I believe women are the sexual selectors. I’ve been fat, in shape, no money, good career, fat again, multiple glow ups in my life. Based on my experience you’re largely at the mercy of women on being able to get romantic affection. You can put in effort to talk to women, but how women treat you is mainly based on how desirable you are.

Here’s my personal assessment based on desirability relative to other men how your romantic life will go in general.

Bottom 30% of guys. You are in sexual market poverty. You might be trying to work a friendzone, you can’t get dates. Women in general think there’s something wrong with you or perhaps you have obvious disqualifying qualities. Women prefer to avoid, or not to even look at you as any sort of romantic option. You’ve either given up or if you’re persistent enough for long enough you’ll find a partner.

30-79% of guys. You’re out of poverty, but you’re still mostly invisible to women. Women when they do look think you’re mid. You’re in trickle down economics for female affection. Affection happens, but you don’t feel in control, you just keep looking for signs. You rely a lot on being in proximity of women. Picking up women and dating apps are hard. You will find a partner, but it will feel like a struggle until it clicks with a girl.

Top 80-94% of guys. These guys are now in the power position. Women consider you handsome, they may be aware you have a career and home which makes you more desirable. Women smile at you often, make small talk. You can approach women pretty successfully, dating apps can be a good option if you’re working on pics. If you’re willing to go up and down the scale of women, getting women, hookups, dates, and women wanting to be with you is routine. Women will also flirt with you openly.

Top 95-99% of guys. You could care about being a player or not, and you will still be flooded with as many romantic options as you want. You can turn the faucet as heavy as you like for dates, hookups, harems from as many women as you want. This is the range where you can be picky and still get lots of women. Getting women is either a hobby or a total non issue for you. Dating apps work like magic and you can just summon women to show up where you want, most women on a date will want to hook up with you.

Top 1% of guys. I haven’t made it here, but this is my impression. You are hot and cool, women check you out, you’re so desirable you make most women nervous. You do what you want, you pick the types of girls you want. Most women of any age desire you. Romantic affection comes so naturally you don’t even think about it. Women throw themselves at you because you are a trophy. Most these guys only date very beautiful or attractive successful women, because they don’t have time for any others. I know guys who are on this level, threesomes can be normal to them if that’s what they are going for, it’s truly make up whatever fantasy about women and it’s yours.

To clarify these tiers aren’t just based upon just how you look. You can be short and ugly, and still be a top 20% guy if you got enough going for you with social status and lifestyle.

I’ve been in each category of guy in my life except top 1%. That’s my impression of what generally your romantic life will be like as you cross into different tiers.