unsatisfied with only having one sexual partner for their entire life.

Well, how can anyone answer your hypothetical which requires an entire lifetime worth of very specific experience to qualify for? I guess we could look at history of human civlization where for thousands of years people people DID marry for life and often as virgins. So we know it can work - at least in theory.

Now you could argue that men would be happier if they weren't married and instead slayed medieval thots left and right, but it's clear from our most recent history that most men are absolutely hopeless at getting casual sex, so it's a moot comparison to begin with.

onestH · 2021-06-10T14:43:43+00:00

Happiness doesn’t come from the amount of partners you have had. There’s just an ever present, insatiable want of having sex with attractive women. I’ve been in a relationship for 2 years now and not had any threesomes with this chick or anything like that. I’d compare this to also having been on a strict diet for 6 months, during which I have not had any sugar (not so much has had a bite of an apple). Sometimes I think about how nice it would be to have a bucket of mixed sweets, some milk chocolate and a Coke. I never actually do it because I know the dopamine high only lasts as long as I keep consuming and while doing it, I’m unproductive and getting fat. Who hasn’t heard a story of someone who gave into temptation and cheated on their partner — and got caught — only to express deep regret later on, “(S)he meant nothing to me!” I don’t give into temptation that’s all around me because not fucking other women and being on the carnivore diet has enabled me to stronger and climb in the rankings, fast, while having a ripped 6-pack.

With that said, I have had my fair share of women. I know how they differ and what they have to offer. I know that I’m not missing out on anything. Their admiration and drooling at the sight of my body is enough.

MajesticMaple · 2021-06-10T15:11:23+00:00

Yes.

Dirty_Purity · 2021-06-10T15:41:28+00:00

I suppose some men need to learn how to be satisfied with lifetime N=0.

alialahmad1997 · 2021-06-10T16:18:47+00:00

Yeah definitely just as long as she isn't unsatisfied with it and want to experience the world she would be my world

NICHIJOU2411 · 2021-06-10T16:47:10+00:00

If it’s N=0 and we love each other, you got yourself a deal. We gotta be equal around here.

wtknight · 2021-06-10T17:06:44+00:00

Yes, sure. My N isn’t that much more than that right now and I’m in my 40s.

yungthrowaway97 · 2021-06-10T21:29:20+00:00

Im a guy and would be good with n count 1. As yu can see in this thread most guys would too. When I was a virgin I got turned down simply for being a virgin once. So I lied the next time opportunity presented itself. Women look at virgins like a deformity. Its really weird.

TheBookOfSeil · 2021-06-10T21:36:14+00:00

Yes. Its what a man could hope for in an ideal situation. With me, it will likely be:

Me: 1

Her: 1 < n

M3taBuster · 2021-06-10T23:25:00+00:00

Yes. That is literally exactly what I want.

AlfredTheGreatest · 2021-06-11T03:15:30+00:00

No. I want to maximize my N count and then settle with a woman with the lowest N possible. This is the Chad to Trad arc and it comes recommended.

There is really no way you can get the skills needed to lock down an attractive, young, low N woman without a lot of experience.

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CosmicBioHazard · 2021-06-11T02:35:22+00:00

I may be divorced and therefore necessarily N>/=2 if I ever get into a relationship, but I’d go so far as to pay if I could undo that and just be lifetime N=1 with someone. Not getting that really upsets me, even makes me kinda not want a relationship to begin with; unique connection or no connection; I’m well aware I’m like a spoiled child about this.

Lifetime N=1 would be perfect, to the point that I envy people who have that when I can’t. I’m serious.

The-Wizard-of-Oz- · 2021-06-11T04:42:02+00:00

Yeah, but she has to be an unicorn.

And we all know those don't exist.

CrazyBaby8891 · 2021-06-11T06:06:33+00:00

I'm pleasantly surprised that the majority of responders are answering in the enthusiastic affirmative (I was cynically expecting the replies to mostly consist of the hypocritical players who wanna ho around and then expect to marry a virgin or low-N woman once they feel like they're too worn-out to continue their promiscuity.) I wish I had wholesome awards for all these dudes, but my upvotes will have to suffice.

S0mnariumx · 2021-06-12T09:17:18+00:00

So she's a lifelong partner and we love each other? Absolutely

lattelatto · 2021-06-16T14:15:01+00:00

I do wish I was with my childhood friend (both of us as adults lol) because it would’ve made a lovely story - likes each other since young And eventually married

Williver · 2021-06-28T03:29:19+00:00

So what does N-count stand for? Nookie?

I might not be representative of the conversation here... since most people here, men included have some relationship experience. I am a male virgin without a damn thing wrong with me as far as attractiveness is concerned. I just haven't been in a position to do basic shit like have a life outside of home and work due to my family and socioeconomic situation up until barely a year ago. My first real date ever was just before COVID hit and COVID helped screw any chances with getting to know that chick better.

Be a virgin or fuck off for as long as I am a virgin. I'm a virgin. At this point if a woman doesn't tell me, by a third date together, that she is a virgin, we cannot be anything more than friends, if that.

It will be a very terrifying experience for me when I first have sex. I very well might feel like I've fallen in love with that person BECAUSE of being so terrified and vulnerable. I certainly won't ever forget that person. They could wield lots of power over me because they become at that point the sole sexual being in my existence. I cannot be committed to someone with eros love unless there is an equal playing field of mutual respect.

SonicBackScratcher · 2021-06-10T14:51:42+00:00

I would have suffered through with a N=1 for my wife, but luckily we had the same fantasies so we are now N = ? together.

majani · 2021-06-10T15:41:38+00:00

If this was a society-wide standard, then I would probably rock with it. If it was just me and her being low n in a high n society, I'd probably feel weird about it. At least one of us would probably be unattractive in such a situation though, so that would also bug me

Impressive-Spot-1191 · 2021-06-10T15:45:39+00:00

do we otherwise get along?

Less_Detail · 2021-06-10T16:36:24+00:00

Isn't that what the bloop fantasy is?

Bandit174 · 2021-06-10T16:51:48+00:00

I can't say for sure but I think I would be. I value consistency and familiarity and like the idea of having someone who is my partner through life but obviously I don't want a deadbedroom scenario or someone who completely lets themselves go.

NiceGuyNumber4 · 2021-06-10T16:58:57+00:00

Personally, yes. But only because I've slept around a little. I fucked up my first relationship because of my curiosity among other things. "Grass is always greener"

Pastelitomaracucho · 2021-06-10T21:32:06+00:00

If things can remain fresh, absolutely.

ex_red_black_piller · 2021-06-10T22:50:26+00:00

Hell yes.

TheDevilPutD · 2021-06-11T05:20:42+00:00

Hell no, especially once you've tasted different pussy. You just know how bad sex is with an inexperienced and inhibited woman and never want to do it again.

ThrowawayIIllIIlIl · 2021-06-11T13:12:21+00:00

No, I think an N=1 would lead to many people having mediocre sex an N=10 for both men and women would be much preferable.

Title	Men - would you be satisfied with a lifetime N=1 if she was N=1 as well?
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