Husband “face fucks” pregnant wife for 45 minutes, gets verbally abusive when she wants an orgasm too; OP thinks it’s her fault for “not communicating”

Khentiamentiu42 · 2022-02-06T23:30:56+00:00

Is it just me or are a lot of women just hostages of the patriarchy that developed stolkholm syndrome to supress the horrifying truth.

ewokblubber · 2022-02-06T23:17:51+00:00

Wait wait wait. He somehow doesn't cum from 45 minutes of intensive oral, but it's her orgasm that is a lot of work?!

Like, sir. No woman out here needs the duration of a school lesson's worth of oral to cum if you know anything about what you're doing. She isn't the one who takes 'a lot of work' here. I don't even know how hard that guy must strangle-deathgrip his dick in order not to be able to cum from three quarters of an hour of oral. I've never dated any man who lasted anything approaching that during oral sex.

And that's on top of the rapey, cheating, pornsick, LV, abusive, horrible, morally apprehensive behaviour happening here. He is a sad, small man who needs to abuse someone to feel a semblance of power. She needs to get out.

StrawberryMoon3 · 2022-02-06T22:46:58+00:00

She needs to see that her husband is a predator and a rapist. And a cheater too.

hoIds_up_spork · 2022-02-06T21:52:23+00:00

We find out this information in the comments/her post history:

she’s 8 months pregnant
he said he’s “not attracted to her anymore”
he cheated on her
he blamed said cheating on the lack of attraction

Meanwhile this poor woman thinks the reason her husband is an abusive rapist is because she’s not communicating well enough. I’m sick.

edwardianemerald · 2022-02-06T21:53:18+00:00

THESE are the men having children. It truly explains so much about society

MamaGia · 2022-02-06T23:14:17+00:00

I guess I need to add face fucking to the list of sex men expect on the regular.

I never have and I never will.

oscine23 · 2022-02-06T23:43:11+00:00

“Completely covered in saliva”? What does this even mean? Do I wanna know? Women are actually out here participating in their own degradation like it’s normal? End of days.

Geocities_SEO_Expert · 2022-02-06T22:56:33+00:00

It's my pet peeve when women provide one-sided sexual pleasure to scrotes, and insist that their own pleasure is just in seeing him happy. Been there, done that. Fuck that nonsense. That mentality should be reserved for nice children and pets.

PerspicaciousCat · 2022-02-06T22:05:01+00:00

The fact that she’s tried to talk to him about this numerous times and he still doesn’t change proves that he never will. He doesn’t care about her sexual pleasure and it’s not going to get any better when their baby is born.

God I don’t miss men wanting to act out what they see in porn with me. It’s depressing to see so many women still putting up with this

ETA: just saw the comment that he’s also cheated on her. What a sad mess

millennialpink2000 · 2022-02-06T22:43:52+00:00

He's got a great deal. He cheated, stayed, exerts no effort and has a human gl*ry hole. Now he'll blame her pregnancy body as the reason he cheats again. No wonder LVM look for women like this

Equal-Ear2312 · 2022-02-06T23:52:25+00:00

She communicated alright.

Wanna bet what his answer was? "I'm fine, Just more anal"

There's nothing about her in this "relationship". This woman doesn't need more "sex" with him. She needs a divorce.

souredskittles · 2022-02-06T22:31:40+00:00

STOP SLEEPING WITH AND HAVING CHILDREN WITH THESE MEN. HOLY $H!T 🤮😭

JulyParade · 2022-02-06T22:59:32+00:00

Wow. That's a failure from the start. YOU DON'T MATTER TO HIM! There's no "communicating" around that.

Biracial_tooth_fairy · 2022-02-06T22:15:28+00:00

Posts like those ones make me want to join the nunnery for the rest of my life

preppykat3 · 2022-02-06T22:01:11+00:00

Men like that simply don’t deserve sex. There’s NOTHING else you can do but simply not give it to him. Can you imagine how sore her jaw was?? Wtf is the point of this!!

The_Cat_Empress · 2022-02-06T22:12:27+00:00

“Face fking” is a literal porn category and as soon as he mentioned an*l and butt stuff FOR HIM I check out.

🖕 this guy. Or don’t because he’d like it too much. 🤢

thewetdog_ · 2022-02-07T02:10:51+00:00

Imagine being a presumably healthy, reasonably still-young male, with a lovely healthy wife who loves you and clearly cares about you, and thinking it’s too much work to make her come.

They don’t deserve us.

ifhewantedtohewould · 2022-02-06T22:17:48+00:00

Wow what a pornsick asshole. Scrote finds it pleasurable to block the airways of his pregnant wife.

UmmmHiHello · 2022-02-06T22:04:43+00:00

Everything about this makes me very angry

NotMyRealName814 · 2022-02-07T00:10:08+00:00

This is one of the most disturbing things I've ever read. She needs to get out of that relationship as soon as possible.

Platipus6 · 2022-02-06T22:23:26+00:00

Porn addict exes were exactly like this in bed and in life 🤷‍♀️

Complete inability to give a shit about anyone but themselves, to a pathological level.

enchantedglow · 2022-02-07T00:04:48+00:00

Ugh this makes me physically sick. I can't believe she's pregnant too. Honestly a tragedy.

FluffandRainclouds · 2022-02-07T00:41:33+00:00

I think she doesn't say no because she feels compelled to "satisfy" him, lest he leaves. This is awful and rapey, not loving sex. This is one of those moments where I wish women could have a global sex strike without risk of Male Violence. This woman needs a reprieve...

ndf250 · 2022-02-06T22:17:12+00:00

For some reason, to me “face fucking” is somewhat disrespectful/disgusting. I dunno that’s just me, it seemed like she was a bit upset about that because she said he played with her nipples a bit and that it felt really nice but that’s it. When men are face fucking all they care about are themselves. And like she said they normally ALL love the sloppiness which I detest. What’s attractive about a woman choking on a man’s dick, mascara running down her face and her hardly being able to control him because he’s literally on top of her face?

Face fucking to me was the first red flag but then cheating? “I’m sorry it’s so much work”?! Going to play video games and not caring about her pleasure? Talking about HIS wants and needs? Dude go fuck yourself please. I hope she leaves his ass or at the very minimum doesn’t give him any pleasure until he does better.

souredskittles · 2022-02-07T00:23:34+00:00

See there’s really no in between here. She’s stuck accepting it or decides to leave. I know she wants to hear ways to change his behavior, but nah never happening.

Sallou9 · 2022-02-07T00:36:11+00:00

Jfc I really, honestly hate them sometimes, and I'm not apologising for saying so.

And porn has made them worse.

_Amarantos · 2022-02-07T01:22:08+00:00

love how she posted this on the bdsm subreddit and even some of them are like "sis you need to leave"

lessadessa · 2022-02-07T02:13:27+00:00

How to communicate: “I’m divorcing you”

myheartisfulloflove · 2022-02-07T02:57:43+00:00

Men who watch porn are damaged goods, with a messed up mind and a broken dick to boot. Sucks that she's going to have his baby on top of all of this.

PicoPicoMio · 2022-02-06T23:54:45+00:00

Oh boy, whose gonna tell her.

FrogGirl2000 · 2022-02-07T00:22:18+00:00

I hope she sees this and leaves him. Imagine being married to someone this selfish in the bedroom. That must roll over to so many facets of their relationship. Disgusting.

ImpressiveHat8550 · 2022-02-06T22:19:15+00:00

Unfortunately this is the average male. Men talk a big game about the pressures of pleasing women but for the overwhelming majority of them it’s nothing more than lip service. Men will always prioritise their pleasure over womens….if the woman happens to go along with it than it’s better for them. This is why I always caution women women against pegging. Too many men get addicted and it’s all they want and the woman’s sexual pleasure becomes second place or non existent. Males are inherently selfish which makes them selfish lovers. They can’t get pleasure from bringing their partners pleasure, sex must revolve around them and their orgasm. And then they wonder why women have low sex drives. 🥴

Edit: just saw OPs comment hating on us and defending her husband. Don’t feel bad for her, she went on a multi paragraph rant about how she consents to be degraded so……🤷‍♀️ Guess she can spend the rest of her life finishing herself off alone while her husband plays video games. We can’t save them all. And they person who tattled was a married male who stalks the sub. Pathetic. 😂

ShieldMaidenLagertha · 2022-02-07T05:07:00+00:00

“Aftercare” is a pornsick red flag term for me too. It’s rooted in BDSM culture. You shouldn’t have to call normal post coital intimacy by a special name like it’s some sort of abnormal fetish practice or extra request.

TriggeredQuilt · 2022-02-07T01:02:33+00:00

How on earth did he become a husband if they have been having this argument “time and time again” and now a baby on the way so she’s tied to him for ever. Yuck

StrawberryMoon3 · 2022-02-06T22:43:45+00:00

All I have to say is that self preservation is the first law of nature. And this woman doesn't seem to have it, that's why it's easy for her man to take advantage of her in such a vile way. You can't communicate with a predator

666fayk · 2022-02-06T23:03:26+00:00

Wow, he absolutely hates her. He cheats on her and refuses to sexually satisfy her- and she just thinks she’s not communicating well enough 🤡

KhaleesiXev · 2022-02-06T23:48:06+00:00

Her mistake was in marrying a man who doesn’t prioritize her pleasure. I won’t even give a second chance to a man not excited to eat it. If he’s not pushing my knees apart begging for a taste, he’s cancelled IMO.

Uruzdottir · 2022-02-07T02:02:40+00:00

Why is it that whenever "CoMmUnIcaTIoN" comes up, the only thing that actually needs communicated is, "You're a worthless asshole, and I can do better. Goodbye." right as she walks out the door?

You can't TALK someone who has no empathy and is morally bankrupt into the manners, morals, empathy, human decency, compassion, sense of reciprocity, and so on that they lack. People like that don't respond to talk, they only respond to consequences.

You see this same shit with so-called "walkaway wives", too. After years of CoMmUniCaTinG about what is making her so miserable in the marriage and being ignored, minimized, and blown off, she finally files for divorce. Then, suddenly he GETS it.

I advise all such "walkaway wives" to keep right on walking, no matter what he says or what he promises. Even if he changes at that point, it won't be because he values her and her happiness. He had years to demonstrate his care, and never did.

It will only be because he doesn't want to lose his current lifestyle.

In other words, it's STILL all about him.

nomaki221 · 2022-02-06T22:24:30+00:00

Reading this made me want to VOMIT

Muffcakelord · 2022-02-07T00:23:51+00:00

I get angry even if my partner tries their best and fails a little, i cannot even imagine getting out of a situation where i ask for an orgasm after having served someone selflessly for more than 10min and being rejected, without ending up in jail as the punchline.

Men say women live on easy mode yet they get away with shit like this i swear

snakeylove · 2022-02-06T23:50:33+00:00

Every time I see these kinds of posts I tell myself the reason I was single and unmarried at 40 isn’t because there’s something wrong with me but because my standards are too high. And I thank god every day for that

desertmermaid92 · 2022-02-07T00:22:13+00:00

The very first sentence shows how much he’s mentally beaten/broken her down. This post is about so much more than him not caring about her sexual pleasure.

He doesn’t care about her. End, full stop. It’s so damn sad.. I’ve been in a few relationships like this where the men have been selfish in bed and would basically down right refuse to ‘waste their time’ getting me off. I’ll tell ya, they didn’t last long! To the curb you go.

Sometimes even just ripping the bandaid off of those relationships was difficult. I can’t imagine being pregnant and in this situation.

Reading through these comments is stomach churning. This ‘problem’ is RAMPANT these days!

Ashamed_Agent626 · 2022-02-07T01:02:19+00:00

Sounds like he may possibly be in to men…your needs don’t matter, he wants to do anal again, he throat fucks you, ass play(nothing wrong with that if that’s y’all’s thing)but he really doesn’t seem to give you any satisfaction, because he may not be sexually attracted to women‼️

Noemie_Mathilde · 2022-02-07T07:12:40+00:00

She had to ask for AFTERCARE. That's a BDSM term...this is the kind of crap women end up dealing with when it goes mainstream....lazy creeps abusing them in the name of kink, with absolutely no concern for female pleasure.

omfg...leave this pornsick creep who clearly does not give a shit about you.

jestalmestal · 2022-02-06T22:19:23+00:00

What a miserable life, christ.

She is playing into exactly the role that she was socialized into. All the peer pressure that women feel is meant to turn us into this, so thats another reason to not gaf about societal disapproval.

mrsklay · 2022-02-07T00:37:11+00:00

Jeezz wtf is face fcuking, never heard this before and I’m glad I haven’t until now. I’m guessing it’s not regular head yet she’s heavily pregnant at 8 months, I’m sick!

Playbackfromwayback · 2022-02-07T02:46:32+00:00

Jesus fucking Christ. I cringed at every word i read there. The bar we set for men is SO unbelievably low it’s just astounding.

makeawomancum · 2022-02-06T22:39:27+00:00

Heartbroken because this is the true reality for so many women who think this is normal or acceptable. He doesn’t even go down on her at all it sounds like and he wants 30+ minutes of abusing her face? I’m disgusted.

CommissionAntique777 · 2022-02-06T23:30:28+00:00

Um it literally makes me physically ill to read this

asoww · 2022-02-06T23:23:02+00:00

A TW for titles like these would be nice.

blackmetalbetty · 2022-02-07T01:33:59+00:00

🤮

DameSorciere · 2022-02-07T14:13:40+00:00

There's so many horrible things going on in this post, he is definitely abusive. The brainwashing is so extreme, I can't believe it. "You're just so difficult to get off!" Meanwhile she had to gag for 45 minutes for him and he literally didn't even touch her genitals ONCE. I wonder how many women who have difficulty orgasming or actually difficult to get off, or is it actually that the man makes no effort? It's a fucking psyop to get women to accept shitty sex. And the part where she considered her pleasure "aftercare" as though his pleasure was the main event. Ugh it makes me want to cry

normalbean69 · 2022-02-06T22:18:41+00:00

literally so done with these males and their disgusting rotted porn-fried brains, can they all just please go somewhere far far away, i hate the fact that i’m forced to share this planet with them

dragonqueen65 · 2022-02-06T22:35:12+00:00

This why I tell men up front that if the sex stops being enjoyable I'm out. Before that, they would wait until we were comfortable in a relationship and then stop caring about my pleasure. One good thing about my ex is that he kept getting better in bed so I wouldn't get bored.

lauren4216 · 2022-02-06T23:59:02+00:00

LORD HAVE MERCY!! THIS IS SO DISGUSTING AND DEGRADING!

Puzzleheaded_Dot8678 · 2022-02-07T02:30:04+00:00

Women will risk their lives for childbirth and men can’t even rub your clit for more than a couple minutes.

stereochord · 2022-02-06T22:40:38+00:00

This poor woman. I found this incredibly hard to even read, I can imagine what it would be like to live it. Here's what I've gathered from this post and the comments:

This is not new, but constant. This man has always been selfish and always will be.
This poor lady has probably been gaslit so many times over the course of their relationship ("maybe I don't know what aftercare entails", "it was nice but lonely") that she thinks this is normal and that anything that makes her feel bad is HER fault.
Her waste of skin husband will walk all over her and take as much as he can get. Don't have to explain this one.
I wonder how far this will go. Will he push and push and push until he's asking for even more inhumane things? I think what he's doing now is already disgusting. He's using a woman he's supposed to love as a sex object.

I just hope this does escalate to dangerous physical abuse. OP mentioned him cheating, blaming her, and telling her he isn't attracted to her anymore. She needs to leave ASAP, there is no fixing a man this vile, and nor should she try. I hope she realizes this is emotional abuse and that he gets his just desserts for his childish, selfish, and abusive ways. Fuck this "man" I hope he rots in hell.

otter_bott · 2022-02-07T01:22:27+00:00

Sigh.

ThePathIsUnknown · 2022-02-06T22:16:59+00:00

What an asshole he is.

angelikabarbie · 2022-02-06T22:38:50+00:00

This is absolutely disgusting and so triggering

Affectionate_Gap_326 · 2022-02-07T03:07:45+00:00

This is how you treat someone you hate.

xfelugirlx · 2022-02-07T06:13:23+00:00

Someone save this girl gaslighting herself. It’s sad

Certain-Year-5367 · 2022-02-07T09:48:12+00:00

This is why I don’t give heads and don’t intend to, I fine it disgusting and I know they won’t do the same for me. P.S I’m not criticizing those that enjoy it, I just don’t.

sweetpsychosiss · 2022-02-07T10:18:46+00:00

Trash. That’s all.

TERFSareawesome · 2022-02-07T00:45:28+00:00

LOL. Just a couple days after I said I consider a man who is into having butt stuff dont to him a major red flag and now this walking piece of shit wants his "prostrate massage". Seriously, I truly dont believe any genuinely straight HVM wants to be anally penetrated. Part of it is a lot of LVM have a "kink" for forcing women to do degrading/sick/gross stuff, like "face fucking" (I hate that phrase) which is incredibly painful, damaging to the throat, etc) because they get off on violence/pain/humiliation/sadness. So a woman having to dig her fingers into his disgusting, filthy man ass is part of it.

Any man into getting any kind of anal stimulation is an instant nope for me, no negotiations. And I will also say I have lots of gay friends and the number of "straight" men who hook up with them is crazy. Many closeted men who will sleep with women in the meantime

juicyjuicery · 2022-02-07T06:31:36+00:00

Anyone who thanks you for sex knows he’s a POS

Ok-Appearance5982 · 2022-02-07T09:42:41+00:00

I’d rather die single because this🤢 She’s his sex toy. That’s it.

Lilipoo98 · 2022-02-07T15:40:37+00:00

This is so upsetting to read but also so common. She seems to have developed almost a sort of munchhausen by proxy syndrome towards her abusive LV Husband. This is beyond their sex life, it’s about controlling and eventually breaking her. I hope at some point women like her realize what their so called partner actually is: a sadistic, disgusting abuser who is with a woman for one reason only- to “own” her.

Zubinka · 2022-02-07T03:56:34+00:00

Hw can I communicate I matter? By leaving...

ElectricChameleon · 2022-02-07T04:45:31+00:00

If he’s doing that for practically an hour it sounds like he’s using you as a masturbatory aid. The fact that he gets mad when you ask about your needs tells me that it’s not going to get better. You will have to decide if you want to continue to live like that. Personally I would have left the first time before getting pregnant.

AlbaWaterhouse · 2022-02-07T06:02:02+00:00

This was so upsetting to read. A clear example of how porn destroys our sex life.

Kibahime · 2022-02-07T09:04:52+00:00

Jesus fucking christ. I'm weirdly glad that when I was in an abusive relationship that my ex just wouldn't touch me or talk to me. At least my throat and jaw weren't being damaged for ALMOST A FUCKING HOUR. And he's cheated?? I hope she finds the strength to leave soon. It's especially dangerous and scary when you're pregnant though.

Like I'm sick to my stomach reading that.

MoonHareGoddess · 2022-02-07T12:32:00+00:00

This makes me sad for her :(

CyndiSweet · 2022-02-07T12:36:08+00:00

Why did she marry this asshole? He clearly doesn't care about her at all

solstice100 · 2022-02-07T21:23:19+00:00

gross

mysterypurplesock · 2022-02-07T02:32:24+00:00

I hope this never happens to me

abbydavis102 · 2022-02-07T04:04:16+00:00

Tell him exactly what you told us. Stop walking on eggshells to protect his fragile ego. He’s being selfish and taking advantage of you. Fuck that.

HotConsideration3034 · 2022-02-07T05:29:27+00:00

Who puts up with this shit. Ah hell nah

irenedabean · 2022-02-07T12:11:34+00:00

Sounds just like my piece of shit EX boyfriend.

caromaro23 · 2022-02-08T05:12:26+00:00

What a fucking loser 🙄

_queeeen_ · 2022-02-12T03:39:03+00:00

he doesn't care

vagina_shutdown · 2022-03-06T20:52:50+00:00

the only reason she stays with him is that she's not labeled as "I couldn't keep a man".

especially while she's pregnant, she's scared to become a single mom

Title	Husband “face fucks” pregnant wife for 45 minutes, gets verbally abusive when she wants an orgasm too; OP thinks it’s her fault for “not communicating”
Author	hoIds_up_spork
Upvotes	1093
Comments	209
Date	February 6, 2022 9:48 PM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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