Men are judged for pretty much any perceived lack of independence, but women are allowed (and sometimes encouraged) to be independent at their convenience

I was just told by three different women, one of whom is my closest friend, that they view me as less of a man because I'm 36 years old and don't have a car. They expressed the thought that a woman picking up an adult man in her car is shameful.

Meanwhile, some women unabashedly refer to themselves as "passenger princesses" (or even sometimes "Uber queens"), and I've never seen anyone bat an eye if a man picks up an adult woman in his car.

I have severe anxiety, depression, and OCD, all of which have limited my ability to learn how to drive and purchase a car. I also live downtown in a city with one of the country's best public transportation systems. None of that matters, though, because I'm a man, while I've never seen a woman similarly judged for similar circumstances regarding personal transportation.

This is a microcosm of the pressure men are constantly under to be independent at all times, while women don't have that same pressure. This also applies to things like women paying for dates, living with one's parents as an adult, etc.