I see this all the time and I find it interesting how both of these scenarios are treated differently. Note, lowering standards does not necessarily mean having realistic standards and this is where a lot of people get confused. Having realistic standards means understanding what you can realistically get and try to stick with the best. For example, we understand that a lot of average guys aren’t going to end up dating women that look like supermodels. So they should realistically look for the best woman that they can attract.

Why is this such treated as such a big deal when told to women? Why do a lot of people get very defensive when women are held to the same regard? They tell you that women shouldn’t lower their standards and that they should have preferences. That is all fair and I understand that. But it’s also not going to help a lot of women get into satisfying relationships if these standards are just as unrealistic as the previous example no? Is it not fair to advise average to below average women that going after the supermodel guys is not realistic and they’re going to end up feeling dissatisfied because these guys aren’t going up to them and asking them out?

I just find it so odd why it’s such a big problem for a lot a women. I just don’t see this type of defensiveness from men when they are told similar things. Of course there will be men who do act defensive but again when they do they’re not given the same treatment as women.