It's the edit for me ~~~

wonkyeyes8877 · 2021-06-05T02:24:05+00:00

So he is mad at her because she has expensive taste, but he is only with her because she makes a lot of money. Fucking typical scrote bullshit.

romancingthevoid · 2021-06-05T01:38:00+00:00

She makes more than him and he said the only reason he won't leave is they're going to combine incomes. What a fucking gold digger 🤣 and he can't even fork out $20k ONE TIME for the woman he loves to give her the perfect ring. I hope she dumps the scrote and buys a ring for herself anyway.

pickadaisy · 2021-06-05T01:43:44+00:00

Oh yes, that edit sealed his coffin.

RussianCat26 · 2021-06-05T02:29:02+00:00

So interesting that he refers to the ring as a gift throughout the entire post, despite a wedding ring not technically being a gift, but a shared and expected symbol of the marriage. It's not like he's deciding on jewelry for their wedding anniversary, this is the main symbol that she will be wearing on her hand every single day for the rest of their marriage. This queen knows exactly what she wants, and this loser isn't giving it to her. The only man mad about standards are the ones who don't meet them.

straightouttashtetl · 2021-06-05T01:33:05+00:00

So he's the gold digger. Got it.

Bunnyprincess34 · 2021-06-05T02:07:45+00:00

Want to add because I hated when my ex used to do this to me—asking one or two people privately for their opinion is one thing, but this man is airing their dirty laundry to his family, his friends, her family, and the entire Internet. Anyone who needs that much input before making a decision just has bad judgment lol.

sassyheather · 2021-06-05T01:37:44+00:00

if women talked about men like men talk about women

Ew, sis, ditch this golddigging boi! I bet he doesn’t even do the dishes! What good is a man if he won’t even give you oral on demand while you drink wine? Besides he let my girl Shannon smash on the first date and you don’t wanna get hitched with that 🍤 if ya know what I’m saying hehehehe

millrice · 2021-06-05T01:42:18+00:00

He plans to buy engagement ring for her with THEIR meaning HER money? I'm going to throw up virtually everytime I see an engagement ring. I knew I can buy my own rings, now I know I am never wanting a man to do that

Edit - he could have just written, I'm a golddigger

Phoenix__Rising2018 · 2021-06-05T02:13:37+00:00

An engagement ring isn't a "gift" you cheap asshole!

Furthermore, the fact that he's getting this bent out of shape over the fact that she has any kind of expectations at all is a huge red flag. He thinks he's getting an object not a partner.

engineergorl · 2021-06-05T01:38:01+00:00

So you’re telling me SHE makes more than him and the difference between their salaries is bigger than the cost of the engagement ring she wants, $20k. Aha. Ahahahahahahahahaha. He’s such a clown: “our money”, but he clearly still doesn’t think his money is hers, just the other way around.

aquietsword · 2021-06-05T02:37:35+00:00

She straight up said she'd just get her own ring (pls no) and he's still not satisfied? LOL. Plus, this isn't just a "gift" you bucket of ass. It symbolizes a proposal for marriage. In any other proposal in life, people put in their BEST effort. If I draft a business proposal for a client, it's not going to say "you get what you get and can't complain." The ring is an indication of the kind of life you intend to have together, and so far it's the kind of life where you can get what you want out of her but she's not allowed to want anything for herself. I hope this woman has friends that will set her straight.

Important_Page_6846 · 2021-06-05T02:44:30+00:00

How much is a surrogate? What does pregnancy do to women’s bodies and how many women even DIE during childbirth? Yet how many males EXPECT children in their relationships with women? Funny how women can’t expect a damn thing while most males have a list a mile long. Hope she dumps this broke freak

Vervibes · 2021-06-05T01:44:33+00:00

He says he loves her, and knows she likes nice things. He’s aware of both of their annual incomes being above $100,000. He is aware that this ring would mean a lot to her and somehow has a hard time comprehending whether it’s coming across as selfish to lower his budget??? I mean, dude, she’s perfectly capable of buying that ring herself in the price range she wants. She definitely doesn’t need you for it, but if you can’t meet her at the level she’s already at—love can only keep y’all happy for so long. It’s not like you’re gonna be buying engagement rings every single year for the rest of your lives. I’m sure she reciprocates the care and thoughtfulness in many ways too smh

My ex couldn’t even buy me a $50 promise ring after I got him one— until I kept asking or hinting (didn’t even get it or knew when it got delivered before the breakup), but he was able to spend that money on weed and takeout all throughout the relationship lmao. Dudes need to get their priorities straight fr, and if they’re showing you that you aren’t it—believe it and decide what to do accordingly.

tactical_viper · 2021-06-05T02:27:20+00:00

Ok but like you spend over $300k on ONE child from age 0-18 with nothing extra. Not counting college, medical bills, etc. And you can’t be bothered to spend a humble $25k on your wife? Who you’ll be with until you die? Ok.

Not to mention the cringe added edit about her money becoming his. “She makes $140k a year. Probably the only reason I haven’t packed up and walked away.” Sis don’t do it.

msinclaire · 2021-06-05T01:23:01+00:00

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shinyjewels · 2021-06-05T01:32:25+00:00

Y'all my Cartier Love Bracelet is worth more than 6k...Sounds like he is with her for her earning potential and also doesn't want to spend any of his own money on her. But wants to stay with her because her money will be "their" money. Lmao clown energy

9hazle · 2021-06-05T02:18:54+00:00

Having a guy who makes 113 k dollars a years give you a 4 k engagement ring is like going to an WalMart parking lot for the first date. Her father is a piece of shit. What were the comments like? Were they foaming at the mouth?

grmpygills · 2021-06-05T01:26:47+00:00

Puahahahahahahaa - boy bye

WittyImprovement · 2021-06-05T02:48:59+00:00

He really told on himself with that edit

pinkfleurhappiness · 2021-06-05T03:03:31+00:00

'I ain't saying HE'S a gold digger...'

Hmtnsw · 2021-06-05T03:26:13+00:00

GF asks for $20k ring.

She makes more than he does. He doesn't want to buy a $20k ring and would proablly dump her IF she wasn't making bank.

Wow.

He needs to go.

BlackGirlKnickers · 2021-06-05T03:38:28+00:00

I remember a recent post talking about how men will paint a women in a bad light when in reality, they are either lying or trying to make themselves look good and omitting info. This post is exactly what she was talking about. Never trust a man, especially a He Redditor. There's always 2 sides to a story and most likely hers is the closest to the truth.

shockingupdate · 2021-06-05T04:28:48+00:00

“I know I can afford it, and I know that she can afford it, and as soon as we’re married and I have access to her funds I’ll have no problem spending her money on (me and) her, but she had the AUDACITY to say that if I won’t pay out she’ll do it herself, and how do you think that makes ME feel?”

ucompost · 2021-06-05T02:19:46+00:00

Look for me PERSONALLY a 20-30K ring is a lot and I wouldn’t expect that from my fiancé who makes 70K a year. HOWEVER I don’t shit or judge a woman (or even a man) who wants that. Why shouldn’t people get what they want?? Especially women??

I was thinking “ok seems they are at a crossroads have different expectations and should break up” but then I read the edit...

Is he seriously saying he’s sticking around and wanting to marry her because her 140K income will be his money with shared finances...?!?

spinsterchachkies · 2021-06-05T02:50:22+00:00

The edit was it for me yeah. I wouldn’t wear such an expensive piece because I’d be afraid to lose it, but damn he’s a dick and what a hypocrite. Gold digger

VanessaViews · 2021-06-05T01:26:07+00:00

I don't even think an engagement ring necessarily needs to be a man's three month salary. But he was planning on spending less than 4% of his salary on a ring... I'm at a loss for words...

poppinkitty · 2021-06-05T03:13:55+00:00

He doesn't love her but knows that she's a great catch and he can't get anyone better than her that's why he doesn't wanna let her go but wants to bring her down to her level..20k is nothing compared to what that guys makes in a year..stingy asshole..also the comment about her salary and that's the only reason he hasn't walked away.🤢 What a leech..he's the one who is a golddigger here..wow projecting much..she should dump this stingy loser and maary someone who won't even think twice about giving her a 50k ring. This guy is a fuckin leech.

ariaa126 · 2021-06-05T04:12:38+00:00

Yikes, what a gold digger (him). What’s worse is the pick mes in the comments talking about their $300 engagement rings from Etsy.

havingababypenguin · 2021-06-05T04:24:57+00:00

Coming from a married woman with an inexpensive ring that she loves, what in the gold digging hell is this man up to??? He only hasn’t broken up with her because of her salary??? Sheesh. I hope she leaves. And who wants to bet she showed him rings she liked and he freaked out at the price tag. I highly doubt she threw that number down out of the blue.

oi_oi_oink · 2021-06-05T08:42:10+00:00

"The only reason I haven't dumped her is because she makes $30K more than I do." "Why is she linking my money and spending habits with herself?"

Dude, she's a woman who makes good money, she is used to buying nice things for herself. And even though gifts should be accepted graciously, it's not odd to expect that your life partner will give you nice things, especially jewelry. I agree with her; if I have extremely pretty and nice things in my wardrobe, I wouldn't add a subpar thing to it just because it's a gift.

It's not hard to understand.

Inthefullspectrum · 2021-06-05T02:33:49+00:00

I am reading “Spy the lie” and that edit is fucking hilarious.

asupernova91 · 2021-06-05T06:37:39+00:00

Ring price aside, these two have different priorities and if the price of the engagement ring is causing this much trouble, they should not get married. What's going to happen when they have to buy a house? Or a car?

FDS-wise: honey if you're not going to buy her that $25,000 ring somebody else happily will. So let her go and let her find somebody who will.

Street_Narwhal_3361 · 2021-06-05T03:54:56+00:00

Buy the ring sized to your middle finger and DUMP HIS ASS ALREADY

miss_peach94 · 2021-06-05T01:39:31+00:00

Oh jesus.

Look, I think 20k+ is a little unreasonable and excessive for a piece of jewellery (that just me tho) and I generally believe diamonds are inflated rocks for nothing and don't have much meaning, not to go into the exploitation of miners too.

But with his salary he should be comfortably forking out around 10-12k for a wedding set and maybe a nice honeymoon for her for after the wedding and it wouldnt even make a dent in his pocket.

I think because he's being so cheap she's pushing for a much more expensive ring to compensate. Seems like hes generally cheap with everything. And he has the cheek to say her money is his... Yikes.

How much you wanna bet they go 50/50 on rent too, but she does all the chores and cooking by herself?

excusemeILY · 2021-06-05T08:48:17+00:00

I hate when people say “a gift is a gift, it should appreciated either way”. That is so not true. A gift is a reflexion of your relationship with the other person, how much you know them, how much you pay attention.

By this logic, if someone with a nut allergy received a chocolate with peanuts in it, they should appreciate it because “it’s A gIFt!!1!”. No, mother fucker, you’ve known me for over a year and every time we go to restaurants, you see me grilling the waiter to make sure there are nu fucking peanuts in my food. It’s disrespectful.

Anyway, back to the post at hand. I also hate how this scrote immediately ran to his parents AND the parents of the bride in order to get people on his side. Affairs like this should have been kept only between the couple, not taken to the extended family. And even though they agreed with him, it doesn’t mean the thing they agreed with is right or wrong. For example, the discussion could have been on idk their daughter dating a black guy: the scrote is not okay with, he takes it to their parents who don’t agree with either. Conclusion? Y’all racist.

And just like you said, the edit proves that this girl can afford it for herself, so what’s the problem? He’s just a cheap scrote who fell into a comfortable relationship, he doesn’t see her as his soulmate. If Beyonce was his gf, he would have met her demand in a heartbeat.

Smh

LevellingUpTime · 2021-06-05T09:26:47+00:00

How do men not understand this is an engagement ring. She'll be wearing this piece of jewellery, alongside her wedding ring, for the rest of her life.

He makes over $100k a year. You think he's driving a $6k car? Even a $20k car? Probably not, it's probably nicer than that, and something he'll replace in a few years. He probably even goes through more than $6k in suits, ties, shoes, jackets etc. in a few short years, especially if they're tailored nicely. But oh no, this woman's a golddigger for wanting a nice ring that will last the test of time?

Damn I hate cheap men. Just say you don't care about her and move on

fancypantsdance92 · 2021-06-05T08:18:20+00:00

I have a friend who was shocked her engagement ring cost her fiancé $10k and I told her no, they are supposed to equate to 3 months salary traditionally. In her situation, this checks out.

With this person's income, $25k is three months salary. I'm also wild at the idea that he emphasizes that they both agree they want to be "free of worldly aspects" or however the fuck he describes it and then he goes on to mention her income??? Make it make sense, homeboy.

haunted_vcr · 2021-06-05T06:05:56+00:00

He's punishing her for having expectations and standards. 20k for supposedly a lifetime investment is nothing. That's the price of an economy vehicle, or a few months of rent.

ketodietclub · 2021-06-05T10:53:52+00:00

At first I thought "25k, are you mad?"

Then I saw they both earn over 100k. That's a reasonable ring cost in that earning bracket. He's being cheap.

Having said that I got engaged at 17 and was given my mum's old engagement ring. But he was still in school, and neither of us had a penny to spare

It's all about proportion to income really.

Colour_riot · 2021-06-05T05:27:12+00:00

Poor girl with an LVM dad as well

greenbagmaria · 2021-06-05T07:21:24+00:00

But an engagement ring is not a gift. It’s an engagement ring.....

Equal-Ear2312 · 2021-06-05T08:02:30+00:00

when you mentioned the edit....

my eyes jumped right at it.

so he stays because she makes good money, right?

isn't he a gold digger?

someone alert this girl!

fluffybarbwire · 2021-06-05T11:08:30+00:00

"the only reason I haven't totally packed up and walked away"...

Talk about golddiggers....

Pack up and walk away, she'll be much better off.

ferociouslycurious · 2021-06-05T11:31:12+00:00

I’m more triggered by the fact that he is talking behind her back to other people including her own family, against her. Massive red flag in how he’s handling this.

throwaway88043468 · 2021-06-05T11:07:00+00:00

Loooooollll I audibly laughed at that edit

arnezuara · 2021-06-05T11:22:20+00:00

These cheap scrotes get so offended at the fact that their woman is capable of, god forbid, expecting a good-quality, beautiful engagement piece.

They get so invested in their fantasies of a wonderful, self-sacrificial, beautiful woman who does not expect ANYTHING. That last part is what makes her so, so convenient and, therefore, perfect in their eyes.

Fuck that.

Edit: grammar

babyfrog98 · 2021-06-05T11:34:14+00:00

Love how he’s whining for a whole paragrah about how she’s supposed to be SpIrItuAL and above material things because that’s why he fell in love with her and then in the same breath says he’s only still with her for the $140k salary... like, dude shut the fick up

xdecadent · 2021-06-05T10:11:42+00:00

Wow that’s a lot of words to just end up saying “I’m a gold digger” 🥴

thinktwiceorelse · 2021-06-05T11:30:20+00:00

Another example of how being spiritual is turned against you by a scrote.

Sewud · 2021-06-05T15:27:53+00:00

Men are so manipulative, it's sad. It seems most of them never do anything out of love, but always with some calculated ulterior motive, like this guy considering maybe buying his wife a ring, but only because she makes more and her money will be his. And this poor woman is genuinely in love with him. She'll be helping him when he has cancer out of some delusion of love, he'll drop her like hot cake.

curiousandbashful · 2021-06-05T04:41:26+00:00

What an ass

the-worst- · 2021-06-05T16:10:45+00:00

"OMG what a gold digger!"

"Yea, she should be ok with a cheap ass ring!"

"Oh how cute, you thought I meant her?"

Lavender_flow · 2021-06-05T12:05:31+00:00

That fucking edit. OMFG.

sveji- · 2021-06-05T16:00:53+00:00

If his girlfriend ever reads this, I hope she buys the ring for herself and leaves his materialistic a$$.

lostmillenia · 2021-06-05T16:48:59+00:00

This dude sucks! He tells on himself when he tells us, the reader, that he rolled his eyes at her and her expectations thst a man who will love her will get her a beautiful ring. Which is what happens when a man says hw wants to marry you and really means it. Hes so cheap and gross. Hes totally the gold digger.

Hope she realizes and is on to him.

ThrowRAshipsRhard · 2021-06-05T18:10:48+00:00

Was it not a rule or common expectation that the engagement ring should cost 3 months salary?

113÷12= 9.4166666667 ×3= 28.2500000001

She even rounded down!

It's not unfair to expect that form of commitment from a potential spouse.

WestAtmosphere · 2021-06-05T19:57:49+00:00

The edit is a perfect example of fabrication of these relationship advice posts by men. Like I hope she just buys herself a big rock and ditches this scenario. She'll be better off.

namasdating · 2021-06-05T19:58:40+00:00

Traditionally an engagement ring is three months salary. So this dude should be paying $28,750 based on his salary. So she was bang on with her first estimate.

greatcathy · 2021-06-05T13:43:12+00:00

Her dad tho 😢

WiggleWormDelux · 2021-06-06T06:17:40+00:00

Gee, I wonder what this guy thought the guys on reddit would say?

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kinkardine · 2021-06-06T12:46:48+00:00

Wow can’t believe people actually decides to be in such superficial relationships...eyrroll, discussing this with his future father in law... ewww.. I wish the girl dumps him..

our marriage was rushed, so I had no idea what to buy as engagement ring, our parents allocated just one morning to us to get the rings sorted, we decided what to buy on the store , I wanted something simple like plain gold band since engagement ring value really do not add much to my identity, but suddenly saw a beautiful diamond one 5 times the value that I was looking and I was like ‘wow I want this’, the ring was packed and bought by hubby the moment I finished the sentence, he did not bat an eyelid, no second thought, no bargain! The value of the ring was never brought up.

Magnolia_Mirage · 2021-06-07T20:56:31+00:00

The last sentence...

Title	It's the edit for me ~~~
Author	shinyjewels
Upvotes	418
Comments	151
Date	June 5, 2021 1:06 AM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/nsk69d/its_the_edit_for_me/
Archive Link	https://theredarchive.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/its-the-edit-for-me.780255 https://theredarchive.com/post/780255

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