A follow-up to an earlier thread, one of the most curious things I’ve found about women in this sub is the strong opinions they have on men’s masturbation habits: what they think of, what they use, when they do it, how often, etc. It can amount to a level of thought-policing usually reserved for fictional dystopian governments.

All else being equal—the guy doesn’t have a debilitating addiction, he doesn’t harass other people for his pleasure, he’s a completely normal citizen—what he thinks about in his private time shouldn’t be a concern to anyone except him. The last refuge any of us have is our own minds. If people, even our own SO’s, start feeling entitled to invade and dictate that then all is lost. And even if you don’t invade, having a hot take about it is odd in its own right. It’s one of the most justified reasons to break off a relationship I can think of.

This is related to sex and relationships because a lot of sexual health, in my opinion, is tied to a healthy outlook on masturbation. Start feeling guilt or self-repressive because of what you need to get off and it’s going to fuck up your relationships: you could be irritable toward others, combative, or just unnecessarily depressed because you let what people think affect how you spend your time alone with your thoughts. Not a way to live life IMHO.

Personally, I’m glad my SO isn’t the type to pry about that stuff. My “habits” were set in stone long before she came along and, god forbid, they’ll be there long after. Wasn’t until I started reading this sub that I realize how lucky I really am.