How do you guys deal with the fact your ex-wives could pick anyone up in a week, but it might take you YEARS (or never)?

ideliver22 · 2023-04-12T14:07:25+00:00

Show me a hot woman. And I’ll show you a man that’s tired of $&&@ing her

She’s not your problem anymore

Recent_Courage_404 · 2023-04-12T13:51:22+00:00

Opposite here. I have a short line of women interested in me, turns out ex was wrong and I am acceptable as a partner.

DeadlyFern · 2023-04-12T13:24:46+00:00

I am over 40. I went through two years of spraying it around and realized it was largely unforefilling and destructive.. Evolutionary biology is a bitch but it can be ignored. Dont envy a cock conveyor belt.

funk205 · 2023-04-12T14:47:13+00:00

Honestly looks don’t matter as much in the long run. My ex wife was gorgeous when I married her but she was a total pain in the ass and she ended up cheating on me. Finding a woman who will treat you as an equal and bring you peace is 1000% better in my opinion, even if she is average looking. It’s about personality for me now.

Spiritual-Educator-7 · 2023-04-12T15:47:54+00:00

Not sure if female opinions are welcome here but just know that those guys lining up for her probably aren’t looking for a relationship and she is likely to be left pretty unfulfilled. Divorced women (especially in our 40s) quickly find out that sex is easily accessible, but maybe not with anyone we’d actually want to spend time with. Her match queue is mostly 25 year olds with a cougar fetish or 65 year olds wanting to date younger. All to say don’t get too down thinking she’s got it easy… she doesn’t.

Diablo_Canyon2 · 2023-04-12T14:36:38+00:00

A 43 year old single man who has his shit together has a higher market value than a 43 year old single woman no matter how attractive she is.

MartyMcFly7 · 2023-04-12T16:26:38+00:00

tl;dr dating gets easier for men as they age (and harder for women).

I was 50 when I was divorced and had the opposite experience.

I was worried I wouldn't meet anyone, especially not being very social, but word got around I was getting divorced and I had two long-term relationships (still in the second one) before the divorce decree was even signed! I never even had to go on the apps.

I ended up dating someone I still consider to be out of my league. She's much better looking than my ex, thinner, and earns more money than I do. It was kinda surreal, actually. Why would this girl be so crazy into me?

I've since discovered that, after 50, there is a 50/50 dating ratio on dating apps instead of 2 or 3 guys for every girl in the younger brackets.

It gets even worse for women as we age. Some men will die off, others will get scooped up if they have any value, many prefer to not have long-term relationships, and others are looking for younger women, all of which leaves women with a lackluster selection.

If you read comments from women in these forums, you'll see it's no picnic for them.

My ex is now the one struggling. While I've been doing fine, she has been on several dating apps and hasn't scored a single date. The few guys that do approach her are mostly single for a reason (criminal record, much older, disabled, alcoholics, unattractive, etc.). And the guys she's into, the ones she thinks she deserves, all turn to be scammers.

So, your ex may be hot, but odds are the hot guy she's eyeing probably has his eyes on someone half her age (or isn't interested in actually dating her).

cschoonmaker · 2023-04-12T16:54:01+00:00

We've been divorced for 10 years. She's had 2 relationships in that time. I've had zero. Haven't even been on a date. But her second relationship ended up in marriage and got me out of paying spousal support for life. So fuck yeah I'm happy about it. 😎

ABBucsfan · 2023-04-12T13:43:14+00:00

Eh honestly only time I was ever in a dark place and lonely was married to her. Only other times was having my heart broken growing up. Otherwise I spent around two decades single, but not lonely or in a dark place. Best moments of my life. I pity the sucker she picks up. Let em have her. I'm sure she's physically attractive for our age (she had let herself get on the fat side, but think she finally got off the couch a bit since we split and lost a bit) but after seeing her true side I have no idea how I was attracted before. I come across other women I'm attracted to but honestly just prefer peace and stability over excitement. I know how bad it can go and best case scenario relationships are still a pain in the butt.. I just look at all my friends

Oh and my daughter already said she's scolding the new bf and she feels bad for him sowmtimes. So she couldn't even wait until she had him locked down to start. Would have thought after one divorce he'd grow a backbone having gone through it myself and say I won't allow that again

Striking-Trainer8148 · 2023-04-12T13:55:36+00:00

You COULD get a girl in a day but neither she nor the relationship would be one of quality.

Do it right. Wait for the right one. Just because she’s hit with options doesn’t mean she’ll have it easy. Decision paralysis is very real and the asset you are jealous of (her beauty) is fleeting at best. If anything in the long run it will be to her detriment.

I’ve dated several gorgeous women and not 1 of them has stood the test of time once I was out of their lives and no longer bending over backwards to make sure they had everything done for them.

One shredded my heart in 2008. She was as close to a divinity as you could get. Brown hair, blue eyes, 6pack abs and 34C’s. I bumped into her on the subway in 2017 and she was about 280lbs. We had a brief conversation and as she walked away I noticed she wasn’t walking, but waddling. Seriously. Swaying side to side as she shuffled along. I called her Waddles in my mind as a giggle and as a way to forget the past.

She looked me up in 2019 (3 days after my marriage to someone with a 00 waist and 11 years younger than me. Helluva coincidence) and sent an email saying she was ready to put the past behind us and she’d like to meet up for drinks.

I hadn’t spoken to her in almost 13 years other than that interaction on the subway and she signed her email, “Love XOXOXO,”

Not only has that email allowed me to inwardly LOL for the last 4 years, it’s given me a huge boost of smug satisfaction.

Living well is the best revenge.

Time is on your side in this battle. Make it count.

Individual_Essay8230 · 2023-04-12T16:08:56+00:00

Age is a number and beauty fleeting. I am 57, bald, and have no game. BUT I am making money, taking care of myself AND my responsibilities, doing inner work and doing creative gigs on the side. I get approached all the time. When I want to get laid, I’ll be able to get laid. So will you. Work on yourself and put her in the back of your mind. If you take care of yourself first, the rest will follow. Oh and don’t ever tell yourself something is out of your league. Tell yourself you are worth it.

CaliDude75 · 2023-04-12T13:58:37+00:00

I’ve had limited success meeting women. Been on a few dates with what I would consider objectively very attractive women. I’d honestly rather be with a 6/10 that respects me than a 9/10 that treats me like a servant or takes me for granted.

I’m working on losing weight, and am going to re-take some pictures for OLD profiles. I consider myself reasonably good-looking, but know at my age (47) I’ve got to stand out above the crowd. Don’t lose hope, and looks aren’t everything.

JonathanApple · 2023-04-12T13:58:05+00:00

Helps that I have better game than ex, a woman nearing 50 loses value compared to man... Nope not worried

RideATX · 2023-04-12T14:23:08+00:00

Get better. I dropped 20lbs, hit the gym every day and got jacked and then I absolutely slayed for a couple of years before getting into a LTR. Anyone can do it, it just takes effort. The fact that you think any girl is out of your league is your problem. They're all just goofy girls inside, once you realize this its like Neo at the end of The Matrix.

vector5633 · 2023-04-12T14:05:48+00:00

Why does it matter? Focus on yourself. Don't worry how much of a whore an X becomes. We get value as we age, they on the other hand hit the wall.

NefariousNaz · 2023-04-12T16:30:01+00:00

My ex wife was pretty ugly so that's not an issue for me.

Weary_Landscape_7098 · 2023-04-12T17:41:32+00:00

It sucks, but there's nothing you can do about it. I'm in a similar position. My ex-wife is very pretty on the outside (especially after the tummy tuck and boob job she got after a pregnancy), but she turned into an ugly person on the inside towards the latter half of our marriage. Whoever she ends up dating will eventually realize why she's divorced: because she is arrogant and narcissistic, and thinks she's better than everyone else.

I'd rather be with someone who is a 6-7 on the outside and is a wonderful person on the inside, than with a 10 who has an awful personality. That outside beauty will fade, but being good on the inside is attractive forever.

The only thing we as men can do is work to improve ourselves and accept the fact that women, especially beautiful women, will always have more options than most men.

macbookd · 2023-04-12T15:33:03+00:00

you need to love yourself. i was in your shoes about 3 years ago but i put on a lot of muscle since then and do fine now with women.

In fact, my new girlfriend is younger, with a better body, without any emotional baggage, and is very submissive. It took some time but I got a huge upgrade.

AlmostThere22 · 2023-04-12T14:07:02+00:00

My STBX is pretty hot too and only 28. I'm 33.

You need to get into the gym and lift weights 4 days a week.

You may also want to update your wardrobe so that you're wearing properly fitted modern clothes. Wear those clothes every time you leave the house.

Watch your diet. Eat lean meat and vegetables 6 days a week.

Get on GOA Skin Care and order whatever men's facial package you think suits you and use this daily.

You should also have your testosterone levels checked by your doctor as well.

At 42 you're far from over. You're still in your prime as a man. Your dating range should be 25-41.

Read No More Mr Nice Guy by Robert Glover.

Read When I Say No I Feel Guilty

Read The Rational Male by Rollo Tomassi.

You do all of those things listed above. In 1 year your sexual market value will be significantly higher.

lordgoofus1 · 2023-04-12T15:02:07+00:00

By not caring what she's doing with her life. Knowing who she's dating/sleeping with provides no value. She's a relic from my "before" life, and I'm only interested in looking forward, not back.

stent00 · 2023-04-12T16:18:27+00:00

Hot women are a dime a dozen. No shortage of them. They are not special just because they have beauty. They might be a complete knightmare... I'd suggest learning to be happy being single before you try to attract a mate. Women can see desperation a mile away. Work on yourself first and then women will be easier to attract. That is if you even want to bother. Being single is a pretty sweet life

Renee9485 · 2023-04-12T16:57:42+00:00

It’s better that guy than me.

strutt3r · 2023-04-12T17:01:39+00:00

Raise your standards for a partner beyond easing your loneliness, or you'll be asking the same question again in a couple years.

Raise your self worth above being able to attract a partner for the same reason.

If you keep doing what you've always done, you'll get what you've always gotten.

turbospeedsc · 2023-04-12T18:32:25+00:00

When i first divorced i was an overweight, balding, 30yo livng with 2 roommates in a mobile home, that had been with 5 women his whole life.

Ex wife was a hottie that was already going out with several guys, after some exercise and just getting out there i was dating 4-5 girls, in less than a year i slept with around 20 girls, started dating current wife a then very hot 23yo kindergarten teacher.

10 years later i can still pull very hot girls, ex-wife has been on a downfall.

My advice and something that worked for me, get the hottest most expensive escorts you can 4-5 different ones, do not repeat them, remove the magical pussy powers and realize sleeping with a very very hot 21yo girl takes nothing more than a few bucks not getting married and buying her a house.

Once you get having sex is not this magical thing, start going out to meet women, you will find out there are lots and i mean lots of girls looking for FWB, unfortunately most guys get attached after the first kiss, so girls are very wary of this and go the dating/relationship way.

rsmiley77 · 2023-04-12T19:52:54+00:00

Couple of things….

1) married guys, don’t pay for your wife’s plastic surgery… not that I know from experience 🙄 but you WILL end up paying it off while they try and use it to get laid.

2) as others have said, and fair or not, the older women get the less desirable they become to those looking to date. It’s the inverse for a well put together male. Your stbx will start off with plenty of choices. They will not last. Dating sucks and lots of the guys looking for tail and in the ‘dating circuit’ are looking for a reason. They have issues…

3) recently divorced males are desirable. Women aren’t just going to throw themselves at you but you’ll do ok and if you want you’ll find whatever you’re looking for in time. Happy hunting. 😁

Just remember when it comes to getting remarried the average age difference is just under 10 years. So you’re sweet spot is a woman in her low 30s. Your ex if the same age as you has a sweet spot of low 50s. Not that you should get remarried but it shows the difference in what you can expect versus what she should expect.

what to expect if you remarry

MGTOWManofMystery · 2023-04-12T21:00:50+00:00

Who cares? Get a sugar baby and enjoy life (and focus on personal goals that really matter to you).

Orlando1701 · 2023-04-12T23:33:59+00:00

Meh. It was the exact opposite for me, my ex wife wasn’t a bad looking woman but she had the interpersonal skills of a dead raccoon. She brought up the idea of an “open marriage” when things started going badly and the fact I was able to find a stable girlfriend fairly easily and she never got a second date really just hastened the end of our marriage. It’s been the same post divorce I’ve been seeing someone on a causal but regular basis why my ex wife still hasn’t had a second date.

Solid-Phase-1655 · 2023-04-13T00:04:44+00:00

Mine had a live in BF at 3 months separated that was a past couple worker. 11 months till divorce. She will be married soon, my guess. I only care so I know when to send a sympathy card. My 10th wedding anniversary was during separation. Greatest anniversary of the marriage. Most peaceful too.

It's me, my daughter, and dogs adventure now. Good luck.

dnbndnb · 2023-04-13T10:57:12+00:00

Don’t think of her getting some other guy, think of the nightmare some other guy will get in a pretty pink wrapper.

Ebon13 · 2023-04-13T11:01:39+00:00

Women have always been able to easily hookup with randoms. The problem is getting those randoms to COMMIT to them. Men are waking up and seeing the system for what it is. You can read articles everywhere on how men aren't dating or marrying anymore. Trust me brother, you're in a stronger position than you know.

Impressive_Pomelo847 · 2023-04-13T11:21:44+00:00

I had the same mindset for a year after the separation, but it turns out plenty of young women like older guys and also your general feeling towards life will improve immensely women or no women.

FineTransition96 · 2023-04-12T15:11:26+00:00

Just search "women hitting the wall" on youtube - The wall is undefeated. She might ride the carousel for a while until she realizes (too late) that none of her Chads and Tyrones are actually committing - why would they? She is on the decline and in a few years will suddenly not be so hot anymore. It will get harder and harder to even get dates until finally it dawns on her: she had only looks to offer and nothing else.

If you do the right things (exercise, diet, cultivate hobbies/interests) a man with 45-55 is an absolute catch - even with 65, if you are in shape and have your life in order, you can entice 33 year old bombshells. Just put in the work while she relies on her looks.

storm838 · 2023-04-12T17:55:23+00:00

I divorced at 47 and remarried at 49, several many notches up in the looks department and a whole different galaxy in emotional stability. I went from the worst to an absolute stunner and it never would have happened if I wouldn't have filed for divorce. Pull up them boots straps solider

Jbr74 · 2023-04-12T13:56:53+00:00

I'd deal with it knowing that she's got a few years at best left before she becomes a cat lady.

I'd also know that for me, I can look good into my 60s if I want.

"HOT women' in their 50s are true unicorns. I'd be hard-pressed to find many more than 10 even using celebs.

Throwaway19891953 · 2023-04-12T16:13:08+00:00

I have this fear also. My STBXW is def hot but she's also the one that cheated on me. She also ages terribly (wrinkles fought with Botox helps but saggy boobs and wrinkly tummy, not like you could tell when she's dressed up). Her mom looks 80 at 60.

Like others said I'm hopeful that I'm a good package - mid 30s, high paying job, house, motorcycle, got my life on track and I'm not the cheater. My brother created a fake tinder profile so we could scout the area and there are so many beautiful women here who also looked interesting. Also as others have said, men typically attract younger women. Women have to find someone older. Sexist but true. Don't give up bro

Accomplished-Toe5220 · 2023-04-12T16:55:41+00:00

Man have you tried tinder. Set it for 23 to 30 and have fun.

Competitive_Drop_908 · 2023-04-12T19:59:40+00:00

She can get any man, okay. Sure. But can she keep any man? Probably not.

I recommend reading the book rationale male.

Such_Substance_320 · 2023-04-12T20:36:07+00:00

Dogs are better companions than any woman

playerknowmore · 2023-04-12T21:51:28+00:00

Never pay for the next man's surgery. If they want to augment their body; they need to fund it. Have you ever picked up your kids? I'm always being checked out, dropping off the kids.

Most of us have way more money and nicer cars than we had when we got married.

morrowrd · 2023-04-13T08:48:29+00:00

My wife (ex wife) was really hot. That type of girl who doesn't have to do absolutely anything, and wear a potato sack, and still look good. That's all this girl brought to the table. My marriage was so one sided, it drained me to the point of now that it's over, I don't even want to date. The thought of marriage sickens my stomach. She had a boyfriend the day after we separated and that was the best thing that could have possibly happened...it got her and her brats out of my house fast. I own my home, outright and moved her in, and even though she's contributed nothing, not even upkeep, she's demanding 'her share' of the equity. During the four years of marriage and her living with me, she contributed nothing, and I mean nothing. Wouldn't even clean up after herself or her boys. The youngest punch holes in his bedroom wall during a tantrum because his pokemon card bent and he wanted to drive 45 minutes away, on a school night to get it replaced. Not to mention he hasn't gone to school in two years anyway, throws tantrums - the other son sits in his room playing games all day and night only coming out for food. My wife has done nothing but complain, quench any joy that is normal in a young marriage....one by one, everything that makes a romantic relationship, romantic, anything that makes a friendship, a friendship, was quenched. I felt for the last two of the four years of marriage I had a bratty spoiled single mom raising bratty spoiled children. That boyfriend was a godsend....I could kiss him. I've lived alone before and am a loner by nature. So I like my space....BUT since she left, that peace and quiet feels so good I can actually taste it. I never will get married again and I couldn't be happier how quickly she found a boyfriend. Take if from me, your 'hotty' wife did you a favor.

Just wanted to add a fun fact here - I knew her for 7 years as a friend and didn't find any red flags...those all happened almost immediately following the marriage. Even my best friend who knew her, didn't see any of this coming either. It has ruined my faith in marriage completely.

derelictherds · 2023-04-12T15:15:14+00:00

How do you guys deal with the fact your ex-wives could pick anyone up in a week, but it might take you YEARS (or never)?

I don't have to deal with this because it's not reality. At least not for me. I also have no snake oil to sell you. This self defeating thoughts will get you nowhere in life.

Zestyclose_Fun_7238 · 2023-04-12T16:22:53+00:00

If a 50 something dad bod ex cowboy can catch his fill you should be fine. What they are all looking for is confidence, security, comfort, and if you are lucky bedroom skills. Make those apparent and you are in. Treat them like humans instead of receptacles and you will get plenty of mileage.

Adventurous-Box-745 · 2023-04-12T16:37:59+00:00

Hit the gymn buddy

Crushed_95 · 2023-04-12T18:47:43+00:00

I dont deal with it. Dont care as I was the one shooting my DNA all in my ex-wife orifices for 20 years so the person that comes after me I dont give a shizzle about!

SecretDoctor8121 · 2023-04-12T18:49:47+00:00

Its just shows what kind of person she is. Also...its not equal regarding dating relationship etc etc. I'm 35 n had one ex ever....most women by that age least had 5 dude at least

XxJustadudexX · 2023-04-12T22:40:57+00:00

A man over 40 that’s less attractive than his wife, that’s your fault dude

Ecstatic-Eye-5766 · 2023-04-12T14:57:17+00:00

It’s much easier for women… much easier

mehmench · 2023-04-12T21:40:03+00:00

It sounds like you have some self esteem issues that you could probably work with a therapist on. And you take the dating over 40 sub too seriously.

Ok-Grand-1882 · 2023-04-12T18:47:05+00:00

I read your post history. What happened to her affair? You think that is still going on?

When she complains that she needs all your income, why haven't you suggested that she move in with this new guy and let him support her?

Plenty-Entertainer71 · 2023-04-12T19:15:24+00:00

Honestly who cares? She’s your ex wife why does it matter? you should be focusing on making the best of yourself and your kids if you have any.

CoverDeep3100 · 2023-04-12T19:30:11+00:00

I think you're being pretty hard on yourself, I was divorced at 40, hit the gym, quit smoking and drinking and dropped 60 lbs in about 4 months.

Set some goals and get on higher ground, you can become even better than before but it's going to take work. Use that anxiety/energy that we all get through and after divorce for good use.

I "dated" a 26 year old for awhile about 2 years after my divorce, it was fun and she was SMOKING hot!

You got this bro!

Data_Fan · 2023-04-12T20:17:06+00:00

Absolutely no problem with.

JohnnyMnemo · 2023-04-12T20:52:17+00:00

Don't be lonely, be active.

Do the things you want to do on your own time. Surround yourself with friends, activities, hobbies, recreation. And, learn to be comfortable and happy being alone. Alone does not necessarily mean being lonely.

Women can get sex easier than men, and always have. Fretting about it is like fretting about gravity. It's a physical fact of the universe and there is nothing you can do about it, besides live your best life.

And most women have more choices, but they're also less satisfied by those choices. Don't put yourself into her shoes because she's coming at it from an entirely different perspective. If you put a male brain in a female's body we'd be satisfied, or at least I think so. But women constantly complain about the quantity over quality, so take satisfaction in knowing that they're not satisfied either.

Here's a true, factual story: immediately, or even before, I divorced my wife I know for a fact that she slept with 10+ men off of Tinder. Nevertheless, she wound up shacking up with another woman. The moral of the story to me? While she could get dick much more easily, she was still not happy with the goods, enough so that she needed to switch teams to be happy. "the odds are good, but the goods are odd". Most women don't have that flexibility of mindset, so I believe will also wind up less than satisfied.

Fearless-Journey · 2023-04-12T21:36:23+00:00

Why are you talking so low of yourself mate. If you keep telling yourself you won’t find anybody then you won’t but you found somebody before so what stops you now. Fix your confidence, work out and have fun. Don’t try find a new commitment, just go have fun and actually enjoy life.

koolaidkid12345 · 2023-04-12T22:39:05+00:00

Bruh.. you should simply STOP thinking of her with men, or like that. It's time for you to think of yourself.. who cares what she does.. you're done. There are millions (like.. no joke.. millions) of single women.. many of which are WAY hotter than your wife ever was/will be, even in their 40s. You got plenty of time to find someone, if you want to. But instead.. focus on your freedom, yourself.. your body.. etc. Don't worry about someone else.

joemoorcarz · 2023-04-12T22:43:00+00:00

Let's get real, no matter why the divorce she's going to blame you. And her revenge will focus on showing you how quick she can be a major slut. Most won't wait for divorce to be final.

Just remember that's how desperate she is!

seattleskindoc · 2023-04-12T23:22:33+00:00

I met the woman of my dreams in the midst the of my divorce. Life has never been better. Take care of yourselves, gents.

Girl_Dad42 · 2023-04-12T23:58:26+00:00

I didn’t care after I got over the betrayal. Wound up better off as she was a head case and everyone after me would get sick of it after awhile. I did well enough myself and had a lot of fun.

david10277 · 2023-04-13T00:07:44+00:00

She will compare every guy to you and non will match . So she will remain searching for a unicorn.

Women age like milk Men age like wine.

Darkfire66 · 2023-04-13T00:28:23+00:00

Give yourself the love you're wasting on a woman who doesn't care about you. Love yourself and work on being better for yourself, because you need to spend every day for the rest of your life with who you are.

Once you level up as much as you can, you'll find an even better woman. You got her, you'll find another woman.

Healthy boundaries and getting out of a scarcity mindset changed my life. Therapy, philosophy, self discovery and growth.

I feel like my ex wife gave me the rest of my life back, and I'm much happier now. I'm with a much nicer, younger woman who treats me consistently great, and life has improved 10x from where it was.

Toni_Jabroni77 · 2023-04-13T04:56:34+00:00

Meh. There are always massage parlors and prostitutes if you are feeling the itch.

animalx3 · 2023-04-13T12:03:11+00:00

Dude shut your mouth. Don’t put women on a pedestal - you’ll never understand them. That’s why you like them so stop caring, talk to all women that show high interest in you, develop guy shit w guys and go out. Be open and don’t set expectations. You got this my man

rookiepatchaut · 2023-04-13T12:41:21+00:00

I think of some of the girls I dated back in the day. They weren’t as hot as my ex-wife (still cute), but they were absolute pleasers in bed and just much better people in terms of character and values. My ex was an insecure narc who always cared about how other people perceived her. And she cared a lot more about being pleased then pleasing.

She may be hot now, but she won’t be hot forever. None of us will. Father Time is undefeated. When those looks fade, all that will matter in a relationship is character and personality.

Just work on yourself, invest in your hobbies, maintain high standards, and don’t fear rejection from any woman going forward.

Renee9485 · 2023-04-13T12:52:49+00:00

Realistically, just make sure it’s someone good for your kids. It’s like any other dude entering their lives as a coach, mentor or whatever. Except this one is occupying your old headache, which is beneficial for you. The happier she is, the less miserable she should be inclined to try and make you.

Ambitious-Cheetah-36 · 2023-04-13T13:26:08+00:00

If I have learned one thing, far more ladies find older men way more attractive than I realized...and I am only 35..

wisstinks4 · 2023-04-13T18:00:35+00:00

Your getting a divorce due to Other things. Like she may have cheated or she is a mental head case crazy lady. Those things still hold true. Dont focus on the outside. Focus on finding a women who is complete on the inside. It will provide you a healthy life to. Carry on.

KEK0811 · 2023-04-14T03:15:50+00:00

Guess I'm lucky, mine plumped up nicely afterwards. But still sucks when they are with someone else either way.

JD-Anderson · 2023-04-14T13:21:54+00:00

When I divorced, my ex wasn’t a 10, but she was definitely cute, young (30), had very few sexual partners, and a good education and career. If she went after a husband then, she could have probably gotten a high value male…..but that’s not what happened. She decided to sleep with every guy in a 50 mile radius, and partying as much as she can.

Over a decade later, she’s in her 40’s but looks like she’s in her 50’s, losing hair like a mangy street cat, and the only guy who would marry her was jobless and living with his sister.

Meanwhile, I spent the years working on my self, trying to understand why she does what she does, then moving on to reading books like Unleash The Warrior Within and hanging out with wise men. I am now blessed by The Lord with a good business, an amazing woman, and awesome friends and family. And I look better than I did when she divorced me.

Point is, play the long game, don’t worry about her, and make YOUR life amazing.

Title	How do you guys deal with the fact your ex-wives could pick anyone up in a week, but it might take you YEARS (or never)?
Author	RichardCleveland
Upvotes	44
Comments	233
Date	April 12, 2023 1:14 PM UTC (3 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/Divorce_Men
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/Divorce_Men/comments/12jlwmf/how_do_you_guys_deal_with_the_fact_your_exwives/
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