First of all, the idea that men have to approach women is outdated. This is 2025 not 1950. (45% of men under 25 have never approached a woman](https://medium.com/write-a-catalyst/a-reaction-to-45-of-men-age-18-25-have-never-approached-a-woman-in-person-d3ee0680a7a5). That means society has reached a threshold where men are awakened to the drawbacks of approaching women and far too many will never go back to that.

Second, it's sexist. It's based on the lopsided notion that men have to do all the work in initiating courtship. Why should men be stuck with this role when women no longer have any gender roles to adhere to? We can either have equality or not. Saying that this is equality is flagrantly fraudulent. Men need to ignore the "just approach br0" crowd and ditch these chains. But this requires men to have the same regard for relationships as women. Ignore the "sperm is cheap" quack science and walk off the sexist plantation of outdated gender roles!

Third, approaching women gives them power over you and an ego boost or it irritates her. There is no third outcome. She has the power to accept or reject you, and you've inflated her ego and made her more immediately aware that she's desired. Even if she falls in love with you, she knows she has options. That's exceptionally bad news for you because you just made yourself more disposable. That means her standards will go up because she has more men to filter.

Or, you're annoying her with your approach and she really didn't want your attention.

Then there's the "just approach br0" lie that women want to be approached. One can just look at how many women in real life and online are complaining about male strangers approaching them. The lie that "they're only complaining online" is fraught with logical errors on top of being factually wrong: women who are complaining online are living, breathing beings, not AI bots. Dismissing them as not part of the tapestry of womankind is frankly intentional intellectual dishonesty. And it's even worse in light of how women respond in real life to men who approach them - mostly negatively.

Stop listening to the "just approach bro"s and get off the hamster wheel.