Men: what are some ways that women have treated you "horribly"?

No-Rough-7390 · 2024-09-04T10:48:25+00:00

I believe I’ve posted about these before, but:

an LTR of six years went on a tirade of how witnessing my father nearly kill my mom as a kid fucked me up and how it made me unfit for a healthy relationship. Mind you, this was in response to me saying I didn’t want to attend an event her friend was holding. Eye opening moment.
at the end of this same LTR, she wanted me to move back to our hometown (something I explicitly said I never wanted to do), ditch my career at a place that I love that was fast tracking me and giving me every opportunity I asked for, leave where all of my friends were located, and essentially kill a music project I had picked up on the side after years of playing guitar as a hobby. I said to her pretty plainly “you know, this is a major sacrifice I’d be making. I really hope you are aware of it and understand the difficulty of this transition.” Her response? “Why would it be difficult? You’re doing what you’re supposed to do.”

At that point, I checked out. Dumped her a week later and felt the best I had in years. There are a lot more stories in there, but those are two that stuck out.

izzzy12k · 2024-09-04T08:13:23+00:00

I was cheated on, and later blamed for them doing it.

Got that, "you made me cheat on you" kinda thing.

The sad part of it all, is that my love for her clouded my judgement. I carried that weight on my shoulders for a long time before realizing it was all part of getting gaslit.

Podlubnyi · 2024-09-04T22:36:54+00:00

I've been physically assaulted by a woman I rejected. Another dumpee smashed my laptop and threatened to go to the police and claim I assaulted her. Anyone who says men are the ones who don't take rejection well has never seen a woman being rejected.

When I worked in a bar I couldn't even tell you how many times I got grabbed or groped by a drunk woman. But women don't do that sort of thing. Yeah right.

Electric_Death_1349 · 2024-09-04T05:51:31+00:00

When I was in school, the girls collectively decided I was ugly/disgusting and made sure I knew about that; a number of female teachers decided to reinforce that message - the cute little blond boys could be cheeky and boisterous, but whenever I spoke up, I was humiliated in front of the class. I went from a normal, confident, outgoing kid to one that was crippled by social anxiety.

Obviously this treatment is less overt as an adult, but the damage has been done and is irreversible; social anxiety destroyed every aspect of my life and it all goes back to women thinking it’d be funny to humiliate the big/clumsy dark haired kid and destroy his self-confidence.

LaloTwinsDa2nd · 2024-09-04T08:35:49+00:00

Quite serious physical violence and crying the victim when there were actions to defend oneself

Twisting scenarios in their mind to the level of false allegations of SA is a big one

Regarding the latter she “realised” once we spoke about it that she was assaulted afterwards and because of that associated such a bad vibe with us getting together she “thought” I’d assaulted her.

Feel bad for her but a lot of a headache to deal with tbh

Fun_Push7168 · 2024-09-04T15:26:12+00:00

Well, my mother would beat me bloody. Sometimes shed make it more psychological and tell me shed abandon me somewhere or hurt my little brother unless I put my finger or fingers in the door jamb and allowed her to break them.

When she couldn't anymore she enlisted a step dad to do it, he wasnt as enthusiastic about it though so he'd usually just choke me unconscious instead. Shed lie to keep him out of trouble for it. Singled me out among us three brothers to potentially adopt out as well.

Beyond that for most other women mainly your typical lies, manipulation,cheating and victim playing bullshit with a sprinkling of attempted physical assaults and SA here and there.

Toss in a bit of making fun or denigrating me for crying when my son passed.

People can be as horrible as they can be good, yes that includes women.

BCRE8TVE · 2024-09-04T17:51:48+00:00

I was in a 7 year relationship that turned ci trolling, toxic, and abusive, and I was raised my whole life to believe that abuse was a thing men did to women, so I was completely unable to see it when it happened to me.

Then, healing front hat and dealing with it all, there is the constant gas lighting, denial, and dehumanization from feminist groups online specifically, who must always invalidate and erase the notion that men are half the DV victims and half the rape victims, and that women are half the abusers and half the rapists.

I'm lucky the women in my life directly have been good, and that me steering clear of drama has no doubt avoided me a lot of trouble, but I do notice a disturbing trend of women upholding the women are wonderful effect while erasing and invalidating issues that affect men as a whole.

Ironically enough too the more a woman is a feminist the less likely she is to actually care about men, whereas the less feminist a woman is the more likely she is to react with normal basic human empathy to male victims.

Again in my personal life I have been lucky, but even the good women I k ow generally seem to have no idea the issues men face, while men will immediately recognize and agree when I point out an issue men face, and women in my life have repeatedly complained about how hard and difficult things are without the slightest shred of awareness of how much harder it is for men and how much less help and support men get when dealing with the exact issues they are complaining about.

But most men I have talked to won't dare bring it up because saying it makes you labeled a misogynist and an anti-feminist, and that's morally reprehensible to the same degree as clubbing defenceless baby seals apparently.

There's a metric ton of shit men out up with and don't talk to women about, that women have absolutely no idea about, because they will generally punish those men with disbelief, lowered trust, lowered social standing, up to breaking up relationships and loss of respect for the guy for honestly opening up and talking about his experiences.

The #1 reason men don't open up and be vulnerable with women is because more often than not women actively or unconsciously punish men for doing it. And we can't talk about it because if we do we are automatically the bad guys.

The there's just generally men being held to a higher standard and held more accountable than women, that if she does something ditzy or stupid or just for the fun of it its fine because that's what she felt like doing in the moment, but if a man does the same he's potentially an idiot or irresponsible, regardless of his feelings or justifications. How she feels about him is more valid than whatever he can come up with.

Also generally it's far more often men's fault than women's fault whenever anything goes wrong, regardless of the fact that women could have though of the issue and prevented it as well, if the men didn't then they're to blame.

Which-Inspector1409 · 2024-09-04T20:36:38+00:00

The love of my life, we were together for 14 years, was cheating on me for the last year at least with her married with kids coworker. She was physically violent during that time too. Some of the things that happened still haunt me 2 years after we split.

The minor things with other women that hurt a lot are various flavors of hot and cold behavior and ghosting. For someone with trust issues… im better off alone.

bloodthirsty_emu · 2024-09-04T08:23:16+00:00

Well let's see...

Repeatedly being told to kill myself.
Called a lesser person and undeserving of basic decency for having an illness that affected my appearance.
Labelled "creepy", "decrepit", "old man" as a teenager.
Physically assaulted and spat on for my presence at uni events and bars.
Disgusted looks, scowls, and insults daily.
Having abuse screamed at me for saying hello.
Intentionally being ignored and deliberately refusing to even speak to me, physical exclusion from conversations.
Accused of lying about my age.
Mocking my illness and partial deafness (including knowingly doing so).

All of this happened when I was between 16 and 35 (particularly heavily from 18 - 30 ish, after I left an all guys school until I started to lose hope and retreat).

All were exclusively or overwhelmingly perpetrated by women, including all the extreme examples - i.e. no man told me to kill myself or physically attacked me for my mere presence, or knowingly mocking my illness. In fact a number of guys who did that at school have since apologised when they heard the facts. No woman has ever expressed the slightest hint of remorse.

Two general points - It was by no means all women who did this, but a disturbingly high percentage, up to say 75% doing the basic ignoring / looking disgusted. - For me, the extreme mistreatment wasn't the killer, rather it was the cumulative, constant, disdain and contempt that wore me down.

I don't think women really understand the strength it takes to face this stuff daily and keep going, with zero positive experiences to fall back on. Knowing that going to work or to class, or especially socialising, would mean this happening. If anything, you have to hide it completely and act like it never occurred, because as a guy the abuse from others is held against you, rather than the perpetrators.

Whiskeymyers75 · 2024-09-04T11:24:17+00:00

I was physically and mentally abused for 13 years. After I finally escaped, she severely limited my time with my son through the court while collecting a fuck ton in child support. After I left, she started abusing our son out of spite. He’s failing in school, severely depressed and now says he doesn’t want to live. There has been multiple CPS cases against her and the court still refuses to give me custody. She just beat his ass again on Thursday and I hope something finally gets done. I don’t have a lot of faith though because of how the court overwhelmingly favors mothers even when there is abuse present.

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flakybottom · 2024-09-04T09:35:01+00:00

Two comically false sexual harrassment charges. They did lead to repercussions at work before they were dropped though.

When I was in the military, a group of female soldiers, including NCO's, secretly conspired against the weird (unattractive) guys. They spread false rumors, told new female soldiers to avoid us, tried to get us on the worst details/shifts, etc. Some one snitched on the group, but they really didn't get in trouble.

0kayz00mer · 2024-09-04T15:17:47+00:00

For most of my younger life I had no idea so many women cared about height. Height had nothing to do with my attraction and one of my earliest hookup experiences was with a woman that was a couple inches taller than me.

College changed that. One of the eye opening experiences came from a roommate’s girlfriend in college who had a very attractive sister. I was up super late studying one night and slept in until like 1pm when I awoke to hearing the girlfriend and her sister talking about me from the living room without realizing I was there. The sister thought I was cute but the girlfriend discouraged her citing I was too short and she should find a taller guy. I’m 5’9”, god forbid, and they were both 5’5” or under.

After college I moved to a city and found and met random roommates in a 3/2. One of the roommates was 6’3” and his hobbies were working out, watching sports, and drinking. The amount of matches and dates he got compared to me was insane but women never stuck around. He is STILL single today like 6 years later and still getting insane matches and attention. When women complain about “quality” on dating apps I immediately think of him lol.

Obviously not all women are heightist but it’s pretty eye opening and saddening to realize how prevalent it is. Body positivity should be about things you actually can’t change like birth defects or height, not normalizing obesity.

MannerNo7000 · 2024-09-04T06:34:53+00:00

Dumped after opening up about mental health issues.

2024-09-04T14:47:49+00:00

Cheating, using sex as a weapon, making insane demands of time and resources. So much of what women do and the way they act is brushed off by society as well she is a woman and just can't help it. Personally I see this as enabling bad behavior. These days any woman who tells me I need to put up with her worst is getting dumped instantly. In fact the last chick who said that to me said it while we were having dinner, she evidently wasn't in the best of moods (had nothing to do with me) - proceeds to make the statement that if I can't handle her at her worse then I don't deserve her at her best. I told her she was absolutely right and the best part was I had the choice to not want to participate in the "handling" of a grown ass woman like she was a hand grenade. Left her before the entree got there.

So much of relationship problems are entirely based on compromising and putting up with people's shitty behavior.

Shredded_Breet · 2024-09-04T14:43:02+00:00

I slept with a woman who told me I was “acting like a girl” for being upset that she was sleeping around behind my back. Then she tried saying I “didn’t treat her like a girlfriend” to justify why she did it.

Another woman left me for the ex she constantly complained about, all while talking down on me and treating me like Im worthless. She treated me worse than the man who abused her.

Cunnin_Linguists · 2024-09-04T13:41:07+00:00

Had a few women take me on foodie calls (and later admitted it). Foodie call meaning they are not interested romantically but continue going on dates to get free food.
Grossly oversharing personal private information, sending my dick pics to other girls, sharing sex stuff. I had a one night stand with a girl and I couldn't get fully hard, she then went and posted it on Facebook.
The worst was a woman who tried to manipulate me into staying with her by faking a pregnancy test

Just overall manipulative behavior

untamed-italian · 2024-09-04T15:17:40+00:00

Men: what are some ways that women have treated you "horribly"?

Aside from the one who tried to murder me for rejecting her, and the huge chunk of women I thought were my friends who turned on me and helped her evade justice?

I've been groped, objectified, mocked and ostracized for romance drama crap, stolen from, hit a bunch, and ghosted. Oh and pretty sure I had my shit vandalized by one too.

Then there was the Mrs. Robinson shit when I was a teen.

about women supposedly treating men awfully.

If it was a man doing it you would not use "supposedly". That's another way we get mistreated.

I am curious because I never noticed

Yeah, funny how that happens even though they're doing it constantly.

you felt slighted by

"Slighted by" lmao, fucking naive jejune babies

fredwester · 2024-09-04T10:32:20+00:00

Cheating and abuse.

One ex cheated on me right in front of my face. In public. Completely egregious. Even her friends were shocked.

Another broke down my self-worth over time. Started with simple criticisms about my appearance, personality and intelligence, and progressed in to full-blown "no other woman would ever look at you, so you're stuck with me." Classic emotional abuse.

And if we're including kid stuff, then constant bullying by girls about my appearance as a teenager. The nickname given to me by the girls at my school was "ligger nips". Reverse the N and L on those words for what they actually said. I was called that dozens of times a day, for my entire school experience.

PinchRunners · 2024-09-04T05:34:58+00:00

being nice to me so i would do their homework for them

nnuunn · 2024-09-04T15:22:47+00:00

Feigning interest in me just to make fun of me, cheating on me, leading me on that she wants to get married and then breaking up with me while I saved for a ring.

Women in polite society rarely do anything to men that's horrible unless he's really ugly, but behind closed doors, they can be totally different.

TermAggravating8043 · 2024-09-04T05:40:59+00:00

-called me ugly

-made a disgusted face at me signalling I was hideous or something

ThanosSnapsSlimJims · 2024-09-04T12:32:54+00:00

Had a women bully me and spread horrible rumors about me, even reiterating them recently.

Got cheated on

Got used by a lesbian. She used my events to dress up and secretly go see women and would disappear for a while

Got dumped then she came back when I was successful

On our first date, drove us to her ex's grave

Negging, verbal abuse

Tried to blame me for her friend cheating on me, then kicked me with kicked me with steel toe boots for standing up for myself

Belittled me in front of people

Spread rumors about me sleeping around, stating it in front of my parents to get me grounded.

Car crash in the same spot on Christmas x2

shadowstep12 · 2024-09-04T15:35:52+00:00

Damn now that I think about it somethings were rough for a lot of people around me. My best friend in middle school has a slightly verbally abusive mom.

And when I talk about growing up well if I give examples I know OP and a few others will tell me to grow up. But a girl in my friend group tried to convince me to let her cheat on her partner with me. And a few years later I had to lie and say I still liked her as a person and didnt have a problem with her to keep my social circle stable.

Which sucked yeah.

But this was also around the time when things were going terrible for me as I kept trying to become a better friend cause I lost one of the most important friends I had who my simping for did cause a cascading Domino effect that caused many of my medical issues today.

But I guess the big one and the one most people won't instantly make fun of me for is well my mom.

She one day up and threatened to send me to Europe and not let me come back home if I mess up in school again.

I didnt really know if she was bluffing but I found out she probably wasn't when I asked to visit my dad during my last summer out of highschool and she sent me a way and didn't buy a return ticket.

And the whole keeping I was diagnosed with certain ND labels and removing me from school things on a whim and never informing me of it till so far away that it couldn't be fixed.

And being part of the problem for why I can't really open up about things cause everytime things devolve to your from Florida, your male or your mom is a social worker and does foster care.

justsomelizard30 · 2024-09-04T17:52:53+00:00

I was tricked and groomed into being someone's 'little brother' and then was sexually abused afterwards until I started going to kindergarten.

Not really a 'grievance' I hold against women anyway.

thedarkracer · 2024-09-04T06:14:03+00:00

Where do I start, there are multiple

Acting sweet so I could help them in studies (exams, classwork etc) then going back to usual behaviour. I also overheard some girls say how easy I am to manipulate. (Tbh guys also did that but guys would say it to my face rather behind my backs and some instances where I would need help but never asked guys stepped up girls never did)
In art and craft, I was sitting across two girls sharing the same table. Tried to join in their conversation and got shut down horribly. I have never initiated a conversation with anyone after that till now.
False accusations. Not the rape kind as pre teens I didn't even know sex was a thing. Mostly like he was teasing me or saying bad things. Teachers would never bother to hear our side of the story and beat us up. I still remember once I was beaten so bad that my left hand didn't move for 2 days and yes nothing happened to the teacher or anyone. Funny thing, I was the example of your so called model student, quiet, good grades and obedient. After many such cases, I decided fuck it and kept the grades but flipped the personality all over. If I am goona get punished, better make it worth it.

annontheseal · 2024-09-04T06:00:46+00:00

I would say the ability to be believed by default (although this is changing recently) about perceived slights against them have caused issues for me, although it has always been super rare. And also their ability to just say things that if a man said it to a woman they would get in some trouble.

Example: I have been told by women, even family members, very casually that if the standards are xyz for what a woman wants, I should just do that to my body. Whereas if I said the same thing to a women they would be appalled at myself. In some cases it is like "yeah you will go extinct" or "oh women treat xyz person like dogshit because he has xyz characteristic he has not control over." Which is really disturbing to see that side of women, since I could not imagine saying to women "women with small breasts are going extinct" or "you should go get breast implants to attract men." Like I would be ripped a new asshole if I said something like that to women, but they say shit like that casually to me.

And when I say this, I dont mean working out, I mean cosmetic things. Like all the garbage I hear about "oh we want a man who is funny with a good personality" kind of falls flat when it is followed up by "you should go get life altering surgeries to hope to find women" oh and "not all women are shallow."

Now with those examples I dont have any ill will towards women, but I do not for even a second believe they are angles or less prone to evil when compared to men.

PMmeareasontolive · 2024-09-04T16:08:17+00:00

False sexual harassment charge. From a woman I never spoke to or interacted with in any way. She just came to my workplace, looked at me, and didn't like what she saw.
She was nuts (for example, she claimed the mayor and the leader of the symphony orchestra were looking into the matter), but that doesn't matter because delusional people can be harassed in real life, so there had to be a full investigation which involved appearing in front of an HR panel (all women). Eventually the charge was dismissed but it does stay in your work record because it opens the employer up to litigation if something happens in the future and a past complaint wasn't properly documented, etc.

Ziogatto · 2024-09-04T06:09:52+00:00

I am curious because I never noticed women as a group treating men "awfully", at least not anymore than men do.

I reiterate my point.

When you say "hello" to someone getting a "hi" back is asking for wayy too much human decency.

Got downvoted to oblivion and half the comment refused to acknowledge it happens while the other half were making excuses for why they do it.

But that is just the tip of the iceberg. I am not nor do I plan to ever get married, at least until the current laws stand but you can pretty much ask ANY divorced man how they were "slighted" by women. You normally don't even see these guys as human beings so the first step is to recognize as men ALL men, not just the men you consider men.

K4matayon · 2024-09-04T12:01:34+00:00

I got strung along by several women after confessing that I wanted to pursue a romantic relationship under the pretense of im not ready for a relationship or this is not the right moment of course these women were using me to get as much out of it as possible, I got dumped for not wanting to have sex exactly one single time, I’ve been lied and gaslit, humiliated in group environments, talked behind my back, used as emotional support by a woman who was getting over an ex, had a woman who was friends with my ex convince her to dump me because she(my exes friend) didn’t like me, got blackmailed by a girl I was into(don’t wanna share all details on this) and had a girl break up with me over text without giving me a proper reason or at least my clothes and stuff at her place back. This is just the stuff that comes to mind

KamuiObito · 2024-09-04T19:14:27+00:00

By not seeing us as humans. Most women genuinely see us as tools. A 5’5 tool isnt as valuable as a 6’2 one.

SadCahita · 2024-09-05T06:34:32+00:00

And like clockwork OP and other women came to downplay these experiences, or to say that the guys deserved it for being sex crazed or something. LMFAO

I am curious because I never noticed

Of course you don't, you just don't care or you even find it good.

kingofgama · 2024-09-04T19:14:34+00:00

I'm not 100% sure it's gender exclusive, because this type of thing happens to women too.

But for me, she cheated on me, started a relationship with the new guy, left me with a lease and shared debt, abandoned her cat with me, and then shit-talked me to all her friends painting me in a terrible light highlighting all my darkest most embarrassing qualities. This left me broke, responsible for a pet and lease, and isolated right at the start of the pandemic. It got so bad one of her original friends reached out to me to point out just how much bad stuff she was saying about me and let me know that she had a pattern of this kind of thing that I never really knew.

Honestly though, the worst part though was the gaslighting. She made me feel crazy for questioning why she was spending so much time with a particular friend by calling me controlling. She started preventing me from hanging out with her / our friend group since she wanted "alone time". The last few months of the relationship I spent questioning if I was the problem. Ultimately, she never fully came clean either and even with evidence she never fully owned up to it. When she left, she was just like gone too, never reached out again. Doubt she ever will, this was like 5 years ago. We were only together for 3.5 years but I felt like I deserved some explanation or closure. Nope I was just used up and discarded. One of the most fucked up things is, I don't think she's ever even internalized that she's a cheater, it's crazy how people can do that.

Really, I think she never really cared for me she just saw what I could do for her. I supported her financially, but more then that I supported her emotionally and in her daily life. Some people think trauma dumping and neglecting housework is something men do exclusively, but that hasn't been my experience. I felt like her maid, therapist, and bank all at once. And the second I ever showed any weakness or emotion? It was a huge issue. Frankly, that's been the case in all four major relationships I've been in, and really, I think that's why so many men realize you can't show emotions in 90% of relationships. But seriously good luck finding a woman who won't trauma dump to nuclear levels. I'm a bit anal about cleanliness so I don't mind keeping the home nice and clean myself, and not every women is a slob for sure.

Honestly all this took me like 2-3 years to recover from 90% but I don't think I'll ever be 100% again, but I try and not let that cloud my judgement.

MalbonteMyLove519 · 2024-09-04T06:02:10+00:00

Senior year of high school a girl asked me to Sadie's Hawkins dance. All went well but she did get in trouble for pre-gaming and being drunk at the dance. She then proceeded to bombard me with gifts and attention all while constantly asking me if I liked or thought she was pretty. She posted the both of us to social media a ton and really fast. She was gorgeous so 17 year old me was head over heels and unaware that it was strange behavior. In the end she was just using me to get back at her ex boyfriend and to feel better about herself because he cheated on her previously. She ended up getting back together with him and essentially wanted me on the backburner while she was with him

Caused me tons of stress for the latter half of my senior year and I ended up getting terrible grades

DoinIt989 · 2024-09-04T13:26:58+00:00

Constant ghosting. It was hard for me to wrap my head around when I first started dating because women claim the opposite all the time. I just had to adjust my mentality and stop listening to anything they said or taking it at face value.

Big-Accountant4923 · 2024-09-04T07:22:54+00:00

What are some actual examples from your personal life that you felt slighted by women?

In high-school I didn't particularly get along with most of the girls in my class. They regarded me as a weird, creepy, pervert. There was one group of girls in particular that had an issue with me despite me not really inracting with them much if at all. Now to be fair so some of the girls that had an issue with me I'm fairly nonchalant about sexual topics in general, blunt, and I saw no real issue with talking about anyone's body in a postive way. To also be fair to my self I'm a quite person and I tend to keep to myself. More often then not I was either playing my ds, listening to music, playing my vita, or doing class work, etc... while yeah in rare instances I would say something inappropriate to a girl more often then not they're the ones who would start those conversation.

That is to say it wasn’t a one sided thing it was more like I would be minding my business and girl would ask about which part of a girls body is my favorite. Or that time a girl randomly sked about how much I masturbated and I gave her an honest answer.

I suppose you could argue it was worst my first year as that's when it started. For a few months some girls called me a rapist and while that stopped before things got serious, pretty much all of them would regularly accuse me of starring and making them feel uncomfortable. My second year I developed a sort of pathology about my own sexuality because of that, though I did to some degree get over it. Also they would do this thing where if I was alone in a room with a group of girls they would start saying shit about me. It's hard to talk about this kind of stuff because I'm obviously biased and it's hard to convey this experience completely.

I didn't realize it until a few years ago but I developed this fear of making women uncomfortable and whatever anxiety I might have had around interacting with women increased. From my perspective women are highly sensitive to soical stuff in general and will get set off my the smallest of comments. So when I'm around women especially I have be carful and basically cut off aspects of my personality. I can deal with women thinking of me negatively (I did it for four years). But do I want to deal with all that shit again if I can help it? No.

abaxeron · 2024-09-04T10:01:51+00:00

Since we very recently had a thread on dating experiences:

https://np.reddit.com/r/PurplePillDebate/comments/1f6di71/men_what_negative_datingrelationship_experiences/

lemme just skim through non-dating/sex-related stuff.

Got laughed at in my face by female doctor and her female nurse because I came with complaints on debilitating headache. By the way, congratulate me, I finally got properly diagnosed and assigned a treatment... fifteen years later. By a male doctor.

Have a wonderful elderly female acquaintance who admitted that her voting decisions are dictated by who promises more gibs to her demographic (more retirement benefits / better free hospital service). Without any consideration where those benefits are coming from.

Had encountered several female scammers pretending to be in distress.

Innumerable instances of women requesting free labor (including random women on the street); no point in even mentioning them all in details.

Late school days. As my voice matured, got called a creep over a landline for calling my female classmate. By her mother. My classmate was almost year older (applied to school at different ages).

Pre-school / early school days. If I had a... well not "a dollar" dollar but 20-50 dollars and put them all on a deposit for every time a random woman thought she is in her right to just come up to me and start a conversation like she was my relative, I'd probably eventually afford a slightly better college.

Quite recently (within the last year) had a woman approach me on the street and ask to help her pay her rent. Upon saying my standard sendoff of "I don't have any cash on me" (because I did not quite want to tell her to fuck off), she said it's okay, she accepts cash app.

Had a female busker demand my attention while I was carrying a cup of hot coffee. I still have the scar on my wrist.

Edit/Update: Had this comment downvoted within 15 minutes merely for honestly answering an honest question.

2024-09-05T12:51:47+00:00

Women's lack of self control, excess emotionality, social ignorance and evasion of responsibility cause a lot of issues to men, most women cannot recognize it because most men don't go out of their way to express it and because most women are so used to women being horrible that they can't imagine anything else.

Example: A person who is being a emotional burden, engaging with negative people/substances, who don't recognize how to behave in social places and/or who never accepts facing the fact that they are mostly just living the consequences of their actions is common. So common I practically expressed any college age girl in Texas. But any man who has any of these traits would at best burden themselves and be isolated. While a woman would burden others. That is why it is an issue.

IdiAminD · 2024-09-04T07:40:36+00:00

I was pretty much sheltered because my dad was relatively well-off and well known locally, and i was also considered very talented academically, but my classmates were:

beaten by female teachers(sometimes even they've had their ear pulled)
- called idiots, retards,
- publictly humiliated in front of all school
- forced to apologize grils, even though they were clearly provoked by them
- called cripples when failing at PE lessons(by female teacher)
- nerdy and bad looking boys were very often mocked behind their backs, even recently I've heard the discussion of 28 yo. moms making fun of one guy bringing kids to our pre-school
- boys were forced to work hard on parents farms, there were plenty of accidents where boys lost their fingers, a friend of mine had his both feet cut when he was 5.

Girls were getting different treatment, they've got some snarky comments sometimes but they were never physically abused and their word was always stronger than word of boys(even though some of them were pathological liars).

I personally was cheated on, but i say it's minor issue comparing to neglect and abuse that working class/farm boys were facing.

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Stunning-Spirit5275 · 2024-09-05T07:48:58+00:00

Actual physical abuse...

Puzzleheaded_Card_71 · 2024-09-05T18:53:07+00:00

My last ex hit me repeatedly, spit in my face, threw water at my face, racially slurred me, called me every name in the book. She would laugh about calling the cops since she was white and I am not. Eventually divorced her as it got worse, not better, and it didn’t start until we were married. Of course she left with substantial prizes.

The worst part is no one believes me. My parents still talk to her after years post divorce despite me asking them not to communicate with her. Mind you she yelled at her parents for communicating with me and they stopped after divorce. There is such a halo effect for women, it’s ridiculous. If they are cute, people want to believe they are good.

rustlerhuskyjeans · 2024-09-06T20:40:29+00:00

I had a girlfriend of years that decided she was going to leave me, she would date multiple men. Then she decided I wasn’t allowed to date, but she could. If I did she would find out who she was harass the girl and say we’re engaged.

She stopped paying any bills but said I couldn’t legally get her out of the house. She was out all weekend I dropped her stuff at her moms and she came back and said if you kick me out again I’m going to sue you, the law says I can stay even though she wasn’t on the lease.

5 months past of her dating men and taunting me about it and she said she wanted to get back together, I stupidly said fine. She went on a date the next night, she couldn’t stop trying to monkey branch from me.

I lock her out and she breaks a window to my house and won’t leave. I call the cops and show the video of her breaking in, they said get a lawyer and file a restraining order they can’t do anything.

She won’t leave my house for multiple days, this girl was not on drugs and had a 6 figure career, and was beautiful could get dates with Chads and handsome men with Ferraris. I used to love her, but got cheated on so many times the last year I knew her I didn’t anymore.

After 2 days of me not talking to her after she broke a window to get in. She grabbed my gun and shot herself in the head. The police thought I did it and my house was turned upside down by 30 police and I was in a holding cell for 14 hours without allowed to get a lawyer. I negotiated to get my phone back and super luckily I turned on my cell phone camera before she did it. 3 detectives looked at each other like omg we were about to charge me with murder. They allowed me to leave and I never heard from the police again.

2024-09-21T01:17:51+00:00

Blue pill era:

-1st ex would go out and party while I watched HER kid (wasn't mine biologically). Would strike me with stuff.

-2nd Ex Narcissistic and alcoholic that wanted to use me then switch off to another guy.

-3rd Ex Was good...distance ultimate killed it.

-4th Ex Decided to go with the guy that made more money than me and helped her get hooked on drugs. She lost her 30k savings, good paying job and now is waitressesing.

-Last ex Dated since September 2020. Moved into our own place in December 2020. Moved out because she wasn't happy in December 2021 (wanted to utilize her friend to be a therapist for our relationship which I said HELL NO). We start talking again in November 2022. Throughout then and 2023, we went on dates, outings and etc till March 2024 . August of 2024, she tells me she has a significant other. Three days later, I find out that she got engaged to the guy through her Instagram. I talked to her older sister and found out the engagement was January 2024. I was giving her raw 🍆 in November and December 2024 and also helping her with her car note.

Comfortable-Dare-307 · 2024-09-26T17:29:53+00:00

Well do you want me to be honest? Do you mean in the dating scene or in general? Let's see, at age 4 my step mother started sexually abusing me until she left when I was 9. My mother was sexually inappropriate with me as a child as well. My aunt and grandmother are emotionally abusive and still belittle me today. When I was 14 I entered therapy and was sexually assaulted by my (female) therapist.

I have never been in a relationship that I wasn't cheated on. My now ex wife would is a sex addict and would pressure me into sex. She always wanted it and when I said no, she cheated on me and got pregnant.

I can't speak for approaching women, because I never do that. I was at a bar once and had a girl approach me and ask me to buy her a drink. She said she'll make it worth my while and grabbed my crotch.

So that's about it. I'm terrifed of women.

Ultramega39 · 2024-09-05T02:41:10+00:00

• When I was around 6 years old i was physically assaulted and possibly ra*ed by a female babysitter

• I was bullied by a girl in my class from 4th to 8th grade, she made fun of my appearance which made me feel really insecure about my looks for a very long time. She also hit me sometimes but I never fought back. The bullying got so bad that I tried to off myself but of course, I failed.

• My younger sister (who I suspect is a narcissist) used to hit and kick me.

• One of my great aunts slapped my ass while at a party.

• My mentally ill mother (who I currently live with) sometimes won't talk to me for some reason and refuses to seek help or accept my help. I remember a few years ago i used to be afraid that she was going to hurt herself (I still have this fear but not as relevant)

• the only friend I ever had during high school abandoned me for reasons that I still don't fully understand.

Only the first point and the last two points still bother me at this time.

pg_throwaway · 2024-09-05T12:20:37+00:00

I was physically abused by a girlfriend in my early 20s who threw things at me and shattered a glass on my head, leaving me a scar I have until today. I also had a girlfriend that while she never hurt me, like to destroy valuable things I owned in a rage if she didn't get her way. I guess that's a kind of abuse too, but I don't exactly know what I'd call it. She also liked to embarass me and talk me down in front of my friends constantly, kind of like a low-key bullying.

That said, I'm pretty aware that most women aren't like this and I don't really hold any kind of grudge against or fear of women generally as a result. In fact, it's my female friends that cared for, supported and nurtured me to help me recover from the emotional scars of those relationships, and it continues to be women (such as my wife and other close female friends) who help me deal any lasting trauma whenever it comes up.

I also see what happened at partially my fault, as while they acted horribly (and they fully guilty for their abusive actions), I also chose to be with and stay with those women due to my own insecurities and failure to heed obvious red flags. Now, I know what to look for in women, to see the crazy ones vs. the normal / good ones and I haven't had the same experiences again.

Title	Men: what are some ways that women have treated you "horribly"?
Author	Novel-Tip-7570
Upvotes	28
Comments	356
Date	September 4, 2024 5:19 AM UTC (1 year ago)
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