Describe your perfect partner

princedune · 2023-08-20T17:51:59+00:00

Dont care
Dont care
Taller than 5'8 would be most attractive but its not that important
Not fat
Dont care
Dont care
0 max
0 max
Agnostic or Christian
Straight
Same age
Independent

most of these arent traits that really matter to me since they have little to do with who she is as a person

zoxzoxzo · 2023-08-20T19:45:14+00:00

brown.
brown.
5'8 or below.
slim to medium.
less or equal.
less or equal.
0, 5.
0, 3.
doesn't matter.
hetero.
21-25.
anything but radical left

MxMaster9907 · 2023-08-20T20:44:05+00:00

Hair color: blonde

Eye colors: Blue or green

Height: 5’6 to 5’9

Build: slim or skinny

Earnings: as long as she has a job

Job status: i don’t care

People they’ve dated: i don’t care

people they’ve slept with: less than 100

Religion: Atheist preferably but at least not very religious.

Sexuality: Straight or Bi

Age range: Around 20 - 27 (I’m 24)

Politics: Moderate Liberal or not into politics.

kukkle1111 · 2023-08-20T18:52:06+00:00

Assigned female at birth.
Vaguely fuckable.
HIV negative.

-snickerss- · 2023-08-20T17:52:04+00:00

Hair color/s

Don't care

Eye color/s

Don't care

Height/s

Don't really care, but not too short that she would make me look like I'm dating a child

Build/s

Curvy

Earnings equal to, less than, or more than you.

Equal or less but not too much

Job status equal to, less than, or higher than you.

Same answer

Minimum and max people they dated.

No preference

Minimum and max people they slept with.

No minimum, but preferably 4-5 max

Religion/s

Atheist, Agnostic or Deist

Sexuality/s

Straight

Age range(add if that’s: Same age, younger than, or older than)

15 - 40, although at my age it is highly unlikely I will be dating someone older than 2-3 years

Political view: Conservative, liberal, independent, not into politics, or something else

Center-right or centrist

No_Researcher_9726 · 2023-08-20T20:22:15+00:00

Even though you said this is for men, I'm a woman and still wanna answer.

Generally don't really have a preference. I'm not a fan of dyed hair that is a non natural color though (blue, green, pink, etc.)
Same as last question. Don't have a preference
Ideally, at least 5'10
I like muscle (not Arnold-like builds though). To me, Steve Reeves is the peak of male physique. It would be super unreasonable to expect guys (especially in the modern world with so many factors working against them) to have a physique like him, obviously. But I do like quite a bit of muscle mass.
Ideally, more than, but I'd be alright with equal. However, I would make an exception if my man worked in ministry as that field historically pays low salaries and wages.
Kinda flexible on this. It just depends on the job, tbh.
Mhm probably no more than 5 IDEALLY, but realistically probably 10 and under.
I'm female, so body count isn't as important to me as it would be for a man. As long as it's clear that he's not caught up in hooking up and promiscuity at the present time I'm dating him, it's not really an important factor.
Christian. No exceptions. Ideally, Orthodox. If he's not Orthodox, then I would still date him so long as he knows that we would get married and raise children in the Orthodox church.
Straight.
Same age as me (younger is fine too if it's by a few months or a year or two) or at a max 7-10 years older.
Conservative (or right leaning).

Bandit174 · 2023-08-20T20:24:26+00:00

1 Black or brown

2 Any

3 Between 5'1 and 5'7

4 Petite, skinny fat or toned

5 Equal to or less than mine

6 don't care as long as she isn't a sex worker, massage therapist or flight attendant

7 Lower the better, max 10

8 The lower the better, max 10

9 Ideally agnostic but I'm ok if shes religious as long as she's open minded about it

10 heterosexual

11 20 to 30 inclusive maybe ideal around 23 or 24

12 Moderate or not into politics

Asatmaya · 2023-08-20T17:12:36+00:00

Red
Green
Do not care
On the slender side of medium, some curve to hip and breast, but anything other than super-skinny or obese
Don't care
Don't care
Don't care
None would be weird in my age range, but other than that don't care
Non-religious or possessing a metaphorical understanding of any religion
Het/bi/poly
30-50 (I'm 45)
I am left-libertarian-progressive and rebelliously intellectual, so...

Ambitious-Knee7586 · 2023-08-20T18:46:35+00:00

Why is everyone on Reddit atheist and liberal or either or. It’s genuinely weird seeing

passportbro999 · 2023-08-20T17:38:51+00:00

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tired_hillbilly · 2023-08-20T17:59:28+00:00

With the caveat that this is like my absolute ideal, not what I expect to get or think I deserve or w/e.

Doesn't matter, but I like full, rich color. So like, really black black or really blonde blonde or really red red.
Gotta be honest, I rarely notice.
Not important, as long as it's not insane in either direction.
Instagram body basically. Busty with ass, but also not fat. Let me reiterate that I know it's unrealistic; I don't care, we're talking fantasy here right?
Don't care. Just no stupid debt. Fine with "smart" debt, like student loans or mortgages or w/e, not fine with credit card debt or buying expensive stuff on payment plans
Again, don't care.
0
0
Catholic is ideal, OK with others if they don't push it. Also ok with atheist, I am one after all.
Me-sexual; only attracted to me.
18-34-ish, (that's younger to a little older than me)
Independent-conservative. Basically she's conservative, but not Republican. Not into politics is good too.

dedhoorsluv2fuk · 2023-08-20T17:19:29+00:00

Redheads with green eyes which is extremely rare but they always get my dick hard.

Dont care height. Im 5.7ft ill get a ladder if i have too.

Would like some kind of titty to grab, just have more than a mosquito bite, asses can be built in the gym and im a gym rat so she has to atleast go to the gym a little bit.

Dont like abs on girls. Just dont have flabs, so be a healthy weight.

Cant be religious or political, must be an anarchist like me or atleast see through politics for what it is. Nihilists preferred. Or not. Philosphy nerds are a huge turn on, im conflict orientated so argue with me it just turns me on.

Must be a vegan, must be a pipehitting bitch because i hate weaklings and im a sadist so thats the perfect mix, strong but gets off on being dominated.

Dont care about anything else just dont be stupid or entitled. Nerds, metalheads, and misanthropists preferred but not required.

Wbu OP?

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Pizzashillsmom · 2023-08-20T18:32:42+00:00

Dirty Blonde
Blue
170cm
Normal? Hour glass? Idk tbh, I need to see it with my own eyes.
Don’t care
Don’t care
0
0
Atheist
Straight
19-21 (3-5 years younger than me)
Strong family values, politics is whatever as long as she’s not some radical.

TransitionStrong5123 · 2023-08-21T14:14:59+00:00

Dark hair
Light eyes blue/ green/ gray
Taller than me 5’9”+
Any build just not obese wide shoulders and strong arm.
Earnings about equal to my own
Job status no preference
No preference
No preference—-for both 7 & 8 they’ve chosen me now.
Atheist
Straight
My age plus or minus 5
Independent, not into politics, liberal

13. Matching sense of humor

Most of these things have some wiggle room. If someone has most of the qualities and we are able to accommodate each other’s opinions for things like religion or politics that would work. If someone has most of the characteristics but doesn’t fit into the looks that can also by overlooked. For example I said I like light eyes but I’ve only had 1 serious boyfriend with light eyes.

goingtothecircus · 2023-08-22T01:27:11+00:00

Hair color/s - Brown
Eye color/s - Brown or hazel
Height/s - Any really . As long as he is huggable and snuggable.
Build/s -- Any :3 as long as he is not morbidly unwell
Earnings equal to, less than, or more than you. -- Equal is okay does not matter much
Job status equal to, less than, or higher than you. -- Does not matter to me
Minimum and max people they dated. -- Does not matter
Minimum and max people they slept with. -- I would prefer a virgin but its okay if not
Religion/s -- Christian
Sexuality/s -- Straight
Age range(add if that’s: Same age, younger than, or older than) -- 27 and up
Political view: Conservative, liberal, independent, not into politics, or something else -- Not into policies

Gr4nd45 · 2023-08-20T19:25:10+00:00

TBH, more important than your mentioned traits, is that she'd be family-oriented, loyal, respectful and loving. Looks aren't so much of a concern for me, I think most women who take care of their weight and diet are pretty.

Blonde or ginger
Doesn't matter
Doesn't matter
Slender, not skinny (within healthy BMI).
As long as she doesn't work full-time, doesn't matter.
No full-time job.
None
None
Christian
Straight (obviously)
20 - 25
Leaning more right, doesn't have to necessarily identify with any.

M3taBuster · 2023-08-20T19:54:30+00:00

dark brown or black (and looong)
blue or green
5'0 ish
"slim thick", wide hips, big butt, big boobs
less than
less than
no minimum, I'd start to get concerned around 5+
must be 0
agnostic
straight
18-23 (I'm 22)
libertarian would be ideal, but conservative would be fine too

theprettyocean · 2023-08-21T02:07:36+00:00

Woman who likes men:

Hair color/s - black (but honestly I don't really care, I'm cool with black, brown, red, blonde)
Eye color/s - blue or green or hazel
Height/s - 5'10-6'3. I keep ending up with men who are 6'3 so this feels the most familiar but I'm cool with anything in this range
Build/s - wide shoulders, lean but fit, muscular but not bulky, athletic basically but more of a swimmer's body or cyclist's body. I like abs and I like a nice butt lol.
Earnings equal to, less than, or more than you. - more lol
Job status equal to, less than, or higher than you. - equal or more
Minimum and max people they dated. - minimum is 1, maximum is 8
Minimum and max people they slept with. - minimum is 1, maximum is 5 (but I'm aware this is unrealistic for the kinds of guys I like)
Religion/s - agnostic, spiritual, non-religious in general but not atheist
Sexuality/s - straight
Age range(add if that’s: Same age, younger than, or older than) - I have a range I'm OK with but ideally +2/-5. Yeah I'm weird.
Political view: Conservative, liberal, independent, not into politics, or something else - someone who doesn't define themselves and instead thinks critically... but they have to have humane views, be a bit conservative in some ways and liberal in some ways, because I'm a mix. Ideally we generally align on this (and surprisingly I've dated this guy more than once, so I know they're out there).

Steakman1 · 2023-08-20T17:58:06+00:00

Blonde or black. But really as long as it’s a natural hair color then I don’t really care.
Blue
I’m 6’1”. So anyone under a foot shorter than me is probably too short. But other than that I don’t really have a preference as long as she isn’t freakishly tall.
This is really tough to just pick one. But if I had to pick a dream physique I would probably say a toned/fit build with slightly visible abs, but not a full on six pack.
Don’t care. I only care that she does something that she’s relatively passionate about and isn’t overly stressed out from doing.
Same as 5.
If we’re talking about the perfect partner, if she’s closer to my age (mid 20s), then I would probably want her to have been in a relationship that lasted longer than 6 months. If she’s only in her early 20s, then there isn’t really a minimum. Max relationships would be maybe 2 relationships that lasted longer than 6 months and no short term flings/relationships.
No minimum. Her being a virgin doesn’t really bother me. All the women I’ve dated were virgins when we first started dating. As long as she understands that I expect sex to be a part of our relationship at some point before marriage, then I’m fine with it. Maximum would probably be 2 from those long term relationships she was in previously.
I’m not really sure since I’m not very religious myself.
I’ve dated hetero women and I’ve also dated a bi woman who only wanted to be in relationships with men. Either I suppose is fine. No preference.
Im in my mid 20s. I would say the age range would be maybe 20-26.
I would say I’m center-right, so preferably something close to that.

Intrepid_Ad3062 · 2023-08-20T19:57:08+00:00

Hair: dark
eyes: dark
5’10”-6’2”
Slightly athletic with lightly musculed forearms. Broad, rounded chest and shoulders.
More than me
Higher than me
Min dated? 20 Max dated: 100
Min sex: 12 Max sex: 100
Agnostic
Straight af
41-55 (older than me)
1. Politics: libertarian or anarchist 💋

insensitiveTwot · 2023-08-20T22:23:25+00:00

Doesn’t matter but I prefer long hair
Hazel or dark dark brown
Taller than me, I’m 5’2”
I like THICK men
Equal or greater earnings
Job status genuinely doesn’t matter as long as they’re contributing to the household and ideally doesn’t hate his job
At least one serious relationship
Doesn’t matter as long as he’s clean. I prefer an experienced man
Prefer an atheist/agnostic but as long as he’s flexible about me not being religious and won’t insist on our children being raised religiously then personal faith isn’t that big a deal to me
I’ve only ever dated straight men so I’m not sure about this
Roughly the same age, 1-3 years older or younger is ok
Definitely need someone as far left as I consider myself. Absolutely no conservatives

SaltyThunderNuggets · 2023-08-20T18:20:36+00:00

I'm pretty open to all types of women, but I'm most attracted to Middle Eastern and Latina women. The strongest crush I've ever had was on an Iranian girl

Black, bonus if it's wavy
Brown/Hazel
Anywhere from 5'0-5'5"
Idc as long as she's not anorexic or obese. Boob size isn't super important as long they are perky and not extremely abnormal looking. I do like a nice ass, doesn't have to be super fat
Don't care
Don't care
As long as she doesn't have crazy ex's I might have to deal with then idc
Don't care as long as she hasn't fucked any of my friends, or is an ex-pornstar
Preferably none
Straight
24-30
Not conservative

Correct-Warthog-9061 · 2023-08-20T18:58:53+00:00

Dont care
Don't care
Dont care
Not fat. I'm skinny and athletic.
Earning a good wage. We gotta combine together or a super high income.
Employeed 7.dont care 8.still dont care
U can believe in whatever you want
Love me
Around my age
Critical thinker
Pretty smile

Anti_Thing · 2023-08-20T21:16:27+00:00

Dark brown.
Green, blue, or maybe grey.
5'5" to 5'10".
Hourglass, skinny, or slightly-pear-shaped-but-not-too-fat.
Makes less than me (assuming that I'm established in my career by this point). Once we marry I'd prefer that she either work from home part time or make no money at all.
I don't really care about job status. Equal to me I guess? Once we marry I'd prefer that she either work from home part time or make no money at all.
I don't really care how many people she dated, though I suppose 0 would be ideal.
0.
Christian, specifically a born-again, spirit-filled, Bible-believing Protestant who has more or less the same religious beliefs as me.
Straight.
20-25 (I'm 25).
Conservative/reactionary on social issues, & moderate/centrist/pragmatic/populist/eclectic on economic issues.

These aren't part of your list, but my ideal woman would also be baby crazy, Hungarian, introverted, artsy/eccentric/nerdy, & have Asperger's/high functioning autism/NVLD.

KentuckyCriedFlickin · 2023-08-21T05:47:20+00:00

Hair color/s - Black (Brown works too)
Eye color/s - Brown
Height/s - 4'11 - 5'4
Build/s - Don't really care, just not obese nor boney. I prefer girls with a bit of meat. An appreciative ass and tits, I guess.
Earnings equal to, less than, or more than you. - 10k more than mine or less
Job status equal to, less than, or higher than you. - Within the ballpark or mine or less
Minimum and max people they dated. 0 - 5
Minimum and max people they slept with. 0 - 4
Religion/s - Depends how heavily they identify with it, doesn't really matter unless its extreme (atheism included).
Sexuality/s - Hetero
Age range(add if that’s: Same age, younger than, or older than) - 18 to 24
Political view: Conservative, liberal, independent, not into politics, or something else - Spectrum of moderate left to conservative-leaning centrist if they are into politics. If not, I don't care.

kjk67895 · 2023-08-20T19:06:09+00:00

Perfect world:

1: brunette 2: blue 3: I’m 6’3 so above 5’3 4: big ass and big boobs. Preferably flat stomach. 5. More I hate working 6: higher I hate working 7: if she’s been in like 5 that’s weird to me, like what’s going on there 8: minimum 10 I don’t want the sex to be bad 9: atheist/agnostic won’t work any other way 10: whoever likes sucking dick 11: 21-30, hookups can go a little lower and a lot higher 12: liberal won’t work any other way

BLKSKNHED · 2023-08-20T17:30:03+00:00

why would i spend time describing that? don't be ugly it's that simple and no I'm not clamouring to date the first person that pays attention to me, weirdo

Zabadoodude · 2023-08-20T17:33:44+00:00

Hair & eye color - don't care

Height - 5'2 - 6'

Build - actually curvy, not fat

Earnings & job status - equal or less than me. I wouldn't care but most women would be bothered by it eventually, so I'd rather not deal with that

Number of people they dated/ were sexual with - I don't have a number, but some relationship experience is ideal. I would be suspicious of a woman that never was with a guy for more than casual. I also don't want a woman that's been too into the hookup scene. To put a number on it: 1-10

Religion - not too religious

Sexuality - ideally just straight, though I could be open to bisexual women

Age - I'm mid 30's. Ideal would be 22-29

Politics - open minded about different political views. Not too socially conservative as that's a value difference.

I also wanted a woman that was fun to spend time with, very affectionate, did not fly off the handle or pick fights or create drama

purplish_possum · 2023-08-20T17:35:43+00:00

Hair color/s -- Doesn't matter
Eye color/s -- Doesn't matter
Height/s -- Rather she'd be tall
Build/s -- BBW (200 to 400 lbs)
Earnings equal to, less than, or more than you. Roughly equivalent.
Job status equal to, less than, or higher than you. Roughly equivalent.
Minimum and max people they dated. Not more than 10 LTRs.
Minimum and max people they slept with. 10 to 100.
Religion/s -- Rather she was an atheist.
Sexuality/s -- Straight.
Age range(add if that’s: Same age, younger than, or older than) -- 5 to 20 years younger.
Political view: Conservative, liberal, independent, not into politics, or something else -- Liberal, absolutely no Republicans.

TheDustLord · 2023-08-20T18:17:56+00:00

1-3 Don’t care

4 Thicc

5-6 Same ballpark

7 Max 4 I guess

9 Don’t care

10 Hetero

11 Around 24. I’m 29.

12 Non feminist

AlmostKindaGreat · 2023-08-20T18:25:50+00:00

Don't care what color, but would prefer not super short, like a buzzcut. A wig is completely fine if she's losing her hair.
Don't care
Don't care, but in practice a man being shorter is a negative for almost all women (I've read 97% recently), so at least a bit shorter than me is preferred to avoid issues. I'm 6' so 5'10" or below.
Fit and fairly slender
Don't care
I like a competent professional or a woman who has other passions and skills
Don't care
Minimum: 1, a couple more preferred. I don't know if I have a maximum, though I think I would start to wonder if she's a bit wild for me if it was ridiculously high. If she was super into sex with me and it was good I don't think I'd care regardless. I also wouldn't ask and I figure people can always lie or think certain ones "don't count" so I don't think about this much.
Don't care, as long as they are not super religious
Don't care, but I figure she would have to be straight or bi to be into me
30-45 (I'm 40)
Liberal or not into politics. I hate for this to be something that divides us, but realistically I won't have similar values with someone who is conservative in the USA these days. That said, I would also have some issues with someone far left who is not open minded and can't discuss issues with nuance.

Lift_and_Lurk · 2023-08-20T21:13:42+00:00

1) brunette

2) green eyes

3) 5’1

4) thin frame, likes yoga

5) earnings about above avg,

6) passionate and following her major

7) I think seven/ish? I never asked

8) I don’t care but: it ended up 4

9). Same as me

10). Straight, but loves looking at attractive women.

11) 4 years younger

12) not political

disclaimer: this is my wife. i described “my perfect partner” as exactly what I have in a perfect partner, not what I thought I wanted/needed/desired/required,

afk_row · 2023-08-21T00:07:29+00:00

if we are talking about perfect I think I can get as unrealistic as I want so lets go

non human hair color like blue purple white etc.
again a non human eye color like purple red etc.
between 5'8 to 5'11
athletic build with tiny waist, big ass but not too big and properly shaped, healthy feet with no bunions, not wide wrists and ankles, cute fingers, no saggy tits and hollow armpits
Rich multi billionaire
Doesnt have to work, owns multiple businesses and is a land lord.
0
0
I dont know
straight female, not trans
18-30
center right

NangKwak51 · 2023-08-21T04:03:19+00:00

A nymphomaniac, but still presentable to Mom.

SorryEm · 2023-08-20T17:59:54+00:00

The biggest prerequisite to all of this is that she has to love me.

My ideal woman's looks are light-skinned, light-eyed, 5"9(being 5"9 is not important to me, I want to have tall kids), blonde(it is not important to me, I just want the status of having a blonde wife), and a slender build with wide hip bones of course(this is for when we do have kids, she will develop more curvaceously). She would've had no previous sexual or romantic partners.

The ideal IQ for her will be within the 120 - 150 range(not for my own sake but because I want smart kids), and her ideal age will be 18. Earnings are irrelevant, a college degree is not needed.

As far as her political views go, I don't want her to be politically aggressive about them at all even if she's aggressive with views similar to mine. Her beliefs shall be naïve but well-meaning. This will extend to her whole personality, naive but well-intentioned, with no malice, annoyingness, or rudeness to speak of.

Anyways, as you know, I live in reality, this girl doesn't exist, and even if she did would she even be interested in me? I am willing to acknowledge that this woman is not achievable. But the title said for me to pick the perfect girl.

MarBitt · 2023-08-20T18:03:09+00:00

Brunette, ginger.
Many options.
5' 5" - 5' 9"
Hourglass figure, firm ass, nice breasts. Not too skinny, not fat.
She is satisfied.
She is satisfied.
It doesn't matter if they were healthy relationships or she learned and healed.
It doesn't matter if they were healthy relationships or she learned and healed.
Agnostic, pantheist, mystic, tolerant atheist or tolerant religious
Straight.
-10/+7
Forming her own opinions instead of choosing sides.

TSquaredRecovers · 2023-08-20T18:39:12+00:00

For reference, I’m a 43 year-old conventionally attractive woman. I’m 5’4” and 120 pounds. I have my master’s degree and a long, successful career. I’m solidly upper-middle-class (not on the super high end).

1.) Hair color: Preferably blonde

2.) Eye color: Blue or green

3.) Height: Not super picky here. Somewhere between 5’8” and 6’3”. An ideal height would be 5’11”.

4.) Build: Ideally, he would be athletic. Not super muscular, but lean and in shape.

5.) Earnings: I care far more about education level than earnings. At least a bachelor’s degree. Earnings roughly similar to mine, but can be somewhat less or somewhat more.

6.) Job status: See above—education level matters more. Prefer a white-collar job, though.

7.) & 8.) I do not care. I’m an adult and understand that a potential partner had a life before me.

9.) Religion: A believer in God is fine, but I’m not interested in someone who is a hard-core churchgoer or fundamentalist.

10.) Sexuality: I am straight and looking for a straight male.

11.) Age Range: 35-50

12.) Absolutely not a conservative

Ylduts · 2023-08-20T19:12:12+00:00

Faithful and feminine. The bar is extremely low.

physious · 2023-08-20T17:48:53+00:00

Black eyes
Black hair (is it bad to say asian preferred if i'm asian)
Same height/shorter than me (5'8)
Skinny I guess?
Don't care. I'm makin fuckin bands so I have no issues if she's making no money. I also have no issues if she's making more than me because my ego isn't fragile
See 5
It's whatever as long as it's not extremely high
0-20 would be preferred otherwise our values and experience probably clash. No shame to them if it's more, just my personal preference.
Atheist / Agnostic
They at least gotta be attracted to me lmao
20 - 29, I'm right in the middle
Left leaning

no personality section? we live in a society 😔

/s

I pretty much just described my girlfriend.

Luciansleep · 2023-08-20T17:58:21+00:00

Don’t care
Don’t care
I normally like tall women
Skinny since I’m very athletic
Earns the same
Equal to
Don’t care
Don’t care
Don’t care as long as they don’t shit on mine
Preferably straight as I’ve noticed a lot of bisexual women have a lot of problems
Same age or older
Liberal but mainly preferred non political

Purple_Cruncher_123 · 2023-08-20T18:32:36+00:00

Hair color: no real preference.
Eye color: no real preference.
Height: ever slight preference to shorter than me, but current g/f is taller, and I’m big spoon energy in bed anyways.
Build: This is more of a screen-out than a screen-in. If she gets past baseline, we’ll make it work. I’m more of a butt guy than a chest guy, and I do like a good waist-hip curve however.
Earning power: somewhere near me is ideal so our lifestyles align. But otherwise, at least self-sufficiency.
Job status: no real preference. I’d wife a janitor who could make $300k/year. We’ll cry about lack of status in our memory-foam silk-threaded king bed and sheets together.
Min/max dating history: as long as it’s a reasonable amount, who cares. Like, if she’s been with 50 guys by 20, that’s probably a sign of something much deeper going on. But at 34, I don’t expect to find/date anyone who hasn’t at least had some experience.
Religion: no real preference. Religiosity correlates about zero to quality of personhood from my lived experiences.
Sexuality: at least freely into men, hopefully. If you’re talking libido, 1-3 times a week is our current pace, and it works well for us. When I was younger and buckier lad, I’d probably say 5-7.
Age range: close enough to me to understand my humor. Probably +/- 10 at most.
Politics: I’m more left than Biden and less left than AOC, so anyone who finds rough alignment in that general ballpark.

Things you didn’t ask for that I also consider:

Intellect: someone whose minimum is a well thought-out think piece. Not all the time of course, that’d be exhausting, but the bar is set at that level.

Temperament: cooperation over combativeness. I tire of dramatic people. And definitely not people with main-character energy.

Social skills: can hold their own. I don’t need to be babysat at social events. I expect to break off, mingle and say hi to people. A partner who can also do the same.

ConsciousInternal287 · 2023-08-20T18:36:37+00:00

Hair color: don’t care
Eye color: don’t care
Height: taller than me (I’m 5ft4)
Build: don’t mind as long as they aren’t massively obese
Earnings: enough to support themselves/comfortably live on
Job status: must be employed
Minimum and max people they dated: don’t care
Minimum and max people they slept with: don’t care
Religion: don’t care as long as they respect my beliefs/don’t try to force their religion on me
Sexuality: don’t care as long as they’re attracted to me
Age range: 26-34 (I’m 30, so want to date close to my age)
Political view: leftist/left leaning

Other requirements that weren’t mentioned: Must not have or want children. I’m childfree and plan to stay that way. Must not eat meat or fish. I’m vegan and would prefer to date someone who is at least vegetarian. Must have at least a Bachelor’s/undergraduate degree. I have a MSc and would like to date someone on a similar level.

Treacle-Flimsy · 2023-08-20T18:50:13+00:00

Black hair
Any colour will do
5'7 and more
Athletic build
Equal
Don't really care (If lower, I'll try to help however I can, if higher, I'll try to catch up, if equal, I'll try to encourage so that both of us topping the field)
Don't care, just not incredibly promiscuous (Like less than 30)
The same as 7
Don't care
Hetero
My or older or maybe slightly younger (I'm 22)
I don't have strict requirements, but the stance on the Ukraine war is a dealbreaker

Spaciousone · 2023-08-20T19:02:48+00:00

No blondes and brown eyes and height is 5’0 and up. Hm build I guess would be average not overweight but not underweight. As long as they are earning enough to provide for something I’m fine with it also 6 I don’t care.7) as long as they an experienced dater I don’t care and 8) 10 min 20 max. Whatever one that believes in ghost, Cryptids and aloe and I’m not really religious but that what I believe in. Man Um probably straight but I’m open to bi also political wise independent and growing up everyone in my family hates the side wars unless they did something right

No-Regular1667 · 2023-08-20T19:31:16+00:00

Black or brown hair. (And preferably straight hair since I don’t like curly hair on women)
Don’t care
Don’t care
Not obese
Equal to or higher
Don’t care
Don’t care
Don’t care
Don’t care
Straight
18-28 (I’m 21)
Preferably moderate liberal, but as long as they aren’t a communist or an extreme right-winger, I don’t care.

roastpork99 · 2023-08-20T19:45:55+00:00

Dark
Brown
Anywhere up to 5'10 tbh. I'm 5'7 myself so I'm a chibi. If you held a gun to my head to give a specific height then 5'6.
Curvy
Not too bothered so long as she's doing something she's passionate about and gets involved in it.
Same as above tbh
Not particularly bothered
No minimum. Maximum..hmm..I'd say around 20-30 in an ideal world. But if I really liked the woman and trusted her, it's not like I'd turn her down over her body count (well maybe if it's in the 100s). Preferably STD free.....well, within reason. I think HPV is too pervasive in my age group to avoid so I'd be ok with that.
Erm I'm not religious so I'd prefer that she's not. It's not that I have anything against religious women but it's more clash of lifestyles in the relationship.
Well preferably hetrosexual.
I'm 32, I'd prefer 28-38 or so but I wouldn't say not to 25-42.
Erm that's hard, I guess a mixture of liberal, independent and conservative. It's a bit of a cop out but I don't necessarily want any extreme of any of those.

Sabrepill · 2023-08-20T20:26:02+00:00

Some shade of brown (almost blonde to almost black)
Any
Depends on how she looks. Taller is better if she looks proportional and in harmony. Like 5 3 to 5 8 in most situations. Tall girls too often have bad proportions and short girls often have banging bodies but some are too small. I do not like small boned women at all. Frame matters more than height to me, the woman has to be robust and strong not weak and frail.
Natural, fit, slim thick with huge natural tits and a real bubble butt ass from genetics plus fitness. A large vagina with big clit and huge pussy lips (because it looks good to me and that will give our future son a big dick and balls too)
Don’t care
Don’t care
Less is better but don’t care that much
Same as 7
Any but open minded
Mostly straight
18-36 (I’m 42)
Open minded, independent, but recognize that the far left woke zombies are nut jobs

passportbro999 · 2023-08-20T21:28:35+00:00

Black or borwn
Brown (preference for asians or latinas overall)
Doesn't matter, advantages to both tall and short.
Wider hips / bigger thighs
less than
Any thing is ok except for business executives or entrepreneurs.
Doesn't matter
Doesn't matter as it's not verifiable , but ideally less than 100.
Cannot be religious of any kind, preferably buddhist though
Hetero
Doesn't matter too much, the women i prefer tend to age very slowly
Cannot be a tankie.

Barely-moral · 2023-08-20T21:34:28+00:00

The movie "Her" got it right. Only correction I would make is to make the AI a well designed product that remains with the customer that bought it performing the function it was designed to perform.

To answer your question.

Hair color: don't care.

Eye color: don't care

Height: don't care

Build: don't die before me. Otherwise don't care.

Earnings: don't leave, put the relationship first. Otherwise don't care.

Job: don't leave, put the relationship first. Otherwise don't care.

Min/Max people dated: don't leave, put the relationship first. Otherwise don't care.

Religion/s: don't leave, put the relationship first. Otherwise don't care.

Sexuality/s: attracted to me. Otherwise don't care.

Age range: Be legal. Don't die before me. Otherwise don't care.

Political view: Conservative, liberal, independent, not into politics, or something else:don't leave, put the relationship first. Otherwise don't care.

basedmama21 · 2023-08-20T21:45:01+00:00

First off I would never use the word “partner”, my perfect husband is the man I married

Disciplined
Masculine
Traditional
Athletic
Handsome
Loves children
High sense of duty.

Everything else is excess.

thebeepiestboop · 2023-08-20T22:13:18+00:00

Dark and long
Don’t care
Taller than me or as tall as me
For a guy muscular but not a body builder For a girl slender but a little curvy
Equal or more than
Equal or higher
Max 10 Min 1
Same as 7
Christian or Jewish but I don’t really care as long as they’re respectful of other religions
For a guy straight or bi for a girl bi or lesbian but bi is preferred
For a girl same age for a guy a few years older
Leftist

M_Ptwopointoh · 2023-08-20T23:00:46+00:00

Not fat, not a cheater, doesn't hate being a woman/doesn't want to prove she's the man in the relationship.

Pure_Artist_2726 · 2023-08-21T00:45:11+00:00

None of that shit matters to me. As long as she’s nice to me and likes to be around me and I her, then nothing else matters

SpaceGhost717 · 2023-08-21T03:10:51+00:00

My ideal partner is a young woman who is a virgin, who I find attractive and the attraction is mutual, is a heathy weight, is submissive, is Catholic /Christian, and will be willing to have babies with me.

Apprehensive-Kick290 · 2023-08-21T06:18:39+00:00

18 year old virgin, asian, long black hair, slightly shorter than me, plays video games. Adheres to traditional values. Fit. Pretty standard.

jungleboy3236 · 2023-08-21T11:59:18+00:00

White, black hair, blue eyes, a bit chubby, short, big ass, 18-25, no religion, unemployed, bisexual (and accepting of a threesome with a girl sometimes), conservative on the ballot (but not on the bed lol), as low of a body count as possible.

96tillinfinity_ · 2023-08-21T16:12:03+00:00

Just be funny, an emotionally stable non cunt, and not too fat

Nice tits too

kettlebell_workout · 2023-08-20T17:32:45+00:00

Hair: Brunette, personal preference
Eyes: Green, because it’s rare
Height: 5”0-5”5, because I am 5”7
Build: petite, I am fat phobic
Earnings: less or equal, because I want to feel like a man
Job status: better, because I want to be proud of her
Min max exes: 2 - 5, with virgins there is higher possibility cheating, she has to know what she wants
Min max sleep: 10 - 30, I want that she would be experienced. So that I could show to her that from all the men she had, I am the best at sex.
Religion: strictly atheism, teaching any religious nonsense to our children I consider a child abuse
Sexuality: strictly straight, I don’t like to share. Also putting my own dick into someone else and then into her I consider to be disrespectful.
Age: younger 5-15 years, cause I am 37
Politics: liberal, I like when people are more open minded in general

P.S I really enjoyed writing this up. People should do more often. When you know what you exactly are looking for you can be more efficient to finding.

Thanks 🙏 op for this.

TheRealMichaelBluth · 2023-08-20T17:48:37+00:00

Brunette
No preference
5’2 - 5’4”
Petite/slim build
In the same ballpark, this will create the least issues
No preference, as long as income/potential is same ballpark as me
No preference.
No preference.
I’m open, I just ask that they’re open minded and respect my culture
Straight female
A few years younger to a few years older. IME, I’ve connected better with older women, but I also want to have a kid too which gets harder with age
Liberal, but not the insufferable liberal extreme

notions_of_adequacy · 2023-08-20T18:21:42+00:00

Dark or red

Dark eyes

Don't care

Big shoulders/arms

Don't care

Don't care as long as they love what they do

1-5

More than 3 less than 100

Prefer non religious

Straight, bi , pan

32-37

Not political, definitely not Conservative Edit:formatting, also am a woman these are for my ideal man

waffleznstuff30 · 2023-08-20T18:23:49+00:00

Hair color/s: Black or dark brown
Eye color/s: don't really care.
Height: 5'8 and up. 5'9 is nice we can share cars and not adjust too much
Build/s: Slender/fit. Doesn't have to be buff.
Earnings: Irrelevant as long as they are doing something. And at least have a career established.
Job status: Irrelevant again. As long as they have a career established for themselves.
Minimum and max people dated: Enough people that they have an idea of what they want. And can communicate what expectations they want for a partner.
Minimum and max people they slept with: Irrelevant. As long as they were safe. And they have a reciprocal effort in the bedroom.
Religion/s: Atheist. Maybe Spiritual. But atheist for me.
Sexuality: Straight. But if he's pan or bi that wouldn't bother me. As long as he has been careful sexually.
Age range: 1-8 years older or younger. But roughly within my age range.
Political view: Liberal/Independent.

Africandictatorson · 2023-08-20T20:44:07+00:00

1/dark hair , i like long hair 2/ dark intense eyes 3/either 5'5-5'3 or 5'11-6'1 , im 6'1 4/ fit and slim if she is short and big butt/boobs hourglass figure if she my height but not obese 5/a little less would be ideal but i can deal with a little more or equal but not of she makes more than 25% more 6/ Ideally a doctor either family medecine or some low stress speciality like derm/opth etc 7/ min 0 , max 20 8/min 0 , max 2 9/atheist, agnostic but can deal with non over the top muslim 10/hetero 11/25-29 12/doesn't care about politics at all

Lovemelikeareptile1 · 2023-08-20T23:07:08+00:00

Big assed Latina, who has lots of slutty friends. Barely speaks English but understands "blow job" and "anal" and "theeesome"

Goyeyo565 · 2023-08-20T18:00:14+00:00

any as long as its natural
any
anything above 5'6 I've seen how badly short men are treated and I can't betray my future sons like that.
curvy > athletic > average > a bit chubby > thin. Not obese not roided.
the more the better but whatever she brings is fine
don't care but she does have to have a job and do something with her life
I care more about the type of people she's dating and not necessarily the number.
a specific number is kinda weird but I guess above 15 I would consider to be a bit too much for a person in their mid 20s.
any as long as she isn't too strict about it.
Must be into dicks cause that's what I can offer
21 minimum, 2-3 years older than me max
don't really care as long as she's not into racism and too much authoritarianism.

I would also like to know:

a) if she's ever been in a long term relationship before

b) how much debt she's carrying

c) does she have kids

bad_nerves · 2023-08-20T18:24:21+00:00

no preference, depends on ethnicity
green/blue
5'7
slim thick
ideally equal, don't mind either way though
doesn't matter as long as it's good work
0 - 3
0 - 6
ideally atheist or religious in the woo woo "my connection is between me and god" kind of way
heterosexual
18-26 (4 year age band)
not into politics

AreOut · 2023-08-20T18:44:03+00:00

I will just copy this from another thread.

"fun, but fairly responsible. Not too jaded, not on a strict timeline to start a family, but willing to eventually settle down if the relationship progressed well."

just not red or purple or green
any
not taller than 6'2
feminine
6. 7. 8. 9. irrelevant

10 heterosexual I guess?

11 25 - 35

12 just not closed minded

kalashhhhhhhh · 2023-08-20T19:41:02+00:00

Hair color/s- dark blonde/very light brown, but I don't really care, my least favorite is ginger
Eye color/s- blue
Height/s- 6'5 (range would be 5'7+, I'm 5'7)
Build/s- muscular, strong, but natural
Earnings equal to, less than, or more than you.- the same as me or a little bit more than me (like 150€ more than me monthly)
Job status equal to, less than, or higher than you.- completely different fields of work, but ideally we'd both be respected in our profession
Minimum and max people they dated.- I don't know and don't expect to know the exact number
Minimum and max people they slept with.- it's 5 before me and I'm perfectly content with that (the ideal range would be 2-9)
Religion/s- atheist with a catholic background and family
Sexuality/s- straight
Age range(add if that’s: Same age, younger than, or older than)- 22, I'm 21, ideal is 20-25
Political view: Conservative, liberal, independent, not into politics, or something else- liberal for Croatian standards, centrist/ a bit right leaning for US standards (I'd prefer if he was a bit more liberal overall but we mostly agree)

SlowEffective8146 · 2023-08-20T19:44:54+00:00

Hair color/s

Not picky on this at all

Eye color/s

Blue/green is cool

Height/s

Anything 5'4 or under

Build/s

Curvy, not fat. Like an actually good WHR. Big tits ideally. Ass doesn't need to be huge but just looks like she exercises.

Earnings equal to, less than, or more than you.

Less than me, ideally.

Job status equal to, less than, or higher than you.

Less than me.

Minimum and max people they dated.

No min or max.

Minimum and max people they slept with.

Max probably 5. I guess this depends on age, if she's my age I'd be slightly more lenient.

Religion/s

Doesn't matter.

Sexuality/s

Doesn't matter.

Age range(add if that’s: Same age, younger than, or older than)

Ideally around 24-26.

Political view: Conservative, liberal, independent, not into politics, or something else

I don't care as long as she's not extreme on either end or want a guy who's extremist.

gopher_glitz · 2023-08-20T19:57:40+00:00

Fidelity tops everything 1-3 - don't care as long as she's attractive, feminine and hygienic/well groomed
Not fat
Don't care, as long as she is economically fair
Don't care, as long as she doesn't use it against me
Not trying to emotionally invest in a slut
See #7
Agnostic
Bi
Younger
Non political

hockey_psychedelic · 2023-08-20T20:34:14+00:00

Dark - Asian
Brown - Asian
5’5 or below
Slightly chubby but not obese / not skinny
Highly educated (Ivy League is ideal)
I like professional highly educated women
Not my business - >1
Not my business - >1
Atheists or Agnostic
Straight or bi
35-50 - younger then I am
Absolutely must be liberal - no republicans or conservatives

RealAmericanWeasel · 2023-08-20T20:55:50+00:00

I've never dated so I have nothing compare to, as far as an ideal.

I'd prefer someone who either didn't work, worked part-time, or made a lot more than I did. Aside from that and an interest in men, none of those things would be important to me.

I'd have to get to know a lot of different people before I had any semblance of an ideal.

Lady-Madrid · 2023-08-20T20:59:23+00:00

Replying as a woman

I don't care about the color but I like men with long hair or at least a grown out short hairstyle.
No preference.
Thin or fit but to a reasonable degree. I don't like guys that are very muscular, I find them intimidating.
Same as me or a bit taller, 5'7-5'9. I'm 5'5 and 5'7 in platforms and I wear them all the time.
Equal or higher.
Equal or higher and they must also be employed or be actively looking for a job.
0-10. I'm not super interested in dating so I wouldn't care if the other person had no experience.
0-5.
Atheist or agnostic. I don't date religious people.
Straight or bi.
20-25, around the same age
Apolitical/independent preferably and if not, liberal, but critical of every position.

Other requisites:

-Must have an university degree

-Must have minimal problem resolution skills and critical thinking. People that can't do anything get on my nerves.

thedarkracer · 2023-08-20T21:10:18+00:00

Anyone I can connect with.

iwilldominateubitch · 2023-08-20T21:30:05+00:00

Hair color/s

Blonde, redhead and brunette. I'm not too fussed about hair colour

Eye color/s

Blue/hazel are nice

Height/s

Being 5'11 (M), I prefer women around 5'2

Build/s

Slimthick

Earnings equal to, less than, or more than you.

Earning around or a little bit less

Job status equal to, less than, or higher than you.

Less than

Minimum and max people they dated.

Between 0 to 10

Minimum and max people they slept with.

Between 0 to 4

Religion/s

No religion

Sexuality/s

Straight or bi, don't really mind

Age range(add if that’s: Same age, younger than, or older than)

I'm 21, so women between 17 to 20.

Political view: Conservative, liberal, independent, not into politics, or something else

Not into politics/apathetic

Loveenglishpeople · 2023-08-20T21:58:44+00:00

Ok. So ideal. Am a woman, heterosexual. My ideal man :

Brown, anything from very dark almost pitch black to very light brown is fine. I’d be fine with red head, but not with the typical « red head features » though, like a red head I would like, but not with round cheeks and super white, red skin that doesn’t tan. Blonde is fine, but same, I dislike that super white skin, with plump face and button noses look that natural blondes often have.
Any eye color is fine, its more about the shape of the eyes and brows that give it a sexy look. Though I really like the dark brown/brown hair and blue eyes look. Good eyelashes (pretty long, pretty dark) is a great thing.
I am 170cm tall. Anything over 180cm is fine. Ideal man would be 188cm I think.
As for the build, the thighs must be super thicc, very muscular. Long legs, but torso seems longer. Thicc ass, ass must not be too muscular so I have something to grab onto. As for the 6 pack, it is not mandatory, as long as his fat pourcentage allow him to have defined cheek bones and leaner cheeks. My ideal man is not too lean (better for snuggles, I like a bit of fat on the stomach, arms, butt and thighs) but lean and strong and fit enough to be able to follow me on 8 hours long hikes, hour long runs, and wanna train for marathons or stuff like this (I know this man probs doesn’t exist, but he asked ideal okay? Let me dream, thank you. I am not that lean, yet I can do that, so its more about your heart and lungs capacity rather than ur weight.)

For the build, the ideal man has a very very very broad back. I am talking covers the sun with his back. The shoulders must be supeeer wide. The wider the better. And the shoulders must be very defined, stand out from the rest. The arms must not be wider than the shoulders. The muscles around the neck must not be too muscular. The back is very lean and muscular.

my ideal man would have thin and veiny wrists, fingers, hands and feet (like me). Long hands. With well kept nails and jewelry (earrings or finger bands,…)

Earning is not as important as his willingness to spend on me AND his ability to not overspend for stupid stuff. A billionaire who keep all his money for himself is of no use, and a billionaire who loses all of it to some bet is useless. I don’t think I will earn a ron of money, so I’d like him to earn much more, so we can both be safe from money worries.
Job status idgaf. My ideal man is a physiotherapist. To relieve me of my many tensed up muscles and give professional massages often.
No one before me.
I said no one lol.
Atheist.
More dominant. No sub tendencies. But not violent, just like to take charge, doesn’t like me to take too much initiatives in bed. Vanilla would be okay though. But no sub. My ideal man hates porn and never watch it. He masturbate to things he sees in his head, like me. He likes having sex several times a day. Every day. He can do it two times in a row and last 10 minutes to 20 minutes in piv. He likes feet and worship mine. He dgaf about body hair or scars. I am his physical ideal.
A bit older, so he already has a place, a job and a car, and I don’t have to deal with his family too much. Same age as me is fine if he has all if this already. But must be as mature as me.
Mostly left leaning. But open to debate. He think not everything is black or white, and that there are good and bad ideas in every ideology. I’d like someone who is as open to new ideas as me. Who likes the debate.

You forgot very important things though. There are sooo much more to this list. (A man who doesn’t has some of the things listed under would not be ideal for me)

Hobbies he likes. My ideal man is very very into sports. Love running, walking, for hours, is into the idea of starting to train for marathons/thriathlons together. He goes to the gym often.

He reads books often, from romance to fantasy, to science-fiction, like me.

He is into keeping his skin from aging and we help each other with sunscreen and creams.

He likes to have nice clothes that flatter his features, and will go the extra mile to have them. He is able to give me very good advice to help choose between dresses or tops. He is good at it. He brings me gifts that corresponds my style from observing what I wear.

Also my ideal man has long hair. (On his head lol, god is English a weird language to not make a difference between the two). And I like a thin beard, with lighter colored hairs.

Disasterid · 2023-08-20T22:07:16+00:00

Probably not the intended demographic but: 1: truly don’t care as long as it looks good. Like I think unnatural colors and natural colors can all look great, but if it’s a bad dye job/haircut that’s not great. 2: doesn’t matter 3: 4’11”-5’9” 4: slim-chubby-muscular 5: I mean it’d be great if she made more lol, more money is good. 6: doesn’t matter 7: 2-30? 8: don’t really care as long as no stis 9: preferably agnostic or atheist but spirituality doesn’t bother me at all 10: bi or lesbian 11: preferable same age or very similar 12: liberal-left wing

Antisocialite99 · 2023-08-20T22:09:32+00:00

There's a few key qualities you're leaving out. intelligence, capacity for independent thought, and ability to go against the norm/grain, not in a truly obstinate way, but just in an indpendent way, more like living and acting based on their independent thoughts, are all important to me, as are the attitude that she be willing to work on herself and view life as a journey of learning and growth, as well as an adventure.

I don't give a shit fi she makes more or less than me, or the status of her job, but would want her to pursue employment and activities she finds meaningful, fulfilling, lead to self growth, and that help others and engage her curiosity and passion.

Politics I don't really care about, but just based of my first sentence's descriptions, she will not be rabidly right or left, but will rather think critically and independently about each individual issue, and not just choose one side of the political spectrum to build her identity off of so that she can avoid actually thinking critically about every issue.

I don't really care that much about specifics about looks, but she would be pretty, and fit.

Larry-Man · 2023-08-20T22:18:18+00:00

ETA: am woman.

Hair color/s don’t care
Eye color/s don’t care
Height/s within 5” of my own height, either direction
Build/s anything but massively overweight or massively jacked. I’m fine with dad boss, slim builds, etc. I guess slight dad bod is ideal for cuddling but it’s not remotely a requirement.
Earnings equal to, less than, or more than you. As long as we have enough to live on I’m cool. I’m trying to go minimalist with my life.
Job status equal to, less than, or higher than you. Don’t care.
Minimum and max people they dated. More than one at this age would be preferable
Minimum and max people they slept with. Don’t care as long as they’re sti free.
Religion/s Buddhist, agnostic, atheist
Sexuality/s attracted to me is all I need
Age range(add if that’s: Same age, younger than, or older than) I’m 36 so 30-40
Political view: Conservative, liberal, independent, not into politics, or something else socialist commie/left-libertarian, or any other form of aggressively anti-capitalist. Must not be a SWERF or TERF. Pro-unions.

uselessloner123 · 2023-08-20T22:19:29+00:00

Fair warning that some of these are ridiculous because you said “dream”. I don’t care if I don’t get some of these in real life and some of these won’t be used to filter women irl. I will not be disappointed or feel like I am “settling” if I don’t get it.

1) Full shaded color (dark brown/lemon blonde/deep red)

2) Blue

3) 5’ 9”-6’ 1”

4) Hourglass and fit

5) Don’t care as long as she can live independently

6) Don’t care

7) Don’t care but she needs significant reasons for no longer being with them. Also she can’t be on good terms with any of them.

8) Min: 0, Max: 0

9) Christian but not too fundamental. But at the same time not just someone going to Church just to keep up an image. Don’t care about denomination.

10) Straight women only

11) 18-22 (younger than but not by a lot). This one is dependent on my current age. If I was older I’d have a wider age range than this.

12) Moderate, independent, apolitical, conservative are all fine.

RIPGeorgeHarrison · 2023-08-20T22:40:45+00:00

Doesn’t matter much
Doesn’t matter much
5’9”- 6’3” though realistically not too likely
Honestly too complicated to get into and sort of varies by height
More than because why would I not want more money in my household?
Don’t really care
Minimum 1, max 20 I guess.
See 7
Agnostic or nominally Christian/religious
Straight?
20-28 (I’m 25)
Liberal

Iakobos_Mathematikos · 2023-08-20T23:02:35+00:00

Any
Any
Any
Preferably not obese
Any
Any
Any
Any
Preferably Christian
Any, but asexual might be preferable since someone interested in men probably would never want me.
18+
Any

But of course, people will tell me I’m an incel because my standards are too high.

I_can_get_loud_too · 2023-08-20T23:10:47+00:00

I’m a bisexual woman aged 35 for whatever that’s worth

Hair color: Don’t care

2: Eye Color: Don’t care

3: Height: for men over 6’, for women under 5’6”

4: Build: thin or muscular or a little chubby

5: Earnings: don’t care but if they don’t earn enough to ever travel or take vacations that will weigh on me eventually

6: job: don’t care

7: people they dated: don’t care

8: people they slept with: don’t care

9: religion: Christian or Jewish

10: sexuality: straight or bisexual for guys, bisexual or lesbian for girls

11: age range: 18-39 but would consider someone slightly older if we had a lot in common

12: political views: democrat or socialist or communist

Common interests are a lot more important to me than most of the things on this list. I’m bored to tears whenever I try to date someone who doesn’t like to watch sports or play fantasy football or who goes on their phone at a baseball game instead of watching the game. Same with finding someone else who enjoys travel. It’s not a deal breaker but I enjoy travel a lot and want to share that with someone.

Ginny-Sacks-Mole · 2023-08-21T00:24:59+00:00

1 brunette

2 doesn't matter

3 short

4 zaftig...

5 doesn't matter

6 don't care

7 doesn't matter

8 within reason

9 doesn't matter, would avoid a bitter atheist as well as fundamental practitioner

10 hetero

11 +10... - 5

12 no matter

AstronautLoveShack · 2023-08-21T00:29:40+00:00

Dark hair
Dark eyes
Taller than me (I’m 5’2 and change)
Not picky
Don’t care as long as he can support himself.
See# 5
More than 0
More than 0
Agnostic or atheist is preferred but I can date a believer as long as they do not want to convert me.
Don’t care as long as they enjoy having sex with me.
Within 5 years in either direction, for my husband I allowed 7 years.
Liberal.

Enflamed-Pancake · 2023-08-21T00:48:58+00:00

Ginger or Brunette
Any, but brown eyes are nice
Anywhere between 5’2 and 6’4
Not morbidly obese, beyond that I don’t have a major preference
Approximately equal
Equal status
Less than 10 max
Less than 30 max
Atheist
Straight
23 - 35
As long as she’s not a fascist or a communist I’m sure it’ll be fine.

leftrunner · 2023-08-21T00:57:05+00:00

I'm a early 20s man so here it is

Hair color/s Anywhere from light brown to black. Bonus if it's about neck height or bit higher
Eye color/s Light blue, green, hazel, or brown
Height I'm a 5 foot 6 man so 5 4 to 5 9 is great but any height is fine
Build Stocky like an endomorph or basicly fridge mode. Nice to have a girl who can get physical and not fall apart doing physical labour. A nice shape butt big or small is a bonus
Earnings equal to, less than, or more than you. As long as she has a job and has good financial skills.
Job status equal to, less than, or higher than you. Any status as long as she has ambitions to progress in that career or eventually swap to something else. Hard working is important to me
Minimum and max people they dated. Min 0 max 10
Minimum and max people they slept with. Min 0 max 5 (I'm not that old so more than 5ish around my age is a red flag for me personalty)
Religion/s Any as long as she is open minded
Sexuality/s Straight and or bi (I seem to attract bi learning girls )
Age range(add if that’s: Same age, younger than, or older than) I'm early 20s so early 20s as well
Political view: Conservative, liberal, independent, not into politics, or something else Any as long as she can ponder other points of view and not into extreme political ideologies

Goanna add 13. Personality Preferably someone who is in touch with both their masculine and femine side. Someone who is fairly independent and at least slightly academic. Very materialistic is a turn off. And of course we get along. Not point being physically great if there is a clash or personalty.

Ill-Secretary-2297 · 2023-08-21T02:53:42+00:00

Any 2.any 3. Any 4. Not obese 5. Doesn’t matter 6. Doesn’t matter 7. 10 or so relationships 8. body count of 20 or less 9. Not into organized religion 10. Straight or Bi 11. Mid 20’s to late 30’s 12. Liberal.

“Men’s dating standards are unrealistic.” Lol

Bonus points if you’re a music nerd!

Miserable_Remote_834 · 2023-08-21T03:00:28+00:00

Dirty blonde
Brown
I'm 6'5 so shorter than that but prefer a big height difference so 4'11-5'2 range
Petite, curvy, or average
Doesn't matter as long as they do something (the exception being having a disability, looking for work, or being a care taker).
Doesn't matter
Under 100
Under 20
None (Atheist or agnostic) with the exception being some cultural customs like celebrating Christmas and whatnot.
Straight, bi, pan.
Same age or slightly younger/older
DemSoc, LibSoc, AnCom, anything far left but not authoritarian, some SocDems and progressives libs as well, centrist bare minimum.

n0vel_13 · 2023-08-21T03:06:27+00:00

1-2: don’t care 3: 5’2 or taller(I am 5’9), I don’t mind tall women unless they mind 4: stick women, it’s alright if you pack a of meat but please don’t be fat 5: at least 6 figures, don’t care if they make more as long as they don’t care 6: white collar 7: don’t care 8: max 2 9: prefer atheist, plz no sky daddy non sense 10: beyond scared straight 11: 19-25 12: moderate, slightly liberal or conservative is fine

Meshakhad · 2023-08-21T04:10:55+00:00

Red
Green
6'
Muscular
More than me (not hard since I'm unemployed)
Higher than me (see above)
Don't care
Virgin
Jewish
Lesbian
25-37 (I'm 34)
Anarcho-syndicalist with DeLeonist tendencies

funnystor · 2023-08-21T06:10:11+00:00

Blue anime hair, to show she's the main character in the story
Purple anime eyes, to show her Royal descent
7 ft obviously
Amazonian build
Royals don't need to earn money. They have money
Must be queen, at least by the end of the game
0, because she was locked in a tower the whole time
God queen of her own religion, of course
Me-sexual
Eternal youth, it's a perk of being God queen.
I guess being queen makes you a monarchist?

techr0nin · 2023-08-21T06:10:44+00:00

No hair preference.
No eye preference.
No height preference for STR. 5’6-5’11 for marriage.
Slim and fit build.
No income preference if sufficiently attractive.
No job status preference but no sex work.
No hard preference but ideally single digits.
No hard preference but ideally single digits.
Atheist/agnostic.
Straight.
Younger. 22-40 for STR. 22-33 for marriage.
No political preference so long as logical.

Teflon08191 · 2023-08-21T06:28:30+00:00

Blonde or Red
Green or Blue
Average
Athletic with curves
I've got our finances covered so doesn't matter.
Not a preference but given #5, probably less than.
No minimum, maximum would be ~5 I guess?
No minimum, maximum should match with how many men they've dated.
Don't care so long as they're not too far down that rabbit hole.
Straight
Mid 20s. Younger than.
Don't care so long as they're not too far down that rabbit hole.

raldabos · 2023-08-21T07:37:15+00:00

Don't care
Don't care
Don't care
Don't be obese. Don't have to be super fit or a model, just be average.
Don't care
Don't care
Don't care
Less than 50 would be ok
Any religion as long as she isn't a crazy fanatic.
Hetero
Same +-7 (I'm 33 so 25-40 would be ok)
Same as 9, don't care as long as she isn't an extremist on either side of the spectrum.

Durmyyyy · 2023-08-21T07:40:17+00:00

1) Hair color/s - Doesnt matter though I find im not attracted to blondes on as many occasions for some reason. I guess I have a thing for redheads and girls with dark hair.

2) Eye color/s - Doesnt matter at all. I dont find myself as attracted to girls with blue eyes I suppose but again Im sure there are plenty out there I would be attracted to.

3) Height/s - Doesnt matter too much. I guess if she were too drastically different it might make somethings harder or less comfortable (like sex). Im 5'8" and I have never had a girl who was taller than me be interested in me but I am open to that. I dont think I would exclude based on someone being short.

4) Build/s - Not super important as long as they arnt very overweight. I have often found myself attracted to women who are a bit bigger or more curvy but I think I would really like to date a thin woman as well. Over all I dont think it matters as long as she is cute and healthy. Im not expecting a fitness model. I have seen beautiful women with many different builds. I do have a thing for skinny/mousey/artsy cliché girls but never in my life have they had any interest in me.

5) Earnings equal to, less than, or more than you. - I dont care how much she earns. IF we get married making more money would be helpful but I have always taken care of myself and dont expect much from my partners.

6) Job status equal to, less than, or higher than you. - dont care at all outside of certain jobs like sex work.

7) Minimum and max people they dated. - Doesnt matter too much.

8) Minimum and max people they slept with. - I wouldnt want someone who slept with tons of people because I feel like we would have very different ideas on intimacy and relationships. Also I have found in my case the women I dated with higher partners turned out to be cheaters so maybe thats just a prejudice I have from past experience. Also im older so I cant and wouldnt expect anyone to have very few partners or none. Most of all I would want someone who I felt like I could still be somewhat special to and who will behave ethically and has in the past.

9) Religion/s - Doesnt matter too much, I would prefer they were not hard core into religion.

10) Sexuality/s - If they are interested in me I dont see if it matters that they could be attracted to other sexes. Straight or bi I guess.

11) Age range(add if that’s: Same age, younger than, or older than) Im 40 and I think I would date b/t 30 and 50. I kind of feel like 30 might be too young but I dont know (realistically 35-38 probably). 50 Might be pushing it a bit as well but im open.

12) Political view: Conservative, liberal, independent, not into politics, or something else - I would prefer leftist of some kind but as long as we dont really clash on things Im open to other politics. I wouldnt want someone who I felt was hateful or prejudiced. Id prefer it if they werent caught up in identity politics and culture wars.

Im going to be honest most of these arnt huge concerns for me. Im 40, shorter and single and quite frankly beggars cant be choosers.

I just want a sweet cute woman who is somewhat healthy, who will be kind to me and my family, who I can have some fun with and who will help out with bills if she is able and help out around the house if we get married or are very serious. I also want someone who is loyal and acts ethically and someone who will feel like I am someone they want and not a silver medal (or bronze lol).

I dont care about politics as long as they arnt hateful, I dont really care about job or income as long as they are part of the team and are helping as best they can.

Details like hair and eye color arnt very important. The most beautiful eyes you can ever see are those of someone you love and who loves you back.

if you want me to be very superficial I will just saw I have always found Winona Ryder, Alison Brie, Alyson Hannigan absolutely gorgeous. I would never have any kind of expectation like that.

Operatesinreality · 2023-08-21T08:49:19+00:00

Black or brown
Dark
Not more than 180cm and not less than 150cm.
Normal, pretty shoulders and proportional. Not too thin, not too big, not too muscly.
Irrelevant, but not any millionaire or CEO.
Irrelevant. Ethical job, within my moral views.
Well, depends on their age. But 1 relationship at least and not too many.
Not a virgin and not someone engaging in one-night stands and not too promiscuous. Someone similar to my attitude, so we have an understanding.
Not believing in the supernatural. But with anthropological respect for religions and an understanding of them from a Jungian perspective.
Heterosexual.
Younger than me, my age or a bit older. But not old.
Not married to an ideology. Judging each thing separately and each argument on its merit.

AndyBrown65 · 2023-08-21T10:24:23+00:00

Hair color/s: My weakness is blonde or redheads
Eye color/s: Blue, or green
Height/s: don't care. Dated a 4'10" girl up to 6'. 5' something
Build/s: don't care. Thin ones are paranoid about weight, fat ones complain about weight.
Earnings equal to, less than, or more than you: doesn't matter providing it's not "her money" and "our money"
Job status equal to, less than, or higher than you: doesn't matter
Minimum and max people they dated: If they are going through partners every six months, that is a deal breaker
Minimum and max people they slept with.If they are going through partners every six months, that is a deal breaker
Religion/s n/a
Sexuality/s straight
Age range(add if that’s: Same age, younger than, or older than): up to 5 years old, down to 10 years younger.
Political view: Conservative, liberal, independent, not into politics, or something else: central

Epiphanic_Eros · 2023-08-21T15:52:00+00:00

I had a checklist of the perfect woman. Then I met her, seduced her, and found that we were duds together.

Dump the checklists, folks. It's just mental chatter getting in the way of meeting someone that you really click with

Particular_Trade6308 · 2023-08-21T18:17:13+00:00

I’m 33M

1) brown/brunette

2) don’t care

3) 5’9”

4) athletic/muscular, small boobs, big butt and legs

5) don’t care but I’d prefer equal or more because I’m worried about divorce settlements (I am rich)

6) don’t care

7) don’t care

8) don’t care, as long as they weren’t a pornstar or sex worker

9) preferably atheist but don’t care, I won’t be converting

10) cishet but I don’t mind bi

11) any age below 30

12) don’t care but I am a fairly liberal guy, question is whether she can handle it. Also I’m a minority so she can’t be a virulent racist obvi

SillyMushroomTip · 2023-08-21T20:13:24+00:00

All I care is if shes skinny, not a whore, and a free thinker. Thats too much to ask though today lol

Evening-Room-9619 · 2023-08-21T20:46:04+00:00

Here goes some love: 1. Hair color: Black. 2. Eye color: Don’t care as long as it’s a piercing look/gaze. 3. Height: No shorter than 5’2” and no taller than 5’6”. 4. Build: Slim and curvy. 5. Earnings: Irrelevant. 6. Job status: Irrelevant. 7. Dating history: Irrelevant but must fully declare emotional baggage. (I always do that with my partners as a show of good faith.) 8. Body count: Irrelevant but must subject to STD testing and fully declare kinks, and be honest about sexual tendencies (levels of horniness, likeliness to cheat, etc). (I always do that with my partners as a show of good faith.) 9. Religious views/beliefs: Irreligious and not spiritual. 10. Sexuality: Irrelevant but we must agree on sexual arrangements if necessary. 11. Age range: I’m 28. I’ll take 25 to 45, but what matters most is emotional and mental maturity. 12. Political views: Preferably apolitical.

I don’t believe in perfection, but I’m happy to say my spouse fulfills almost all of these with slight variations (for e.g. leaning more “Independent” in terms of U.S. politics rather apolitical, but very good compromise to me). 💫

Firlite · 2023-08-21T21:05:56+00:00

Don't really care, preference for lighter hair colors
Don't care
Not a deal breaker, preferably shorter than me
Not fat
Don't care as long as it's greater than zero
Don't care as long as it isn't sex work
&
The number matters less than her habits. Someone who is a serial monogamist probably has a better track record than someone with no history at all
Don't care as long as she doesn't want me to convert. If she does we may have issues
Attracted to men, Not strictly Aro/Ace (demi is fine)
+-4 years
My politics are all over the place, so this would be on a case by case basis

Other deal breakers for me: has a nose ring, has a chest/neck/face tattoo, doesn't want children, owns a pitbull

GrassToucher29 · 2023-08-21T21:39:41+00:00

Hair color/s: brown or black, preferably dark

Eye color/s: dark, brown, or green

Height/s: ideally, 5’11, but 5’9-6’2 is acceptable

Build/s: MUSCULAR. Thicc. 12-15% body fat

Earnings equal to, less than, or more than you: the more the better, but my minimum was $250k a year

Job status equal to, less than, or higher than you: anything other than military

Minimum and max people they dated: Min-3, max-probably like, 10? 15? Who has time for more relationships than that?

Minimum and max people they slept with: Min-3, max-idk, like 60?

Religion/s: atheist, preferably. Though I wouldn’t mind moderately Christian or moderately Jewish

Sexuality/s: preferably straight, but if my ideal partner came out as bi, that’s NBD

Age range(add if that’s: Same age, younger than, or older than): if I had to start over, I’d pick someone between 35 and 40, I think. But my husband was 44 when we met. I am not quite 27

Political view Conservative, liberal, independent, not into politics, or something else: preferably moderate, not super into politics. Just not an idiot about the big issues

Workaholiconew · 2023-08-21T22:10:58+00:00

I will explain one thing about men. We dont have a perfect partner. We arent hypergamous, we are polygynous, i.e. we work in a "good enough" threshold... ideals are non existant in mens brains and simply put? Many of us cannot describe perfection or ideal partners.... we cna just describe good enough partners...

Neptune-Jr · 2023-08-21T22:34:35+00:00

Hair color doesn't matter
Eye color doesn't matter
average height for a woman
decent weight and big boobs
earns way more than me and is willing to let me be a househusband/dad
I don't care
No minimum but no number higher than 10
same as above
Christian
Obviously they'd have to like men
same age or slightly older
not into politics

Sprite_is_the_best · 2023-08-21T22:56:42+00:00

Black (it doesn’t really matter to me)
Anything, it doesn’t matter
5’6-5’9
Skinny with some curves, nothing dramatic
Equal or more
Equal
I’d rather date someone with dating experience, and knows what they want/looking for
As long as you have no STDs
Atheist, but if they’re religious, just don’t try to convert me or make me follow your customs
Straight (or bi, as long as I’m one of the genders you’re attracted to)
Same age
Liberal

BioNipple · 2023-08-22T04:49:54+00:00

1-6 Don't care

As for 7 and 8. I'd want her to have dated at least one or 2 people before me since I have already done so.

Age: less than 35 because I want kids

For everything else I don't care at this point.

Appropriate-Ad-8030 · 2023-08-22T10:54:35+00:00

Jet black straight shiny hair
Doesn’t matter
Under 5’6”
Thin but with an hour glass figure
Not poor
Doesn’t matter
Less than 10 guys
Less than 10 guys
No fundamentalist-religion is not the center Of her life
Straight as an arrow
Younger than
Not a man hating feminist

ThroawayJimilyJones · 2023-08-24T21:31:52+00:00

Hair color/s : blond or ginger
Eye color/s: blue or green
Height/s: 1m64
Build/s: Petite
Earnings equal to, less than, or more than you: a bit less
Job status equal to, less than, or higher than you: a bit less
Minimum and max people they dated: no minimum. Max 5
Minimum and max people they slept with. no minimum. Max 5
Religion/s: Christian.
Sexuality/s: Straight
Age range(add if that’s: Same age, younger than, or older than): 22-28 (Younger)
Political view: Conservative, liberal, independent, not into politics, or something else: I'd prefer to have a lot of difference, but i'm not sure where i am myself.

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Title	Describe your perfect partner
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