Maybe 15%*

Of course it's not black and white but you know what I'm talking about.

The ones who obnoxiously pursue anything on two legs and try to win her over by waging a war of attrition like a hyena stalking a dying antelope.

The one's who make everything sexual from the get go regardless of whether or not it's appropriate to the setting with no consideration toward her feelings

The one who can't take no for an answer and implode then go on an abusive tirade about how she's actually beneath them and should be thankful that they were interested etc

The types who know what to say in order to get what they want then leave her high and dry once they've got it

The ones who turn abusive and controlling and leave women traumatized and distrusting of men if they manage to break away from them

Most men I know are not guilty of this sort of degeneracy - I've known a few who were, including a good friend as it turned out (who I promptly cut ties with)

But when you're hiking through the wilderness and a snake slithers across your path, you assume it's venomous even if it's more than likely not.

These days most women will deliberately avert their gaze as they walk past - I'm a tall good looking guy, but I don't take it personally, because I have a female friend who once simply smiled at a guy she passed by who ended up stalking her back to her house where she had to get her dad and brother to run out the front and chase him off. A neighbor told me over a drink recently that several years ago she decided to stay out at a club after her friends headed home and ended up being raped at knifepoint in a park that she was walking through to get back to her apartment. My cousins ex-boyfriend become more and more controlling until he threatened to kill her dog if she went on a bachelorette party, she escaped with the dog in the middle of the night and stayed at her parents house but he stalked her for months and it was a very messy process since they had a house together (I stayed with this guy and honestly never saw any signs that he was a psychopath)

Very extreme examples, but unfortunately such events leave indelible scars on the mind that completely overshadow the many pleasant interactions they have and friendships with authentic and well-meaning guys.

Yes, the guy who's approaching at the mall might be a true gentleman with whom you'll have an amazing lifelong romance, but there's also a chance he's a demented stalker so it isn't worth the risk - best to keep your head down and hope to meet someone through friends or at college etc.

Hammered with lame hypersexual messages on dating apps that seem to have been written by 12 year olds plus all of the horror stories - best to delete the fucking things.

And it's impossible to prove you're a healthy minded well meaning person until they give you the chance and the time.

As a guy I can hardly complain about being prejudged/ misjudged and the barriers I face in dating when women's safety is on the line, but every now and then I find myself getting furious with the way a minority of men have ruined the dating experience for everyone else, or at least made it much more difficult and much more fraught.

And of course women aren't all saints, probably 5% are pure toxic and abuse and manipulate men all the same (one of my friends gf's was violent and abusive toward him and another one cheated on him when they were engaged) and some women reinforce the wrong behaviors by responding well to attention-seekers and assholes and overlook red flags. (And militant feminists/misandrists just fuel the fire, but I think it was lit by these scummy men)

But the point is that a small minority really ruin it for the majority and I realize this comes as news to nobody but every now and then I like to vent this to the void.

Agree ? Disagree?