What do you consider creepy?

Otherwise-Archer9497 · 2024-06-07T13:42:48+00:00

Sometimes I think of James Franco talking about his sex addiction when he means the times he coerced and harassed people. I also think of rock stars like David Bowie sleeping with kids and then people getting offended when he gets referred to as a pedo.

krackedy · 2024-06-07T12:23:24+00:00

I do think unattractive men are more likely to be called creepy.

I think lack of social awareness is a much bigger factor though. They are probably related since attractive people have more opportunities to perfect social skills and more forgiveness if they mess up.

The biggest thing I notice when I see a "creepy" guy hitting on a woman is him not recognizing that she's uncomfortable. She's giving zero signals, usually actively avoiding eye contact, giving one word answers, looking at her friends with a "help me" face, etc. The guys don't care, they are still going to shoot their shot.

MidoriEgg · 2024-06-07T13:42:57+00:00

I find the topic of creepy really interesting. It’s interesting to really think about what I find creepy rather than just straight up scary, annoying or intimidating.

I think with creepiness there needs to be a bit of uncertainty. Like if someone’s straight up just chasing your down the street or being aggressive then that’s scary, but if they do something weird where the motive isn’t entirely clear, like idk, collecting your fallen hair, or saving your social media pictures in their phone, then that’s creepy.

Less extreme examples are people behaving in a socially incongruent way but it isn’t clear exactly what their motivation is.

purplish_possum · 2024-06-07T13:54:44+00:00

On several occasions I've had women I didn't know come up to me and ask if I'd "pretend to be (their) boyfriend" because some guy was "creeping them out." From what I gathered these guys were ignoring or not picking up on less than overt indications that the women in question weren't interested. Rather than expressly tell these guys to fuck off they decided to employ the services of a friendly ogre.

velvetalocasia · 2024-06-07T13:04:43+00:00

So what comes always to my mind is a guy I met when I studied abroad for a year. He was interested, I was not and when he couldn’t get me to agree to a meeting he started to follow me around. First he would start to take the same bus to and from uni, when he never took that one before. He than always sat next to me on the bus. Than he would come to the same bus stop and after that he waited for me at my apartment building entrance one night (I had never told him where o lived)……..it was unsettling.

blarginfajiblenochib · 2024-06-07T12:18:31+00:00

“Creepy” implies threatening behavior wherein the creeper continues to violate boundaries without any care for the other person’s feelings (or even because they like seeing others uncomfortable).

Acaciduh · 2024-06-07T12:19:23+00:00

Lillith is back!

I’d say following me - I’ve had men ask for my number and I’d decline and then they would continue following me around a venue - like direct eye contact and would not stop until I left.

Also when I was young much older men hitting on me like MUCH older and many of these were when I was very young teen.

I’ve never found it “creepy” if a guy I wasn’t attracted to asked me out as long as he left me alone after telling him no. I’ve had more pestering encounters where they wouldn’t take no for an answer that ranged from mildly annoying to down right scary.

EulenWatcher · 2024-06-07T12:21:47+00:00

Creepy is a sense of not necessarily articulated danger. A person who doesn’t respect your boundaries and gets too close to you while ignoring your attempts to quit talking to them. A guy offering you a car ride. A man who might be following you.

jay10033 · 2024-06-07T13:51:24+00:00

Unattractive women touching you without your consent.

Stalkers.

JohnGoodman_69 · 2024-06-07T13:51:09+00:00

“Well if he was hotter, it’d be okay” but I never see these guys list examples.

Because in the moment we know people in the discussion would deny those examples. But its not really up for debate because:

Results mirror the sexual harassment literature (aka more than one result) and suggest that harassment by younger and attracive men is viewed as less harassing.

dissertation provides some intriguing tidbits that suggest that the harassment experience may not be universally loathed by women. This is also demonstrated in popular press discussions of stranger harassment or street harassment in which some women declaim harassment as invasions of their personal space, while other enjoy the attention

anecdotal evidence suggest that the same woman may enjoy a compliment 1 day, and be infuriated by a catcall the next.

No-Mess-8630 · 2024-06-07T14:57:45+00:00

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This gentleman can get away with more things that, on the other hand, would be considered creepy for the average Joe. For instance, a gentle spank on a woman's arse would make her giggle if you look like him, but if it's the average Joe, he would find himself in court for harassment.

TheLonerCoder · 2024-06-07T15:25:23+00:00

I've seen and have experienced how being attractive makes things less "creepy". For example, I used to work with a balding guy in his mid 20s who looked 40. The guy would barely talk to people and was mainly only focused on getting his work done. And i've overheard female coworkers calling him weird lmao. Yet there were other guys who were the same way as him (didn't talk much, just worked) and because they were more attractive, nothing bad was said about them. Same thing when it came to approaching women or showing interest. I have so many stories I could tell lol.

No_Matter_8648 · 2024-06-07T18:36:38+00:00

Oh this is a fun thread. Chad can do whatever he wants whenever he wants & it’s seen as endearing L’s meanwhile the average guy better not even step one toe out of line or else he is a creeeeep & obssssssesed!

I don’t think it requires anymore elaboration…

mrs_seng · 2024-06-07T12:21:34+00:00

Staring, crazy look in the eyes, approaching a stranger when there's almost nobody around or it's dark outside and prolonging the conversation past asking for directions/time, overall clothes coupled with attitude.

This applies to both men and women.

waffleznstuff30 · 2024-06-07T15:12:08+00:00

I have two examples of what I think is creepy.

You reject a guy. Just say "no" they aren't your type you don't find him attractive. What have you. And they persist or keep trying. Even when you say no. Or try to steer the conversation to dating them or something about involving them. When you say no I'm not interested.
A guy who tries to push your boundaries sexually in the talking stages. He can be the hottest mofo. But as soon as he tries to steer the conversation into a sexual direction without any context. It's just ick inducing. "So I did this thing today" "what color are your underwear you should show me". Like it's so tasteless. A lot of guys do this. I ghost lol 🤣😆

bubbagator · 2024-06-07T12:40:49+00:00

If you think about what those men are saying between the lines, they want a justification for that weird behavior.

They're exposing themselves by saying if they were just "hotter" if they could get away it. They don't want to reflect on why it's weirdo shit, they just want to do it.

Pleasant-Speed2003 · 2024-06-07T12:52:28+00:00

Following me,
trying to get my name by ways other than just talking to me (for example iding someone just for a name),
adding on socials without even a convo or without them knowing your name,
too many sex comments rather than a normal chat,
staring obsessively (I can understand zoning out ect, but if you do it too many times or look at different areas during)
trying to hit on girls i feel look young or are very young compared to you (like over 10years or the girls under 16 and you're over 18)
groping anyone who seems uncomfy with it, male friends included.
Overhearing any comments that sound like you are talking about sexual crimes In a jokey way or hinting you might do it. While I'm okay with these jokes and make them too, I wouldn't feel safe if it's someone I just met

ObadiahTheEmperor · 2024-06-07T13:06:17+00:00

Creepy is when you give the appearance of being predatory towards the woman due to body language, tone etc coupled with certain actions that would give you a predatory advantage. Ugly doesnt mean creepy unless one has certain facial features that look predatory. The Solution is to be sociable and normal.

SnooMarzipans8221 · 2024-06-07T13:21:13+00:00

Just from my personal experiences when I was still in college and some when I already started working:

*Rape "jokes" in casual conversations that were not supposed to be sexual to begin with. (during introductory conversations, discussing group projects, doing a rundown of an activity, and one instance was a derailed philosophical discussion over drinks with other friends)

*"Joking" about me getting raped (I just said that I didn't like casual dating for personal reasons).

*Being asked what kind of underwear I wear.

*Assuming I am okay with being touched and "tickled" after I have expressed over and over again that I do not enjoy physical contact.

*Trying to get my phone number from my friends after I have refused to give my phone number when asked for it.

*Giving me a "nickname" no one has ever called me, and repeatingly calling me that "nickname" after I've expressed that I didn't like being called that.

*Introducing me to people as if we're close, with unwanted physical contact, like a hand too close to my butt or a firm grip on my arm or shoulder.

*Being asked for a hug randomly.

Context: I think I look very plain at best. I don't consider myself "attractive", I cover up when it comes to clothing since it is what makes me feel comfortable and I'm not friendly. Some of these creepy interactions were from men that many would consider handsome and just generally attractive, but it didn't stop me from feeling icky yucky when it happened.

Deranged_Loner · 2024-06-07T15:08:24+00:00

Weird/intense staring.
Unwanted touching.
Strange movements.
Very overt sexual comments too soon

ChicoBrillo · 2024-06-07T15:44:09+00:00

There's a busser at my job (restaurant) that all the female staff say is creepy and it definitely goes along with what other people have been saying about not recognizing (or not caring) that he's making people uncomfortable.

He always puts his hand on their waist when he passes, he corners them to talk in the middle of service. Makes weird comments.

Thing is, I wouldn't say he's unattractive, but he is creepy in the sense that I'm sure women would feel unsafe to be alone with him.

his_purple_majesty · 2024-06-07T21:28:23+00:00

A guy masturbating in the bushes outside someone's house. A guy who enjoys watching videos of animals being tortured.

MistyMaisel · 2024-06-07T12:33:00+00:00

I mean, following you around, being shifty eyed, someone you tell that you have a boyfriend and he says he's not here. Obviously literal stalking. Cornering you so you don't have easy physical escape. Breaking personal space norms or worse touching you when there's nothing indicating that would be ok. Approaching at inappropriate times (late night when you're alone). A way of talking to you that sounds like he's already undressing you or getting extremely sexual extremely fast. Inviting you to isolated places very fast. Ignoring social cues of your discomfort.

boom-wham-slam · 2024-06-07T14:10:59+00:00

Here's an example from real life.

Friend says "I would never call a woman a cunt" girl nearby says "excuse me I don't like that language" and looks at him all nasty.

I smile at her, she smiles back I say "don't be a cunt about it" she laughs and apologized saying she's just having a bad day and starts having a conversation with us.

My friend is straight up pure average 5. I'm I'd say an 8.

Why was just over hearing the word so offensive from an average man but a hot guy saying it directed at her made her happy?

This is the creep factor men are talking about.

SlashCo80 · 2024-06-07T12:35:39+00:00

I think both can be true. Being creepy is being socially inappropriate in a vaguely threatening manner. At the same time, good-looking men (and women for that matter) get away with more stuff, while ugly or socially inept people with innocent intentions might be unfairly labeled. Sad but understandable.

Large-Signal-157 · 2024-06-07T12:33:09+00:00

Is it ok if I give you the answer in several environments?

Men: following, not taking no for an answer, getting me drunk while not drinking as much themselves.

Colleagues: tracking my breaks, putting read receipts on everything, micromanaging

Family: psycho levels of control, excessive texting and calling, excessive doom and gloom

Friends: too close too fast, running into them too much for it to be a coincidence

obviousredflag · 2024-06-07T12:58:51+00:00

not following social norms regarding behavior or looks + expressed or assumed sexual interest.

toasterchild · 2024-06-07T13:33:41+00:00

The difference is almost always uncomfortable staring for me. Plenty of guys will make eye contact from across the room and give you a flirty smile now and then which is fine. The ones who register as creepy to me are the ones who stare dead face at me for long periods of time like they are sizing me up. Makes me feel like you are planning what vegetables would be best to eat me with.

And clearly ones who don't take no for an answer.

CraftyCooler · 2024-06-07T13:38:01+00:00

I was studying with a girl who was working at a store selling windows and stuff, and she was constantly complaining about 'creeps' that try to ask her out, and was jealous of her friend working at motorcycle dealership that 'at least guys coming in there are hot". Sometimes i hear talks in a train where girls are really disgusted by ugly guys that have the audacity to talk to them even though they should know their place. It is my general observation that being approached by ugly guy is an insult for good looking girls.

Whoreasaurus_Rex · 2024-06-07T14:39:47+00:00

Creepy is any man who won't back off after being turned down. IDGAF what he looks like. It's also creepy to look into my car and knock on my window to get my attention.

kongeriket · 2024-06-07T12:25:32+00:00

There is no commonly-accepted definition. Which is why I don't use the word and don't take it seriously whenever anyone else uses until they get into specifics.

Creepy is the womanese equivalent of bitch or girl boss (which also don't have consistently accepted definitions). It's whatever a woman feels about that particular individual man in that particular instance. The exact same interaction but with a different man will not be labelled creepy by the exact same woman.

Garbage word, garbage concept. Not much to discuss about except on acquiring ways to be(come) more precise in one's language (true for men as well).

serpensmercurialis · 2024-06-07T14:50:44+00:00

I ask this because Im constantly seeing guys say “Well if he was hotter, it’d be okay” but I never see these guys list examples.

They think being a creep relates to behavior risking romantic rejection when it actually is more along the lines of behavior risking social punishment. I’m going to give an example.

One of the hottest guys I ever knew was pretty into me and I was kind of aware, but he had just broken up with his girlfriend of 4 years and I recognized that was going to be a dumpster fire. 6’, Lockheed, pretty boy always in a tight V neck - a pretty typical “chad.” He acted mostly normal when I was with my friends and him in person, but one time we all got drunk playing video games at home and were group video calling. I was in a long-ish crop top, nothing crazy. Fast forward to another night where he was sharing his screen to show me a picture of something. He thought he stopped screen sharing, but didn’t. This dude opens a video he recorded with my cam made bigger in the group call from that night. Not lewd, just us all drunk playing video games. He is WATCHING THE VIDEO WHILE TALKING TO ME.

You have to understand, up until that point I saw hot guys like men see hot women. There’s no way they do weird shit, right? They’re not desperate so they wouldn’t act like creeps! Wrong. Worldview shattered. Any attraction decimated. To this day, very guarded about what kind of digital images exist of me in any capacity where a male friend or acquaintance has access to it. No social media with my face or body. Because honestly? A lot of the time very attractive men act creepy and obsessive. It still blows my mind but it doesn’t seem to be getting better with age.

There’s a certain type of behavior where you already know 95% of people are not going to feel comfortable with what you’re doing. That’s what makes it creepy - that you know it’s not cool but are trying anyway. That is the ick factor, not just attractiveness.

Dangerous-Ad-1191 · 2024-06-07T14:56:40+00:00

For sure a spectrum but most commonly I think it’s just a lack of picking up social cues whether it’s intentional or not.

Overly sexual comments.

Trying to make you feel comfortable with them and then abruptly switching up on you and turning your being nice to them as a guaranteed interest that you now can’t turn down

yaboytim · 2024-06-07T14:14:05+00:00

I've seen a woman say it once on Reddit. I believe she was talking about how it would be creepy if a guy she wasn't attracted to her was looking at her cleavage, but not a guy she was attracted to. I told her that it should be creepy regardless, since both of the guys in the scenario were complete strangers. But something wasn't clicking!

igotbannedsoimback · 2024-06-07T12:00:02+00:00

I mean it's common knowledge? When an attractive guy hits on a girl she's receptive but when an unattractive guy does it it immediately becomes creepy.

egalitarian-flan · 2024-06-07T12:43:32+00:00

Creepy behavior comes from both sexes, it's not something that only men do. And it's just as spine-tingling and hackles-raising when attractive men do it.

Examples:

-Following me out to my car after shift end

-Standing close enough that our bodies/clothing rubs when there's no reason to

-Touching or sniffing my hair

-Leering or staring without blinking for 30+ seconds

-Making sexual comments about what they want to do to my body

-Trying to give a "shoulder massage" randomly and without permission

-Backing me into a corner or against a wall

-Trying to touch my neck or tits

bubbagator · 2024-06-07T12:39:02+00:00

If you think about what those men are saying between the lines, they want a justification for that weird behavior.

They're exposing themselves by saying if they were just "hotter" if they could get away it. They don't want to reflect on why it's weirdo shit, they just want to do it.

No_Suit4227 · 2024-06-07T15:09:17+00:00

Short girls progressively getting closer to us taller guys knowing we're getting drunker and they'll get us in bed after a few more drinks.

Expensive-Tea455 · 2024-06-07T16:47:26+00:00

Men who won’t go away after you’ve already told them no 🌝

bigtoasterwaffle · 2024-06-07T18:00:41+00:00

I've always defined creepy behavior as persistent unwanted advances.

If you make advances and they're wanted > no issue

If you make advances and they're not wanted, so you say have a nice day and leave > no issue

Make unwanted advances, she's not interested, push further/get mad > creepy

Being good looking means that it's less likely that your advances will be unwanted in the first place, but the best looking guy in the world can still be creepy if he's getting pushy with a girl who's gay/taken

yodawgchill · 2024-06-07T18:15:34+00:00

Generally it doesn’t matter too much how attractive the guys is, however, it can sometimes become a contributing factor considering that some less attractive men will have less experience interacting with women or flirting so they may do or say things that aren’t “normal” or accepted forms of flirting/approach. Also a lot of “unattractive” men are just unkempt. Like when people say unattractive they aren’t usually only talking about your genetics. If you dress poorly and don’t look like you take good care of yourself or your hygiene, you are also in that category and people who are unattractive for those reasons become more likely to be avoided.

Some people also tend to be more gentle rejecting more conventionally attractive men is because it may seem like they are more likely to take rejection poorly. While that type of personality is not necessarily associated with appearance, I have definitely been told that guys who are attractive and think a lot of themselves often think they inherently deserve a chance and may be more likely to react poorly to rejection. This can be a recipe for disaster. It may not be entirely true, but it’s definitely a belief that gets circulated enough that I think it could affect people’s responses to men who are conventionally attractive and seem a bit over-confident. People tend to play it safe if they aren’t sure if they may provoke a negative reaction.

Pretty-Shopping205 · 2024-06-07T18:18:35+00:00

Staring at me through machines at the gym while I'm working out, staring at me from the corners of the gym, staring at me and continuing to stare after I give you the eye lock to look away. Yes, I get a ton of unwanted male attention at the gym no matter what I have on. There are some rather good looking men who do this too and it's completely, and utterly creepy. One ass used to do this strange eye lock everytime he saw me. So I locked eyes back, waved & smiled and he turned his head lol..

half3mptyhalffull · 2024-06-07T18:31:08+00:00

i think guys being creepy comes down to whether or not they will prioitize treating people respectfully over getting (or trying to get) what they want.

its hard to explain, but body language and tone give that away with most guys. some hide it pretty well, and you dont know until youre in a scary situation that he created. and guys who always prioritize treating people with respect over getting what they want- it literally feels safer to be around them than to be alone.

in my personal experience, creepy guys act delusional. like if you say "no im not interested in going out with you" they say "well we dont have to go to (place he originally mentioned), we could go somewhere else." or like if you say "please stop staring at me, its making me uncomfortable." they say "oh dont be so shy."

ive never been treated/spoken to like an actual human being by a creepy guy.

caption291 · 2024-06-07T18:34:40+00:00

I think a good example of what I consider behavioral creepiness would be this woman.

What I think of when I think of creepy men would be most of the men in this incident(the woman is also creepy but she's not the point) and more generally lawyers, politicians, celebrities, etc... People like Trudeau or Dwayne Johnson.

hearyoume14 · 2024-06-07T21:11:34+00:00

I’m a AuDHD female.

Not being able to read social cues is real and it’s either that or just anti-social behavior. I have face blindness and NVLD. One thing that usually trips me up is I’m used to talking and walking with people so when I’ve dealt with people who want the opposite things get awkward.I can see this being something. I haven’t progressed beyond toddler me trying to pet a moose so there’s that.

Economy-House171 · 2024-06-08T14:58:03+00:00

Prolonged excessive staring from anyone is creepy- no matter how attractive,

not being able to take no as an answer/ not recognising when someone is uncomfortable

for me any kind of sexual comment/joke from a man will creep me out, again regardless of how attractive they are

Nyanpireeee · 2024-06-10T07:00:48+00:00

Hitting on someone your age (in a polite manner) once is NOT creepy. Continuing to hit on them after they are visibly uncomfortable or verbally express disinterest is creepy. Catcalling is also creepy. Hitting on someone significantly younger is also creepy. Pls get the 80 year olds away from me and don’t let them gr0pe me :((

I think people just need situational awareness and emotional intelligence and they won’t get called creepy. Don’t start a conversation saying overtly sexual things to someone you just met. Don’t corner a woman in a non-public space. Accept no for an answer. Learn to recognize discomfort, you’ll be fine.

Sadly, I do think “unattractive” guys do have a harder time. I think they can still successfully express interest without getting called creepy if they do it right, but I do think they get called creepy more. It’s definitely possible to have charm while being conventionally unattractive, but it’s harder. Very hot guys do get away with more than they should sometimes.

It’s a bigger issue if you are neurodivergent or socially awkward. Unfortunately, we live in a world that’s not always very safe for women, and women have to be very cautious- and will sometimes interpret a guys body language as threatening if he is neurodivergent or awkward. I don’t think it’s either party’s fault. Just an unfortunate side effect of struggling to interact. On the contrary, some women actually find social awkwardness cute.

Honestly, it’s about boundaries, approach, situational awareness.

Individual_Speech_10 · 2024-06-10T13:26:44+00:00

Touching me without permission

Ditching me mid conversation when you realize you won't get sex

Asking me if I have a boyfriend as the first sentence that comes out of your mouth

Inappropriate sounds or gestures

Staring

TheUnsungSaint · 2024-06-10T19:46:43+00:00

I have literally no clue because I've never experienced fear in my entire adult life lol.

sweetestpineapple · 2024-06-07T14:24:31+00:00

Catcalling on the street, not being able to take rejection in public, publicly bragging about sexual things, continually sliding into DMs after being declined or ignored, and purposely pursing women who are extremely drunk or high. Simply asking someone out who ends up not being into you isn’t creepy imo. Giving one respectful compliment that doesn’t quite land also isn’t creepy. To me creepiness is having an extreme lack of awareness that makes others feel understandably unsafe.

shuvo240 · 2024-06-07T17:37:55+00:00

Lol yeah

Sparkling_gourami · 2024-06-07T12:40:17+00:00

The attractive versus unattractive man is a red herring. Hot men can be creepy as well, I've seen it. I'd have to imagine a big part of what makes a man creepy to a woman is when the man does the action. If I tell someone I've been dating for a while that their eyes are beautiful, she's smile and blush - it's not creepy at all. If I tell a random woman at the grocery store she has beautiful eyes, it's creepy. If I've been chatting with a woman that I just met, and I can tell there are signs she's into me, we hold eye contact for a moment of silence, and then I say she has beautiful eyes, that's flirty, not creepy. In all these scenarios attractive or unattractive men can succeed or fail here.

What I would say, is since the attractive man is going to be more desirable, he'll be in situations where he can tell the girl she has beautiful eyes more often. He's probably also better at reading the signals women send out.

DietTyrone · 2024-06-07T13:55:48+00:00

Here's an experiment. Take the the MC from those movies women love, like Edward from Twilight or Gray from 50 Shades, and replace those with an ugly guy and tell me if those actions are still sexy or creepy.

Imagine instead of Edward stalking Bella and watching her sleep it's some fat guy with sausage link fingers and heavy breathing. Still sexy and romantic?

Now take Gray's BDSM closet but imagine working for Trump and coming across a closet of ball gags and leather in his office.

Are you starting to see how these scenes a lot of women found sexy or romantic take a whole different meaning by just changing whose doing the action?

Unhappy_Offer_1822 · 2024-06-07T12:36:11+00:00

i dont think ive ever used the word creepy to describe someone. i think a better word for what most people use creepy for is clueless

Equivalent-Cat5414 · 2024-06-07T12:44:49+00:00

Touching me anywhere, especially my bare skin or my hair. Some places are of course worse than others, like the lower back is bad. Asking to make out with me when we’re not dating has happened a couple times from acquaintances and felt creepy. Also staring for longer than 30 seconds at a time or complimenting my boobs or butt. Honking or whistling at me when I’m walking outside by myself, and usually when I’m dressed for the warmer weather.

berichorbeburied · 2024-06-07T12:49:03+00:00

I’ll give a quick example.

An unattractive chubby older man was trying to flirt with an underage woman.

And she was giving him hints that she was still in high school. And when he was waiting to talk to her. And asked if she had an Instagram. And she said she was talking to someone.

She told me he was creepy.

I told her I hope next time the person who flirts with her is the man of her dreams. She just responded she wants someone who looks her age.

Mind you this person laughs and jokes with a man in his 30’s but that man isn’t creepy to her.

So essentially it’s about being unattractive.

And to a lesser extent having sexual undertones while being unattractive.

And ultimately her not being attractive to you and repulsed by you and not feeling safe.

Ok-Entertainer-1401 · 2024-06-07T13:25:12+00:00

Cold approaching whilst being ugly. Also not taking no for an answer and being a pest.

ComfortableJeans · 2024-06-07T13:50:19+00:00

Honestly, the "creepy" is just dependant on how I feel about you. What's our relationship?

I've had exes do some very "creepy" things, but I was in love with them. So, basically nothing bothered me, and I even thought it was cute.

Are you a stranger? If you are, even standing too fucking close to me is enough for me to find you unsettling and worry about what you're up to.

Also, as unpleasant and unfair as it is, in terms of strangers/non-romantic partners, what a person looks like is also going to be somewhat involved too. Like, a 5'4 slim girl with a pretty face is going to be much less creepy than a 6'1 obese girl with an unattractive face would be, doing the same thing.

In the same sense that girls have a lot more leeway for a 6'2, handsome chad, boys do exactly the same thing.

Edit: You can downvote all you want, but nothing I said wasn't true.

Affectionate_Cat1512 · 2024-06-07T12:33:38+00:00

Two independent instances (in two different places - both being pubs/bar)

Me, approaching a lonely girl at the counter: - Hi, I'm X. May I buy you a drink? - ew, get away, creep

Me, approaching a girl, with whom I just sing (karaoke bar, she just jumped in and started singing) - Hey, do you like XYZ (band we just performed)? They are quite niche in Poland - Leave me alone, creep

I...can't even. I just don approach, because it may be creepy

Unusual_Implement_87 · 2024-06-07T13:11:37+00:00

It's based on the halo/horn effect. An ugly guy will be perceived as being more creepy than a good looking guy doing the exact same thing.

Hungry-Society-7571 · 2024-06-07T12:43:00+00:00

I’m not threatened by most men at all so you’d have to really go overboard to creep me out. Otherwise it’s just kind of annoying.

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learn2earn89 · 2024-06-07T17:25:46+00:00

The creepy guys I know are the ones at work who are way older and love to make inappropriate comments to the younger women. (Not all)

None of the young (age 18-40) guys are creepy.

apresonly · 2024-06-07T17:53:27+00:00

Not taking no for an answer.

Title	What do you consider creepy?
Author	LillthOfBabylon
Upvotes	19
Comments	333
Date	June 7, 2024 11:56 AM UTC (2 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/PurplePillDebate
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/PurplePillDebate/comments/1da8tqo/what_do_you_consider_creepy/
Archive Link	https://theredarchive.com/r/PurplePillDebate/what-do-you-consider-creepy.1520826 https://theredarchive.com/post/1520826

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