NO, We Don’t. 🙄 🤦🏻‍♀️

LevelTurbulent · 2020-10-30T11:23:36+00:00

Why would I want to go beg for attention from a man who doesn't even notice me?

whydenny · 2020-10-30T10:43:57+00:00

'We are not picky' - Wow I would feel so special getting this guy's number.

ShoshannaDreyfus · 2020-10-30T12:01:02+00:00

There are some good replies in that post actually, a lot of women saying they've done this before and it never ends well (I completely agree). But there's also a reply saying that men are PARALYSED WITH FEAR because of the metoo movement and too scared to approach women in case they get accused of rape. Won't someone please think of the poor men? 😭😭😭

BasieSkanks · 2020-10-30T10:57:39+00:00

And the women on that sub end up wondering why they’re constantly getting ghosted, used for sex or finding trash men. Women should be the choosier sex because dating is a much bigger risk for us. Men face being told ‘no’. Whereas women face being raped, abused or murdered. The situations are not comparable.

Moreover, men rarely turn women down even if they only want to use them for sex. If you ask a man out, you’ll never know if he’s with you because he genuinely wants or if he has no other options (won’t stop him rubbernecking to find better options, though).

And it’s a lie than men aren’t picky. They’re just more inclined to settle because they have fewer options and they know it.

perkytitssolidshits · 2020-10-30T11:24:54+00:00

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Mysterious_Midnight7 · 2020-10-30T11:56:41+00:00

Yes shoot your shot ladies, and while you're at it, text me first, plan all the dates, pay 50-50 or more, and let me move in with you

Equal-Ear2312 · 2020-10-30T11:16:35+00:00

" We're not picky" EXACTLY! That is why we shouldn't "shoot our shot" because you aren't picky at all and just accept anyone since you barely get any attention.

crazykitten27 · 2020-10-30T11:33:37+00:00

Back in my pick me days I used to ask men out all the time! They would get so offended because I'm not the most attractive woman! They literally would get pissed that I'd think we were in the same league! The few who went on a date with me acted appallingly and pretty much tried to demand head and sexual favors each one got so pissed when I'd decline giving them head in parking lot! My high value husband is the only man who has ever approached me and asked me out first! When a man says he wants the woman to ask him out they mean supermodels not average women!

polardonut · 2020-10-30T12:27:50+00:00

Literally only yesterday I saw another post where a guy was like gIrLs sHoUlD cOmPlEmEnT gUyS mOrE. Like really? When someone tried it, they got harassed back. And obv their excuse is that guys are not used to complements... well guess u aint gonna get more then. No way in hell am I gonna complement a random dude just for him to think im into him and harass me when I say I'm not interested. Then women r called bitches just.... because we didn't find u attractive? Didn't wanna hook up with u? What fucking logic is that?

Can some men just get the fuck over themselves? Why does everyone on this planet have to please them? And why its everyone's responsibility to make them (men) feel better about themselves? Like fuck off.... Ugh this whole thing makes my blood boil.... I dont own anyone anything. Esp fucking compliments to men. Maybe of u behaved nicely then u would be treated appropriately. Just fucking maybe....

Also, ik its not 100% connected to the post but same vibes...

And, maybe girls don't approach guys like that because... they know how fucking awful it is when someone puts u in this uncomfortable situation. Its unpleasant as hell when u mind ur own business and someone's approaches u like that. Ugh...

letsberealforamoment · 2020-10-30T13:17:22+00:00

So now men want us to assume ALL thr risk in dating? The risk of rejection AND the risk of getting assaulted, murdered and raped?

No thanks. A man too afraid to ask out a woman is a COWARD. He is probably a coward in all areas of his life as well.

YeetMyProblems · 2020-10-30T12:37:57+00:00

"Start shooting your shot so we can pump and dump you only to pursue the woman we REALLY want." The fuck out of my face with that shit.

greeneyesrosylips · 2020-10-30T11:45:29+00:00

They want an ego boost to gather the courage to approach their dream girl. No thank you, I refuse to be a part of that narrative.

RachelStorm98 · 2020-10-30T11:20:21+00:00

Yes and when we do approach them and believe that Libfem Kool Aid we just get rejected and the Men aren't attracted to us, and they drop us like the hot potato for the dreamgirl that he had to chase and work for that wouldn't give him the time of day. 😒🙄 Been there. Done that. Got burned everytime. Nah sis....

ItsFreezen · 2020-10-30T11:36:28+00:00

Because it's so nice dating a Scrote who thinks he has no other options.

neatsqueefs · 2020-10-30T12:31:10+00:00

Men keep hopelessly fantasizing about random women dropping hints that they're interested in them when out in public, when we really just want to drink our coffee and live our lives.

marilynmonw0e · 2020-10-30T12:14:19+00:00

If a man doesn't have the guts to court and approach you, do you really wanna be with him lol

...I say as I get very annoyed at the idea of a man having the audacity to approach me because he assumes I'm in his league lmao.

Flightlessbirbz · 2020-10-30T12:44:05+00:00

No, men aren’t picky when it comes to who they’ll give their number to and fuck. That’s the problem and exactly why we don’t approach men. We have no way of knowing if a guy is truly interested or if we’re just a convenient warm hole unless he make the effort to make the first move, set up a real date, etc. And sometimes we still don’t know because certain types of men will put on the show just to get laid. But there’s a MUCH better chance a guy is actually interested in a girl he goes out of his way for her than if she approaches him.

OrangeyPanda · 2020-10-30T13:21:30+00:00

Once the rape kit backlog doesn’t exist, women have equal rights globally, we have pay equity, equal representation, there is no housework disparity, and wages for ‘women’s work’ go up, among a few other things, maybe women will ask more men out. And asking a man out never got the cops to show up when a woman reported a rape, so...

If men are bothered by it, they can wait until someone makes the first move. That’s fine.

seraphinelysion · 2020-10-30T13:27:10+00:00

This is the next logical step in their master plan now that "sex by the third date" is the standard norm thanks for the libfem sex pos movement. Now they don't even want to do the approaching or chasing. Now you just gotta let them know you're open and give the all clear to be used and abused.

So society has ingrained in women that we need to raise men, support men, take care of men, have sex with men, cook and clean for men, and now... we have to approach men too.

I'm not having kids because the world is going to shit and I'm not subjecting anyone else to this shitshow.

_xyoungbellax_ · 2020-10-30T11:44:57+00:00

Nope, Nee, Non, Nein, Nahin, Na. Idk how many languages I need to use but absolutely NO. In my pick-me days, I approached always, my self-respect went out of the window and they treated me like their slaves. Rated 0 stars. Wouldn't recommend.

ninetiesbaby16 · 2020-10-30T11:34:06+00:00

In the real world, if you approach a man he’ll just assume it’s some kind of set up for him to get jumped by a group of guys, or that you’re distracting him so your accomplice can pickpocket him.

Lady__stoneheart · 2020-10-30T12:36:51+00:00

Yeah definitely not into a man that is rejected by multiple woman. I trust women I have never met more than a man having good bone structure. Your shirt does look good on you but no thanks. I'll wait for someone who doesn't get rejected a ton because he doesn't go about asking everyone out.

AnniaT · 2020-10-30T13:01:35+00:00

Men want to get the woman without even having the guts to approach one. They want everything easy for them and on a silver platter. But the true is that these same don't care not respected a woman if she pursues him.

PinkFurLookinLikeCam · 2020-10-30T10:51:12+00:00

We don’t “need” to do anything, first off. In my case I kind of did approach my husband, but that was after a few days of us both flirting and I was already interested in him for a while. We do what we want to do and what feels right and emotionally safe for us. Whew chile so early in the morning for these scrotes to start up. So now we NEED to approach them too? Whilst also parenting them??🚮🚮🚮🚮🚮🚮🚮🚮

Fatt3stAveng3r · 2020-10-30T11:40:01+00:00

I almost instinctively down-voted. I am sorry. This made me cringe and scowl.

posprov · 2020-10-30T12:42:25+00:00

Just imagine walking up to a man and asking "Can I take you out for dinner?" hilarious!

virginiagirl27 · 2020-10-30T12:49:56+00:00

My eyeballs almost rolled out of my eyes from reading that. This guy seems like such an incel. We aren’t more likely to get a guys number doing that. Just remember too in most other animal species the male has to impress the female 👑

Villanelloh · 2020-10-30T13:29:39+00:00

"We're not picky, were not complicated, and we don't need pickup lines"

Aka "We'll have any woman ANY one at all so pleeeeeeeease ask us out!"

dollymyfolly · 2020-10-30T14:05:47+00:00

“A lot of us have been shot down by women—“ homie that’s on you

NaurathDominionSpy · 2020-10-30T12:05:50+00:00

It’s gross but: the sperm chases the egg, not the other way around! 🤦🏼‍♀️

lilithdianara · 2020-10-30T12:13:10+00:00

Yeah no thanks

tiavarga · 2020-10-30T15:26:33+00:00

Men never appreciate what comes without effort. They are not like us. Woman in general are more empathetic, gracious and intelligent. Notice who is super grateful and says thank you when you do something nice for them (hint: women). Men will not value a woman who asks them out and makes things easy for them. They just don’t—they only wonder what’s “wrong” with a woman that had to “chase” them or they become spoiled and think they are more attractive than the woman that asked them out and start looking for other women.

burntbpd · 2020-10-30T14:26:19+00:00

And then what. I have done this multiple times and guess what? They will like the excitement at first and two months they will start being cold on you and won't even have the guts to break up with you. Typical loser male Redditor here.

Half_Halt · 2020-10-30T14:16:50+00:00

"We're not picky," 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

FleetingDaisy · 2020-10-30T13:24:03+00:00

Never have, never will :)

riseaboveagain · 2020-10-30T13:58:49+00:00

Did he use “shooting” and “shot” enough?

This Cro-magnon has barely evolved beyond grunting and pointing! His primitive logic and language have failed to convince me that I need to pursue men. Feh!

Cutiejea · 2020-10-30T14:39:27+00:00

I really hate the argument that “girls have it easy”. I remember having to argue with an ex-friend of mine just because he thinks that “the reason I’m still single is because I’m picky”... then goes on and on about how casual sex is better and that I’m “still young to settle down”.

His advice also was to “just say yes to the opportunity cuz girls can easily say yes”

I was 20 when that conversation unfolded... still studying at uni trying to finish my degree... big red flag.

Not only I had a gut feelIng this was bad, but I had to ask my friends and co-workers if this was a red flag. ALL OF THEM SAID ITS A RED FLAG!!!

Thank god that friendship didn’t last long. Blocked and gone!

Equal-Ear2312 · 2020-10-30T15:14:17+00:00

So they sit on the toilet and wait the for the messages? "King of the jungle" type of shit, waiting for the lioness to bring in the prey, while they laze around all day? No thanks. "We're not picky we're not complicated and we don't need pick up lines" - meaning they'll stick their dick in anything with a pulse. It is common knowledge that men especially in online dating, will swipe on anything indiscriminately. LE: I meant indiscriminately because most of them already make it known in their silly little descriptions that they actually are most discriminating (leggy jailbait with suction cup boobs, barbie doll vagina and so on) So they expect YOU to avoid them and save them the work of being responsible and reading your profiles.

MyDarlingGirl · 2020-10-30T17:23:40+00:00

Starting conversations with guys you find cute can be considered decent social skills.

But asking them out with a clear romantic (they take it as "sexual") intent? NO, NEVER. I always felt humiliated afterwards. I asked one guy to get drinks with me and he suggested we just go over to his place because he "wasn't in a good mental space". He then asked me for a blowjob 🤮. Just for the record, things never went beyond a little bit of kissing with him, THANK GOD. I left early and never asked him to hang out again.

danideux · 2020-10-30T12:34:31+00:00

I mean you can but I know of men who are in “situationships” just because the woman is interested. Their attitude is meh take it or leave it.

2020-10-30T15:56:52+00:00

We’re not picky

That right there should be cause for concern. LV men just want sex easily.

mscristalconnors · 2020-10-30T16:02:36+00:00

Hell no! I rather be single and alone. I don’t chase bums.

It’s not my fault you are not confident in yourself. So LAZY!!

mitzislippers · 2020-10-30T21:37:14+00:00

men wanna be females so bad bruh 😑 here take my 360 hd frontal wig then 🤦🏽‍♀️

2020-10-30T15:11:13+00:00

This whole attitude makes me fckin mad. Like I spent so much time "approaching" men in asking them to show me some affection or asking them to stop being inconsiderate; telling them what I want because "You canT eXpect tHem to rEad yoUr mInd!"

After shitty relationship after shitty relationship, I don't think it's wrong to want to be approached, to be treated like I'm the prize, which I am (learning to acknowledge that to myself everyday)

miwamus · 2020-10-30T16:43:06+00:00

So he's purposely ignoring women that are giving him "signals" or he's oblivious to said "signals."

That's not attractive.

He has unprocessed issues from women shooting him down.

That's not attractive.

He's not picky.

Hot.

FriendlyPitch1 · 2020-10-30T12:29:14+00:00

Please don’t ever do this! I decided to do this last night to be dismissed and made fun of. All it did was give them an ego boost. I spent a few hours crying even. Save yourselves from humiliation and don’t be approaching guys first.

2020-10-30T14:50:08+00:00

Fat chance, women as a whole are barely interested enough to be receptive to their approaches.

ceramicunicorn · 2020-10-30T15:58:12+00:00

WeR’e NoT pIcKy!

They are when they get bored because they didn’t have a challenge. If chasing men worked....I’m one of those women who’d do it. Because I like to get shit done. Do I get sex for a bit while my little prince kicks back and relaxes as I make the social plans, take on the mental load and court him while he breadcrumbs? Yes! But I’m not looking for my little prince- I’m looking for a king.

themapoe · 2020-10-30T12:49:06+00:00

I feel like if women actually approached men in public, they would be asking us to stop because it's really uncomfortable and annoying when you're just minding your own bees wax and some rando is like "Just so you know, I'm DTF."

dollymyfolly · 2020-10-30T16:54:23+00:00

I love how this guy thinks we, like him, want to increase our chances. 🤣 women are batting off guys like him FOR A REASON.

perkytitssolidshits · 2020-10-30T23:13:18+00:00

Never chase men.

If he doesn’t chase you or initiate dating after talking randomly/friendship leave it at that.

Men will stay with you and use you for all you have until their dream girl comes along and they can jump ship as quick as possible. Happens all the time to women that do the chasing. Hack it even happens to women who were chased on occasion. Most men are desperate.

I can’t even count the number of times I’ve seen on Reddit how men don’t wanna date a woman because of her looks/etc but just do it just to have a relationship/sex.

survivinghsp · 2020-10-30T18:47:58+00:00

everytime i approached a guy or made the first move they ghosted and humilated me. never again

yolosunshine · 2020-10-30T15:14:07+00:00

Pew pew my only shot is a lazer gun.

Phoenix__Rising2018 · 2020-10-30T15:33:26+00:00

Don't waste your fucking time!!!!!!

Ayxmiii · 2020-10-30T15:39:43+00:00

Boy bye. 😂 highly don’t recommend this yall

-badmadAM · 2020-10-30T16:38:14+00:00

They are not picky, they would screw anything if they just get the chance, and exactly THIS is the problem.

anotherdamnloser · 2020-10-30T20:58:42+00:00

I’m not gonna be some scrotes girl because I was the “only one to give him a chance” 😏😏

Rasaya87 · 2020-10-30T13:12:12+00:00

Looking back, I don't think I was ever actually asked out properly, even by my first (abusive) boyfriend in high school over a decade ago. Things would just happen, and I'd let it. Ughhh.

warinmymind94 · 2020-10-30T18:48:54+00:00

If you approach a man first it makes it too easy for him and will never put in the least amount of effort for anything! You're approaching? You're using pick up lines? You're living him your number? If he really wanted you, he would have pursued you. Men show up at games top and walmart and stand in long lines to pre-order their video games and know all about the different packages and freebies that are being offered. Theyll get their ass out of bed or drive out of their way to go pickup that free poster that came with the video game. My point is a man knows when he actually wants something. When he wants something he will make the effort and find a way to get it. With a woman that should be cleaning himself up, trying to look good for her, and woo her to date her. They are naturally born to be hunters.

thruwuwayy · 2020-10-30T19:37:13+00:00

Imagine wanting a man this spineless 🤡

wayward_woman · 2020-10-30T21:57:36+00:00

If we did do that they'd be upset that we're only approaching like 5% of guys since most men are ugly.

Sweetlikecream · 2020-10-31T00:32:29+00:00

I can't stand this influx of weak ass beta losers.

Honestly this is 90% of why I'm just done with dating. Done. I really can't be bothered to date in this climate where men think it's a women's job to ask out men or approach them.

Revy_Ur_Engines · 2020-10-30T16:23:27+00:00

I’ll flirt but that’s about it. Men pursue things they want

Shefeelintheenergy · 2020-10-30T16:38:25+00:00

All the guys I “shoot my shot” to never worked out and they viewed their self as the prize. Never again even if I’m attracted to a guy will I shoot my shot because I’m the prize. The fuck.

Jenjofred · 2020-10-30T19:34:41+00:00

I used to make the first move in online dating. More than one guy ended up unmatching because they were convinced that I was a bot and not real.

You can't win with these idiots.

siberiansummer · 2020-10-30T20:37:17+00:00

Yeah, we know you aren’t picky when it comes to casual sex. Men don’t value women they don’t have to work hard for

staywiththecrown · 2020-10-30T22:10:16+00:00

Yes, ladies, listen to that advice! Trust me - all the men that I cold approached, flirted with, treated or paid half on dates with, complimented, comforted, acted like a cheerleader and therapist for, and was a sexual cool girl for me treated me SOOOOOOOOOO well, right? Us ladies are REALLY missing out on not asking them out FIRST. /s

Cue the male lurkers: "That doesn't count. We don't want easy sluts like you!"

aquietsword · 2020-10-30T23:37:56+00:00

They don't even notice signals because they are undersocialized, but at the same time they are somehow convinced women are dropping signals and "in their orbit" just waiting to be asked out?? So cute how their little brains have no consistency.

Half_Halt · 2020-10-30T17:49:08+00:00

Yet again I am reminded of the sad refrain of so many men on bullocksing up basic human interaction over 30: "No one will message me back! I even message women with no pics on their profile, the fat chicks, the ugly chicks, the chicks wearing parol monitoring anklets! I have literally no standards!"

And ya really don't get THAT is the problem, dude? You really don't?

awkchihuahua · 2020-10-30T18:12:06+00:00

If I see a guy I think is cute out in public, I'll smile and make eye contact.

Other than that, it's their job to approach. If you're too much of a little bitch to approach after I smiled at you, I wouldn't want to date you anyway.

thinktwiceorelse · 2020-10-30T17:25:04+00:00

If they don't even notice me, then what's the point? They obviously aren't interested.

2020-10-30T18:15:01+00:00

Someone posts something along these lines every 2 weeks on that sub. Snore.

Risoa · 2020-10-30T19:27:17+00:00

"We're not picky." Exactly why women should not do this.

StrawberryMoon3 · 2020-10-30T17:13:52+00:00

What a baby back wanker

theseviraltimes · 2020-10-30T17:42:50+00:00

I’m so fucking sick of the phrase “shoot your shot”!

emilyxrose7 · 2020-10-31T00:12:36+00:00

That’s a no from me dawg

NineOneNineOneNine · 2020-10-31T03:47:53+00:00

Why the fuck does he keep saying ‘shoot your shot’? This a Freudian slip? Who says that?

UnstrirringCoffee · 2020-10-31T19:10:15+00:00

A lot of the time, we won't even notice your efforts to get our attention.

Could that possibly be because they are not interested? Because a guy who is interested will pay attention.

throwawaydoll0 · 2020-10-31T05:34:09+00:00

don't tell us what to do, scrote 😡

2020-10-31T11:30:29+00:00

our risk is so much more in dating I’m not ever gonna approach some guy who might be an absolute creep

ThatEmoKidFromSchool · 2020-10-31T15:19:15+00:00

I use to do this and you know what happened? Most guys literally acted oblivious. I would literally set up a time and a date to hang out and they'd act shy. Now that I'm in a long-term relationship they now want to talk to me and go out.

2020-11-01T02:43:42+00:00

I'm not obligated to do a damn thing for a stranger. It's the men who want all this stuff so they should their lazy asses up and try to attract the kind of women they want.. Not expecting her to do all the work and chase him

ComprehensiveCatch46 · 2020-11-01T03:43:59+00:00

Showing interest is one thing but is there any specific reason he can’t approach me? I am picky & I’ll remain that way. I’d like for a man to have the confidence to approach me.

ChocolateBiscuit96 · 2020-11-01T13:26:25+00:00

I don’t chase men. Just like on dating apps when I match with guys then they get mad and unmatch with me because I didn’t take initiative. So you want me to carry a conversation, take you to dinner, and spoon feed you??? Leave me alone. And age doesn’t even matter, 19 year olds and even 30 year olds have this chase me mentality

StrawberryMoon3 · 2020-10-30T17:11:23+00:00

What a baby back wanker

th3n3w3ston3 · 2020-10-30T23:51:56+00:00

Been there, done that, threw out the t-shirt.

heladosky · 2020-10-31T00:57:00+00:00

Nooo fucking way, so basically be a pick me and just hope he notices you :)

Title	NO, We Don’t. 🙄 🤦🏻‍♀️
Author	Ok_Ad_67
Upvotes	548
Comments	191
Date	October 30, 2020 10:29 AM UTC (5 years ago)
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