N-Count Mega-Thread

KickAss2021 · 2022-05-07T00:18:24+00:00

For most women, the wedding is a phase in life to stick it to other females who are unlucky. Ladies are taught to either fear men or see them as utilities. Keep that in mind. While men are taught to be protectors and providers. See the difference.

When a woman makes a list of minimum requirements for the "honor" of her company she is announcing to the world she craves attention to compensate for her severe lack of self worth.

From Twitter anon

SmarmyPapsmears · 2022-04-23T20:04:40+00:00

But we don't have any writing prompts. What do we talk about?

AnonPinkLady · 2022-04-29T21:26:28+00:00

The funny thing about N-count is it's so easy to lie about. People act like it's some official number on a record somewhere, that you could figure it out if you researched it, or know if a person is lying or not but you just can't tell. Folks that brag about only wanting low n count people don't seem to realize that high and low n count people are impossible to factually identify, because it's an easy thing to lie about. You will never truly know a person's n count and due to childhood SA and drunken nights, a lot of people can't remember their own n counts. That number is really just a big question mark, for all of the time. No one will ever know for a fact what your personal n count is because it can't be substantiated with any kind of proof. Any way to prove or disprove your n count could be faked easily. At the end of the day, we're all just taking each other's word for it. In that sense of things we can do whatever we want and still play the part of a virgin to someone new and for all they'd know it's the truth...your n count is meaningless really and if you're keeping track you should stop because it's a highly fallible estimate at best. a person could be a raging slut for years and then decide it's time to act and play the part of a virgin and just like that, it never happened according to their new partners... real food for thought. (assuming they don't have STIs or kids)

DaphneDK42 · 2022-04-28T13:43:00+00:00

Which is best?

No Hymen, No Diamond
No Seal, No Deal
Popped Cherry, Don't Marry

SmarmyPapsmears · 2022-04-23T20:12:44+00:00

My BF is a 25-year-old virgin, AMA

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tired_hillbilly · 2022-04-23T20:02:09+00:00

those evil sluts

Wow, even the auto-mod hates sluts.

BTFO

NoOne_143 · 2022-04-23T20:37:44+00:00

N is a racist word. Stop it already. It's 2022.

flapperfemmefatale · 2022-04-23T20:41:12+00:00

Fellas...it's gay to think about someone else's dick being in your woman.

Ainsleygz · 2022-04-23T20:06:21+00:00

Love the auto mod shade

mikey152 · 2022-04-28T11:17:14+00:00

If I had a magic wand, the one thing I think I would change is the whole pseudo-science evolutionary psychology instinct bullshit that runs rampant.

If you don’t want to date a high n woman because you have a fragile ego, just admit it. If she is sending clear signals that she isn’t looking to settle down and you are, so be it. If you can’t handle that she used to be easy and has since changed and has more respect for herself so now you “have to pay for what other guys got for free” so be it.

But let’s call a spade a spade and stop blaming instinct and evolution. You have some insecurities, likely around sex and relationship, that you need to work through. Insecurity brought on by a society that draws a strong correlation between masculinity and sexual success. People propagate these problems, not dna.

This is why I find the moniker “red pill” so ironic…it’s all about exploiting the system, not breaking free from it.

figuringMylife · 2022-04-27T21:51:21+00:00

FINALLY - have n count posts gone down because of this mega thread?

holy fuck. like i was so tired of reading that the men of ppd are disgusted by me every day. like damn ok i’m nasty i knew that already 🤪

smallstarseeker · 2022-04-27T19:10:09+00:00

Having a committed relationship with a high N woman is bad for your status.

And women do care about your status a lot.

So don't do it =)

2022-04-27T10:35:28+00:00

Men are instinctually driven to look for low n count women. Most men are shamed, bullied and insulted into going against their instinct by pairing up with their high n count woman. Given the choice between high and low n count women, men would choose the lower n count woman.

Ohmaygahh · 2022-04-26T08:35:25+00:00

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Rubber-duck7203 · 2022-04-26T08:23:55+00:00

I don't particularly have a problem with high N women, but women on this sub are basically lying if they don't think that average college going girl in her 20s does not rake up 10 partners in one year.

30 is not even a high N now, it pretty average for girls in their 20s now. Even those who are generally into LTRs, sleep with 10-12 guys in each of their hoe phases.

DrinkItInMan11 · 2022-04-26T00:49:14+00:00

What I want to ask for the people who are against high body count being a preference for men to not have,

Why? What's inherently wrong or bad about not wanting a high body count woman? It's not like it's hurting anyone, you're not a bad person for wanting a woman with a low body count. You can say "It's a silly preference and discriminatory!!!"

Most preferences are silly and preferences are discriminatory by nature. Why do you care so much about men not wanting to sleep with high n count women?

JMoon33 · 2022-04-25T23:10:56+00:00

In my opinion, it's ok to have preferences on the N-count of your future partner, but it's not ok to be unkind to people who don't match the number.

You wouldn't date a guy who's a virgin or very inexperienced? No problem! But don't insult them because of their low N-count.

You wouldn't date a girl with a high N-count? No problem! But don't insult them because of their low N-count.

I have a N-count somewhere around 30-35. I'm sure some people would find it problematic and wouldn't date me, but I'd still expect them to treat me with respect.

decoy88 · 2022-04-25T08:29:38+00:00

Please post

EVERY. SINGLE. AVERAGE N COUNT

data and statistics you can find.

Might make this a post if the mods allow…

EDIT: u/sleuthoftrades1

decoy88 · 2022-04-25T04:38:15+00:00

The thing about high n is that most women don’t have the type of n count that plagues the nightmares of men on here.

It’s not that men don’t care, it’s that few women have high enough n count to care about.

It’s very easy to find a not party-girl-slut. But they are also the types least likely to sleep with you quickly.

YouAskedIt · 2022-04-23T20:33:11+00:00

Should men only be allowed to fuck other men until marriage to preserve the virgin waifus?

2022-04-25T04:04:04+00:00

It’s like height for me. It makes no difference to me unless it’s extreme either way

KickAss2021 · 2022-04-25T01:35:31+00:00

https://archive.ph/jJWxF

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nWkPOFz3RSk&t=10826s

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1LRgZVReKWE

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=W1LaDN5yH9E

Her value comes from her actions and her "parents" (people who raised her)

She's isn't responsibility for how she naturally looks, and how her parents raised her, but she is responsible for her actions.

High n women usually got bored and divorce, not always, but more likely. Now cue, blues bringing in their anecdotes. ( I got one, I am close friends with a former D1 AA lacrosse player that is a supervisor at a Fortune 250 Company, essentially were talking about a minority within a minority, blues you sure do love your outliers)

Sad_Top1743 · 2022-04-24T20:21:28+00:00

I find it alarming that women care so little about this issue (at least on ppd).

Knowing their partners sexually history would save them a lot of time and heartache but they don’t want that conversation lol

VastlyVainVanity · 2022-04-24T19:48:59+00:00

There is a common misconception by many people, especially women in my opinion, which is that just because they've never/rarely had anyone directly ask them their n-count, then men don't really care about it and it's just incels from Reddit.

I think anyone sensible knows that most men do in fact care about a woman's sexual past, to different degrees. The vast majority of men interested in having monogamous relationships wouldn't wife up an ex-escort or ex-pornstar, for example. However, asking a woman's n-count directly is something very stupid and frowned upon, because it is a very crass way of learning about a woman's past.

It is, however, common for men to ask questions that are adjacent to that subject, like asking her for how long she's been single, what's she's been up to while single, what's her view on casual sex, if she feels like she's had her fun and wants to have a serious relationship now etc. Getting to know a woman's friends is also a way to learn about those things.

Speaking for myself, I care much more about the context than about the number itself. But of course, there's an upper bound (10+ to me is already too high). But I'd rather date a woman who's had 5 serious boyfriends during a period of 10 years, than someone who's had a ONS who later became a FWB, and two guys that ran a train on her multiple times. Even though 5>3.

Barneysparky · 2022-04-23T20:06:29+00:00

Guys here - why can't I get casual sex. Guys here - No one wants a woman with a high N count.

Shredddz · 2022-04-24T19:39:09+00:00

the fact that women naturally have such an issue accepting that its inherently bad is because they subconsciously feel it and know it and its forever assigned to them, and guys perceive it no matter how much they lie. No amount of shaming males will help any women get a guy who has some sense, only push over who have no boundaries.

just accept it. stop shaming men for destroying your value. we decide what is valuable, and its completely logical because we evolved to be repulsed by it for a reason, because it drastically lowers chances of success.

cantwifeahoe · 2022-04-24T19:30:00+00:00

Most men aren’t asking about n count but best believe they don’t wanna marry whores

scwizard · 2022-04-24T18:25:10+00:00

I really doubt high n women have trouble getting a stable relationship in the real world. Especially considering the number of swinger couples that are long term married.

Ecocavalry · 2022-04-24T18:20:29+00:00

Relevant

Ecocavalry · 2022-04-24T18:05:46+00:00

Used goods

2022-04-24T16:51:50+00:00

Nobody over the age of 25 ever asked, good god this obsession is weird and I haven’t even been with many people.

I only know one guy’s count and each of us had had 1 partner at that point; I only knew because we were all at college together and she hated me and tried to break us up (should have let her in retrospect). After that it didn’t matter.

Laytheblameonluck · 2022-04-24T16:51:38+00:00

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FenaPugi · 2022-04-24T16:32:34+00:00

Oppression and Adaptability.

If someone isn't oppressed they can pick and choose who progresses their n-count, and still be adaptable especially when it comes to n-count (lie about it when convenient because they know their previous partners won't make a fuss if they do lie because all they care about at the end of the day is getting each other off by any means necessary, and still be able to maintain the quality assurance within sex circles).

meteorness123 · 2022-04-24T16:23:25+00:00

i'm a dude and I honestly never gave a fuck about this and neither did my friends. I also, in a narcisstic way mabye, always think, I can't be topped as a man.

But even if I could, I just dont care unless it's a huge number that is indicative of emotional trauma which it usually isn't

pielok · 2022-04-24T15:20:16+00:00

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DivineWakaloon · 2022-04-24T15:09:42+00:00

n-count whining is a religious trad cuck concern, because they're terrified of vaginas and women in general.

n-count means nothing except the trad cuck finding out he has a tiny peen and is bad in bed. That's the fear.

The trad cuck fake study about n-count and divorce is just propaganda, lies, and an example of their terror.

edit: Don't be scared trad cucks and red pillars, have any argument to the contrary? Because I'm 100% right. Or just downvote and whisper your prayers to protect you from women who enjoy sex.

Laytheblameonluck · 2022-04-24T11:50:30+00:00

A massive generational shift has been that sex has moved from being about the relationship to being about the individual.

A corollary of this, is we are starting to see a shift in marriage, where marriage is becoming more about the individual too.

We see this, in the case of Jada Pinkett and Will Smith. Jada response was to laugh at Chris Rock's response to being slapped, as if she was a person completely removed from Will Smith, because that is genuinely her perception of herself and marriage.

We will see more of this transition in future decades.

boomershack · 2022-04-24T10:35:25+00:00

Nothing wrong with a high N-Count, just for recreational only however.

LillthOfBabylon · 2022-04-24T10:21:45+00:00

Most women do not have super high n counts. Please stop referencing your porn history as proof that you "understand women".

Apprehensive_Boat_70 · 2022-04-24T07:36:07+00:00

Compatibility is important, dont women always say that?, im not compatible with college hoes in any way, they trying to shame, insult me and guilt trip me into a relationship for that just makes me want to push them away from my life even more.

Transmigratory · 2022-04-24T06:29:08+00:00

Why would you be repulsed by them? And why discord?

mextreme10 · 2022-04-24T05:31:32+00:00

I don't think I would be repulsed by high N-count women If I did participate in the casual sex scene.

EulenWatcher · 2022-04-24T04:30:00+00:00

I think it's okay to have n-count preferences, but they usually represent something more important like one's views on sex/intimacy. It's better to date someone whose values and morals are close to yours. N-counts can be a sign of them, but overall talking to your partner/date and figuring out whether you have compatible views is more important.

I've ever been only with 1 partner and he's my husband. By this someone could suggest I'm traditional or whatnot, but I am not, I just don't find most people sexually appealing and I can't feel any sexual attraction without romantic one. So my low n-count is the result of me just not being attracted almost to all people I've ever met. It doesn't come from my morals or waiting till marriage. In fact, I don't find anything wrong with casual sex. It's just something I most likely couldn't participate in myself. I lean heavily to liberal views towards sex, so I wouldn't date nor I would be compatible with a person who was heavily conservative about it.

Mark_Freed · 2022-04-24T03:33:43+00:00

Sluts are female and chads are male.

Men fuck around and women forgive him,

But a women has to hide her n count if she wants to remain desirable.

It's not easy to find the true number. But we must try because it matters.

Men don't want women to have so much fun before they settle down with him.

Thus spoke flamingcoochie, Hallowed be thy name.

Spread-Em-Plz · 2022-04-24T02:12:07+00:00

I'll say that the cutoff is that any higher than 5 failed relationships before 30 is a red flag, it shows either poor partner choice, infidelity issues, or that they get easily bored of people very easily

And any more than four casual encounters before 30 is a yellow flag; four is enough time to "get it out of your system" and realize that it's not for you, anything after that and it can be reasonably assumed that you enjoy casual sex and are likely to repeat said behavior.

When does the yellow turn red?

It depends on who they're fucking and the context.

Someone in college has a bit of leeway to be young and dumb, but again, after around 7 or 8, you're likely just hedonistic
Fucking multiple coworkers over time is a HUGE red flag, doubly so if multiple at the same workplace, unless it's just a couple times when they're young and then they quit it.
Someone on dating apps is a bit trickier to pin down, but if they kept going after a couple casual encounters, I'd bet they're more likely to repeat that behavior
Fucking FWB's and friends are much less red-flaggy than the alternatives, despite what it may seem, fucking randos shows much more seeming impulsive behavior compared to people you already know (or that's my theory anyway)

As the number raises, it depends on when the person decides to straighten out that matters and who they decide to do it with

For instance, if a girl my age has four lays, but then wants to stay committed to me, chances are I'm not being BB'd, because first of all, age, and second of all, with what money?

PM_ME_ZED_BARA · 2022-04-24T02:10:54+00:00

Q4M: congratulations, here’s the deal for you. You are guaranteed to get to marry a 10/10 woman and also to get to choose her n-count. But her n-count is also the number of times she is willing to have sex with you per month. So, what n-count you are willing to choose? Or you rather won’t accept this deal.

Q4W: same deal but with a 10/10 guy.

thetruthishere_ · 2022-04-24T01:39:01+00:00

I care that he actually knows how to be in a long term, what a healthy relationship is and emotionally stable.

Im currently a part time escort but before that I was in some long terms and I certainly know what a healthy relationship is, how to treat my man, etc.

What makes me a solid escort is things that would make me a good partner. Though most here would think I dont know what a healthy relationship is because of their projected assumptions.

I dont date at this time though as a working escort and waiting till I quit.

ahandtoyourdarknessx · 2022-04-24T00:42:09+00:00

Are all those tiktoks true that majority of women have double digit n counts?

Hegemon1984 · 2022-04-24T00:28:09+00:00

My n-count is 7

dbz19 · 2022-04-23T23:57:35+00:00

I just don’t like the idea of my soul mate and life partner having had sex with other people

DrinkItInMan11 · 2022-04-23T23:49:09+00:00

Also nothing makes me laugh more than

"Don't you want an experienced girl???? A girl who's good and knows what she's doing???"

If she got good at sucking dick by sucking other guy's dicks?? Hell no, why can't she learn on me, why can't I teach her? People act like teaching someone how to fuck is some hard chore, it's really fucking not.

DrinkItInMan11 · 2022-04-23T23:46:04+00:00

Women having a high body count is worse than a man having a high body count, women have limitless options of men willing to sleep with them, they could walk into a club and 95% of dudes would fuck them, make that less than 1% if it's a man, even a high value one.

Women like to say "BUT WE DON'T LIKE A LOT OF THOSE OPTIONS!!!!"

So? Whether or not you like them is irrelevant, it's significantly easier for you to obtain sex. Whereas men have to actually put work in to get laid. It's easy for any woman to have sex.

PlayfulLawyer · 2022-04-23T23:39:39+00:00

Men with high body count and women with high body counts are NOT the same at all

Never really cared that much about a woman body count although a higher number in a certain amount of time is eyebrow raising

Shredddz · 2022-04-23T23:34:38+00:00

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QuenchlessGato · 2022-04-23T23:34:04+00:00

The desires and wants of a person that make her/him get a high n-count are things that make this person unhappy when confined to an LTR. If a person constantly seeks novelty and new people to be intimate with then why would that person be suddenly happen if you take these away.

2022-04-23T23:18:43+00:00

those evil sluts

Lol even the terminator knows sluts are truly evil

januaryphilosopher · 2022-04-23T23:15:11+00:00

The ideal body count for men and women in terms of outcomes is one, that one being their partner. Its not always possible to do but it's a good guide to keep as close to that as you can, for yourself, your partner(s), and any potential family you might have.

ahandtoyourdarknessx · 2022-04-23T23:05:09+00:00

Women respect men with high counts. Women love to share their man with other women.

I have seen it on Tiktok where a multitude of different women have slept with the same guy and they all know him. It's actually kinda funny.

Weirdolady92 · 2022-04-23T23:03:10+00:00

N counts matter more in women than men(but to each their own and decide what matters to them). Men don't need an emotional connection to have sex while women tend to want. Sex is harder for men to get. For example, a 100 n woman vs 100 n man. The man has to be rich, an athlete or famous. A woman just has to go to the bar.

This topic is demonized because women have control over the dating narrative( immature, none of your business, blah blah). Women do their "investigation too". Is he rich? What does he do e.t.c.

"Buh that was the past" - a person's true character is revealed when they have everything. A HVM who held off and had a relationship is better relationship prospect than one who slept around with all kinds of women. The same goes for women, a woman who sleeps when she is at her peak(youthful), also reveals her true character - that of being promiscuous and thus is not as good a relationship prospect as one who didn't.

Slitelohel · 2022-04-23T22:35:51+00:00

FUCKING SLUTS REEEE

JohnDoe_Rip · 2022-04-23T22:14:15+00:00

This is the only place I’ve been in online and irl that a body count of 20 is considered low.

SmarmyPapsmears · 2022-04-23T22:13:42+00:00

I've said it before; I don't really have a problem having fun with high n women, I'm just not bringing them to meet my mom.

MrMushySauce · 2022-04-23T22:09:33+00:00

My personal take is that the older you get the harder n-count becomes to be something you care about and the less it says about a person no matter what it is.

I valued n-count a ton when I was <23. And for good reason. If you were in my dating range, 18-22, and you had fucked like 10+ dudes... you probably weren't and aren't a good LTR option. But I'll be 25 in a handful of months and really I just have bigger priorities at this point. Dating candidates blow as-is so if I find some diamond in the rough I'm not going to toss it out for having a chink in it (though, yes, I'd still prefer the smallest n-count possible in an absolute vacuum).

Ultimately though I think n-count is a perfectly fine criteria to disqualify people based upon. Whether it's too high or too low, and regardless of your own. I hate the idea that asymmetrical preferences indicate hypocrisy; there are just so, so many ways in which criteria for one gender is not sought after for the other. Tough.

At the same time I'd like to just make a general note that you should keep an open mind while dating. I think these days people will hear one thing they don't like and dip too often. Whether it's n-count, hairstyle, religious views, etc--if you've met someone you truly click with, please pursue it! There's not a limitless supply of people like that for you and believe me no matter how amazing you think you are the other person is going to think you have flaws too.

THAT said, the only way n-count becomes a dealbreaker for me is if: 1) She does something similar to pushing me for details I'm not ready to share by oversharing herself (manipulative strategy). 2) She corrects her history to frame it in a manner more pleasing to me (manipulative). 3) She's still in contact with people from her n-count. I literally do not give a fuck "how amazing friends [we've] become and it's so platonic now!" 4) Some of that n-count is concurrent to me. 5) Any type of celebrity, pro athlete, or the like is in her n-count... that girl will never be yours. 6) She has cheated.

xpinkrainbowsx · 2022-04-23T22:08:08+00:00

men with high n counts and/or who have paid for sex are not boyfriend, husband, or father material imo. i’ll never take a guy with either of these seriously.

mmm_try_again12345 · 2022-04-23T22:02:40+00:00

Stop fooling yourselves (especially men). Anything over 1 is high.

There is no situation where a high count is a good sign. For example a count of 5 means that either:

A) the person has had 5 failed long term relationships. Kind of makes you wonder why they all failed.

B) they have had a bunch of causal sex. But don’t worry, you’re DEFINITELY the one they’re finally going to settle down with.

Don’t settle. The people who shame you for having standards are, more often than not, just upset that they don’t meet the standard.

Initial_Chemical7121 · 2022-04-23T21:55:04+00:00

Promiscuity in men and women disgust me but each to their own. I think your body should belong to one partner forever (unless what happens is out of your control).

Ainsleygz · 2022-04-23T21:52:17+00:00

People take sex too seriously. It’s fun! Who doesn’t like having fun

Preme2 · 2022-04-23T21:47:51+00:00

A woman whose n count is under 10 is fine.

A woman’s whose n count is between 10 and 25 is a chad chaser. Sucking for a relationship, likely to settle with a BB.

A woman’s whose n count is above 25 has a mental disorder or a professional whore.

The_Mastermind_ · 2022-04-23T21:43:41+00:00

Recently, I’ve been seeing a lot of posts on whether body count should matter and stuff like that. I think the statistics on divorce and the pair bonding arguments have been made a million times, so I am going to offer a different perspective on why Body count certainly does matter. But I am going to do so from a male perspective.

There are multiple reasons why women with low notch counts are better. But this is the most important one. Sex is an opportunity for healthy secure attachment and novel intimacy. What do I mean by that? Let’s say your GF is a virgin or has a very low notch count. She is going to be self conscious and inexperienced (duh…). When you help her overcome her insecurities through something as intimate as sex, she will bond with you. She will always remember that experience because she was insecure and self conscious about her body and you made her feel secure and bonded with her through intimacy.

My wife was a virgin when I met her. She wanted to wait until marriage and a good woman is worth the wait so I agreed. We got married about 8 months ago and suffice it to say she is no longer a virgin :) When we had sex for the first time she was obviously shy and feeling self conscious. But I assured her that I thought she was beautiful and sexy and I made her feel comfortable and loved. It was ME who helped her overcome her self consciousness and insecurities. I also made her feel sexy and hot. We also learned about our likes and dislikes together. As a result, we bonded more that night. She always remembers that night fondly and it helped us connect more. She told me she felt closer to me and she felt more secure. She is confident now but she always tells me how much she liked the initial sessions because of how sweet and patient I was. Unlike certain politically correct idiots would like us to believe, sex is not just an exchange of bodily fluids and certainly not so for women. Sex is being very vulnerable. Sex is the most intimate thing you can do with your body.

And that is why women with low body counts are better for relationships and marriage. They present many opportunities to bond and can easily form healthy attachments.

But consider the opposite. Let’s say there's a woman with like 15 bodycount. Well, lets say you’re having sex and you tell her how beautiful she is. Well she’s not going to think that as special. Why? Well because every guy before you has said the same fucking thing. She has heard it 15 times from various guys. After the 5th or 6th time, she will already know that. She already overcame that insecurity with other men. When she remembers about her insecurities, it will be how Guy 1 or 2 or 3 were sweet and helped her with her self consciousness about her body. There’s nothing there to bond with you and even if there is, it won’t be as strong as it was with the previous guys. So, of course she will have trouble bonding with you. It's the same thing with dating/marrying single moms. Impregnating your wife and connecting and helping her throughout her pregnancy gives you an opportunity to bond. She is going to depend on you for both physical and emotional support when she is vulnerable (carrying a child). And so of course single moms are a bad bet because they don't give you an opportunity to do that (and also of course you’re never going to be their primary focus).

Also women release oxytocin when they orgasm. Oxytocin bonds women with their partner. My sister is a relationship and sex counsellor and she says that a lot of women nowadays have trouble cumming because their body just can’t orgasm because they are still emotionally attached to their ex/ previous FWB / hookup/ guy who got away. No orgasms means no bonding. Women with higher body counts are more likely to have this problem and their partners are the one who will pay the price.

And this is why Body count matters. Call it whatever you like - Pair bonding, normal bonding, emotional connection, healthy attachment, secure attachment, intimacy - whatever you like. The point is this is a key factor in couples coming closer to each other and loving each other more. It’s a bad bet to try and be in a relationship with someone who has already done this with other guys. Now, it is not the only bad thing about a high body count. There is other stuff as well but I feel like that deserves its own post and I will make a post on it another time. (I’m already tired)

Now you might say well how am I supposed to find a virgin bride in this day and age? Well you’re right. It isn't highly practical advice. But my advice would be to go for someone with a low notch count (0-4). Don’t marry or be in a relationship with someone who has more than that.

But what about men? Well IMO, men are much better in distinguishing the physical from the emotional. That is not to say that men with very high body counts are preferable for every woman. But men with higher body counts are still able to bond. Maybe it's because men don’t bond through oxytocin but through vasopressin. Ultimately, men and women are different and men are much better at bonding with a new mate than women.

But here’s the Ultimate advice: Never let someone shame you into thinking that you’re insecure for preferring a low notch count woman. Never, ever, ever let that sway you. Trust me. You will definitely be better off. People will call you insecure, toxic masculinity or jealous or whatever. Let them say whatever they want. Don't pay any attention to them. Also, don’t let beauty fool you. Beauty fades, personality doesn’t. So whatever happens, don’t go against your instincts.

SignalThanks6766 · 2022-04-23T21:32:49+00:00

What is high n count?

silveryspoons · 2022-04-23T21:25:29+00:00

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CliffPR · 2022-04-23T21:18:36+00:00

Personally I don't care if she fucked a hundred dudes as long as she's legitimately eager to make me number 101.

SwimmingTheme3736 · 2022-04-23T21:13:02+00:00

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SignalThanks6766 · 2022-04-23T21:04:44+00:00

I include guys I got to 3rd base with in my n-count. Im assuming this is the correct way to do it but thought I’d ask other folks opinions.

Swordfromthecement · 2022-04-23T21:02:06+00:00

I’ll worry about the N-count after we have sex, thank you 😎

Specialist-Action-33 · 2022-04-23T20:56:11+00:00

I'm not expecting a virgin. I'm also not expecting a false Virgin Mary. She can have a high N count but don't try to pretend to be a prude when it comes to me or you'll get dropped or cheated on. Too many women have came with that bs in my life bc I was a "gentleman" to them. Killed my self esteem.

wtknight · 2022-04-23T20:43:31+00:00

Which is worse? A woman who has had casual sex with a few guys but who is otherwise low N, or a woman who is a serial monogamist who has only had sex in relationships and has never had casual sex or cheated, but who is high N?

Women, if you actually care about a guy’s N count, then the same question to you, too, but about men.

AConcernedParent · 2022-04-23T20:42:47+00:00

If y’all want someone who is bad in the sack and unsure of what they even like, yeah I guess obsess over a low n-count. However, the dudes who are bent out of shape over this shit also have low n-counts and are objectively bad in the sack so it tracks they’d project.

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