What do you advise a young woman (18-21) to do?

ToHelp3897 · 2022-08-17T06:28:56+00:00

Do everything the red pill says, but for a woman.

Maximize your market sexual value through extreme self improvement.

Hit the gym and give yourself the body you deserve that other women will hate you for. This is crucial, not just because it will massively improve what you bring to the table, but also because it will improve your mental/physical health.

Secondly, learn how to socialize. Do this through talking to strangers at school/work/hobbies. Do this and make friends in the process. Over time you will learn how navigate through a conversation.

This is extremely important because looks are what's going to bring a man to you. But personality and character is what's going make a man stick with you

Once you've done both of those things, now it's time for boundaries. Your gonna get approached by guys on both dating apps and in real life. As a rule of thumb, never pedastlize a man (or anyone for that matter). If you mindlessly worship him and bend backwards to appease a stranger your indirectly telling him that he's worth more than you.

Instead, let the man approach you as if he's your equal. And judge him carefully. Judge him for things that are completely irrelevant to your attraction to him.

Can he take care of himself? How does he treat his friends and family? What are his finances like? Is he emotionally stable? Does he have a history of cheating?

And most importantly, be brutally honest with yourself in your assesment to him. Don't let rose tinted glasses hide red flags. In a relationship, his problems will become your problems when you two are one. Find a man who has his shit worked out. And never get into a relationship expecting a man to change.

On a final note. Be realistic but hopeful. Be self critical but self compassionate. Avoid the "I'm a Queen" mindset, because your royalty is something you've earned, unlike all the others who are plagued by entitlement.

Barneysparky · 2022-08-16T23:44:51+00:00

The best thing you can do is work towards building the life you envision for yourself.

If you happen to meet a guy who compliments it, bonus.

The_Entertainer217 · 2022-08-17T02:49:03+00:00

This depends on the woman and what she desires. Does she want a marriage and kids? Does she want a freewheeling life style? Does she want to travel the world? It honestly depends on what she wants. School and career won’t make a damn bit of difference for attracting a “high value man” though. If she wants to pursue those things she should pursue them for herself, not to attract a man.

no-304s · 2022-08-16T23:50:08+00:00

Find a quality partner when your power is at its peak. This is the time that you can have high standards and not have it hurt you.

Don't disregard school and work but prioritize your relationships with your friends and family. This is where happiness lies.

Pick something that you like and get really good at it. It doesn't matter what or how profitable it is. It matters whether you like it and whether you can consistently work at it.

FatGimp · 2022-08-17T03:56:07+00:00

Go and find what career suits your personality, study for it or work on getting into that field. Make money so you can buy a house and be independent.

As for romance sake. Do what aligns with your moral compass. Don't let people treat you badly and find the person who will assist you in life and make you happy.

Vtridolla · 2022-08-16T23:45:58+00:00

If I were you I would turn off my computer go outside and stop listening to weirdos on the internet. Go do what makes you happy.

Keep your head up loved one.

kinhk · 2022-08-17T01:04:53+00:00

Depends on what you want for your life.

ChibsFilipTelfordd · 2022-08-17T05:06:27+00:00

Do what makes you happy.

If that's fucking 20 guys in those 3 years-- go for it.

If it's getting married and have a kid, go for it.

I'd recommend being 3 quarters done with college by 21, but other than "get educated" people are so varied I can't answer the question

MarBitt · 2022-08-17T03:52:23+00:00

School and work are important, but relationships and family are more important. Stay healthy and work on your appearance. Enjoy the attention and being attractive, bud don't let cheap flattery on social media and such inflate your ego too much. Addiction to male admiration is dangerous for women. You need to find something deeper that will give you stability in life.

Don't waste your time with mindless sexual fun, but don't wait until marriage to have sex either. Use sex to get to know yourself better and find out what you really need to be satisfied. Don't wallow in self-blame when you fail. Mistakes are a natural part of life and you have the right to make mistakes.

Determine what is really essential for you and stick to it. Don't put yourself down and deny yourself for relationships, none are worth it. But distinguish yourself from your ego and pride. Be willing to compromise and overcome obstacles. Don't create long lists of superficial demands that will only hinder your happiness and never listen to the opinions of friends who have failed in a relationship. Ask for the opinions of older women who have what you want in a relationship. Modernize these tips for your time.

Find a good, reliable man who will attract you (not an ideal, dream prince) and with whom you will fall in love. Have an active sex life together, create a strong bond between you based on the fact that you really know each other. People always create illusions about others, don't let them overshadow reality. Know him as he really is and accept him as such or reject him. Help him to know the real you. Love is for the brave.

Remember that falling in love is free, but true, long-term love is a matter of honest, daily work. Although a man may try harder in the beginning, turning infatuation into love is as much your job as his. Don't just let him ride, be reasonably demanding of him. How you set things up in the beginning is how they will be in the long run.

The butterflies from the beginning of love always disappear, but this time is important to build true love and trust. Open communication is key. Once a bond is formed and you are in a relationship, is necessary to talk also about difficult topics, such as money, the future, sex. Find a way to argue constructively without hurting each other too much.

This is the point where many people fail because they prefer the easy (infatuation that comes by itself) to the real (love that they have to work for).

If you manage to maintain sexual attraction, trust and respect after the crush is over, get married, have children, and be happy together as long as possible. Don't delay having children too much because of your career. Always be ready to work on restoring and deepening your relationship. If you're both willing to work on yourself and find a compatible partner initially, there's almost nothing you can't overcome together.

KayRay1994 · 2022-08-17T01:05:42+00:00

develop a sense of self and confidence from within, understand goodness and what it might mean to tou, pursue wisdom (whatever that may mean to you), broaden your horizons, explore and have fun in the process - enjoy these years, make a shitton of mistakes and learn from them

baresquad · 2022-08-17T00:11:11+00:00

To know what they want, be selfish, secure, and unapologetic about it, and have fun doing it.

AelfredRex · 2022-08-17T01:44:22+00:00

She should learn that anyone who says they're red-pilled is a massive red flag.

Go to school and learn. Get a job and earn. Enjoy your youth and experience life. Stay far away from any man who wants to control you.

stlmick · 2022-08-17T01:01:26+00:00

Do whatever the fuck you want. Don't get pregnant or std's. Put yourself in a financial position that doesn't require a man so you don't end up dependent on one, and have a choice. Go have fun, so that you know what fun is and what it isn't. If you want to hook up with randos, then do it, but don't do it just to do it. What is this womans life plan? Does she want a ring and 3 kids by 30? Does she want a condo by the ocean when she's 40? Doing what some incel wants her to do shouldn't be on the list in my opinion.

wtknight · 2022-08-17T02:25:17+00:00

I'm not Red Pill, but I am a traditionalist when it comes to relationships and I'd advise young women to try to find relationships with men who demonstrate love for her before she decides to have sex with them. Better yet if he is actually the type of guy willing to wait for sex (doesn't need to be until marriage and, in my mind, one probably shouldn't make a commitment like that before determining if one likes sex with that person or not).

People have sex too soon these days because they think that it's "fun" and don't really take it seriously, and I don't like that kind of attitude from either women or from men.

That__EST · 2022-08-16T23:50:27+00:00

Find a single guy quickly, develop a solid friendship with him, vet him extremely, if he passes, get into a relationship with him and build your lives together, marry as virgins for massive bonus points

InfamousBake1859 · 2022-08-17T01:33:49+00:00

Well guys on here seem to think women expire at 25. Assuming they are only talking about women, that only gives women 7 years between 18-25 to attract a man and bag him. So going to school and working would burn away 4 of those 7 years. She wouldnonly be left with 3 years to bag and marry.

Idk what these Rp could recommend that’s not hypocritical.

Bandit174 · 2022-08-17T03:22:59+00:00

Just keep doing whatever you're currently doing. The deck is stacked in your favor so unless you're a complete bimbo you'll probably do fine in the end.

purplish_possum · 2022-08-17T00:25:08+00:00

Go to college and have fun.

jackedsoon · 2022-08-17T01:09:04+00:00

Have fun, do what you want. Get checked for stds. Some casual and serious relationship experience is ideal to have before settling down. Focus on your degree/major if youre at college.

huhwhatokok · 2022-08-17T01:38:23+00:00

You don’t have to conform to anything. You can ride the cc, bang Chad, etc and when you’re ready to settle, beta buxx will be there for you. Always has been, always will. As long as your contempt with your beta buxx, you’ll be fine. Red pill is more to help guys not put themselves in that position. But as I’ve always said, they’ll be plenty of guys always willing to put themselves in that position, so women don’t have to worry.

Anykindofland · 2022-08-17T06:14:49+00:00

I don't think men should give advice to women, especially if they are much older. Same goes for women who give advice to men. It always comes with the taste that the best interest of the group giving advice is the primarily focus.

2022-08-17T02:40:10+00:00

School if you enjoy school but don't force yourself through it. Work if you need it to survive but feel no compulsion to have a career. To the extent possible keep the job consistent with what your larger values .

Indeed, diving into introspection and reflection on your values so that you know them deeply, have wrestled with your shadow and tested your faith or absence of faith either way. If you're secular Jungiand like Marie Von Franz can be helpful here.

Obviously, this going to be more easily facilitated if you're Catholic and dive into Aquanis, Ignatius, etc. But, even if you are atheist you could start with the Stoics and feel your way from there. Jungians like Marie Von Franz can be helpful for a secular feminine approach to shadow work.

Just be careful that studying your values is distinct from the Philosophy of Ethics, which is likely to lead you away from what speaks authenticity to you towards what is intellectually clever.

Likewise, finding the art that inspires you whether it's poetry, fine art, sculpture, music is worthwhile. But again not everyone really connects with art and it's crucial not to waste time futile things that don't connect.

The point of all this is to have the depth and sense of your own value to find and marry a quality, almost certainly older, financially secure man.

Crucially it's not about impressing him. It's about your own sense of self. The raw truth is that your youth, beauty and virginity if you still have are going to overwhelmingly more attractive than any other set of skills or achievements. This is just a fact about men that many women (and men) and hurt trying desperately to deny.

But, the problem is that even marriage mind successful man, is going to see the opportunity to take your virginity and keep you on bread crumbs as instinctively attractive. He'll make excuses for his selfishness, telling himself that if it's meant be it will happen.

But, your deep centeredness in your own value will give you the confidence to resist this, to communicate frankly if discreetly the value of your virginity and to layout what kind of life you want to live out together.

If your values are not what he's about then move on swiftly not out lack of care, but because you do care to make a quality match and that testing your values against as many men as it takes to find who fits.

returning_op2 · 2022-08-17T07:31:33+00:00

Imagine where you want to be in 10 or 5 or 2 years. Write that down. Write down what you have to do to reach that. Do it.

Lisavela · 2022-08-17T09:06:27+00:00

Prioritise your school work and build meaningful friendships and relationships with family.

Pick up a hobby or two and learn how to build boundary’s.

Lastly a partner is a want not a need so don’t rush into relationships with people you aren’t sure about.

Don’t participate in things that can tarnish your reputation and go easy on yourself if you end up doing something you regret.

Warm_Gur8832 · 2022-08-17T11:46:22+00:00

Well, asking men of Reddit what you ought to be doing doesn’t seem like a very good way to go about any aspect of life lol

Old-Information-5233 · 2022-08-17T11:54:55+00:00

Not a red piller. All "high value" women (i hate that terminology) I know have a mix between experience, good career/study, experienced with guys, good circle of female friends, hobbies and a drive to achieve something in life. The omnious image of a virgin housewife with zero ambitions except for having children are mostly boring ducklings, not including women of non western cultures, dont know them. And most of those type of high achieving and experienced women ended up with a very good guy in my environment.

womandatory · 2022-08-17T12:28:30+00:00

A man is not a plan.

Meihuajiancai · 2022-08-17T19:47:13+00:00

Read stoic philosophy, read Taoist philosophy, learn what food is, and isn't, and how to make meals with food, exercise and lift weights, involve yourself in outdoor group activities, make a five year and ten year goal and plan of action to achieve, don't make life decisions because of someone you're dating and avoid casual encounters, you can date someone without being married ffs

2022-08-17T20:04:24+00:00

For the love of God build self esteem BEFORE ANYTHING.

SwimmingTheme3736 · 2022-08-17T04:41:32+00:00

Have fun

Wooden_Worker_3107 · 2022-08-17T06:19:03+00:00

Women can make career too, learn to stand on your own feet and become independent.

Dependent women are the ones that can not escape toxic relationships because they need the men who is punching them.

Second, pursue a healthy LTR.

For real there is one way that fits everybody, it is not different for women. You are better off doing your school and finding a good job.

PS: For real: I am just reading this again right now. What a stupid question! Where is the opposite of promiscuity disregarding school and work? LTR is the opposite. Men want women with a past of long lasting LTR's.

Work and School is another pillar in life that has nothing to do with not being a hoe lol

ImAGhostOooooooo · 2022-08-17T17:19:26+00:00

should she disregard school & work and find the highest quality man then marry him?

You can't do that, the men in here will be mad at you for chasing money 🤣

It's lose/lose for us women in this group. Nothing we do is right. If we don't live life the way they like or find acceptable we are 🤷‍♀️

I've chosen to do what's best for me and disregard anyone who is unhappy with that

Gaycunt453 · 2022-08-17T00:40:56+00:00

Go hit the gym, pursue your studies, develop a sense of humor, build knowledge, learn about history and philosophy, take care of your appearance, dress modestly, volunteer, give back to the community, learn how to play music, try gardening, learn new recipes, make art find hobbies or passions you are interested in and pursue them. As you don’t have to worry so much about making money you have a greater opportunity to develop skills that aren’t necessarily profitable but that help you develop as a human being

Don’t necessarily prioritize your career over everything else. Rather work on your personal growth and individual pursuits while building strong healthy relationships with people who elevate you rather then drag you down

All while searching for a man who is worth having a serious long term relationship and doesn’t just want you for sex

NockerJoe · 2022-08-17T02:46:49+00:00

If you want a relationship then look for one sooner rather than later. The biggest mistake I see young women do is think they can do nothing but study or put it off until some arbitrary life goal and they wind up in their mid to late 20's with mo experience at flirting or dating or keeping a signifigant other because they decided they couldn't date until they'd graduated uni or got a certain income level.

Obviously theres no guarantees any of this will work out but even if it doesn't you'll at least know what not to look for and have some idea of what being in a relationship is really like rather than being like 27 and never havibgng spoken to a man but now that you want to date and have kids you want to start the process of finding somebody with no idea how to go about it, whiich seems shockingly common.

Sad_Top1743 · 2022-08-17T00:54:49+00:00

Definitely don’t disregard school or relationships. I think women should build their lives how they want it but yeah, sleeping around with chads is unattractive to most men.

Many women just get a couple bfs and end up married, that’s the way to do it imo.

John_Oakman · 2022-08-17T01:57:51+00:00

Don't place too much importance on the biting words/"advice" from those you despise/hate...

Simple, yet somehow not easy advice.

2022-08-17T04:31:38+00:00

The only advice I have:

If you are planning to get married and have children in the future, start planning it now and make this a priority. No one is going to be waiting for you at the finish line ready to breed once you have obtained your dream position, your house and your financial stability by the time you're 34.

My point is, career and family/relationships is not a zero sum game. You can perfectly do both at the same time. But finding the right partner takes years and as you can see, the good ones get snatched out of the market within the decade. So play your role in the snatching.

If family or marriage isn't a priority, forget everything I said. Go chase your dreams, slut around, do whatever you want. Men here aren't representative of men out there. There will be always a simp who will be ok with his wife having a promiscuous past.

trololol_daman · 2022-08-17T04:43:21+00:00

Stay in shape, workout and eat healthy
Ideally get higher education (college educated couples have a lower divorce %)
Meet your SO ideally through mutual or IRL (OLD relationships have a high divorce rate)
Ideally have a lower n count

That’s pretty much it. I’m not a redpiller btw so yea

drew8311 · 2022-08-17T00:34:31+00:00

The same as RP advice mostly. Except a small difference is date but don't have sex too easily, make them wait a bit and work on keeping guys with your personality. Keep N count low-ish but can still go up 2-3 people per year at most. If you are not ready to settle down keep dating as a way to find shorter relationships but still things that might be the same guy for 6-12+ months or whatever. No ONS or putting out on the first date even if the guy is really hot will get you half of the way there.

Then when you are ready to find a high quality guy you will

- Have something to offer him besides sex

- Still some experience with sex so he won't be disappointed there

- No history of promiscuity

TryLambda · 2022-08-17T05:02:00+00:00

Don’t ride the c carousel….be feminine…stay away from thugs and the football team..look for sigma males..good quality dudes with high intelligence and empathy ..and make them aware you are available ..and approachable.. and if you do land a quality relationship…don’t give into hypergamy or peer pressure that will turn yourself into the town bike,

2022-08-17T01:41:45+00:00

No young chick needs advice from my old ass.

Go get ‘em, tiger.

bison5595 · 2022-08-17T02:56:44+00:00

The first thing that should be done is stop lying and telling women fairytale nonsense. There isn’t the “the one”. Making money won’t make you attractive to the type of men you desire. You most likely aren’t a 10 or a queen. You’re just average. The type of men you desire want a certain type of woman. Your currency is at its highest the younger you are. Having fun in your twenties isnt a recipe for finding a quality guy. All men want sex, regardless if they like you or not. Stop making dating strategies based of possibilities and make them off of probabilities. Only 15% of men are over 6 feet and 95% of women want a tall guy.

Specialist-Action-33 · 2022-08-17T03:04:43+00:00

Be humble while you're young and your enjoying your best looks, because you never know the day when it could crash into the ground and your best days will be long gone.

SilentFroggy · 2022-08-17T03:19:47+00:00

It’s hard to give you advice because we can’t force you to start pursuing someone you don’t find attractive.

Zcuzz · 2022-08-17T03:45:57+00:00

Take advantage of the system as best as you can. It's so unbelievably stacked in your favor you'd have to be a total moron not to run with it. Assuming you live in the Western World, you are literally the most privileged demographic in the history of humanity.

If you decide to prioritize career, you are dumb as fuck. Use your youth and beauty to network or lockdown a HVM. Develop a good personality, culture yourself. College is a scam, it's a total waste of time unless you're there locking down a dude in a STEM field.

Don't let a deadbeat lowlife knock you up because you literally throw all your value in the dumpster and you're fucked. Show a little class and discretion.

That all said, have fun. Experience as much as you can. Don't squander your beauty. Stay healthy, don't cast your pearls before swine.

AdventurousAd5107 · 2022-08-17T04:58:36+00:00

Hi 👋 Young wife here just hit mid twenties. I think it’s great you’re thinking about this stuff because it’s important.

Husband is 10 years older. SAHW and expecting first bub. For context we are Christians/ husband is head of home but this framework has benefits even for secular people. Traditional marriages are more successful.

husband is sole provider and we are comfortable middle class
I have freedoms and security few women my age have
husband stress has greatly reduced, life is more peaceful with me present and he has more quality time to spend with me outside of work because I handle domestic stuff

I have:

time to work on hobbies, keep our home as a rewarding creative outlet, care for husband, no pressure to return to work force after baby arrives, ability to pursue future study of a passion to work from home if I choose with no financial burden, can avoid the 9-5 and can risk to make a passion an income to be there for husband and babies if I desire (husband has encouraged me to use my brain but I get to study out of desire not financial NEED)

Compared to other women my age:

not living in a share house with flat mates
Not scraping by in last years of University working in retail or starting level entry job I dislike to get to where I hope to be
I have no debt
Not engaged in any endless relationships with young men that are not ready to be husbands
not engaging in casual sex with risk of diseases and unwanted pregnancy and emotional baggage

I asked my husband what does a man look for he said the following:

Organised in her life Pretty and healthy Intelligent Confident Doesn’t seem easy/anyone can get her Mature Fertile/youthful (no fertility problems)

He also said don’t marry a loser and don’t compromise.

I would encourage you to focus on marriage now and stop engaging in casual relationships. Take time to really develop yourself, learn some house skills on how to run a home, research different parenting styles now, refine your cooking skills make it fun, look at marriage resources so you’re informed on what would be your potential future reality, cut off toxic female friends, work on your character, work through any traumas. Develop a sense of style that is classy and feminine but still distinctly you (not a clone), broaden your knowledge and develop the ability to be able to comfortably talk about a wide range of topics.

You can definitely study and work but don’t neglect settling down younger I think you’ll thank yourself in the long run.

For those who disagree please be kind and respectful

social_mule · 2022-08-17T01:31:29+00:00

Go to college, find yourself a young STEM major and fuck his brains out. With any luck he'll make you his wife.

Pastakingfifth · 2022-08-17T02:09:16+00:00

Become a content creator, work on her brand and mingle. The internet gives a huge avenue for women to market themselves without having to sleep around or invest in a deadend career.

If I was 18 I'd move to a big city, get a job that just pays my bills and start making tiktoks/podcasts/YouTube and has that as a networking tool to meet the other content creators/influencers in your city.

Do this from 18 to 25 and you'll have probably developed an insane knowledge in content production(picture/video editing, sound remixing, color grading, etc), digital marketing and networking. You'll have a following that will let you do what you want/good at without relying on a draining career. You'll have a network that will let you meet the coolest/highest value men in your city without needing to play corporate/social politics.

I'd say that's about the best life setup you can get. Whichever dating experience you wanna get throughout it is up to the individual person.

OkLeading4918 · 2022-08-17T05:15:41+00:00

To give your prime to a smart, honorable man, not any tattooed, loud, low-IQ drunktard

AndyBrown65 · 2022-08-17T06:24:05+00:00

For one, don't believe the sisterhood PR telling you that you are amazing and "men are stupid" etc. At this age a woman is at her peak SMV, don't become too cocky, pride cometh before the fall.

There's lots of good points and I agree with a lot of them. You should be:

Organised in your life. Being the ditzy helpless female might get you the male attraction now, but when you are a 39 yo cat lady, you just look stupid.
Health & Beauty. Wear that sunscreen, keep up the beauty regime and don't forget moisturiser on the neck. Easier way to tell a woman's real age. Stay in shape, workout and eat healthy.
Wealth. Women have the luxury of being able to sponge off a man, but make sure you save a little bit for your future.
Wise. Don't be a bimbo. Make sure you can hold intelligent conversations and get a good education, yes, educated women are generally better off and have a lower divorce rate because they understand the long game. Know how to pay a bill, do your tax etc.
Confident but not bossy. People mistake aggressiveness and assertiveness. Too many women believe that "you go girl!" nonsense and think they have to behave aggressively. You don't. You have to be confident in yourself, and your abilities, but you need to be assertive, which is putting yourself first, but not putting others down in the process.
Don't be a slut. OK, so fairly self evident, but you attract the wrong man, then you wonder why you get bashed up by some druggie loser you have had a kid to.
Don't be a virgin queen. If you aren't sleeping with a guy he will lose interest as some girls use sex as manipulation. Don't use the promise of sex as manipulation.
Value your girlfriends. Successful women in the 40's have a dozen long term GFs they can rely on. Many go back to their 20's or earlier.
Value your father. Mothers and daughters will clash, but your father is the one person in your life who will dive in front of the bullet and will dig the shallow grave in the forest for the guy who wronged you and "magically disappears". If you don't have a relationship with your father you tend to be a bitter and twisted woman later in life.

I guess a big theme is to respect yourself and work on long term relationships. Being on the carousel only hurts you in the long term. I'm in my 50's and the women I went to school with who respected themselves, were pleasant to be around, dated the smarter, more conservative guys are now looking pretty well setup and happy in their 50's. I know plenty of pretty girls who were full of themselves, were rude to other girls and opened their legs for the bone headed boofheads in their 20's, are now divorced single mothers in dead end low paid jobs.

2022-08-17T01:12:44+00:00

Attend a strong college, t50 minimum. Polish yourself to be curious and well read about many things. If you can’t get into a t50, don’t take on the debt , go work at a independent gardening shop/florist or art gallery as an apprentice and learn the business from the bottom up.

Don’t come from a broken family. If you do, make it a point to show that you won’t continue the cycle.

Play a sport / recreationally at least. Excersise but like a European woman, not like an American IG fitness model.

Major in an interesting major

Pick up a second language

Find a man at school who matches these values that you can build a legacy with that surpasses your lifespan.

Don’t get a tattoo

Dont color your hair unnatural colors

Don’t drink (maybe one or two drinks a week max) or smoke.

Take care of your skin.

Susan Patton aka “Princeton mom” had the right idea

JumboJetz · 2022-08-17T00:18:22+00:00

I have no issues with womens promiscuity. That age she should have sex. HOWEVER, if she wants a long term relationship heading to marriage, she should date 30 year olds (might need to wait until 20 or so to do that).

BlackjointnerD · 2022-08-17T01:33:31+00:00

Just live the life you envision and accept the consequences of your actions.

If you wanna be promiscuous just accept that at some point a huge demographic of men are gonna tell you no for a long term relationship. Probably ones that you really want. You can explore some but don't fall for the hoe trap. I'm hard pressed to believe that women genuinely want to be hoes like men who naturally crave VARIETY and sex 24/7. Wanting good sex is fine. But if a family is what you want I would find a good man who checks all the boxes as soon as possible. Don't wait till your out of your prime in your 30s. Good chance it will be someone older. Make sure your father is a part of that process of vetting. If you want a man to add value to your life understand what it is you can offer him in exchange besides sex.

You should absolutely pursue fulfilling friendships, education, and love your family and whatever touches your curiosity. Never lax on that. Be as self sustainable as you can.

Jukingku22 · 2022-08-17T02:12:19+00:00

Well follow RPW for knowlege on the subject from other wonderful women but basically a red pilled women prioritizes her family and husband over career and herself. It requires sacrafice like everything in life and having a man lead you is the hardest part. 1. You gotta trust him. 2. You gotta pick the right one. 3. If you want the most hapiness from a man try to have as little as possible so you dont compare then to previous partners. Ive heard its torcher. Try to be with other feminine women who think the same and stay away from feminism which is the polar oppisite of the rpw ideology. Dont disregard school cause obviously some education is neccisary but from what ive seen from the happiest women in my life they prioritize family over career. Thats why alot of rpw want to be housewifes because when you prioritize family, all you need to worry about are kids and husband and the occasional family meetups which you can setup. I personally find those traits very attractive and makes me want to provide for women who treat me and the family that way. I think the submissive and dominant thing men and women have going on is a dance and not oppresive at all. Its kind of like latino dancing were for example ‘merengue’ the women follows the mans lead and the man has to lead. What makes a good women dancer is if she can keep up with the mans movments and read then and follow them accordingly and a good man dancer has to be assertive and sure on what the next move is gonna be so everytging flows and no one is under anyone and everyone is equal in this beautiful dance. Its a beautiful system and idk why feminist and some others think its oppresive when both men and women are content. Feminine women and masculine men both are happy. I notices its when men go feminine and women go masculine is when shit starts to get out of order and people become unhappy, miserable and confused.

Ohms2North · 2022-08-17T04:32:56+00:00

Don't get fat

Laytheblameonluck · 2022-08-17T08:25:38+00:00

Try hard to not go through a hoe phase.

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wymynmoment · 2022-08-17T01:34:26+00:00

stay a virgin until marriage, make sure every person you date takes an STD test (for herpes as well). Stay fit, don't hang out with strange men one on one, carry a gun.

MAGA-Latino · 2022-08-17T01:58:07+00:00

There's no reason why a woman can't go to school and get a good man.

CringeButCorrect · 2022-08-17T04:31:59+00:00

Attend a STEM school, and major in a STEM field that has good career prospects. CS and Electrical Engineering are good ones. There you will find plenty of partners who also have good career prospects. Literally find a guy you vibe with, make sure he has good grades, and you're good. Dedicate time for both school and interpersonal relationships, this is a great time to work on that balance. Men are generally the same across majors, may as well go to a school that is known for having lots of higher earning STEM graduates.

Also, avoid ONS and FWB situations. It's better to find a dude and work on sex with him. If he's bad and unwilling to improve then move on to the next. The good thing about STEM schools is that most males there are nerds get little female attention. So not only are they future high earners, they're also extremely easy to attract.

Edit: Hit the gym and work on abs. Working on abs will also help cut the fat in that area, making your hip ratio improve. Also work on lower back and the sides of your glutes. Doesn't have to be heavy weight.

None0fYour8usiness · 2022-08-17T04:52:40+00:00

Learn a means of self defense. America has guns for a reason.
Stay away from casual sex. Pussy discipline is as important a skillset as dick discipline.
If you have to have casual sex, treat the guy you actually want to date the same in terms of sex. That is to say, be willing to sleep with him on the first date. Then it's on him if he wants to wait.
Don't be a prostitute. Yes Onlyfans falls under this too.
Approach the guy you want. However, if you only want to fuck him, and not date him, stay away.
Don't disregard school or work, but do remember you still have the luxury if the man being considered the breadwinner, so go after what you want to do. If it makes money, even better.

ToBeFair91 · 2022-08-17T06:12:25+00:00

First of all, anyone who tells you to "do what makes you happy" is an idiot. Doing what makes you happy will paradoxically teach you absolutely nothing about that, it's also not really the default mode of being. I'd say, choose something you love doing, whether that be sports, music, language, gym etc and get as good as you can get at it, push yourself to the limit. You will NOT be happy doing it all the time but you will teach yourself some core principles of life that will help you immensely, the reward from doing that will be 100x greater than any fleeting happiness.

Ok_Nefariousness8796 · 2022-08-17T07:48:38+00:00

It depends on what your goals in life are. If you want to find and lockdown a HVM to create a family than do that. Your at an age where your sexual market place value is as high as can can be, and your body count will never be lower. If you have scholarly ambitions than work hard go through school and achieve those dreams. It all just depends on you, and what you want in life. If your unsure, and undecided in life, than I advise keep all doors open, just know that some decisions you make will limit you later in life.

BruddaMSK · 2022-08-17T07:52:10+00:00

Remember, my girl: no matter how high you set your standards you will have an abundance of potential partners. You are special and important because vagina. Use that to your advantage.
Also remember: men will say or do literally anything to have s*x with you

domdomdom333 · 2022-08-17T08:06:48+00:00

Hard to say what a woman should "do." I think it's easier to say what not to do. As long as a girl has good manners and values, just don't betray these manners and values. Keep them in check with no hypocrisy.

AreOut · 2022-08-17T08:37:45+00:00

real HVM will support her in her endeavours whatever her endeavours are, I know a girl who was a student when she met 10+ older guy and married him. Later she went on to finish PhD with his support. Now they are a happy couple with two kids, despite her parents going all crazy when she got married (they didn't even want to attend the wedding).

pbaagui1 · 2022-08-17T10:23:25+00:00

Exploring your sexuality is great. But remember that too much of anything is bad. So be selective of your partner. And also protection is paramount.

beleidigtewurst · 2022-08-17T10:32:24+00:00

Don't listen to men hating cesspots that start with F.

Don't postpone LTR and kids too far.

frivolous & fleeting relationships

Yeah. As in the movies.

Right, so the next advice would be: life is not like in the movies.

Women And Prescription Drugs: One In Four Takes Mental Health Meds

lifesuckswannadie · 2022-08-17T10:37:48+00:00

Find actual relationships with good guys instead of sleeping around.

abaxeron · 2022-08-17T10:59:12+00:00

If you don't want to have children, don't waste men's time.

If you want to have children, don't waste yours.

majani · 2022-08-17T11:11:00+00:00

Do whatever you want because women have all the power in Western relationships, and they get infinite do-overs from the hoards of simps willing to clean up their lives

ChudBuck · 2022-08-17T11:33:48+00:00

Get some kind of skillset so you dont have to worry about the bills at the very least. Healthcare, stem, comp sci whatevs. Healthcare, be it nursing, resp tech, neuroimaging/diagnostics, rad tech. Somewhere at that pay grade you can get by just fine working part time at the very least.

Being hardcore into pursuing a career is rare even for men, most people dont know wtf they want to do. Thats why some kind of necessart recession proof skillset that pays well is a good endeavor both for men and women. Dunno wtf to do? Do at least something outside of walmart cashier or food server.

dbz19_kai · 2022-08-17T12:07:45+00:00

Study hard, get a degree, focus on your studies, work hard and line up a good career, all the while making friends, but don't do anything you wouldn't want your daughter to do and your parents wouldn't want you to do. Your parents care about you and love you more than your girlfriends and the guys you have crushes on.

Also pick a degree for a career in something that you know you will enjoy AND has good earning potential, not some social sciences crap.

Don't ever do drugs, limit your drinking, limit your partying.

Honestly that's the advice I'd give my daughter if I had one. There are 3.5 billion women in the world and they're free to do what they want, I'm not judging. But if it was someone I cared about, I'd advise them to not engage in the "party" lifestyle.

pan3639 · 2022-08-17T13:04:20+00:00

Yes to your last question.

parahacker · 2022-08-17T13:10:56+00:00

and find the highest quality man then marry him

So close, but no.

It's more along the lines of be the highest quality of woman worth wifing you're capable of.

Then find a man that's good enough, gets the motor running at least - doesn't need to be a Lamborghini, just has be able to move you when you need him to. Communicative and responsive is necessary too, look for that. But 'highest quality man' is not a real thing. And perfection is the enemy of success, anyway. Be aware that man is not looking for a perfect woman either. It's enough that you try.

CocoBabeNYC · 2022-08-17T14:26:24+00:00

Have as much sex as possible and become good at it if you want to date a guy like me (but I'm also married, so don't even try).

Substantial_Video560 · 2022-08-17T14:26:41+00:00

If your hot capitalize on your looks to the full advantage i.e. Only Fans, Tik Tok, Tinder etc. If you've got it flaunt it!

Tagalog22 · 2022-08-17T14:33:58+00:00

Decide if you want more marriage and children, or a carrier. You can have both but if you do there will always be tradeoffs. Men also have to make sacrifices... they become experts in a thing but not necessary in another, for example. Do not let society lie to you that "you have time". You don't... no one does.
If you want to marry younger, find a man that is mentally, financially stable. Do not look for looks only because those men have no reason to stay with you and the more sex you have, the least desirable you will be for valuable men.

2022-08-17T20:47:06+00:00

Learn how to clean, this is vital for any man that wants to settle for you
Watch porn, this is because if a man wants to have sex with you will know what you are doing
Have a low body count, yes, men are disgusted by high body counts. Would you marry an escort? I think not.
Workout, dont get fat. Unless he has morals that of jesus or a saint, he is going to lose interest. Plus its healthy.

2022-08-17T21:41:15+00:00

Develop intellectual interests so you can attract high-earning men.

Move to a big city and socialize with high earners.

Develop a great sense of fashion and style. There is more to fashion than wearing a thong bikini.

Look good and pretty. You should have a toned bikini body.

Don't develop addictions and bad habits.

When you seek a spouse, value family. Prioritize his needs. Don't be a rabid feminist.

Don't have more than ten sexual partners. If you want to whore out, keep it to a limited circle of men.

Be financially stable. Have a solid career path. Don't get into debt.

Seek out interesting experiences. Develop hard skills during college.

Get married by the age of 30. Ideally, plan to have a kid by your late 20s or early 30s.

NotARussianBot1984 · 2022-08-17T22:28:33+00:00

Same thing TRP tells men. 1) Lift 2) Study and get a good job (life is expensive you need 2 incomes) 3) eat healthy 4) GO OUTSIDE!

We live in a broke obese aging world. A young fit skin hot smart girl with a good income and no massive red flags? Literally the world is yours!

Also simple things like asking a guys friends his dating history, practice getting good at sex when in a relationship, or approaching men, or not having a height requirement are things few women do.

scwizard · 2022-08-18T06:20:29+00:00

It depends.. Did she grow up in the church or not?

Does she still believe that Jesus Christ was raised from the dead or not?

scwizard · 2022-08-18T06:30:45+00:00

Advice for young women who grew up in the church but who aren't Christian anymore.

Causal sex isn't as common as your family warned you about. Having casual sex won't help you fit in it'll make you a weirdo. Most secular folks just have sex with their boyfriends or girlfriends. On the first date is find if you really want to and it's been a good date.

Any sorta thing you see online about a sex party or something is just some kinda cringe attempt to get you to do porn.

Speaking of porn onlyfans is not a freaking job. You can do it if you think it's fun but you're not gonna be paying rent that way.

Only advice for secular girls who grew up secular is take your vacation days please. Do it like the French do if you can.

Title	What do you advise a young woman (18-21) to do?
Author	Makaveli676
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Comments	244
Date	August 16, 2022 11:41 PM UTC (3 years ago)
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