I'm tired of people telling men that they shouldn't care about relationship/sex/intimacy and just focus on "being happy singe"

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MyUpSeemsDown · 2024-07-30T09:11:43+00:00

Yea, Ronaldos been playing soccer for longer than some people here has been alive. Ngl mans probably sick of making goals lol.

Realistically, what else can you do though? Loneliness sucks, I've been there, but if one can't realistically get out of it, what else can you do other than trying to be happy whatever ways they can and break out of the loneliness?

ComfortableJeans · 2024-07-30T11:29:15+00:00

There are certain things the brain needs to be happy, due to the way male social structures are set up, they're not getting the level of connection they'd need outside of romantic relationships. Men just don't give that to one another. It won't change.

For the majority of men, they will only ever have a deep, vulnerable, sensitive, self-exposing connection with their romantic partner. Honestly, even that's lucky.

If you don't have a deep level of connection, you start to see a myriad of negative effects, from increased odds of high blood pressure, heart disease, obesity, a weakened immune system, addiction, suicide, anxiety, depression, cognitive decline, Alzheimer's disease, and so on.

So I get it, when they have literal needs that aren't able to be met and it's killing them, they can't just decide to be happy. The decision to be happy is one you make when you've gotten everything you need.

Isolation is terminal. And often, due to the way our society is structured, if we're being honest, by both men and women, even when surrounded by people, a lot of men can still be totally alone in any sense that's truly meaningful.

That being said, it's not as though women have an obligation to start dating lonely men that they're not into just to save them from this.

I'm just saying that these men aren't just fat little boys crossing their arms and pouting because no one has touched their penis and they're upsetti spaghetti. They're longing for a conection that they can't get anywhere else and is literally killing them.

But again, women can't really do much about that. They're not into those men. What are they going to do? Pity date someone? Fall in love out of pity? I doubt that's even possible.

There are men in horrible pain that can't seem to right it. And women can't really do anything to stop that pain without making things worse for themselves.

People will trivialize it, call it a need to show off the fact they've got a girlfriend, or refer to it as a childish whining for easy pussy, but the reality is that most men grew up the way I did. Working class, don't be a pussy, keep your mouth shut and be hard. And at least where I'm from, there are real social consequences for not meething that standard. There will be the odd shit head, but the majority of them are longing for a connection that everyone else takes for granted and often doesn't appreciate the importance of and don't have the words to say it.

They're hurting. They have a need that they can't fulfil while living in a world that doesn't afford them the opportunity to have it fulfilled for them, and it's causing them pain. Pain that if not corrected will eventually do something horrible to them. Both mentally and physically.

People underestimate the importance of deep social connections. It is a litteral NEED that humans evolved to have. Without it, we die awfully. Telling someone like this to "Just be happy" is akin to telling someone suffocating in a room with no oxygen to "Just breath." What they need in order to breath isn't available to them.

Just be happy isn't going to cut it.

Honestly, the older I get the more I come to think that life isn't supposed to be happy. Don't expect it to be. You're very lucky if it is.

CraftyCooler · 2024-07-30T09:45:10+00:00

I think that we should be able to admit, without being judged or without being accused of 'desperation', that we are simply unhappy alone. I do not know why it is so important to pretend that we are all so independent and self-sufficient that we can do perfectly fine alone ? I wasn't fully happy being alone - sure, friends are cool but friends will never put you as their prio in life, if they will find better job they will go for it without thinking, but your partner will consider You as main driver of life decisions. People switch countries for their partners but not really for their friends(even lifelong ones). I do not think that majority of people can just easily let go having such level of trust and intimacy with someone and giving such advice from the position of actually having romantic partner is silly and cruel.

egalitarian-flan · 2024-07-30T08:54:54+00:00

It depends on the message.

If someone says that a man shouldn't care about having a healthy, respectful, loving, sexual relationship just because it is difficult to find...then yeah, that person isn't giving advice. They're being dismissive of what is a core human experience (one which they likely have themselves).

If someone says that a man can still care about finding a healthy, respectful, loving, sexual relationship but should still focus on other important aspects of their life and pursuit of happiness and fulfillment in the meantime, that's different.

This latter option was what the very original mgtow message was about. Nowadays it's almost always assumed to be a push for men to go "monk mode", but in the past it was literally reminding men to "go their own way" aka take time to remove the shackles of social expectations and traditional gender roles, to really think about what they as an individual person, want out of life. That's how we who supported this path knew mgtow who were married, who had longterm girlfriends, who had children, and yes, some who never cohabitated or got into anything more than fwb. Because they determined what was their ultimate goal, and that wasn't usually to "just be happy single".

Valuable-Marzipan761 · 2024-07-30T08:45:44+00:00

What's the alternative? If you can't find a partner you have to either be happy being single, or be miserable being single.

Difficult_Falcon1022 · 2024-07-30T13:37:35+00:00

If you can't get a sex or relationship then you need to learn to be happy being single, or remain unhappy. That's what people are saying.

LoopyPro · 2024-07-30T09:09:54+00:00

It's not bad advice, but people shouldn't act like relationship/sex/intimacy is irrelevant in an attempt to make people who can't obtain it feel better. It gives the same vibes as a millionaire telling poor people that having money doesn't make you happy. Being happy single is a cope, people should just be honest about it.

Upset_Material_3372 · 2024-07-30T09:11:09+00:00

The people that give that advice are the people who are always privileged to have it. The only ones that can ever even come close to understanding are the men who are forced to go without.

Clean_Woodpecker_974 · 2024-07-30T11:22:48+00:00

It's going to sound harsh, but what else can you really do? Not being able to walk is terrible but there are people who can't walk and they have to deal with it or end it. The same goes for finding a loving partner.

half_avocado33 · 2024-07-30T08:28:15+00:00

Because not everyone will be partnered and realistically there is no other advice to give other than go kill yourself. And i will not encourage suicide.

So one thing is left: focus on something else, find your happiness in something else.

If they just want sex, they can go to prostitutes.

Nellylocheadbean · 2024-07-30T08:33:02+00:00

If you can’t get anyone to like you enough to have sex and/or relationships, your only options is to accept being single or pay for it.

Old_Luck285 · 2024-07-30T09:11:34+00:00

"Just be happy single" can certainly sound dismissive.

But the idea to cultivate happiness apart from a romantic parter is still valid, even for people who are in a romantic relationship as it puts an undue burden on your partner to "make you happy".

I guess one issue people who've never been in a romantic relationship face is that they idealize them so much. They imagine they'll be happy if only they had a partner, overseeing how many people are in a relationship and still unhappy to varying degrees (don't even get me started on people who are coupled and miserable).

Substantial_Video560 · 2024-07-30T10:55:04+00:00

Since coming out as aroace this is something I no longer need worry about. It's incredibly liberating and refreshing.

Clementinequeen95 · 2024-07-30T13:47:18+00:00

Ok not sure what your solution is. You’re not entitled to sex regardless.

Creation_Soul · 2024-07-30T08:45:49+00:00

having a fulfilling relationship is not a right. you have a right to try to get one and the government won't stop you. And nobody disagrees that a fulfilling relationship is a net positive for pretty much everyone.

But then people also have another right: to not be forced into a relationship they don't desire. So even if you consider relationships/sex as a right, there is also another right that comes in direct conflict with that "right".

So when these two rights come in conflict, people tend to prioritize the one who gives people more autonomy (AKA, the right to not be forced into a relationship).

DietTyrone · 2024-07-30T11:43:18+00:00

Women say this because being single is an entirely different experience for them and as usual, they suffer from solipsism. For a woman, being single often still means getting sex whenever she wants, either from an ex, a dating app, or the club. She can also still harvest free attention and compliments from her guy friends or orbiters. So of course the advice they give is "just enjoy being single," because they actually do enjoy it.

TermAggravating8043 · 2024-07-30T08:48:11+00:00

You can’t force people to like you.

If you struggle to make relationships, you either work on that, or accept being single.

Either way, it’s a you problem, and expecting others to care or do something about it is selfish and childish

Common-Ferret-1435 · 2024-07-30T08:51:25+00:00

I'm so sick of this advice. Men who are single or lonely or sexless etc just told that they should try be happy being single and happy with themselves.

This advice is perfectly fine but it’s designed for inc3ls. Inc3ls, of course, cannot be happy because they must have sex and love as a right, so women need to supply it or face repercussions.

Women, shockingly, aren’t into that. They feel men who think this way feel entitled for sex, and when someone thinks they’re entitled to something, they go ahead and take what’s rightfully theirs.

The whole concept of rape is people thinking they’re entitled to other people’s love, respect, bodies, wet holes, etc.

If you’re happy with your own life, then you don’t need to chase post-nut clarity to achieve happiness.

If you’re happy with your own life, you don’t feel entitled to use other people’s lives to make you happy. That’s just being a parasite.

I mean really? Why do so many people in the world seek relationships, intimacy and sex? Maybe because it feels good? It's satisfying? It makes you happy?

Because the majority of people on the planet received extremely poor parenting, have a < 100 IQ, uncivilized social skills, and chase the elusive mommy figure they never got as a child.

They see another person as a square peg to fill that round hole in their lives.

It’s the same reason that when the other person steps out of line, they beat them. They beat them for not fitting into the hole. How dare they.

Hence, why you need to fix yourself before anyone else can associate with you, but your low IQ types are unable to actualize, and think and react like animals.

In 2023 C. RONALDO LITERALLY SAID SEX WITH HIS WIFE WAS BETTER THAN HIS BEST GOALS

Believing anything celebrity says is bunk. Very little of what celebrities say hasn’t been bought and paid for. They push any agenda, market any product or ideology the highest bidder throws cash down for. Or maybe he’s just trying to hide his cheating on the road. Pretending to be the loving family man and only bangs his wife and not the 50 women a day throwing themselves at him. I wonder how much conservative groups would pay for that messaging.

In short, famous people are shills and never a good source of reality.

This is right up there with billionaires saying “money doesn’t make you happy”.

just be happy on your own bro! you don't need sex or a gf bro! just get a dog bro! seriously?

Do you think Ronaldo would give up all the fame and money to keep having the wife? I mean, fame and money are pointless with a bangable wife. Im sure those goals mean nothing and his wife would always be beautiful, or stick around, for all those goals, fame, and money, and would never become a dead bedroom when he’s broke. Or divorced. Or never married.

As far as those studies, they’re just like studies showing taller men are happier. Of course they are. More women, more jobs, more money, less disrespect, etc. and that’s without even doing anything.

“Married people are healthier”, yes because women don’t pick sick people.

“Married people make more money”, of course, women gold dig for ambitious driven men who chase money and have high paying jobs.

These “studies” always put the cart before the horse.

Sure married people are happier. Women don’t like unhappy men. They also always lump divorced guys as “single”, which is a lie, and designed to push for the results they want.

Also saying a fulfilling and satisfying sexual life is a right? Seriously? So your partner should be a slave and happy about it? You can have that if you masturbate, since you control it. But another person? Do you beat them if they aren’t giving you fulfilling sex? Since it’s a right and all?

Studies of college students almost never have any value outside of colleges, and barely relevancy in colleges.

Remember 1 in 4 women are raped in college according to “studies”.

Young men and women at their peak of looks and hormonal carbonation love sex, making out, travel, having 29 partners to bang, maybe show up to class hungover once in awhile, and looking cute.

When you’re middle aged you are too tired to travel and chase sex every day. You just don’t care that much. What then? If you’re unhappy with yourself that college wife you had will divorce you and take the kids she regrets, you will be miserable and indigent to lose your middle management cubicle job. And you only have 30 more years to go before you can live, miserably, on a pension.

Studies on college students are not meaningful.

For instance, when respondents were asked to list words associated with happiness, "sex"

And in the future, “money” will be the word associated with happiness. It fulfillment, or satisfaction.

Associating words with other words is the lowest level of study. And one has to realize, almost all studies in colleges are thesis and dissertations for students trying to get degrees. There’s almost no ethics or ideological drives that are filtered.

Of course some 20 year old student is going to associate sex with happy. For men certainly, but what about women? When all sex is rape, are they all happy with their rapes?

Psychology Today

National Enquirer. They believe that true happiness and psychological health is chopping your penis off and calling yourself Sally for having thought Mother of the Bride was a good movie.

Not a valid source for anything psychological.

thechavodel8 · 2024-07-30T11:44:07+00:00

Focus on being unhappy single😘

TopEntertainment4781 · 2024-07-30T14:20:43+00:00

People here need to investigate stoicism, the actual philosophy, or Buddhist philosophy for mind training. We used to be good with mind training and now we don’t. And this is damaging, particularly for our young men.

I generally try not to get too “kids these days” but Jesus kids these days…. Shit happens. And pre modern medicine, it happened a lot - dead kids, dead families, severe injuries. There have always been a set of people who never married or were sold off to spouses they never found attractive - and I don’t just mean women.

I’ve known confirmed bachelors and spinsters. Honestly, I never thought I’d ever get a date myself. Yes people flourish with connection, which can include romantic love, but many people have - and also did in the past - found ways of building flourishing lives without it too.

Sure, life would be better with it. My life would go a lot better with a few million, too.

MistyMaisel · 2024-07-30T15:03:18+00:00

I don't think anyone is really saying this. What we're usually saying is:

If you cannot find a relationship currently, then learn to be joyful in what you do have while pursuing what you want. There's no need to be miserable in order to find a relationship, in fact, it is usually likely to stop you finding someone because misery is not a good vibe. And you can in fact be joyful in the present while lusting for the future.
If you cannot really ever likely find a relationship (this is true of very few men, but maybe a lot of them here) then you need to let go of being tormented by what cannot be and do your absolute most to find joy, peace, and satisfaction in what can be. Will that be easy? No. But it is the only path forward. There are other paths, they are less trodden and are not as easy to trod, but they are real and frankly, they're all you've got, so get walking. And if you don't that's fine, but you cannot say no one ever told you about them. You are choosing your misery in this case even more than it seems to have chosen you.

BluePillUprising · 2024-07-30T09:04:14+00:00

Here’s the thing - Sex is awesome and life is undoubtedly richer and more fulfilling with a steady supply of it.

But getting sex, especially regular sex is tricky and enigmatic and, this is where the advice comes in, you are going to look more attractive if you’re enjoying being single and not stressed out about the lack of intimacy in your life.

Yes, it’s a bit of a Catch-22 but you can do it.

My advice is music. Ever heard of a rock star that never gets laid? Me neither.

🤘

Perfect-Resist5478 · 2024-07-30T11:46:32+00:00

This isn’t a gendered thing. Men and women who are lonely are more miserable.

The reason you (general you) get the advice to be happy single is not cuz you shouldn’t want a relationship. It’s cuz being angry and bitter (as many lonely people are) makes them even less attractive and even less likely to get a relationship

N-Zoth · 2024-07-30T09:32:55+00:00

People who complain about being single are, more often than not, simply bored. When your day is filled with interesting activities and you are working towards your goals, you don't feel like you are missing out on anything.

Being a fun, active person is also one of the best things you can do for your dating prospects. No one wants to date someone who is perpetually bored.

mlo9109 · 2024-07-30T10:21:17+00:00

I'd say we should stop telling singles of all genders this. As a woman, I'm so sick of hearing how I'm supposed to be so happy as a single without kids or how I should focus on myself first.

The whole childless single women are the happiest demographic thing is BS. I do not feel happy to be in this situation. No amount of pets, hobbies, or vacations will change that. I want a family!

Professional_Chair28 · 2024-07-30T12:02:16+00:00

If you don’t enjoy spending time with yourself then why would I? That’s what it boils down to.

Lonely people are miserable, no one wants to add that energy to their life. Lonely people go into relationships expecting all of their problems to be fixed, and look to a partner to provide all the solutions. That’s a fools’ hope and an unappealing opportunity. If you’re not content & balanced on your own, then I don’t want to date you. I’m not looking for a project. That’s all that advice means.

flipsidetroll · 2024-07-30T12:04:50+00:00

I’m tired of men saying women can easily have a relationship. Sex is not a relationship. So looks like men are just as guilty of making their beds.

waffleznstuff30 · 2024-07-30T13:07:19+00:00

Being happy single is a cornerstone for finding a happy healthy relationship.

A lot of time people want relationships for the wrong reasons. It's usually about ego and feeling like they are desirable. Which yes it's nice to be desired. But if you are getting into a relationship for yourself it leaves you dismissive of the fact it's another person as well. So when things go wrong (because relationships will have conflict two people with different experiences will sometimes buttheads) it's a blow to the ego instead of an empathize and move on. It's ignoring your partners needs or your own to make it work even though you aren't happy.

Being single can be a time for personal growth not some waiting room until your next relationship.

SaBahRub · 2024-07-30T13:44:52+00:00

The alternatives are to 1) promote suicide or 2) promote rape. And we will not do that

PiastriPs3 · 2024-07-30T09:20:15+00:00

Sex with someone else you love is ofcourse is going to be the greatest thing ever. But how many people are in loving relationships and not just settling? How many people are in situationships? Let me tell you, having sex with a woman you don't love is marginally better than masturbation. Im guessing only a minority of people are actually in love. Most people are in loveless marriages or have passed the honeymoon periods and are glorified room mates.

MongoBobalossus · 2024-07-30T09:08:59+00:00

I’m so sick of men whining about it.

Nobody owes you sex. You want it? Figure it the fuck out like an adult and make the necessary steps to get laid.

MiddleZealousideal89 · 2024-07-30T10:38:16+00:00

If you're not able to find anyone who wants to be with you in a sexual/romantic manner, or you can't find anyone you would like to be with in a sexual/romantic manner, you have a few options:

Keep searching and keep a positive attitude.
Keep searching and complain about how much it sucks.
Stop searching and keep a positive attitude, find the joy in life outside of having a romantic partner.
Stop searching and keep complaining about how much it sucks.

If you pick options 2 & 4, eventually, people will get tired of your complaining. They might advise you to try to find happiness despite the lack of sexual/romantic intimacy. Nobody likes a perpetual complainer.

GridReXX · 2024-07-30T13:53:27+00:00

“I’m tired of” men acting like having to build healthy coping mechanisms for their station in life is a uniquely male problem.

Seriously.

Do what everyone else does when life isn’t the way they want:

1) try to change yourself or the situation

2) build healthy coping mechanisms until you can address bullet 1 or in case you can’t achieve bullet 1

3) ignore bullet 2 and exist in alleged agency-less misery until you meet the upper room

That’s it. The other options for you are to cope in an unhealthy way which I don’t recommend because when males do that it usually leads to aggressive violence against others. Or to end your life and I have no desire to be part of that decision.

literaryhogwartian · 2024-07-30T09:38:28+00:00

If you are happy in yourself and by yourself you are far more likely to find a relationship

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tonicKC · 2024-07-30T10:28:05+00:00

💯Totally agree…and not just for men…for any person who desires a partner. Desiring a romantic partner and feeling a need for one is a normal deeply ingrained human desire.

I always like to think how people would react if they had a friend who had not gone out or done anything socially for a few months and then when approached said something like :

“Oh…I’m just not hanging out with friends…I’m focusing on myself right now”

There may be some people that can live happily as hermits but for most of humanity we need friends and family interaction and being isolated from friends/fanily causes us mental harm.

I do feel men are especially impacted though because men have a harder time finding women to date while women can expect to be approached and also I get the perception many women do not value relationships as much period and don’t desire them as often as men.

Adept-Entrepreneur61 · 2024-07-30T11:01:58+00:00

This Ronaldo guy sounds like a simp.

Innocent_boi_77 · 2024-07-30T11:13:48+00:00

So what do you suggest?

DrStranges3rdEye · 2024-07-30T11:35:20+00:00

Well my option boiled down to giving up, now roll on to 2024, I find out I've got a tumour on my liver. Idk how bad it is because I got to the stage where I've refused further investigation. If it does me in, then that's the outcome. I don't really care to fix a body, a self, that has nothing desirable to offer. Why should I sit and watch everyone else get together with each other live happily and I get the shaft? Fuck that. Best option is offing yourself, which hopefully, this thing on my liver does the job for me.

Virtual_Piece · 2024-07-30T12:21:05+00:00

Nobody says to never seek relationships, except mgtow basically, what be happy single means is to learn to enjoy your own company and understand that a relationship is not a thing you're entitled to. You should go and find love if you want to, but if you don’t or just can't find love you're advised to seek other fulfilling things to do with your life like, advancing in your career, focusing on hobbies, passions, travel, connecting with friends and family, etc. Look for a relationship, but understand that isn't all that life is about

ClevelandSpigot · 2024-07-30T12:43:13+00:00

We have an entire generation of Alpha Widows that are acting like a clot on the whole system.

Dude. It sucks. Yes. There is nothing morally or legally that you can do about it. So, it's tough, but you have to stop focusing on it.

To counter your points up above (which were all recent Western sources), keep in mind that celibate monks in monasteries has been a thing...forever. A sheik has a concubine of 50 women. That means that 49 other men don't.

Dive into your hobbies and interests. That is all I can say.

Another way of looking at it is, if your primary (and maybe only) source of happiness has to come from another person, or from sex, then that in itself is worth exploring.

ta06012022 · 2024-07-30T13:24:52+00:00

You can say that a man should try to be happy being single while also acknowledging the human need for relationships/sex/intimacy. The two things aren't mutually exclusive.

I would say it's important for a person to find happiness while searching for relationships/sex/intimacy.

gntlbastard · 2024-07-30T13:37:01+00:00

Any man and this includes Ronaldo - needs to be okay with actually being alone. Doesn't mean that you need to now stay single if that isn't what you want. But it helps to actually learn how to live with just you.

FromAuntToNiece · 2024-07-30T13:37:17+00:00

The original MGTOW might have had a point, but even then, that applied only to the era before the male loneliness epidemic.

Now, the likes of romantically frustrated college-educated South Korean men have had enough.

They know about the male loneliness epidemic.

They know vaguely that some form of feminism is to blame.

Unlike their hyper-masculine counterparts in the manosphere, they have organized accordingly, politically and culturally, without knives or guns.

Few_Advertising3430 · 2024-07-30T14:39:51+00:00

Being happy being single does not mean you will never find a partner it means a person who does not need someone is going to be a better partner because they have their own lives already.

Icarus367 · 2024-07-30T15:23:07+00:00

While I'm not downplaying the importance of human connection - being loved and getting laid certainly beats being unloved and not getting laid - there is also the issue that people are on the whole quite poor at so-called "affective forecasting," that is, predicting what will make them happy. At least some of the lonely single guys out there may be idealizing the notion of romantic/sexual relationships, and find that the reality is not all that it's cracked up to be when they land such relationships, and that they're still unhappy for other reasons. Relationships come with their own stressors and entanglements, which some people may want to avoid. And then you throw marriage and kids into the mix...

DankuTwo · 2024-07-30T09:12:32+00:00

You shouldn't base your self worth on having a job! You should just learn to be happy living under a bridge...

applejackpatches · 2024-07-30T11:51:49+00:00

Women get this advice too. The point isn't to never admit you feel lonely or that you have to be the most confident man on the planet. It's about cultivating a positive mindset about yourself. I've been on both sides of that. I had a really negative, pessimistic view of myself and the world and thought I could only be happy in a relationship. When I let go of that idea, life got a lot better and I liked myself a lot more. Still single, life gets lonely sometimes, but my happiness doesn't depend on getting into a relationship with any particular man I end up going on a date with. Hopefully that makes sense coming from someone who had to go through that process.

addings0 · 2024-07-30T12:06:03+00:00

Many people don't value romantic bonds. Only romantic encounters and experiences as a distraction. Bonds involve both to have emotional endurance, effort, and evaluation through challenges ( like monogamy ) . Too many people want to pretend to be single while they're dating, and pretend to be dating while they're married. If you're indifferent about your relationship, then it's not a relationship.

Bewpadewp · 2024-07-30T11:15:39+00:00

It benefits women for men to be lonely, because we use lonely men as tools to make our lives better, knowing lonely men are so desperate for love that'll they'll do anything for us.

Free meals, free labor, free gifts, free emotional support, etc,

and all we have to give in return is the vague hope that we might one day potentially reciprocate. (We never will).

Additionally, Men are lonely because average and below average women are taught to believe they are superior to 95% of men. We are raised as princesses, born with inherent value, and taught that we should "never settle" and that we all deserve a perfect prince charming.

Men are universally expected to actively better themselves to be "worthy" of love and affection, whereas women are born "worthy".

To acknowledge this, is to acknowledge that women are raised wrong and that women have a toxic and abusive perspective of men, and that women need to change. But accountability is strictly against the female code.

DreaminInChocolate · 2024-07-30T11:45:56+00:00

Having fulfilling and satisfying sexual and relationship experiences is a fundamental human right that can enhance an individual's quality of life.

The ability to pursue one is a fundamental human right. It's not a right to have it or to have the type of person you want.

revonssvp · 2024-07-30T10:23:19+00:00

I'm reading The Menu from Clarey, a great book about accepting and living without long relationship.

It is hard, but after we accept it once for all, we can find purpose and happiness by other ways. Instead of always struggling.

WanabeInflatable · 2024-07-30T11:31:26+00:00

Why do so many people in the world seek relationships, intimacy and sex? Maybe because it feels good? It's satisfying? It makes you happy?

But it doesn't. Seeking relationships and all that stuff makes people miserable. Finding them - not necessarily happy. A log of people are miserable in marriage, there are DV and allegations, fights and nagging, divorces. Some people are happy in marriage. Yet, for the people who unsuccessful in finding that switching to more reasonable and achievable goals makes a lot of sense.

It is not about "quit marriage/relationships to be happy single". Because you have no marriage/relationships in the first place.

It is about "quit whining about not having marriage/relationships and be happy single"

Feisty_Response_9401 · 2024-07-30T14:07:06+00:00

To be fair, women are told the same to "decentralize men" or some shit, even when they know very well they need eventually to call a plumber that is almost certainly a male, proving they still rely on men by proxy.

It is even funnier when women rather load their father or friends with tasks.

CalligrapherSimple39 · 2024-07-30T10:47:47+00:00

No one else can ever make you happy.

Only you can.

This is why you are told to be happy single first.

GymBroTRT · 2024-07-30T10:49:27+00:00

Counter argument to end all arguments:

If you being needy, desperate and emotionally dependent on women to bring you happiness actually worked, don’t you think it would have worked by now?

Title	I'm tired of people telling men that they shouldn't care about relationship/sex/intimacy and just focus on "being happy singe"
Author	Spiritual_Hamster945
Upvotes	68
Comments	354
Date	July 30, 2024 8:22 AM UTC (1 year ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/PurplePillDebate
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